Extrovert living with an introvert boyfriend

You may think this is a common thing, however, it's feels to be the opposite. No internet worries for this one worth reading...I've been labeled an extrovert over the years; people claim I've never met a stranger. My partner is the last to speak to you at a party. Always. He sees others as minut and inadequate compared to the standard we have for our relationship. He's only open and cheerful with family and close friends. It's hard to read in public if he's having a good time.Some times, I feel like I torture him with social activities such as attending work/social events and other things. How feedback is always, "I had a good time" or "You were very sexy tonight". Not anything about the networking we did our anything else.Ever feel like you put unnecessary effort into looking good it making friends? Introverts don't need many people like extroverts do.

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Where can you buy poppers in the US?

I know amyl nitrate is illegal in the US but what about acetyl nitrate poppers or something similar?

I'm lost and confused, but not sad

So, first time poster, and a throwaway...I really want to say this to someone, and I hope it will be a huge weight off my shoulders if I talk about it.20 y/o Male btw.SO, there is this guy that I think I like, but not really sure if he likes me back? I am on a team, and there is some "gay" stuff that happens, so it's very hard to tell when something is actually gay or just playful. The other day we were on a bus ride back from a game, and we had made some awkward eye contact, nothing too strange. But then there was this time when I turned around to talk to someone else, and I saw him a few rows back staring at me, his eyes just barely poking above the seat. I met his gaze for a second or too, then looked away. That was the first sign. So the bus ride goes on, and maybe an hour later I walk to the middle-back of the bus to talk to someone. Now bare with me, because this might sound weird to those who aren't use to the whole "locker-room behavior" stuff. As I was walking back, I felt someone touching my ass. It wasn't like a normal slap on the ass, or a squeeze or anything like that. Like, he stuck a finger between my legs and almost massaged my ass for a second. Kinda strange, but still, like I said, could be locker-room behavior.The rest of the bus ride I try and make conversation with him, to see if I can feel him out, but to no avail.At this point, I should probably mention that I have never been in a gay relationship before, only straight. Another little tid-bit of information is that I also am attracted to girls, which is even more confusing to me, but I guess I could just be bi.The next couple of days go by, and eventually we had a practice. At this practice, we didn't really say much to each other, besides maybe a little playful trash-talking. I kept trying to talk to him because, well... guess I might describe how I feel when I'm around him.When I see him, I feel more... alert? I sit up straighter, I try and act cool, almost in a goofy kind of movie-esque type way. When he looks at me, it's like he understands everything about me. When I'm near him, I feel so safe and so happy, like nothing can go wrong in the world. Today, I was walking next to him, and I felt as if I was on cloud nine. I felt so content, so small, and it took all of my will-power not to reach out and touch him. I just wanted to hold his hand, or put my hand on his hip. As soon as we walked apart, I felt so sad and lonely and disconnected. All I wanted to do was be close to him again, and that's all I can think about now. It sounds weird to me to say this, but I think I love him... That was the first time that I have ever written anything gay in nature, and I don't know how I feel about it...So since we are on a team, and spend many hours a day together, I can't really do anything that is going to ruin our relationship. I want to know if he is interested in me or not, but I don't want to risk it and just ask him because then the rest of the year will be awkward and the whole team will know, alienating me. They are all nice guys, and would support me, but there would be a definite difference in how they act around me.Just thinking about him makes my heart warm, and my heart-beat a little bit faster. Being in his presence makes me feel so happy, in a way that I can't describe. When I see him smile at me, or when he talks to me, it's the highlight of my day. I want to be with him, I want to touch him and I want to live life with him... but I don't know if it's possible, and if it is, how I can do it.So, now that everything is out in the relative open, what next?

Now I’m fat, and I’ll never find love...

I been dating this guy a little over 4 years. We both met online I thought of him as fun and smart but oh boy he was so much different once we moved in together. I guess I should mention that he’s 21, and I’m 28, at fist I thought it was gonna be great I really wanted that “gay life style” what I mean is great apartment clean and both in good health and working out. We did get a decent apartment, small but actually very neat cute apartment. We settled in got everything in place and everything seemed to be the way I always wanted it to be. Well to make things short eventually I noticed how dirty he was, lazy, always having to wake his grown ass up. Hardly bathed or brushed his teeth...yes he can go a month without brushing them which it keeps me from kissing him in a passionate way mainly because his breath smells like his mouth is rotting. Don’t get me wrong I knew he had some bad teeth but it was for the same reason it was because he never brushed apparently his mom never taught him to brush his teeth.Well I loved him so I stayed, hoping that he would change, as for the smart part of him, well, he’s into networking, and computers and all that, I thought it would be interesting but not when he spends most of the time working on his little “projects”. Even at work, we both work as security guards, I got him the job cause I wanted to spend more time with him but how can I? Even at work he uses his tablet to connect to our home network and work on whatever, which he just sits there doing his stuff. Besides that, OMG he’s just a kiss ass, he is just one of those people that just has to suck up to everyone, I don’t know if it’s just him being nice or just a kiss ass. I made him get this security guard job because he tried so hard to get into some sort of tech job, he got turned down in many but we needed money badly so I got him this job. Not such a great idea when Mr. Zuckerberg thinks he is too good for everything else, I just wish his stupid projects would bring income because he sucks at managing money and as much as I try to save up we’re always broke and he doesn’t seem to get it. He just thinks everything will be ok return to his stupid networking stuff and ignore the problems.Also, for God sakes do all IT guys always have to bask in their own glory to make themselves feel important? Yeah I get it I’m normal and simple I don’t understand what your talking about, but I rather be normal and simple then a fucking soulless robot. And I’m done dating a robot, if we have fun is because I’m the one who comes out with the ideas of going out to drink or watch a movie.I don’t know, maybe is just me bitching, maybe I just needed to get all these of off my chest. I know I’m not perfect no one is but it sucks seeing the little hope and dreams that I had going down the drain. I don’t feel special anymore, I feel unhappy, I want to go out, get crazy, get drunk, hell just meet a stranger and just fuck, cause why not. I don’t even know how it feels when someone is attracted to you, or you sitting across the bar and just making eye contact with someone else and smile and make a move.I’m 28 and just want to make the best of my younger years, instead I’m stuck at a dead end job, with a dude that acts like his 15.The only comfort I have is watching Will & Grace reruns imagining that my life can be somewhat like that...Now I’m fat, and I’ll never find love.

Now I’m fat, and I’ll never find love...

I been dating this guy a little over 4 years. We both met online I thought of him as fun and smart but oh boy he was so much different once we moved in together. I guess I should mention that he’s 21, and I’m 28, at fist I thought it was gonna be great I really wanted that “gay life style” what I mean is great apartment clean and both in good health and working out. We did get a decent apartment, small but actually very neat cute apartment. We settled in got everything in place and everything seemed to be the way I always wanted it to be. Well to make things short eventually I noticed how dirty he was, lazy, always having to wake his grown ass up. Hardly bathed or brushed his teeth...yes he can go a month without brushing them which it keeps me from kissing him in a passionate way mainly because his breath smells like his mouth is rotting. Don’t get me wrong I knew he had some bad teeth but it was for the same reason it was because he never brushed apparently his mom never taught him to brush his teeth.Well I loved him so I stayed, hoping that he would change, as for the smart part of him, well, he’s into networking, and computers and all that, I thought it would be interesting but not when he spends most of the time working on his little “projects”. Even at work, we both work as security guards, I got him the job cause I wanted to spend more time with him but how can I? Even at work he uses his tablet to connect to our home network and work on whatever, which he just sits there doing his stuff. Besides that, OMG he’s just a kiss ass, he is just one of those people that just has to suck up to everyone, I don’t know if it’s just him being nice or just a kiss ass. I made him get this security guard job because he tried so hard to get into some sort of tech job, he got turned down in many but we needed money badly so I got him this job. Not such a great idea when Mr. Zuckerberg thinks he is too good for everything else, I just wish his stupid projects would bring income because he sucks at managing money and as much as I try to save up we’re always broke and he doesn’t seem to get it. He just thinks everything will be ok return to his stupid networking stuff and ignore the problems.Also, for God sakes do all IT guys always have to bask in their own glory to make themselves feel important? Yeah I get it I’m normal and simple I don’t understand what your talking about, but I rather be normal and simple then a fucking soulless robot. And I’m done dating a robot, if we have fun is because I’m the one who comes out with the ideas of going out to drink or watch a movie.I don’t know, maybe is just me bitching, maybe I just needed to get all these of off my chest. I know I’m not perfect no one is but it sucks seeing the little hope and dreams that I had going down the drain. I don’t feel special anymore, I feel unhappy, I want to go out, get crazy, get drunk, hell just meet a stranger and just fuck, cause why not. I don’t even know how it feels when someone is attracted to you, or you sitting across the bar and just making eye contact with someone else and smile and make a move.I’m 28 and just want to make the best of my younger years, instead I’m stuck at a dead end job, with a dude that acts like his 15.The only comfort I have is watching Will & Grace reruns imagining that my life can be somewhat like that...Now I’m fat, and I’ll never find love.

How do i come out to my mom

ok so She knows i'm bi i've dated a boy before but it was right after a breakup with a girl. so she thought maybe i was just confused because i really liked her. Now i'm with a boy who lives in a few states away from me. I visited him once but i told my mom it was for a convention which it technically was since we did go to one. I talk to her alot about him and i just wanna come out and tell her soon so he can come visit my family and I but i keep getting too nervous about starting up the conversation. sorry for rambling

Advice needed about relationships.

