2015. december 31., csütörtök
What should i do?
So i was supposed to have a friend come over for new years eve, but he flaked at the last minute, and didnt text back when i asked if he still wanted to come over. Bear in mind this was his idea from a few weeks ago and because I assumed he was coming over, i didnt make other plans. So now im sitting here pissed and bored out of my mind. Should i text him and tell him im mad or just let it go?
Happy New Year!!!
My fellow gay men and women,I wanted to wish you everything that is best in this new year. I hope you find love that you are looking for or that the love you already have will grow even bigger than it is.If you haven't come out yet, I really hope that this year will be then one when you are ready, and that it will be as smooth an experience for you as it is possible.And to every single one of you, I wish that the world you live in will be the welcoming and loving towards you, no matter what. And that you will find the piece of mind that we all strive for.It is already 1 a.m. in Poland (that's where I'm from), hence this post :)Have it all the best my friends :) Greetings from Poland.
Sex shyness?
Hi! I'm 18 and came out about 6 months ago. Since I can remember I've always fantasized about guys. I've blown one guy before but have never had sex with men. I've fucked a couple girls in highschool, but it just didn't seem right. Now, when I actually have the chance to get down with a guy, I'm like suuuper hesitant. It's like it kinda scares me, even though I really want to. Has anyone experienced this? It's to the point where I kinda have to make up an excuse to why I don't feel like having sex at that moment, even though I've been trying to hook up with this person all night. The thought of me being asexual keeps popping up in my head, but I try to push it out. I'd honestly appreciate any feedback at all!
Anyone else working NYE? Boyfriend is gone and there's nothing better to do...
Hey gay friends,I'm sitting here at work... on NYE. Gotta save my days off for better things in the future. My boyfriend is out of the country, so can't text him to entertain myself.Anyone else working NYE? What are you up to?Sincerely,bored gay boy
2015. december 30., szerda
(NSFW) Can't cum without jacking off?
(Throwaway for obvious reasons) So when I have sex I find that I can only cum by jacking myself off. One guy really wanted me to cum in his mouth while he was giving me a blowjob and I feel like he was disappointed when I couldn't do it. Also, when I bottom for a guy it feels nice but I usually can't cum just from being fucked. I'm usually on my back jacking off with one hand most of the time. I'm wondering how many of you guys can also only cum from jacking yourself off, and what you've tried to make yourself be more sensitive. Should I try and masturbate less, or stroke it more slowly? Also, do tops find it less attractive if you have you jack yourself off also while being fucked? I could see it maybe being a little disappointing as a top if being fucked isn't enough stimulation for them.
Is it strange ???
Okay so I'm bi 16 and I feel like it's weird that I like older guys .. Like I don't really know how I even know I like this... I'm a virgin.. But the thought of a older guy trying to get with me turns me on. My age + is an automatic turn on and of course I still look for some physical qualifies. And I don't really even know what the age limit I'll go to is. Lol I don't mind dating a 20 something year old. But is it weird???
Gay, confused, alone
I recently came to the conclusion that I am a gay male, and I am 19. I have not yet come out to anyone yet. I scrolled through Craigslist personals m4m, which everyone who posts is 18 or older. After contacting a poster through a social media app, I exchanged my nude photo to him (as per the craigslist m4m etiquette). After sending the photos, he tells me that he's 16. I've blocked him from the social media app.I feel frustrated, confused, and helpless. I did not intend on doing this, I have a screen shot of the ad that says that he's 18, and a confession where he says he's 16. I just want to cry right now, as I have to come out to my family soon and I have to deal with this. I don't know what to do. I need some help, I have no one to talk to.I already have deleted the app, stopped talking to him. I just need someone to talk to about all of this and I do not know what to do anymore. I have never done anything illegal in my life, and now I have the burden of coming out to my family and dealing with this mess. I have already posted this question on a legal site before, but do not have any responses.
Other movies like Jongens?
Hello - I recently have had some free time, and I decided to watch Jongens, which is a Dutch film about a gay teenager finding himself, and I was wondering if any of you had some other gay-related film suggestions that might be interesting. Thanks!
Need help with a guy, not sure what to do now..
Hey there! First time redditor (If that's a word) and new to whole gay community, but anyways I just wanted some advice to a problem I'm having.I'm a 17 year old senior in Hawaii and I have this crush on a guy from another school nearby. He is a senior as well, In band, plays the same instrument, seems like a sweet guy and I honestly want to get to know him but I have a hard time talking to him.Saw each other a few times, but no introductions. We met properly at his aloha concert last year where I just introduced myself and everything but nothing much because I was dating my ex who was also in the band. We ended up seeing each other again at the SAT and got to talk a little more, still dating my ex so nothing romantic. Added each other on FB and talked now and then on messenger.Jump to a few months later and my ex breaks up with me. I decide to try talk to more guys months after to test the waters a bit. I remember the guy and end up messaging him through FB. This was right after a big marching band performance so I congratulate him and we end up talking about band things for 6 hours together. I was happy to finally have a full conversation and things seemed to be going well.Then that was it. Nothing after much. We had another performance soon after and I messaged him again about it but it was barely even 10 mins of conversation. My friends push me to message him again so I go with a simple "Hey!" and 1 day later he finally messages back with "hola". I reply soon after with "Oh hey! What'cha up to?" anddddd nothing. He never looked at it and never replied. We just kinda ended there and that was it.The main problem is I have no clue what to say to him. I want to tell him I like him and ask him on a date but at the same time I don't want to lose a friend. A lot of my friends say to go for it and ask him out or tell him I like him but others say to wait it out or just move on because he's focused on school. I'm torn because I honestly am the most indecisive person in the world. I know he is gay because I asked a ton of his friends if he was, even him and my ex even had a sexual thing together. He just doesn't seems interested, he never replied back and there are times where he takes super long to message or doesn't message back at all. I wanted to at least get through the surface level of just looks and band. I wanted to learn more about him and who he is I guess. It just sucks we never got to be able to do that.So I'd appreciate any sort of advice and thank you for taking the time to read my very first post on Reddit lol.TL;DR: Cute band guy from other school, kinda just stopped talking, not sure if I should say things
Little help? Gay guy at wit's end over coworker who gives mixed signals
Hi everyone, I really hope you guys can help me shedding some light on something my mind has been running circles around. Am a 25 yrs male. Openly gay but not at work...had to move to another state when I came out...it's complicated my family is anti-gay At work I play it straight... A defense mechanism of sorts I guess Not too hard as I am very straight in mannerism and stuff... With my job in stake I halfta keep a low profile.... Well, my heart is pounding like crazy r8 now and I can hear it beating in my ears, dunno where to start. Well, gotta start somewhere.I was really lucky when I got my job 2 years ago and for the first time everything in my life seemed to be heading in the right direction. Some background info on the company that I work for, the corporate mentality is (as much as I desire otherwise) extremely antediluvian....my boss is a former priest and very conservative...almost all of my coworkers signed up for my boss's cult...no alcohol, no sex before marriage, homophobic..I'm not one to cast blame upon others so I'm just trying to get along with everyone... I'm of the opinion that people should establish a common ground and appreciate each other's differences as opposed to hating what's not understood. So there's this one coworker.... When I saw him for the first time ever, my initial thought was 'gay....but not my type' However, we spend long hours together everyday so I ultimately ended up developing feelings for him. I think about him all the time. I want to know everything about him! How he takes his coffee, how he styles his hair... If he prefers the top or bottom bun when having breakfast... Random stuff....sometimes I feel as tho I've taken leave of my senses.... Trouble is, he's been married for a year....however, his wife moved out two months ago...she moved to a bigger city... He says he still loves her...but can't look me in the eyes and say it...he said they've always had two bedrooms because of his massive snorring (like I said, wanna know everything about him, so I would love to hear him snor, I'm officially crazy now I guess)....anyway, he told me she moved out so she can go to bars every night....they have mismatching working hours so they don't get to spend much time together...she works from 11am till 20.pm, he works from 7am till 4pm....he said she wants to hang out with her friends all the time....that whole thing is just sooo fish!i mean, in all honesty, wouldn't it make more sense to spend what little time u have, together? He's my favorite coworker and I know that he thinks the same way about me...he said so numerous times...however, he (almost) always cancels plans with me....when I wanna meet him in private. He always apologies a million times after canceling tho.... But always feeds me flimsy excuses... Whenever he cancels, he wouldn't show up at work that day....being 'sick'...but comes to work the day after So here's what makes me think he might be gay: - he said that, as a gay guy, u need to shut up about being gay at our company - he always touches me unnecessarily - we lock eyes for like 20 seconds - he told me that his family is very conservative, well, especially his granny (whom he claims to love over creation) - we always take our smoke breaks together....so I once told him,,,'Gosh!!! I love the smell of asphalt after a drizzle...wish there was a perfume' Two weeks later he said 'hey, Aiden, do you know the smell of asphalt after a drizzle? Wish there was a perfume. - we went to the movie theater...I put my head on his shoulder to make a remark on what's going on on the silver screen...all of a sudden he puts the tin of Pringles between his legs...acts weird and then when the credits kicked in, he just got off and ran out... - we go for a walk almost every day...so one day he just picked an apple from a tree and took a generous bite... I'm just like 'wouldn't eat that...we all know what's happened to snow white' to which he replied: 'u would wake me with a kiss, wouldn't u?' - two months ago he told me that one of his friends told him that they were gay and loved him....so he wanted to know what I would react like in that situation.... - one month ago I told him that I would love to play Xbox one...but that it's dumb to spend like, I dunno 300$ on it.... One week later he got off work sooner than normal and went to one of those stores where they sell like tvs, dryers, gaming consoles...he said that he was gonna buy a tv for his beloved wife...which cost 319$ Two days later he comes at me and goes: oh my gosh!! I won a Xbox one!!!! I drove to that store to check on the Xbox price: 319$....what a coincidence.... We went to a mutual friend's Halloween party this year.... So him and me grabbed a brew after work....all of a sudden he goes: when and where are u gonna put your costume on? To which I retorted 'at Sam's place of course...' He just said 'where's the fun in that? How about you change in my car? We just drive to a dark lonely spot? We did...so I tried to squeeze myself into the green lantern costume but it didn't work as I was wearing jeans. So I took em off. He was standing behind me all the time watching...me in my undies...he then kneeled before me to help me put on my costume... So cute! :) He then saw my camping bag and the spare undies and goes 'how about u put on the black one? Might keep u Warner...it's what I did... So he got to check out my bare ass...all of a sudden he ran away to pee....so once he came back we took off to sam's party...we were 2 hours too late... We had drinks together a couple of weeks ago...talking about relationships...and how unhappy I am... I said that talk is cheap....so I don't care about what people tell me... You can love someone without saying it...but also say it with actually doing it....to which he replied. 'It's imporatant to tell people how you feel about them...Or else they will never know....if I was to tell u that I love you...and u didn't love me back....I'd be disappointed...but that's just an example'I don't dare tell him I'm gay....I mean...he's married straightWe played Xbox together last Friday...we were sitting close to each other leg pressed against leg...bit nothing more happened.... I touched his hand a couple of times showing which buttons to press on the controller...What should I do? He really plays it straight at work... Maybe i am being played? He's suspecting me of being gay? And wants to know so he can keep me at arm's length? I'm so scared...work...family... Being with him is what makes me happy! All I need and desire with every inch of my heart! I just wish to provide him with everything we wants and needs
How did you take that leap of faith?
