2017. március 31., péntek
gay peoples favorite movies?
I cant seem to get google to not give me gay peoples favorite GAY movies, or best gay porn. I just wanna know what gay people generally consider the best movies. Question stemmed cause im always defending "Clueless" as basically a perfect movie that should have general appeal, not just for teenage girls etc. Obviously they probably love Godfather and stuff as much as anyone else, I just mean movies that they often/tend to love that arent as loved by the general population.
Hey guys, help us spread the love over at r/places, help us expand the huge rainbow road!
Or the Pride flag at the bottom of the canvas, here!
New to the subreddit here, who's all from Michigan, in particular, west Michigan?
I'm gay, and though I may not be the most social, it's difficult finding others, especially since my community is a religious hivemind. I've been looking for others to talk to ever since I graduated a few years ago, thinking it would be easy to find at least SOMEOME casually.
Should I text him?
Hey guys, so I'm seeking advice on a really personal subject and would be thankful for any advice.A couple of months ago, I met this really awesome boy and I immediately fell in love with him. I don't even know why, I just did. But he wasn't in love with me. I'm gonna spare you the details, but you can imagine that I was heartbroken. And even though my heart is still a bit cracked, I am doing pretty well know and I feel much better. The thing is, that we were also really good friends and I miss him so much. Not just the person I was in love with, but also the friend behind that. Ever since confessing my feelings for him in november, we haven't talked to each other. He was dating another guy at the time (which contributed to my heartbreak), but apparently, they don't date anymore, because I occasionally saw that other guy on Grindr (and before you think of something wrong, let me tell you , that the boy I loved would never have an open relationship).Since I'm missing him and getting reminded of him by a lot of things every day, I thought about texting him and asking him if he's doing well (because it seems like he had a pretty rough time because of that other guy, and I was seriously worried). I would really like to see him again (as a friend, because he said that he would be fine if we stayed friends), but I don't know if my feelings for him, which arent fully gone btw, will grow back. If we are "destined" (something I don't believe in anymore, because of him) to be together, then that time may come someday, but for the moment I would just like a friendship. It's just that I can't tell what will happen if I text him. Would he even respond? I am not sure. That happened at New Years Eve, where I send him a 'Happy New Year'-Message to which he didn't respond, but I guess he did (or didn't) so, because it was still too soon. But now a couple of months more have passed.So I'm asking you guys... Should I text him? He was one of the few male friends I ever had.
how is gay sex risky?
ok guys i'm not talkin about HIV or similars. i mean, when you lick the anus. dont you grab all the bacteria (escherichia coli , enterococci) in ur mouth? is this healthy? dont misunderstand, im gay, just wondering.
Funny sex stories😂😂
So here's mine.... I was banging this guy in his car when I pulled out I shot cum all over his back seat by mistake he looked at it and said " u gave good head minus Cumming all over my seat how am I suppost to hide this from my girlfriend" I just sat their as he started cleaning it up
2017. március 30., csütörtök
Boyfriend is dismissive of sweet talk/texts
Everytime I say something sweet to my boyfriend, such as a text telling him of a song that reminds me of him, implying that I'm thinking about him or stuff like "you made my day great" he always has a snarky remark.For example, he's visiting family at the moment and I haven't seen him in almost a month. I sent him a text saying "They're playing your favorite song at this McDonald's. Throwback to our car rides :)" and he responded with "You're eating McDonald's?! Healthy!!!"Am I being highly sensitive here?
I don't know if he likes me now or If I'm just exaggerating.
So, I've liked one of my friends-- let's call him, J.-- for a while I finally had the guts to tell him I liked him, and he told me he liked me just as a friend. That following Monday was the first time we had saw each other since I told him, and we basically ignore/avoid each other. This has been going on for about a month. He still looks at my snapchat stories and stuff, but we never talk to each other, because I guess its too awkward.Fast forward to today. Things have changed. We still avoid each other but I've noticed that sometimes, he steals glances or just flat-out stares at me. I don't know if it's because he may be finally realizing that he actually likes me or what... We don't have any classes together, but he always seems to be in this one class of mine to talk to my teacher... even though that isn't even his teacher. I saw him look at me in class from the corner of my eye.I guess all I want to know is... does it seem like he may start to like me or am I just over-exaggerating?
What on going studies are currently in process about the cause of homosexuality?
I am interested in this topic and would like to not miss anything.
Just got dumped
My boyfriend of 4 years just broke up with me today. To be honest, it wasn't the most healthy of relationships but I had a lot of high hopes. Part of me feels relieved, but I still feel hurt. It's a weird sad combination. I'm trying to accept it. What's the best way to help the moving on process?
Just went on my first date ever, and it went great.
I'm not a virgin (brief experiment with casual sex), but I've never been in a relationship before. My friend sent a picture of me to her gay friend, and he said I was attractive. I was excited, and I liked the picture of him, so we started talking by text. I asked I felt he wanted to go get coffee today and make tamales with our mutual friend, and he said yes. So I was really nervous, but we immediately hit it off after we met up, and it was natural after that. He is Guatamalan, speaks Spanish, loves food and culture, likes to run and swim.We went to the grocery store to buy ingredients for tamales, but they didnt specialize in Latino food and didn't have the right stuff so we decided to just go to a nice public park instead. We layed on the grass, talking the entire time about all sorts of stuff, and eventually we parted and said goodbye.He seemed really great, but I wasn't sure what he thought of me so I texted our mutual friend to ask him. She said he said I was cute and kind the whole time and that he loved the vibe I gave off. This is such a huge confidence boost for me! I'm really excite for to further our friendship/relationship, and it was a great experience.
Cute guy in school but I can't tell him
There's a really cute guy in my school. Every day I have first period band with him, (he's about 18 or so and I'm 15) and I barely ever hear him talk. He's not one of those athletic people or anything but he's friends with one or two of them in his section. I have another class with him but haven't talked to him yet, and he graduated soon. I know he's probably straight but he's like the only person I find attractive in my school.... sad life
Pain the days after anal sex
This is interesting. I don't get pain at all when receiving anal, but the day after I feel some sort of discomfort or inflammation down there. Like my anus was stretched. This goes on for 3 to 5 days.Is this a cause of concern?
Irrational fear that my partner is always cheating
Guys, I don't know what's wrong with me, but I've been dating this guy for about 7 months and the more I fall for him, the more paranoid I become.When he's not with me, I always wonder what he's doing. I think of bad scenarios, like he's meeting his gay friends and hooking up with them, or going on Grindr looking for sex and stuff like that.He travels for work and it makes me even more anxious. When he's gone, I really have no idea what he's doing and think he's spending his free time trying to meet other men.I feel constantly sad, almost every day and I can't take this pain anymore. It's like a pressure in my chest.
Im afraid
For the last few days, all I'm thinking of is big black cock yet I thought of myself as straight?!?!?!?!?!Please help me, I'm dazed and confused...
'Str8' married guys that fuck gay men?!
I don't understand it - if you're straight then why are you fucking gay dudes?I found this book online about gay guys blackmailing straight guys who have sex with gay guys online: http://ift.tt/2nDhPYB it got me thinking..Are you gay? Have you lied to everyone? I checked out a site called Squirt to do some investigating and asked a few questions (via message) and so many guys said they just do it for a release.But in my opinion they'd have to be at least partly gay to get any release, right?
funniest thing a gay guy has said to me
My ex is Thai, and in Thailand there is mandatory military service. He is quite camp. One time he said to me: Yeah I know maybe I am a little effeminate but I know how to handle a machine gun!
I have no idea what I am.
I am 22 and a complete and total virgin, I have kissed 1 girl in like 7th grade and nothing else. I think I'm straight but I find myself being attracted to some guys on rare occasions. I was watching the movie Drive, and I know everyone is going to say "yes Ryan Gosling is crazy attractive it's normal." But I found myself really attracted to Bryan Cranston's character. I don't know why but his genuinely sweet attitude got me! I am very attracted to girls, the majority of porn I watch is straight or girl on girl, but I do occasionally watch gay porn, but I'm never able to get going like I can with girls. I guess I'm bisexual but having zero experience with either sex, I really have no idea. I'm not really looking for answers, just support and a place to get this off my chest. Thank you for reading if you made it this far.
I'm curious... What are some "gay" things your parents banned you from doing in your childhood?
So recently I was creating a throwback playlist on Spotify and "Kissed a Girl" by Katy Perry popped up. I had an instant throwback to my not too distant childhood when my parents completely banned the song from my house, because it was too gay (little did they know so was I)! This kinda got me wondering, was there anything that your parents didn't let you do because it was seen as too gay?
Bad dancers
There's no way I'm the only gay guy out there that sucks at dancing. I don't like it much and I'm terrible at it. Any of you like that? What do you do? Or how did you manage or how did you learn to dance?HOW DO I SHAKE THE BOOTY?!!!
You guys like karaoke?
You guys like karaoke as much as me? What's your go to karaoke song or songs? Mine are Africa by Toto or 9 to 5 by Dolly Parton.
Should I be worried yet?
What are the chances someone screenshotted your grindr pics and posted them online? Im kinda worried my pics are out there and It scares me so much.
Unsatisfied with Beauty and the Beast's "gay moment"? You'll want to see this
https://youtu.be/wQoXiHEXJQo
2017. március 29., szerda
Thoughts and opinions?
A lot of times while watching porn, right before I climax, a male friend's name will pop into my head. I will be getting off to a girl but then this happens? Sometimes the friend is having sex with a girl. It confuses me. Thoughts and opinions? Btw this is not one specific male but has happened with a few friends.
Thoughts and opinions
While watching porn, right before my climax a male friends name sometimes pops into my head. I will be getting off to a girl but then this happens. Sometimes he will be having sex with a girl - and I put myself in his position fucking said girl. It really confuses me. Thoughts and opinions? P.S. this has happened with say 3 different male friends of mine.
Custom Flairs?
Can we get custom user-set flairs on the sub? I like the current ones but I feel like it would be nice to be able to set it for ourselves.
Coming out
Hey I'm 16 and gay, and I came out to all of my friends a couple weeks ago. I haven't told my parents yet, they are semi religious, but they commonly express anti-lgbt rhetoric. My mom has said that if there were gay students at her school (work), that she would quit her job, and my dad is very conservative. Every time we are watching TV and they have a gay person or joke, they avoid it like it was an extreme sex scene. They have always supported my interests but I'm not sure if they would in this situation. Should I tell them? How should I tell them? Give me any advice you have please
Want to taste his cum
So there's a straight guy in my class and I basically want him to cum into my mouth. He doesn't know about this. Well yeah.