I apologize in advance for the long, scatter-brained post.To begin with, I am a 17 year old senior in high school and I just recently came out to 3 friends. (Yes, I am fully aware that I am very young.) Although I may explore the possibility of coming out to more people who I am certain are LGBT+ friendly, I do not plan on coming out to my family for a very long time. I am from south Mississippi and the vast majority of people here do not view members of the LGBT+ community in a nice way, to put it simply. My family would in no way, shape, or form be supportive towards me if I came out to them, or word got out that I was openly gay. So this, in and of itself, puts me in a complicated situation.Now to the issue for which I need advice:I have always wanted to have an intimate relationship with someone. Earlier this year, I decided I would begin the search for a person I could be in a long-term relationship with. However, being closeted and in a very small town where almost 100% of the population is assuredly straight, this is difficult. I’ve searched the Internet for different forums that are meant for finding people, and I have found people who would claim they were looking for a relationship as well. (It is worth noting all of these relationships have been long distance, as I see no other option considering my current predicament concerning location and such.) However, as months went by, each relationship collapsed due to the other person lying and cheating. With each relationship failing, my already-existent trust issues have grown exponentially. I’ve developed a sense of “hopelessness” and feel as though I will “never find someone.” I realize I am very young. I realize that finding someone takes time (a LOT of time). I have not been able to try any REAL dating apps/websites such as Tinder and OkCupid since I am still under 18. I just have a desperate desire to “be loved” in an intimate way, as cliché as that sounds. I have read many other posts on multiple forums, including Reddit, talking about the “gay hookup culture” and this does not help my feelings of hopelessness towards finding a serious partner. I do plan on attending a major university next fall, but it will be an in-state institution, so I’m not sure how large the LGBT+ presence will be on campus. This is also discouraging because college seems to be the time where people find one another and get into serious relationships. I don’t want to be in my mid-to-late 30s when I finally start dating. I suppose I sound like a very impatient, typical teenager. And maybe that’s true. But even so, it does not change how I feel. My standards aren’t too low, but they’re not by any means high. I have been very vocal about my feelings in these past long distance relationships and I don’t bottle things up. I always communicate how I feel and I do not know what I am doing wrong. It’s all very discouraging. Here are a few questions I have:1) Am I alone in wanting more than just hookups? (In my case, it is not hookups, but asking for nudes and then blocking each other on the social network which you met.)2) Where should I look for a relationship, since my local community is very small (just over 12,000 people) and homophobic?3) How is the LGBT dating scene at university? What about at Southern universities?4) Is it even possible to find a very serious partner before age 30? I’ve read post after post after post saying how difficult it is to find people, and even after age 30, people still seem to struggle finding others wanting the same things. It is very disheartening.I apologize for the long post, but I would appreciate any feedback. I am human and OBVIOUSLY have many flaws. I’m realize I am young and still learning things about dating (and myself), but I do know exactly what I look for in a partner. Any and all advice and constructive criticism is greatly appreciated. Thank you.tl;drI’m young and dumb and want love but every past relationship I have attempted has failed due to the other party member being dishonest and cheating. Because of this, I have lost hope. I can’t search for a relationship in my community because I’m not out of the closet except to a small number of people, and my community is very small and homophobic. So is my family. (Refer to numbered questions above for things I would like answers to. Thank you.)

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Any gay guys go to the RPAC?

I’m bored and I’m on holiday for the next 9 days so I’ll probably be bored and free a lot so anyone talk about something.

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After a break up

I have recently ended a relationship with the man I love. The trouble is that i am now expected to completely take back everything i have ever said. i am no longer allowed to text him and when i do he doesn't reply, Please explain why after a break up you loose your best friend and the man you love and it doesn't seem to influence them at all. I would just like to say, if youre missing someone. text them, theres a good chance their missing you too. It's not worth it, to loose someone you cared so deeply about because you're too stubborn to write a text

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Not even sure what to title this

So I'm 19, almost 20. Gay I guess considering I don't even remotely like girls. I'm 6'3 and should weigh like 190 but I weigh 233 right now (down from 240). My problem is I just wake up disgusted with myself every day. I don't like being overweight and I'm attracted to people who obviously wouldn't even remotely take a second look at me :/. I don't like fems (in terms of attraction, nothing personally). It seems like if there's anyone out there that's a normal "dude" that likes guys doesn't exist. I'm extremely closeted, so in all honestly I'd love to find someone in the same boat who isn't going to make it obvious everywhere I go that I'm gay. But that doesn't really matter because on a scale of 0-10 I'm like a 2, maybe 3 with a good angle.I'm just tired of hating myself and being depressed. I don't like who I am and quite frankly I'm not "comfortable" being gay. I'm not suicidal but I really just don't care to be alone forever, ugly as all fuck, and paying bills with nearly all of the money I get from a shitty job. I'm so overwhelmed by apathy that it's driving me nuts. I'm so lonely and been through so much depression that I don't need meds, I'm just numb now and I hate it. I feel like if being gay is rare,then of the gays I'm even that much more different.Anyone been there? Have any advice? I really don't see how it's so easy for all of you :/

Is there a higher rate of problematic tendencies in gay people?

From what I've observed, there seems like there's a lot of broken gay relationships. Things like failed polyamory, cheating, lying, using each other for sex, losing interest quickly, etc. I've seen this in two of my friends' relationships and on Reddit, which is the extent of my experience with anything LGBT.Are these issues in the gay community, or am I just misguided? I'd like to get the right ideas.

How can you convince gay men that you aren't a f** hag and that you're ACTUALLY a queer woman??

Gay guys, especially those of you that have done drag, how have you come to trust the queer women in your life? Really struggling here.I love drag, I love gay clubs and bars, dancing, drinking on the weekends, having a blast. I'm also a femme queer woman. I sleep with women, I haven't dated a man in years and years. I like to hang out with gay guys because gay bars attract a more extroverted crowd, compared to the introverted, serious, lesbian crowd. Yet somehow gay men always think I'm a straight woman fetishizing a gay lifestyle whenever I try and speak to them in any capacity, especially when they're in drag.Drag so perfectly reclaims the femininity that is depicted as weak and worthless in the mainstream world. It makes me feel like I can accomplish anything just being myself, so it really hurts me when drag queens see me, as a feminine (queer!) woman, as someone who is out to hurt them.How can I fix this? Why does this keep happening!??

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16 year old gay runaway.. i am begging for assistance

I do not want to make this too long but I am facing some crazy stuff rn. At this moment no one in my family or friends really knows where I live I am only 16 so I have no car, no money, no nothing to do anything!! Months ago my dad kicked me out because he swore he knew I was gay. He never ever had any evidence to prove it and no one ever believed him but it didn’t matter because we got into a big physical fight anyways and he threw my stuff out the window in front of everyone. Just a nightmare...My boyfriend said he could take me to leave with him and his uncle over in Indiana and almost immediately after moving in with him he started beating on me. He hurts me in so much ways it is not even funny. I am still shaking from when he drove me to the woods and pulled a gun out on me. A gun!!!!!!!! I had never even seen a gun in my life or had it pointed at my chest. He freaking promised to kill me and dump my body and I got so scared I peed myself and then he beat me for that. His stupid uncle is just as terible. He will only tell my boyfriend to stop because he is “going to end up killing me” but never tries to stop him physically. Worse is when he won’t tell my boyfriend anything at all!!! Especially when he is tired after work, he just let him do whatever to me and acts like he can’t see him choking me right in front of him! I know if I call the cops he will be arrested because he is legally an adult but there is so much other stuff to consider. I call them and then that means I have to go back to NJ and live with my dad. It is like one heck to the next. I just stay in my head to keep me safe. Any other possible things to do!!??

A gay man in need!

I just asked a guy out for the first time and he said yes! I never thought I'd get this far, what do I do now! 3rd year of high school for context, so no bars or anything. But like, where should we go? And how soon? Sorry just very new to the scene

Triangle Pride

My boyfriend and I are headed to Triangle Pride in NC tomorrow, is anyone else going? It’s our first time going to this pride in particular, so we don’t know what to expect :)

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Gay hookup culture

I get that straights are just as promiscuous as gays, some even more so. Gays get the bad rap for having so many hookups. The difference is most heterosexuals eventually get married and "settle down" and many gay men still never do or want that.I have been on Scruff lately wanting to meet guys for dates. Hardly anyone texts me, but when my profile included hookups, of course I got hit up all the time.Do you all think gays are selling themselves short? I think we tend to buy into the common notion that nobody wants a long term relationship, so we just default to hookup culture and give up looking for what we really want and deserve, and settle for the quick fix of a sexual hookup.

My boyfriend has a second boyfriend

Me and my boyfriend opened our relationship in April of this year. He got very consumed with meeting new people and eventually found a guy he‘s dating since the last two months. He only sees this guy now and he meets him 2-3 times a week, for evening or overnight stays. He says he is in love with this guy and currently only wants sex with this guy. He says at the moment he appreciates life more with that person. But he also confirmed that he still loves me, however "in another way".We‘ve been together for 10 years (both are 30 now). We live together, both work in management and we have a prosperous life together with almost no problems, except this new development. The other guy is in debt, and has not even started his university education. There are many reasons why it would appear absurd for him to leave me and commit to this new person. However he says the craving is just there and he does not know how to stop it. I want him to be happy but think he‘s deluded. I would wish that our life together could just continue as it was.I am aware of how the human psyche works. Humans get dissatisfied after a while, independent of how good their life is. The ego is never happy and continuously looks for fulfilment in the future. Even if it reaches what it thinks it needs, it quickly gets bored again. I thought I will let this unfold and hope he will see that also this new guy will not provide the happiness he seeks (this he can only find within himself). However I‘m not sure wether I should request a decision from him: Either me and we try to re-fuel our love OR him.How would you deal with this situation and what would be your reason? Any help is greatly appreciated.

Questions on Gays Stereotype and Preferences.

