2016. június 30., csütörtök
I need help coming out to my friends
I'm already out to my parents but I have no idea how to come out to my friends. Any help is welcome.
Is loosing your virginity that important?
Im very concerned about when I should loose my virginity. Should I just wait till I find someone special or should I sleep with a guy on Grindr? Or does it really matter?
Stop the Hate: 49 Celebrities Honor 49 Victims of Orlando Tragedy in Ryan Murphy-Produced Tribute
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nq6xRZlCSoM
[ADVICE NEEDED] How to Be Serious
ISSUE: I had dinner & saw a movie with this guy who I met on Tinder. It was -incredible-. We cuddled, kissed and I held him through the entire movie as he reclined on my chest. I told him EVERY single vulnerable thing about me (which was scary for him to know at first, but he kept in contact with me).He says he likes me. We're supposed to see each other tomorrow. But, some days he doesn't respond to my texts at all and other days he'll respond once the day is over. He doesn't return any of my calls.I'm going crazy because this is a guy I really fell for and I don't want to accept that he prioritizes other things like Facebook status updates over responding to me. How do I turn the tide here, because I'm already falling for him. It's difficult to explain in a rational sense but I just feel it.
My experience with gay dating
(Warning: long story-ish rant and it may seem offensive, but is meant to be rhetorical and sarcastic at times.)So, for those of you who don't know (or never experienced it), I'm going to explain what gay male dating is like. This is from my personal experiences, but I'll try to keep it very general so that others can potentially relate and share their similar stories.I finally come out of the closet and begin my (online) dating life fairly young, when I reach legal adulthood. This is after years of being bombarded with images of "the ideal, attractive man" in the media. Certain ideals are similar for both straight women and gay men, but the paths split eventually.I have to keep this scraggly patch of pubes on my face. I get the urge to shave sometimes, because I think I could try out a better look. But I can't, because beards are so sought-after and loved in men in the gay men's world that I have to keep it. My worth has been having it. The only compliments that I get are about it. Apparently, my bare face is not good enough. As much as I always struggled with my self image, specifically my facial features, there are times when I like it. But I can never see it.Straight people ask me why I don't shave. I have to tell them that I'm gay and actively looking to date. They still don't exactly get it. It's weird to explain. Straight women aren't even totally for beards like that (though they made a huge comeback in the straight world in recent years). God forbid I have a job interview... I obviously choose a better opportunity in life over the dating scene, but I'll get no attention for a good month until it grows back.I have very little style options. As a male, society says I have few to begin with. As a gay male who wants a date, I have even less. Hair has to be below a certain length. I can no longer grow my hair out. Facial hair is a necessity for most, and could earn me more attractiveness points over someone who may have a nicer face but can't grow any fuzz. Everything I wear has to be really masculine but also somewhat "stylish". I still haven't figured that part out yet. No hair dye, weird piercings, absolutely no guyliner, even for Halloween... one picture of you wearing that ends up online, and other guys see it... goodbye to any dates.Oddly, there is supposed to be a "gay community" that allows freedom of expression, without restriction to gender norms. This doesn't actually exist in the dating world.My body type is not liked. Bigger, bulkier bodies are usually the thing. Not too obese, of course. But some fat ("bear" type), some muscle. Smaller skinny guys are out, especially if they don't play sports. My skinny-fat with slim shoulders and 5'6" height gets me virtually nowhere.I have to try and fake hobbies that makes me more interesting and masculine. Sometimes I just exaggerate a bit. I went on a hike a few years ago, can I put hiking? Can I extend that to camping even though I never went camping? I'd probably like it, so it isn't exactly lying. Sometimes, I read long wikipedia articles, and then claim interest in something based on that. I can name a few different types of fish and if they're in season, where they live, etc. so I'll put fishing. I see a guy's profile that says "if you'd rather watch RuPaul instead of NBA, fuck off". While I don't like either of those, I'd sure as hell rather watch a week's worth of RuPaul's show than even 5 minutes of most sports. Oh, that reminds me, I've watched baseball games with family, so I can put down that I watch sports.It isn't even just the masculinity thing, either. I can't be seen as a boring homebody. Netflix & chill is only for NSA hook-ups. Everyone else needs a guy who is outgoing and social. How exactly can I fake that though? Fake it til I make it, I suppose. My weird introverted quirks are not liked. Well, every guy nowadays claims they're "nerdy" seeking the same, but they're looking at pics of guys with 6-pack abs in video game tees. Not actual nerdy people.So I make a dating profile- what do I put in it? It seems that any wrong wording of text will turn everybody off. I'm scared. I'm deathly scared of ending up alone forever... I don't have straight friends. They want nothing to do with me. So maybe this is my only chance.I finally settle on a profile text and a picture of me that looks okay... not my best side, but not awful. A few blank profiles message me if I'm looking "right now". I just block or ignore. Hours later... nothing. Okay, I gotta be patient.I get some conversational messages. I look at the pics. Well, his face looks kinda weird. Teeth are sticking out too much, lips are too big, nose is too big, receding hairline. I shouldn't answer. Don't wanna give him the wrong idea. I mean, there's nothing wrong with that. It's a part of dating. Straight people do it all the time. His personality seems okay, but, I'm not gonna lie and make him think I'm attracted to him. I should just block. It's benefiting him that way.Another blank profile messages me, but wanting conversation. The stats listed make him sound potentially attractive. I'll bite. He eventually sends a pic. Um... oops. Maybe I spoke too soon. I'll just stop replying. He'll get the hint.I got a new message. The guy's profile pic makes him look very feminine and flamboyant. I don't want to risk that. He may have that really femmy lisp. I'll just block. I can find a guy who doesn't have it.I get home from work one day, and get a message from another guy. His picture is dimly lit, but he may be okay looking. He wants to meet up right away just for chat. I'll bite. So I meet up with him,... he's a flamer in person. I don't think I'll be meeting with him again. He isn't my type physically either. He keeps sending messages, so I'll just block him so he gets the hint.A few attractive guys messaged me, but stopped replying. I guess I bored them. I bring up wanting to meet up, they don't reply, but they seem to have interest. I'm feeling lonely, so I'll be proactive for once and try to message some cute guys. I won't go too out of my league, but I'm sure I can get a guy who looks decent. After all, I'm told I look good.So a week passed by, and out of all the guys I sent messages to, none replied. Well, I'm sure more will make profiles and come around here. I can't be that bad, can I?So now I pretty much blocked 70% of the profiles within 100 miles of me. Another 20% blocked me, I think. No big deal. As I said, people move to/from this area often. I'll find more guys.I get a message from a guy who doesn't look very attractive, but we have some stuff in common, and he really seems to like me. I'll meet up with him.So he really liked me, and I guess I was feeling so lonely I became a bit... desperate. Hate to admit it. We began officially dating. I have zero attraction to him, but maybe it'll build over time. Sex isn't good at all. I wish I could just watch porn and jack off. He's always horny and gets upset when I don't want any.It's been over a year with this guy. I feel like I can make a profile again, just to see what's out there. I won't actually hook up or anything. Oh look, my boyfriend has a profile too. And he's online now. I guess I wasn't giving him enough of what he wanted.So we finally broke up. He was crying, I couldn't care less. Never liked him. I think he was just into me because I was the best looking guy he could get. I can find better than him, right? I've learned my lesson, I won't fake attraction to anyone or date a guy if I'm not too into him. While I like pleasing others, I need to do for myself too.And then the cycle starts again.I see profiles with their preferences listed in them. Everyone on sites like reddit and tumblr always hate on profiles like that. I don't need to do that. Besides, with a block button at hand, it isn't necessary.Though, upon reading these profiles, it seems we all look for similar... and how many of us actually fit that bill? While I don't believe in limiting myself, I won't date someone I'm not attracted to. Remember the last time I tried that? And besides, I'm only 23, I have time to mature and change. I'll date ugly people later on. Let me be young and go for eye candy!I mean, I don't need or want a really macho guy, just a guy who is normal. We all know what normal is, right? Not a flamer, not really femmy. Just a guy who can pass for being straight.I'm not a Body Nazi either. I'm fine with guys with extra fat. But it can't be too obese. It has to be like, under 200 lbs. And no sagging man-tits, either. And I don't like guys who are too skinny. But I'm not looking for gym muscle guys.A guy with an average face is fine, just no awkward features that stick out. I'm not looking for more than I can provide. I think I'm good enough for all of that, right?And I'm not an ageist, I just think most older guys don't look good. I wanna get a good looking guy while my looks are in their prime. If he looks younger than his actual age, it's fine. But the guys hitting on me all look like they belong in retirement homes! I can do better than that, right? I deserve better.And I'm not saying that any of these people are beneath me or anything. I just feel like I'm a decent guy and there's no reason I can't get a guy who looks decent. I'm not that picky. I have realistic expectations. It's not my fault that seemingly the majority can't fit them. At least, not where I live. I wish I could date straight guys. My options are so limited. All the guys into me are either ugly, too obese for me, way too feminine for me, or way too old-looking. I'm not even picky though.At least I don't think I am.Nobody replied to any of my messages again. I guess I'll just stay home tonight anyway.~fin(I realize that a lot of issues were not touched upon. I wanted to make this more general and easily relatable to any reader.)
Need Help and Opinion
Hello I would be grateful if you could give me an opinion if my friend who just came out of the closet likes me because im no really sure... The first hint was when he asked me to go on a trip to the seaside with him and 2 more friends. There we had 3 beds (2 single ones and one for a couple) and he insisted on sleeping in the double bed with him and since it was too hot there he slept shirtless. In the nights i sometimes woke up and noticed him being closer than he was to me before we went to sleep and often felt touching. He has a closed small circle of friends and in school I'm the only guy he talks and sits with. He often laughs at jokes even I don't feel are funny which I heard is an frequent sing of someone liking a person.Thank you!
Light-hearted gay tv?