Please Help. Scared I was recorded online and I can't Stop Crying.
Please if somebody could give me advice and their input. I'm so upset with myself and I keep having anxiety attacks. I just keep crying.I'm more of a bi-curious guy. I like girls a lot, I also sometimes like boys. I've also experimented with crossdressing a little bit. I've been really depressed lately because I've had to go through 3 surgeries in a month and a half. One night I went to a gay chatroulette site (http://ift.tt/2oyKtrE). I never, ever go onto these sites. But I was really depressed and sexually frustrated and I just wanted some kind of stress release.I was naked, but I didn't show my face on cam, and I was sitting in complete darkness with the exception of monitor screen light. I was being my absolute best to be discreet. At that point the video quality was pretty shitty. I ended up talking to a guy, and I told him I wanted to be dominated. We talked dirty for a little bit, and then he asked if I could turn on more light. Against my better judgement I turned on the light. I didn't show my face at all, but you could see my room and possibly the tattoos on my body. We talked dirty back and forth for a few minutes, but after saying some things I immediately regretted I ended the video. I think it was 5 minutes long at most, and half of which was in practically complete darkness.Now I am so scared and paranoid he recorded me. He never said he recorded me, but I just keep obsessing and making myself upset. I'm 99% sure I never showed my face, but as time goes on I begin to doubt myself.What are the chances he recorded me and posted my video online? I keep trying to tell myself it's stupid to think going on a gay sex chat roulette and talking to a guy once would lead to me being recorded and posted online. But I keep getting so upset and I'm crying as a type this. Somebody please help me. :(
I wish the world doesn't need any labels.
Ever dreamt of someone saying " I'm not interested " instead of " I'm straight "?I mean it is seriously so much better than having a hard time to figure out one's sexuality and "Omg I have a crush on a str8 guy".
Life advice!
So it's common to see life advice for gay people who are either about to come out of have recently come out... but... What advice would you give to someone who has been out for 5-10 years? Are there any longer term life lessons you think are worth sharing? What was your life like after those early years as a slightly more experienced gay?
I wish I was super gay but I'm only "pretty" gay
Alright listen up. This is like serious teenage angst at 3:00 AM and it will not leave my head alone, I need to just get this out there. I need help!So I consider myself a bisexual cis male... and I fucking hate it. I want to be full on gay. No, not just "some what" gay, or like "sort of" gay, "only Spanish guy's" gay. No like I need it all. I want to be gay gay gay gay gay.Before last year if you had asked me if I was gay I would have been disgusted and would avoid the question, but now I'm really coming to terms with my appreciation for boys. Lets cut the chase, I'm a bottom. I want to press my head against a cute boys chest and have him wrap his arms around my back. I want to sit on his lap in public if it were only appropriate in Texas. I want to be held and express my submissiveness and all the other things... Just thinking about it makes me warm and fuzzy on the inside, and I get "butterflies" and all that other stuff most cis female's feel when thinking of boys.Now for the straight part. I've been considering myself straight for the majority of my life. I have had many crushes on girls, I've obsessed over them, dreamed of them, and.. Porn. Ya let's talk about that. My brain likes watching the girl. Does that mean I want to have sex with girls? No. Watching a girl in porn gives me dopamine in the brain and gets my dick thick that's why I like it. It's hypnotyzing... but I fucking despise the feeling today. I do not want to have sex with a girl... but I do... or at least my brain does... I feel my instincts take over, their like,"YAAAA FFFU**** THAT *** YOU KNOW YOU WANT TO LOOK AT IT ITS BIG AND ROUND AND YOU KNOW.." ya so. I hate myself. I hate my thoughts. I hate my mind. I'm depressed, loloOLOLOLoOollol......All this confusion led me to believe I was transexual. The thought of being a girl makes me so happy but also so sad, because I know it will never come true... I wish I were born a girl, because maybe then I wouldnt have this god damn lizard fuck in my brain telling me to fuck every girl with a nice ass. I hate it. I like girls as friends much better than guys, I have many "girl friends" that I hang out with at lunch whom I do not want to fuck don't worry, a couple of which are lesbians who are trying to find me a boyfriend which is so nice of them. They have been a god send to me, I was bullied as a kid, I always felt like a third wheel around a bad group of friends back in middle school, but around them I feel so included and has been about the best thing to happen to me in a long time. I like to wear makeup, I'm very conscious of my body and hair and want it all to look perfect, I draw and like to write and such... but I'm ok with being a boy... like most transgender people have dysphoria and hate being their assigned gender but for me I'm comfortable having a penis and comfortable looking the way I do, although sometimes I wish I had a vagina... what the fuck is wrong with me...And then I read shit on the internet that tells me my porn addiction turned me gay, or that my porn addiction led me to get bored. I feel mentally ill. I feel like a privileged white fuck cis male with all this god damn house and car and school and im not starving in africa and the only thing im worry about is what kinds of people I want to fuck with. Oh boo hooo. But like come on, my porn addiction wasnt that bad, I did it at least three times a week its not like other cis males werent doing the same. Why did I end up this way and the others didnt? What in the fuck is wrong with me!? And then I read shit on the internet about "Autogynephilia" where men are attracted to the thought of being a girl.... and im like THATS ME FUUCK IM MENTALLY ILL...I feel mentally ill and it doesnt feel good at all. I want to just get a boyfriend now so that I can figure this all out, but my school is so god damn superficial and homophobic, no gay guys come out ever, anywhere, at all. Its like theres a hundred lesbians, but only two gay guys. Ya, something doesnt seem right.and then I sit here and im like. fuck. I wish i was born a girl so that i wouldnt have to deal with this bullshit. I wish I didnt have this shitty XY chromosome thats giving me all these problems. I hate looking at porn now, I hate looking at girls I find attractive, I DO NOT want to be attracted to girls. I do not want to be attracted to girls. I want to be gay, I dont want to be mentally ill. I dont know what the fuck im doing. help
Funniest thing a gay guy has ever said to you?
So I'm at twist and a guys comes up to me and feels my hair and says he likes it then 5 minutes later he says I'm gay but not like everyone else cause I played sports in collegeI found this laugh out loud funny does anyone else have stories
2017. március 28., kedd
Gay Snaps
So, I work nonstop, and what little free time I do have, I try to spend on the beach or boat with my dog.The last guy I dated for 4 years was a sociopath, and nearly killed me, from the inside out. I luckily have friends who never left my side when I was at my weakest.So, I'm here to ask for anything from casual or wild conversation all the way to dick pics.Do whatever you want. My snap name is Jmonkee.We can chat, pic swap, whatever.Not that it matters, but if it does, I'm 29, male, 5'9, 150 lbs. German Shepherd lover, and a sucker for the beach, sunrise to sunset - to watch the stars all night long.
Got a date this weekend...
Okay so I'm 18. I've only ever dated girls, but I've always known I was bi but repressed the fuck out of it because when I tried to come out in middle school that kinda just ruined my entire fucking life. As I've been getting older I've been more accepting of myself. I started noticing I was watching like a lot of gay porn, and I wasn't ashamed of it like I used to be. I'm an adult now and I'm living in a new town and I've changed a lot over the past year, so I decided fuck it, I'm going to explore this side of me unrestricted. So I got back on tindr, but on the other side of it this time and got a couple matches, one of which I have a coffee date with on Saturday. I've never been with a dude and I'm kinda nervous. I don't know if I'm actually just straight and just get rock hard from gay porn and I'm going to realize that this weekend, but I guess that's why I'm doing this. I have the right to know if I actually am attracted to men, so Ill just go ahead and find out this weekend.
Hardcore straight crush
Hi,I'm 18 years old, and have a biiig crush on a boy in my class. I've liked him for over 2 years, and am still waiting for myself to get over him. I even told him about 4 months ago that I have feelings for him just to be sure, because I thought it would be easier to get over him. It was extremely awkward, but at least I got a confirmation. So I'm just asking for advice from the older gays in here ;) Do you have any tips for getting over straight crushes? Appreciate any response, thanks! :))
I know Im bisexual but am I actually gay?
Let me preface this with this, I have been happily married to my wife for the last four years. She is the love of my life and my best friend. We have always been faithful to one another and completely honest.Very early on in our relationship she figured out I was bisexual and was completely okay with it. After all how could she not be, her father is a gay man and so she grew up very accepting of the LGBTQ community. Her only concern was if I would ever date another man. I lied and told her no.Flash forward to last week when we played the "what if" game. Our friends are going through a pretty nasty break up, so my wife asked me if I would ever date another woman if we were to divorce. My honest answer was no, probably not. She then posed another question, would I ever date a man if we divorced. My honest answer was meh, I'd give it a whirl. Apparently this was the wrong response because this led to a very emotional argument.My wife was relentless in trying to get me to admit to being gay. Her basic reasoning for why I must be gay was that I wanted to be with man, have sex with men, and fool around with men. I didn't deny any of this but I had to do my very best to point out that I love her, will be and have always been faithful to her, and want to be with her. Still she was relentless. She said on multiple occasions that she never wanted to be with a man who was attracted to other men. At the end of our conversation she basically just said that she still loved me and wanted to be with me and in order to do so would just ignore that I have an attraction to men.So, this leads to the title of my rant/question.After our argument I began to internalize and debate with my self, am I actually gay?If I'm being totally honest, I do find myself more sexually attracted to men, and the vast majority of porn I watch is gay.Am I gay and just refusing to accept it like my wife says?
Is being GAY a choice ? & is it wrong to ask this question ?