Okay so it have been gone long enough, I were thinking why do people like to Fit into the Stereotype of Media Gay.The kind where they told themselves, that gay man have to act feminine to be gay, and lesbian have to be manly and tough to count as lesbian.Then preference come in, so what if a Non stereotyping Man, say he only like this big hairy bear, that he don’t like feminine or sissy kind of gay. Why is that such a hated thing in the community to a person saying their preferences?I saw tons of people argument saying if they don’t embracing the feminine gesture they are not embracing gay. That they are not a real gay man.But that’s what the media portraits gay men as, as a bunch of feminine acting people like they trying to become the cliche basic white bitch character is all low end comedy movie. But for whatever reason, they accept the insult and decide to become what the media want.So they set a standard where Gay men suppose to be and act feminine because gay men is about embracing their self... by acting feminine.It used to be gay men just wanted to be stand side by side with their fellow citizen, they are the normal manly hairy ass people. They have exist for a long time.But for whatever reason, people are angry at each other because they don’t act the way their preference wanted them to. Like why is that a thing, do you think it’s totally okay to keep acting like this? Acting to be different, acting to be themselves, acting into making themselves believe it’s what the Norm.I’m a man, who like man that’s is hairy, sweaty, kind and loving. And I don’t like feminine acting man.

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How do you like a guy to be man-scaped?

I'm pretty new to the gay community and I'm clueless as to what I should do with my pubic hair... Shaved? Trimmed? Full bush?

Have you ever...

My name is Ash.For the first time in my life I found love. He's a femboy, I didn't know what that was when he first told me. After finding out what it really was, I decided to embrace it, everything he is. I hadn't come out yet. So for 8 months, it was a secret to my friends and family. The first person I came out to was a close gay friend. Instead of support, he attacked me. Verbally and threatened to never be my friend.He walked out the door, the funny thing was, he said he needed time to realize whether he could still be my friend. For 5 weeks I sat waiting for my answer, still seeing him in social settings, and friend groups. It wasn't until a surgery came up, that I forced the issue. My boyfriend told me to keep him in my life, and this was against my better judgement. But I did what he said.I found out after he came back, and we talked. That he was jealous. After hearing his explanations, I found them very insulting. As a matter of fact he started dating, for the first time in his life to overcompensate. As time gone on, I found him to be continuously insulting through. When finally, I decided to break off my friendship with him. This is causing a division between my friends.All my friends know of my boyfriend now. Only a handful know of what this friend did to me. Do I tell the entire group how he's been treating me. Or do I just hold it in, and let the others find out for themselves.

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Anyone else absolutely love yaoi anime?.

I Have been watching every yaoi anime possible for the past year and have completely fallen in love with it. There is only two things that some what turns me off it one is the rape stereotype it always starts out with one gay guy one "straight" guy straight guy gets raped preety much and now he is gay and in love with the person that raped him. Two is the teenage girl fanbase I dont dislike it because they are teenagers or girls but because how they act its very cring worthy if you want to facepalm pretty bad go watch a video of yuri on ice and read the comments I guarantee there will be a user with a profile picture of a young girl and they will be saying somthing like I wish I was boy so I could be gay, and other cringy stuff.

Sick and tired of the masculine only bullshit.

The other day I was talking to this gorgeous man on POF. Everything was normal and he seemed really nice. That is, until we started talking about our local gay communities. He ask me if I had a lot of gay friends and I said no, that I live in a small town and it seems like everyone has slept with everyone and that makes me uncomfortable . He said no as well because, "I just wanna be a normal guy who likes guys. Not a flamer that dances to Madonna and acts girly."I see all the time profiles on Grindr that say no f----ts or no sissies. Or that say that they only date men not feminine boys. Why do people do this? Don't they realize that to the heteronormative world we're all the same, whether we act feminine or masculine?I'm a fairly masculine guy, and I usually date more masculine guys, but god damnit if I don't love all of my queer brothers and sisters, feminine, masculine, alien whatever! It really pisses me off that queer folk still shit on each other when we've worked so hard to bring acceptance of all people! Stop being dicks.Thanks, a concerned citizen.

I'm gay and very open about it. Why do I feel uncomfortable when I see gay couples in the media?

I'm the most socially left person I know. I'm gay and comfortable with my sexuality. Almost everyone I'm in contact with on a daily basis is accepting. I'm in a fairly liberal city.So why do I feel uncomfortable when I see gay couples in TV shows and movies?

how is gay marriage progressive?

ok i just want to understand why the people who are pushing and supporting for this so,

Is he into me?

Y'all, my crush is driving me insane.Today I finally told him how I felt about him. He didn't say anything. Granted that we were interrupted, but he didn't say no or yes. Last night we went out for drinks. Although I don't recall much of the night, my girl-friend told me that he grabbed my hand outside the bar. Once we got to his place, he kissed me. My drunk self went and knocked at the house in which he rents a room around 2 am. I was let in and went to sleep next to him (I usually stay over when we study). This morning the owner of the house went off on him.I feel that I trashed any opportunity I had to be with him. At the same time, how am I supposed to win him over if he's been "unofficially" with a guy for the past four years and now it's long distance!?

[NSFW] can I use a baby carrot as a dildo?

I know they are fragile so I will just stick it up to the prostate and leave it there while I masturbate.

At what age did you first come out? If you're still in the closet, how old are you currently?

Just asking out of sheer curiosity.I find it crazy that some people don't even accept the fact that they're gay until they're an adult and then don't tell anyone until much later in life. I figured out that I was gay when I was around 14 and now I'm almost 18. While I haven't come out to anyone in my family, I'm pretty much totally out at my high school since everyone (including much of the staff) is very accepting and I've yet to come out to anyone that's not supportive.By "come out," I mean to anyone, even if it's just one or two people. I'm not out to family yet (probably never will be since they're homophobic as fuck and I'm skipping that drama) but I still consider myself "out" at this point.Edit: I guess I should add that I first came out to my friends when I was 15.

Is this a dumb question? It might be... How do gay people make friends with other gay people and what is it like?

Before you all assume I'm just stupid or this was random and unnecessary, I just want to explain that I grew up in a school not knowing any other 'plain' gay people so I never made friends with any until recently, in which I'm 'friends' kinda not really, friend with my ex and past hook ups and idk what a regular friendship is like with other gay people.

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We're Living Single..

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I Fucked Up

Last night, the guy that I have a crush on (let's just call him Al - who is gay) and myself went out to celebrate since we did really well in a legal competition. We started out with wine and then went to a bar for more drinks. Neither he or I remember much of the night. However, my girl-friend was with us. She said that once we came out of the bar, he grabbed my hand and walked beside me. Apparently, I kept trying to grab his hand in the car ride. Then we got to his the house in which he rents a room. He went over to me and kissed me. My girl-friend and I got into an argument because I wanted to confess to him. I got out and started to ring the bell. This was close to 3 am. He owner (who knows me) let me inside and I went to the room. I woke up to the owner going off at Al about me and how we weren't responsible. Al wasn't mad at me and I couldn't stop apologizing. This morning we went out for a run. Once we got back, I talked to him about how I felt about him. He didn't say anything. My girl-friend told me today that Al had told her that he was uncomfortable of me because I wasn't "out" yet. I don't know what to do. Does he like me? Is he expecting me to come out in order to give me a shot? Should I?

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How to tell my girlfriend

I'm sure that there have been plenty of posts similar to this one on this website, but I feel so alone and scared right now.My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. I'm 22 and she is 21. We have lived together for just over 1 year, and we just recently signed a 12 month lease at the beginning of September.I came out as bi to her as well as publicly about 8 months ago. I've wrestled with my sexuality for years (and still continue to do so) but it's becoming clearer and clearer that I think I am gay. I don't know how to explain the years of sex with her, or how much I love her and care about if I was gay this whole time but right now I know that I can't continue on in a relationship with a woman. Whether I'm bi with a strong strong lean towards men, or completely gay, I know that I am not meant to be with a woman for the rest of my life. I think I've always known, but there are so many factors that have likely prevented me from realizing this.We share everything, we split rent, we're financially dependent on each other. We work at the same place, we have a cat, we just did a huge move that we're not even done unpacking from yet and we're both in University. I'm in my last year and she's in her second year. I see no feasible way to make this breakup logistically work.She suffers with a lot of mental illness due to an abusive past in her family and has lots of abandonment issues, which does not make this any easier.I am so scared but I can not keep lying to her. Do you think it's worth it to make it to the end of the lease? Or at least the end of the semester? I still care about her so much and we have been best friends for longer than we have dated. I feel like this will ruin her life.I'm sorry if this rambling but I am absolutely freaking out. I don't if I'm looking for advice or just to vent but I am absolutely lost.

I’m in the closet. I’m in a relationship with a guy that I don't love anymore, and I’m terrified of everything getting out and I have no idea how to go about this.