Hello! I'm sorry to say that shows like Orange is the New Black, Jessica Jones, Orphan Black, Brooklyn 9 9, Modern Family, Shameless, Cuffs, Sirens and How to Get Away with Murder have spoiled me.Seeing so many gay characters on tv who are so incredibly well fleshed out and actually relevant to the main plot (as opposed to being comic relief or token diversity) has made it impossible for me to go back to my old tv habits. Basically I only watch stuff now if it has gay people in it and they matter.Unfortunately this limits my options greatly. I have scoured the internet for all the gay-inclusive tv-series I could find but I'm kinda stuck now (I've had a lot of free time on my hands lately so I'm running out of options at this point).Does anyone know any worthwhile series for me to waste my life with?
Can anyone be a twink?
I was talking to some guy the other day, and he was saying that black people cannot be twinks, sole reason being their skin color. Do you guys agree with this, or believe black people can be twinks? If so, why do you think they are not categorized as such?
I dont know if Im gay...and I have a girlfriend. help?
I apologize in advance if this gets a bit long. Im a 20 year old male and Im constantly thinking about gay sex and cock. Usually when I jack off, I can only get off if I think about cock or watch gay porn. I do sometimes watch straight porn but its not as exciting for me or exciting at all. Im currently in a relationship with my girlfriend. We have been going out for about 2 months now. When I was single, I did have a grindr and talked to guys but was too nervous and scared to actually go through and meet them and have sex or just hang out. I met a few of really nice guys. Im just conflicted because I'm not sure if I'm gay, bisexual, or what the fuck I am. I can notice when a guy is attractive but often I stare at girls in public. I just find the beautiful and eye catching? I have looked up certain actors or guys I find attractive to just look at pictures of them and have thought wow I wouldn't mind getting fucked by them. The funny thing is that my best friend (she's a girl) gets often asked by her friends or people that don't know me if I'm gay. Idk if its because I'm always with her and we seem really close to people assume I'm gay. Also because I have good hair and a good fashion sense. Im also not afraid to be myself and do thinks that some guys may be afraid to do because of "masculinity" like actually acknowledging that a dudes beard is awesome or a guy has a good sense of style and is handsome or that puppies are cute animals. Im really conflicted and this has been bothering me so much lately and I'm so desperate. I tried to stop watching gay porn because I thought maybe thats where my problem lies but I keep breaking that. If i see anything gay on the internet or anything that hints to it, I get a boner and Im tempted to jack off and look at gay porn. another weird thing is when I get high, I act gay. I don't hold back how I feel and I go watch gay porn or look at gay porn blogs or talk to gay guys (no flirting. just talking to see how they are) or play with my asshole. Probably tmi but might as well let everything all hang out. Help?
I'm having such a hard time coming to grips with being gay. Holy shit. [tragically long post]
First off, this is a throwaway, if that wasn't painfully apparent by the username. I actually know the username and password to this account though, so any advice is welcomed.Long story short, I had a crush on my best friend when I was a kid. I brought up the idea of us "being gay together." Other kids overheard, called me faggot and etc, threw things at me, bullied me, etc. We were young, kids are cruel, whatever. But it was horrifying as a little kid trying to figure life out.Years later [middle school or so], I had a couple experiences with a buddy of mine. Other folks found out, bullying and violence and etc. Started doing drugs heavily at like 12 to try to cope, teenage years crushed by addiction, whatever. This isn't really a sob story.Around that time, my sister found my [absent] father online and made contact, I was 13 the first time we spoke, ended up going to visit him. He is just fucking unfortunately southern, and of course I wanted to have a solid relationship with him, so I took a real shot to the pride when he would rant about how "faggots are ruining america" and etc.When I was like 23, my neighbor [an absolutely gorgeous drag queen] and I hooked up after a night kickin' it with a bottle of wine and a Newcastle mini keg. It wasn't surprising, it wasn't shocking, it wasn't bizarre. It felt natural and comfortable, though we did not have sex, just passed out together after heavily making out. We were drunk as fuck, and I fuckin' dare anyone to drink half a bottle of wine and half a pony of Newcastle to follow through. Morning came, we kissed and she went home. I was horrible to her after that. I avoided her like she had fucking leprosy, and I'm almost 100% certain I gave the impression that I was disgusted. In a way, I was, but it was with myself. If you haven't picked it up by now, I'm an incredibly sexually and emotionally repressed person, and I couldn't handle it, so I haunted bars for a few weeks after and went home with strange to convince myself that I had made a disgusting drunken mistake, that I was straight, and that there was absolutely no way I could possibly be gay.These days, I'm 26. I'm an extremely aggressive musician, writer, drinker, I skate, etc. I live with my girlfriend that I love dearly, but I can't fucking run from this anymore. I'm still attracted to women, but I can't get past my own discomfort with my sexuality, and most of all, my dishonesty about it - specifically with myself. I'm totally distraught over our relationship because I just know at some point this is going to come up, and it's going to break her heart.I guess what I'm trying to ask here is why is being gay so fucking difficult? My own inability to cope with my sexuality is fucking ruining my life and pushing me to destroy myself, and I can't stand it.
I need help. It may be a little TMI inside but I can't really talk to many people I know IRL about this.
I was watching OITNB. There was a scene, they were in a sauna, a gay male sauna. These guys came in full frontal nude. It made me feel a bit weird. I decided to look up something real quick. Nude dudes. I started gaining an erection. Am I gay or bi? I still am attracted to girls aswell. I don't know what this means.
First Time
Hello everyone, I'm virgin and kind of interested in guy (more like bi interested in a first experience), I'm really inexperienced and I don't know what do I need to do (In case I try anal or oral).Do you guys have some advices or anything ?
I'm going back into the closet. Do not try to talk me out of it.
I used to be openly gay and proud, but after what happened in Orlando, I went back into the closet and have decided to completely renounce my homosexuality altogether and do everything possible to turn straight.Say what you want, but my mind is fully made up. I don't feel safe being gay anymore.This is something I have to do. My life is more important than my sexuality.
2016. június 29., szerda
Wanna talk
Hello there people I'm Nick and I'm 15 looking for gay peeps to talk too not sexual or anything (which isn't all together ruled out...). So if anyone wants to chat PM me!
Visiting Boston!
Two gay dudes visiting Boston tonight and tomorrow night (Wednesday and Thursday). From what I've researched Boston's gay scene is busy night specific. So I'm looking for info on what places might be poppin?Thanks everyone!
New nickname for white gay men that have racial 'preferences'
white walkers.pretty accurate(if you're offended by this I'm sorry but I just had a guy say to me, "sorry, I have no interest in dark meat". I'm not a steak sheesh)
Overwatch Gaymers?
Any out there for pc? I'm a gay teen looking for some fellow overwatch gaymers to play with. New headset coming in on Thursday so I'll be able to voice chat and flirt and stuff. My steam is DaSode(pic is a skull) and my battle.net is Sora#13432
prob with dating apps
Am I the only one who has a problem with dating apps like grindr and Gayvox that even if I have my location set they still give people that are like hundreds of miles away ?
Hi there, new here and had a quick queston...
If this is the wrong place just let me know, but do any of you lovely people know where i can buy some used underwear? (its just my kink) thanks in advance :)
Worth a repeat.
On her radio show, Dr. Laura said that, as an observant Orthodox Jew, homosexuality is an abomination according to Leviticus 18:22, and cannot be condoned under any circumstance. The following response is an open letter to Dr. Schlesinger, written by a US man, and posted on the Internet. It's funny, as well as quite informative:Dear Dr. Laura:Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God's Law. I have learned a great deal from your show, and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination. End of debate. I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some other elements of God's Laws and how to follow them.Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can't I own Canadians?I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness - Lev.15: 19-24. The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord - Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself, or should I ask the police to do it?A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination, Lev. 11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don't agree. Can you settle this? Are there 'degrees' of abomination?Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle-room here?Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? Lev.24:10-16. Couldn't we just burn them to death at a private family affair, like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)I know you have studied these things extensively and thus enjoy considerable expertise in such matters, so I'm confident you can help.Thank you again for reminding us that God's word is eternal and unchanging.Your adoring fan,James M. Kauffman,Ed.D. Professor Emeritus,Dept. Of Curriculum, Instruction, and Special Education University of VirginiaP.S. (It would be a damn shame if we couldn't own a Canadian.)
Anxiety over top or bottom
This subreddit has helped me figure out that more likely than not I am internally repressing my homosexuality despite the fact that I call myself gay and willingly look at guys... Thank you anti gay and sex-negative up bringing! But that's one thing killing my sex drive. that's killing my libido, IM GUESSNG (I never want sex, but I can look at porn and be fine... Not healthy) I feel anxious over where I'd be during sex, and if I'd be able to please my partner (forever alone :3)Why do I feel anxious over top or bottom? I have no idea, probably because I feel a lack of identity or purpose because of a number of things. The fact that I never have the drive for real guys makes me worry about it on top. I guess it's easier said than done to get rid of roles in a relationship.Its weird, because when I cum, I like instinctually give in to certain things based on my position. If I'm laying on my back on my bed or something, believe it or not, when I cum, the fingers of my left hand will automatically rush towards that area underneath me between my ass and my penis and stimulate it. On other occasions with stronger orgasms, the fingers have gone up my butt too.However, if I'm standing up or upright in some fashion, I'll start humping nothing as I cum... all from within. Very strange. The strength of it varies with the strength of my orgasms. I always always have stronger orgasms while upright, every one of my best orgasms has been this way, though prostate stimulation does indeed feel very good. Even with it though, stimulating my prostate never feels as good as when I cum standing up. Maybe it's a position thing, not sure. Do any of you guys have stronger orgasms in different positions?I'm not sure how I can get rid of this, and I also want to get rid of this internalized repression and finally be me and enjoy myself! Any ideas on what I can do?
