2018. március 31., szombat
Have any other gay guys seen “Love, Simon” and thought it was really cringey / off the mark?
It can’t just be me. I feel like it was a gay movie written for a straight audience.
What's one thing you wish people understood about being gay?
I am not trying to get with you. I respect boundaries & don't cross them.
Shoshana Bean sings 'This Is Me' for the LGBTQ community
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zwEn-ambXLw
Should I make a move?
There's a guy which is a year younger than me and on which I've had a huge crush for so much time now.He's a friend's friend and every now and then we happen to meet and we do we actually have lots of fun and get along nicely. However, last Friday it was me, him, and another friend laying around at his house. He would always compliment my characteristics like my ass, my muscles (which I don't have xD) and things like that. (At some point this day I was moving a computer from the floor to a nearby desk and as I was doing it he said "Wow your muscles are awesome!" and he squeezed my biceps. I also caught him staring at me contless times. To make sure, I would sit still and observe the hill out of the window and occasionally cast quick glances at him to tell if he was still staring at me, and he always was.Beyond the continuous compliments and unending stares, when I coldly asked him if he was gay or not he answered something like "Hahaha no that's just me, I like teasing people :P"I also recall that trip to Germany where we were eating outside and at some point I stood up to go to the bathroom and he followed suit. What he did was standing on top of the toilet and take selfies with me peeing. I didn't mind at all actually but it was a bit creepy :DHe's been like that since I first met him. Is he fond of me in some way or is he just playing? He's never had a girlfriend even though he's just like any other masculine man. Should I make a move or will I make things complicated?P.S: His best friend has told him that I'm a really and funny guy which truly wants to have around.
Gay twitch streamers
Hey guys I need your help I know a gay non binary gender twitch streamer that needs our love and attention (he goes by he/their pronouns) so make sure to hit follow he's really funny and plays mostly pc especially dirty bomb and sea of thieves so hit follow and have a good day a side note his twitch name is minortunaAlso post your favourite gay or even trans twitch streamersHis twitch https://ift.tt/2H42uZu
Closeted Gay Muslim.Any Advice? [x-post from /r/lgbt]
I don't know if anyone will even bother hearing my rumbling but had to get this out. Sorry for making it a whole rant(loads of feelings inside) Just wanted to get this frustration out of my heart.Hi I am Ali,an 18 year old Gay that hasn't come out yet.Why?Because I live in a LGBT Phobic society in an islamic country.Before I get to the point I just want to clear a few things up.Islam doesn't hate LGBT people only the extremist does.There is no clear reference in Quran that islam condemns LGBT community the Verse of Lot that is widely used is also widely mistranslated as the correct translation is Debauchery(which is rape and lust not love)towards men.Now I have been feeling wrong ever since I was 8 I used to have crush on Boys rather than Girls in school didn't even know about these things I just continued to feel that way and thinking that there is something wrong with me.When I found out about these things at 14 It started making more sense,until I saw how homophobic my country and the extremist people are.Where those who are gay are forced to become a transgender,killed or kicked out of their houses.My family too is homophobic so I never came out and ot has been 10 years since I am hiding these feelings and now they have really hit the rock bottom.I don't know what to do anymore the only thing that I can think of is to Get a degree.Somehow get a citizenship for USA or any other supportive country and leave this place.Any Advice,even a small one can help me out a bit.I know I have written a whole essay so once again aplogizing for it.
My first sex story
So this happens when I was 14 and it was ages ago but it happen when I was at France on a school trip So on the day we got there late because our bus was allow to level the state if it was broken and guess what it braked.We got their late and it was dark but we were assigned into groups of four in my group was josh,Ethan,Dylan and me (note this isn't there real names) so then after that we have showers Now I am a psychopath I am not like the ones from Hollywood film but I don't care about anything and I don't love or feel embarrass when I should and after shower we go to bed and I can't get to sleep so I am bord so then I play with my self well thinking about what my next move should be on this game ( I don't feel love )Anyways the others waked up and that herd me playing with my self but I don't care so I keep on doing it and everyone was like ooo but nothing happen till the next night.On the next night 2 of the kids was a bit persistent with use getting to sleep and I know if the level of persistent is = to something big is gonner happen so I pretend to sleep and I am a great pretender so that through I was but I guess I inspired them into dry humping becuse that propley wouldn't of done it if I didn't make them hockey the first night so I pretend to wake up and go the bathroom with made them spring to life and that tryed to get in they bed but that didn't clime fast anoth +I could all ready tell what that were doing.I then say look I don't care if ur humping I just goner go the bathroom to pee so I went and didn't pee instead i waited then I went back to bed a couple sec later I asked if I could join in that was my plan because even know I don't feel love I still feel a huge hunger for sex and I don't care what kind.So that said yes and I did and the I minipulated them into striping I did the same then I went to Ethan and then I fucked josh fucked him and then me a josh fucked hard then he mornd loud anoth to wake up dylan and I run to the darkest place in the room and the others followed we then continued to what we were doing when Dylan went to sleep and that's it.
Can I get some love for the bears?
I feel like every single gay man I meet is into the picture perfect, pretty boy, model type. I love larger, heavier, huskier, muscular, hairy, potentially older men and I feel like I'm the only one! I also feel like a lot of "bears" feel like the gay community doesn't find them attractive which is ridiculous. I hear from bearish men all the time that no one would want to be with them because of how they look.
Does any of this actually make me a Gay or Bi man? Is it likely that I've been in denial all these years about being Gay/Bi?
So when I reached puberty I discovered that it was the secondary sexual characteristics of my same-sex that started turning me on sexually arousing me like over 95% of the time, the opposite sex would be down to 5%, so whenever I was in a sexually aroused mode over 95% I was thinking of my same-sex of the physical qualities of my same-sex that would arouse me thinking about.So just like most teen boys I began to masturbate, & over 95% of those times i was masturbating i was thinking about others of my same-sex, the other 5% or less i was thinking about others of my opposite-sex, YET in spite of all this i still for years I still couldn't click in my head that this meant that i'm somehow not straight, so i kept it to myself, as i got older i started watching porn & gravitated quickly towards a preference for Gay male porn, but i still couldn't admit to myself that this somehow means i'm not str8, in my head the logic i made was well I'm still a total virgin i haven't done anything sexual with guys or girls in real life, and hey to top it all off - most of the times i'm masturbating to these sexy guys I'm not even imagining I personally engaging in any kind of sexual contact with them instead i'm just imagining their sexy bodies and nothing more.Ok so fast forward a few more years later - I'm now 24 years old & I'm basically still stuck in the same situation I just described above, still a total virgin with both sexes, still clearly physically attracted to sexy guys which i think about almost all the time now that i'm in "horny" mode, & I guess I can now admit that I'm sexually NOT just physically but sexually attracted to these sexy guys since I'm now getting more & more actual gay sexual fantasies in where I fantasize about me personally being in real intimate sexual contact with these sexy guys usually the guys from the gay porn i watch - something which really wasn't the case before i started watching gay porn, before gay porn like when i was 14 or 15 i would just masturbate thinking of their sexy bodies, but now i'm increasingly masturbating thinking not just of these guys' bodies but also of actually engaging in actual sex with these guys' i think i can blame gay porn for this. Yea because prior to getting exposure to gay porn, i didn't so much as think about having sex with sexy hot guys or kissing sexy hot guys, even at the same time i would masturbate thinking of sexy hot guys if that makes sense at all. In other words prior to gay porn i would masturbate thinking of guys but at the same time i wouldn't even imagine engaging in any kind of sexual contact with these very same guys - does this make sense? - because for years this has confused me a whole lot to the point of where it would give me confidence to think that i somehow was not gay or bi but still straight, specially considering that prior to puberty i only had opposite-sex crushes & never any same-sex crushes, but then of course i hit puberty and that's when the same-sex crushes began which continues to this day.SO what do u think - am I gay/bi in denial? Should the next time I speak to my psychiatrist or therapist (which I haven't spoken to in years now) about any of this, would they be able to help me with my sexuality-related confusion/issue? Thanks for reading all this, and well I guess I'll just simply continue on "living in the closet" for now/for the foreseeable future I guess.
Anyone know of any gay romance novels with characters who would be deemed unattractive by wider society?
I'm single, lonely and not very attractive physically. I would love to read a happy love story about a character that I can relate to. Where the ugly guy is able to find love in this shallow society we as gay people live in. Give me hope, even if it is fictional! Lol.
Which is better for a 24 year old gay guy, to live in Stuttgart or in Heidelberg/Mannheim?
Which is better for a 24 year old gay guy, to live in Stuttgart or in Heidelberg/Mannheim? I'd like some details about the gay nightlife(bars n clubs), people(approachable or reserved; when you're at a bar, club or a park would people approach you like I experienced in Brussels, Belgium), green spaces n nature, architecture, gay events, festivals, associations, n get-together.. More information is very appreciated.
anyone else lowkey feel like lots of people act accepting of you when really they aren't okay you being gay?
(am grade 12 highschooler for context) recently found out that one of my very good friends is actually quite against gay marriage and gay people in general, despite saying the opposite when around me. obviously i don't plan on talking to this friend much more from now but it got me thinking a lot about quite a few religious people i know who act accepting and kinda makes me a tad concerned for after i graduate school, since i genuinely like a lot of these people and would be pretty upset if they hated something about me that i couldn't change.
There is this guy..
He is a weiter at a bar im visiting all the time.. he worked there before then took a break and now he works there again.. before i was always looking at him but i didnt want him to see me looking, but one time he did and he smiled.. then now when he came back i was at the bar just chilling and he didnt ask me what i will drink..of course i was again checking him out and he saw me so instead of avoiding me he came and asked me with a smile.. unfortunately i had to go.. i dont know if he is into me or? Im really afraid to talk ti him, idk how lol..Also he is a bit older then me but I dont mind it.. please give me some advice!
Is it safe to travel to certain countries as a gay person?
I recently had a discussion with somebody about wether or not it is safe to travel to certain countries as a gay person. I'm gay, and I don't have tinder or grindr or anything. I'm in a relationship, but only my friends can see my relationship status on fb. Yet, this person claims that it would be very dangerous for me to travel to countries like Egypt, Turkey, India or maybe even places like Poland or China. He suggested that especially in Egypt and Turkey authorities are actively searching for gay tourists to harm or lock up. So, is there any truth in any of this? I'd love to hear about it from you guys.