This is going to be very long, and I apologize about that. At the bottom I listed my main concerns and questions about everything if you want to get a quick gist of it.Before I tell you my problem, I’ll start things off by saying, I am gay and in the closet. Or I should say I am like 70% gay and 30% straight. So a little bisexual if thats more accurate.I have no intention of coming out anytime soon. One reason for this is because I’m still young and still heavily reliant on my parents, and they are not open to homosexuality in any way shape or form. Telling them could result in some damaging consequences and as of right now, I am not mentally strong enough to handle coming out. I want to be fully ready and completely content with who I am, and right now I’m not.So now I can explain my problem. 
I met a guy a little under a year ago and since then we have been technically dating. (we are heavily involved with each other but we have never actually said we are dating) We met at a bar and I don't know his friends and he doesn't know my friends. He knows I’m in the closet and how afraid I am of my parents finding out.So anyways, for the most part things were great. I loved him, he loved me, and we were having a great time in each others presence. But recently I have just not been happy with anything. My feelings for him are not as strong as they use to be, and at this point I feel like I’m just leading this guy on. So recently I have been playing with the idea of ending things with him, but I have no idea how to go about that. I also think that he might be catching on to me seeming less interested. I try not to be obvious in front of him, but you never know.So the big reason as to why its a complicated and difficult situation is because I don't want anything about this relationship getting out to other people. And our text and other similar things have me so worried that I cant concentrate on anything without the thought of those getting out creeping in my head.We text like crazy when we’re not with each other and that has been really worrying me, because of how much ‘evidence’ there is within our conversations. What if I end things and he gets upset and shows people the evidence of our relationship and all of the things I have said to a man that I am practically dating? This would be the end for me at this point of my life, and I don't know if I'm strong enough right now to handle that.One thing that makes me feel a little better is that he told me in high school that he was forced out of the closet so he understands the fear of coming out and people finding out.If I’m coming out, I want to do it myself. I DO NOT want to be forced out of the closet. I know one day I’ll have to face who I am, but right now I can’t.There are some other factors as to why I want to end things, but nothing that major. But a big reason for me is just being flat out not happy in this relationship. I don't know how to describe it. I’m just not as happy as I use to be with him. But my worries of things getting out worry me A LOT.When we first started talking I said something stupid out of pressure to get him to like me. I said I’m only gay. I know that wasn't smart, but this was my first relationship and I was worried he wouldn't trust a bisexual. (apparently its common in the gay community to be cautious about dating bisexuals because of the worry of them going off with a girl) I love men, but if there is a perfect girl for me I wouldn't be opposed to it.So to sum up this long confusing post here are 3 big reasons as to why I am worried about ending things with this guy.I do not want to upset him and break his heart. (I know that might be inevitable)I do not want to upset him; him get angry and go off and tell people about everything and show our text.Him not knowing I am actually a little bisexual. I don’t want him to get angry in the future if I ever happen to meet a girl I like and he finds out I sort of lied about being 100% gay and goes off to tell people or even worse the girl.All of this has been tearing me up inside. I am scared of all of these potential outcomes, and the more I think about them the worst my worries become.So should I just ask him to delete our text because of how worried I am of my parents or others seeing them? If he knew how worried I was about this I think he would understand. He wouldn't be happy about it but possibly ok with it.He's actually an understanding guy with a heart so part of me thinks he would willing to do that for me.Once again, here are my main concerns.I do not want to upset him and break his heart. (I know that might be inevitable)I do not want to upset him; him get angry and go off and tell people about everything and show our text.Him not knowing I am actually a little bisexual. I don’t want him to get angry in the future if I ever happen to meet a girl I like and he finds out I sort of lied about being 100% gay and goes off to tell people or even worse the girl.tl;dr: I am gay/bisexual in the closet, and I am trying to end a relationship with a man without the biggest secret in my life getting out and without breaking his heart. I am scared, tired, and unhappy. I just want out.

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Need advice: FwB with an ex?

My ex (40) and I (30) dated long distance for 2 years. We broke up 18 months ago. We slept with each other once 3 months post-breakup. Needless to say, the sex was extremely good (as it had always been). I cut off contact after that when I learned he was dating someone new (I am somewhat a possessive, jealousy type.)Lately I've been thinking about being FwB with him. I don't want to get back into a relationship with him at all, nor do I want to know who he is dating/screwing. I want this purely because our sex was just too good to pass on and I haven't had any experience that would match up since the breakup (I've slept with plenty). In fact, we probably should have been long-term fuck buddies in the first place instead of trying to make a monogamous relationship out of it. We weren't compatible at all except in bed.I do think he was more emotionally needy with me in the relationship, but probably has moved on also. If both of us are emotionally detached enough, could being FwB work?I'd like to hear your (success and failed) stories and any advice would be welcome. Thanks in advance!

PEP (2017) - Not what I expected

So I wanted to share this story in the hopes it is useful to help even one other person out there who might find themselves going through a similar scenario. I found that a LOT of information and personal stories I dug up on PEP is outdated because the technology and research is changing so rapidly. Posting from a throwaway for my own privacy and because I know the "other guy" posts here and on other LGBT subs.9-ish weeks ago I met a guy at a local block party type event. We clicked pretty well and hung out together on and off the next week. Not dating, really. Just hanging out. One evening we went out to the bars with some friends and got pretty messy. Ended up back at his place, messed around and he asked about topping. I was sober enough to insist on using protection. He got a condom and put it on however at some point, the sneaky turd took it off. I'm not sure how long it took me to realize but let's just say, there was definitely unprotected penetration for a while.Once I figured out what was going on I asked him to stop. He did. I told him that this wasn't going to work. He understood and I left. As I left, he said "by the way, I'm positive. But I'm managing it and I'm undetectable."SIGH. So I woke up the next morning and started mulling my options. I'm a science minded person. I know that given the circumstances, an undetectable top who didn't ejaculate has a practically zero probability of transmitting the virus. on the other hand, after his condom stunt I wasn't sure I could trust him. Also, we got a little rough that night and I was bleeding. Those two variables tipped the scale for me just enough to decide to go to urgent care (it was a Sunday).I read a lot about PEP in the urgent care waiting room. Side effects include nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, fatigue. Between the various message boards, including Reddit, I saw that some folks felt ZERO side effects - while others described it as the most miserable course of treatment they had experienced. I'd been training for a marathon and assumed I'd probably have to forego that for the next month.So I meet with the urgent care doc and she tells me they'll do a general STI panel and draw blood to do a baseline HIV RNA test. She recommended I follow up with my doctor. Then she was about to leave the room but before she left I said "Would you recommend PEP?" To my surprise, I could see she was COMPLETELY unfamiliar with it. She said "I'll make some phone calls" and I watched as she wrote "PEP?" in her notes.Fast forward. She called a colleague who recommended PEP and wrote me a script. I was taking dose #1 less than 24 hours post-contact. Insurance (THANK GOD!!!) meant my out of pocket cost was $120 instead of over $1,000.Here's how side effects played out:Day 1: No effectsDay 2: Minor fatigue. Stomach felt a little grumbly.Day 3: Extreme fatigue. Had trouble getting out of bed. Napped at work. Napped at home.Day 4: Woke up refreshed. No fatigue. Bowel movements slightly softer than norm. Returned to my marathon training regimen.Day 5 -28: Bowel movements continued as if I were on a mild stool softener. Nothing noteworthy. No fatigue. Marathon training continued uninterrupted.Day 42 - Second HIV RNA blood work came back negative as expected.TL;DR1) If in doubt, talk to a professional.2) If you can't see your doctor in less than 24 hours, go to an Urgent Care or ER.3) Ask the treating doc about PEP - they may not be familiar with it. Even in the gayborhood (which surprisingly was my experience)4) The drug combination has changed RADICALLY in the last ten years. If you see posts online about how horrible the effects were, consider how quickly the drug options have been changing. Under the newest mix, most people experience minimal side effects and those effects they do feel resolve in a few days, as mine did.5) Play safe, folks :-)

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Having a crush on twins...

Im a 17 yrs old male supposedly bi.I'm not really sure what this is supposed to be. There are 2 twin brothers I know. I talk to them every now and then and see them every day.I used to have a crush on one of them, but lately, it seems like I like both of them, somehow.I am more, should I say...sexually attracted to one of them, but I feel more romantically attracted to the other one.It's not like this week I like one twin the next week the other. It's somhow simultaneously. I do feel a stronger attraction to the latter one though.In case it matters, not sure if any of them is gay or bi, but a guy can hope.

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Split in the road

I need advice and no where really else to turn, my ex recently came back into my life and we dated in high school and after for a total of about 3-4 years, we've known each other for about 7-8 we've talked about how we really do feel like we're each other's soul mates and we are still in love, we always have been. I live in Indiana and he's a truck driver but he's moving back to Texas and we tossed around getting back together since we're now in our early twenties and we've both changed so much. In order for us to be together I'd have to move to Texas, he said he could pay my bills for a couple months and that I could look for a job or go back to school and just get loans. I don't know how to feel about all of this, I still really do love him, however it's such a great risk. I'm leaving my mom and my sister back here in Indiana and a part time job even though I've been hunting for full time for months. Should I take the risk? I have bills to pay if things don't work out but life's short right? Shouldn't I take some risks? I need advice! 😭😓

Where do I find guys...

Hey guys, I'm 16 and was just wondering where I can get a man. I tried looking around but it really doesn't seem like there is much for people under 18. If any of you guys can help, anything is appreciated :) Thanks

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I'm scared

The thing is I want to come out to my friends and families. But I'm just scared and afraid that my friends might hate me because I'm gay....

Am i? Extremely confused

Hi, 16 years old male here. So, when i was eleven years old i had what i think was some kind of crush on a kid i knew from school, this resulted in an increible deal of anxiety and fear no eleven years old should go under, i actually developed a phobia to school and had to go to therapy for a couple of years, i almost didn't make it to high school thanks to that. Now, in high school, thinks didn't get all that much better, i had another "crush" on a slightly older guy and decided to only play "Uno" in recess because i was completely and utterly afraid of seeing him. had some other "crushes" like that, when i was deadly afraid of seeing the person and the simple though of them made me anxious, then, at age 15 i had a crush on a girl and it felt pretty different, the anxiety wasn't there and i felt happy, i liked to think about her and it felt nice, it lasted a while and then i didn't have any crushes until about two months ago when i completely and utterly feel in love with a new girl, i would daydream about her, fantasy about her before going to sleep, i was completely blown away by her to the point when i couldn't concentrate in anything else, i felt like i kind of understood love songs for once, i was also pretty depressed at the time so she was the only reason i had to get out of bed in the morning, sadly, the love i had dissapeared with time, although I'm still somewhat attracted to her. Now, the thing is, i get extremely nervous and feel weird everytime i see an attractive guy, the feeling is not pleasant but it's definitely there, and this definitely doesn't happen when i see an attractive woman, i also tend to be very picky with the girls i like, and don't find 70% of the girls around me attractive. I've been convincing myself that I'm actually gay in denial for a while now, but I've never actually had fantasies with guys, i don't want to touch, kiss or fuck them, I've actually tried to think about guys I'm "attracted" to sexualy and it just didn't work, i was unable to get a boner or even get slightly horny, and when i try this with the girl i like i can easily "get it up" i also masturbate exclusively to straight stuff or solo females. I don't know what i am, at all, and it's kind of bothering me A LOT, i don't really feel like I'm straight, but i might be, i don't know... Also, you should know I'm a kissless virgin

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Just came out to my mum and it couldn't have gone any smoother?..