Trouble accepting myself
Hi guys,this is my first post on Reddit, so I apologize in advance if it's not what it should be like. I just need to get some things out and maybe ask for some advice.I'm gay...well, there it goes. I knew this (or should have known) basically since I was like 15 or so, but for many years I have lived in complete denial. Only recently (well if you can call 2 years recently...) I started to try to accept it, but I feel like I still haven't managed to do it. It's been really hard, especially because I live in a quite conservative country and an even more conservative catholic family. I know I can't come out to them, because it would break their hearts and, well, I still love them and I don't want to hurt them. I know they put their hopes in me and don't want to let them down like this and bring shame upon them. But the thought of staying alone my whole epmty life or pretending to be someone else is not very pleasant either. I feel like I don't even know what to do anymore with my life, I got completely stuck in one mental place, got severe depressions, started failing school (by which I basically let my family down anyway...). Sometimes I feel like I lost all hope that things could ever get better... But with the little hope I may have left I'm reaching out here because I don't know any gay guys or generally no one that I feel would understand me. Do you have any tips or something, how to accept it...or any kind of advice? I probably don't even know what I'm expecting of this, maybe I just needed to get it out after years of it rotting inside me...
any advice helps
Hi! My name is Thomas and I'm from rink a dink town Tennessee. I'm 19, gay, and sort of shy. I'd really just like to know some great tips on how to meet other gay folks in my area, whether it be for friends or dates. I'd also like to stay away from the use of apps like grindr and such. Thank you so much for any feed back! No advice is too small!
2016. június 28., kedd
Gay guy in Forestry, need help
I am a professional in the forest industry in Canada. I am noticing the guys in my office using the word faggot, one who has said several terribly outlandish things and has no idea how they sound to me. The classic example is when he described how he wanted to beat the shit out of a larger effeminate man who was swishing his hipa back and forth while walking through a mall. He explained 'not because he's gay, because he thought he was so hot.'I have always tried to laugh it off, and tell stories about me and my husband that show we are just like hetrosexual couples. Tried to educate rather then get mad and bark outrage and run to HR.I don't know what to do.If I cause a stink I will alienate my coworkers and possibly build a bad reputation in industry.If I do nothing I feel like I am failing our community. I want to be an ambassador, not a door mat.None of them mean it from a place of putting anyone down for being gay, they just keep using poor choices of words and its grating.Small company, 12 people in a smallish office.What do you all think I should do?
What the hell?
So this is a very pointless post, I am aware of that. It's stupid to ask for opinions or advice on something like this, but idk, maybe it'll help me feel a little better.I'm in NYC now, 21 years old, and have been using Grindr. Only hooked up with one guy so far (I'm really picky) but have a few guys I'm chatting with, etc. I legitimately don't want to sound cocky here, but for frame of reference, I am good looking -- a little twinky, surfer/beach vibe, etc. So I get a lot of messages and stuff and I'm pretty detached from it. Like, if a guy doesn't respond to me or something I'm just like whatever. Doesn't hurt my feelings.Enter this guy who messaged me a week ago and was just different. He didn't chat me up about sex or hooking up. We just talked. He told me about his life, his interests, where he went to school, what he liked to do, where he liked to go, what he did for work, etc. And he asked me these things too, and paid me compliments that were really genuine and it just was really nice. We clicked. At the end he was like "so what's your type of guy" and I told him basically him and he said I'm his type -- cute, fun and smart. So then he said he needed to go to bed and we'd talk tomorrow.It's been a week and it went from 'seen 6 days ago' to 'offline' and I feel like the biggest idiot in the world for even still thinking about it. He was just too good to be true, I guess? I mean I've had hook-ups and quasi-relationships for sure but our conversation, for some weird reason, seemed like the beginning of something cool and genuine and maybe something I'd been waiting for.Idk this just kinda sucks haha I never really care about the emotional aspect like this but I swear it felt like we had some kinda connection. Guess he didn't think sooo
It's the same me, but different.
So I'm 25, and I've been attracted to guys for a long time. Hooked up with a few in the past, just kept it 100% to myself. I'm naturally very straight acting, basically a "gay bro". I have dated women in the past but never felt real. I always kind of knew I would end up with a guy, but I just strayed away from all things relationship in the last few years to kind of put the coming out thing off. Like I was confused and not dealing with it was the best way I thought to handle it. I'm not sure if I didn't want to deal with coming out to friends or family, or if I just wasn't ready. Regardless, total rookie move.Anyway, a few months ago, I met a guy who literally changed the entire game for me. He has the most genuine and beautiful soul. He's passionate, outgoing, and corky as hell. I love it. I'm definitely more adventurous than him, but we balance each other out so well. He makes me laugh and smile all the time. I honestly catch myself just staring at him most times with a goofy smile and of course he calls me out in his own corky manner. The feelings are openly mutual which just feels so, nice. I know "nice" is an extremely lame way to describe it but it's the truth. I'm totally and 100% infatuated with him. He's openly gay and has been for a long time. With the way I feel about him, it's not fair to him that I'm not open. In the last few weeks I have been coming out to friends and family at a rapid pace because honestly I don't want to loose him. Ive met all of his friends, and they are great. He doesn't know I wasn't out to anyone at the start of this, and I feel guilty about that, but I have made seriously changes in my life or him. He's met many of my close friends (guys and girls) and they all have loved him. I've received alot of support and it's been a fairly easy process. He makes me want to be the best me I can be, and coming out had to be part of that. I'm a naturally happy person, but I honestly have never been happier. I'm sad I wasted all of this time keeping everything bottled up in regards to my sexuality, but a large part of me thinks I was just waiting for a reason to come out. I DONT KNOW, BUT WHAT I DO KNOW IS YES. JUST YES. I'm ready to be 100% me, with him by my side. Life is an exciting adventure, and I want to take that adventure with him. Our relationship is fairly new, but it's real.To all of those struggling to handle their sexuality, my advice is figure it on your terms.. no one else's. Not everything is black and white. But being your true self feels damn good. And I wish that for everyone.
We don't have sex anymore
I can't remember the last time we had sex. We're two cis men and up until a few months ago, everything was fine. Our sex life was great, we were doing it regularly and satisfying each other. We would do it even if we were tired because we wanted each other. Now I feel like I can barely get my partner aroused. It's like he doesn't want to be with me. He's fine spending time with me and he assures me that he loves me, but sex, he's just like "meh". It makes me feel undesired and not sexy. I don't know what to do. We've only been together for a year and a half and we're both young. I feel like maybe it's because we only see each other once a week but we're planning on moving in together in three months so I'm hoping that will make things better but I'm having second thoughts, like, what if he decides he doesn't want to be with me anymore after we move in? I'm scared and worst of all, as sexually frustrated as a closeted virgin. God.
I am stuck in my attractions.
I'm a gay, 19 year old male struggling with my attractions toward older men. I have never been interested in guys my age, or younger than 45 really, although there has been one 27 year old I liked the look of, but otherwise, guys under 40 really do nothing for me.My attractions are beginning to make me depressed, I just don't know what to do. If I was the type that enjoyed meaningless no strings sex I wouldn't have a problem, but I am a very emotional person that craves cuddles, kisses, intimacy which eventually leads to developing very strong feelings for the guy involved as I have done with a 52 year old man over the last few weeks. My problem is that I'm not sure where any of this leads? - I'm out to my parents (although they do not know that I like older men) and plan to come out to friends soon ish, being gay is really not a problem for me, but liking older men is, since for a start, it's not particularly socially acceptable, and in the long term, it just doesn't work, especially since I am about to go to university.Sorry if this post is a bit dry, but I'm hoping there is someone here that has some advice or has been / is in a similar situation. I just feel a bit stuck and down to be honest because I just do not know what I am supposed to do.Thankyou.
Confusion!
Right, I'm not entirely sure where to begin here, so this might be a bit muddled up. I'm a 28 year old guy, i've been in total denial about my sexuality all my life. I've been out with girls, i've slept with girls, i'm attracted to them but i'm also intensely interested in men. The first person i ever slept with was a guy about twice my age i met on the internet, i was 17, it was outside at night, and it made me feel horrible. Only after i'd cum though, during i quite enjoyed it.Drugs have been a part of my life since i was 14, from then to about a year ago i used something or other pretty much every day. First cannabis, then later harder drugs, mephedrone, ketamine, ecstasy, valium (any benzo really), various prescription opiods, alcohol. All of my using was tied in to how i feel about myself, and to be fair my sexuality has a massive impact on how i feel about myself. I used to use before and after sex, to get myself in the mood, and then to block out how i felt afterwards. I'm not over exaggerating when i say that i hated myself because of it.My using got really out of control a few years ago, when my girlfriend at the time found out about me sleeping with men, or rather a man. I'd cheated on her and she found out, now no one knew about all of this, but of course she told people, who then told other people, and so forth.Anyway, i went to rehab to deal with my using, and while there tried to deal with how i feel about my sexuality. I honestly thought it was something i'd never fully accept, and like i've always done, i thought i could ignore it, repress it, possibly change it.. Now i've been out of rehab 6 month, i've not had sex for more than a year (mainly because of fear that i'll relapse if i do), and i'm well confused about everything.I feel like in the past i've gone about all this completely wrong, the casual sex thing, the internet hook up stuff is no good for me, maybe meeting someone, taking it really slow would be better, but to be honest i'm still quite far from accepting all of it. I figured i'd post something on here to see what, if any, advice people may have. Any (positive) input is hugely appreciated, cheers.
The FBI should answer for the Orlando shooting
So we know the FBI was in contact with the Orlando shooter for at least 10 months in 2014. We know that they contacted the shooter through a paid informant. When the FBI uses paid informants those informants usually try to get the suspect to commit acts of terror-that is how they make the big bucks. They try to get them to plan something and then entrap them and send them off to jail for plotting to commit an act of terrorism. So for at least 10 months, the FBI has some person who is paid to incite the shooter to commit acts of terror, the shooter does not comply and the FBI decides he is not a threat. I want to know what kind of conversations were going on between the shooter and the paid informant, I want to know who the targets of those threats were. Was the reason the investigation didn't go anywhere and the FBI deemed him a non-threat because he was going to target gay people only? If we know anything about the FBI it is that they get a lot of cash from the taxpayers to stop this kind of stuff and now they want more because of this incident. I think the gay community is owed a thorough investigation into what went on during the 10 months the FBI was investigating the shooter.