So as many of you already know the genetic explanation for gayness has been around for a long time and anyone who dare question it's credibility is considered to be a stupid person a monster a raciest a homophobic and his death would do the world a great favor BUT ! Why is it so triggering to ask this question ,, i don't mean it should be right , i mean if Gay people are so sure that being gay is not a choice , Why don't they let people ask this question and get to the bottom of it and realize that it's not true and being Gay is not a choice ,, and everyone will be a winner Gay people will be like " I TOLD YOU SO " and some straight people will stop asking this question Now this is just my opinion on this topic because Gay people don't seem to be open-minded about this kind of subjects ,, That's all folks . .VasskaWix
Bi male having trouble with prostate/anal orgasm
I'm not sure if this is the right sub but I posted in /r/sex already and got no responses. I'll just get right in to it (heh). I've never came from an anal orgasm and I'd really like to.I bought this toy this week and have used it twice now. I last came on Sunday from PiV sex with my gf and I used the toy for the first time Monday night and then againTuesday afternoon, both times I dripped pre-cum but couldn't finish. Both times I was super horny and the sessions lasted for about an hour.I used to use standard KY silicone lube but after hearing how silicone toys can degrade from silicone lube I switched over to KY ultragel. Overall it gets the job done but I had to use like a quarter or more of the bottle for one session and it's $11! Is there any other lube that you all would specifically recommend that works better for anal play with silicone toys?But yeah, I also just need advice on getting to the point of a prostate orgasm. I know where mine is and I've tried massaging it with my finger and now this toy multiple times and nothing. I almost always use porn to help me, sometimes with music to give me a little beat even. I've tried it with vibration and with no vibration, I've tried every possible position I could think of. I'm determined to keep it up but I was wondering if there were any tips or something? I don't wanna touch my penis to cum (I'll occasionally rub it for a few seconds just to turn myself on) but after a few more days like this I'm probably going to get gigantic blue balls and will be forced too. It's also annoying because anal prep can take a while and I have to be in the right mood to do it, I also live with people so I don't like to use the vibrator when they're around because it's pretty loud. So what can I do to make this happen?I also do have a GF so I can't go for that long without ejaculating because I still have sex with her. And no, I'm not interested in her fingering my ass, tried it and wasn't a fan. I like her to rim me but for some reason I don't like it when she does anything more, I guess I'm just dominant towards females and submissive towards males.
Are you more attracted to those who are your same body type/race or different?
I have almost always liked guys who were not my body type (Im skinny so I like big guys), but very recently I started having this huge attraction to white guys (I'm black). I am fairly sure bigger white guys don't date skinny black guys, but I guy can dream 😅.
Is my boyfriend depressed?
I was talking to a friend about this. Were in high school and his grades are absolute shit, he isn't going to graduate but he plans on getting his GED and have been studying for that. He has ADD which takes medicine for it's not that servere today but it can still get bad sometimes. He gets in trouble a lot. His family life is shit, he doesn't talk about it much and honestly I only know that his mother is single and work day so she isn't there. At school unless he's with me or good friends, he literally always have headphones in, doesn't make eye contact, stuff like that. He complains about like everything. Which is annoying but you get use to it. I didn't think much of it but the person I was talking to was saying how she believes he severely depressed. Which the only sign of depression I could see started after the election but that was most of us. But whe he's with me or friends, he'll act crazy, in a good fun way. And when were alone at my house or whatever he's funny, charming and not shy at all. Idk if the girl is overreacting but she's making me worry with her concern.
Why do I like straight men so much?
I know this is very common, but I just don't want to speak for anyone but myself.Something about a straight man is so appealing. I used to have fantasies about getting used by a straight guy to simply fulfil the urge :p. Whether straight or "straight", I don't care.Long story short, I want straight dick 😂
I'm a 32 yo gay man and not out
It makes me really uncomfortable to talk about myself, but I feel like I need to do this. I'm a 32 year old man living in the south who has struggled with homosexuality his whole life. The only time I felt like I was really able to be myself was when I went to college. Moving to a different state probably made it much easier. I dated a guy there and was happy until one of my close friends died in a stupid freak accident. I pretty much stopped trying all together (wasn't exactly full throttling it before that, tbh) and dropped out soon after.The next 13 year period of my life is pretty much a loop. It's important to define my sexuality a little more first, though. While I would probably be best described as sexually fluid, I have always had a strong preference for men. Vaginas have always been kind of gross to me, though. Throw in a southern Baptist family and community, a mostly straight demeanor, and a knack for over thinking; you have a recipe for confused sexuality. I ended up either alone for long periods of time or hurting several women. This absolutely kills me and I hate myself for being so selfish. This isn't a plea for forgiveness from random Internet strangers. Deep down I always knew I was gay, but I guess I just wanted it to not be true because it would be easier. That's on me for being too afraid to be myself. I just have to accept that I cannot change the past and embrace my queer.I haven't dated any guys since college. I've only messed around a few times and even that was over six years ago. I've battled with depression hardcore in the past, the only way I'm dealing with it now is by taking meds daily. I know that the only way I'm going to be happy is to come out. Most my close friends know but that's it. I could say that I'm afraid of making things difficult for the people I've hurt or committing to a defined sexuality, but the truth is I know I'm gay. I'm just scared. I can't live like this anymore though. When I try to visualize myself actually coming out, I just can't see it. I'm not sure how to do this.Thanks to anyone who read this. I appreciate any support.
Good websites to make gay friends?
Hello! I'm looking for websites or the like that can help me make gay friends, whether in person or online. I have recently started to come to actual terms with my bisexuality and would like to make some friends in the community.
I don't know how long I can take my boyfriend mentioning his ex
If we're doing an activity that they used to do a lot, he brings him up. If he's trying to tell me something he doesn't like, he brings him up, and so on. If we see each other for a whole weekend, this happens once, sometimes twice.They're still in touch and considers him a friend, which is fine. They broke up 4 years ago, but he's not even telling me stuff from the present as a friend, he always brings up the past. I've literally talked about my ex 3 times since we got together 6 months ago.I talked to him about this once and he said "well, they're part of our lives and we were together for a long time, so why avoid talking about them?" Nothing changed.Also, on a Friday, we were both at each other's homes and we were supposed to go out dancing. At 4pm he told me he was feeling very lazy and we'd go out the following day. At 8pm he confirmed this and we decided to go out on Saturday. Then, at 1am I get a text from him "I went out dancing with my ex's boyfriend, don't get mad." I mean, why the hell would you go out with your ex's boyfriend to get drunk and dance? I don't even know if the ex was there and he didn't tell me. I just found the whole situation pretty weird.
Frequency
Bottom. I feel like I want it every day, and for as long as possible. Am I normal, or should I check into the vet's office for a clip job?
Should i leave him and move on?
So i met this dude on Grindr, he is kinda nice btw, we have so much in common, he is 1 year younger than me, and the problem is he is super busy. He told me that he wants me, but he don't act like it. For me action is more important than just a word. So that's why I am thinking to leave him. He always got time for Instagram, but he seems like ignoring me and rejected it whenever I asked him if he did that. I am in a deep dilemma, since I live in neighborhood that gays live a hundred miles away. Does anybody here had the same experience?
Your dad had a heart attack
For the first time, ive seen you weak, i never looked at thought you would ever feel pain. You are so strong every time i look in your eyes it makes me feel so safe and protected and id never thought id be the one to make you feel better in your time of need and im so glad i am. I will always be there for him and i cant wait to look back on this day and remember forever that i am his strength as he is mine
[ask]if I like trans girls this means I'm gay?
I in love for a trans girl(MtF), and all my life I thought this is "gay" stuff( I never liked haired mans and this kind of thing). I'm in a big dilemma but I love her. This makes me gay? She consider herself "gay"(I don't understand too well this). If yes, i want to be gay only for her. PS: sorry for the stupid question and if I offended someone my apologies. Thank you guys.
Rejecting unwanted attention.
An old friend back from primary school recently started chatting with me. It is quite unambiguous that he wants pursue a relationship with me. As far as I know, noone knows he is gay, the problem is that I am a straight man.I have never rejected anyone and I am not too sure how I would approach it without hurting him. He is not being explicitly direct about his intent and that only makes it harder to deal with.I would appreciate any advice.
How would you feel about being in a relationship with someone who doesn't like even the mildest PDA?
Let's say you live in a city that's progressive enough to not be bothered by gays displaying affection.Would dating someone who isn't into holding hands in public, giving pecks, etc, be a deal breaker for you? Can the other guy get used to it if you teach him to be more comfortable with it?
King Cobra Opinions
I just found out about the movie King Cobra and I was wondering what you all think about it personally. I don't care much for spoilers, so post whatever you want. Just post what you think about it and it will help me decide if I should use my time to watch it or not. Thanks to all in advance
How does one hire a stripper for a gay bachelor party?
I'm in charge of the entertainment but it's not like there is a stripper website. Thoughts?
I give up
Fine, i'll accept it. Ive been making excuses for this for too long, saying its a curiosity thing and all that when i guess deep down all along i knew the truth. I love sucking cock. There, i said it
Slit my throat
So I'm 18, never had sex, never been kissed, never been in a relationship, overweight, abnormally small dick, abnormally large butt crack, and now.... A HAIRY BACK. ANY chance of me EVER finding love is out the window, and rolling down the hill. I'm destined to die alone at 25 with 2 dogs and a cat. God hates me. And that's that.
What should I text him?
Hey guys, so yesterday I had a date with a guy I met through grindr (He texted me first).While texting each other, we wouldn't say much and only ask what the other would do and how our day was. Nothing special. Normally I like guys who are very open with me about everything, but I decided to give him a chance because he's italian, since I have a thing for them cause I am one too (both from sicily). We wanted to meet last week, and had set a time, but eventually something unpredictable came in his way and we didn't meet.Normally it was me always asking what he was doing and how his day was, but after that I didn't want to put such effort in it. So I didn't text the whole day after that to get a pause from grindr (sometimes you need that) and I saw that he texted me first. So he seemed to be interested. So we decided on another date the next week (yesterday) and before it, He said that he is really shy and that I shouldn't be surprised. I guess that explained a bit of his texting-habits.Then we met, and at first he really did seem shy, but as the date went on, he would really open up, which I interpret as a good sign. After the date I told him that I would text him today, but I don't know what... Do you have any ideas? I really enjoyed the date although it lasted only an hour and a half maybe, and I would really like to meet him again. I'm really picky with boys and have some trust issues, because of past boys (never a relationship), so I'm kinda insecure and nervous about that.Also we alsways spoke on grindr, but before the date he gave me his number if something should come in the way (but I gave him my number before that which he seemed to have kinda forgotten or something)Thanks for any advice. :) Sorry for the longer text. -.-
Lol grindr vs tindr
Tindr= literally no matches unless you're chad thundercock , grindr= 4 messages 5 min after I set up the damn profile.lol.