So it's been a long time coming now, I knew she knew I wasn't straight but something in me just always seemed to stop me from 'coming out' with it ba dum tss but this afternoon I had a feeling it was coming and I felt anxious for hours! We started making dinner and half way through she calmly just turned to me and asked "so are you straight?" While casually flipping chicken patties. My heart was literally beating out of my chest but I knew there was no denying it anymore so I'm just like "nah" she smiled immediately and gave me a hug and we continued making dinner.. what? I'm so grateful she had a positive reaction but wow did I over exaggerate the situation! Things feel a little awkward but I know it'll eventually go away.

I don't think I can do this

It just keeps getting harder and harder the more I try, I am losing it

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i have googled how to become gay but i am not sure if it is real

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Anybody become more boring when talking to other people?

Hi guysI'm really shy and not really good at social interactions especially in a group setting.My biggest problem is that I think that I'm really not funny when talking to other people. But there's a few friends that I can be REALLY myself with, and that's when all the jokes and funny stupid ideas come into my head. I think that the real problem, at the root, is that I'm focusing more on making the conversation flow smoothly because I subconsciously fear that what I can say in this convo is boring, I can't tell jokes, awkward silences between sentences, which all make me spend all my mental energy on simultaneously having a conversation and worrying about it at the same time.Then I walk away and immediately these funny stupid words and ideas start coming to my mind. I guess this is similar to when I'm with the few friends that I'm really close to and felt comfortable with I guess. And I don't think statistically I'm actually a boring person, cause I can objectively say with close people, I make a lot of them laugh quite a bit, and I have good moments where I nail a joke and everybody just fucking dies. These happen rarely but I definitely think I'm not actually super boring, I just worry too much that I am.Any tips on getting over it? I do sometimes mindfully practice to loosen up when I'm around new people, telling myself that I'm plenty funny and even if not, there's no point tensing up at the possibility of someone finding me boring, but it doesn't make it go away.Alcohol does help, but it's gotta be possible to do without it. I am a real introvert, but I think I should be better.

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Became the president of my high school's GSA this year and feel like the name is a bit outdated (at least for my relatively liberal area). I think that the new name I'm thinking of is more inclusive and alliterative, but some people still haven't gotten the memo on the reappropriation of "queer" so it might rub somd people the wrong way. Thoughts?

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Gay Femboy... Should I live as a woman?

I'm a femboy gay guy. It's not nor has it ever been an act, I love being my feminine self and wearing feminine clothing but I have to admit that doing all this has kinda killed my social life. Not many people want to hang around me. I remember I had a group of friends 2 years ago who kinda started avoiding me when I started presenting more femininely in my appearance (wearing longer styled wigs, tighter clothing that showed off my figure, and carrying around a long shoulder bag). It was hard to see them go but I knew I couldn't force them to be around me.My family is also pretty "eh" with it. My dad doesn't really talk much to me and my mom well... She thinks I'm in a phase even though I've always been this way (I'm 25).And finally my love life has been non-existent. Most gay guys don't ever really reply back to me when I initiate contact and I mean I understand, gay men are typically into men who are masculine and no lie, I'm the same way. I don't have any attraction towards other feminine guys. I've tried to develop some but nothing happens. I want to be the girl in the relationship for lack of better word. I know that kind of thinking is problematic but it's just how I honestly feel and I don't think it's fair to push that onto another feminine guy you know?But yeah, recently I started thinking that maybe my life would improve if I started living my life as a woman. I have an instagram where I post a lot of my workout pictures. I usually get a lot likes from these... Well I can't lie, handsome guys which is neat (and somewhat confusing, I don't look manly at all, wearing booty shorts and crop tops lol) but when I go to their profiles, I see their pics with their girlfriends and I just feel envious for the girl. I mean "Woohoo couple!" But deep down I'm like "I wish I was you" lol.I recently started thinking about this even more. I don't necessarily feel like a girl per say, I like being submissive and feminine yes; and if society was accepting of androgynous feminine presenting men like they tend to be with masculine presenting women (by comparison, I know it's not easy for them as well but you gotta admit that feminine presenting men can get crapped on way harsher).I'm just confused and I was wondering if anyone here has thought this? I really have no one to talk to about this stuff so I figured this sub would be the best place to ask. Are my feelings common with other feminine presenting guys? Have you thought about living as a woman?

There’s a guy I like a lot but he works nights, how do I make this work?

In a nutshell I’ve been hanging out with this guy. I’m 28 and he’s the first guy I’ve ever considered dating. I like him a lot, but there are two obstacles I’m trying to figure out.He works 12 your night shifts. So most days he’s sleeping while I’m awake and then vice versa save for 1-2 hours at either end.In the dynamic. I’m the initiator, and he responds.Sum up I’m finding it tricky to find the right times to communicate and I don’t want to seem needy. I also recognize that throughout my life I’ve always been a planner. So my question is mostly how to make our shift differences work and then any advice that could make our dynamic work better would be awesome

I hate it!

So, be me, 31, half closeted half not, kinda like a walk in closet thing depending on company.Been like this from my ‘realisation’ as a teen. Been through military service, places I never want to go to again, things I never want to re-live. Trust these people day in, day out. My life in their hands, but feel so much shame to say the words... “I’m gay”. Even writing it here, I look around to make sure no one can see.I now work for a national insurance company (I know... leave the military, join insurance co.... natural step to take). We’re recognised nationally for our lgbt policies and practices (lol).Can’t tell colleagues. The shame wins again.Realise I’m ashamed of who I am for no reason, but can’t shake it. Considered some very dark things and don’t wanna go down that route again.What do I do?

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I have always had the desire to fuck and be fuck by a man. I want to suck cock, I see penises and find myself really wanting to touch It! But I am straight 95% of the time... What is weird though is that as soon as I blow my load and don't want a bar of it... I have a Mrs and she is not keen on this side of life, see has fucked me before with her dildos and this freaked her out a little. I don't want to cheat on my partner so I refrain from acting on impulse but it's starting to get difficult.... I have suggested a threesome with another man but she says it would disturb her to see me with a guy...

Fighting for my happiness

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In love with a celebrity...

I know it's stupid. I fucking know. It fucking drives me crazy that I feel this way. I just don't know how to get over it... Okay so basically there's this one celebrity I REALLY like. His name is Isaac Hempstead Wright (Bran Stark on Game of Thrones). He is 100% EXACTLY my ideal type in terms of looks, voice, accent, you name it. I love his facial/body features so much. I love his personality so much. I love everything about him so much! And I know I will never be with him but even so, I cant stop thinking about him. It's pathetic and I want to get over it but I don't know how! Please help! :c

How to explore sexuality?

This may be a weird question, probably without any real answer; but I have this need to know how I can explore my sexuality (without cheating on my bf). Some background: I am male and 40 years old; I always considered myself straight- but was always open and curious about same-sex relationships. I was married to a female for 18 years, I lost my virginity to her when I was 21. Lame yes! Lol. I never fooled around with anyone and never cheated on her. Our sex life was very vanilla. Over the last couple of years of our marriage she developed several mental illnesses and last year I discovered that she had several affairs. The marriage ended. Soon thereafter I met a wonderful man (14 years my junior) and we fell in love. We are now engaged and living together. He has a very promiscuous sexual past and does not want to discuss his past sex life with me, claiming that he is ashamed of everything he did when he was younger. I can understand that. He is the second sexual partner in my life. We are very happy together, and the sex is great, albeit somewhat plain. When I propose some kinkier stuff he freaks out saying that it reminds him of his past. I however feel very sexually inadequate and inexperienced. With this feeling of sexual inadequacy, I have this 'need' (for lack of another word) of exploring my sexuality, being gay for only approx 12 months now and having only two sexual partners. I love my bf and will not cheat on him. We are in an exclusive relationship. My dilemma is therefore how I can explore / find myself without cheating on him. And by sexuality I not only refer to the actual deed of sex. But more the fact that I changed my sexuality halfway through my life. What does it mean to be gay? Should I act/dress differently? This new life is all very new to me. If I have to put myself in a box it would probably be as 'pansexual'. I have no gay friends I can discuss this with. I have looked at gay porn but does not believe that to reflect real life. I am not sure if my question came out right; as I do not know how to phrase this 'need' I have. Hopefully someone can give me some advice.

There's this dude I met on tinder.

I gambled a super like, and we match and start talking. We hit it off, and there's some chemistry. Eventually we find that we work at the same place. I get a little hesitant, as I'm not too keen on hooking up with people I work around. We're still talking though, and we go out to see a movie. Later that night we're at his place smoking on his deck. He says I'm cute, I say he's handsome. I freeze up. My anxiety sky rockets, and I'm caught up worried about what if this goes tits up and I have to get a new job. We don't kiss, but we're still talking. Eventually the annual shindig that my work holds at a banquet hall comes around. I've been talking to this guy for a while now and it's apparent we can be friends so I figure I should step it up. I get to the banquet and he's there with his stupid handsome face, and a girlfriend. I'm shook, it felt like it came out of no where. I go home and drink a lot of gin that night. Throughout the next year he breaks it off with his girlfriend a few times. I meet some other people, but I can't shake how I feel about him. One of the times I confess how I feel, and he says he felt the same way. He still gets back with his girlfriend. I take a step back to heal at this point. There's another breakup where we hang out and smoke, but its clear he just wants a friend. I continue trying my best to take a step back and heal up. He's since split from his girlfriend, apparently for good. We hung out a little bit, and every time we hold eye contact my heart feels like it's doing back flips. He's back on tinder, I just swiped right.

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Grindr need advice my first time /I'm 16\ HELP PLS

So I've been really depressed because I don't like having these gay thoughts and I just got sick and tired of it so I told my parents and they said they accept me no matter what so I started to try to accept myself. I'm trying grindr and I met this really cool dude he's 17 and he's coming over Friday and he's probably going to be my first gay sexual experience he's bringing some weed. he's spending a night and I don't know anything about gay sex or stuff not trying to be stupid or anything but I'm just curious what I'm going to need. I'm really nervous and don't know what to do he's going to be bottom and I'm going to be top. Do I go bareback or use a condom and what kind of lube do I get HELP PLS.

