2017. augusztus 31., csütörtök
I think I'm falling for a guy at class
He's so cute (and hot... - you know the type!). Let's call him Bill. Today, while I was going to class I checked on a guy and thought, "omg, he's hot!". Then I realized it was Bill, which was followed by me having butterflies in my stomach.Last time I felt that way I was desperately in love for Jack. That led me to extreme mood cycling and to a psychotic break, and then depression. By a psychotic break, I mean I had Erotomania (in short, I thought Jack was in love with me and that we communicated through signs). Now I'm getting back on track with the help of medication.I'm thinking about Bill a lot lately. I don't think Bill is into me, realistically speaking, I don't even think he's gay. But at the same time, I can't stop fantasizing... Something inside me says "he's gay! Go for it!". The point is I'm afraid I might be getting insane again, despite of the drugs. I can't trust my instincts, given what happened in the past.Oh... I also have a boyfriend. Let's call him Ted. I don't cheat. Never had and never will. (Yes, I like checking out guys. I know, I'm a mess...) Me and Ted are going through a bad phase in our relationship. And I think maybe the fact that I'm falling for Bill has something to do with it.Can you guys say something to me? Any piece of advice?TL;DR: I think I'm falling for Bill. Last time I fell for someone I went insane (truly insane). I'm afraid I'm getting insane again. I think that has to do with me and my current boyfriend going through a bad phase. Any piece of advice?
sex with "straight" guys
Okay so I'm 17 (turning 18 soon) and now that this recent years of graduates is out of my high school tons of the boys I thought were hot are wanting to fuck me !??And it got me thinking.. Why wouldn't they just fuck me during the school year if they thought I was hot back then?Like I could still expose them just like I could expose them if we were in school together. So ??lol this is V random but I just wanted to share
Community for LGBT+ people without IRL social circles
First of all, I'd like to point out that I'm incredibly sorry if this has been placed in the wrong location, or if it goes against any subreddit rules. Though, I think it's fine from reading. If not, please remove!In 2015, I set up a space for LGBT+ people online who don't have the friends, support circles or information in real life, and therefore have to find that online.Here's what we believe in:Creating a friendly, positive, and safe community for LGBTQIA+ people who may not have access to like-minded people or support in real life.Campaigning for LGBTQIA+ equality online, as well as pushing for the awareness and visibility of other human rights issues.Creating an incredibly LGBTQIA+ inclusive space. All too often transgender, intersex, asexual, and other variants of sexuality, gender, or romantic interest are left out. We do not want this to be the case in our community; we are an LGBT+ community.Creating a platform for LGBTQIA+ people to showcase their talents, designs, and creations. We really want you to grow in our community, feel free to show off your creativity.I thought this would be a good way to reach out to people, and let the relevant know that if any of those points do relate to yourself then there is a place for you.If you are interested, feel free to join here!http://ift.tt/2wnqRNM well as this we also have ethical and philosophical debates each day, gaming events, a question of the day, etc. :)
Country Black Guy for Country White Guys?
I'm a gay black guy from the south attracted to country white guys. It's not really a fetish, it's just what I grew up around so its all I know and grew up wanting. Is this weird (especially with all of the racism stories in the news, etc)? Does anyone else feel the same way?
Failing at dating
I recently met a guy who I really liked and was super excited about. We actually met a long time ago on Grindr and texted for a bit on and off, until last week I suggested that we meet up at university for a coffee.Now I know people will think that because we met on Grindr that he was just looking for sex. But actually he turned out to be an awesome guy. The first date went really well, at least I thought so. He even kissed me at the end!But then a week later when I tried to arrange that we meet again, he seemed rather uninterested and I was getting mixed signals. He was always "busy". I actually asked if he's still interested to which he didn't reply. And now I'm really sad because I was so excited about this guy. I really thought he was great, nothing like any of the other guys I had met before :(I just don't get why guys do this. Why do they lead me on, get me all excited at the first meeting and then just go cold after that? He's one of several guys who have done exactly that. I've thought a lot about what I am doing wrong, but I just don't know. I believe I'm rather attractive and easy-going, and I feel I've become a lot better at socialising with people.I've lost all hope. It's really hard for me to put myself out there and meet people and now I'm so scared of getting hurt again. Every time this happens I go into a state of depression for weeks.TL;DRHaving a hard time with dating. Guys show interest at the start but afterwards I get mixed feelings. It's really upsetting. Starting to lose hope.