Most people had that one crush where you weren't sure if they were straight or not. Some people went for it and asked them out/admitted feelings/etc. To those some people: What did you do to let them know you had feelings for them? How did it work out? Care to share any regrets/etc.?
I made the classic mistake of reconnecting with my ex.
Broke apart because of the distance; he got a boyfriend. This scarred me emotionally and took a couple months to heal. Fast forward 5 months I text him "hey" (wtf was I thinking? I probably wasn't thinking at all). Long story short he misses 'us' and says his relationship is complicated. So I think; "yay maybe I have a chance again". Nope. Just 24 hours into talking again all the reasons why I got pissed at him hit me like a truck. He never keeps promises. We agreed to FaceTime several times, when I remind him about it he says he's going out or is doing something else. He purposely avoids my messages when I can clearly see he's posting shit all over Facebook and Instagram. But when he does reply it's all flirty and cute. What kind of person goes ahead and makes plans with someone else when you already agreed to do something with them? What annoys me most is that FaceTime was his suggestion. Why is he avoiding it now? He has avoided plans at least 20+ while together. Always "busy".So you ask, "OP, why don't you confront him about it?" FUCKING USELESS. I did. I told him that if we wanted to avoid all our nasty arguments we had long time ago, we should have nothing between us but clear communication and honesty. His response: "of course, sure. :)" which is very vague of him. At a different time I asked him how he felt about us talking again and us in general. He said: "I definitely miss talking again. But you know I have a boyfriend now so it definitely complicates things although it is nice to just talk friendly again."I feel like screaming internally. I can't stay mad at him. I don't think he even knows what he's doing is hurting me. I want to avoid talking to him again but I can't go a day without texting him. He never starts conversation first, I always do.I really do like him. I know he has some feelings for me too but idk if I can handle this stress anymore. I have exams soon ;-;Sorry if this is unstructured and all over the place, a rant I guess.
I really wanna make a jerking off video and upload online (xtube, pornhub, everywhere)
Anything I should know/may regret for doing this? Wonder if anyone here ever did it? Reasons why I should/shouldnt do this?Is it true that after uploading it will be everywhere-impossible to delete?
Bisexual but think i'm enjoys guys more 24(M)
Hey there, lately I have found myself thinking of guys more and more. I have started AMAs trying to discuss my thoughts but it seems nobody wants to talk or ask me things. Does anyone have any suggestions on where to post those or would anyone like to discuss this with me? Thank You
2015. december 29., kedd
Help me plz. Need relationship advice...
Hey. I've never been in a relationship before and I'm kind of scared of letting myself be vulnerable to someone in a romantic way. I met this really awesome dude, whose uber nice and kind. I mean you can really tell by the way he talks that he is into the conversation. I mean really i think we're just perfect for each other. However its weird because apart of me, is telling me like "you could never get a guy like that, hes way to good for you, don't trust him" ect ect.Idk what to do. Im so used to following my gut decision, but with myself I guess "falling in love" even though idk what that means. It might be messing with how I think.Tldr: How do I know if a guy says who he says it is, and if I can trust him. (I've met him online, and hes only a 30 min drive away) I need advice on how vulnerable should i let myself be.
Should I get rid of my facebook before college or just unfriend my 1000+friends
OK, so I am a high school semior soon off to college. I am about to go to a pretty intellectual school and I feel like facebook does nothing but dumb me down. I feel like I am tempted to use it so often but it just kind of depresses me. i am not sure if it is because of my number of friends or my use. I am afraid if I dont have it I won't be able to be in contact with the people at my future college or the few past people i might want to interact with but I find the thousands of other people on it just annoying. so, do you think I should delete it or just unfriend the people I truly dont know or find annoying before college. I'm gay which is why I am posting this here. I have an instagram also which seems more manngeable.
unconsciencly homophobic?
Hi, so I am a 20 year old guy from Belgium and I recently got a (first) boyfriend with a lot of gay friends. I can't really put my finger on it but I don't seem to get along all to well with most gay men. I already met a lot of gay people but never really felt like I could hang out with them or really like them as friends. My boyfriend thinks it is a bit weird. I just hang around with all my guys who happen to be straight. Am I unconsciencly being a bit homophobic or do I just don't really fit into the gay community? I would like to stress that I am not generalising gay men, I know that a lot of people aren't the stereotypical representation and I am proud to be gay.
No longer a virgin (m29) but not sure what to think...
First time posting. Please be gentle.29 year old male virgin. I recently had sex (oral) with a man for the first time (sex for the first time ever) and it felt pretty underwhelming. I want to know what your experiences were like for your first time and how you felt afterwards. I will give you some background information and my experience.I grew up in a very religiously strict household and it definitely stunted my sexual growth. I had been on dates but only kissed a girl once in my 29 years. This was mostly due to my personal choice which was guided by my religion (Christianity) at the time. Around the age 27 I had kind of given up on the dream of meeting some special girl and started to look else where. I started watching porn at a young age because I was curious and too afraid to interact with girls. Watching porn kind of morphed my view of sex. I started out looking at softcore pictures then it turned to watching vaginal porn to watching anal porn to watching gay porn. I have always been attracted to men but never really thought that I might be bi or gay until the end of college. I still find women attractive, possibly more so then men, but it is hard to interact with them and something about men just seems easier.I joined a site called adam4adam which is essentially an adult dating site for gay men (I am sure you have heard of it). I was kind of just checking things out but then I started get messages from a decent amount of guys. It felt really good to know that people thought I was attractive and desirable. I ended up meeting up with a few guys from the site but never did anything physical. I started talking to a guy and didn't decide to meet up with him for several months. I met up twice for coffee before I made my decision that I wanted to try to have sex.We met up at his place and pretty much started making out when I got there. We did some oral and hand stuff and he rimmed me which felt good at first but didn't really feel like how I imagined it would. He was really nice, handsome, and didn't do anything I didn't want but it just didn't really spark anything inside me. It was kind of hard to focus and stay erect the whole time. I could only get off from jerking myself off which was really embarrassing. Although the sex was underwhelming it felt really good to cuddle up next to someone. It was nice having someone think and let you know that you are sexy. All in all I think I need to try again but the whole experience kind of left me feeling empty.
2015. december 28., hétfő
I'm bad with people.
I am 15 years old. I'm pretty bad with meeting new people and forming new relationships and even when I do make new friends it is very difficult for me to open up to them about my life and feelings. I've been trying to work on this but I've been finding it very difficult to meet people I relate to on any level. I would like some advice on this so that the next time I meet someone I relate to I don't screw it up.
2015. december 27., vasárnap
Need opinions.
I just recently came out as gay to close friends and family.There is one guy I haven't told I am gay yet. No real reason I havent other then I dont think its somthing you just say out of no where.anyways! I am falling hard for this man he is sweet smart works in the hvac field same as me he Is also super cute!.I dont know if he is gay.He will call me after work just to talk about his day we will talk for a hour then meet up for cigars and coffee when he gets drunk he calls me when he gets bored at home he calls to talk about his day.Not only that but when he gets drunk at a party he gets very touchy grabbing me bumping into me "accidentally hitting my foot" onec he layed his head on my shoulder I almost squeeld.Not only that he constantly makes gay jokes like drinking a "cup o cum" or "the only ass I would lick is yours"Now I know after reading this your probably thinking hell yea he is gay!. But we live in a conservative texas town and we are also both freemasons and are lodge might shun us.I cant tell if he really likes me romantically or he is just "joking around with his friend".I don't want to ask him and it ruin are friendship
2015. december 26., szombat
I want to try to masturbate anally, but I don't have lube.
What can I use? Sorry if this is the wrong place I just don't know what safe to put up there.
2015. december 25., péntek
I'm different
I'm gay but not a normal gay like I don't have a gay lisp and I don't like usual gay things like Beyoncé or stuff like that and I don't act super different than most straight guys and I'm just curious if I'm like super weird or different also I'm 18
2015. december 24., csütörtök
Opinions on this?
So I have the friend who I just can't read. It started with one time we were out for a staff party. We were drinking and on the way back I was pretty out of it but he grabbed my hand and held it the whole way home. Then says he doesn't remember. He also to this day will hold long eye contact every once in awhile and will do this eyebrow raise (which drives me crazy). Also, the other week we were walking home from a party with one other person. My hand happened to get close to it and he grabbed it again. It didn't last too long but we would do it any chance there was and then it's never spoken of... On the other side of things, there's times where he doesn't say much at all. We don't hang out a whole lot but its been becoming more frequent. Usually just see each other at the pub we work at. It just seems like sometimes there's something and then times there's not. I'm not exactly "out" and I have no idea what his deal is. Maybe I'm looking too into this and crushing hard. Any advice?