I feel like I'm becoming gay because it's easy
Is this common?Often times when I go out, if there's even a small amount of gay guys, I'll end up being the only one of my friends getting hit on. It feels good to feel attractive, wanted, and a sense of belonging. It's quite the challenge to feel this way with girls. It's not that girls don't do it for me mentally, it's just that maybe I'm not the most desirable for whatever reason. Maybe I'm being too hard on myself, females have so many options, why would they choose anything but the best? The 6'2" 230lb jacked guy that looks like Chris Hemsworth is usually just as desperate as the 5'6" average looking guy, just maybe the former is better at hiding it. I recently had the luck of basically being escorted by 3 girls throughout Meatpacking District in NYC and it's astonishing how many men approached us. It's mind blowing being on the other end of it instead of being the one approaching you can really smell the desperation.Aside from that, from my experience, gay guys have a much better attitude in general. They're not so standoffish. They're open, and generally are willing to discuss truths instead of constantly bullshitting. Was recently out late night with a couple friends, admittedly we were drunk and being obnoxious as fuck, but we were trying to talk to this group, 2 girls, 1 guy... the girls are just like ugh these people need to get away from us - lo and behold, the guy (probably not gay, but still) is the only one who wasn't a fucking cunt and didn't ignore us.Seriously, I know a lot of people joke about it, but my mind is starting to slowy shift to gay. I find myself spending more time with gay guys and enjoying it. Girls have such strong bitch shields
I still feel for him
Ok... So, back in 4th year high school, there was this one guy that I fell for a few weeks after the first day of class (and he is straight.) He took my phone and found that I had a stache of gay smut. He seems fine with me though. After a few more days, maybe months? He's been teasing me, grabbing my hand and putting it on his... Hmm.. "Part". There was this one event in school where we were asked to wear a uniform of our dream job. While i was just outside the classroom, he instantly pinned me to the wall, and Damn. He smells so nice, and he looks nice when he is closer. And i guess it repeat d several times? It made me fall derply for him. But i knew he was just teasing me, since he knew I was gay. While we were working on a group project (he was in one of our groups) in my house, a friend of mine asked if i was attracted to him, which i responded yes. And in a whim, i whispered 'sexually' near him. I think ive said enough past experience.My problem is that, after we graduated and went to separate colleges, my feelings for him didnt go away. I absolutely have no idea how to get over it, so i thought it would be best to ask here... Ive been thinking of him even after thoseyears. I was one day reminded of him, either a familiar scent or a picture of him he posted in his facebook.
GWM couple ISO other for friendship/dinner/movies/travel
So me and my fiance are a gay male couple, ages 49 and 35, of ten years. We are looking to meet other committed couples for strictly platonic fun and friendship. Surprisingly, this isn't always as easy as we'd like it to be. Where are the other committed/married couples?
Body image problems??
Does anyone else have body image problems?? Look in the mirror and don't like yourself? My butt is too flat, my arms are too skinny, my scars are ugly, my chest is too small... What can I do to have confidence in my body???
The logistics of having sex while traveling
Hey guys,I'll be meeting a guy I've been chatting with for a while next month for a weekend. We'll be sharing a hotel room and probably have sex and I'm a bit unsure on how to prepare for anal. I'll be traveling only with a hand luggage and I feel weird about bringing my douche with me, since I might get asked about it at airport security.How do you guys do it? What would be the easier and least awkward way to get clean while traveling?
The only gay in gaming - A short examination of the sole gay protagonist in all of video games
https://youtu.be/MSL5vQ58zkM
Having strong feelings to cheat
I'm a gay man in an a relationship going towards our nineteenth month. Getting a bit slow and arguments are once a day. Nothing big but irritating nonetheless. I have always been that guy who is on the hornier side and feels a compulsion towards intimate feelings a good amount of the time. Lately I have really REALLY been feeling like I want to try out other guys, have some fun, get nasty. I'm only 20 and at this point I'm scared to be committed to only one guy when there are so many out there. It's such a sick animalistic feeling and I love my boyfriend SO MUCH NO LIE but I still feel this way. I have no idea what to do. He constantly says he will leave me if I cheat (as he should, God knows) but he will also not take a break. Not even for a week. I feel trapped in a relationship even though it is just from sex. What can you guys tell me or help me with? Thanks so much.
2016. június 27., hétfő
My mother's behaviour regarding my sexuality is pretty confusing. Anyone got any advice?
So, getting right to the point, the way I came out, I didn't really even have to come out for my parents to know that I was gay. Let's face it, when you have Lady Gaga posters all over your wall, you obsess over plastic flowers, and you wear floral shirts, you're gay.No, but seriously, I hate to stereotype, but I am a stereotypical gay person. Me and my mother even joke sometimes when we see a hot guy on television or something that "I seen him first!"Yet, despite knowing this, my Mother will still bring up things. She will refer to my future partner as female, she will call some of my interests "fruity", and she will often say things in front of me about how gay marriage should be banned.My mother isn't homophobic at all. She tolerates gay people, I would say. She doesn't understand bisexuality, transsexuality, or transgenderism, but she's come to terms with gay people being gay, and simply being born that way.But I get the feeling she says stuff like this to try and get me to turn straight all of a sudden. Like, there's still a bit of hope inside of her that I'm straight or something.Now, some of you may be thinking that I should just tell her I'm gay so she knows and doesn't confuse it anymore, but on the rare occasions she has asked me, it's always in a very aggressive way. She considers gay men weak, and pitiful in comparison to "real men", and so whenever she asks me, she's kinda asking me whether I'm a weak pussy or something.So, it's hard to say yes. So now I just have to say that I don't know, and am not interested in it, when in reality I actually just want to scream from the top of my lungs that I like cock.It's getting easier, I have to say, and sometimes I can blurt it out casually. I can mention how hot a guy is without conflict. But it's frustrating that she acts so oblivious to it in normal conversation.So, what do you guys suggest I do? Just leave her to come to terms with it or push her into understanding?
Am I the only one who totally HATES being gay?
Hello.. I'm Brazilian, 20 yrs old.. my family doesn't know about me just some close friends (who reacted very well thanks God)The truth is, I love myself, I'm proud of the person I've become, I totally prefer being gay than being racist or a total ass who doesn't treat people well and have 0 respectBuuut.. still .. I hate the fact that I'm gay cause everything is just so much harder.. I can't really tell everybody especially my family because they'll think I'll go straight to hell, I can't really get a boyfriend although I'm a really chill person just because people on Grindr just want hunk men, I can't really be seen with someone on the street because people will look at me like I'm robbing a bank or something, I might face all kinds of prejudice in houses for students and at work, I can't really be who I am all the time depending on who I am with (like at work to keep the job) .. anyways, there are so many disadvantages, not because of us, because there's nothing wrong about that, but because of people who can't just accept the fact that two men fucking each other doesn't change literally anything in their lives..I was just wondering because I see a lot of gays and I feel like none of them hates that.. only me
Am I the only one who totally HATES being gay?
Hello.. I'm Brazilian, 20 yrs old.. my family doesn't know about me just some close friends (who reacted very well thanks God)The truth is, I love myself, I'm proud of the person I've become, I totally prefer being gay than being racist or a total ass who doesn't treat people well and have 0 respectBuuut.. still .. I hate the fact that I'm gay cause everything is just so much harder.. I can't really tell everybody especially my family because they'll think I'll go straight to hell, I can't really get a boyfriend although I'm a really chill person just because people on Grindr just want hunk men, I can't really be seen with someone on the street because people will look at me like I'm robbing a bank or something, I might face all kinds of prejudice in houses for students and at work, I can't really be who I am all the time depending on who I am with (like at work to keep the job) .. anyways, there are so many disadvantages, not because of us, because there's nothing wrong about that, but because of people who can't just accept the fact that two men fucking each other doesn't change literally anything in their lives..I was just wondering because I see a lot of gays and I feel like none of them hates that.. only me
Is this common?
I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but like. I was chatting to a guy for a while we met up he seemed nice until we got to the bedroom. Like I told him only practice safe sex and he said that's cool he does both. So after a bit of foreplay I gave him the condom. I couldn't see what he was doing with it. He told me not to worry hes only playing around he'll use the condom. Then suddenly he goes in 10 seconds in I asked him about the condom wrapper and get him to pull out. And he just smiled and said he didn't use one. I was just so shocked and a bit annoyed. He said he was clean and that if I wanted we could go get checked out together so that would probably mean that I wouldn't have to go on pep for 30 days. He hasn't replied to my text about the clinic appointment. Anyway plan on going to the clinic Tommorrow and getting pep. But just annoyed more than anything else. How common is this? And why would anyone do that like. I told him 3 times to use a condom. Probably should have out it on him myself.
I feel uncomfortable seeing gay people
It may be a bit weird, but I still have to ask. I consider myself bisexual (although I still have doubts about that). I have nothing against gay people, I support them - yet I feel weird when I see the people kissing, holding hands, proposing or sharing kind words with one another, yet it doesn't bother me when it's a heterosexual couple.It makes me feel bad, I feel as if my mind is subconsciously telling me that I shouldn't treat it as something normal. It is quite weird for me, given the fact that I used to be in a long distance relationship with a guy.So, I must ask - what should I do to not feel this way?
Is it inappropriate for a straight person to go to a gay club?
There's a gay club called Poof Doof in my local city my friends have been planning on hitting up for quite some time now and we're all relatively excited about it but it recently dawned on me that this might not be appropriate for myself to go to as I'm straight and there are already hundreds of clubs I could go to that cater mainly to my sexuality [I've been trying a hundred ways to say that last part without sounding like an idiot but couldn't so, sorry :(] and that it might be wrong for me to intrude upon this gay club? A few of my friends going are bi and another is gay, I'll add.I'm too sure if I'm overthinking but I just want to be the best ally I possibly can be and want to see what the LGBT community thinks about this. I also probably haven't worded this the best way possible, sorry.