Dealing With Homophobia (Need Advice)
I attend a local trade school and am an outspoken gay male and advocate for equality for all. Today, during lunch, a group of students gathered around and chanted, "God Hates Fags" to spite me. Should I be ashamed and hide being gay? How should I deal with the bulllies, I just feel so outnumbered compared to the amount of hate at my school. Thanks for reading.
Gay friend likes me. HELp
My awesome gay friend sent me a long ass paragraph abt how he likes me but he knows i have a massive crush on this one girl and i was rambling to him abt how awesome she is, and i really like him too , hes cute and sweet and i would love to be his boyfriend but im scared about all the social ridicule i would face at my school. give me advice pls and if u have questions ask
So personal question;)
What is the best way for me to give a BJ? Like what can I do to make him excited (like sounds or what)? I need help in this area lol
I tried makeup
So today I tried makeup and it was going great I just got lipstick on, then I heard something coming up the stairs and I thought my parents were home so I lock the door and keep quiet. After they were gone I got up and tried to get it all off and It wasn't so I look for some makeup remover and couldn't find anything, so I got some grape seed oil and and tried it and it worked, after that I went out and it was my dog, waiting for me at the door.
Bisexual 18 year old male
So I'm an 18 year old bisexual. I recently posted (~1 months ago) in a different subreddit that I was an 18 year old bisexual with a girlfriend that was not willing to sexually open up, but now that's not the case. I broke up with her after other unrelated issues that were linked to trust, communication, and other things. I later found out she lied to me not once, nor twice, but many times. I'm a really curious guy, I don't know if girls are my thing or not, considering that she treated me like shit sometimes and after 8 months she didn't even let herself be touched (no trust from her part), so I didn't get to experience a full relationship. I don't know if I should try again with another girl or with a guy. If I go out with a girl there is no problem, but with a guy there is, my parents doesn't support LGBT, so I'd have to keep it a big secret.
Gay folklore and mythology?
I'm looking for a good (non fiction) book that explores world wide lgbtq folklore and mythology. Does anyone have any recommendations?
Need someone to talk to
Okay. So I'll just be blunt with this. I'm a recovering sex addict and I'm in a monogamous relationship. Because of various situations in this relationship and past relationships, aside from my brothers I've kind of alienated/eliminated all of my male friends. I'm just kind of looking for a good guy friend. One that will help hold me accountable to my recovery and won't enable me. I'm looking for someone to share my life and thoughts with. I just have these thoughts in the back of my mind that I'll have that friend I can call and text all the time and essentially spill my entire life to without judgement. I'm a pretty easy going person and it doesn't really matter to me who you are. I'm sure we could find common ground!DM me i guess and we can go from there if you think you can help!
Why straight come to guys
Hey thereSo i have a question what is it with "straight" Guys..especially married guys posting on sites like Craigslist they want a bj,hj or anal...I mean i get that you can go through a dry spell but doesnt this seem to go against the "Straight "LabelAnd for thay matter why post that you are looking to suck or fuck a married guy? Is there some thrill that goes with the conquest or something ?
Hard to get "hard" ?