2015. december 23., szerda
[Serious] High School Senior
A little background info about me, I'm a high school senior in West Michigan. I've met some people on grindr and other apps. I haven't had much luck. I'm ultimately looking for a meaningful relationship. On a side note, I cannot approach the LGBT resource center in my area because the program director there has a connection with people in BSA, which I'm heavily involved in, and employed in summer camp wise. I feel like I have no one to turn to. Do you have any advise for me? Feel free to PM me, I have this on my phone, too.
Am I going to get in trouble?
OK, so I went on a website called chatrandom, a video camera website and saw someone my age on the site. I am 18 years old so it is legal to get undressed so I did for someone who was 28 years old. They told me where they went to college and then they asked me where i went to college and I lied and said I went to a college that I had no interest in going in but visited. I am in college now but is it possible that they could send the pictures to the college I wasn't interested in without my name (I only told them the college) and get me in trouble. I am really worried right now.
If anyone knows any HIV resources, I could use some help
My HIV positive husband is out of medication. The program in my state had a mix up with his new delivery address, and it was sent to his old place. His old (unfriendly) roommate claims it never came, but FedEx has record of the delivery.The medicine costs $2500. We don't make that much in a month. I have no idea what to do. As it stands, my husband has no medicine for a month. Contact the police station? Go to the emergency room?
Straight guy with a gay best friend.
Alright guys, for a little bit of background, let me tell you my story. I grew up in a very small, very Christian, very conservative community. My grandfather was the pastor of the local church, and since he hadn't had any sons of his own, and I was his first grandson, everyone was looking at me to take the reigns after he kicked the bucket or retired. Again, it was a very small town. Everyone knew everyone. My 9th grade year, my current best friend moved from New York down to the small, rural Georgia town that I lived in and immediately began being bullied. Mostly because of his "Yankee" accent, but it only got worse when everyone found out he was gay, and an atheist. That was absolutely unheard of in my little town. I regretfully admit that I was one of the bullies. One day, mostly everyone, including my friends at the time, went on a field trip. I failed to get permission, and so did he. We were two of the very few people there. I decided to sit with him at lunch that day, and we made small talk. Him being gay never really bothered me. I bullied him due to peer pressure and I told him that and apologized to him, and that day we became friends. Our friendship grew, until we were seen everywhere together. A straight, conservative, Christian, southern boy with an atheist, gay, liberal, Yankee. We were complete opposites, but neither of us cared. The town, and my family began to hate me. I had to stop playing football because of the criticism I was receiving. When we graduated, he had trouble finding work in the town because everyone was such a strict, conservative/Christian. He had always been there for me, and I always stood up for him. He had no money to move out on his own, so I went with him and we left town and got a small apartment somewhere else. We both found work and we were living pretty happily. I always supported his gay tendencies and I never really cared. But one day, recently, he told me he loved me. I don't know how to respond to that. Communication of any sort has become awkward because I just don't have the same feelings about other men. I don't want to lose my best friend though. What do I do without seeming heartless? EDIT: he meant it in a non-platonic way. We've always expressed that we love each other as friends/bros, but this time was extremely different.
2015. december 22., kedd
The ever dreaded straight crush
Okay so before I begin, I'll say that my two main questions are: "Is he actually straight," and, "If he is straight, what do I do? How do I get over it?"So I have fallen into a crush, on a person, who I'll call "Guy."I'm in the closet, but will not be so for long. So Guy and I are 16 years old and only interact with each other in a group setting with 10-15 other people roughly once a week, under circumstances I won't specifically explain for anonymity reasons.We've known each other for about 6 months aren't extremely close of friends. But there's always been this awkward air between us. I've always found Guy attractive in the time i've known him but never had a real crush on him. Until it started about 2-3 months ago.(Yes we have awkward eye-locks as per every straight crush story.) But one day Guy really comes up to me (strange because we have usually only communicated when in a group of people), and he extremely awkwardly says I should add him on facebook. And calls me by my name, which had never happened before and I didn't even know he knew my name. Then he takes the time to let me spell my name (It's an un-intuitively spelled name) in his phone so he can add me instead.Our short awkward conversations become slightly more frequent over the next couple weeks. And he always seems to be talking to me differently as opposed to how he talks to the rest of the guys we interact with. Guy is always extremely nice to me, awkward, and less crude when talking to me.I don't know what it is that causes a crush, but I definitely have one at this point, a big one.Then comes the Christmas dance. Our circles of friends overlap, so we meet at the dance. He compliments my vest, it looks almost identical to his, he compliments my dancing (Even though I'm pretty sure i'm awful). And just generally continues the awkward niceness. The huge point of confusion, he has an attractive female friend/date (I'm not sure) who is with him for the whole night. And they're alone together pretty often. But then I considered that I also have a female date (my lesbian friend, who I'm out to) and we even slow dance together (I never saw Guy slow dancing with his friend, but we weren't in the same group at all times). And I'm also alone with my female friend often, really just because we're close and like to talk.Out of the blue, Guy buys me a drink from the canteen. Which was super nice and confusing. The dance ended without any confrontation, as assuming we are both are gay and in the closet, there must be a better way to discuss this than at a dance surrounded by hundreds of people.And now i'm here, confused as all fuck. Like this is an intense crush, I've never felt this way before. I'm thinking through my options, how I could determine if he's gay or not. How I will deal with it if he isn't. It's scary, and I have no idea what to do, and I could really use some help.
Post coming out holiday stress.
Hey redditors. So I've been out to friends for awhile but just came out to my parents a month ago over the phone because we live long distance. They seemed okay with it but since I've met up with them this week in person for the holidays it has been awkward. My confidence is kinda low, feeling a little embarrassed and I'm usually never like this back home. What's going on? Anyone else go through this after coming out? I'm in such a funky anxious mood. What's up?!
Hi, I am a UK psychology undergraduate and I need men who have sex with men (MSM) to take part in my survey.
I am investigating personality traits and close relationships in MSM.All answers are kept completely confidential and the surveys only take 15-20 minutes. I would really appreciate your help and the results will further the understanding of an under-researched area of LGB psychology!Here is the survey:http://ift.tt/1Tf821W :)
Bible college....bi...taken
I'm sure you all heard it before but I feel sometimes I don't have a place to vent at times.I'm a proud Christian. I love Jesus and I love my faith. I been a Christian for 20 years and I am 27. However, Im also bisexual...with a boyfriend.We been together for more than a year, moved in together and just things have been AWESOME. It's tough though because of many things1) He isn't religious in anyway and for myself, I want to raise my children in Christianity, I work for a church and I plan on going on mission trips at least 4-6 months a year when I graduated next year.2) If anyone finds out, I get kicked out of school ASAP. No "if, ands or butts." Easy enough if it was my money, problematic because I have full ride.3) I think another student MIGHT be gay. I have the world's worst gaydar ( with men, I can point out lesbians a mile away). To make it worse, he may or may not like me as he talks to me a lot, wants to do Bible Studies together, travel together soon and tells me he struggles with "lies that the devil tells him" and from his stature, lisp/accent and his interior decoration skills and desire (he's from New York too)4) I'm an artistic, music type. My bf is techy and not like me. Mechanical too.5) I'm relaxed and not too worried about life, money, etc. Him...not so much.6) I want to leave our city right away, to escape the "closest" of a small minded city that we both cannot be out to people, except our close friends and family.7) And to make matters worse, he wants to propose to me soon, as he isn't very subtle about certain things.Thoughts y'all?
"I'm only into white guys"
You'll probably think I've been living under a rock after I write this because apparently this is a huge issue in the gay community, but I'm going to anyway because Its really upsetting to me.Basically, I had no idea whatsoever racial preferences existed in dating and hook up culture till about 3 months ago when I started attending college, and I was so completely dumbfounded when I did discover it to the point I didn't believe it at first.A little bit about my background: Growing up, I didn't realize it till now, but I guess I went to what many would consider a "diverse" high school. I'm white, but I was around people of all different backgrounds and ethnicities. Being a hormonal gay 16 year old, I found a lot of dudes attractive, and had plenty of crushes. Sometimes they were white, sometimes they were black, sometimes they were asian, arab, latino, etc. Its not that I didn't notice race, it was more like it wasn't unusual or weird tome to find someone of another race attractive. I never thought anything of it, and if I ever did, it just seemed logical. Like I thought there was scientific explanation out there that said something like we like other races because in our subconscious it represented genetic diversity aka healthy offspring. There were also plenty of interracial couples at my school so I never thought I was standing or special in any way to feel this way.Fast forward to college - through grindr and meeting other gay guys, I begin to discover a lot of guys, whether they're white or non-white, only have a thing for white guys.Now I know this isn't the case for everyone, or even the majority of guys. There's always exceptions/generalizations blah blah blah. But after meeting a significant amount of guys who "have only ever found white guys attractive" and seeing a lot of grindr posts about "no blacks/asians/latinos" I'm starting to see there's a weird phenomenon about how the gay community views "white guys", and it's pretty much we put them on a pedestal.This really upsets me, and I'm not even a minority, just because I feel this is more social driven/underexposure then it is legitimate "preference". I'm really frustrated at the fact that there are a lot of white guys that act almost snobbish and elitist when they express they have no interest in minorities. The almost "sorry but no sorry attitude." Sure, I understand not being attracted to someone. I'm not attracted to every minority guy in the same way im not attracted to every white guy. But the difference is, is that I'm not attracted to them simply because they are unattractive as a mate to me, not because I "prefer" a race. And it doesn't stop me from finding plenty of other minority guys attractive.What baffles me even more is when a minority guy tells me that they are only attracted to whites. Like....what? Wouldn't you know first hand what its like to experience racism? So then why would then inflict said racism onto other minorities, and what right do you have to be pissed off when a white guy tells you they're not attracted to you?I understand this is a touchy subject and I didn't mean to step on any toes but I had to get this out here because I'm really confused and quite honestly angry at how im just learning about all of this.
