No longer a virgin (m29) but not sure what to think...

First time posting. Please be gentle.29 year old male virgin. I recently had sex (oral) with a man for the first time (sex for the first time ever) and it felt pretty underwhelming. I want to know what your experiences were like for your first time and how you felt afterwards. I will give you some background information and my experience.I grew up in a very religiously strict household and it definitely stunted my sexual growth. I had been on dates but only kissed a girl once in my 29 years. This was mostly due to my personal choice which was guided by my religion (Christianity) at the time. Around the age 27 I had kind of given up on the dream of meeting some special girl and started to look else where. I started watching porn at a young age because I was curious and too afraid to interact with girls. Watching porn kind of morphed my view of sex. I started out looking at softcore pictures then it turned to watching vaginal porn to watching anal porn to watching gay porn. I have always been attracted to men but never really thought that I might be bi or gay until the end of college. I still find women attractive, possibly more so then men, but it is hard to interact with them and something about men just seems easier.I joined a site called adam4adam which is essentially an adult dating site for gay men (I am sure you have heard of it). I was kind of just checking things out but then I started get messages from a decent amount of guys. It felt really good to know that people thought I was attractive and desirable. I ended up meeting up with a few guys from the site but never did anything physical. I started talking to a guy and didn't decide to meet up with him for several months. I met up twice for coffee before I made my decision that I wanted to try to have sex.We met up at his place and pretty much started making out when I got there. We did some oral and hand stuff and he rimmed me which felt good at first but didn't really feel like how I imagined it would. He was really nice, handsome, and didn't do anything I didn't want but it just didn't really spark anything inside me. It was kind of hard to focus and stay erect the whole time. I could only get off from jerking myself off which was really embarrassing. Although the sex was underwhelming it felt really good to cuddle up next to someone. It was nice having someone think and let you know that you are sexy. All in all I think I need to try again but the whole experience kind of left me feeling empty.