I've had a bad couple days
It's been a year since I came out. Yay.I never expected all this.I've dated some guys... I've fallen in love. Twice.That second time feels more hollow right now, just because I'm realizing now how over it really is. I wish it wasn't, but I get why it is. I've never realized how sad I could be because of one other person. Alternatively... I hadn't realized how happy I could be because of one other person.Getting used to the idea that I was gay and just being open about it was the best thing I've ever done for my mind.And being able to date guys was incredible and also really weird to do at 20 years old. I had avoided relationships hardcore leading up to me coming out and I wish I hadn't because I feel like being a teenager would have been so much more fun if I was open earlier.I don't really like thinking about relationships, but maybe that's just because I've not had one really last long yet where the other person loves me the way I love them...I'm just sad right now realizing the person that I loved didn't really love me like I thought.
My experience coming out
What a week....I'm 19 and have been (very well knowingly) gay since roughly early middle school. Didn't act on it due to having a STUPIDLY religious family while living at home, so when I left for Uni I started seeing someone my second semester. The relationship ended about three weeks ago, but god it was amazing.Flash back to a week ago when I nervously told my best friend. He was ok with it, actually extremely surprised due to the fact that I am mostly straight acting. I'm not screaming it from the rooftops, but over the past week I've told close friends and immediate family members, aside from my parents. (They've known for a few months, still love me but don't understand, blah blah blah) And aside from the shock of some people, and others who kind of knew, everyone is cool with it.And shit. Never knew the slight anxiety I kind of knew I had was from staying in the closet around the people I spend the most time with. It's literally like a weight was lifted from my chest, I can't explain it.Anyways, just felt the need to share. I don't believe in telling everyone I know, but it's not a secret anymore and damn I feel great. Hope everyone has a great day <3
I Met Someone and now..
I just met someone so amazing. We've had a few dates and the chemistry between us is really brewing. His messages every morning are so sweet and I love kissing him so much. I'm pretty sure that soon this will be my first relationship ever and I'm so happy. But now it's time to deal with another issue. So i have this friend with benefits who lives in another country. We met through an app and I showed him around my city. I've had 2 sexual encounters with him, one in my city and another abroad. But other than that we actually click when we discuss about politics and world news, so we're in touch at least twice or thrice a week. I have 3 holidays planned with him. So how do I tell him that I want to just stop the "benefit" without ruining the friendship? Because I do enjoy having a discussion with him. Is it ok to be just flagrant about it?
Cheating But Not Caught pt2
I. Posted "My BF[22] of 4 years, has been getting on Grindr" blah blah blah. We it may or may not be wrong but I created an account and I've been talking to him. Doesn't know it's me. But is this wrong. And Judy so you know. He initated the taking not me. He was quick to send pics and tell me what he wants to do to me. What should I do. Call him out or just delete the account or just let things play out and sweat it out of him.
Barebacking is like looking into the face of God.
I've never barebacked anyone before...until yesterday. And let me just say I'm very upset that I eventually have to go back to using condoms. Barebacking and breeding was the best thing i've ever done sexually and now I kinda want a boyfriend so I can just do those two things.
I'm too ''masc''? help!
Although I'm openly gay, people usually assume I'm straight! Which is quite annoying because when I meet a cute guy I have to make a huge effort to make them notice that I'm interested in them... Which is annoying because I'm fairly shy.The other night at a party I spent the whole night hitting on a guy until he finally got the hint (successful night fortunately), but he then was saying things like 'I had no idea... until you started like touching my hands'...So anybody else with this problem? I guess I fall into that 'masc' stereotype, but it's not something I'm interested in. I don't seek masc guys specifically, nor do I try to seem masc. I just act the way I am.Anyone else have the same problem? Any tips?!:)
2017. március 27., hétfő
Does wanting to suck dick equate to being gay?
Throwaway account. 26yo virgin male here, totally zero sexual experience except for the occasional wank. Submissive. Throughout my entire life, my point of interest has always been females until recently when I kinda got abit confused.So a friend recently asked me if I could picture myself sleeping another dude and since then, it seems as if a switch has been flipped in my mind.All I can imagine/ picture is me taking cock. And this innate need for me to be used as a cock sucking whore - to be locked in a glory hole box, servicing up to 3 cocks at once, 1 in each hands and another in my cock sucking mouth. And me taking their cum all over my face and body like a good cock sucking slut ought to do. And occasionally, taking the cock up my ass.This wanton desire of me to be used and abused as a filthy cock sucking whore and a cum dumpster has been increasing lately and has led me to wonder am I really gay or bi deep down inside? But in all my vision/imagination, all imagery has been just me sucking dick - me and dick. No more, no less. No show of the imaginary dudes face or body ( if yall get what I mean).A friend has hypothesised that it could just mean that this could be a sign of me wanting my dick to be sucked and the desire is manifesting itself through this method. But I feel deep down that it could something more.So I guess the crux of this topic is that is this just a phase due to my sexual inexperience and my submissive nature and my desires manifesting itself or isit a sign that I could be gay/bi deep inside?Thanks to all who reply and give guidance! :)
anal douche vs enema which is better?
So I met a guy I'm usually a top but he was really nice then I found out he was a top so I said fuck it u get me drunk and I'll bottom but I wanna clean first so which is better where can u buy it from an how much is it
Police and the LGBT community.
Recently Toronto Pride has banned police attendance to their festival. Any police who wish to attend cannot be in uniform or in the form of part of the parade.Some background: Black Lives Matter held up the parade last year with a list of demands that included no police participation in the parade.Personally, I think this is a form of discrimination and I don't see how this will improve relations between any communitiesHere are some issues I see -Who do they expect to redirect traffic? It's a public area (Ie downtown Toronto!) -Why is one groups beliefs more important than another -What will this accomplishI'd love for some respectful discussion and disagreements! So let me know your thoughts!
How to come out in mid twenties
I am a 26yo dude that is just coming out as bi and feel kind of overwhelmed.I jumped on tinder 8 months ago, turned on my interest for males, matched a guy and we have been together since. We are both tops, which makes the sex life really challenging and we have sex like once every second week which frustrates me.I like the guy a lot, but I feel like I jumped into the relationship too quickly. I never got to explore my sexuality, I never went to a gay bar, I never used Grindr or any other of those apps. I am not close to any gay people and while it is kind of safe and comfy to be in the relationship I feel I might have jumped into this too quickly. I also feel I stay in the relationship because I don't have anyone in the community to talk to or hang out with except for my partner.The gay dudes I know of are my age and have been out since they were teenagers. It just doesn't feel right to talk to them about it all. It's like they are at a different stage in their lives.Has anyone else found themselves coming out as gay/bi in mid twenties or rushed into a gay relationship as soon as you came out? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Would love to hear your thoughts on this as I don't talk to anyone about this stuff.
the pleasure and pain from anal sex?
i'm a virgin.just gotta let you know that.i am always curious on how anal sex feels like.from watching gay porn and hearing people's experience with it, i got two informations out of it.they experience pleasure and pain.so much you'll get stories of how some guy's first time feels like.usually you'll get something like "it hurts for the first time, but eventually it gets better".me all horny, i want to try it.i want to know what this "pleasure" feels like.i don't have sex toys, so once in a while i tried to put a finger up my rectum.i got questions i want to ask :/from the penis, male orgasm is pretty easy to elaborate.if a girl asked you about it, you usually say "it feels ticklish on your penis", simple (well that's what i'm gonna say if a girl ever try to ask me that).but in this case, i got the same question on how woman orgasm feels like.what do you feel? can you describe the feeling of pleasure you got from it? i tried to wiggle my finger in it but i don't feel anything special.i ended up having this weird look on my face."is that it? is that all i got?" i'm a little dissapointed with it.maybe male's "G-spot" is much more further than the length of your finger? or is it "the bigger the better" case? i've only put two fingers in so far.of course that's not big but it's quite big for my virgin ass.might experiment it further though.well idk man, i'm just curious about it.people always exaggerate it in gay porn with all those moaning and screaming.why do domtop reluctant to be a subbot? don't they want to feel pleasure from other direction? or is it because those "fragile male masculinity" case? well whatever.now for the next question, how does the pain feel like? no doubt being a bottom will have to feel pain from sex (lol who am i to say that?) from my experience fingering myself, i did feel pain.it was sharp kind of pain. since penis is all round and soft, i always thought that the pain you feel is dull. so with my shallow mind, i think i could endure the pain even though i never tried anal.but one time, while i tried to finger myself, i feel sharp kind of pain.sharp pain is a kind of pain i dislike the most.i don't know, from getting punched in the back or sliced by a knife, which one do you prefer? had an experience with huge wound and alcohol just flushed down right onto it.never want to experience it again.well anyway,it's not inside me, but outside the hole.no discomfort up my rectum (was it supposed to be painful inside or outside?).tried to water my hole and then i feel acute pain around it.thinking that a top make a friction on your ass with his penis over and over while you have sharp pain from doing it and you have to endure it till he cum makes me cringe.man, writing all those up makes me cringe.i'm just saying that my experience fingering myself is making more question than it answered.how does it feel like fingering yourself? was it supposed to feel like how i felt? if so that's lame man.