My (29M) boyfriend (34M) and I are having one specific issue within our open relationship.

Apologies for the vague title.My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4.5 years. For the last year or so we have had an open relationship, meaning we have fun with other guys both together and separately. The open relationship has been a positive step for us. We sought couples counselling prior to opening up for the sole purpose of ensuring it was the right decision for us. We have found greater trust in each other, expanded sexual fulfilment and ultimately a greater understanding of our respective sexualities.The problem which has arisen is kinda tricky. We are a mixed race couple, and as we've discovered, apps like Grindr and Scruff (the main avenues we use to meet guys) can be quite racially selective. My boyfriend is Malaysian and I am Caucasian... Our experience thus far has been that my boyfriend has experienced high levels of rejection once it's uncovered that he is not me (we both have individual profiles, but display a "couple" picture). Usually guys will ask who they are talking to and either ignore or block once it's uncovered that they are talking to the Malaysian and not the Caucasian. He has been told this specifically. :(We understand that this is the nature of these apps and the city within which we live, but this definitely affects my boyfriend's self esteem and I am sure there are feelings of envy toward me because I have no trouble finding interested guys (please don't interpret that as narcissism, it's just the experience I've had).I want to support my boyfriend, but I don't know how to without deleting these apps and closing our relationship... Which is something neither of us want to do. This is a tricky one, but I'd appreciate any advice or experience.

Scared to meet online bf in real life

So here’s basically the whole overall view of my gay life story. So I’ve know I been gay since I was about 11 years old. Even then I had crushes on my friends brother, a boy I met online, one of my friends who use to touch me a lot and gave me hints he liked me, and weirdly I kissed my cousin a few times when we were about 9yrs old (weird ik, we use to pretend we were husband and wife even though we were both guys.We don’t speak about this to this day whenever we see each other.).I still haven’t come out yet and this boy I met on tinder who’s 18 like I am wants to meet up in real life. I’m in college and he’s in my old HS as a senior right now. I live about 5min from the HS. He’s amazing he’s cute, funny, and really nice guy but I’m scared that If we meet up he may not like me...maybe he likes my photos but not me.I’ve never been on a date. Not with a girl or guy, I’ve never even been kissed before lol. I’m a shy guy who doesn’t act gay at all. No one can tell I’m gay at all cause well I act like a guy and not like a girl. I’m masculine basically. But if I start this relationship irl I fear people will find out about my sexuality. I don’t want my friends, family to know that I like guys. And girls are ok for me but guys grab my attention more.I like this guy but is it too risky? My brother goes to that school too and I don’t want him to find out either. Will he like me irl? Should I just try to find a GF? I’m just scared but I do like him...Thanks

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New school, way more gays than I thought?!

So I moved to a new school recently, and I honestly didn't think that there would be many gay people there but based on what I know, there are a lot more than I expected! There's one guy who's mostly out (I think), one guy who seems to be attracted to me (physical contact, complimenting me excessively, etc.), and another guy who's really feminine. I don't mean to stereotype, but since I've never met another gay person, this was just my first assumption.EDIT: There's also this guy that I super-duper like but I'm pretty sure he's straight :(

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Relationship help - over thinker

My bf and I have been seeing each other for 5-6 years now. Since we started dating I’ve noticed from when we first started dating my libido has kind of died off, he feels it’s because he’s not good looking and I’ve made it clear it’s nothing to do with him and and it’s more of a personal thing. I suffer from a bit of social isolation where I don’t really have friends/anyone to talk to outside of my partner. He’s the best partner you could ask for and is very caring. He has brought up marriage a few times in joking manner and it always puts me on edge. I’m younger than he is and I feel it shouldn’t be making me feel this way for how long we when been seeing each other. I’ve put him through a lot of my own personal stuff and I feel if after 5 years I can’t feel comfortable with marriage then I shouldn’t be dragging him on, I love him but I’m lost.

Finally Wanting to Start a Relationship

Welp, reached that point where I finally accepted my sexuality. I really want to try e-dating with another gamer. Thats really my only interest. Is there a subreddit for this?

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People seem to not understand I can't control not being attracted to women

After finally admitting I was gay to myself and slowly becoming comfortable coming out to people, I find myself in this weird predicament of being hit on by girls (this literally never happened when I was in the closest btw).After respectfully telling them I don't swing that way they usually understand and stop. But not this one girl, we became close friends and even though she knew I was gay literally the first day we met she kept being extremely sexual towards me. Not in a way you playfully flirt with your friends either. She'd flash me, touch me, try to kiss me, and constantly tell me she wants to have sex with me. Other than being creepy, and kinda annoying it was also infuriating because she'd say things along the lines of "It doesn't matter if you're gay, it'll still feel good" ...wtf...Attraction=/=pleasureShe wasn't the only one saying this either, her friends, mutual friends, damn near strangers, fucking my friends!Why is everyone having such a hard time understanding I am not and will never he attracted to a woman (and tbh even if I was straight I probably wouldn't be attracted to her).Has anyone else experienced this? It feels like the subtlest and most accepting form if homophobia I've ever experienced. None of these people think me being gay is wrong but they make me feel that way by trying to pressure me to accept this girls offers.

Are asses a big thing for tops?

I was wondering does a top like a big bum or a nice one? And why do they like a bum to look peachy? Always wondered being a bottom what is it with guys like me wanting a nice bum

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Do LGBT Need A Plan For Disasters & War?

Have you given any though to what would happen if America experienced a crippling event such as a nuclear strike, major earthquake, prolonged electric grid power outage, pandemic, civil war, or something like that?Do you have any stored food, water, and safety items such as solar powered radio, gas mask, etc...Do you own self-defense items such as a gun, self-defense spray or taser?Do you have a meet up plan with your family or support center?

Advice

Hey I am a 33 year old male that wishes to bottom in anal sex, but really not sure how to go about meeting someone with this in mind, especially as I assume that for my age it is unusual to be as inexperienced as I am. Can anyone advise of good sites/apps to use for this purpose? Thanks

Help with dildo

Hey all yesterday i bought my first dildo big one. So when i want to use it was hard and painful. Can someone give me some advice please

Gay virgin afraid of hurting partner(s) NSFW

So basically the title.I'm 19 and I've never had sex with a guy, and I'm afraid of hurting my current partner and future partners because of my penis size.I'm currently 9 inches long and extremely thick. I've had sex with girls before and never had problems but I know guys are a bit more...sensitive during sex. My partner is aware of my size and he isn't a virgin but he says I'm much bigger than anyone he's had before.What can I do to ensure I'm not hurting him while still being able to enjoy myself? I know about lube and foreplay, but there is a point that I'm simply not going to be doing anything because of my size and I'm worried about being satisfied. I know that sounds selfish, but a happy sex life is key in having a happy relationship.

A thing that pissed me off:

One of my friends saying these words verbatim: “I don’t think gay people should be able to get married. I’m not homophobic though, I would love a gay best friend.” I’m closeted, just waiting for the right time. Maybe not now...

[NSFW] I Feel Ashamed

I don’t know if this is the right place to share it but here is what happened.So I’m 17 years old and I am gay.There is one friend of mine at school that I really have sexual attraction.When he is near me I feel so different.He is buff and avarege height and so attractive.We have been friends for 1 year now.Okay so here is what happened.Our school is open in the weekends for studying.So I invited him to study at the school and he accepted.We studied math and biology for a while.Then we discussed about tv shows and all that stuff.At that time there was very few people at the school and no one in our class.So I get this weird feeling about him.I started to talk dirty things like girls and sex(he is a very dirty person btw).I asked him what kind of porn you like etc etc.So he went to the toilet.I was so horny I can’t explain to you.I just wanted to try something with him.And I took a risk and went to the toilet.He was washing his hands.I got close to him and awkardly pointed at the stall.And he didn’t say anything.I was sweating and embaressed like hell.After few awkard seconds.He said “So you want to do it?”.I nod my head yes and we went to the stall.He unzipped his pants and I started to stroke it.After few minutes I got on my knees and I started to suck his penis.After 3 minutes we stopped and he left the toilet.I wanted to threw up it was so embarrasing.When I came back to the class he was gone.When I went home I cried like crazy and felt so bad.Yesterday I didn’t go to school because i felt really sick.When I go to the school today we didn’t talk at all.At one time we made eye contact and he quickly looked another way.I feel like shit what should I do?Should I talk to him?Please help me.Sorry for my english.

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How do you keep it smooth? NSFW

So I’ve decided I want to be smooth and stay smooth in the nether regions, but I’m not sure what’s the best way to keep it up. It grows back after about a day or two and it’s super painful if I try to shave it when it’s that short. I usually just get in the shower and use a disposable 2 blade. Also, if I’m constantly shaving, how can I avoid the itchiness and pain when it’s spiky and stabby?

Never Making A Move Because I Assume People Are Just Being Friendly

Okay so. Gay dude, just started my junior year, I'm a transfer student at the big university in my state. Nice. Lots of people, definitely lots of gay people. Awesome.Well. I kind of come from a difficult past where I was abused, and I get depressed a lot, and feel like I have a difficult time socializing.And with that, I kind of always assume people who talk to me are being nice, because.... Well they are, right? I know some nice people, and I've got some friends, and that's cool.But my confusion, or the thing I don't get is, how do people make advances, sexually, on someone else? I couldn't imagine doing it because I'm pretty sure no one sees me that way, but that's highly unlikely, right?I don't know. I can't assume what they think about me, but it's nigh on impossible that none of them would be interested in a sexual relationship with me, right? Again, assuming.And this isn't to say I'm dissatisfied with any of these friendships. This is more of me trying to deal with sexual frustration I suppose. I don't just want to hook up; that seems a little underwhelming to me.What appeals to me are the relationships that I hear of vaguely in gay circles where guys will bang their friends and no one has any expectations except that they're friends who think each other are hot. That seems pretty awesome. And I'm sure I don't understand it well enough, and that it's not perfect.But dudes, I'm just frustrated because I'm a junior in college who isn't having sex and I want to.I know, boo hoo, but it's a quality-of-life thing.Anyways. I think my question is about: how do I recognize when someone's interested in me, and stop just saying the blanket statement "Well, I'm sure they're just being nice."Also: no, there hasn't been anyone with any overt cues that suggest they like me that much, so maybe I'm just not getting out enough.I'm still open to suggestions!