2015. december 21., hétfő
not sure how i feel..
so first of all, i think i am definitely heterosexual.. but sometimes when I get high and sit down to, umm, you know.. i get the urge to watch porn with more guys in it, sometimes i even watch straightup gay porn.. but as soon as i finish, the feeling goes away, like it was just some weird sensation that i shouldn't have.. you know how that can happen, haha. anyway, when i'm sober, i usually never have any thoughts that would make me identify as gay, so I don't really know how to feel.. can anybody relate or explain? thanks :)
What Am I?
Hey, everyone so I need some help I'm 14 and male. I always thought I was "Gay" until today no one knows I'm "gay" but I have this friend and she is the nicest person. Recently I've been falling in love with her, but not sexually. Emotionally. I'm having such a difficult time I know I'm "gay" because I'm sexually attracted to my gym teacher. BUT I don't ever see myself ever kissing or marrying a guy. I only see myself you know having sex with a guy but lately I've been getting disgusted by it. No I am not disgusted by gay people and who knows I may be gay but this is really bothering me. Someone help I'm actually pretty down about this honestly I wish I could date this girl and do other things but I feel like a brick is in front of me. Thank you. And sorry for the bad punctuation it's 12pm and I'm tired.
Revelations 11:45 (p.m.)
So I've been looking at gay bars, checking out the different apps and exploring this subreddit in attempt to find some kind strategy for putting myself out there and connecting with people for the first time. However, I had a random thought: I haven't even considered why I want someone else in my life.I'm 25 and about to graduate from college (grad school) and have not had any kind of dating or relationship experience. That being said, I just realized that I don't want a hookup or a relationship just for the sake of having one just because I feel like I'm behind.I think I needed to have this thought so that when I put myself out there (which I have trouble doing) I can at least do it for more of the right reasons. Idk why, just thought I'd put this out there.
Christmas present ideas
I have to buy a present for my brother and his boyfriend and I'm struggling hard. I only have a $50 to spend so its gotta be slightly cheap. Any ideas?
Is he hitting on me or just friendly?
So I was at the mall waiting for my food when this guy whom I found attractive came from the side. I gave a glance but didnt really do much, but then to my surprise he came over and complimented me on my jacket and asked where I got it. That started a short dialogue and he ended up getting his food first and sat down in the food court alone. After I got mine and built up the courage, I went over and talked to him again, then asked if he didn't mind if I sat and ate with him. It was a normal introductory talk about where we work, live, hobbies, etc, but I felt it went really well with no awkward pauses and a general interest from both sides. Towards the end, he mentioned that our jobs might overlap a bit and that he's always looking for good connections with business, and he asked me for my number.Anyways this is all completely new to me so I'm just wondering if this guy's into me or just overly friendly. I know there's not much to go on but I've just never heard of a straight guy complimenting another guys clothes, let alone sitting down with him and asking for his number afterwards. Though he did mention an ex girlfriend, which makes me think he might just be friendly.
I am 43, married almost 20 years and I finally decided to come out......I'm scared
I knew when I was 14 that I was gay, but I decided I could not come out because of family. So I hid who I was, and because of rumors about me becoming more and more heavily, at the age of 23 I slept with the only woman I have been physical with. Within that same year, we moved in with each other and had a child together. We would go on to have another kid the following year. I do not regret anytime that I have been with her and I certainly do not regret having my children. I learned to hide my feelings really well and keep that secret for so long. I have dealt with depression since right around the time I knew I was gay and it has continued to this day. The last few years have really been bad. I began to withdraw emotionally and physically from my wife. She began to sense sometime wasn't right and we drifted apart. She started sleeping in the spare room and at the beginning of this year, she asked for a divorced. A few months later, I finally confessed to her why I was acting that way. She took it extremely well, better than I could have hoped for actually. I don't know what I would have done if she had reacted negatively. Somehow I became more depressed and lonely and one night I asked her to take me back and she did. And I tried to be straight for her, and for a few months we did okay. But then I started to withdraw again and I became more depressed and I got to the point where I wanted to end my life.....to stop the hurting....for myself, and for her. She doesn't deserve any of the hurt I caused her. And I hate myself for wasting 20 years of her life that she could have spent finding true love. So a few weeks ago, I had the talk with her again and told her, I couldn't pretend to be someone I wasn't anymore. I need to find someone to talk to, I am afraid to tell anyone about me. I'm afraid that I will hurt myself one day. I know that I am an asshole for lying to her for so long and going back and forth with her. I didn't want to be gay, I tried to be straight for her, but I couldn't. Just typing this out and reading it out loud is helping a bit. But I know talking to someone will help me out better. I know a few gay people, but I am fearful of how they will react. It's not like I am coming out so young, I am 43 and married with kids.
2015. december 20., vasárnap
How we go about finding relationships
I'm still in the closet, so I don't really know how it all works. But going by what I've observed on Reddit and other forums, and people. It seems that we only really find relationships at exclusively gay locations, or gay dating apps. It just got me really depressed, I wish I could meet potential SO's at any place (I'm doing a really bad job at using words to express how I feel) I feel like if I want to have relationships and meet other gay people, I have to devote way more time and energy and even neglect my straight friends. I just can't really explain how I feel, but does anyone have any input, does anyone understand?
So curious ^^
I'm 18m Ohio and I crave lollipops ;) I just want to be shoved down n a guy inside me ahh Kik blake_n_stuff I'm so curious lol
Closet ass nigga
So my brother has been putting in my head that I'm not (just because he likes being a dick). Well the thoughts been in my head and one got black out drunk, and told my brother in law I'm not gay. Like wtf now everyone thinks I'm a liar. Its taken me and my mom time to come to terms with this (I'm mostly there already); Now my mom is head over heels excited and everything I've been working for has gone to shit and I have to start all over. Mostly here for the rant but also advice anything really
First actual love might not wait
So I met this guy online (on hot or not and skype) and he's the first guy I actually connect with on a deeper level. I see him not only as a friend but a person of romantic interest. We both like each other alot but we live 7 hrs apart. I want to go see him and I asked my parents in attempts to visit over new years but my parents shot me down inadvertently. I'm sick of being treated like a kid when I'm almost 18 (less then a month) I can take care of myself. Im worried he's going to grow impatient and leave me for some one else closer. He can't come here because he says it's too expensive (he's in college). I've never felt hurt like this ever in my entire life. I was planning on even asking him to prom. He's not a predator because I've done background checks on him on all forms of social media to comfirm his trust. What do I do?
2015. december 19., szombat
Relationship and sex help
I have been in a relationship for 9 months, and I care for him deeply. Recently, however, I've been having more and more random thoughts about sleeping with other men. I have always liked sex rougher but he doesn't enjoy going too rough. We've talked about it and tried, but he just can't do it. I never thought that I valued sex so much but this is tearing me up. I know I love him, but this has become a serious problem to me. Does this make me a shitty person? If anyone could give me advice, I'd greatly appreciate it
[NSFW] How do I tell my friend I want to experiment with him?
Okay, so I am a high schooler and am a bit confused. I have a gay friend who I've been friends with since he moved here and I was one of the first people he came out to. How do I ask him if we can experiment without him telling anyone else?Thanks in advance!
Anybody use cam sites? What do you like to see in models?
I'm just curious I've always been interested in doing cam stuff, it kind of turns me on knowing other people are watching AND I can get a few bucks doing it. For anybody (if anybody ) what makes one guy better than the others?
Struggling to be honest with myself.
So I'm a 28 year old guy who has been in the closet all of his life. I'm sexually attracted to men and women pretty equally, but only emotionally and romantically attracted to men if that makes any sense. Because of family and the area I live in, however, I have been trying to find a woman for the last few years to have a "normal" life with, i.e. kids, house, picket fence that sort of thing. Burying my real self to keep others happy.It's still kinda dangerous to be out where I live, so I've kept it hidden. I've told a couple of friends in the past who have all moved away, my sister knows (and is also in the closet so is supportive and understanding), and I came out to my mom years ago but she seems to have forgotten and always asks if I'm dating any new girls. I just don't bring it up anymore because I fear she won't be supportive or will be upset.However, I've gotten to the point where I just want to be myself but I don't know what to do next. I used to talk to women but it felt empty and hollow, because I knew I wasn't being honest with myself or her, and it wasn't what I really wanted. I've just been going to work (I have a great job, but because of the nature of my job I would very likely get fired if I was ever outed) coming home, and not talking to anyone. I've just felt like I'm in a funk and kinda lost.I'm really just looking for advice from anyone who's ever been in a similar situation. I'm not used to talking to anyone about this part of my life so if I let out any relevant details or broke reddiquette for this post feel free to let me know. Thanks.
For a gentlemen looking for other gay men, what screams "gay, open, and single"?
Just clarifying, I am curious how to identify myself as gay, being a very athletic gay, and identify others in a blatant way without assuming by stereotype. (I was raised to portray stereotypes by the crowd, not the person. Working on that still)
Need to talk to someone! Anyone respond please. Having a crisis and can't get the knot out of my stomach.
please someone send me a private message so I can talk this out with anyone
2015. december 18., péntek
First time, of sorts
I'm in my early twenties. I'm not 'out' to many people, and in a way I don't consider it a very important part of my identity. I'd never had a gay experience until last night. For the past month or so I've been toying with the idea of exploring my sexuality, and for around a week I've been on Grindr.Last night, I got a message from a man a little over twice my age asking if I wanted to meet up 'right now'. I was rather drunk, and so I thought, why not? I don't know what it says about me that I've mostly been chatting to much older men on Grindr—maybe I like them, maybe not; perhaps my crushingly low self-esteem tells me that nobody my age could ever tolerate or love me. Could be that I'm trying to sell my only asset, my youth, to the people I know will treasure it most highly. Whatever.So he comes over and drives me out to a quiet location. We climb into the back of his car and strip bare. At this point, I wasn't nervous, or excited, or apprehensive. I felt nothing. He pulls me in and starts forcing his tongue into my mouth and asking me dirty questions. I'm not that receptive to the kissing, but I let him do it. I drop to his lap and start sucking him off, which I would describe as exactly like how I imagined it. He does the same to me, and fingers me at the same time. His finger was bone-dry, though, and it was hurting me. I didn't want the skin to rip open like wet tissue paper, so I stopped him. He then stuck the finger into my mouth without warning.He said that he "couldn't get hard" without Frenching, which was why he persisted with it far beyond my expectation. Anyway, he eventually says that it wasn't happening for him, so he drives me home. For the rest of the evening I sit in my bedroom wondering why the encounter hasn't left the slightest impression on me, and thinking that there's something seriously wrong with me.Is this a typical experience? Did I mess up? Am I crazy? Is everyone like this? And, not that it actually matters, would you still consider me a virgin?