I still love him but it needs to stop
I meet this guy two years ago while I was living abroad. From the very first moment I knew he was toxic. He is selfish and has a gift for always finding the negative part of everything. Stupid as I am I thought he could change if he would feel loved. I bought him presents, theater tickets, cooked for him, wrote him letters, and a lot of additional stuff to let him know how important he was for me. However, he was always complaining about things and making me feel awful. When I moved back to my country he decided he could not even try a long distance relationship and told be me we could only 'hang out' while I was living in the same city. We broke up.Before I left I try to talk to him and let him know I still loved him. It did not work. He rejected me every time.When I got back to my country he sent me a message saying he realized he missed me and was willing to try to make things work. Again, stupid as I was I sent him letter and presents, text him every day, and so on and so forth. One day he said he wanted to visit and booked a flight for him. Conveniently, a couple of weeks before the actual starting date of the trip he let me know he did not want to receive more letters and that we were not together anymore. I mean, I sort of knew we could not be together in a typical way since we are more than a thousand miles away but I thought we still had some kind of commitment at least.I feel so stupid, I think he just used me to get a free trip and never even cared about me. I've been locked in my room for days 'cause I just don't wanna see anyone.
2016. június 26., vasárnap
What do you make of this?
I'll break this down. I don't know what my sexuality is and it hurts me emotionally. I bet you've all heard this sort of thing a thousand times. But I'm always afraid that my weird sexuality is going to prevent me from having happy, stable relationships in the future. It's a bit crude, but I just want to tell the whole truth so I can get your honest opinions.Reasons I think I'm gay - I like dicks. I like the way they look, how they feel, etc. I think they're great :) - I also like guys' butts - I have mostly watched gay porn. It often gives me a more wild and sometimes visceral feeling. - I've hooked up with several guys. - I've had to stimulate myself before intercourse with girls (though this is still the case when I've had sex with guys) - Gay guys I know often say that they were only fooling themselves into thinking they liked women, or that that they were bi, etc.Reasons I don't think I'm (fully) gay - I don't like guys' faces. I much prefer women in that department. - I don't really like kissing guys. I love making out with women. - I don't notice guys in everyday life. I check out women all the time. - I like breasts, butts, and women's physiques. - I've only felt romantic connections with women (I've never, for example, had a crush on a guy) - I do enjoy straight and lesbian porn too, but I don't watch it as much - I've felt sad and alone after sleeping with guys, and happy and cuddly after sex with womenI just don't know what the truth is in all this mess. I just wish it was clear so I could be more confident in who I am. What are your thoughts?
Gay Banner On Reddit
I have no problem with gays.What I have a problem with is this gay agenda constantly being pushed down my throat. I don't want to logon and see a gay flag at the top left of my reddit screen.When the hell will you guys let up? Do you guys not realize that by constantly shoving this LGBTQ stuff in our faces we are turning the other direction? Youtube just did the same thing with the #proudtobevideo on the front page. It had a almost 2x as many downvotes as it did upvotes -- so bad to the point youtube had to disable comments.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtCyepuLt8QI highly doubt everyone who downvoted that video has a problem with homosexuals/trans -- I think the problem is with it constantly being shoved down our throat.Do you guys not realizing you are hurting yourselves with this stuff? This comes from a place of honest concern. You guys have made a lot of strides. Don't backtrack!
wanting a bf but scared
I posted this under LGBT too but might as well post it here tooso, I'm a 19 year old , less if you read this after July 7th I'm 20, So I came out a few months ago to my mom as bi, tho technically I'm more attracted to androgyny, and she said that " as long as I don't act on it it's okay". Which i'm like ok I won't, but I want to have a bf but I'm sort of scared she'll get mad. It's gotten fairly bad enough that I've thought of suicide to get rid of my thinking of wanting one or trying to force myself to date a girl. sorry for the weird post :c
How to Let My Boyfriend Live His Life?
Hey! So I recently got involved in my first ~real~ relationship (long-distance; approx 5 hours drive apart). I am currently working a really busy full time job, and my boyfriend (one year younger) just graduated from college. While he's out going to Coachella, drinking with his friends, going to pride, even just going to the beach, I can't help but feel envious. I wish I were doing those things or that he would opt out of doing those things to hang out with me. I have to turn off my phone to avoid looking at his snapchat or reading his texts. I want to say this: he has done absolutely nothing wrong. This is a problem that is completely internal. I feel like I am acting out when I kind of give him the shoulder when he drinks with his friends or goes out instead of face times/talks to me. I know he feels bad when I get upset because of this stuff, but I just don't want to get upset about this stuff in the first place. He is allowed to live his life, and I have to accept that, I just don't really know how to stop feeling this way. I don't want to be THAT crazy boyfriend, but I'm afraid I'm heading down that path. Any advice?
How do I know if I'm gay or bi?
I really don't know if I like girls. I am definitely gay, but I'm not sure about bi. I was at a party and nearly made out with a girl and would do it given the chance, but I don't if I'm just experimental and want to try something or am actually bi. I don't like girl "parts" but I don't know if I'm just close minded about it. Plz halp
[Discussion] Do you guys feel Grindr has done more harm than good OR more good than harm in the gay community?
When I say Grindr, I'm referring to all gay hook-up apps.
A friend think his homosexuality was caused by his molestation as a child. More inside.
A friend found out last night that, as a small child, he was molested. He was too young at the time to have any memory of the abuse. He found this out from his brother who's about two years older than he is.He told me that he feels like that's the cause of his homosexuality (he's now in a hetero relationship). I know many people don't feel there's a link between molestation and homosexuality as an adult, and I agree. Especially if he had no knowledge of the events until last night.He did say that now that he knows, he feels like he had his life back because it explains a lot. He's been through a lot of denial about his sexuality and what caused it.Thoughts?
"Don't date black guys."
Sorry for another rant. I don't mean to be a downer.So last week I went out to a gay club in my local town. After many years of failed dating experiences with app, for example not getting a response for weeks, I gave up on dating. Last week I went out to show support for the lgbt community after the Orlando shooting. Well, long story short, I ended up leaving with a white guy (I'm black) and we ended up making out at his place. The dude told me I'm attractive and complimented me for being nice. Later we ended up watching a TV show and there was a black character in the show and for some reason he made a comment about how he would never date a black guy to me (I don't think he meant to say that out loud), I sat there for about 30 seconds in silence until he apologized for being "blunt" and "honest". I'm still confused about how I could be called attractive and nice, but under no circumstances am I allowed to be dating material because of my race.This situation kinda reassured my insecurities about being black and gay. Constantly having to deal with homophobia in one community and then dealing with racism ("sexual preferences") in one community. Has anyone dealt with someone similar to this? Could I be dealing with crap because I'm in Texas or is this shit common everywhere? What does one do to keep their head up because honestly it's getting harder for me to be prideful when I feel like most of the gay community is racist and they don't give two shits about their racism.
Straight man and I have a question for gays.
Hello, If you remove these questions then it shows that YOU are intolerant to other points of view or YOU cant handle truth.Million dollar questions:Why is it that Gays support liberal views, liberal views support Islam, but Islam does NOT ALLOW for gays to be married in a mosque?When was the last time you heard of two gays being married in a mosque?Why is it that gays bitch when Christians don't want to bake a cake, but gays don't say shit when muslims don't preform gay wedding ceremonies in mosques?Thanks,
My 1st Pride Experience...
Yesterday I attended my first PRIDE at the age of 26. My company was having a booth at Nashville PRIDE and they needed volunteers to attend and work it, as well as, walk in the parade (I did both the parade & working the booth). I took this as an oppurtunity to have an excuse to attend PRIDE. I know I shouldn't have an excuse to attend PRIDE, but I am shy and I tend to have some social anxiety with any large social event before I attend.Well, I loved PRIDE. I walked the place when I wasn't helping at the booth. My original plan was to stay for a couple of hours and then make the trip home. I stayed there all day. There were some many different LGBT people and allies from all backgrounds, ethnicities, and ages. It was truly an amazing event. As a first timer who sometime doesn't quite feel inclusion in the LGBT community, it is amazing the amount of inclusion PRIDE makes you feel with complete strangers. The amount of love you experince is all incompassing and heartwarming. When I made my drive back home yesterday even though I was exhausted from all the walking, working and that blasted sun, I felt so pumped.All in all it was the most fun I've ever had in my life and I was even anxious once the event started.
I would have the option to get a permanent F#ckbuddy but..
He only wants to blow without a Condom.. So i have to ask this Question.. how high are the chances that i could get anything.. i do know he had multiple different Dates over a long time span and given he all blew them without a Condom.. im just afraid i could catch something.. if i could even catch something at all. Are there any risks? After i had some Dates i checked up at the Doctor and he seriously warned me that i shouldnt continue doing it without a Condom.
What's everyone using for internet hookups these days?
I used to do pretty well on adultfriendfinder, but it seems the last few months there's less and less people on there and the few guys that are left are straight. what's the hot site or app right now?
Anywhere I can find guy's who like to cosplay/crossplay?
I guess I could just say regular gamer or even gaymer haha, but I just realized as of recently I have a thing for guys who dress up as different characters & crossdress; I admit I don't game that often or watch a large variety of Anime, but I still dig it. It's not a sole focus I only look for in a person but was just curious if I'd get any luck here, I know there are other sub-reddit's like /r/gaymers but I thought I'd just post here & see what happens, I hope that's okay by the way :)
2016. június 25., szombat
The way we talk?
Ok just a quick mini rant sorry if this is pointless, I got a new job at front desk of a big hotel chain out in Phoenix, Arizona. Recently management has confronted me and asked me to stop calling all the female co-workers "hun" like I do. At first it didn't bother me because well they need to get to know me (I've only been here 2 weeks), calling someone "hun" is just like someone from the south saying "Ya'll" it's a harmless pointless phrase it doesn't mean anything AND I only direct this phrase at females NEVER males(except my best friend). Honestly I have been doing it for years even my dad pointed it out when he came out to visit me in Florida 3 years ago and asked if I could stop doing it, then hanging out with all my gay friends that he met he realized that's just how we talk. (Or at least my group did.)Now management went to my best friend (an hourly worker) to ask him to ask me to stop, which is slightly chicken on their behalf how ever I also felt when my best friend said it to me that it felt slightly homophobic of my managers. I can see it not being a homophobic attack but, without them providing a reason for me to not say "hun" even though they know it's harmless and just happens to be how I talk almost felt like a direct attack on who I am. I could be reading more into this, infact as I type this I feel how silly this rant sounds, but is there anyone else out there gay that just has a certain way of talking that they have been asked to stop doing it before and it almost felt like an attack on their character rather than constructive criticism to make you a more "professional" speaking person? I understand getting "used" to gays being around and how we talk/act will take sometime but sometimes this feels like there has been no progress at all in the way we talk.