Hey guys, always me , 22/m gay. I lately realized that sometimes for me it gets hard to get my D hard. I can't understand if it's for anxiety or just that i don't like the guy that much. But it actually happened with 3 people now , so it looks to be a serious problem. All of the 3 times we were both "versatile" and with 1 guy I went as active (top) , the other 2 as passive. Let's analyze the first case :with the first one , i had sex the first time when i was a little drunk, and had no erection problems, i did the top and was fine. but when i tried few weeks later with the same person (but not drunky) , it was little difficult to get hard. Now, it could be still both the hypothesis, since i dont really like this guy (not actually my cup of tea) but still, I know that alcohol helps relaxing and avoiding sexual anxieties, so alcohol could ve helped me that night. (So, is it about anxiety or i dont like him?). Now let's analyze the third guy. I'm really fond of this guy and was a bit anxious that night becouse it was really hard for me to get that date , i really like him, but i could not be able to get hard that night. So i went as passive and it was a terrible sensation for me and for him too i guess. This time i guess it's anxiety for sure, or maybe could i like him but still not being sexually attracted? Some months ago i ve had sex with a guy (he was 36 , a little older, but i like mature ones) and i was hard all the time. But in this case he was only active , so there was no hope for me to being top. I had no problems with him, he was cute and calm.Now that we have some informations. What's my problem? 1) Could i get anxious when i have to Top? 2) Could it just be that i'm not sexually attracted by some people? 3) Could it be that it's easy for me to get anxious in some stressful situations? How can i find it out? thank you guys, it's really important for me. I apologize for any grammar error.
[Question] To the younger folks here: Why is r/nofap a thing?
I simply don't get it at all. There is no benifits I am aware of, there are alot of reifications starting with the prostate and ending with the psychological effects. So could someone please explain the philosophy for me?
i finnaly came out to my friend
ive been sirously wanting to come out to hime for about 6 month and it finnaly happend it used to seem like a dream to me he reacted really well i wished he understood me better but still
Weird question
I'm bi and recently started working in the retail industry. Every now and then I will see guys that I definitely think are gay. Usually they have some slightly feminine traits and sometimes seem a little too nice to me. It feels very different from other customers I interact with.Is there a chance my instincts are right, or is there actually no real telling with people unless you talk with them? Please ignore my username as I often make new accounts and I made this one a few weeks back.
2017. augusztus 30., szerda
App to help/rescue kids from fundamentalist families?
I'm a mobile app developer and ever since the election I've been thinking that I need to start doing more to help people/society. I love my job but there's no great societal benefit to it, it's purely economic. So I've been keeping my eyes peeled for something more meaningful.I was listening to this episode of the moth and Jon Jay Read's story got me thinking about LBGTQ kids growing up in fundamentalist families or regions and the special kind of ignorant bullshit they must deal with every day.That started me looking at what kind of services are available to help these kids. I found out that while 5 - 7% of kids nationwide identify as LGBTQ, somewhere between 9 - 45% of homeless youth are LGBT, mostly due to being thrown out by their parents.I'm a straight male, not very in touch with the LGBTQ community and (thankfully) not at all involved with the fundamentalist community. Are there apps/websites available to help kids in these situations? Is there a certain type of app that would benefit these kids? I'm thinking something that can help connect them to services or people that can remove them from abusive situations and help them get started on a new path surrounded by people who love and accept them for who they are.Is this something worth pursuing? Any techies, lawyers, community organizers want to talk more about it?
So tomorrow is a huge day for me.
Right now I'm laying in bed. 23/m. Came out this year. Honestly asked myself how this year could get any better. Wasn't sure if it could. Well it can. I can barely do anything and seriously can't fall asleep. I feel like an 8 year old again on Christmas morning.Tomorrow, August 31st, 2017, at 1:00PM I close on my first ever house. I'm so crazy excited.
Am I gay or just a narcissist?