Romantic interest doesn't accept himself and it hurts
Hey first post ever, but I am seeing a guy who has a lot of similar interests to me and we have been taking the whole process of seeing each other very slow (only kissed him for the first time 2 weeks ago) and he says now that he can't pursue anything beyond a friendship because he has problems with being himself/gay. I want to help him see that there is nothing wrong with being gay and that it is okay to be with a guy, how can I help him? Relationship facts: we've been seeing each other for about 2 months, hangout a lot, and talk a lot about everything.
Being gay has made my life difficult in some ways, but I've found a reason to feel grateful that I am.
I can't share this with many people, so I figured that I would post it here.Before I talk about why I'm grateful that I'm gay, I should - and want to (I haven't really been able to talk about all of this before, except parts of it with some friends) - give some background information on myself. I'm an 18 year old, male British university student and part of a Muslim family (although I'm not sure if I'm a Muslim anymore). I've known that I'm gay for a long time, but I've never told anyone except for a couple of online friends who I told very recently, and who were both very supportive. I don't plan on telling my family for some time yet since I want to be independent when I do. I doubt that they'd kick me out, and I don't think that they could ever stop loving me, but it doesn't hurt to be safe, and I think that it would be best to create some distance between us when I do tell them so that they have time to adjust. While I don't think that they could ever stop loving me, I don't think that they would understand easily, if at all, and I'm pretty certain that it's not going to be a pleasant coming out experience.Homosexuality has never been a topic in this household. I doubt my parents have thought about it much, and probably don't realise that it's a possibility that they might have to deal with. I remember mentioning it briefly when I was younger, but my mother just seemed a bit embarrassed and didn't really have anything to say on the topic.I spent a long time thinking that I would just live a celibate life, since I'm a Muslim and most Muslims seem to think that engaging in homosexual acts is wrong. Over the last couple of weeks however, I've come to realise that this isn't what I want out of life and that I am going to try to find a partner who I can love and who will love me back. It's been a pretty stressful couple of weeks, and I don't think I've done this much serious thinking before in my life. I think that this change in me has resulted from me seeing examples of happy gay couples out there who have shown me what could potentially be one day, and just as a natural part of maturing. I'm not sure if 18 is a bit late to mature in such a way (probably not), but maybe I was repressing these feelings and now they've kind of broken free.Now that I feel this way I have a goal in life that I didn't have before, and it's driving me to be the best person I can be. If I take an honest look at myself, it's doubtful that I'll attract the right person. I'm quite overweight, somewhat socially awkward, don't have any really interesting hobbies, (unless you count playing video games/reading books) don't have a job and haven't tried as hard as I would have to take care of my appearance as I would have if I had considered a relationship to be a possibility. I don't have many friends in real life, and I have little experience socialising since I've always kept to myself.Now, however, I am driven to improve myself like never before. I am trying to lose weight with a burning passion that I've never felt before. I'm trying to find a job when I'd given up quite a while ago. I'm planning on getting more hobbies when I finally have a job (having no money and relying on my parents sucks) and I am doing whatever I can to take care of my appearance. I am also going to do my best to be gain more experience in and be more comfortable in socialising. I hope to improve myself so that I can feel happy with myself, since I know that I need to be comfortable with myself if I want someone else to be comfortable with me. While I do have some other insecurities (my voice is very unique and for some reason I don't sound like the people who live here, even though I've lived here all my life. I'm also a bit insecure about being Pakistani in race, even though I know that decent people won't judge someone on his/her race and that people feel attracted to different things) I do intend to overcome these insecurities and be comfortable with myself.Apart from providing me with a goal to work towards and the burning desire to improve myself, I have another reason to feel grateful that I'm gay. I feel that being gay has helped me to be a better person. If I imagine how I would be if I was straight, I imagine myself to be close minded, which is a little disappointing. Since I live in a house where homosexuality isn't ever a topic but where it's obvious that it's not a good thing, I think that I would just look at homosexual people and think "Why would you want to be like that? You must be a strange person". This is a very ignorant view, and I would probably think this if I wasn't gay. Being gay has forced me to try and figure this situation out and see things from other points of view, and I think that I am a more open minded person because of it, not just with lgbt stuff, but with lots of things that I probably would have just made assumptions with before.While it's true that being gay has made life difficult for me, I feel like these hardships have made me a better person. If I was given the option to have been born straight, I really doubt that I would say yes, even though I would have definitely said yes not that long ago. Being gay is a part of me that I've learned to accept and even love, and it's made me a better person. It's just making other people realise that it isn't so bad that's going to be the difficult part.Now that I've let all that out, which feels pretty good btw, I have a couple of questions:1) I've never drank alcohol before, and I don't plan on drinking it even though I'm undecided on my status as a Muslim. Because of this, my parents fears and me being a quiet person for most of my social life, I've never really gone to any parties, gone out drinking with any friends or ever been in a bar/pub. I'm also aware that the gay community is, obviously, smaller than the straight community and that I'm not the sort of person to have sex before I know that I love someone and have known them for long enough. Does anyone have any advice for finding a long term relationship with these limitations? Having absolutely no experience with bars/pubs sounds like it might be a problem.2) I feel pretty horrible for having to ask this, but since I feel pretty insecure about it I'm going to ask. Does anyone here find men of Pakistani decent attractive? I think my insecurities stem from the facts that I personally don't find many pakistani men to be attractive, probably because almost every man of pakistani decent I've met has been a Muslim, and I probably associate Muslims with being off limits in my mind since being gay apparently isn't allowed in Islam. I also find that I'm attracted to people who are like an opposite to me, including in appearance. Another reason that I might feel insecure about this is that I've never seen a gay relationship with a man of pakistani decent.Thanks for taking the time to read through all of this, and also if you help me with any of my insecurities/questions! I really appreciate having a place where I'm able to talk about this stuff since I've been keeping these thoughts to myself for a long time now. A lot of other posts I've found here have been helpful and inspirational.
Quick question
Would you consider gay or bi, a guy who wants to suck cocks, but is not attracted to guys?
2015. december 17., csütörtök
Birthday present for boyfriend?
've been constantly thinking for way over a month what to get my boyfriend for his birthday.. And there's also Christmas next week!!We only met nearly two months ago..but we talked everyday for atleast 2 months before the big day! It's strange how it feels like I've known him for years! I'm only 18 and it's he's going to be 20! This is a whole new experience to me, I never had imagined everything that's happened so far to be so amazing and that love could feel so powerful! However out of everything, decideing what to buy him for his birthday has been the hardest part!?Every idea I've had I've told myself he wouldn't like that or no he deserves better. I feel so bad because I should know what he wants but this is such a hard decision! He loves fashion and music, but I know people like to buy their own clothes and he already has nearly every Mariah Carey album! I had thought about a ring but how can I find his size without him knowing and then knowing what his present will be.. I feel like money or gift cards just show you didn't put any effort or thought into it?I also won't be seeing him until the day after his birthday, I feel like I should do something on his birthday, maybe send him some flowers or write a song / poem about him?I just don't want to give him or do something that he might not like, I always want everything to be amazing and feel like this should be an easy decision that I shouldn't need help with but I'm running out of time and actually feel like I'm going to cry soon :|Does anyone ever have this problem when buying presents, it always feels so easy buying for girls, why is this so hard :(
2015. december 16., szerda
Some guidance needed: self-consciousness, melancholy, etc.
Hello, this is my first post here; it is very wordy but I just really need to type my thoughts out and throw them out there. Sorry if you don't want to read it.I am an 18 year old boy who has just started college. I go to a very small college (a few thousand) which has a very socially accepting climate. For the longest time I have been at odds with my sexuality, and have gone to great pains to try to understand why I am such a way--yet I am slowly beginning to realize it is futile to try to find a "cause", since sexuality is supposedly determined on birth.Nonetheless I accept I am sexually attracted to mostly males and I don't really have a problem with it. Though I have no urge or desire to "come out" so to speak, nor do I think it would be a healthy experience for me. I can be gay without saying I am. I understand many others in this community approach it differently and I have no problem with that. However in my case, I sincerely doubt that coming out will help solve the array of problems I am about to describe to you.However recently I've been very melancholy, crying almost every day. I developed a very strong crush on another boy in one of my small classes, and it has been causing my soul to rot. It has exacerbated my self-consciousness and has brought my isolation and loneliness to the forefront of my mind. I have no friends here, and I have always had trouble making them "from scratch" so to speak. I had a variety of close acquaintances throughout high school but the type of friend whom never talks to you outside of class. To quote Jane Austen from Sense and Sensibility:"Brandon is just the kind of man," said Willoughby one day, when they were talking of him together, "whom every body speaks well of, and nobody cares about; whom all are delighted to see, and nobody remembers to talk to."A few months ago I began talking to one of my old friends whom I have told everything to, she is incredible! Unfortunately she's at a different school so we only get to see each other on break.So the combination of all these problems has put me in a permanent state of melancholy. I have never lusted after someone as strong as this one before and every passing moment of the day he is on my mind. But instead of focusing on getting to know him, or even trying to find out if he is non-straight, it has prompted me to think about my other emotional and psychological issues.In thinking about him, I wonder if I am, or ever have been, on someone else's mind as he is on mine. I wonder if I have had the same emotional affect on someone as he is having on me. I have become extraordinarily self-conscious; over the course of the day I probably spend at least an hour looking at my reflection.I have never done anything sexual with anyone before, I can never recall ever finding out anyone having a crush on me or anything of that sort, even if a girl. So I blame this on my unsatisfactory appearance; I blame this on my nose with a prominent dorsal hump, my relatively obscure jawline, and the unusual profile of my mouth. My hairline seems to be receding, the long hair I loved throughout the last 8 years of my life is slowly falling out. How funny, I am losing the only hair I want on my body! I am oppressed by the thought I was born with a face that I deem to have undesirable traits, and have no control over it other than by paying for exorbitant cosmetic procedures. Which of course, I would undertake immediately if I had the money.It also does not help I am shy and introverted. When I notice people making a conscious effort to talk to me, even my beloved, I feel like I am being dismissive or condescending. I never go to social events because groups of people terrify me; I feel more alone in such a group than I do when I am by myself.I feel so weak and powerless in light of all this. It is an incredible power he has over me, and without even trying, or knowing it. I want to wield that same power over somebody else, because I am tired of feeling weak. I associate this weakness with my ugliness.To be honest, I am fucking tired of it, I wish he never came into my life. I wish anyone I ever get a crush on leaves my life so I can focus on schoolwork and achieve my dream of becoming a physicist. It is too oppressive, nerve-wracking, and tragic to even ponder the idea I would kiss someone, or the idea that anyone would ever want to kiss me. Newton died a virgin!P.S. I would love to see a therapist, but I do not have the money, and to do it through insurance I'd have to talk to my mom, who would go bat-shit if I told her I wanted therapy because she has historically stigmatized the hell out of anything that smells like mental disorder.