How to get over the "obligation" to come out to some people?
I know, I'm not OBLIGATED to come out to anyone. Hear me out.Over the past 6 months, I've come out to my 2 best friends, and I just came out to my parents.I'd like to start getting to the part where I live openly. But before I can feel comfortable doing that, there's people who don't live nearby who were really important to my development that I feel the need to be honest with. Certain friends from high school, a lot of friends from college, my roommates, the people in my former a cappella group.You can start to see the problem. It's too many. And it's not like I want to sit down and call each of them to notify them in the same sordid way you would let people know someone just died.It's just that I brazenly lied for so long. And I don't want them to find out via a picture on facebook or a mutual friend who saw my face on Tinder. Not after I insisted so vehemently I was straight, and lot of these people were there for me when rumors swirled about me being closeted.I know that no amount of people I tell will ever be enough. It will always feel like I'm missing someone, and because of my slightly OC nature, it will always bug at me. But I can't do nothing either-- there needs to be some happy middle.Help?
Yo, I Feel Like I'm Back in HS...
So lemme give you a rundown on exactly why I feel this way (as if you werent already expecting that.)I recently started working at a warehouse on the outskirts of a pretty busy town, which consists of receiving car parts and shipping car parts pretty much worldwide. The first day I got there, I see this guy I thought was somebody I knew from HS, (who was super hot, but totally straight.) I ended up having a pretty intense stare down with said person, who turned out not to be who I thought it was. After week one, I noticed that this one guy would always hold the door for me coming into work and back from break (we get three of them, he usually left by the third.)I thought he was pretty hot, and I put two and two together that this guy was also the same dude I basically eye banged on my first day. I didnt think too much of it, but since then, pretty much every time one of us notices the other in passing, and ONLY in passing, we make eye contact (the HS reference making sense yet?) I think I didnt return the favor of holding the door for him one day and he has since stopped doing that, which is unfortunate because I lost yet another chance to actually strike a conversation.One time while we were on our final break, I had finally grown some semblance of a ballsack to actually talk to this guy, and as we were walking in, my whole plan shattered before me. Some random guy, equally as hot btw, walked outside on his phone. I decided not to stop and try to talk to the one I wanted to. After I walked in, I turned my head to them walking in together. Broke my spirit right then and there.Its been about a month now, and still even after I decided it wasnt worth it, I still find myself locking eyes with him 20-40 yards away, and it is driving me fucking nuts to not even say hi to the guy. We dont really work together, either, which makes it all the more frustrating.I know I cant trust my gaydar, and I know I really shouldnt try to fuck coworkers anyways, but what in the literal hell does all this mean? Does he wanna fight me? Do I look like Im an easy target to sell drugs to?P.S. hes got a case of R.B.F. but damn if aint cute as hell.Halp.
Please tell me where to post this
I'm new to Reddit. I'm a gay man (A Kinsey 6 and damn proud of it). I'm really struggling to understand a particular straight relationship that a close friend has and I feel lost because I have no personal experience with straight relationships, and have no desire to have one. I really don't feel that it's appropriate to discuss straight stuff here so please point me to the appropriate forum. I have a long standing belief in sacred gay spaces, especially since so many gay spaces have been co-opted in recent years.Where should it be posted?
2018. március 30., péntek
I'm under average, need some advice please
Hey guys mine's about 4.5 inches long when erect and I'm totally a top. Have you ever been with a top with this size of penis? How was it and how can I be good at being top without doing sth stupid
My first experience in the gay community went horribly wrong and it's all my fault
Slight rant incoming, but I felt like I needed to get this off my chest.So, I am currently a senior in college and I just started my final quarter this week. After my first class, I found a group of students recruiting for a social fraternity for gay men that I started to take interest in. I had realized I was gay about two years ago, but had never really involved myself with the gay community on campus, as I am very introverted. So, I decided that now I should try and get involved before I graduate and started hanging out with the members of this frat attending their recruiting events. Everything was going so well, I was getting along well with everyone and was having a lot of fun. I truly felt like I belonged and was excited to hang out with these people.Fast forward to Thursday night when we out for bowling. Apparently I had started to get clingy to some other people by following certain members around and getting into their personal space. I was not trying to make sexual advances or anything, but apparently it did make people uncomfortable, though I did not know this at the time. As this was the first time I had ever been involved in this kind of group, combined with the fact that I'm a huge introvert, I was incredibly socially awkward and didn't know how to act properly.To make things worse, I was also getting somewhat angry during bowling as I kept getting gutterballs(I'm really bad at it.) I have had a history of sometimes being a poor sport with some games, and my ADHD has made me prone to occasionally having loud outbursts when I'm angry, though these have been getting less frequent as I grow older. Usually these outbursts have culminated in me teasing myself for "losing." Thankfully, some other members helped me improve my game in the second half, but apparently they were still concerned about my behavior.Today, Friday, is when things finally came crashing down. Tonight there was supposed to be a game night that I was absolutely planning on attending. However, when I woke up this morning I received a text informing me not to come to anymore events, and not to hang out with them at their table. Apparently my actions the previous night had made others feel uncomfortable, to the point where they said they would not attend if I was there. I messaged the group back saying I was sorry and that I didn't mean to make others feel uncomfortable, and that I would like a second chance to redeem myself. Unfortunately, they said that while they were sympathetic to my feelings, they could not reverse the decision and that it would be best for the group if I didn't show up anymore.So now I'm sitting here, depressed as hell, knowing that I had fucked up big time. I finally had an opportunity to join the gay community on campus before I graduate, and I blew it, all thanks to my social awkwardness. I had made such good friends this week, and it felt like I was finally coming out of my shell. Now I'm likely never going to see any of these people ever again, and I'm back to being all alone in the closet. I just wanted to be part of community I could personally relate to, but now I don't know what to do. I don't know of other groups on campus, and if there were I'm sure members of the group I got barred from are probably involved somehow and probably don't wish to speak to me. I'm just really turned off now from getting myself involved in the community again after these events. I really wish I could just turn back the clock and prevent me from doing the awkward shit last night. Now I don't know what to do. I'm back to being a lonely college student with no real friends, and now I'm just heartbroken. All because of my lack of proper social skills. I hate myself right now.TL;DR: I started hanging out with a gay frat in my final quarter at college, hopjng to join and make new friends. Ended up unintentionally making people uncomfortable at bowling night and now have been barred from attending further events. Now I'm back to being lonely and sad.
I’m a sissy crossdresser looking for someone to talk to over spring break! I’m very submissive!
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kattints ide.
Grindr gone, Gone, and Away
I'm pretty sad right now. I downloaded Grindr a few days ago and so far have been met with either indifference or creepy, old men. A little disheartening, but it is Grindr so it is to be expected.As young men so often do, I decided to check the app during a break I had at work. Another creepy old guy (who looked quite grungy in his photo) messaged me, asking to fuck. Charming. Just when I deleted his unwelcome message, I get another message from a guy. A young guy-a guy my age; one year older actually. Only about 4,000 feet away too. We're going to call him K for confidentiality reasons (and even then, the name he gave me may not even be real).I thought he looked quite decent upon seeing his profile picture, so I indulged him. After the introductory "how are yous," we bonded over the recurring assault of creepy men (the kind who look scary, like they would be murder suspects). Giggles here and there, and that's when K introduced himself; my introduction came after despite being sent at the same time. Next was a double "Nice to meet you," which had us both lol-ing due to similar mindsets.Some conversation ensured and following that, K sent a myriad of pictures of himself which sold me. Tall (6'2!), handsome, brown hair and eyes-and they were all taken from different angles, which imo did him much better justice than his profile. I don't think he was a catfish because he had a myriad of pictures of himself-too many for a catfish to go to the trouble of supplying, imo. Picture a cross between Finn Hudson (any Glee fans?) and Simon from Love, Simon.Yeah.That's what he looked like.And you know how people have angles? He definitely does. I returned the favor in order to paint a similarly full picture of myself, smiling with glee while doing so but also nervous of rejection. We've all been down this road before, baring our souls only for the recipient to change their mind after a deeper inspection.I guess I passed that step because immediately after came the "naughty" photos. Seeing as how I had just downloaded the app, I had nothing to exchange in return. I told him I would be able to send something after work though.As I sent that, I was excited for a myriad of reasons. One was that such a handsome guy noticed and appreciated me physically-say what you want, but acknowledgement is such an appreciated and powerful feeling. Especially when you're a person of color on these dating apps (particularly Grindr). Second, I get someone like that on Grindr? Of all places? Third, because of our exchanges before the photos, I assumed this relationship may be meaningful besides just well, hooking up. Even if we just ended up as friends, I would be okay with that (an interesting way to start a friendship though). I could possibly delete the app as soon as I downloaded it.So I waited. And waited. I saw that he hadn't been on for two hours. Then three. Then seven. I thought, "Well maybe he's busy-people have lives." Something could have come up. Maybe he was out with family, possibly taking an extended nap, working himself, in school, annoyed from unwanted suitors on Grindr-reasons upon reasons. No matter what I thought, his online presence still remained the same-nonexistent.Then I thought, maybe it was because I hadn't sent my photos yet. Naturally, I worked out before taking the photos and then sent them-but still, nothing. And it was at this point, I noticed something peculiar-his profile information was gone. And despite the fact that I "Favorited" him, he didn't come up on my favorites tab. Worried, I looked up on online for symptoms of deleted Grindr accounts or what it was like to be blocked. I found out that I certainly wasn't blocked, but it seemed he deleted the app and his account :(All before I had a chance to cement things, like with a phone number, Facebook, Snapchat, etc. And that's where I currently find myself now. A seemingly great guy, gone. And I have no way of ever finding him, really. I'll also never know the reason why he deleted-which could be numerous.Anyway, I just wanted to share. And maybe, K, if you read this, you could message me? A la Love, Simon (jk, I know we live in a harsh reality)?Has this happened to anyone else?TLDR; Met a hot guy on Grindr, started to (potentially) form a relationship, only for him to delete the app on the same day.
Can't stop myself from wondering if other people are also gay
This really affects my life. When I see someone kinda feminine or likes something that is usually interested by gays, I always feel questionable if they are gay, if they not i feel like they definitely hide or something. I can even check authors while research articles, googling them if they might be handsome OR gay or not.I think I still can't accept myself about being in minority. I always seek someone gay around. I mean gay friend, not meaning love or stuff. I don't know how I should change the way I think...