Small penis bottom- would this be a dealbreaker.
Hello my name is kylos and I am an Asian male with a small penis. I am worried that my penis size (4.3 Inch) will be a dealbreaker to many men, however I am exclusively a bottom and am mainly into submission, not domination. Would this be a turn-off for you?
Am i weird?
Hello my name is Luke I'm 23 and im in a happy relationship.I'm writing to seek some advice or closure I guess, for a while (ever since I discovered I was Bi-sexual) I have been turn on by the idea of being dominated.Not the BDSM kind but more like the ummmmm 'forced sex' kind.Now I've played these fantasies over in my head lots of times but I've never been able to tell my boyfriend.I know it's weird but what do I do? I want to share this with him but.....I'm afraid I will drive him away.P.S. we are in a LDR just for those who might suggest that I suggest it as Role-playing ideas.
I sleep with straight guys
I have been doing for about 4 years now. I always thought you had to be gay to sleep with guys, but I came to find out that's not true. There are countless of men out there that are curious or just plain horny. I actually became the other man for some. I was contacted only at certain times and I had to be available or change my schedule. I have never fallen in love with any of them, but felt close to them. Go ahead and ask, I will answer all questions.
GAY DATING APP IDEA
ok so grindr, jack'd, tinder, daddyhunt etc etc etc what do they have in common besides being gay dating apps?text photo text photo text photosSO 2-DIMENSIONAL.Why not an app where you can have an entire profile where you are introducing yourself via video and answering any questions like in Okcupid. It'll be awesome to hear how someone sounds like and reacts to questions and possibly makes it more genuine.tell me what you guys think! Also I came up with this partially intoxicated so I don't know
Hello, /r/gay, I need some advice.
Hello! Long time lurker, first time poster. I've been going through some stuff and I don't really know how to solve my problem, with my problem being that its like I'm no longer attracted to men and seem to be more drawn to females. (Sorry this is a pretty long post, so bear with me)So, I have stated that I was bi for the past two years or so, but I noticed that my sexual attraction was mostly to dudes, mostly bigger dudes (and black dudes). I dated girls through high school but I never really felt that attracted to them, and I was watching gay porn constantly and basically lived a double life as, I guess what you could say was in the closet. My senior year of high school, I became crazy sexually attracted to this one dude in my theatre company, but he was straight, and long story short, he would let me play with his butt backstage and I loved doing so, but I was afriad (for some reason) that I had sexually assualted him and I basically had a year-long panic attack over the fact that I hurt him for I basically sexualized him.Anywho, I graduated high school in 2014, and at my college orientation is when I met my first girlfriend, and we started dating around two months later. I told her I was bi before we started ddating for she asked me if I was gay or not. I had told my brother that I was bi about a year previous to that. The first two months of our relationship I continued to watch gay porn and whatnot, until she found out that I was watching porn and got really upset about it (I don't want to go into detail about it) . So, I stopped watching porn, but I found myself becoming sexually attracted to my roommate. I noticed when I jerked it, that I found myself naturally having homosexual fantasies, and kinda had to force myself to have heterosexual ones. I had constant fights with myself about whether or not I was gay, and this continued on for about a year and a half. My second semester of college, I had a lot of guilt over all the porn and fetishes that I had watched and developed, and was upset over my attraction to dudes. I converted to Catholicism, and basically have used confession as a therapy booth to talk about my problems. Fast forward to a year later, and my relationship had ended due to a shitload of problems (mental health issues, my sexuality, too much baggade) and I went back to watching porn.This past semester of college, I started exploring the gayer side of me more, and I reguarly downloaded gay dating apps (which I would jack off to meeting guys and eventually delete) and just was fascinated about the prospect of meeting a hot dude to do stuff with. Girls didn't seem that attractive to me, but guys just filled my head. I felt guilty about downloaded these apps and the porn that I went to confession about it constantly. It didn't help that I was struggling to get over my previous relationship, for it had been a very tough relationship emotionally, and had caused me a great deal of stress.So, after a few months of doing this, I decided to download tinder one last time right before finals week, and started swiping right on all the guys that I found attractive. I swiped right on some girls, but I matched up with all guys. I started talking to several of them, with a few intersted in hookups, which I was not opposed to, but declined due to my religion (no sex before marriage) and the fact that I would be hooking up with a stranger. Then came Bear (not his name, but his nickname that I call him).I swiped right on him, but deleted my tinder after we were having a nice conversation, so I redownloaded tinder and accidentally swiped past him looking for him, so I bought tinder plus to swip back and continue talking to him. We continued talking, and we then exchanged snapchats. We both unmatched from all of our other matches and we started sending photos to each other. It didn't take long for those snapchats to become explicit. We started to become incredibly sexual, and it was the most excited that I have ever felt in my life. I had never been so turned on by someone before, and we continued hitting it off. Eventually finals ended, and I moved back home. When I was moving out to go back home, I told my brother (who was helping me move out) about Bear and I kinda teared up talking to him about it, for it was something that I was keeping a secret for a while about the fact that I was sexually attracted to men. I had come out to my fraternity brothers about a month prior to moving out. Moving back home is when the problems started.I was still sexually attracted to guys when I got home, and continued talking to Bear. We became friends on facebook before I came home and had started messaging each other on there. Ever since I got home, my sexuality and attraction to him seem to wavor, and I continued watching gay porn and all that. I found myself starting to feel some sexual attraction to girls, which hadne't really been a thing for several months. I started becoming incredibly depressed, and I went through periods in which I wouldn't talk to Bear so I could figure things out. I came out to my friends as biseuxal with a strong preference for guys before my mental health began to decline even further.About two weeks ago, I started to feel resentment to my hypersexualized gay side and started resenting the fact that I was talking to Bear, and it was like my brain was rejecting the gay side of me that I was started to embrace and enjoy. I started to hate myself even more, and with that people around me, especially gay people. I knew what was happening was not who I was, for I had never hated gay people or really felt homophobic before. The nightclub shooting happened, and that was the first shooting that really fucked with me, for the shooter was a gay man that hated himself and he had killed so many people that were just like me. I almost came out to my dad that day, and I'm glad I didn't, for I knew I wasn't ready yet. My depression got worse and worse, and I started wishing for the gay in me to come back. I wanted to feel sexually attracted to guys again, but it seemed like I was forcing it. I started finding girls to be somewhat attractive, but not even as close that I had found Bear to be when I first started talking to him. My depression got so bad that I stopped feeling anything, and started hating members of my own family. To clarify, I am not really a hateful person, and I am incredibly close with my family. I came out to my mom, and I still question why I did for I don't believe I was ready. I was getting so upset that I was losing the strong gay feeling that I had that I started feeling numb, and I have been constantly googling to see if anyone else in the world had ever felt like this. I loved the fact that I was gay, for it seemed so much fun, and my experience with girls hasn't been the greatest. I flew to California the other day for a job, and yesterday I broke down for I couldn't feel anything, and I felt like a literal robot just drifting through the motions. I went out to some local gay bars in the area that I'm in (Santa Cruz) to see if I could "become" gay again. So, this brings me here, asking you guys for help.I'm sorry for the incredibly long post, but this has been difficult to understand and rationalize, and the only thing that is close to even what I could be experience is some bisexual's experience with what is called a "bi-cycle". I just can't find myself attracted to those guys that I was attracted to, and its really fucking with me, for I don't want to really go with girls again.TL;DR: Bi guy who is mostly gay loses his gayness and needs advice.
[Advice] Guys I need info!
So I'm a bisexual 17 year old, and for the past 2 years I've developed an interest for men through many factors including hypnosis (it's definitely possible, feel free to ask). Anyway more to the point, I've had experience with girls, but I want info on Anal with guys. Everything, tell me everything I want it all. thanks guys :)
Saw my crush for the first time in 3 weeks after leaving things off awkward
So cause my grades are shit i had to go to school yesterday to do credit recovery, its only for 3 hours plus I get to see kids I usally wouldn't see during summer anyways so that's kinda cool. But the kid i've been crushing on the paost 2 years was there. Which was kinda awkward cause the last time we saw each other was during exams and it was awkward. He hit me and told me to eat out his asshole, playing I assume, but after he said that the girl next to me start yelling and telling him how I would love to do that and that I suck dick and balls and shit which is aside the point. Then she said me and her brother had sex before which unless I forgot, we didn't. After like 10 mins of this my crush said "damn you're gay as fuck". Which a lot of kids in school know I am or at least assume, I know my crush does cause he teased me about it before. But then the girl told him, I've wanted him all year..... He just smiled and laugh, luckly class ended a few mins later. Bbut yeah that was the last time we saw each other until yesterday. He seemed really happy to see me, didn't bring any of that up and I saw him checking me out multiple times so im like 80% sure he's gay. So excited for this upcoming school year cause I feel were close to getting together
Hopefully this is the right thread to post on, I figured gay guys would have some insight into whether a guy loving drama means their gay.
I'm 20 and a little sexually confused, I've only ever had sexual relations through my teenage life, in primary school me and my best friend gave each other a handy but that's all I've done, however I've had sexual attractions towards men in the last couple years.I was never one to be heaps into girls in high school simply because i was a bit weird and shy and wanted to wait until I was older and more mature before i started hit up all the birds, I did just that.I feel heaps nervous all the time and something think people think I'm gay because some of the things I do.I've been raised in a family with no males and all the females love drama and I often think maybe that's why I love get involved in the drama convos my family get into, but sometimes I think girls like drama so I must be gay!So are gays into drama like girls are ??