So here's my story: After years of frustration I finally lost my virginity to an attractive woman 5 months ago. It went alright for the most part (tl;dr she was really hot and I don't regret it but wearing an unlubricated condom and getting drunk kind of backfired). But the best way to describe my sexuality up until that point was this: I watched straight porn and definitely considered myself straight but was more picky about the guys in the scenes than the girls. I specifically wanted the guys to look like me (masculine, white, short light hair, kind of baby faced, muscular but not "ripped" build) or my idealized version of me with a full beard and even more muscle. I probably got more aroused by these kind of naked men than naked women, but I am not into "twinks." At all. So last month, I met up with a guy on Tinder that had that kind of look I like. He was a Marine (which I find really hot for some reason). Throughout the night I was thinking about what we were gonna do later and got a slight hard-on when I did. When the time came, I felt way more turned on than when I did with the woman, and the woman was very attractive. We started making out and feeling each other up, then I started giving him head, which I actually really enjoyed. He had a hot, uncut dick. He sucked me off for a little bit, then let me start banging him. I used Trojan ENZ condoms with KY jelly and it was a struggle getting the position right at first, but when I did get it it was very pleasurable and I loved the sensation more than I did with the vaginal intercourse (although as noted, I was using non-lubricated condoms then). I really enjoyed looking at and feeling him during this.Ever since then, I've been exclusively swiping at guys on Tinder and Bumble and watching gay porn. I don't get turned on by even the best looking women anymore. Here's the thing, though: I am very, very, very picky about the guys I'm physically attracted to. I would say I swipe right on maybe 5-10% of guys compared to about, say, 40-50% of women when I considered myself straight. If you gave me a choice between banging a semi-attractive woman and most men (the 90-95% I swipe left on), I would probably choose the woman. But I would much, much, much rather bang those 5-10% of men with that ideal look that I do swipe right on than even the most beautiful women. I have major crushes on Andy Butler (frontman of Hercules & Love Affair), Stipe Miocic, and Liev Schreiber.Is this normal? I feel kind of shady and narcissistic (though I'm a very insecure, self-critical person) but I can't help it.
Need help.
There's this really cool guy at our school, and we have a great friendship. And i mean, i am straight. But because of this guy i feel like i should not. We always bump into each other and touch each other often. Sometimes he lies on my shoulder and touches my legs (o_o), and he always talk to me in a 'girly' voice, would you think he's gay and possibly likes me? PS. He sometimes hits my penis (when i have clothes on dont worry and im okay with it cause i hit him back >:) ), and both of us are males, 16. Once again, would you think he's gay and possibly likes me?Edit: We hang out alot.
Came Out and Feel Weird
An unfortunate series of events have lead me to have to come out to my parents. While they were accepting as they could be, I still feel weird and I can't help but feel I let them down. I attempted to drink the thoughts away that didn't work. I feel alienated from my parents even though they said they loved me regardless of who I marry or fall in love with but I still feel like I've disappointed them. Kind of weird because most people talk about their parents making the situation awkward but to be honest, I feel like it's me making this weird. I don't know if I can look them in the eye again. I don't know how to handle this.
Would really appreciate some advice from anyone at this point but it has to do with break ups and secrets.
Ok, this might be long but this has been absolutely killing me to my core. I am a 21 year old male who lives away from my family in college and I might be screwed and I’m scared as hell. Sorry if this is poorly written; I am shaking with anxiety right now. I am a closeted gay (mostly gay). Like to the point that I don’t see coming out as an option for a long time. A long time…. I understand that is unhealthy but it is just my life right now while I am under my very homophobic family’s roof.So heres where its honestly a potential disaster and I am so fucking scared right now I don’t know what to do. I have been talking to this guy for the past couple of months and its been great. but now a few family members were curious one day and well it was proven at that point that it would tear the family apart by the way they reacted. The guy is amazing and we’ve been talking for a little bit. been sexual a few times. But now its hit me that if someone found out I would absolutely not be mentally ready and be destroyed inside and by the ones im closest to.We’ve even gone as far as to say I love you.Right now I’m so scared now that its ruining my life with stress, and I need a way out of this relationship without crushing this guys heart and/or him doing a revenge thing or something like telling everyone. We don’t know each others friends. He’s really nice and one of my favorite people in this world. As far as what I am worried about is that sometimes he gets a bit emotional. nothing more than just being short with me or something similar, but it does happen sometimes.I’m dying for a nice way to ask him that he never tells anyone and that he has to promise me. And worst of all, that we can’t talk anymore. I know a lot of people will hate me for having to do this and yes I hate me too for it. I am going insane right now.I already might cry right now and when I talk to him, but I just need a direction to go instead of just bawling to him. Ive been gone for the last month or two and have been back for a little over 2 weeks, so that also worries me about him being upset.Once again sorry for my poor writing I’m just dying for an answer. Basically I am terrified right now and would love some advice in any way possible. How do I tell him we can’t talk anymore? Right now I am so scared I am shaking while I type this.