Just asking for a bit of advice
to make a long story short I never got out much while I was living at home, I wasn't really closeted cause I've always had an attitude of this is who I fuckin am and if you don't like it go pound salt in your ass. however it was clear that while it would be 'tolerated' at my home I'd never really be bringing anyone home for the holidays or able to really meet anyone while I was living at home, so I just didn't. now I joined the US Navy and am living out of a barracks, being alone sucks but I have no idea how to meet some one, so yeah, fuck me right? oh and I'm also in Pensacola which is apparently infested with syphilis, so that's great.in other words I'm a clueless SOB and don't know how to really meet people, any tips or tricks? like shit I got nothing other then 'oh just go to a gay bar' and do what? seriously I'm honestly clueless here.
What do I do next?
This guy I am attracted to is driving me crazy. We are coworkers. I am pretty sure he is gay. We have locked eyes multiple times. Idk, if he has a bf or not. Anyway, I didn't think he was interested, so I gave up talking to him. Then he started initiating convos with me almost daily on the interoffice IM. However, whenever we have company functions, he avoids speaking to me it seems. I am guessing because he doesn't want people to start talking, which I understand. I've only been with the company for 6 months. Then, just last week, he asked me if I wanted to hang out. He had a couple of concerts in my area that he was interested in attending and asked me if I wanted to go to either one. This was after work on a weekday. I said sure. We exchange numbers for the first time. I checked the concert dates, and there were other tour dates with venues more convenient to him. So, it seems like he was just looking for an excuse to meetup. During dinner before the concert he had mentioned that he always has to initiate convos with me, and wanted to know why I don't talk more. Otherwise there was generally no flirting. The concert was loud. When I have to say something in a loud room I usually just shout. He spoke into my ear, and was close enough for me to feel his lips brush my earlobe. Fast forward to the next day. I tell him thanks for inviting me out, and that I had a lot of fun. He says "it was a solid hang." What does this all mean? Does he want to be friends or is he looking for something more? He's asked me to hangout, and I think the ball is in my court now, but I am still not sure how he feels. He's also generally more social than me, so I don't want to read too much into things. What do I do next?
Thinking of Getting a Tattoo...
I've never gotten a tattoo, but I'm thinking of getting one next semester when I get back to school. I have a general idea of what I'd want, but I want to see what others might have to say...There's been a lot that's happened in my life; my mom and other family members having mental health problems, growing up fairly poor, etc. Basically, I had a thought this semester that really helped me as I was struggling to come out to my family; "Remember where you started...", meaning to just push through whatever is going on, because things get better.I'm considering getting it tattooed in a rainbow pattern on my arm or shoulder. If anybody has any suggestions or ideas, I'd really appreciate it.
Is there Really a border Between Bisexuality and Homosexeulity?
Is there Really a border Between Bisexuality and Homosexeulity?This really Confuses me because I consider that we are all a community but everyone's says there's a line between this.Please I need to Understand.
Have I turned gay? Help, losing my mind.
Hello, I am not the best at putting my thoughts into words so this might be a whole mess to read my apologies in advance and I'm not sure if this is the right subreddit to post this in but maybe someone could help me, I've been borderline suicidal lately and I have no one else to turn to.Back story, I never had any feelings for guys when I was younger I actually started liking girls before most my friends were out of the cootie's stage and I have never had a crush for a guy but I had a really good friend I use to talked to who I loved like a brother. Anyways when I was about 9 years old my older cousin of three years started trying to get me into trading sexual acts with him at first I was hesitant and nervous but he would tell me things like "what, we are doing is fine. Did you know spartan's use to do these things?" and he started brain washing me into thinking this is right and he made sure I would never tell a soul. I slowly started enjoying and loosing up to what we are doing and it became something we would do almost once a month when we would sleep over this happened for many years even into high school but one day when I was in grade 11 we were chilling alone in his room and he sat me down and said that he wants to stop what we were doing and that it was only a phase and something we did because we weren't able to get laid, this has ruined my interactions with a lot of guy's I cant even look at them in the eyes some times with out being super paranoid that they think I am homosexual. Anyways I've had many hard break ups and crushes with women over my short life and I'm extremely confused about my sexuality now, Ive been with 6 female escorts in the last month and I haven't been able to get hard with one of them. I am so ashamed of my self (not that I think being gay is a bad thing) but I just feel like I have been stolen of something, is it possible I am gay? Do I just need to come to terms? I think women are beautiful but I kind of did start to like what I was doing with a guy... I'm so confused, I feel so weird and ashamed.
Help please
Im 16 and im pretty sure im gay, ive never had any sort of attraction to girls but throughout my life ive just always felt more comfortable around guys and for the longest time I would say to myself "I wouldn't mind being friends with that guy" but only friends, and ive thought more about not minding if a guy tried to cuddle with me and then it escalated to "I wouldn't mind having sex with a cute guy" and thats when I pretty much knew. But im worried that later on in my life I'll realize that I like woman and plus I couldn't do that to my possible future boyfriend. Also im not ashamed of being gay if thats what I am but I would like to know for sure before I (come out/start dating).
Are do most gay men really prefer Masculine guys over Feminine guys?
Seems as though a frequent complaint on this sub is the whole "masc" only thing. I am very Masculine and personally I love feminine guys. I went on a date with a guy recently that seemed to be the whole package good looking, smart we shared similar interests however he was just too masculine for me to find him attractive at all. I cant be the only guy like this!
Good dating apps?
I've been trying to stop being an introvert lately and got Grindr on my phone, but what would you all recommend for an 80/20 bisexual?
Mostly straight but met a really down to earth guy tonight.
So I've only ever had one experience with a guy and haven't found anyone comfortable enough to do that with again. I met a guy in my town online tonight that seemed super down to earth which is a nice departure from the creepy guys who usually message me. We had a great convo for two hours and I'm going to meet him tomorrow I'm pretty stoked and think it will be a fun experience.
2015. december 15., kedd
Need relationship advice.....
I hope I explain this all well enough. I guess to start it off, I have been crushing on a good friend of mine for awhile now, we've known each other since we were 12/13 y/o and now he's 20 and I'm 19. I told him that I had feelings for him a couple months ago and he reciprocated, however, due to school keeping us 4.5 hours apart we decided to not do anything in order to not jeopardize what we think could end up being special. I had actually felt myself moving on from him, but...the other day, I texted him asking if he would be my first kiss. I just wanted to get it over with because frankly it was embarrassing being 19 and never having kissed anyone and since we were both in town for christmas break we met up and kissed a few times. I told him it was no strings attached and I meant it at the time, but here I am in the middle of the night and all I can think about is him. I really want to see if we could start something, like a trial run of our relationship over christmas break, but I feel like asking that would be too much and could possibly strain what we have. He has feelings for someone back at school too and they've hooked up once or twice, but I feel like if I don't say something now, I might lose him as a potential boyfriend. Any and all advice appreciated :)
Is homophobia natural？
Somebody says they are born to be homophobic so they hate gay and oppose gay marriage. I don't know is this correct or not,because I think I born to be a gay too. Is homophobia natural?
Stuck in a Homophobic Family
A few years ago, I had come out as gay, but after several threats of being kicked out (By my father). I swore to 'no longer be gay', with the idea that everything will get better and hopefully they will graple with the idea. Now I'm almost getting my law degree in a year and I've had a girlfriend for the past 2 years (I am female), that they are unaware of. And he still mocks lesbians when he gets a chance, just to mess with me.The only thing that keeps me going is imagining his facial expression when I send him my wedding invite in a few years. Is it cruel?
Staying part of the gay community after 30
So I'm 26 and only just coming out. I never was a party-goer until now and now I'm really enjoying the club scene where I live (large european city). The problem is that in a few years it's going to be inappropriate for me to go to clubs but I still want to be part of my local gay community. I just don't really know how to do this. Other than pride once a year, I don't really know of many events that go on that bring lgbt+ folks together.It's making me quite sad actually as I really regret not spending my younger years having more fun and enjoying the gay scene more. I really hope this isn't the end game for me!Any ideas?