What a mess
Hey everyone,I've been reading around for a while and today I felt like I needed to speak out my mind.Some background, I'm 22yo gay guy from Barcelona. I can't complain so far with my life: I've got a job, friends and a nice place to live. But sometimes I don't feel that comfortable with myself.Let me explain that: for some time I had quite a low self esteem, but fortunately thanks to my friends and changed I did I fixed that. Now I'm quite comfortable with my face and body, but recent events in my life have made me question things I didn't want to question myself about.One of them is my physical appearance. I'd say I'm quite a regular guy: not fit but not fat either, OK-looking and not that short (1,80). I've been with guys before and it felt nice, but the issue comes when trying to find someone new. Usually I end up using these dating apps (you name them, Grindr, Tinder, etc) because I've never been successful irl. People usually tend to fail to notice I'm gay (or at least I've been told so sometimes) bc I'm not one to talk about it either, so except for few occasions, I've never got to meet a gay guy face to face. When in the club, I always reject any guy that tries to approach me bc I've always felt like I need some talking before doing anything (even kissing or touching) with a guy, which is impossible in a club.Lately that has been in my mind and I've been feeling quite anxious about it: I don't like using those apps anymore (even though I met really nice people in there), but I don't find a way of meeting new guys face to face either.So, due to the lack of interaction with gay guys face to face and my not-so-succesful use (I get texts but usually I'm not interested or not in the mood, maybe I'm pointing to too-hot-for-me guys?) of those dating apps, which I end up using anyway bc I feel like I can't meet gay guys outside of them, I end up blaming my physical appearance for this lack of "success", and it doesn't feel right.I'm sorry for the long post but I felt like I could use some "confession time". I'm sorry for any typos, I'm not a native speaker :(Thanks for reading :D
What is the best gay dating site ?
Hello guys! I am new to the gay community so i don't know where to find other gay dudes.. I live in New york and I have tried planet Romeo and manhunt but there are not a lot of guys online there ... so I would love to know what app or site everyone is using..
Dating in and about the gay community.
So a little history. I am 28 and I have had gay/bisexual thoughts for as long as I can remember. I come from a small Texas town, and yada yada, I never felt comfortable coming out, eventually going into denial. So I met, married, and had a child with a woman and she has become my best friend. I came out to her as bisexual two years ago. Now we are deciding to get a divorce because 1) we are not meant to be more than just besties. 2) I don't know if I'm bi or if I'm gay. I have never been with a man, except for one guy I kissed forever ago. Anyway, that is going to change. But what is the dating scene actually like? I'm not one to just get out there and hook-up. But are actual dates still a thing? where do I meet guys? Grindr is just the thirst of the worst from what I've seen. I am super excited to be a part of the LGBT Community. Aside from love and support, what can I expect from the community.
Thoughts from somebody who did wait until financial independence to come out.
Hi. I'm 24 years old, and I'm a gay male living in the US. It is common advice to give to gay youth that they should wait until financial independence to come out. I still agree that this is often the best choice for many gay kids as it ensures their safety and well-being. However, I don't think it's a strategy that should be applied liberally to every lgbteen, and I would like to advocate for taking some risk.I subscribed to this advice when I was younger, citing my safety and education as reasons to stay in. However, I was lying to myself, partially. I was mostly scared to come out and open myself to the possibility of being rejected by friends and family. I now see that, while life may have been awkward or challenging during the time it took for people to get used to me being gay, my parents never really would have thrown me out. Life may have been more difficult for me, but that would have forced growth within me. By making the decision I made, I remained stagnant throughout my late teens and early twenties. I regret that alot.I wish I could have been braver when I was younger, as now, as I'm about to take my first professional job after school, I feel like I let life pass me by a bit. I still have alot to look forward to, as I have some youth left still, but I'm going to be going through an awkward second puberty in my mid twenties that could have been avoided.I understand I'm lucky, and many people very well should stay in the closet. However, I would really urge you to examine the real reason you're in the closet, and if 'waiting for financial independence' is just an excuse to maintain the status quo, please reconsider.I hope this helps someone, but it's mostly just therapy for me to write it out.
Irrational fear of being out in SF area
Hey there,I live in the SF Bay Area and I am 25 going on 26. Lately I’ve come out to a few of my closest friends, and for some reason i still have this irrational fear about being fully out to the world. I had already told those same friends and a few others that I was bisexual, but had recently started coming to terms with being fully gay.I am surrounded by loving and tolerant family and friends, and live in one of the most progressive areas in the world, yet my head acts like I am experiencing this process in rural Kansas. There is a lot of internalized homophobia going on too, which sucks because if it were anyone else I wouldn’t care. But the self-hatred is a thing for me right now and I can’t imagine it is helping the process.Why am I making this so hard on myself? I’ve had nothing but positive feedback and support from the people I’ve told.Thanks, Zach
I lost my gay best friend. I don’t know what to do.
My best friend of 20 years confessed to me that he is gay and is in love with me. I’m straight, married with two children. I told him I’m fine with him being gay but he wants to touch my body. He was begging and crying and even willing to pay me. I said NO. That’s when he said he needs to go away because being with me makes him fall in love with me more. This all happened 6 months ago and we haven’t talked/seen each other since. He’s very fun to be with. We have the same hobbies and used to go skiing every winter and tennis every summer. I miss him for the sports and laughter, friendship.Do you think it’s wise for me to call him or should I wait for him to make first contact (I don’t think he ever will). Do you think time heals or our friendship is over? I don’t know how to move on; it’s like my brother died.
Why gay relationships suck
Do gay relationships struggle to work because we did not have that high school and Varsity dating life? And dating in the beginning meant hooking up more than anything else. Only came out at 25A friend of mine asked this question and I feel there could be some truth to it. What do you think?
Today I was harassed by a group of teenagers :/
I rode my bike to the local chinese food spot and ordered some food, my bike was right outside and in view. I saw a group of like 5 teens (prob around 15-16) approaching it and getting too close, so I walked to the open doorway as an indication that it was my bike and I was watching. I didn't say anything, but they got the message and started walking away. I had a nice face of makeup on (I'm a makeup artist) with some rainbow eyeshadow, so I guess some of them noticed, and they started shouting "faggot". I didn't even give them so much as eye contact, I just waited for them to leave, grinding on my teeth. Part of me wanted to say/do something, but I'm 23 and felt like getting into an altercation with some high school kids was not worth it. But I'm angry... should I have said something? Also, I'm irritated that other customers in the chinese food place didn't seem to give a shit. Ugh
I am gay, and I have problems and I need advice
This will likely be a longish post, and I absolutely apologize for that. That being said, I'm struggling with a lot of issues and I really could use some guidance. Anything helps, regardless of if you want to respond to only one topic or if you just want to voice support.I am 20 years old, from a small town in a state at the heart of the Bible belt. You can't turn a corner without running into another church around here, its insane. I'm not out, I fear the results of coming out in such a town, the rumors, the insults, all of it.My mom doesn't frankly give a damn if you are gay or straight, she is really cool about that. That being said, she believes in god and the bible, but rejects organized religion. The same is true for my sister. My mom has a good friend who is gay. All of that being said, its an entirely different scenario when someone's own son comes out. I worry that she'll over-react, given that what she wanted for me in life will be ruined. I worry about that reaction.Also, my dad is a fairly bad homophobe. He got some watermelons or something from some gay customers of his, and he said he didn't want to pick them up because he thought they wanted to stare at his ass. (His words, not mine). I know he is a strong believer in tradition, and I fear his reactions if i come out.I currently live with my parents, and they are supporting me through college. I think the smart decision is to wait to come out until later, after school where i can stand on my own two feet, in case their reaction is negative. That being said, I want to live my damn life, date, have fun. I feel paranoid about anyone finding out.Also, I've met someone that I kinda like. The only issue is that I have second thoughts in my head. Like, I'll be talking to him and somewhere in my brain a voice says "You don't really like him". He's fun to chat with, we spend hours every night playing games together and watching shows. Part of me is also confused because like, he is much more flamboyant than me. its kinda odd, probably because I'm not exactly used to that kind of person. this all adds into my "you don't really like him" thoughts. I think i do like him, and I want to spend more time with him, I just worry about everything.Finally, living in a religious town, I feel like I've been raised to think that being gay is unnatural. While I know that that is false, I've read a lot of science regarding it. I know that I am attracted almost exclusively to men, but I worry whenever I try to get to know someone. Its like, part of me in the back of my head is screaming that I'll go to hell. Now, I try to be agnostic, I don't know anything about the existence of a god. but the chance that there could be one and that I could suffer for it is honestly extremely scary. I've never really had the chance to mess around or date or have fun here, not only because I'm not out, but because I struggle with that all the time. I feel like I can't reconcile how I was raised with my current life, and its extremely frustrating. Sometimes I just want to curl up and just cry.I want to just live a normal life for ONCE. I don't know what to do and its extremely tiresome. If ANYONE has advice, I'm more than happy to hear it and talk about it. I need anything.
Is my husband gay?
I want to know your thoughts..Husband said he likes men 80% to women? Where any of you able to be sexually active and like women like this?Read bellow
Hmu i am extremely lonely little boy. ;) I AM T H I C C
hmu on snapchat brock.foreman or brock_foreman and instagram please im extremely lonely P L E A S E
2018. március 29., csütörtök
Boyfriend moving
Hey everyone, so I am currently a sophomore in college and my boyfriend is a senior. We’ve been together for about 1.5 years now and he is moving by away this summer for a job he got. He is going to be about 5.5 hours away and I’m really nervous about all of it. Do any of you all have advice or a story you could tell me regarding the situation?
I NEED HELP
Soo i have this HOT teacher and whenever i get close to him i blush. AND to make things worse he is gay... anything i can do to not blush around him?