Hate being grouped in the LGBTQ pride group
I hope it's not just me but I absolutely hate being chucked into a basket of gays decorated in rainbows and filled with camp stereotypical gays decked out in tank tops and mini shorts. I don't get why we have to have a 'community' for a range of minority sexualities. Well - I get the reasoning in general but I don't get it personally. If we have a group of gay people advocating for acceptance why can't they do it with a bit more sophistication? Ditch that annoying rainbow and leather outfits. Sorry but not all gays are willing to show 'pride' for that..
Confused!
Am gay (20) and am confused. They say that you'll know when you love someone and I've met a few guys who I like and get along with so well but they're far too camp. I can be emotionally attracted to someone but won't pursue a relationship if they aren't my physical type which I'm attracted too. Is this just shallow or am I being fair? I'm into the type that would be more of the masculine one in the relationship and be taller. Ideally I would like to date a straight man... But that's not going to happen.
2016. június 24., péntek
Typically situation
Best friend is straight. I'm bisexual and here I am falling in love with this guy practically. We are around each other all the time. Best bros. he doesn't know I'm bi but he is straight. He is unbelievably hot and blond hair and blues to add. What I would give to be with him. 😫 unfortunately he is straight only.
the opitimy if creativity
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What Would You Have Done?
So, I ended up taking a couple community college courses in the spring semester, and what I was most excited for was microbiology, since science comes very easy to me and its interesting. What I didnt wanna happen but secretly wished to happenwas that, at some point, I would fuck a professor.Unfortunately, that wish didnt come true. But Im about 95% sure the door was opened for me. Lemme explain.My first class was microbiology, and unfortunately, since I live about an hour away from the college, and given the fact that I am consistently trying to become a nocturnal creature, I overslept. Showed up for the last 10 minutes of class. And as soon as I walked through the door, I saw the professor and... lemme just say.... dayumn. The silver fox look worked for him. Like, REALLY worked for him. Like 'Doctor Reid from Fantastic 4 plus a beard minus a couple inches' worked for him (salt&pepper beards GAH.)Every class period (the ones I attended, that is) was the same every lecture; Id look up at him, pretend to focus on what he was saying instead of his face, and we'd lock eye contact for quite some time, to the point where my heart skipped and had to turn away. This would happen 4-6 times every class period. I could almost feel the lust radiating off his glares.But wait. I have had this feeling before, in people that, when confronted, had no interest in me whatsoever. Could I just be a complete slut? Most likely. And thats what I chalked it up as, until one day me and my project partner had a meeting with him in his office.So when we got to the meeting he asked us how far along we were with our project and all that junk, and I decided to see how far I could take this "game." So I took my friend's advice and just stared at his lips. I was having fun, looking him up and down, taking quick glares at his bulge, just completely ravaging the man in my mind. One time when I made eye contact with him, he winked at me.Of course my next thought was "HOLY SHIT OH FUCK WHAT HAVE I DONE I CANT GO THROUGH WITH THIS HE'S MARRIED blah, blah, blah." As soon as that meeting was over, I scampered out of the room.I think back on that day often, wondering if I shouldve fought my flight instincts and created the ultimate sin. Or would it have even happened? What if he was just teasing me and he was completely straight cause he's a douchebag?I dunno. I ask you, Redditors; what would you have done in my shoes at that moment?
Opinion on freckles
What's your guys opinions on freckles, I ask because I always thought my freckly face was ugly but a couple guys called it cute.
Are men in denial happy? do they eventually come out of the closet?
I just want to know what some people think :)
Am I [24M] gay when I have the red mist?
I have always enjoyed having sex with women. However, I suffer from an extremely high sex drive, where I enter into a red mist which prevents me from concentrating on other matters. This red mist then makes me want to fuck something, anything.This has happened several times, and it has lead me to have fascinations of being with another man. When I have the red mist, I become extremely submissive with thoughts of being used. This is despite me being a dominant during hetero sex.Eventually, I acted on this a couple of years ago. I met with a guy who fucked me in a public place (super exciting). I enjoyed blowing him, but didn't enjoy anal or receiving a blowjob. I have cammed with tens of guys, being extremely kinky.This wouldn't happen unless I have the red mist. I have sometimes wondered whether there is a medical issue here due to a uncontrollable sex drive.Despite my absolute love for women, does this make me gay/bisexual?When I think about it logically, I'm interested in sex with guys but I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with a guy. What are your thoughts?
Opinion on grindr?
submitted 53 minutes ago by bfaprilfoolsjokehaha As an 18 year old who kust joined grindr, I don't know how safe it really is. While i feel trusting of the person who share social networks on it, all the unidentified people seem like they could be fake. Moreover, many people on grindr seem like they just want sex or to exchange nudes. Also, as a cute 18 year old, I find it a bit strange that so many people ages 30-40 seem interested. I also don't know how safe city meet ups are, or whether I should even bother using the app. i'm in a different country now, but how do you have a safe meet up. also, if you are 18, is it safe to meet up with a 30 to 40 years old?
i really need to talk with someone..
i'm 20M. i live in EU so it's not that easy as in USA to freely express myself (cultural reasons). trying to ask advice to strangers on internet instead to people around me really makes me sad.here's the problem: i find myself really sexually attracted to men body(''bears'') but emotionally to women. << homosexual heteroerotic>> i, more or less, suspected my kind of sexuality since i was younger but didn't accept it, until when i engaged with my current first girlfriend, i understood my real tastes. i'm feeling a faker to her. the second problem is that i live in a small place where it's hard to find these kind of homoerotic experiences, and i'm also scared to show my real sexuality to my parents and friends. should i live my whole life with her, being normal and (maybe not) happy? or dive in looking for the sexual experiences i'm really happy with, even w/o finding a nice partner?
Feel so hopeless about life
I feel so unhappy with my life lately. I have a great job which I like, lots of money, and a nice place to live, but I feel so uncomfortable with myself and have extremely low self esteem. I also have some pretty severe social anxiety which has prevented me from dating or even making gay friends. I've tried quite a bit over the last couple of years, but I'm still left feeling the same 2 years later. Some of the things I've tried include:gaybros meetups - I had trouble talking to people at these meetups (approaching people in large groups is very difficult) and eventually felt like I was just left in a corner alone, so I stopped going after like 4 meetupssocial anxiety meetups - These were actually good. I've made a couple of good friends at these meetups who I hang out with almost every week, but I feel like I can't be my complete self with them since it's very difficult for me to come out to people even when I know they'll be accepting. Also, I want more gay friends but most of the people at this meetup are straight.other general activity meetups - These usually just leave me feeling uncomfortable because it seems like everyone else already knows each other. I usually end up feeling like I don't really fit in, so I stop going after a while.psychiatrist - I saw a psychiatrist a couple of months ago and they recommended a group CBT program. But the wait time in Toronto for this program is 4 to 8 months...so I guess I'm waiting. I'm not that hopeful about this helping anyway since nothing else has ever helped.I'm not really sure what else to do at this point. I feel like I'm just waiting to die since life isn't really enjoyable most of the time. Any ideas?
Kinsey scale question
So there's the 0 to 6 scale thing, but there's the options of F which is didn't match the scale so you answered a question wrong or are very different or X which is non-sexual. My question is, do you have to answer both 1 and 5 as false to get anything other than X or is there any that can produce 0 - 6 with answering one or both of those as true?I hope that made sense. Anyway, here's the test and possible results screencap (or you can google kinsey test if you rather)http://ift.tt/1blAWeG http://ift.tt/28TsY38
AMA: Closeted 21 year old guy just came out, Ask Me Anything!
I've known I was gay since I was about 12, never told anybody but my current boyfriend I had since I was 15 (we came out together)I had girlfriends and stuff when I was younger and I knew something wasn't right but I always felt like it was wrong to be gay so I never accepted that I could be happy and have a boyfriend.I think I'm finally finding out what it's like to be happy now :)Ask me anything!
Thoughts on youtube's #Proudtobe video?
I just wanted to hear everyone's thoughts on the video. I've read through the comments but most of them are just spam. Most of the upvoted ones are ok but I think it would be better to spark a discussion on here.Edit: They've since disabled comments. All the more reason to bring up the discussion here :)If you haven't seen it already see it here
2016. június 23., csütörtök
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I Need Some Advice
I met a guy on an online dating site and we went out on probably the worst date ever. He was not very funny or charming, in fact it was kinda cringy. We talked and I really tried to find out more about him, his likes and dislikes. But every time I found out something it was not something that I could get on with, like he's a picky eater, doesn't want to travel, only interested in 2 or 3 TV shows and won't try new games or food. That was just dinner. We went to a movie and he put his hand on my knee, it was awarded and looking back I probably should have brushed his hand away. But that wasn't the worst part.... I drove him home, it took like 20 minutes. On the way he kept asking pretty personal questions in relation to sex and felt me up. The last straw for me probably should have been the feeling me up part, but it was "Do you spit or swallow?" I said "Dude! Come on." I then turn the music up and we didn't talk for the second half of the drive. I dropped him off and he got out, barely closed the door before I sped off. This was a few weeks ago and he is still texting me occasionally and I'd like him to stop. I feel like I need to tell him that it was not a good and and I don't want to hang out or be his friend. I was typing something up but it seemed a bit cruel. Here it is -I don't think we had a connection, honestly the date we went on was pretty bad and ended on a sour note. You might be a sweet guy, you're just not my sweet guy. I should have had the guts to tell you previously, I'm sorry dude. - I know I may have not handled it well and honestly shouldn't have even gone on the date. TLDR; went on a bad date, he keeps texting me, how do I break it off?
Out of sync with the dating world
Here it goes!! I have not been on a date in like 5 yrs. I guess I've sort of swept myself under a rug. I used to be active in the community and very social but now I really don't take part in anything. I wouldn't know what to say on a date anymore. I'm very tired of not trying to put myself out there. Any advice?????
Older?
Is it okay to want to date someone older rather than my own age? I'm 18 and was thinking upwards to 26 as a cutoff?