I need some help... :/
Well,I know that I will be kicked from group and that things,but I am soo desperate that I dont have any choice left. I am 13.And I think that I found out that Im gay when I was 11.Until age 13,I found everything OK,but... Last 4-5 months I am so stresed and sad.I keep thinking about future.On one side,I want to live ,,gay life" (I want to be myself),and from the other side, I keep thinking ways to hide that.I dont wanna tell my parents and friends.Last months I searched about everything.Gay life,marriage,suicide,Russians and that things....But because I think that I will hide my sexuality,I love to read ,,How I met my BF" stories. So after reading some posts from some guys I just want some PROFESSIONAL help.Plss dont spread hate about my age or my thinking,I just want some help... 😯
I like someone but not sure if they are gay. Do Brazil guys usually wear briefs?
I try to not hit on or try to come on to a straight guy. No one would guess I am gay, which is fine, but does get annoying when people assume I am heterosexual (which is why I am asking about this guy).At any rate, I have talked to him a few times and thought he was cool and wanted to be his friends (that's it). Today when I went to the gym and went to go wash my hands. He came out of the shower and said hi to me and started a conversation. I turned around and he was drying himself and he was just wearing briefs.We chatted as he was getting dressed and I asked him if he wanted to get a meal next week. To which he said, yes ( it was casual).This is early but I was wondering if straight guys usually wear briefs? He is Latin American (Brazil I think). Anyway might be a dumb question but thought i'd ask
Discreet
I'm bi. I've been bent over one time like 4 years ago. I want to do it again but discreetly. What's the best way to get someone to bend me over? Craigslist is an option but they all flake
Why do you think you are biologically gay
Some studies say it's because of the exposure to a certain amount of hormones in the womb, others say it's because of social (family / father...) and environmental factors etc... In any case, I know no one chooses to be gay and it's predetermined before puberty hits. Question is why do you think you are gay? Do you personally think it's genetic? Birth order? Brain development? Parental influence? What's your opinion on the matter?
I like a straight guy
There's this guy at school who I've known for a while but haven't really talked to. He's just amazing but idk how he rolls and I'm too afraid to ask. What should I do?
What's a side?
I just heard about sides and I still don't understand what they do.I know they don't like anal but what do they do instead in the bedroom?
Told my mom
So I came out to myself as gay (thought I was bi) a few days ago and I just told my mom (who thought I was straight). She didn't really say anything and wanted to get off the phone. I know she'll be ok and she just needs some time. I live a few states away, so I think that's helping me. But I'm still pretty rattled. Her and my dad are the last people to know (and I still have to tell him, eek!). I don't really have any gay friends, so I needed to say it to someone who would understand (i.e. Strangers on Reddit).
Out of place in this community...
I’m a gay man. However, my interests are completely different from every other gay man I’ve met. For instance, I’d rather work on my car or play hockey than do stereotypical “gay” things. I’m not a fan of drag, I hate clubbing, is there something wrong with me?
Dating Advice/Tips
Hey, I'm a lurker who decided to post out of sheer frustration. I live in the rural south, so dating opportunities are few and far between. The area has a thriving hookup culture, but not much in the way of dating options (people or places). I've tried using Grindr to arrange coffee dates and such, but most people are just looking for a quick fix to their immediate problem.I'm not opposed to the idea of meeting people online, but I haven't really delved into the communities that are out there. I'm hoping y'all have something/someplace to recommend.A little about me: I'm a late 20's young professional. Short, slim, and on a journey to repay all those student loans I racked up while I was trying to find myself.
