Yes, I know that as good little kinksters, we should talk about what we're into explicitly before trying to play with anyone. But I think most of us have those moments when you're at some sort of vanilla social function, and some sort of energy draws you to a person. Sometimes it turns out they're into what you're into, and that's cool. But there are times and places when it's simply not practical to make small-talk about your kinks in an explicit fashion.
The gay community has developed certain trends or "visual signifiers" they use to help attract one another. It's not a fail-safe method, it just makes things easier. I've wondered if the BDSM community has their own version of this?
So what are some social cues, for you, that someone may be kinky? (For example, are tattoos and piercings still a thing, or are those so commonplace now as to be virtually meaningless?) And do you feel like you can sense whether someone is a dom or sub and be right most of the time, or is that just a crapshoot until you have "the conversation"?
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