Living in a home where i was told countless times that being a homosexual is the worst thing a man could do, caused me to have suicidal tendencies. I’m proud to say, today, i’m still here & i’ll fight everyday for those struggling and begging for a will to live. Love yourself & live your life, free.
https://youtu.be/bKBRsOuYGv8
Being gay watching WWE/WWF
Is being gay and being a wrestling fan (not so much recent wrestling but old school shit) weird? I am sorry if this is vague (spelling?) but when I was growing up I wanted to be a diva (basically chyna) I pretend to be Debra/Chyna/Trish/Terri did anyone else have this experience and how did it effect you growing up?I’ll further comment on my experience shortly down below :)
Just Looking For A Conversation On Offensive Language
I promise I don't mean to offend anyone here I am truely just looking to have a discussion. So to give some context I am a straight guy who uses the "f" word that usually refers to gay people. However, I believe, like many others, that over the years the word as changed, although not entirely and not to everyone, to mean more of an inconsiderate, annoying person. If you have ever watched the South Park episode about this particular topic where the boys refer to Harley Davidson riders as this you'll understand what I'm talking about. I've actually gotten into an argument with my girlfriend over this as well. Her argument was that I shouldn't use it what so ever.Now with the context I just thought I would ask people who have been negatively effected by this word in the past how they feel about it. Does anyone still think that "f" word means the same thing it did twenty years ago? Or has it changed to mean anyone regardless of their sexual orientation? Just interested in seeing what other people think.
[MLM] Did anyone actually have a good first time? I know I didn't.
The first guy I slept with was an experience I will always regret.I was feeling exceptionally confident late one night, was actually sober, alone in my room, and downloaded Grindr. I set up a meeting for later in the week, and for some reason (the thirst™️) I went through with it. He's the only person I've ever met in person from the app (deleted it afterwards and never downloaded again) and I seriously regret it. He was twice my age, nice-ish, kinda weird, but I didn't know him, didn't feel safe in his apartment, and he didn't use a condom after I asked him to (and brought them INTO THE ROOM with us, ugh!). I've gotten tested since (clean, thank God), gone to counseling, and even had one better hookup experience with another guy, but I can't help but feel that giving up my "virginity" to someone so meaningless was one of the biggest mistakes I've ever made. I wanted that first guy to be special, and for us to love each other, even if we weren't going to get married or whatever. That's a gift I'll never be able to give again and I wasted it on this nobody.Is this regret common? Did other gay guys out there have better first-time experiences than me? Worse? Will I ever get over this?P.S. Thanks a lot, Southern Heteronormative Church of Christ Upbringing. I partially blame you for this.
Why do gay porn star do "Straight for pay"?
Hello there you guys(please don't be dismissive). I recently came across a "Straight for pay" scene with HotGuysFuck's Jake Davis. Someone vid said he was bisexual with a finance the other said he was gay so I asked BlurredMedia themselves what he is they said "he doesn't know these days" so basically bi, but in doing so they mentioned a past S4P scene (previously mentioned her)with Alex Griffen, in his first solo with GayHoopla he says he's gay but the first thing he jacked off to was lesbian porn, so I'm guessing he might actually be bisexual, just heavily leaning towards gay.Another scene they gave me an image preview of from their HGF site that features Sarah Sunday, Caden Carli, And Collion Simpson. I know Collion is bisexual and Caden is apparently gay (based on vids I've seen super gay). The scene premieres on the 20th of april 2018. Does anyone know why Griffen and Caden did it? Does any one know why gay porn stars do S4P? I get it when a straight guy goes G4P because it pays more, and I get when a closet case in denial has sex with woman(because he's in denial) but it seems like a lose-lose for a gay guy to go S4P.It's been driving me nuts for the past few days. Any answers? And please don't be dismissive
I am a turkish gay. AMA
I am a turkish gay living in Berlin for the last 5 years for my education. I also lived in Istanbul and in a small Turkish city. There are so many misconception about the turkish gays and the gay scene in Turkey. I am here to answer your questions and help u change ur perspective about gays in Turkey.
Have you ever felt this way?
This last days I've been wrapping my head around a certain idea it came to me. I was making a recall of every major friend I've had in my life, and all of them were female (I'm a guy at his 20).All of this came to be because I'm studying grade that is focusing on helping people in potential risk of social exclusion, and I realised that the number of guys who are there and ACTUALLY discuss seriously about that topic and care about it, are just... me and another guy. The rest doesn't really seem to care, and I encountered that almost always are the women who take the mantle of caring for others, and that's why I feel more attached to them in regards of friendship.And sometimes I wish to also find a guy who can do that. Dunno why. I guess because I've never had the chance to talk to a guy like that and I can relate to.
Oh my lords my Uber driver was cute like fork today and his voice g'daym!!!!!!
Just wanted to let this out today. Thanks.
How to get over a crush on a straight girl?
16 year old bisexual girl here. So I’ve been hanging out with the girl I like a lot lately, and she is super sweet, kind and funny. The only thing is, she has made it pretty clear to me that she likes guys. She has spoken a few times about the boy she likes, and fuck it hurts.How do I get over her? I think this is the biggest crush I’ve ever had on a girl, and I think she is going to be really hard to get over. I mean, she is so gorgeous. And her blue eyes, and her soft little voice. And her....Ughhh, see what I mean? Honestly, I’m shattered.Also, I just really want to date a girl but I feel like I’m the only not-straight female at my school? Gosh this whole lgbt thing sucks.Xx
Well it took me 49 years but.
At almost 50 I finally decided to come out and be the true me. The true me is a gay male. When younger I tried but went back in. To much mental baggage. Religious doctrine that was given to me. Issues with being molested as a child into teens. Other factors but that was then and it is now. At 30 i married my best friend. We were married for 15 years. Shit sex life. Had sex less then 30 times. We got divorced for completely other, sad and fucked up reasons. Never cheated on her. Just drove my "sex feelings" away.Over the time since the divorce I started to think. For so long I kept trying to make sure others are happy. I had stoped doing things for me. I stop trying to make me happy. I know and have always known I was gay. I worried about what others may feel about. I took somthing that makes me, me. Somthing that does make me happy. I hid who I was to others. Well fuck that shit, not anymore. I am gay. I am out and not ever going to let my happiness be stoped by me or anyone, anymore. I will not hid over fear or shame or judgment. I do not fear. Hiding has more fear. Shame, I have no shame anymore. Why should I be ashamed of who I am. My God loves me. I think I love me. And people who judge. Fuck you. Chances are you more morally fucked then the ones you judge. 49 years long enough not being me. Me is gay and I think that I am happy. I accept who I am and am glad that I am, who I am.
2018. március 28., szerda
I just got ghosted after my first date. (Need advice)
I think it went well, but I had a zit near my lip that could've been perceived as herpes. Is there any way to salvage it? I don't even have herpes.Should I text him again tomorrow, or is this a pretty clear message he wants me gone?I feel so stupid; I should've just rescheduled the date.
My straight friend just sent me a dick pic
One of my best friends, Matt, just sent me a dick, and I'm pretty weirded out by it. He's straight and went through a pretty bad breakup with my friend Cyn. We got super close after the break up and he's been whoring around with Tinder girls almost everyday. The thing is, he always sends me Snapchats of him having sex with them or him getting a blowjob and, idk, I think it's a little odd. Sometimes he lays his head on my lap and yesterday he asked me if there were any hot girls in my office and I said yes, then he sent me a dick pick and told me to show it to them. And of course I did, because honestly, his cock is beautiful. I told him that and he laughed. He always does that though. He's comfortable enough to get naked around me and he's always making comments in front of our other friends like "damn, if I was gay I would totally fuck you in the ass". Like who the TF even says that? He confuses me. Thoughts?
The GAYEST ASMR video ever!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vF1iXqYSsZo&lc=z23jvrgavqj2glsyi04t1aokg0gcfgu5tnrv4rw1fgfhbk0h00410
Advice: First time out in the UK - What do I do?
Heya! I hope you're all doing well. So, let me break even with all of you. I'm a white male, 25, living in the UK, still got my V-card and I'm pretty gay. It's taken me a long while to reconcile this with myself but I'm there now. I'm in good shape, (hopefully) not un-attractive but sometimes a little awkward in person. Good for me right! I"m not out yet, but I'm ready to do more. Go to clubs, learn more about myself, maybe lose my virginity, I dunno. Maybe that's an inexperienced view of it all. But I'm ready to try. The problem is that I don't know what I'm doing. It would be nice to have this thread produce some 'first time' friendly club and bar recommendations, specifically in the UK. The UK is small enough that I could reasonably travel anywhere within England on the back of a recommendation alone. I looked up some places myself but they all seemed explicitly sexual (a bit much for me I think) or very exclusive (I'd be going alone ;_; ). I'm sure it's a much repeated subject, but any advice would be heeded and appreciated, if you'd like to offer it. I hope that all makes sense. Thank you for reading!
Advice: I have a crush on a guy who is seemingly bi, do these messages seem flirty?
I have recently become good friends with someone who shares many of my interests, and it seems like there is a strong emotional connection between us, like us sharing our feelings and maintaining long eye contact. I recently asked him if he was gay (included below), and he said no, so I believe he is bi based on my earlier finding of him on gay Tinder and straight Tinder.https://ift.tt/2pLVGZ5 these messages convey flirting or a sign of interest in your opinions?Also what did his response of “Well Fingers Crossed” mean in that context?Thank you all for helping an anxious college student!Edit: For context, our “slumber parties” consist of us drunk snuggling and spooning throughout the night.Edit 2: More “flirting”: https://ift.tt/2urvRlA
2018. március 27., kedd
I Need Help
Im a gay middle schooler who recently came out to a friend which spread it everywhere which resulted in harrasment, today I had a soccer ball "accidentally" kicked into my face, My glasses are now shattered and i have 2 black eyeys and a busted lip.I was off in the other direction, facing another direction, while being 5,9. How in the hell do you hit me in the face "accidentally".Im fucking done with people going "you dont look gay" , "you dont act gay". Wait hold it HOW IN THE ACTUAL HAIL DO YOU ACT OR LOOK GAY???!!?!?!??!
Something Random....
I was reading through messages of this guy I used to be friends with (not anymore thank god) that used to bully the shit out of me because he found out through a friend (went through his private messages from me) that I was gay. What really pissed me off was that I didn't even stand up for myself properly and he manipulated everything so that it was my fault somehow for everything - then to rub salt in the wound he tried to turn my friends on me. All in all it was easily the worst few months of my life and if anyone is being treated like shit by anyone for whatever reason please fight your corner and get away from them, it'll save a world of hurt.
Weird news
Well,i just found out that my sister is lesbian WOW... now things are weird VERY weird. First off it is already strange for me AND my sister to be gay and lesbian 😐 sooo now my sister thinks that I’m gonna tell the whole school that she is lesbian. And i think she is gonna tell the whole school I’m gay. And now she don’t want to talk to me. And if me or my sis tell my mom or dad than😬 we might die. Because my mom and dad HATE gays and lesbians. Well if i do tell my mom and dad that I’m gay and they hate me than i will hate them too. Same for my sis. If they don’t like the way she is than i will hate them too.