My coming out
Saturday I decided to go to a party some friends invited me to. When I arrived I noticed they had a shit ton of alcohol and they had already started drinking. I don't drink, so I just sat there. After a while they all got pretty plastered. I texted my friend (let's call her S). The other people had started smoking weed and cigarettes and acting a fool. Told S about everything that was happening and asked her if she would come to the party so I would have someone who wasn't trashed to talk to. S eventually showed up and stayed for just a bit. Whenever S left I texted her and said thanks for coming, and she replied with some witty comment. I was heading home from the party and just felt like tonight was the night I could tell her. Before tonight I felt very closeted and didn't think anything like this would ever happen. I told her I had something to tell her and that no matter what happened she couldn't tell ANYONE. She agreed and said that I could tell her anything. I told her that I was tired of having to hide who I was and how stressful and heavy it is to have nobody to talk to and keeping the secret. I told her I was gay. She didn't respond and my heart was beating out of my chest. I didn't know what was about to happen. She finally texted back and asked when I decided this (which she later clarified she meant to say know instead of decided). I told her that as soon a I broke up with my girlfriend about a year ago I finally accepted it. She said she was happy that I was finally able to tell her and that she was so happy for me. I asked her if she ever suspected I was gay and her response made me have SO much more respect and love for her. Her exact response was "No, I would never do that. Labels shouldn't exist. You should assume someone is gay because of how they walk, talk or act. " We chatted for a while later and then I finally went to bed. It's so nice that our relationship hasn't gotten weird. We are closer than ever and I really opened up. Next step is to tell my parents.Don't be discouraged to come out just because of your community. I live in the Deep South in a small town (2500 people). Homophobia is a super common occurrence.Now that I have S by my side, I am a much happier person, and feel like a ton of bricks have been lifted off my shoulders.TLDR: Came out to friend after a party, and she was completely supportive of me. Said how happy she was that I could be honest with her and it lifted tons of weight off my shoulders knowing I had someone close on my side.
Always told it's insulting to ask, but I've never gotten a real response: What effect does your own "reflection" have on you? You're attracted to the same sex, so you can potentially be attracted to yourself....right?!
I mainly would like to hear about somebody that this actually applies to, unless it's psychologically impossible, in which case I'd be interested in why. I live in Austin, TX...nothing about being gay offends me whatsoever.
Curious... Wanting to give it a try, but not sure where to start.
So I've been wanting to 'explore' with other men, but I am at a loss of where or how to go about it. I am very happily married man and my wife and I are beginning to explore our sexuality. Part of our exploration is into being with someone of the same sex. I am actually quite excited to try it, I do find people of both sexes attractive ... but I am a little afraid of being viewed badly as someone just looking to use someone else to get my 'fix', Ideally, my best situation would be finding someone to have a fwb style relationship with. How would you recommend I approach my situation? Keep in mind i have never even kissed a man... Or even know what my 'type' is... I know very well what i like in a woman, but I am unsure what exactly is that i like about a mans body or personality. I also consider myself very 'sexual' and have a high libido And just to clarify : wife and I are in a poly/nonmonogamy style relationship and are very happy to explore together and separately. She already has a fwb with a very fun pansexual gal.
Straight but curious
So I'm 25 years old and consider myself straight and haven't really had any gay experiences with another guy but I've always been curious and open to the idea of experimenting. My issue is that I'm not really comfortable just hooking up with some random person or using a hook up app, if I'm going to experiment I would like it to be with someone who I'm comfortable with and trust. The only problem is I don't have anyone like that in my life and don't really see someone just randomly coming along who I become friends with and leads to that outcome.
Help me find a marriage quality video
hey guys! the other day I was watching a few ads that are supportive to the LGBT cause and I found one with a scene I really really liked. It wsa a dad meeting his son's boyfriend and being all cool about it. I was trying to find it again today but could not. Anyone knows the ad i'm talking about and can help me out?thanks in advance
28 years old and still in the closet
I have been attracted to men as long as I can remember. I'm sure you've all heard the "my dad is a conservative, Republican, small town Southern" closet bigot with a heart of gold scenario. I understand my family, and I know with a 95% probability they would all disown at the end of the sentence, "I like dudes." I have little doubt I'd have anyone to rely on, and more sadly they'd never be able to relate me to again. To be honest I'm old of enough, and financially independent I shouldn't care. But I'd be the gay dude, nothing they can respect in small town West Texas. I'm getting tired of the "why don't you have kids or a wife" question. I'm tired of sneaking around my friends to have sex. I don't want to be judged by my sexuality. I don't want it to be a factor in anything I do or even talk about it. Mostly I don't want to hurt my family
2015. december 14., hétfő
Im a lesbian (i think).. but there's a catch
So essentially I am a 19yo female who has liked girls for as long as I can remember however I've never expressed this to anyone besides a new group of friends I met over the last summer. And I can appreciate the beauty of a man but not like women. My problem is that I think vaginas are gross but I like penises. And further on from that I do not enjoy sex with women (i do enjoy however heated interactions) but sex with men, I do enjoy. This is freaking me out because how am I suppose to have any kind of relationship.
Trying to accept myself
Hey, I'm 16 and am adjusting to being gay. I feel like im always subconsciously trying to convince myself im straight even though i dont have feelings for most girls and have them for guys. Im wondering how you guys accepted yourself in your young age. Also any similar stories, haha. Thanks!
I have a question.
Is this the right place to ask questions like these? My question: Where can I find masculine gay guys?I'm 17, male, and gay. I want a boyfriend so badly, but I am only attracted to straight guys. It really pisses me off sometimes because I'm only attracted to people with whom I have absolutely no chance of ever dating. I like guys who act like straight guys, and the problem with that is, well, those guys usually happen to be straight.I need help finding a type of club or activity I could join that would get me a better chance at meeting a gay or bisexual guy who is also attractive.I like guys who curse a lot and don't act "fabulous", and if they play sports, that's sooooo hott. Do these people exist in gay form? If so, I need to know where to find them. Thanks.
I need some advice
Hi i just found out my little brother who is 18 years old watches gay porn on the computer and i have caught him watching it several times. So when i ask him real serious he keeps denying it. So i want to be a good brother (im 100% straight btw) and help him. But im scared he might not be gay and i will push him to be gay. I need some advice should i confront him again and tell him i know he watches gay porn or should i wait for him to tell himself. Thank you guys in advance
Interested in talking to others in the r/gay community? Consider joining our new Discord chat!
Hi all!First of all, I'd like to express how happy I am that the post I did a while back for finding friends worked out as well as it did! The original post has nearly 100 responses, so if you're looking for someone to talk to, there are plenty of people over there who are interested! (it's pinned to the top of the subreddit as of now).Second, I wanted to put out a more informal invitation for people to join the new Discord chat that was created about a week or so ago. The chat's purpose is to work as an outlet for general conversation and support for guys in the community. Originally, I sent out invitations to those who responded to the original "looking for friends" post in a method that would ensure a community that had similar interests and a good range of experience. If you'd like to join, we have a basic process of gaining access:Send a PM to me with your age, interests, and what country you originate from.For reference, the chat is SFW (so not the chat to show off your prized sausage). I will send out invitations that have a 24 hour time limit (because of the way the system works). If your invitation doesn't work and you need a new one, please send me a PM and I can resend you one.We've developed a great community so far over in the chat, and we hope to see more of you around soon!Thanks,Smashbro13 ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ
Why I am gay and I am still in the church?
Hey there people,I am a 22 years old man who has spent his last 5 years (almost 6) in a church --oh gosh! in a conservative one (I keep the name for me), a dude who finished high school in 2011 and has made nothing for his future life, just working and.. dang! no studies. (maybe because people in "my" church don't use to study --it's bad and dangerous for a healthy spiritual life. Lies! and people only use to say: "What God wants to do with my life!" I do not know, I feel like a fish out of the water. If you just know me, you had said: "hey, dude! I think you're not feeling good. You're smart, you got a future, please just do things that young people use to do --NO! nothing about drugs, alcohol or being promiscuos, these things, actually, only retard people do.--, go out to explore the world, make friends, meet a girl... oh wait I forgot to add this: "..." beside the word girl. Again (...) meet a "girl", get a degree, focus on your life, live your life the way you want, not as people wants you to live your own life."My family adviced me many times: "Andrés, you need to study!,"Andrés, you won't be there for ever!", "Andrés, please DO something with your life!","ANDRÉS... WAKE UUUP!" ... Oh...! I am so sorry with you, life that I couldn't see you screaming for my own well-being. Oh...! I am so sorry for you, brother that I can't realize how important is to live. Oh...! I am so sorry for you, sister, all time you were telling me to please do something. Oh...! I am so sorry for you, years spent in vain.Whatever...! Let's not get dramatic!It's almost funny how I am stuck here... In a church who has literally "washed my barin", when I use to be a normal guy... I was even an "emo-boy" when I was 15 til 17 years old. But always, knowing I was gay, yeah, gay. --now, do you understand why "girl"? :DNo ways, people in church don't have their little mind open or a helper mind in this cases. They're judged, homophobic and fill with nothing more than judge and close thoughs..To be continued....PS: SORRY FOR MY ENGLISH.. OK? Xd
Straight but curious
So I'm 25 years old and consider myself straight and haven't really had any gay experiences with another guy but I've always been curious and open to the idea of experimenting. My issue is that I'm not really comfortable just hooking up with some random person or using a hook up app, if I'm going to experiment I would like it to be with someone who I'm comfortable with and trust. The only problem is I don't have anyone like that in my life and don't really see someone just randomly coming along who I become friends with and leads to that outcome.
Oxford's all-male a cappella group just released a Christmas charity single! [x-post videos]
https://youtu.be/syOoUZH9rVk
2015. december 13., vasárnap
My Gym-love-story that got saved by Tinder.
TL;DR: Saw a hot guy at the gym, but thought he wasn't interested because he never smiled or gave any body language signal. We matched on Tinder and boom. Lesson learned: perception is a bitch.Tinder Convo here
Looking for a good app...
I really want to find someone I get on with. I've just turned 19 and recently came out. I'm a guy btw. I use Tinder and that is ok but I'm wondering if anyone knows any apps for a young guy to meet a nice guy that isn't just interested in having sex as I'm still not ready for that and just want to get to know someoneThanks everyone
Does this make sense?
I consider myself 100% straight. I am physically, sexually and emotionally attracted to females. But recently I've become sexually attracted to men but just penises. Anything above the waistline or below the thighs does nothing, if anything it's a turn off. I view the attraction as a fetish much like a foot fetish that many men have except for me it's a cock. It's not that I'm afraid or embarrassed at being called gay, it's just that I feel like its misrepresentation of who I am. I want to tell my friends cause I'm the guy who is always straight forward and never makes excuses and never embarrassed. I just feel they will generalize it and get it wrong. Is this something that is common or am I kidding myself?