I'm not sure if my best friend is straight
So I am confused by my best friend who has said is straight and has had several girlfriends in the past. We met about 5 years ago and instantly hit it off. 5 years later we live together, and things as great. Recently though I came out as bisexual to him and he took it well. The past few times we have gotten high though and even when we are not he makes comments like wanna fuck, or he will slap my ass, or make very long eye contact...it's got me confused.He hasn't had a girlfriend in over a year and I know he still likes women we comment on them often. I won't deny I am attracted to him, have been for awhile. I am just unsure what to do about it. Keeping in mind that we are very close friends, what should I do?
coming out soon, need help!!
Hey everybody, I'm new to reddit although I've been a lurker for a while, and like the title says I need some guidance coming out to my friends and loved ones. I will be very appreciative of any positive or honest feedback! I'm 38 and I am gay. I have been into guys for a long time, since 13 or 14, my first sexual experience was with a man, but I suppressed my wants and feelings ever since due to personal and social pressures. I've had many gf's, I have two daughters and I currently have a gf who I live with. The last year to year and a half things have changed in that I have realized and accepted that I am gay, instead of at first telling myself I was just in a phase (for 25 yrs. lol), and that I'm just bi. I have zero attraction to my gf, and women in general. The prospect of actually going through with this is really freaking me out, and I would really like some input on how to handle it. I'm really a pretty private person and consider it my business, but I know it will eventually be known anyway... I'm most unsure of how to handle my gf :( Thanks in advance!
Best ways to make Anal more pleasurable than painful?
So, i'm not into Anal, but a friend of mine told me that in his experience, Anal has always been more painful than pleasurable and that he doesn't really enjoy it (As much as some people seem to do). Then i read somewhere (I don't remember where) that Anal doesn't have to be painful at all, so that got me thinking, maybe my friend is doing something wrong, or maybe he's just not into it either. But anyway, does anyone with experience here have any tips to make Anal painless (Or at least make sure it's more pleasurable) for any future partner?
Straight roommate
Why must I fall for a straight guy? I guess we all are guilty of this. We let ourselves create this fantasy world with the hope of maybe getting together with him or something happening.I've lived with my roommate for over a year but the past 3-4 months have been very difficult. I did confess to him my feelings towards him, which I believe was a huge mistake but we still remained friends.I have always felt this connection between us but it was my mind playing a mind trick on me. I thought the body language and signals he was sending was because he was interested. It confused me honestly because I didn't know what to think.He would get drunk and sometimes come to my room and cuddle. We would get drunk and end up cuddling. Nothing more but he would say that he wanted me to suck his cock and I recorded him saying that after a night out. He really didn't say much after I replayed it. When we had conversations we maintained good eye contact and stared in each other's eyes. All this plus more confused me. He also never brought women home and really never talked to women.Here recently our next door neighbor a curvy plus size female has laid eyes on him and last night they slept together despite him talking bad about her and her weight. I have a feeling that I will be seeing more of her.I sit back and look at the situation, I see that I was the dumb one. I cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, iron, etc.. I guess I thought I could win his heart this way but I believe this was not the right approach. Please note that he doesn't have to pay rent or bills, doesn't go grocery shopping, and has leftovers from my job that he takes to work. This was all given to him because I took care of an elderly man. He offered his house free of rent and bills, so I extended the offer to him since we had an xtra room.I can say that he loves the attention and probably taking advantage of the situation.I am a little devastated about the news of him sleeping with the female and my anxiety is at an all time high. I honestly don't know what to do? I feel like leaving this place or possibly going to stay with a friend for a couple of weeks?Any suggestions?