Can muscular guys be into not-so-fit guys?
Or are they attracted only to their own kind? Lol, always wanted to date a muscular guy, wondering if I'll have to spend a couple of months in the gym for that
Giving up on dating
I've been ghosted, I've been ditched, I had a guy bring his friends, I had a guy bring his mom and younger brother, I'm so over dating, it's been a whole year like this and I don't want to do it anymore. It makes me feel like shit that I can't have one nice date.
What next?
I was scrolling through grindr the other day, when someone familiar caught my eye, this guy I had a crush on that used to work at tje same place as me was on there, well, him and his husband. They're looking for a third to take into the bedroom, and I'm all about it. The only problem is I got as far as for the guy to say that we could try and plan something, but I don't know where to go from there, I asked yesterday what all they were in to, but I haven't heard back. Should I keep pushing, what else should I say, I really find them attractive and would love to get used by both of them, I just don't know what to say next.
Does anyone esle find it really annoying that Mike pence can't be mentioned without a sea of people going "he's gay" or making jokes about him being gay and acting as if he's definetely gay, despite the fact there isn't a shred of evidence to suggest he is?
https://ift.tt/2Gek2ke reading this thread, and a hell of a lot of the comments are straight liberals circle jerking over "he's gay lol"this happens to literally every politician that is homophobic, "must be gay" they say as if the concept of heterosexuals that are homophobic elludes them or something. i find it sick, the fact that this is done to literally every homophobic politician is victim blaming us for the bigotry against us, try and get a straight liberal to acknowledge that pence is a bigoted straight guy, it's basically impossible. they never say "he must be straight" about homophobic politicians, it's fucked in the head
Question, Do you know gay men who identifies as asexual?
I always thought asexual and homosexual we're impossible to combine, but know I am not that sure and heard there are people like that out there. Just wanting to know if that was so. Have a nice day!
Am I asexual? Or just... tired?
I've been wondering this for 2 years almost, but I can't seem to find any answers.I have sexual compulses. I masturbate, I get hard thinking on cute/handsome dudes. You get what I mean.But then it comes to sex and... I dunno. I get hard, but just moments later I lose all my sexual lust. Not like exhaustion, not boredom neither, but it doesn't feel like I'm enjoying the whole thing. Never been with a guy I actually "loved" or cared, just random dudes. Could be that too, I guess, but still I don't know.
Help is needed
Hi know I might sound weird but I swear to lord himself I’m not a random ass old guy. I’m actually still in middle school. Now I am gay and say it out loud and proud. But at school I can’t even have the thought of being gay in my mouth. But Jesus how am I supposed to hide the fact that I get a Boner wanting to stick it in every guy I see. So can anyone help me I like when the guys are wearing adidas or like sweats and there but is just showing through it. And I’m 13 and can actually prove it.
ED at 19
Title says it all. I have sex pretty often and I mostly bottom because I can’t really stay hard during sex. I don’t think it’s psychological because I honestly have never really been stressed about it I just realized the other day that I’ve maybe had sex with around 20 different men but I’ve only actually orgasmed twice in the presence of another man.Masturbation typically takes me about an hour and a half and I typically will loose my erection if I loose focus for even a moment. I hadn’t really thought too much about all of this before but I’m realizing I literally might have ED. Anyone else have any similar experiences to me?
2018. március 26., hétfő
Never Been in a Relationship
So there’s this guy I met online two weeks ago, and we’ve texted pretty much every single day since. He’s 19 and I’m 17. He’s in college, I’m in High School. All this in mind, he’s literally the coolest guy I’ve ever talked to. He’s super patient, types big paragraphs (which I love), has a vocabulary, has a sense of humor, and genuinely likes me (or what he’s seen of me so far). I’m getting quite attached, but not obsessive.I’ve never been in a serious relationship, but I’ve been raised with the mindset of date-to-marry. I’ve never really talked to many people about relationships, save for friends in school, but you know how reliable that information can be....My parents are very religious so I don’t go to them for help on this subject, though they know I’m gay. I guess my question is how to pace a relationship, and how to know if you’re on the right track. I have the notion that sex before marriage is bad pretty much ingrained into my head, but I have a feeling it happens sooner. It kinda makes me nervous though. What if it happens really soon?Eventually this guy and I plan on talking on the phone (Dad doesn’t want me talking to guys, so I have to do it private), and meeting in person. I do understand the risk of catfishing and stuff, so i guess we could FaceTime or something. We’ve sent multiple selfies so I’m pretty damn sure he’s who he says. But you know...Regardless, any advice would be much appreciated. I really like this guys and want it to go well. Just need some guidance because I don’t have anyone really to talk to about it all.:) Thanks
My lame life of faking I like girls
Hi guys, I’m an eighth grader and have been trying to cover up that I like men for a while now. In doing so I’ve lied countless times to my friends and parents, telling them that I like a certain girl every once in a while. One time stands out in particular to me because it actually ended up with the girl confronting me. I was in seventh grade and this redheaded girl came up to me asking if I wanted to hang out. I said sure and we began sitting together at lunch. Soon my other friends caught on and in order to not risk being perceived as gay( I was a stupid seventh grader after all) I told them I had a crush on her. This ended up helping me appear more straight to people. Unfortunately, one of my friends shared a class with her and ended up telling her. We continued hanging out until about a week ago after she confronted me about who my crush was( at that time I had a huge crush on this guy in my science class) and kept pestering me about it. She eventually forced me into coming out to her. Instead of being supportive she was outraged and offended that I would lie about liking a girl and I stupidly told her who my real crush was to calm her down. In the weeks following she was acting incredibly hostile and ended up bringing along one of her other friends and separating themselves from me. After about 2 weeks she told me that she was going to sit somewhere else because I was being “a total asshole”. I gave her no reaction at school but I cried about it that night when I got home. She still sits next to me in Spanish class and is continuing to harass me to this day.
I need to take a burden off me.
This is my first post on reddit, so I hope you can give me some advice. I'm European, from a country which is sorta open about the LGBT community, but not in the city I live in. My family is REALLY homophobic and I'm really scared to come out. I have a girlfriend from about a year and a half now. We had sex about 6 months ago and I liked it, so I guess I'm bisexual. There's a problem though. She doesn't know, and honestly I'm not planning to tell her, that before I fell in love with her I had a thing for my best friend. Basically this guy was the closest person I had since the age of 13 and as I'm speaking now we're not talking anymore. I think one of the reasons behind the fact that he doesn't speak to me anymore is because I made things very awkward. We have always been really close. We were together almost every day and every time I was with him everything that made me unhappy just disappeared. It was a dark period for me, just was so sad for other matters and he was really a saving grace as a friend. Sometimes he touched my dick from the trousers as a joke, because he said that the secret to be always happy is to "empty your balls". Obviously I laughed and never took that phrase and that behaviour seriously. But as he started to do this thing more often, I misunderstood what he was doing. I thought that he was into me from a sexual side, so I started to wonder if it would be weird if we were together, and as I discovered that I liked the idea of being with him, I started to imagine to have sex with him, as I was starting to feel interested in him. So, one day I was at his home, and as he was dressing up for a birthday we were playing at PS4. At that point I couldn't hold the fact that I was into him anymore. So as he laid down onto his bed, while waiting for the lobby to load, I touched his dick. He initially took it as a joke and started make fake orgasms as he always did. But then I did something that maybe I shouldn't have done or at least not like this. I asked him "Can I take your pants off?" And his answer was "If it is what you want, do it." Then I started to blow his dick, and I really, really liked. After less than two minuts he stopped me and said that he couldn't do it and that he was so surprised. Then as I was clearly nervous for what I had done, I started to say stupid things like "Tell me if you change your mind" and other things like this. Then as things got even more awkward, he started to avoid me and then we stopped talking two months later. What do you think guys? What I did two years ago was completely wrong? Right now I'm am in a similar situation with on of my friends, but I would never cheat on my gf. No one knows about this except me and this guy. (Sorry if my English isn't very good but I'm not from UK)
Are there any Muscular guys who like feminine slim guys?
I know this kind of thing is a popular topic at this point but I'm just curious. Just the other day, I got finished with my workout and I was feeling pretty happy (I usually feel this way after I finish a workout session). And I ended up just browsing through my apps like Instagram, Tinder, and Grindr.I've always been attracted to muscular guys who were bigger than me and I love the size difference between the two sizes but I understand that in gay dating, these kinds of guys don't really go for smaller/slimmer guys and much prefer guys their size or bigger and masculine too of course and I don't begrudge them for it. People have their likes after all.But sometimes I wonder if there are any of these kinds of guys who are attracted to guy who are smaller than them and happen to be more on the feminine side. As far as my body is concerned, I genuinely like how I look, especially after I started working out for my body size years ago. I'm open to sharing my Instagram but I warn that it's NSFW My Instagram And just for the record, my workout clothes, I just wear at home. I workout at home lolAnyway, when I'm looking at the photos I took for my Instagram, I just feel so happy with where I am looks/body-wise but I do get bummed out knowing bigger muscular guys would not go for someone like me. It's really bittersweet and ironic at the same time since I'm genuinely happy with my look but yet it is typically not what someone my type would go for lolAnd what's even more confusing is that I get likes on my photos from guys who definitely are my type but they're straight usually (they have picture with them and their girlfriend or their children). This one always confused me because my build is nowhere close to the builds some of these guys have. I assume they just like my photos to try to get follows lol But I do find myself daydreaming and wishing I could be by their side.I guess my question is more towards Muscular guys. Are there any of you who actually like smaller built guys or guys who are on the feminine side?
Is it bad that I developed a massive crush on my friend I used to experiment with?
Basically a few years back when I was 14 I started to experiment with a very close friend of mine. Usually with me on the giving end but as it would turn out I loved it and over time developed a sort of love? Or maybe just a crush. I enjoyed doing it. I enjoyed how much he enjoyed it. He was my best friend and I loved hanging out with him. He was honestly the first guy I was ever attracted to....we stopped really talking because I moved and the experimenting thing made it a little odd. I don't even know if he turned out gay like I did...he has a girlfriend now. Really just bums me out thinking about it. I've been actually crying thinking about it recently. Not sure what my deal is.
“Aww” story like from the movies.