How are you supposed to deal with constant and persistent rejection?
I usually look for guy on various apps and social networks since I'm not really into the scene and those things make it so much easier.Now I know I'm a pretty unattractive guy which makes it very hard for me being very into stereotypical my attractive guys. I know I'm out of their League but I try anyway. Like you would expect I almost never hear back from anyone. I just get ignored or blocked outright. This has been going on for some many years I've just given up and removed all these networks off my phone. I don't even try anymore. How to you guys deal with constant and soul crushing rejection?
I don't like you all
Another gay back telling you how I dont like you all. You all force people to accept this. You are just as bigoted as the people who think everyone should be straight. I dont want to be gay and you all don't support me. I am proud to say I am not part of this community. You all are evil
How do cis gay men feel about trans guys?
I'm an ftm and I was wondering, if you were going out with a really great guy who you really like, but you've never had sex with him, and one day, the guy tells you he's trans. In other words, he has a vagina and might still have boobs. How would you feel? Would it be an instant 'nope'? Only honest answers, I'm not posting this to find answers to make me feel better about myself, just curious and wanting to know what reactions I should expect from guys. And no, you're not transphobic if you say it would turn you off.
I'm feel like the worst person
Well...I'm with my BF since 1 month and a half and...after some feelings came, everythings disapeared.Now, I like him more like a really close friend/sex friend than my BF, and I'm attracted by another man I met recently.The other guy and me turn around each other and we'll probably become sex friend, but I don't want to do anything while I still with my BF ('cause I don't want to cheat on him).But well, that's hard to break up...I know he will suffer, 'cause he love me, so I don't know how to do it :/The worst is, when I try to convince me to break up, he cutely send me snap with big smile because the red heart emoji is back between us, that make thing even harder.I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm a big douchebag.TL;DR : Like my BF, not like a BF, don't know how to break up to get thing more serious with a future sex friend and feeling guilty about it
I can't tell if my date went well...sigh
So let me give you the background info. PS: its long, will have a TL;DR at the end I matched with this guy on tinder in September and I've been talking with him almost every other day for since. From the first week I was pretty interested in meeting up with him because we shared a lot in common. I suggested we meet up and grab pizza or go to the movies and he kept saying no. He said he was still in love with his ex and he would feel guilty if he saw me. He also said he has no intentions of getting back with him, he's just having a hard time getting over him. So I did what was best for me and basically moved on, to be honest I don't have time to waist if someone has a lot of baggage. I told him we probably shouldn't talk anymore since it wasn't going anywhere. He followed by saying if you feel that way about me why don't you just ask me out. I was a little pissed because I have multiple times but I decided that if there was already problems and I haven't even met him, that is a bad sign. So a week later he messages me saying he misses me so I asking him upfront if he wants to go out with me. He said yes. He wanted me to pick out everything for the date so I did. We went to Olive Garden and I brought money since I asked him out I figured I should pay. As I met him for the first time he was a really great guy. There were no awkward moments what so ever. I made sure to ask a lot of questions about himself and talk and let him know about myself. We talked for like an 1 hour and 20 mins about video games to hurricane Sandy. I made him laugh a lot too. At the end of the date he refused to let me pay and took the bill. He then walked me to my car and GAVE ME A HANDSHAKE. I asked for a hug and he smiled and gave it to me. As soon I got home I messaged him saying really glad that I got to meet him, I also said I hope I will see you soon. He responded with "haha thanks(:". That was Friday night. On Saturday I sent him 2 snapchats like I normally do and he didn't respond and I sent him a video on fb and he didn't comment or anything on it like he normally does. It's sunday now and still no word from him. I guess he didn't enjoy himself or didn't like me in person. Any feedback? A little more info, Im 22 and hes 25. His last relationship lasted a year and a half and he broke up about 5 months ago. TLDT: The date went really well, he just hasn't contacted me since and it's been two days now.
Sexuality fluctuates
HeyDoes anyone else's sexuality fluctuate very regularly?Even in the same day I can feel more into guy and then later on switch to being more into girls?I think I'm bi but it's confusing for my desires to dart around so rapdly
I don't know what's going on in my partner's (?) head
For background information about me, I'm a teenager in highschool and still don't know who I am, but I think I'm mostly gay. Also I'm still very much closeted. I live in a very conservative area, which is part of the reason I still am. I play hockey with ordinary guys and me and my friends are all "trouble makers"...drinking, smoking shit...that crap. I met a guy that's a year older then me, I'll call him J for now.A year ago when I met J, I could tell he was different like me and I couldn't tell if he knew about me. Until we were all at a party and things got a little crazy. Let's just say me and J sneaked away from everyone and did some pretty dirty shit. Now this was crazy because we were suppose to be "tough straight teenagers who get into trouble". After that night J and I just broke apart and we haven't talked in a year.Now in the present, J is now on my hockey team and he seems pretty differnt. He's now a huge player with the ladies. This alone really confuses me. I finally got the courage to ask him recently what he is (I asked if he was bi). J said he doesn't know and I said I don't either, but he also said he would do what we did last year at the party again if we had the chance. Then I told him we should again soon. The next day he acts like nothing happened and likes chicks again supposedly. I don't know what to do. I really like him, but I have no clue if he will ever like me back. No idea what to do..
Issues with my Ex Boyfriend
So a while back my ex and I broke up. Neither of us took it well. A few days ago we started chatting again. Mostly us apologizing to each other for the breakup. Well, here's the catch, I have a boyfriend and both myself and my ex are Christians. We both love each other more than anything else in the world. Any suggestions?
Feeling backed into a corner here... looking for advice.
I'm gay. I finally admitted it to myself and accepted it last year, my freshman year in college. I don't have a problem with it and the few friends who know don't have a problem with it either. I've only told a handful of people including my two roommates.My parents are pro-gay rights and I doubt they would take issue. Not quite sure about my brother -- he's anti-anti-gay but I still think it might be weird for him to find out.My boss is gay and married. I think he assumes I'm straight and encourages me to have a lot of children because "You're smart and we need those genes spread around more." I haven't figured out how to tell him that I'm not exactly interested in women.I had three girlfriends in high school. In the first two relationships I honestly liked the girl and the relationships ultimately ended, the first one so she could hook up with my best friend at the time and the second because our relationship wasn't really going anywhere. The third relationship was with a girl I had been friends with for a long time but hadn't necessarily wanted to date; I went with her to prom as friends and (I don't remember this well) apparently we started dating around that time. We broke up when I started going to college because of the time commitment on both our parts.This is where I start to feel backed into a corner. Until the last year or two I hadn't even admitted to myself that I was gay. I'd always had suspicions I might be bisexual, but never gay. If I come out publicly, I don't know how I'm going to explain my past. I come from a small town where everyone really does know everybody else's business and enough are anti-gay to generalize, even if it's unfair. As soon as one or two people know the whole town will know. How do I explain the girlfriends? What do I say if someone confronts me about it? I realize that I'm probably blowing this all out of proportion, but I feel woefully unprepared to come out.TL;DR: I'm gay, only admitted it to myself last year. Had girlfriends, how do I explain that when I come out?
How do I ask him out?
There's this guy at my high school who I'd like to ask out but I'm not really sure how. I'm not sure he's gay either but I'm gonna give it a shot anyway. I'm new to relationships and dating so I'm not really sure how to do it? Help please and thanks
Ughh great.
I gotta come out eventually but I feel like it's gunna be a drag to do it. There are several girls hitting on me. I've been cornered lol.I gotta tell everyone and that'll take forever... I also don't want to drag on the subject. I just want to casually say it. I'm afraid someone will act as if I think its a big deal and enlarged the awkward coming out moment.My family is religious but rather liberal so they'd understand. They probably wouldn't be surprised. Although I seem masculine.Any advice?
I could use second opinion please :/
I went over to another guys house to "play Xbox" and ended up staying the night and fooling around a bit. Let's call him Mark invites me back two days later to "Play Xbox " again and we both talked so much I felt like I clicked with him enough to try anal for the first time. He didn't get very far before (couple thrusts) and I had had enough, we both happily finished others ways. Over the past 3 weeks Mark invited me over many nights to "play Xbox". The first week we fooled around than the last too weeks we just cuddled. He has looked me in the eyes multiple nights and told me "I'm so glad you came over tonight". Last week Mark started telling me about all the guys he has invited over off Grindr and fucked. He still invites me over to cuddle with him all night, even sometimes after he fucked someone that night. I still come over when he asks because I enjoy cuddling with him so much. We had a talk the second last night we fooled around week one about being honest with each other and that we really liked each other. We talk all the time and phone each other and I still sleep over a lot to cuddle, he told me " we would make the best asexual couple. And " we could get married but not in a sexual way". I get super jealous when he talks about Grindr guys. Tonight I walked in on his room by mistake and saw him lying in bed with some guy from Grindr he had talked about earlier. They weren't doing anything so it was fine, said hi and everything, but I felt so mad and hurt at the sad time. I really like him. Are my feelings just? What's your guys opinion on the whole thing?( sorry it kind of long, little bit of a rant :/ )
2015. december 12., szombat
Gay Blowjob Scene in Film? HELP!
hey guys, don't know where else to post this but i'm having trouble finding this film, maybe one of you knows what film i'm talking about. i found this scene that was posted on dailymotion a couple of years ago and i'm trying to find which film its from (it may be french or german). i can no longer find the video so i can't post it... but i'll describe the scene the best to my recollection.scene: a woman is on her knees giving a blowjob to a man in a suit who is sitting back in a chair closing his eyes receiving. there are 2 or 3 other men in suits in the room watching. one of the men standing in the room then goes over to the female and taps her on the shoulder and signals her to move. he then gets down on his knees and starts sucking. the man receiving instantly starts moaning a bit and then climaxes. (basically the woman wasn't doing a good enough job of getting him off lol)HELP ME FIND THE MOVIE THIS SCENE IS FROM! lol (it may be from a tv show but i'm more inclined to think it was from a film)
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