Coming out to Muslim Father
(@2gayslots2say): Life has never been the same since I have told my parents that I am gay. My parents are strict Muslim. I am surprised that they haven't tried to kill me or convert me, unlike most Muslim do. After a while when things have calmed down, I decided to interview my dad and ask him questions about my sexuality. These are the 15 out of 29 in depth questions I have asked him.This is what he has to say (I just want to share my story to everyone from lgbt community, especially who are Muslim or belong to any other region, to show that, yes you can be gay and religious but by dad thinks otherwise...)What do you think about gay people?Before I answer this question, let me explain what is the principle of life. Either we are Landlord or Tenant Landlord has his own property so he is not bound to follow any restriction but contrary to landlord, a tenant has a legal binding and s/he cannot live as his own wish. They have to follow certain rules and regulations. As a tenant they have to live by the agreement they have made with landlord. Now I am going to explain the principle of Muslim. As a Muslim We believe in one book, according to this book “Allah has purchased the life of Muslim for the sake of Heaven” So we believe that we are not free people, we are living in this world like a tenant. If we need Heaven we have to fulfill the law of the Lord. So you can say that we cannot live in this world at our own desire. So for the “gay” it is strictly prohibited in Quran. And it is so clear that either you may be gay or you be Muslim. Hope that answer the question.Do you think being gay is a choice?As I explain you it is against the desire of our Lord it is not a choice. You have to leave this habit otherwise you are breaking the contract. Whatever is your augment you cannot adopt it, you have to leave this habit. There is no option for gay.How long has it been since I told you that I am gay?It was the worst day of my life when I heard that what you told me. You remember that I strictly refused to go to Canada but you gave a promise that if I went to Canada you will be a good Muslim. On that day I concluded you have breach that Contract among father and Son. But this was the fact I am a self-made man, ready to face the facts. These were the fear that did not allow myself and my family to settle here. It was th great shock for me. But from that day on, I tried my best to save the rest of my family and still trying.What was your initial reaction when I told you that I was gay?If someone has been badly stabbed what would their reaction be? They will be crying with pain, the same was my reaction. From the day on, I have not been relaxed in my life. I am praying from Allah and Insha Allah(hope to Allah) one day my son will be back.How has your views changed since then?It is not my view, I am simply following the instruction laid down to us more than 1400 years ago and it is not being changed as long as this world exist. If a person is Muslim he cannot change his views about this.How do you feel about me being gay?It is the worst torture I have ever faced in my life.Do you blame yourself that your son is gay?Yes I do myself, Yes it was my mistake that I face this hardship. I brought my son to Canada at a very young age. I have failed to convey the reality of life to my son. I could not guide my son and failed to teach him what the reality of life is. We have no power, we are living with the mercy of Allah, nature, or whatever you call it but we have to accept that we are bound to bestow to the power that is ruling the universe. It was my failure that my son was not ready for the examination and I took him to write the exam. I do acknowledge my mistake and yes it is my fault.Did you ever think about converting me?Yes, every day, every minute, every second, I always think to convert him. I pray and beg Allah to return my son.Have you ever thought of going to therapist so they can talk Peer out of being gay?He was very young when he told me that he was gay. We forced each other so much to change each other beliefs and then agreed to never speak of it again, couple of years ago. I wish I would have taken him to psychologist or therapist so my son would been treated and would have been cured in any way possible.10.Are you afraid that I won’t have kids and you won’t have grand kids? I am not worried of this life I am upset for my son’s life after his death. We all must die at the end. The bitter fact is that he will be punished after his death, this is a very horrible fact compare to thinking about my grand kids.11.Do you think that God is punishing you by giving you a gay son? This is the main difference between this society and Muslim culture. We do not have the authority to decide whether it is a punishment or a reward. It may be a punishment but if I didn't come to canada, based on my qualification I would have been a finance director in some multinational company but I left it all for him. You may think this is my punishment. But in my opinion if with all my distress, sorrow and sadness if Allah forgive me for the sake of these torture and permit me into heaven, then I can say it is my reward. As of right now, I cannot say whether it is a punishment or a reward.12.Why did you not kill me unlike most Muslim parents try to? I studied Quran in depth many time to see if there is a way to save my son. So far I have not read any word from Quran to kill someone for being gay but he will be punished after his death for all the illegal sexual relation. It is however written in Quran to kill a person who kills another innocent person. I can also explain what our religion says about sex. All illegal sexual relationship is Haram ( Prohibitted) whether between 1. Male to female 2. Male to male 3. Female to Female In book it is said “ Zana” in english, fornication which means (Sexual intercourse between people who are not married to each other, especially when considered as a sin) In Muslim culture the punishment for Zana is death, so all illegal sexual relationship of any kind should be punished. In Quran it is written that all those who commit Zana Allah will punish them for this crime by himself. He will put them into hell in a fire of 70,000 degree centigrade where even stone melts like lava. So if my son commits a crime of illegal sex, God will punish himself. I can just pray for him that he comes back to the right path. I hope that until I die Allah forgive me for good wishes for my son13.Why didn’t you disown me? I am confident one day my son will be back that is why I did not disown him 14.Do you think gay people should die? I think gay people should be treated properly, if they are treated properly, they can come back to normal life. Thousands of people have left this habit and have returned to their normal lives. Not just gay people, there are millions of people who are involved in different sin. They ask Allah for forgiveness and they are purified then why not gay people? if they ask Allah for forgiveness then they can live a normal life. I have one question for you What do you think that if I offer someone who is gay that I will give him 10 million dollar leave this habit and marry a girl? If they accept this offer most gay people will be converted. This is not the question that you can leave this habit or not, it is only the matter of belief. You are not believing the punishment or reward that is why you are being gay. This is the main conflict between us and western society. You people think that, this your life and you can live it as you desire while we Muslim belief that we cannot live our lives as our own desire we came here just to pass the examination.15.How does your religious views impact me how you see me as a gay son? It is clearly a crime in my opinion but if my son has a way back and he can go to heaven somehow it is written in his fate then good for him but if he is going to hell for this he will never come back. As a father I always beg to Allah that my son lives until he comes to r get path and Allah forgive him.Please let me and my fiancé know what do you think? Do you agree with him? yes I am engaged to the most wonderful man who had been through and still goes through everything with me. Just been by my side, this whole time except for when I came out, he was hiding under the blanket, that's another story...
How would you react if you suspected your spouse was interested in the same sex?
Hi everyone, I am having a really tough time and could use some help. I am a 33 year old male, married with no kids. For over 10 years now, ive been struggling with what my sexuality is, fantasizing constantly about various things with same sex situations. Over the years, i have became so confused that i started confiding in my female friends, and friends of my spouse for their opinion. It has back fired to say the least. I started going to therapy, and while its helped a bit..i leave more confused than when i started. My therapist thinks i suffer from obsessive thoughts, and that i should consider going on medication. My wife and i have had a couple extremely awkward conversations in the past, but it is not something we talk about regularly.I find myself constantly googling LGBT articles and stuff. Am i in denial? What do i do?
2017. március 26., vasárnap
How do I help him feel comfortable?
So, some time after a break-up which had left me feeling like shit for a couple of months, I decided to reinstall Grindr (woe is me!). Amidst the various shitty stuff that floats around the app, I meet a pretty cool guy (no need to get into details, but he's nerdy and we share a lot of interests). We've been on a couple of "dates", going around the town and walking by the shore and all that stuff. We're going to go to the pub this week, which since we both like drinking I hope is something he will enjoy.Now, what I am a bit worried about is how I make him feel comfortable about this developing relationship. He isn't out (he's bi), and neither am I (I'm gay), but we seem to have hit it off and enjoy each other's company, but I'm worried that sometimes he feels uncomfortable about the possibility of a serious, same-sex relationship. He does beam at me whenever our eyes meet, and he has the cutest smile, but... There are times I catch him being a bit fidgety or just checking his surroundings, as if he's afraid of "being caught". Does anyone have suggestions on how I can help him feel more comfortable?(Also, extra stuff: we're both in university, I'm 20 and he's 23)
How to grow the biggest bubble butt?
So my booty is a tad small, (as well as everything else, I am a tiny twink) and this year I've decided to make my body look more sexy for men. Going to get a gym membership and work on it. Definitely want to have a great ass by the end of it though and need help on how to healthily achieve that. Do any of you guys have any tips, routines or exact things to do? Never been to a gym before and have no ideal what to do and really anxious about people seeing me.
Closeted with homophobic family. Need others to talk to.
Title is pretty self explanatory. I'm 18, in quite a traditional town (move to city for Uni in September thankfully) and have next to nobody to confide in about my sexuality. I just feel like it's affecting my mental health and would appreciate having other people to talk to. Thanks!
Guy I Like Involved With Drugs
Right now I am a high school student. I'm only out to a close friend and my therapist. So a few months ago I started talking to this guy in my gym class. He makes it pretty clear that he's gay. As time went by, especially this past week, we started to get pretty close. I think I've made it pretty clear I'm into him and I'm 95% sure he likes me back. He even asked for my number. Yesterday I found out that he does drugs and smokes. I really like him but I don't really want to be involved with that kind of stuff.I've come up with a plan. Since spring is here, I'll see if he wants to go to the park or something one day. I chose the park because it's a public place but privacy is still available which should create a more comfortable atmosphere. I'll tell him how I feel and make sure he feels the same way. Then I'll ask about the drugs. I'll start with how he started and why he continues to do it and then I'll ask if would ever consider stopping. Is this a good idea? Is it worth it?I should mention that my main concern is not me getting involved with it but him turning to worse drugs. I don't want to have to deal with a mess later on in my life and I want what's best for him.
What can I use as an alternative to a dildo?
Basically I'm in the closet and I'm scared to order a dildo to my house. What else can I use that's safe to anally masturbate with that's like penis size?
Is it bad that I love Milo Yiannopoulos?
I really like Milo so much he's so funny and entertaining and he says a lot of things think that are true.I don't understand why he's so hated. Just because you have some conservative views are gay doesn't mean you're a bad person.
Just venting.
Ok, so this is gonna be a caffeine fuelled rant that I'm not gonna give a second squidge so I apologise in advance for pissy grammar and all that.Let's get some background shall we? I'm bi, and have been sure now for about 8-10 months, and I have a crush on a guy at my school (he's out, we're both in year 12 at private single sex school). And he's been dating guys on and off for a few months, he's gorgeous, confident, brilliant with people, and stupid smart. I, however, am an unfit lanky nerd who can barley talk to his own family without it being awkward. We've been decent friends for a while and I do really want to tell him, at least that I'm bi, but y'know, it's kinda hard. So, from someone with experience than me, someone with a larger t count or whatever, could I get a pointer or two? Any questions and I'll be happy to answer <3Love you all - never stop being yourself
My life is out of control plummeting with me watching...
So i'e posts on how I hate being gay. Having no friend atc... So begging of Mach I lost R15 000 on my saving, stollen just like that , never told anyone, just been drinking in my room alone all along. I lost so much I only was left with 400, which I have spent all on alcohol. My life is sadly spiraling out of control, yet everyone seeing me on campus thinks I'm fine. From February I've only had conversation in class or my brother on the phone. No one else. I go to class, com back to my room sleep or drink on my own.
