Bottom of the barrel?

I'm kind of not fully motivated to explain my thought process as much as I want to, but I feel as if you understand where I'm coming from, not personally, but from experience think "feminine" black males are considered the bottom of the barrel in the gay community? I feel as if this has been talked about plenty of times, but just worded differently. I just personally find it annoying how blacks are always considered this thug like masculine persona role in order to get any sort of attention especially sexually in this sexually driven society. I mean nothing wrong with the fetishes do you boo, but it gets to the point to where it gets kinda annoying, especially getting messages like "Is it true black guys have huge dicks?(Um I don't know are they? Mine seems pretty average...?) I've always wanted to taste a huge black dick, but I'm married and don't want my wife to find out..."(Okay?) And it feels gross on my part because I honestly feel as if people try to involve me in this delusional sexual fetish by having to explain their life story of marriage and wanting to try BBC. It makes me feel as if I'm some sort of sexual object.