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Sexting with a good friend while in relationship

Hey,I caught my BF of 5 years (we're both 30) sexting with an old friend of his. My BF knows this friend from many years ago. They also live in different continents (we are in Europe and the friend is in the US) so there's not danger of them meeting and they mostly communicate on Facebook.Recently we traveled to the US and almost met this friend for a dinner. So they are quite close.I was quite upset but we talked about building trust again and trying to understand the underlying issues we have in the relationship (we still have more work to do).The fact that my BF and his friend are still talking (daily or weekly) bothers me. I asked my BF to delete him and stop any communication with him. My BF agreed but was very sad about that. I also felt bad for making him loosing an old friend for something that we are currently working to fix. So my request is on hold until I make up my mind towards his friend.Assuming that my BF and his friend won't sext again (and if they do than it's a different topic), am I over-reacting for asking my BF to stop communicating with that guy?

first gay relationship advice

about a month ago i started college in madrid, a way bigger city than my hometown, a brand new life filled with dreams and expectations but also a chance to discover who i really am.although i’ve dated girls all my life, the last sexual encounters and relations made me question my sexuality. last summer i kissed a guy at a disco and then we did a couple things in his car ... i was drunk af and the next day i totally regretted it. i was confused and although the guy tried to contact me over the following days i decided to focus on girls and forget about that night .however, once i moved here i decided to give guys another chance, a sober one, just to confirm or discard the possibility once and for all. So i just opened tinder and started swiping guys and girls out of curiosity. one of them was christian.we started texting and eventually, we decided to meet up. the first time was different from what i expected a tinder hookup to be. instead of trying a good dick i found myself getting to know a person with whom i had many things in common, a very cute guy that made me feel happy, safe and comfortable around. days passed and it all felt like a dream to me. we would go for a walk in the park, have dinner at some trendy bar in malasaña or just netflix and chill for several hours and whenever i was with him i felt like my new life was complete.the problem always came when i had to say goodbye and go home. once i was alone and without him, my fears and insecurities came back... i knew where this was going, and my tendency to overthink was not helping at all. hanging out with christian meant, for good or for worse, living a double life: a strictly straight one to follow my social agenda and a more queer one, a true version of myself, a happier one. after spending the night at his place i had to justify it by lying to the rest of my people and although i really thought of him as my soulmate, i wished i could break our tiny bubble and mix both lives together without the consequences of coming out.he, who has been with way many guys than me, was aware of all of this from the very first moment we started dating, and he was willing to give this a chance and see where this road would take us. i didn’t want to put him in such a hard position because i could understand how hard it was to be with such a sexually confused guy, and whenever we talked about this we would get to the same conclusion : i had internalized homophobia, bisexualphobia to be more specific. eventually, this ‘phobia’ took over myself. without even doing it on purpose, i started avoiding him, canceling our plans yet never proposing an alternative, and he felt dodged. he would let me know how he felt, always without putting too much pressure on me bc we could understand each other on a spiritual level.yesterday i woke up very sick. my liver was hurting so bad and so was my head. we were supposed to see each other since i had already canceled plans with him on sunday. and what did i do ? blow him off again. i told him that i wasn’t feeling alright at all and that it wasn’t even about him, i was not in the mood to see anybody. we started arguing over the phone about how i always had an excuse to cancel on him, about how busy i was and how he was not a priority for me. i’m not the kind of person to talk this though the phone so i went to his place.i told him how i felt. i told him about my insecurities , about how i felt at night and about how i did not want to fall in love with him and discard the possibility of ever being with a girl again, and that i didn’t see a point in keep seeing each other if eventually i was gonna leave him. my straight self and society spoke for me and closed the door to my chances with him he kept asking me for more reasons. he had never asked me to meet my friends or to come out, no pressure at all as i said before but he just couldn’t understand how i could just say no to a thing that hadn’t even started yet. i started doing that ‘ it’s not u it’s me ‘ shit talk and he told me he did not want to hear it, so i left .i didn’t feel bad when i closed that door. my phobic conscience kept telling me it was for the better.Today i woke up in better shape. no liver pain, no headache either, and i felt so guilty and miserable. they say you don’t know what you got until it’s going and that ain’t nothing but a fact . fuck society. fuck double lives. i’ve realized that i want to be with him , that i want to see where this goes and allow myself to be happy for once. i don’t wanna play with nobody’s feelings and whoever reads this might think that i’m a psychotic bipolar, but that’s just how i feel. is it too late now?

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My 5 Fav Gay Myths Debunked

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I feel like an alien in this world.

Ok, so here's some context. A lot of gay men I know have always had sex with men and have lived only gay since they were teens. I'm 27 years old and have had sex with only women in my life, but it is more complicated than that. I grew up in a home where you just simply were not gay. There was no ifs ands or 'butts' ;). But, I grew up in a Catholic home and being gay was just the same as saying you wanted a one way ticket to Hell. So, throughout my teens I would always be drawing dicks. Like the kid in Superbad. I was obsessed with drawing dicks. And would continue to draw dicks until now actually lol. My friends would freak out and think it was disgusting, but I didn't see what the problem was. The first time I saw a vagina I fainted and it was in sex ed on the overhead projector in sixth grade. My mom picked me up and for years I was terrified of vaginas and would look weirdly at all my girl classmates because I knew that they had one and it was scary to me. I'd have nightmares of my head being swallowed by vaginas and I was just sick over it all. So, I go through high school and never had sex. I was in drama and loved to sing and couldn't play sports to save my life, but when it came time to shower in PE I was very hesitant to shower with my friends. Especially one of my friends who was the only one who showered naked and I liked staring at his dick and I didn't want to be caught staring. I graduate high school and I meet a girl who is obsessed with me and she demands we become girlfriend and boyfriend. Well, I wouldn't have sex with her because I was terrified to and she begged and pleaded and after months we finally did and I was like,"Eh, that's it." I was so let down and felt betrayed by the world for saying how amazing it was. So, we broke up one night after I watched the movie 'Milk' and I cried and was so absorbed in the film. She told me that she just didn't feel like we had anything and she left me. Then for years I'd have sex and be with girls but it felt like an act to me. Like, this was the role I was supposed to play. Every relationship would fizzle out and I always left them. I was never intense about relationships FYI. The girl was always the one who would insist on being together and I'd relent. So, now here I am at 27 and I took a year to focus on my mental health and physical health after being laid off. And during this year it was like a light bulb turned on and all memories of my life came flooding to me. What makes me sad is how repressed I have been and why has being a homosexual been so buried inside of me. I feel cheated on life and feel that the pressures of society in a way traumatized me into living straight. I want to be with a man, but I am so behind the times on what gay men have gone through for years. If I had only fucked men since I was sixteen then I know I'd have a better grasp on this. But, I just feel so weird when I get on Grindr, Growlr, or Tinder. I just need some help on accepting this is who I am and trying to go from here.TL;DR: Repressed gayness my whole life. Didn't act on it. Now accepting it. Lost on where to go on from here.

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Advice needed

So, there's this guy at my school that I like, and this is the first time I've felt this way about anyone. He is in all of my classes (not counting electives) and it just tears me up. We aren't really friends but I really like his personality and would like to hang out with him. I am able to contact him with Instagram, but neither of us use it often. I want to be able to confess my feelings to get it over with so I can get over him if he rejects me, but I don't know how. Also, I hear his family is really religious and feel like that may make him have to hid if he is gay. (BTW I'm not sure if he is gay or not) I would really appreciate some advice, thanks!

How not to feel unsafe in my neighborhood

Hi everyone. I am a 25 year old gay man living in a college town in the midwest. This evening, I was walking back home to my apartment after school. I was on the phone with my dad, complaining about something from earlier in the day. Maybe I was talking too loudly or obnoxiously, and I definitely know I have a "gay" voice, or maybe it was how I was dressed, but for some reason a man muttered "faggot" under his breath, but loud enough for me to hear. He then proceeded to follow me for a couple of blocks. I am definitely more on the femme side, and this man was much bigger than me, and this made me feel unsafe and intimidated. I even took a circuitous route to make sure this man couldn't figure out where I lived. I've never really dealt with something like this before, and I don't know what to make of it and how to overcome it. Suffice it to say I am a bit rattled, and now I don't feel incredibly safe in my own neighborhood. I know that others of the LGBTQ community have faced (even worse) kinds of harassment and intimidation. How did you overcome/deal these sorts of situations?

How to del with homophobic remarks/comments.

I've been hit hard with homophobic remarks from friends of mine as well as family. Does anyone have any techniques to get past them? It's really been getting to be, and I really need some help getting past them.

I low key need attention rn idk what wrong with me

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So recently I moved to a new town where everyone is homophobic and they joke all the time about gays and "fags" and I feel like it's their favorite insult and I've been getting bullied (because I'm gay) and I haven't come out yet to my parents, and I made the mistake of telling them I was getting called gay at school and my said well you're not so it's not true, right... I pause give her a sarcastic look and she doesn't pick up on it and freaks out but then I said I was being sarcastic and she said ok good. Not good , I felt so bad for lying like that and I know that's going to bite me and

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Advice from a gay Christian?