Don't know if I should panic about possibly being outed. First time posting
Been using tinder visible to men and women because I've never had much experience pass flirting and I'm not really sure about my preference. But my gay ex-coworker who I'm not really close to sent me a screenshot on Snapchat of my profile and I don't know who else he sent it to, but it was highly likely a mass snap to all my old coworkers/friends. They're likely assuming I'm gay so I think I just got outed, but I guess I deserve it because I was so stupid and careless
Coming out on group Facebook messenge
So I live a couple thousands of miles from my best friends and we have a group chat that's active just about every day.Last week when visiting home I came out to my dad. Since he was really the only person I was afraid of hiding from, I now consider myself out of the closet... so part of me thinks I should tell my friends (one already knows).Thing is we won't be hanging out in person for a few months... should I wait or just bite the bullet and shoot out a message to them saying "hey, just wanted to say..."?They're cool guys so they won't care. Hell, chances are ill say some offensive things in the process because that's my sense of humor.
I don't really know what I am
Hey guys.So, I've been straight my entire life. Straight, but an ally. I know gay people, lived with, worked with, learned with, all that shit. I'm 17, and about to start college next year.I'm having a bit of a crisis.Namely, I don't think I'm straight anymore.The past month I've been having thoughts (not sexual, mind you) about a straight friend of mine. I've always joked that my parents think I'm gay (they're supporters and don't care), and that they think that I'm dating him.Now, I kind of feel like I want to.I've liked guys before, but in eighth grade, where being gay in my friend group made me feel cool and made me feel like I fit in.I've been hanging around with one of those friends again, but honestly, I don't know if that has anything to do with it.I'm just all sorts of confused. I feel like the more people I tell (6 know that i might not be straight) the less straight I become.It's just scary. Im legitimately, and I dont mean this in the tumblr way of "im having a panic attack" way I mean I am legitimately freaking the fuck out and what the fuck is going on.Anyway, thanks for reading my 3 AM panic post.If you have anyt questioins, just ask.
About age gaps
what do you think about age gap? i am 21 and chatting with this cute man of 36 . i like him for now and dont care about age gap . but i think at long term, when i'll be 30 he will be 50. how does 15 years matter? do you think is it possible to go for a relationship, or is it possible to only create a benefit-friendship?(maybe i should not think in long term too much, but i still do...)
Could use some help :)
Hello everyone!So, I'm having a little dilemma. Usually I just google my dilemma and reads some texts on what I find, and google brought me to reddit. Been seeing tons of reddit posts and today I thought maybe I join in the community and maybe ask here for some advice. I'm new here so I'm not really sure how reddit works. XD (English isn't my first language so sorry for the grammar mistakes) :)P.S. I kept writing this very long story and this is my 4th draft now xD I'll just get to the point now.I'm a college student and I am gay. I once like a close friend of mine who is straight. It was not like my old crushes which is only infatuations. This is different. I asked google what do I do and I was told that to get over him and stop spending time with him. So I completely ignore him at school hallways and whenever we talk I dont look at him in the eyes and tried to make it short as possible. He has his own group of friend and I have mine so it's not a big deal. We are now like bystanders. This has been going on for 7 months and I feel bad wasting the friendship. But yeah, I'm still not over him and we are now like strangers, like someone you used to know in one of your class and since you are not that close anymore, you don't talk at all or say hi.Should I continue not talking to him or make an effort to talk to him? I feel like I'm selfish and I didn't think of his feeling because out of the blue I just completely ignored him. When he found out that I was ignoring him, I actually confessed to him and told him why I am ignoring him. I didnt tell any of of my friends about this, just him. He's the only one who knows I like him. And then one of my friends found out about this and I was shocked. This guy I like have told some of his friends about this and was asking them on what he is supposed to do. The more I feel bad about myself knowing I did this to him. Whenever I see him he seems ok and fine and laughing, I didnt think it was bugging him at all.It's getting longer again :'( I guess I should stop now. I feel I am leaving out many details xD I actually saved some of the drafts. If anyone interested to read the whole story, I reply it here. That is if someone will actually read this xDThanks all!-been writing this for few hours and I just need to get this over with alreadt xD
The hardest thing...
I work with LGBTQIA college students. In light of the national politics and in the midst of an era of intense identity politics, I am finding it more and more difficult to inspire strength while also fostering (what has been for many of them) a radical queerness that can only be reckoned by absolute equity.I lately wondered if there might be a way to help them to visualize their experience as queer students through the stories of others! That's where you all come in!I wonder if people would be willing to write a story about a time that they went through something really scary, or challenging, and what they did to overcome it. This could be a variety of situations from family, friends, exes, spouses, work, internal struggle, etc. In short, what has been "the hardest thing..." that you have experienced and what was that journey like. Please include your age and gender (if you feel so comfortable).Thanks in advance! Soc
Good yet accepting universities
Hello everyone, long time lurker here. As previously stated in the title, I'm looking for a good university to go to after high school, but I want it to be in a nice lgbt friendly area. I am currently in the closet and next year will be my last year of high school. All suggestions will be considered.
My Experience in the Gay Community (So Far)
This is my very first post to the reddit community. For a long time, I have always felt the desire to share my story so far in the hope of finding others that may have had similar experiences. I’ve been “out” for 10 years now and am currently 29 years old.Like many members of the LGBTQ community, I struggled with trying to figure out and accept who I was all through middle school and high school in a small, southern town. I didn't come out until my sophomore year of college, age 19. I had grown up with a strong desire to marry, have a family and live a long, loving life with someone special - a goal that did not diminish after coming out.While I had nothing against them, I never felt the need or desire to gravitate towards the other gay men on campus. Joining their social circles was never a priority for me. In general, it was very easy for me to make lots of friends and I enjoyed a thoroughly exciting social life via my fraternity. I definitely wasn't the “hottest guy on campus” but I didn't necessarily feel unattractive either. Life was pretty good.When I was 21 and nearing graduation, I met my first boyfriend (also my age) and experienced a lot of first-time activities. I fell deeply in love with him and we lived together for about a year. This is when my rose-tinted world started to desaturate. One day, I came home to find my boyfriend having sex with a much older man in our bed. As you can imagine, it was devastating. About a month after it happened, I made the decision to move to Chicago to get away and find new career opportunities.All of a sudden, I found myself living in the “real” world and things like “Grindr” and “Scruff” became known to me for the first time. At first, I was a bit afraid of going out to gay bars and such to try to meet people. The wounds of my previous relationship were still extremely fresh. I eventually found the strength to go out and was extremely happy and optimistic about it. What I found were judgmental stares instead of warm welcomes. Since I was neither a “twink” or “muscle jock,” I often found myself at the receiving end of laughter and ridicule. For the first time, I started thinking of myself as ugly. Terms like “love” and “monogamy” were replaced by “fun” and “open relationship.” Deception and drama replaced honesty and authenticity. As I continued to succeed in my professional career, I began to slowly withdraw from social situations in general. I never felt wanted by anyone. At age 26, most of my friends had started settling down and even getting married. Even some of my few gay friends had started getting married and living the life that I always wanted and thought that I would have. Eventually the loneliness and lack of hope led me to descend into daily battles with depression and anxiety - a struggle that I still fight every day.Since that doomed first relationship 8 years ago, I’ve never had the opportunity to even semi-seriously date someone. Every time I have ever been attracted to someone, the feelings have never been mutual. And in the cases where I thought they were mutual, I’ve always found out that I was used to pay for their drinks or occupy their time while they were bored - something that actually just happened again last night. I find myself constantly in situations where I am saying to myself, “how could you be so stupid?”For me, personally, I feel like being gay has only been a negative experience in my life that has contributed to serious struggles with depression, anxiety and loneliness. I often tell people that being gay couldn't possibly be a choice, because if it was then I wouldn't have chosen it.I am now preparing for a move to the Dallas area from Chicago and am excited about experiencing a new place. I am looking at it as a place where I can refresh and hopefully climb out of this hole I’ve been in for the last 8 years.I guess there are three reasons why I decided to write this. First, it feels very nice to actually force myself to write this stuff down. Second, to show other gay men that they may not be alone in what they are feeling or experiencing. Finally, that the gay world for some of us isn't like what you see on TV or in flashy pride parades.
2017. március 25., szombat
I don't think I'll ever be ready for a relationship
I'm 26 and I've dated quite a few guys (short-term) that never worked out. One of them turned into a year long relationship. The guy I'm seeing right now looks like it's going long term too.The thing is, I always feel as if I don't get enough from them. Not enough "sweet talk", not enough compliments, not enough validation. Every little thing they say that annoys me, I blow it out of proportion. I constantly fear they will replace me with someone else. This obviously stems from serious insecurities, but this makes me think that I should never be in a relationship with someone until I take care of that.
if your S.O. was a victim of a robbery, would you try to see them asap?
hi everyone. how are you doing today? i just have a weirdly specific question. i tried asking on another gay-themed subreddit (i dont want to say which one, i am not confirming which one it is if you ask or guess, and i'm not giving hints) and i dont think that they liked my question very much.i was just robbed yesterday at gunpoint and i asked the guy i was dating (note the past tense) if i could please see him. he ignored me and today pretended like i never asked to see him.if your S.O. was the victim of a crime, would you go see them? there's no way i'm being irrational, am i? my dad just kinda got mad at me when i told him, and my mom tried to make it about her, so i cant exactly turn to my family in my time of need.sorry. thanks. have a nice day :)
Sons best friend
I am actively in a sexual relationship with my son's best friend . He is 21 and I'm 45 dad .. I did not pursue this but was taken off guard by his advances . He is super sweet and very Confortable with the situation. Your opinion .?
(NSFW) How do you guys masturbate?
So I know that most guys do the typical jerk, which is fun and feels good, but for as long as I can remember the way I've done it is by putting my fingers at the base and pressing down. It feels much more intense and you can control how long it lasts (I can finish in 20-30 seconds if I'm in a hurry but can also "hover" on the edge for like 15 minutes). I started doing it before I learned the "normal" way to masturbate, and even now I still use this method around half the time. Am I the only one? Is this weird?
I need some advice.
I'm a 21y/o gay male and I'm having trouble accepting my sexuality, might seem a bit too old to still be dealing with this kind of issues. The thing is that I haven't came out to my parents yet and I feel like it is holding me back, not allowing me to be the person I feel like I am and sometimes it seems like the reason why I've never been in a relationship before. I have absolutely no clue on how to come out to my parents and it scares me of what they may say about it, specially because they're not too comfortable with gay people, I'd say they're neutral about it at most.If you have any advice or any life experience that could possibly help me I'd really appreciate it, time keeps passing by and I'm affraid I'll be too old before I know it and I'll still be dealing with this.