WhatsApp Group
Hi all I would like to invite you to our WhatsApp Group. We have a good little community going with people from all round the world.If you would like to join just send me a PM with your number and I will add you in.
Gay men of Reddit. Is monogamy possible? Is it likely?
Please help me out with some opinions here. I am pretty discouraged and the only feedback I've received is pretty negative. Are traditionally monogamous relationships likely for a gay man?
Venting about my love life
This post isn't really anything important. I just wanted to write about my feelings since I don't have anybody to tell this to, but feel free to read it if you feel like it. So anyway, I'm an 18 male, graduated high school like 1 month ago. So, throughout life, I've known I was gay ever since I was little. I've been around a Christian people and family (since I came from the Phillipines), so society has made me developed crushes on girls. I found out though that I am very attached to someone I have a crush on, so it takes a while for me to get over them. I am also shy which means I could never show my burning desire to be with someone. I have been rejected most of my life until sophomore year came when I started coming out to my friends. This guy seemed so out of my league, so dating him never went in my head. Of course, I figured no one would like me in the first place so that's another reason. Surprisngly, when my friend and I were about to leave the school to go to my house, I bumped into this guy (we'll call him Ed). What happened here was kinda like what would happen in those stereotypical romantic movies (but with me being obvlivious) cus he casually talked to me and said would like to talk to me. I thought he was just being friendly, so I said "sure". Later , when I got home, I was talking to another friend (which we'll call him Ty). So, I liked Ty and he and I were starting to become like close friends, and so sooner or later, I get a friend request from Ed, which who I totally forgot about until that moment. So, I started talking to Ed even up til 12 am, and then we started hanging out more. So, fast forwarding a bit, Ed came to my house and he became my first of everything. Kiss, love, and sexual stuff haha. Fast forwarding more, I liked Ed a lot, and so I told my close friend "Ty" that I was gay, and, of course, I was happy that he accepted me, and so I felt so happy that time. Until Ed started talking to his ex a lot more than me. [I suck at making posts talking about my life, so we'll just summarize what happened as short as possible]. So, basically, I was stupid because I was never loved like Ed did and he would keep cheating on me to the point where I was broken. We didn't last long. Only 7 months together and summer came. I was depressed and lonely and wanted someone to be able to be naked cuddling under the covers and play video games with someone. I still liked Ty, and so I told him I like him. He said he thought I was cute, which he then told me that he's bi. So, over the summer, I was in an extreme withdrawal and I locked myself in my bedroom the whole time as I desperately think about Ty and how I want to be with him. Later on, I was switched into a different school because gerrymandering of school boundaries for my junior year. Of course, I would still talk to Ty by then, but we don't see each other. I was still lonely and depressed over Ed because of how the whole time in the relationship felt like it was all fake. So, then, I wanted to be with Ty, but then he told me he's liked this one girl, which then really bumbed me very much. Later on, he soon blocked me out of nowhere and so I didn't have anybody else. I was alone. Later on in senior year though, Ed started talking to me. Of course, I had such deep hate for him, but I couldn't stop the small flame of affection I still have for him, so I felt bad, but still kinda gave the cold shoulder. I forgot to mention that in junior year, Ed and I started talking again then and did things together (which I regretted doing) then got blocked by him due to his manipulative self. Anyway, I was depressed about the fact I'm still talking to Ed, but I went to the point where I didn't give a shit anymore, but still felt sad that I was alone. Then, Ty started talking to me again as I finished my last day of high school. Of course, I felt happy that all of my struggles are gone and I finally got over Ed, but then when Ty started talking to me, I was still feeling alone. And so we started talking again and I cofessed to him that I still like him. He said he liked me too, which surprised me. He and I soon started sexting, but then there's parts of me that would remember the bad things that happened during Ed and I. Ty said he wanted to take things slow, but I feel like he is just trying to get with me just to get a good time. I really like him like how I liked Ed, but idk. While we were talking like 1 week ago, he said something about how he had a really hot chick over, but he said he didn't feel like doing anything with her. Then he kept talking about it then paused, then he said that he'd want to do stuff with me of course. Idk, it just threw me off about how he said it. And now, he barely talks to me, and I feel like he prefers that girl over me. I feel so lonely and I really want to be with Ty. I barely even like guys because I'm so picky, and I just want to be able to love and be loved. Anyway, that's all for now. I have other things I have to do, lol. Just wanted to get this off my chest.
What do people think of saunas? Hot or Not?
I'm a 21 y.o openly gay male. Me and my boyfriend recently went to a sauna on a public holiday in Adelaide and there were a bunch of other younger guys there, was totally hot in my opinion. Free lube, a place to shower, cool off and relax.I know they get a bad wrap but my question is, does anybody enjoy them like I do/did?
My friend recently got engaged. His boyfriend made this video and flew across the country to surprise him.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GgTgPRymGqo&feature=youtu.be
So my boyfriend and I had a little argument..
Before I tell you, what our argument was about, I'll tell you how we first met. It was on Christmas last Year. We both had a shitty day with our families and we're bored. I decided to sign in into Grindr and one minute later we started to write each other. First of all I thought he just wants to have a sex date, but when we met (on the same day we started to chat) it was more then sex. To be clear, I was 17 and he 20 (he looks much younger tho) and I never head this kind of talk with another guy. We talked about serious and stupid things, started to get each other known and then started with a kiss. The rest isn't necessarily to be known, except the part that I was bottom. Before we had sex, he told me that in a relationship he sometimes wants to be the bottom or top guy. I was realy happy to hear that, because I enjoyed both aswell. And now to my problem... After 4 months I asked him if I he sometimes could be the bottom... He told me he will, but that was obviously a lie. A month later I asked him again, and he told me that I was to 'big' down there (I hope you guys understand what I mean). I don't know what to do... I realy like him but I won't go be top sometimes aswell...What should I do?
2016. június 22., szerda
First gay hookup, what should I expect?
Met a guy off OKC, was kind of surprised because I listed myself as straight, and he still liked my profile. Decided that I've been wanting to try new things for a while, so I was thinking about giving it a chance. He plans to just give me roadhead for a hookup, but also asked if I have condoms, so I'm not sure if he wants to try full out anal sex. In case it comes up, I would most likely say no, but in the case that I find myself enjoying the moment, what should I do to prepare in case I'm the bottom or if he wants me to be the top? I know this is kind of a jumble of text... But I'm kind of anxious.
Coming to terms with my sexuality
I have officially accepted who I am and realized I can't hold back such strong feelings. I am bisexual. I've been in relationships with girls and I still find girls attractive but same with men. Now one question I ask is how do I go about being open to both? Where I'm from people think your either gay or straight no in between.
is there a word for gay guys who are into fem guys?
So there's Daddy hunters and chubchasers , not so much anything for masculine guys because probably highest in demand but theres rarely anyone that goes mainly for fem guys? No specific name? Like I think it would be a lot easier to find dates if there was a specific name we could put in dating profile and such
Finding celebrity
Is it weird for gay boy to find a gay instaceleb/model if the celebrity constantly jokes about people finding him and posts his location? I'm referring to Max Emerson (@maxisms on instagram) by the way. I mean it's no different from teenage super-fangirls right?
Did I come on too strong?
So I met this guy about a year ago, at a gsa meeting in high school, and was instantly attracted to him. I would have asked him out then and there, but I was told he was in a relationship so I settled on admiring him from afar. Fast forward to two weeks ago, I get a sudden friend request from him on Facebook, we chat for about a week, and go on a date.And it goes awesome, I'm pretty sure. We go see a movie, get dinner, talk laugh, have a really nice kiss at the end, possibly my best date so far. We both agree to do it again. This was on Saturday.We continue texting everyday like we have been, and here's where I'm wondering if I came on too strong. I mention that my niece is coming into town for a couple weeks starting Thursday, so I ask if he maybe wants to get together again Wednesday, because "I see her so little I'd feel bad going to do other stuff, but at the same time I... kinda... don't want to wait that long to see him again. Sorry if that's weird :p"He simply says he's working too late to do that.I say that's cool, just thought I'd ask, and "that since it has been met with mild rejection, I feel weird about that waiting that long to see him again line lol". No response.So I simply carry on with other topics of conversation, but he doesn't seem to be responding as much.That all happened yesterday. I have broken our daily texting ritual to back off for a day, to compensate for possibly coming on too strong.What do you all think, am I overthinking this, have I scared him off, will I die a lonely socially anxious hot mess?
Gay Musicians unite
hello folks. as the title states, i'm looking for a band of gay musicians. less "band" and more of a gaggle. a herd? a murder? yes... a murder of gay musicians.if you're an instrumentalist of any sort and wish to chat gay music, chime in.i'm a gay classical musician who writes neo-romantic style music and i play horn. what about you?
Any Estonians here?
Hey everyone! I'm considering moving to Estonia in the near future, wondering if anyone on here is from there, and if they can tell me anything about LGBT life there?Thanks!
Based on my friend’s story...worth waiting!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dzmM6bB__kg&feature=youtu.be
Gave myself till Monday to kill myself
[No Regrets] [remorse] Basically can't do it anymore, generic depression post, I'm 34 single and 250ish pounds, CICO - ( calories in/ calories out) ain't working and I'm so tired of being a fat ugly blob, I'm out, gave myself this weekend to say goodbye to my family, though they won't know it's goodbye, I don't want to hurt them but I feel out of options, and I'm taking as many pain killers as I can get, I'm scared but I went through suicidal attempts when I was coming out as gay as a teen so at least I know what to expect till a certain point. This isn't a pity post, more like a way of confirming what I feel I need to do I guess. I'm just sorry to my parents that I didn't have the strength to push through depression. I love them so much but therapy doesn't work nor does the massive list of other things your meant to try either.
Good gay movies/books/tv shows?
Hey all,In the lonely life of being one of the only out gay teens in my town, I really enjoy gay media and was wondering if you all had any suggestions.I am open to movies, books, anything you can throw at me. I don't care if it's funny or serious or whatever, just looking for an entertaining gay story :)
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