I have a funny incident I figured some of you here may appreciate. I have spent the better part of this month in Wien. I ended up meeting a really nice guy from Iran now living in Wien. We clicked well and spent quite a bit of time together exploring the city.Last night we were walking around and I got some desserts and ice cream for us to try. At some point I told him I was cutting my trip short and when he found out it was my last night for now he got sad. Well I was too.It was clear neither of us wanted to part, albeit unspoken. When the cold outside got the better of us we had a long hug at the U Bahn and that was it.As I was slowly walking back I thought, wouldn’t it be romantic if he just popped up and ask to spend more time together. At some point I walked far enough to know better of that.Suddenly I felt a tap on my arm and heard a squeak and there he was gasping for his breath. After he got to the train he said he turned around and ran out of the station to find me. He actually ran in the opposite direction before trying the path I was actually on and that’s why he was out of breath.The night turned out great after all.
Declan McKenna is in our tribe
On George Ezra’s weekly podcast yesterday, Declan announced he is living with his keyboardist (m) and called him his “fuckmate”. Is this news? I’m not sure, but I’ve seen previous posts in which people were wondering what his sexuality is. Cheers!
Coming out
So im 22, i’ve been out to a couple close friends since high school. However I reallly realllly wanna come out to my parents, but im just so fucking terrified. Idk how they’re going to react and im scared i might get kicked out of the house. Idk i just wanna be able to live my life authentically and be able to breathe i dont wanna have to go on being scared and paranoid my parents will find out im gay. Any advice lol i just saw love, simon so Im definitely in my feelings right now, but one of the lines in there really resonated with me “you get to exhale now” and honestly this is all i really fucking want but i dont wanna make an impulsive decision if im not ready.
How can i coming out and tell my homophobic mother that i am gay?
Hi there! I know there is not a right way to come out but what could I tell to her... I don't want her to hate me but I think is inevitable. She said she loves me above all, but when she know what I am I am doubting about it.I really don't know what to do or what to think.I speak Spanish also btw. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
2018. március 25., vasárnap
First Experience at Gay Bathhouse
Today, I decided that I would try going to a bathhouse. I was horny, and I had read a lot of good reviews about one of the local bathhouses, so I went.I was incredibly nervous at first. After gathering the courage to walk in, I was greeted by a man at the front desk. I bought a membership -$20 if you're under 25 (but over 18, obviously). Although I do not plan on going back, they make you buy a membership.The front desk clerk buzzes you in, where you're given a towel and a key to either a room or locker; I purchased a room. The second that I walked in, I instantly saw guys walking around in white towels. I was directed upstairs to my room, where there are many "private rooms" for sex. It was dimly lit. The lights were red, and it was pretty quiet except for the sound of porn playing.I got in my room, got naked, and started to jerk off and calm my nerves down a little. After awhile, I could hear other people moaning, sucking, and fucking. It actually was super hot knowing that I was in this place where everyone else was just as horny as me.After building some confidence, I left my room and walked around. I noticed that right outside of my room, a sling was set up, which wasn't in use at the moment. I walked down this hallway which led to a COMPLETELY pitch black room. I soon realized that I was the only one in there. I felt around, and could make out stalls and glory holes. I left, and started exploring more.A couple of the rooms had open doors. Two guys in two separate rooms were lying on their stomachs with their holes exposed - bathhouse code meaning that they bottom, and want company. I was too nervous at first, so I walked past.I went downstairs, where guys were just wandering around. Nobody was really talking, which was kind of weird. There were older guys sitting in a hot tub just chatting. Seemed pretty uneventful downstairs, so I headed back up to my room.I started jerking off again. This time, I could hear way more action. The guy next to me was getting fucked, and I could hear it all. Outside of my room, I heard a lot of commotion. I opened my door and found a guy on his knees, blowing like 5 or 6 guys. Again, I was too shy to participate.I noticed after awhile that the guy next to my room was quiet. So, I decided to walk around again, hoping his door would be open. It was.He had his hole in the air and I got instantly hard. I walked passed his room, contemplating what I should do. I turned back, and stood in front of his doorway. I moved my towel, showing him my hard cock. He pulled has ass apart, signaling me that he wanted my cock.I walked in his room, shut the door, and began rimming him. I slipped on a condom, rubbed some lube on my cock and his hole, and fucked him. It was honestly so hot. Something about the dim lights, knowing other guys are hooking up all around me, and the situation in general was awesome. I came, and left.Afterwards, I got dressed and went home.Honestly, it was pretty cool. It just felt so dirty, but in a good way. However, I won't return. I think it's something that definitely should be experienced at least once, but it is a risky environment. I know that a lot of bareback action happens, so who knows what may be floating around a bathhouse. The guy I fucked kept his door open, welcoming more men to fuck him, so who knows what number I was.It was an experience, for sure. The other customers were respectful. Everyone knows what they are there for, so you are not treated negatively. People like to fuck, it is what it is. Just use protection, which yes, the bathhouse provided.
UPDATE: I'm a 19 year old closeted boy, currently being threatened for my life. I need help.
Hello everybody, first of all, thank you to everyone who has been supportive of my hard situation until now and for all the loving messages. They truly give me a reason to continue living in this horrible place I'm stuck for the moment.Since everyone keeps asking me to update, here is what I've been up to since asking you for help:If you don't know what I'm talking about, you can find my original post HERESince last week, I applied for my passport. I still need to pay the 60 Euro fee when it's out but I hope that I can figure something out until then. Everyone told me to have a passport ready so whenever I find a way out it won't take time to be out of the country. Some supportive people have since asked where they could make any donation through paypal to get through but I don't have any idea how paypal works. How do I need to verify my account?Until now, I haven't found any organizations willing to help me. Many have suggested I start some sort of online job to support myself until I find a real job but I have no idea where to look at for that. Are there any subreddits that could help me with this? As for applying for work outside the country being 19 I have no idea which corporate or job who'd want to hire me. I had an idea as a maid (terrible, but for a survival) but families rarely ask for male maids.Looking to apply for scholarship season as soon as it starts (usually around April) although I haven't found any school that I can apply to, but non-stop looking for them. As for leaving my home, I'm hoping to be able to support myself first and then thinking about this. My relationship with my father continues to be more abusive than ever, he beat me up 3 days ago because he saw me wearing a red/pink-ish shirt but I don't want to end up on the street. It is cold, rainy and more dark than anything and if I ended up in prison I couldn't imagine what would happen to me there.I'm starting the gym next week and have been asking my friend to borrow some money for the membership so I can atleast be able to slowly protect myself until I get out of here. Although I haven't made much progress I don't have any other choice. If you can help, or have any idea that would help me, I am open to any and every advice. Even an upvote would help. If you want to contact me the PM's are open and you can request my email too.I'm trying to stay positive even though the odds are against me.
SO I am confusion
SO THIS POST IS NSFW I DUNNO HOW TO TAG IT BUT CONSIDER THIS YOUR WARNING. HEY folks a fully gay high schooler (16 yo) here. I’m just wondering about a situation that happened in my younger years and has sort of been brought up recently.I had this friend in middle school who I had known since Kindergarten. One sleepover during our middle school years, though, things got slightly weird. See, we went to an all boys school and the youngest female there was probs like 60 years old. So, the most we could do was think about females (I didn’t know I was gay at the time). But eventually we just started talking about how much we wanted to do stuff and you know where it goes from there.This happened on and off over the next few years we were in middle school together until in the spring before high school my parents caught us and then no more for that (this is a whole discussion for a DIFFERENT THREAD.)Eventually we went off to different high schools and did our own thing (BOTH coed hallelujah) I came to terms with the fact that I was gay and sort of forgot about him. Honestly, I sort of assumed he was gay if he was willing to do that kind of stuff with me. Eventually we would talk about sports or something but nothing too deep. UNTIL...Around a few months ago, when we were talking normally and then I decided to ask him if he was dating anyone, and then he started talking about all the females he was getting with. This confused me, until I remembered how he always used to talk about girls when he was with me, and I would not.We started to go deeper into what we had and then I asked him if he felt anything when we talked about girls because I didn’t. He said he did but didn’t go into how he felt about me.The thing with this kid is I would always try to talk about what we did and he would be very non responsive, as if he was ashamed it was happening.This was followed by an even weirder story that he apparently asked for nudes from girls from our sister all girls school. This sorta shocked me, but we talked about it and he really felt bad about it.I just found this subreddit and LOVE IT and have some question for you: What is up with this kid? Is he confused? Is he Bi? Is he shutting down his feelings? I legit have no idea and whether I should talk to him more to avoid him closing up or if I should just let him be.P.S: I wouldn’t mind getting back with him, but that isn’t the primary focus of my concerns obviously.
Call me by your name and love simon
I've read both of the books and watched both of the movies. They both depicted very powerful message in term of loves. One of them have a happy ending and the other have a relatively sad ending. I feel more connected to call me your name, loves born of passions, of the moment, of impulse, and it was the truest loves, the one that is most fragile and most precious. So much so you're giving up your name for your lover. On other hand we have love simon where it's more like a struggle and loves that is born out of necessary, from shattered reality and rather it was a pure loves. If this love stem from water then the other is a fiery pit. We all want the ending that is Simon had, but I can't help but think that I'll be like Elio, when I give it all and to end up losing it all. Do you feel more connected with Elio or with Simon?
The struggle is real
I recently joined this community event though I've been on Reddit for awhile. I have been struggling with coming out for so long. I recently saw the movie Love Simon and it inspired me to want to come out. My parents already know and a few close friends know but I want everyone to know so that I don't have to hide. I told my parents that I am want to come out and they are supportive but they told me that we have so much going on that they don't want me to do it now. I'm sick of hiding and it physically hurts to pretend anymore. I'm a junior in a Catholic high school and I have alot of friends who I know will support but I also have alot of friends who I know won't and idk how the school would react. Someone please give me some advice because I am very sad and I feel trapped.
I finally get it now
i finally get it now, i am in middle school and recently came out to my best friend. He thought it was a joke and told everyone. Now i get hit or some other type of harrasment every day. No matter what people say it doesnt get better. Im fucking tired of gay hate or gay stereo types.Lol im crying right now so patheticIm so stupid for trusting anyone. Not even my parents new and now my dad wont even talk to me
Difference between accuracy Oraquick Rapid Testing and Oraquick ADVANCE rapid test for HIV?
The facility I am going to offers both, a mouth swab for one, prick in finger for the other..what would be the difference of them in finding out if you are positive or negative?