Skin care: your daily routine
How do you moisturize your face? What products do you use? Is serum your thing, or it's expensive and overrated?And what about masks and pore strips?What brand of shampoo and conditioner do you recommend?Do you shave there? If so, what do you use — a razor or something else — and how you deal with irritated skin?Do you have butt / back pimples? No? How did you get rid of them?Etc.Please, share you tips and life hacks below.
Do other gays feel like they're too gay?
Okay so I'm gay and I wouldn't call myself fem (nor would most of my friends) ( if there were a continuum I would be right in the middle) but I can't help but feel like I'm acting too stereotypically gay, like in hand gestures, posture and voice etc... I think you'll understand what I mean.I think it's worth mentioning that I don't really care hoe I act in private. I'm hella gay in private - I'm talking singing to Beyoncé and Taylor swift etc... I just want to go into a science field and I know science does t discriminate but scientists do and I want people to take me seriously and also I don't want to have to earn their trust a little more just because of when they look at me the word 'GAY' appears in their vision next to a bright rainbow unicorn.Sorry if I sound stupid but I just want to know if anyone else understands what I mean??And just to add this is this important to me because I want to be career oriented - like I want my career to be my no 1 priority and I don't want to be held back by some stupid crapThanks for reading 👌🏼
Need help with a friend
So I have this friend who I've had a interesting relationship with and we have not spent time together in a while, but I'm pretty positive we are going to hang a lot in the next few months because we are getting close againThe thing is is that I'm bisexual and I literally always fall for this guy instantly when I start hanging with him a lot. This has happened a couple times, and a while ago when we were like inseparable best friends who hung every day we used to drink and do that kind of thing together. I ended up like snuggling him with my head on his chest one time for a good while and he didn't seem to mind at all. I've snuggled him in a bed in the same way when we were tripping together once as well, and he didn't seem to care and then we slept together for a while. He has hugged me out of the blue and placed his arm around my shoulder a bunch of times, and I'm kinda curious about if he is bi too. He knows I'm bi now, I told him. What should I do to see if he ends up liking me back? I feel like a totally straight person wouldn't want to snuggle their friend or walk around holding them. I always just completely fall for this guy because of how attractive and nice he is, and I'm pretty positive this will happen soon again. Is it a good idea to tell him how I feel if I end up liking him again, or not? I'm not sure what to doI mean, I get that straight people touch each other too but idk if it's heterosexual to snuggle your male friends for hours if you're a guyHe didn't know I am bi when we snuggled and did all of thatWould it be weird to ask him if he's bi?Also, how do I approach this if I really feel like he's into me too? I don't want to ruin our friendship but at the same time I want him so bad
Do other gays feel like they're too gay?
Okay so I'm gay and I wouldn't call myself fem (nor would most of my friends) ( if there were a continuum I would be right in the middle) but I can't help but feel like I'm acting too stereotypically gay, like in hand gestures, posture and voice etc... I think you'll understand what I mean.I think it's worth mentioning that I don't really care hoe I act in private. I'm hella gay in private - I'm talking singing to Beyoncé and Taylor swift etc... I just want to go into a science field and I know science does t discriminate but scientists do and I want people to take me seriously and also I don't want to have to earn their trust a little more just because of when they look at me the word 'GAY' appears in their vision next to a bright rainbow unicorn.Sorry if I sound stupid but I just want to know if anyone else understands what I mean??And just to add this is this important to me because I want to be career oriented - like I want my career to be my no 1 priority and I don't want to be held back by some stupid crapThanks for reading 👌🏼
Romance vs Sexuality
I'm a male. I'm confused about which gender i want to truly pursue in a relationship. I feel that women provide better for me as a man, I'm comfortable around women, I like them as characters but I'm not sexually attracted to them at all. It takes a lot of effort on my part to build an emotional connection with them, too. I like men sexually. I build emotional connections with men at a faster rate. My straight friends all talk about them being nervous around girls, but I never feel that. I get nervous around guys. My gay friends get nervous near guys, but are okay with girls.I mean, I'm not trying to compare to others experiences, I'm just feeling my own out. But I've been trying to date men for 2 years and have been consistently let down. And I've consistently let women down for not pursuing them....I'm sorry to them. I just couldn't build a connection beyond wanting a friendship.I used to identify as heteromantic but homosexual, but that's shit. Why would I be cursed with some whack shit like that? Having to choose between my emotions and sex? Who fucked me up as a kid lmao
I don't know what to believe
I'm a 16 gay male.Also I'm a christian. That's hard for me since having a boyfriend and gay sex is considered a sin.I've lived my life with the belief that it's wrong and that I can only be a good christian when I will never have a romantic and sexual relationship with a man. But sometimes I just think that it's all just a lie but whenever I go through a bad time I pray to god to help me and that I was wrong.In siturations like this it seems like the only one who can help me is god and if I'm not a good christian bad things will happen to me and god won't help me.I know this sounds stupid to you. I always think maybe it's all true. And then I think it's not and I should be me. It's all very confusing I don't know what to think and believe.
When is it official that you've been ghosted?
My main question is... do I say anything to him? Should I just ask him if something's wrong, or be Blunt and ask if he's slowly distancing himself from me?So here's some context and background story.I've been talking to this guy and things 'seemed' to be going great. I hunk it's been almost 3 months of talking at this point and hanging out only a few. So yada yada yada all was well but the. Suddenly he started not responding as much. By suddenly I mean within 2 days it was like a complete 180. He,ok leave me hanging for a couple hours but then text me "hey:)" and I don't know what to make of that. This last time, however, there hasn't been a response. It was mid conversation too. We had been talking and then nothing. This was almost 48 hours ago (who's counting) and he just hasn't responded. I'm worried he's slowly trying to ghost me and if he is I'll accept defeat and move on but I would rather try to make it work. I don't like to beat around the bushes and waste my time with someone who doesn't want to be around me but I do like this guy so I want to just straight up ask him "sooo are you done or something?" What do you guys think?TLDR: been talking to a guy for 3 months all is good but randomly doesn't respond mid convo and haven't heard from him in almost 3 days. Do I just flat out ask him if he's ghosting me?
Does size matter to any of you?
I'm a bit under average for cock size and feel like I will never get into a relationship because of it.Does size matter to any of you guys?
Question for gay people
Would you support polygami? As in that you are allowed to marry multiple people as long it is consensual between everyone involved.I know there are not many people that want to marry multiple people but I would just find it outrageous and hypocritical for someone who is gay to not support it. You can basicly use every single argument for gay marriage as for polygami yet no one even seems to think about it. Why is that?
Accepted a dare to do a webcam show
And that I'd have someone directing the show of a camsite like Chaturbate. How do I go about finding a dude to "direct" me for this webcam show? Supposed to happen in a few hours.
Does size matter with any of you?
I have a cock that is a little under average and I feel like I won't be able to get in a relationship with another guy because of it.Does a cock size matter to you?
Anyboy watching The Magicians? Loving Eliot's storyline?
I've been hooked on The Magicians since the first season. It's really an awesome show. I'll be honest, I was pretty neutral toward Eliot then, but I've really come to like him this season and his story is pretty hilarious. I especially like the latest development with him and the king of Loria. How about you guys though?
I would like a gay friend.
I'm a straight Bi curious guy, and would like someone to talk to about the exciting things of a mans body. I'm 20 and new to this
Gay sex with men. Our culture drives me crazy.
I am a gay man in my twenties and have had a boyfriend for 10 years - he is the most wonderful human being I know and we have a really happy life together. Since the past couple of years, I increasingly feel the interest/urge to have sexual experiences with other men. In all areas of life, I value diversity, variety and a multitude of options - yet when it comes to sexuality, our society is so incredibly backwards and restrictive. It is the mutual understanding of my boyfriend and myself to not cheat on each other. However, I fear telling him how I feel would destroy the beautiful relationship we have and I don't want this to happen in any case. Consider me spoiled - but yes, I do want it all. I want a stable, secure relationship AND a variety of sexual experiences and I deem it to be very, very natural.In ancient Greece, Rome, also Syria and other places, it was commonplace for men to have a stable partner and several "friends" for sex - usually the man had a wife, however it was normal to also engage with other men just for the pure joy and pleasure of it. No man found this to be "gross", as some call it today. How can it be that our culture has devolved so much in this regard? People are not happy with it, and everybody cheats on each other - a sure sign that our current way of living doesn't work.Also, why are straight men so fucking damn afraid of at least trying out gay sex with a good friend? I understand having preferences, but to outright say "I'm not into that" without even having tried it is just beyond me - the only thing reasonable is to identify here a very unfortunate influence by the Church and the teachings of past/older generations when it comes to the upbringing of our youth. For God's sake, I may suspect that I don't like cherries, but I don't panically avoid them, I may try them out and then decide. Primitive, restrictive and unenlightened culture right here!I've had a good male friend who says he's straight and not into men. I just don't understand this at all. I mean, I wouldn't mind having sexual experiences with a woman - why the hell not? Maybe I wouldn't get hard, but I could please her with my mouth or whatever and it would still be fun. Why are we so strict? Sexuality is not binary, it's a spectrum and science continues to prove that. Sometimes I even maintain the thought of abducting this friend and force him to have gay sex - not necessarily with me, but with another man and I just watch and enjoy the scenery - I would see it as in his own best interests. Practical and legal (and somewhat ethical) reasons prevent me from planning an according arrangement.So if anyone can relate to my situation, you know how it feels to be stuck. You don't want your relationship to break, but you also don't want to completely forego sexual variety FOREVER, for the entirety of the only life you have. Ideally, I would find somebody who is in the same situation as me and thinks like me, but there are so many factors that come into play that render a suitable encounter virtually impossible: - Not sure whether he's crazy and tries to kill me in the end - Not sure whether he's healthy - He should be reasonably intelligent and somewhat enigmatic - otherwise it's huge turnoff. - He should be fit and attractive, like myself - hard to find.So yeah, that's basically it. Just wanted to sound off. If there is somebody who can identify with this, you are invited to contact/answer/comment.
I, 31, sometimes have confidence issues with regard to dating [cut-down to relevant parts].