I have a gay friend who is a strict believer of the Bible. I have no qualms about his faith or his orientation. However, I found out that he is disappointed in his own homosexual feelings and believes that he can change and hopes to some day marry a woman and have kids. I am so distraught over the fact that he lives his life unsatisfied with who he is. I don't want to impose my opinions about religion on him (I'm not a Christian) but I don't want to see him struggle like this, because my belief is that gay people don't just decide to stop being gay no matter how hard they try, AND there's nothing wrong with being gay. I'm worried he will become depressed when he is unable to change, because he thinks changing is the only way to save his eternal soul. Do you think I should just stay silent and let him figure it out himself? Should I try to reason with him, arguing that Christianity and homosexuality are not contradictory (I know other Christians accept homosexuality but logically I don't know how)? He is very open to talking it out with me so I don't think he will be offended or uncomfortable with me bringing it up.

My friends and family are homophobic

I posted these on lgbteens but I wanted to change some thingsI will also say the F-word a lotI live in Venezuela, I'm 16 and I'm gay (or maybe bi, I'm not sure) and I'm still in the closet.A lot of people in my school are homophobic. "Marico" (faggot in Spanish) is thrown around always to insult people. Once a teacher told boys to not "act like faggots"A guy calls lgbt people "freaks", "sick" etc. One literally says he's homophobic, and said everyone should be so.My friends constantly make fun of gay people, or otherwise people who "look gay".Once I told one of my friends he was homophobic, and he told me "so what". He celebrated the Orlando nightclub shooting, and says homosexuality is contagiousThough to be fair some of my friends criticized him for being too homophobicAnd my female friends. One said gay people are "weird"(Though she's a nice person and I don't think she would mind if I told here I'm gay), and another told me that she thinks I'm gay, and I told her that I'm not, and she said she always wanted a gay friend (but I'm not too close to her so I don't think I would be able to tell her)Honestly I'm not sure if my friends would care too much if I tell them I'm gay, but my family is what I'm afraid the most.My brother made fun of some lesbians in my school just for what they are, and he hates a singer for being gay. He started insulting him with so much hate it shocked me.My mother sometimes says and does things that makes me feel she doesn't like gay too.When I was a kid she caught me looking at pictures of pretty women, and she laughed and seemed proud lolBut another time (still when I was a kid) I left a page of pictures of shirtless men in the computer and she caught me. She only asked me if I was the one who left the page open but her eyes were full of hate.Also in church a nun was advocating against homosexuality and was giving magazines and my mother grabbed one. Though the nun was talking about other things too.But my father is the worst. He deeply loves me, I know that for certain, but he also deeply hates lgbt people. He said trans shouldn't be in the military, or work in the government just because their "faggots"Once he told my brother that the only thing missing to hate my brother is that he were gay. He starts yelling at me if I act a little bit feminine. He said gays shouldn't get married, and raise children. He made fun of a pride parade, he said there isn't homophobia in Venezuela.The point is I don't think I could ever come out to my family, I'm too scared.Then only person not homophobic in my family is my sisterJust to be clear I'm not depressed. I just get sad when I think too much about it. And with the current state of the country I also have other things to worry about.Sorry if my English was too bad.

Sex Advice for my (Long Lasting) self & my Jack rabbit BF

So, I'm gay and just started dating this guy (we're both in early 20s), it actually started as a hook up. He's really cool and we have good chemistry, but I'm a little concerned about how to deal with an issue we're having.The thing is we're both really attracted to each other, but he cums REALLY fast like while we're still making out/foreplay. I, on the other hand, take FOREVER. Like I would be happy to go for an hour or two, but because he usually tops he'll cum quick and then a second time within 30 minutes. Sometimes I can't even cum and I think he gets kind of impatient, because he can't understand taking that long to shoot.I'm trying to figure out if there are some things both of us can work on (him lasting longer) and for me to cum quicker. I would love to go for a long time, but he's not used to that (or maybe able to). What can each of us do to address our similar, but opposite issues? Thanks for any advice!

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Gay boy back on the Blogging Game, give me some love?

Hi gays! I just restarted my blog and if you're into people who laugh at how annoying they can be, I think you'll enjoy my word-vomit blog! Give it a read if you would and share it if you don't hate me! THANKS GUYS, also first time on reddit what else should I subscribe too?? Who will teach me the ways! Also looking for any and ALL feedback, get real with me.BLOG: http://ift.tt/2xv7gdv

Asian Men Are HAWT!

Like every other gay man out there, I have a type that Im attracted to. Im a big guy (320..ish) and I like handsome, athletic guys. Race doesnt matter. Asian guys really get my "motor going". I think handsome, athletic Asian men are beautiful and very sexy! Anyone else agree?

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Older 4Younger

Im 34 and single. Im also heavyset. Like alot of other gay men out there who have a "type" theyre attracted to, I am attracted to younger men. 18-29 and athletic. Trouble is, the only young men Ive met are online and most are looking for either a hookup or a "sugardaddy". I am very loving and looking for someone to spend some time with. Is that too much to ask?

I was sure I was 100% gay since I was like a 12 year old awkward teenager, but...

I still like men, the only porn I ever masturbated to was gay porn, and I lost my virginity when I was 18 years old with a man. I am 22 years old now and I still like men but there has been something "strange" with me the las couple of weeks, and now I was watching bisexual porn, and I was like ok. But today I masturbated to lesbian porn (Now I am sounding like a porn freak), and now I feel like... What. I do not know, But while I like sexually men, I feel like I can fall in love with a man or a woman (I had a crush with 3 girls in my high school years), but I never felt sexually atracted to girls, and now that I watched and enjoyed lesbian porn, I feel like the same confused (not as confused) kid 10 years ago.Had you ever heard a story like mine, I must not be the only one (And sorry for my english)EDIT: By the way, my only sexual experiences has been with guys.EDIT 2: AND I MEAN, I used to be disgusted watching vaginas but this time I really was not. (Stop being a freak!)

Brooding gay men

I’m 21 y/o gay male living in nyc and I have always been captivated by brooding, quiet, sulking, calm, mischievous, somewhat removed men. Does anyone have any experience with guys like this? I’ve met a handful but they were all straight. This type person usually has a troubled past, so I would imagine there would be a fair amount in the gay community, given our social conditions. I want to hear stories about this type of guy, but the rest of the internet is focused on straight relationships.Also, if you know of any gay or bi characters (male or female) that fit this trope, please share. Think Sasuke Uchiha, Dean Winchester, Niklaus Mikaelson, Jon Snow, or even Batman. Except gay

What are the best subreddits or free online sites to talk to a therapist that specializes in helping people find & understand their sexual orientation or identity?

This is what I prefer, if I can't do that, then I'll probably talk to a therapist at my college because the therapists and psychiatrists at my psychiatric center will still talk to my mom about my issues even though I'm over 18. I'm 80-90% sure I'm naturally gay and have "some" interest in women because of environmental factors. I also need help in fully accepting my sexual orientation & undoing my biases against homosexual behavior.

The First Time I Got Paid for it

Had a message that someone wanted to know about the time when I first got paid for a sexual activity. Here it goes.A friend of mine had told me about a place in the back of one of the local parks where you could find other guys that would suck you off. Being the horny boy that I was it didn't take to long before I was there to see if it was true, or if he was just making shit up to make himself sound good.So one night when I knew I would have a few hours to myself I rode down to the park. There was a restroom in the back of the park near where the baseball and soccer fields were so it was pretty easy to find. There were also a few picnic tables there so I chained my bike to a table, sat on the top of it and just waited.After nothing happened for a while I went into the restroom and found that there was a small hole ground out in the wall between the two stalls. It was just big enough to look through and nothing more, but was at the level where if someone had been there I could have seen their cock and stuff.I was about to leave when I heard someone else come into the restroom and occupy the stall next to me. When he had been there for a few minutes I took a peek, and sure enough he was gently jacking himself off. I looked for a few minutes and then took my own dick out of my shorts and started jacking off too. I'd see the area around the hole go dark and figured he was looking in the hole at me. By his shoes and stuff I could tell that he was an older guy, but couldn't tell how old, so I was pretty sure by looking at my shoes and bare legs in my shorts that I was a younger guy.We kept looking back and forth a bit until when I was looking in the hole at him he put his eye up to the hole and I was looking him in the eye now. I jumped back and my heart was racing, so I pulled by shorts back up, flushed to toilet for effect, and went and sat back down at the table I was at. A few minutes later that guy came out and walked down the path and I assume left.A few minutes later another guy, probably in his 30s and really good looking, came up and went into the restroom. I gave him a few minutes and I went in too. He was already in one of the stalls, so I went into the other, pulled my shorts down and sat down. I could already feel him looking at me so I opened my legs up and started to slowly jack off for him. When I could tell he backed away, I looked to see what he had and was pretty impressed.We went back and forth like that for a few minutes before I heard him say "I'll give you $20 if I can blow you". I wasn't thinking at all because the first thing that came out of my mouth was "where?" He replied "follow me".We got out of the restroom and went down a trail a few minutes father into the park and into an area that had a few trees and bushes and wasn't under any lights. He got down on his knees, undid my belt and took my shorts and underwear down and got to sucking me pretty quick. I don't know if it was because we were out in public, or I was just super horny, or he gave me a good blow, but I didn't last long and gave him a good load of cum in his mouth while he was gripping my ass and balls.When we were done, he pulled my shorts back up for me and slipped the $20 into my pocket as I was doing the belt up again. He told me I had a great dick to suck and would do it again if I wanted to. All I had to do was meet him there on the days that he said he went there. Let's just say that for the next while I made a lot of spending money from letting him suck me off.So that was my first time making money from sex.

Have a bit of an awkward question to get your opinions on...

So one of my friends recently came out as being lesbian. It wasn't a huge shock to me i always kinda guessed it.But as of now she says she doesnt want to go to our senior ball. I can now kinda click two and two together and see this might have been why she skipped prom last year too.So i was wondering... would you guys think it would be weird or wrong to ask her to go with me? (im a straight male) I dont want her to be left out again.