So fucking alone
Hey fellow gay people thanks for reading I need to vent and I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.So I'm 22 about to graduate college, my freshman year I met this amazing guy on jackd. He was everything I've ever needed about 8 years older than me and just an awesome person. He would drive me to school and we would hangout doing nothing and just being in love, he really loved me and cared about me and I did to.But one day I started to feel depressed and decided to tell him to leave me alone. A few months after that we started hanging out again then my dad killed himself and I got depressed and told him to fuck off again.Now almost two years later I'm still fucked up over this relationship. We still ocasonially hangout but it always ends with me trying to hug him and he literally physically pushes me away. It hurts so much that he doesn't want to be with me now that I've learned from my mistakes I would never leave him again if he took me back.I'm so tried of this, wanting him when he's moved on, hating myself for ruining what could have been a fulfilling relationship, basically begging him to be with me. He says he loves me but he doesn't want to be with me, if that's not the most confusing shit ever idk what is.I have no body, no friends, no-one who knows me for more than a fuck. It's so depressing I'm really lost. My life is so fucking empty and he's out there getting anyone he wants, having fun at bars without me. And I'm just this ugly fucking pathetic loser. I wish I could be one of the popular gay guys that everyone loves.It just hurts to know that he knows me well enough to know I'm not worth being with. I wish I could kill myself but I can't hurt my mom like that. I'm just so tired of feeling like this.How could I meet someone who loved me and just push them away for no reason. I guess it had something to do with a guy who hurt me along time ago. I guess after being thrown away by a guy years ago made me think that's the normal thing to do when you care is push them away. I wish I had some hope but it just feels like I'm worthless for treating people so badly.It's really just a pattern I guess everytime I get close I childishly push guys away. He's Just the one I've loved the most. I feel like a fucking monster how do I forgive myself?
Used to keeping it all in
I'm a 33 year old guy and I've never had much attention from the gay blokes I know or come across. This isn't a sob story but the fact is all the guys I've liked have never liked me back. I've had a few relationships over the years though I've never been in love and they didn't go anywhere or last long so I've always been single. I'm a massive romantic and over the years I've had to shut the hope away as its never been returned.I met a guy the other day who I am really attracted too. We had some beers and a walk along the beach and we are getting together again on the weekend to check out a museum. The thing is I've suppressed the hope of something more for so long that it feels like I'm going into dangerous territory like I'm doing the wrong thing about being open and hopeful as I've sort of learnt that this isn't a possibility for me.Has anyone ever been in this situation ? I know I need to man up and accept that being turned down is all apart of risk and it's a normal part of dating, I'm not concerned about being turned down at all - I'll live - but I'm concerned about how much I've put into being okay with being alone and what it will cost to have that undone.I hope someone understands what I am trying to get across. Thank you.
Same sex unification vs Same sex marriage
Could someone please explain to me the difference between a "unification" and a "marriage"? In regards to what rights we won't get if same sex unification would be approved instead of same sex marriage.
Advice
Hey guys. I need some advice. I am gay, I always have been, I have never been attracted to any woman in my life. However being gay in my country is very hard( but legal) since most people hate gays( my father included) and otherwise I like my country, love my friends and I don't really want to move to another country where I know absolutely noone and I don't know the culture of the people there. Now to the point: there is a girl that really likes me and keeps asking me out. She is nice, I don't feel attracted to her at all but shouldn't I try? I mean, I could change and maybe even start a relationship with her. That way everyone will be happy and I will get to have a family and the support of my family and friends. What do you guys think I should do?
Boyfriend moving to dorms
Hello, I need some advice please, my boyfriend of 4 years is moving 60 miles away to college he is moving to a dorm with another guy, I will see him on weekend and I have never found him cheating or anything bad even though I've cheated in the past and he knows about it, would you guys be ok with your boyfriend moving with another guy? Hes basically going to see this guy everyday and share shower rooms with other guys I'm scared he might fall for someone, or that things won't work out?
2017. augusztus 29., kedd
Grindr Fucking Sucks...
I don't know you guys have been holding up, but for the last three weeks, every time I try to hook up with a guy, he has either blocked me, just stopped responding, or continues to tell me what day work better for him. I am so goddamn sick of it. Ive had plenty of hook ups on Grindr before, I guess im just really pissed off Ive spent an extra 30 mins in the shower to get EXTRA CLEAN about 4 or 5 times now to NOT get fucked. Its especially irritating if weve already agreed on a time and place, which has been about 90% of the guys. Am I just being irrational? Should I not actually expect to have sex when they say, "this time at this place is good for me?" I am also a bit of a hermit. My job (vape shop) allows me to converse with plenty of people, but I gave my number to one guy I was sure was into me, and havent seen him since, so thats a no-go. What the actual F is going on here, guys? Is it just flake season or what?