I am 31, from the United Kingdom.I have Asperger's Syndrome - but that is not the main issue here, it is only included as it's partially relevant to my situation.My main issue is that I have confidence issues with regard to dating - I can't flirt with people well and am not confident at doing this [and don't want to appear sleazy either].I have never dated anyone in my life [or had sex, for that matter] and this is probably because I had other life issues going on at the time over 10 years ago.You might ask, how does this relate to being gay - well, I am mostly attracted to women, but sometimes to men as well, although on a probability scale it would probably be more likely I would date a woman [but there have been times, very occasionally, when I have been attracted to men - however, the types of men I am attracted to is less clear-cut then the types of women I am attracted to]. I have realized I have this attraction and there's nothing wrong with it.My confidence issues tend to be a worry, which probably sounds wrong, but I worry they will think "He's not really straight enough for me" or "He isn't gay enough for me".I am being myself, nothing else.Part of the problem is where to meet single people other than online dating [I can't just rely on that option, it's the easy option, but I have to interact with people in-person too] - especially as my area doesn't have any real LGBT scene [being located near Wigan, this is true] and I don't really have time at the moment to visit gay bars due to various other projects etc. Homophobia is a partial worry, even though I'm not sure if my area has it that much.I would appreciate any advice and guidance on how to become more confident in this area of my life, as, in general, I am ready to date, but finding the opportunities to meet single people is hard [as a commuter it's even harder to, as well].
I can't accept my own sexuality
I'm an 18 year old male and i will finish school soon. I will go to University then. Im so excited to meet new people and maybe to start my first relationship ever there. Also, I'm gay. I'm sure that my family would accept my sexuality, they are very tolerant. My mother even said once that she would accept that. But I can't accept the fact that I'm gay. I just don't want to be gay (no offense). I know that being gay is not a decision you make, you are born with your sexuality. I was never interested in girls since i can think. After watching gay porn, i feel guilty and embarrassed (again, no offense). I always have the feeling that i don't want to be gay but I can't change it. This feels very depressing and I can't handle that feeling. I never told anybody (except the internet) that I'm gay and i think nobody knows it. What should i do?Sorry for any mistakes, i had a bad English teacher
What are your ways to stop thinking about someone?
More specifically, about someone you really like but know that you won't ever be together with them.This is my situation now - I really like a guy who ignores me pretty often, and even if I know there's no chance for me to start a relationship with them, I still think about them.Sure, some activities gets my mind off them for a while, but this doesn't really work for me cause I actually manage to think about them while doing said activities, for example if I'm hanging out with my friends, I imagine how it would be if he would be with us, etc.Hope you understood me, and I'd love to hear your ways on this case. Maybe that will help me too.
How can I find people like me?
Hey! The thing is that I live in a country whose population is mostly homophobic. So, finding new friends like me(lgbt) is very hard for me. I don't like the apps like grindr or hornet because let's be real those apps aren't the best place where you can find someone to talk or share things. Is there anything that can help me find new friends? Should any of you guys wants to talk to me, just message me.
2017. március 24., péntek
Some kids want me to start blowing them regularly.
So a couple days ago I was talking to this guy on the baseball team. And idk how it got on this. But we were talking about blowjobs and then he pointed out that im gay. And I saw where he was going so I offerd him some head. And damn was it great, he's sexy. After it was over he said we should do it more often. The next day I guess he told some friends and 4 other guys wanted some. And these kids are fucking sexy, I've always admire them. So I did and the original kid as well yesterday. And again today and he said he could get more guys who would accept it if I wanted. I said yes cause im loving this tbh, one of the other guys is coming to my house later for some more. But I feel like im turning into a slut and they could hold this over me at school.
What are these cities like?
Hello r/gay, I'm currently a senior and am trying to choose between colleges to attend next year. One aspect I'm taking into account is how LGBT friendly the cities the schools are in are as well as how active the younger community is in these cities. As of right now I am leaning more towards the school in Minneapolis Minnesota. I am mainly attracted to this school because it is in a city that might have something of a gay community while my town of less than 1000 people has nothing. Any thoughts on Minneapolis would be greatly appreciated.
idk if im over thinking this or what.
My best friend and I have literally been friends since like birth. Our parents were friends since they were really young and he literally live behind me. We hang out all the time. I remember when I told him that im gay. He got really mad at me, that I thought he wouldn't be ok with it. Nothing really changed about it. We would joke about it sometimes, and he's fine with me talking to him about boys and actually want me to. Which I thought was weird cause he would want detail about sexual interaction. And you know we do typical guy stuff like westle and stuff. But we would do things like sit in our underwear on the bed while we played video games, Which I always assumed cause were pretty much like brothers. But recently I've notice things like him staring at me, mostly at my crotch. Complimenting my body and stuff like that, which you know, were close, I've thought nothing of it. We drive to school together and heslept through his alarm. I went to wake him up and he was in breifs with some pretty impressive wood. He was getting dress and he switch underwear which we've been naked infront of each other before but not when one of us was hard and I was obviously staring. He walked up to me and said make a move if I wanted some and then laugh and got dressed. When we got to school we sat in my car for a few minutes. Mostly to gather our stuff and he pointed out my staring and said as time have gone ive gotten worst at hiding it. And then he put his hand on my crotch and said especially in my pants. And then he got out and walked toward school. So i'm pretty sure he's gay or maybe just want sex. Which I've always been attracted to him, but he's like a brother to me but if I was to say I never thought about sucking him, that would be a lie.......
Is it offensive when tv/movies portral homosexual as being flamboyant?
I'm heterosexual but I've met more personality of Will than Jack. assuming you've seen Will and Grace
Does your dick grow?
Am a 18 year Kenyan boy and my dick is around 7 inches. From what I have seen from porn is that black men have really huge dicks like 9 inches +. Is it my age or will my dick grow longer?
Preparations for anal masturbation?
Basically the topic, can you please give advice on what should I do in order to begin? Mandatory and desirable. Thanks!
Should've Rejected That Blowjob!!
Guys I've been so scared since last 2.5 months since I allowed a man gave me unprotected blowjob during a BDSM party. I've been so careful during the past years since I became an adult and got tested for the first time, but now I have to live in horror again TT:Dear God, if you give me one more chance to live without HIV/STDs, I promise you I'll never do any unprotected oral/anal sex again
Having a crush on my best friend
I never thought I'd like someone I've known for a long time cos usually I'd think of them as a friend. However, recently I've started to develop feelings for a close friend I've known for over four years...We met four years ago in uni. We did the same degree and have similar backgrounds so we and a few other friends quickly formed a pretty close social circle. We are both Asian and come from pretty conservative cultures so neither of us are out to our friends (I didn't know he was gay when I first met him). He's a really nice guy with a relatively reserved personality and really good manners. He works out a lot so he is in pretty good shape and all the girls find him attractive. However, in the past four years he's never dated anyone (at least not to our knowledge) so our mutual friends all just assume he has super high standards. When people say they want to introduce girls to him, girls who find him attractive would just say "I'm sure he doesn't need help".I had this assumption for a while too, thinking he was probably just really focused on his studies, until two years ago, to my surprise, when I was checking out the app store on my phone, I found a section by accident where I could see all the apps rated/recommended by my friends. I saw a gay dating app rated 4 stars by him. I was quite surprised but didn't think too much about it, because to be honest he's not really my type. At this point we were already pretty good friends, so I didn't want to tell anyone about it. I understood how conservative people from his culture could be.A year ago, we had both graduated and moved to a big city for work. Both of us were new to this big city so we started hanging out one on one more with each other, as we didn't have many friends here. We became even closer than before but I never wanted to let him know that I knew he was gay, nor did I find it necessary for me to come out to him. Interestingly, I randomly checked the app store again and saw another gay dating app rated by him. I was quite amused by his habit of rating his apps... Though I'd known that he was gay for a little while, that served as another confirmation that dispelled any doubt about it.A few months later, I decided to give tinder a try. I guess anyone who's reading this can guess where this is headed...I saw his profile!!! I guess he was really eager to meet someone lol (and failed at this being closeted thing). But this time it's a bit different, because previously I had only seen the apps he rated without seeing his actual profiles/pics on those apps, whereas on tinder he actually had quite a few clear face pics. To my surprise, one of them was one of me and him. I didn't know how I was supposed to feel about that.Last week we had a farewell dinner with him because he was leaving for a new job in another city. Our mutual friend and I decided to print some group photos and get them framed as a gift for him. When he looked at the photos I had printed for him, he looked at the one of just me and him (the one he had on his tinder profile), and said he really liked that photo. I felt quite moved somehow.After dinner, we and two other friends walked together to the train station. Conveniently, these two other friends went straight to their respective platforms right after saying goodbye to him, leaving just the two of us at the concourse. I thought I'd just say goodbye to him and give him a brief hug. But to my surprise, he stood in the middle of the concourse, looked me in the eye, and talked to me rather slowly in a very soft tone. He said he could show me around if I went to the city he was moving to. I felt quite touched so I gave him a pretty solid hug, said all the best to him, and then walked towards my platform. Before I walked down the stairs, I looked back and saw him looking at me, waving me goodbye.After I got on the train, I started wondering what had just happened. I never thought about "us" for the past four years, but I was touched and felt a bit sad that he was leaving. Then I realised, I've been trying to find the right one for so long without realising that we are probably the most compatible people out of all my friends and of all the guys I've hung out, slept or gone on a date with over the past four years.I thought about this for a while, so I decided to text him the night before his flight. In the text message, I wished him all the best and said "I wanted to say some things I'm not sure if I should say at all...I know we are both very private people and rarely talk about our private lives to each other or other people. I just wanted to let you know that I think you're a very special person and I'm sure I'll miss you. And I really like that photo (of us) too." He replied the next morning stating he felt lucky to have me as one of his best friends and that he would "try to come back to [our city] soooooooon[sic]!!!".I feel extremely conflicted now. This friendship is definitely one of the best. For me, that also means that if we date, we probably won't fight too much as I'm sure our personalities match. I definitely have feelings for him now but he's so closeted there's no way I can know if he feels the same. He could be not interested in me at all or just too closeted or feel too afraid to ruin this friendship like me...I don't think anyone can offer any solution to this problem since he's so hard to read. I just thought I'd share this story here and see whether there were people in the same boat... Love is a difficult thing, isn't it?
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