If a Bi man asked you out
and was obviously totally into you, you met a a club and flirted danced over several weekends.what would you be concerned about?asking for a friend.....
Boyfriend
Hi guys. I am looking for a boyfriend. But I do not live in Europe. I live in one of the Middle East countries. And for some reason, I do not want to be in contact with anyone in my country. This has led most homosexuals to seek sex. But I am now looking for love. If someone is looking like me, dm is open. I know I may be away, but maybe we'll be together in the future. dm me to meet xx
I have been texting with my ex... should I ...
I have been texting with my ex. He says that he misses me and he’s ready to commit. On Wednesday, he told me he misses me and he loves me. We dated 5 years ago. I want to surprise by picking up today after work.Should I do it? Or would it look like creepy?
I have an embarrassing thing to talk about but I’m going to say it anyway, so basically when my penis is soft I can pull back my foreskin for example when I clean it in the shower but when my penis is erect my foreskin won’t go back but if i manage it it hurts a lot. What do I do!?!? Thanksinadvance
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Lost
I've repressed my gay self up into my 30s. I've dated a handful of times. Three of those times were abusive. I thought it was some defect in me. I just realized this with the latest one. My whole world feels in shock. I went to my family and they have done nothing to even press me what's wrong. I was isolated in a cult for 8 years and have no friends now. I feel I have nobody. I feel if I reach out to anyone I know they won't understand or think it's odd or not believe me or think I'm being needy.
How to locate prostate with toothbrush?
I've tried multiple times, used my finger, toothbrush but I just can't find it. Any tips?
Making friends without apps
I am a real shy person and recently moved to Germany from US.. I need to make some gay friends but I don’t want to use apps. Because i m in relationship and I think most of the apps ppl want to either date or have fun.Is there any other way to make some gay friends? And did I tell you I don’t speak German :( so going to gay bars won’t help Much too. I am shy and I don’t know language also .
What should I do?
Hey everyone.So, I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now and it has been going pretty well. However, we recently had a big fight because of my mental illness. I have been dealing with anorexia (now recovering though), anxiety, depression for a few years now and sometimes it just gets the best of me.Two days ago, I told him that I wanted to kill myself, because in that moment I truly did. He had been acting like an asshole towards me all day and I was really hurt. My brother and I had had a huge fight as well, and I was just generally upset that day. My boyfriend got really hurt when I said that but then we did not talk about it much as I chose to go home.The day after, he is really cold and does not reply to my messages. I asked him what is going on, and he said I was horrible for telling him that I wanted to kill myself and I should not be talking to him about those things because we have not been seeing each other for long. We have been dating for 6 weeks, but we have talked and it is an "official relationship". What confuses me though is that we talked about my eating disorder on my first date, as well as the time a teacher molested me (that's another story) so I don't understand why we wouldn't be able to talk about such things now?...Anyway, I got weak and desperate and apologized to him but I feel like deep down I knew he was wrong, not me. He said he needed some time and now he is giving me the silent treatment, until now when he messaged me and said he does not want to meet me for the next few days because "he doesn't want negative vibes".Was I wrong? Should I just leave him? Deep down, I feel like I should, but I love him and don't want to let go.
Help
I met my best friend when I was in 8th grade, (I’m a hs sophomore now) and we’ll call him John. Before I met John i was fairly certain I was straight. Then I started having these weird feelings about him and realized that I like him. Not gonna try and label myself, but I started to notice other guys too. Anyway, back to John. It took me a few months to figure out my feelings but now I am certain that I really like him and I want to take the next step but I am afraid because I don’t know if he’s gay or not. Any advice?
Mostly into Lesbians
Hola,I think I am Bisexuell und die have some contact with males, but since I noticed that most of the women I am attracted to are lesbian women, I was wondering: maybe I am totally gay and I am searching mostly in the wrong biological gender. Does someone feel alike?
2018. március 24., szombat
arghhhhh
ive never physically had anything with a guy except a hug but when looking for porn i find myself looking for i sexual videos. the idea of a sexy girl being fucked by a dude while another guy sucks / licks hiss ass os awesome haha i guess i just wanted somewhere to vent (and ask for you favourite bi vids ;) )
Problems getting hard
So I am fairly new to gay sex (I came out a few years ago) and I have been trying to put myself out there and experience what I can. I used to use alcohol as a crutch to gain confidence to actually meet/go home with men, but I realized recently that I believe this is giving me ED, so I’ve decided to not try mixing sex and alcohol.Whenever I masturbate alone, I generally do not have a problem staying hard or feeling great. It’s when I’m with men that I cannot get/stay hard, though I believe this is due to the alcohol as stated.However, I hadn’t had a drink today and I go over to this guy’s apartment and try to have sex, and I am again finding it impossible to even get hard. Beforehand, we did a couple lines of coke, so I’m wondering if this compounded my problem as I start to get embarrassed about being unable to perform, what I hear is another cause of temporary ED.I am 24 years old and have a pretty good libido, so I’m not sure why this is happening to me. I have only been brought to orgasm with a man twice, and both times I stroked to completion. It is very worrying to me and I’m starting to wonder if I’ll ever have a healthy sex life.I’m not sure if it’s because I put too much pressure on myself in the bedroom and that gives me anxiety, causing me to not perform, or if it’s overindulgence in porn that’s dulled my ability to appreciate actual sex or that I use it as a tool, and without it, I’m impotent.Anyway, thanks for reading this. Please tell me what you think and how I could go about fixing this. Thanks gays, have a great day. :)
Whats it like? Im a bicurious virgin( for gay sex)
Whats gay sex like? Im a bicurious virgin. Never done anything with a guy except kiss. Whats oral and anal like?
Bottom in desperate need of advice?
Hello there. First time posting here.I have been in a long term relationship for over five years and we have had very difficult "cycles" in our relationship because of sex.My boyfriend is a top and he really likes sex, is very kinky, very eager and all that. I'm a bottom, kind of a dick pig but most of the time I'm not.Spanning our relationship's lengthy life we've probably had penetrative sex like 10 times. I know some of you will say OMG how is this even possible you are lying. But it's true. And it's my fault.I don't want to go too into it, but I had a rough coming out experience which prompted me to actively stay as far away from penetrative sex as possible. When I did start to get over that and become interested in it, I was already too broken to function normally I guess.So here is my problem: I am very uptight and take myself too seriously. I do not judge people other than myself. Most of my friends are disgusting and I fully support and admire them.Examples: I cannot fart in public. I will endure twenty hours of gas pain if I have to, until I can get home and fart inside my very own bathroom. I couldn't pee outside my house until I was 18 and had to choose between peeing in a public bathroom or peeing over myself. I am kind of a nutjob and I have already stablished with my therapist that it all traces back to my coming out experience, which triggered a need to portray myself as nothing less than perfect.This was all my introduction section. Now that you know how fucked up I am, let's go to the issue at hand.I love bottoming but I hate having sex.To me, it's all very simple and logical. I cannot allow myself to get impaled by my boyfriend's gorgeous dick - or any dick - if I can't be 100% sure that there's only pure atmospheric air inside me. I dread the thought of leaking anything during sex. The only times we had sex I literally didn't eat for a couple of days, spent over 3 hours douching or a combination of both. I need at least a 72h notice before thinking about having sex.The other issue is: I love nothing else more than I love eating. So you can see what the problem is here. I have to deliberately stop doing something that is not only my biggest pleasure, but an essential part of living in order to find peace of mind to spread my legs.It's painful. My boyfriend says he doesn't care that I'm squeaky clean, that he knows he's fucking ass and not a bottle of perfume, etc., but to me it doesn't matter because I feel uncomfortable and awful if I try to do it spontaneously.Every damn time we argue it's the same thing. I'm very affectionate, so I expect at least some affection back. At some point he just makes me feel like shit in that department. I spend weeks trying to figure out what's wrong and when I do, he's frustrated because "we're just best friends, not boyfriends, and I wanna be both". I suck it up, starve myself, have sex, all's back to fairy tale standards, then I can't keep up with the starving, so he starts starving himself sexually until we're back where we started.I don't know what else to do. My therapist asked me "are you sure you REALLY need to go through all these procedures just to have sex?" and I figured out I DON'T KNOW. I've been taught by the internet that I should so I'm trying to go full circle here and ask the internet if I misinterpreted the whole thing and there's actually a way to bottom frequently without starving myself and having an obscene water bill.I researched a little about fiber supplements and people that just have a balanced diet and bottom just fine but I felt like none of the cases addressed my issues accurately enough to make me feel confident about the answers.So please, I beg you, help me! Am I sexing wrong? Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance.PS: Another thing that I noticed is that I can take several inches of dick like a pro if I'm in my ideal cleanliness levels, but if somehow I missed a tiny insignificant poop in there my ass flares up and it feels REALLY awful, like it's burning for real. Then I ask for a break, go to the bathroom, eliminate that little shit and proceed to take the D happy and pain free. If just the smallest shit can have this horrible effect, how come some people can bottom pleasurably without this much preparation?
D*** Pic
Well folks, it's official. I've just sent my first dick pic. I did it so mindlessly, too. No body or face. A guy on Scruff sent me a dick pic, and I reciprocated.
Is my BF nervous about having sex with me?
We're both 21 years old. I'm gay and he is bi. We have been dating for a little over a month now and we haven't gone all the way yet.We have made out and done oral and stuff, I ate him out blah blah whatever, but we never had sex sex. We tried once but he was too tight and I wanted to be considerate so I told him that it was okay and we stopped.Keep in mind I am the top and he is the bottom. I am average so I don't see why he would be that nervous.I was cheated on by my last bf that basically told me that he lost all sexual attraction to me so I am scared it's going to happen again.Help? Thanks!
Standards
When I'm dating (not currently, fellas), I discuss my standards with guys. -I will never cheat on you and I ask that you have the same respect for me. If you fall for someone else, grow a pair and tell me. It would suck but I would appreciate the level of respect.-We do not hit each other. I will never hit you and you will not hit me. We can talk things out and if things get too heated, we can take a break.-We are a team. We have to find some way to spend time together at least once a week.What are some of your standards?
I want to make YouTube videos talking about LGBT type topics but would you watch if....?
Hey there guys. So I've been wanting to talk about all kinds of LGBT related things on my YouTube channel but the thing is, I don't really have the "Gift of Gab" when it comes to doing face-cam type videos. I usually have to wing it a lot of the time and it can make doing videos quite a challenge.However I've found that I am much better at scripting myself and having my voice over a picture or screenshot or general stuff like that.Here's an example I did where I talked about a subject while using a little avatar I drew up Video,And here is one with a bit more motion Video 2Anyway, I was just wondering if you're more likely to watch a discussion type video that is face-cam or do you mind if it's just a voice? Do you have a preference? I'm just curious because I have so many discussions about the LGBT I'd like to share some thoughts on and I feel that if I do this method, I'd be more likely to get videos done as opposed to slugging it through the face-cam style but on the other hand, if people aren't really into voice type videos, it probably wouldn't be worth it.I'd just like to know what you guys think. Any feedback is welcome!
Mono-Poly?
So I have had a few guys say to me, “what’s the point of being gay if you’re going to be monogamous?”My question is: Is this really the thought process the majority of homosexual males have? Is wanting a monogamous relationship a bad idea? Are we setting ourselves and our future families/kids/descendants up for failures in relationships with polygamous relationships?
Dealing with bruised legs
I'm certain there's a better subreddit for this, but I wasn't sure where. I work as a package handler in a warehouse, and since I've started working there, my legs have gotten COVERED in bruises- it's getting out of hand, and it looks pretty gross. I don't want to tell anyone, because I don't want people to see I shave my legs... I can't see a doctor right now, but is there anything I could use to help clear it up? Any help, either in fixing my problem or pointing me in a direction where I could, would be greatly appreciated.
Looking for some domination [31]
Show me what a real dick is. I have an average cock and I’m looking for someone that makes me feel inferior. I want to be told what to do, then, and now. I’ve only been with three guys, and my urges are growing strong. My fiancé and I have talked about this a shit ton and we’d like to find a man that can satisfy the two of us. Pm me if you are interested and al little about your self and maybe a kik name.
Honestly lost and down at this point
Hi. So I’m a 21yo in Michigan attending college. I’m 230 lbs and about 5’11” so I’m definitely considered chubby. To tell you more about myself, I am very much the romantic type. I love thinking about spending my future with someone and idolize having that special bond with someone. Because of that, I want to be in a relationship with another guy, but unfortunately I have never even been on a date with another guy (well once but it was miscommunication and he was straight, that’s a different story). Anyways, being single has been making me very depressed lately (don’t worry im on meds and see a therapist). All my other gay friends are either involved or easily picking up guys at parties. They make it seem so easy. I don’t know how to talk to guys. I’m always worried about him being straight and I never know how to make a “move”. Being on Grindr also, I’ve come to hate how I look. Like I said, I’m chubby/fat and once every guy finds that out, they ignore and ghost me. My point is, I’m at the point where I’m convinced that I will never be in a relationship with a guy or even have a guy show interest in me. I’m just so lost and down at this point, I don’t know where to go from here.P. S. I’ve tried very hard over the years to loose weight through dieting and exercise, but I always give up and nothing changes.
HIV - do i probably have it?
I had unprotected sex with another man I didn't know. I was top. We didn't use lube. Two weeks later and I am dying of the flu.This is the first and only time I've had unprotected sex. I feel so ashamed, scared and depressed. How long before I should get tested? What are the chances I'm positive? Please help. Put my mind at ease please
Proud
I was in love with a guy I'd known in high school. I didn't have an easy childhood to say the least. I was beyond cynical and trusted no one. My first day at school, he introduced himself to me with a big smile on his face and it made me feel so warm. I hadn't felt that way in a while. I watched him and he was so well liked because of how welcoming and kind he as. It wasn't long until I fell for him. I spent all of high school and some years after wanting him to feel the way that I did. One day, I went out clubbing, got drunk, and messaged him on Facebook. I told him how I felt and went to sleep. I woke up the next morning embarrassed but expectantly. There was nothing. I went out to breakfast and was in line before I heard the ding on messenger. I opened it and read anxiously. He was flattered but rejected me. He was straight. I'd known this of course but couldn't avoid telling him. Something inside wouldn't allow it. I was sad for days before I realized something. I never thought I'd ever tell him how I felt. I didn't think I could ever be honest with anyone that way and yet I did. The boundless pride I felt helped me to grow past the hurt. Even now when I feel bad about it, it is quickly replaced with of feeling of pride and self confidence that will always be worth it.
Gay & anxious: a killer combo
I've always dealt with really bad anxiety in my life. As a kid I had selective mutism, an anxiety disorder where I was completely mute in any public setting, including school. For some reason, the idea of talking to people gave me such debilitating anxiety that I just completely froze & couldn't do it. Part of me really wanted to, but I felt, in a sense, trapped in my own head. After years of therapy, I finally got over it when I was 9. I had missed out on years of social skill building and still had trouble making friends, but at least that feeling was finally over. That is, until I realized I was gay. Just the thought of coming out to my family gave me the same irrational feeling of pure terror that I experienced all those years ago. And that still hasn't changed. I'm 24, my parents are super liberal and accepting, and I still have not been able to come out to them. I feel like they don't even know me, like there's this wall up between us and I'm completely powerless. Anyone else with a family like mine would have come out a long time ago, but I just feel like I'm such a weak person. It's not just about coming out either. I get the same feeling when presented with any opportunity to try anything new. I'm still a virgin because any time anyone shows the slightest bit of interest, I get the same mortified feeling and I distance myself. I don't know why I'm like this, and I've never even met anyone else who's like me in this way. I wish I could change, but I honestly don't even know where to begin. I feel like I'm gonna be stuck like this forever.
Needing advice
So I am needing to get some advice. It seems that all my attempts at having a relationship are failing and I can’t figure out why. I am a 25 year old gay male. I have talked with many guys whose ages range from 18-45. I can’t seem to find a guy that I am compatible with or that are not out to use me for money or just to have sex with. I am a nice guy but I have learned to not let people use me or take advantage of me. Another problem I have is that I live in east texas and I’m currently working in Oklahoma so it makes talking and having a relationship hard. I am in Oklahoma 5 days a week and I’m home in texas for my days off that are random so I never know when I’m going to be home. Anyone else having issues like this? Please advise!
2018. március 23., péntek
Gay webcomics/manga
I'm looking for more plot driven webcomics/manga featuring gay characters or a couple. Preferably not yaoi, more intended for a gay male audience/not directed at women who have a gay fetish. I know of My Brother's Husband, Young Avengers, and a few others but not much. NSFW is ok but I'm not looking for porn to be the main focus I can just pick up a bara for that. Thanks!
I am submissive/attracted to older men when I’m horny. Someone explain?:/
Hello everyone. Hope everyone is having a great evening. I just need to get something off my chest and possibly get some reassurance as well.I have always loved girls my whole life. I have a HUGE sex drive (I masturbate 5-10 times a day... I’m not kidding) I try to sext once a day to help relive myself easier rather than just using my imagination (hitting up booty calls) so, yeah. Girls are amazing and I’m pretty much girl crazy.But there’s one thing, when I’m horny, or maybe just a little horny.... I also crave being handled by an older man (30-40) (I’m 21) like, me being completely submissive. A total bottom. And being his little toy/slut. Even fantasizing about dressing up for him and letting him do whatever he wants to me. Maybe I am bi, and I’m getting more accepting of that I guess. But it’s strictly sexual, and I cannot imagine myself ever being attached to a male or giving anal. And only with older men. Just seeing a nice shaved cock makes me go crazy sometimes. Only receiving and strictly sexual. What is this? Am I bi? Is this common? Is this a phase? Not sure. So I would really love some stories about people going through the same thing, or who have went through the same thing.One more thing: I have very VERY bad ocd. So my ocd has now latched on to this sexuality-crisis. And my OCD is telling me “you have always been gay. You’re just realizing it now. You were never attracted to women. You’re always meant to be a sissy boy” and those words really depress me because I don’t want that to be true. I love girls and want to have a gf hopefully soon and stop my man-whore ways. I’ve been pretty depressed because of this, and have been self loathing. Because this is such a dirty kink to me, like not in a good-dirty way. Like I literally feel dirty because i fantasize about being used and being submissive. I don’t want this. I’m sorry about sounding kind of homophobic, I really support the LGBT community and have no issue with same-sex marriage or relationships. I just don’t want this for myself. Like, my attraction to women has gone down because I keep getting intrusive thoughts about these fantasies when I don’t want them. Ahh, fuck. Sorry about this guys
What is the most homophobic place you've been
I'm doing a diversity project and I'd like some tips on where to look and what to talk about.
I've just came out to my grandma...
I'm having mixed feelings... I saw her maybe holding her tears back after I told her. Then the conversation derailed and we discussed politics. Later, I asked her "Do you love me?" She replied with "Yes, I love you, my sweetheart." or something like that. I don't want her to be sad because of this.
[M]y best friend is one of the very few people who I'm out of the closet to
He and his wife both know I'm bi and they also know that I like him. He knows by now that whenever I drink I will hit on him and get a little handsy, and they are both okay with it. Except for the other day, he asked why I only hit on him when we drink so I'm guessing he likes it when I do.There's no question here just something i wanted to say
Tired, just tired of doing this
So, hi I guess ! 18yo, kinda asexual, kinda bisexual leaning a lot on the gay side (And kinda lost in terms of sexuality as you can see).So, A month ago, I started coming out to a small group of friends as the things I described above, they were really cool with it and support me, they're really awesome. I'm still really embarrassed and responding awkwardly when someone asks me about my sexuality (last time was today, it was worse than usual) and now there's rumors about that.Also, there's a friend, I know him since more than 2 years (who knows about everything I mentioned until now) and we have a really wierd relationship, like closer than friends but still friends. He likes to embarrass me in class by putting his hand on my leg in class and he knows that I'm not comfortable with physical contact. We also had many parties with dumb games (Those where you have to do something and if you don't, you drink) and, as in almost every parties I went with him, we kissed. I didn't believe in love or anything like that two months ago but now, I have a crush on him, like my first crush.And now, I'm kinda tired of hiding that I'm not a 100% straight when people asks me, I want to keep this personnal but on the other hand, I'd like to stop that. I'm also kinda frustrated because I have my first crush on a straight guy (As he says, but we're a lot who thinks that he is at least bisexual, because of his public behavior) and I don't know if i can tell him since we're really close and I don't even know how to tell him.Well, I think that I've said everything, I just really need some advices. So thanks for reading this wall of text, I apologise for mistakes as English isn't my main language.
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