I finally came out to my friend
Im 29 m. I have a gorgeous female friend who told me she was bi casually this summer when we were watching a baseball game. I so wanted to come out to her then but I've always been afraid. Finally did tonight and I've never felt more accepted. This is probably nonsense but it meant the world to me.
Straight Asian male here...
Are Asian males often fetishized by gay males? I ask because I get hit on by gay males quite often, and even by my gay friends that know I'm straight. A lot of the gay men that hit on me have told me they like Asian guys. I rarely get hit on by women, if at all. I'm not particularly good or particularly bad with women when I make the first move, but I can't think of any time when a woman has made the first move, or tried to hit on me like gay men have.Hopefully I didn't ask anything ignorant or said anything offensive (and if I did, let me know so I don't do it again), but I'm just confused is all. To be honest, I actually enjoy getting hit on by gay men and the attention and confidence boost gay men give me, because I don't get enough of either from women. :p
She legitimately just asked if I could lift her dead body if I needed to...WHAT?! O_O Weirdo. Anyway...I had fun with it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yw81B9NANts&feature=youtu.be
I have this crush
I'm asking for help here but I have this crush. I'm a gay male and I don't know what he identifies as but I know at one point he was questioning his sexuality, he's in the GSA for our school and he especially 'acts gay' around me. I don't know what to dooo I wanna tell him how I feel but idk what he thinks of me n shit. EDIT: Send help idk how to flair on this subreddit
I love getting humiliated or called names by hot guys. Anyone else have this strange obsession?
Az összesítés nem áll rendelkezésre. A bejegyzés megtekintéséhez
kattints ide.
I'm not sure...?
Hi im an asexual male with a weird feitsh, i have no atraction to penis or human males (or females in general). My fetish is that i get aroused by FAT masculine "bara" dragons/wolves, i masturbate in that, it's kind of cringey i know, but i turns me on seeing them so fat and round, i'm gay? (human males don't turn me on).
Acting extra gay for someone?
Does anyone else try to do subtle things to act "gayer" around a guy they think might be gay? I find my self doing this all the time lol
Quality Gay Singer/ Songwriters?
Im looking for music that better reflects my identity aaaand is not a total piece of pop crap (i meekly apologize if pops your thing) - and im looking for artists ( perferably singer/songwriters) that talk about being gay or dont have a problem being outright with their identity - even if they're music isnt screaming it every other line.The only artist Ive found that i like who isnt afraid to portray the diversity of his identity is Frank Ocean - so pleeeeeaaaase refer me to some more.I like all kinds of music, particularly hip hop/ R&B/ rap, but anything that has quality sonhwriting is appreciated.Hopefully this post makes sense. Thanks!
LGBT Organisations
Are there any LGBT Assosiations and organizations in your countries guys? In my country the organizations are really pathetic and they do nothing actually. They are only focusing on people in the capital. It is a really pathetic thing, I don't even know why they exist when they do nothing and they are worth nothing. It is a total joke.
Should I come out to my roommate?
I'm terrified of his reaction and its only been about 5 days so far. I'm afraid that if i do he's gonna react poorly and I wont know how to handle it. Any tips on how to do it? I was thinking about taping a note to the inside of his closet door.
When did you guys start engaging with your sexuality?
Hey guys,Over the part 6 or so months, I've found myself becoming really interested in LGBTQ+ culture. I'm 25 and have been out since I was 14, but it's only recently that I've begun to really look at the gay scene and become interested in what LGBTQ+ people have made (film, art, music, a language), and really start to feel myself associating with it and respecting it somewhat.I'm also having a lot of memories from my past about growing up as a gay man in a small English town (which I think I'd previously blocked out), and the effect it had upon me. I'm reading gay literature in an attempt to learn more about my sexuality and what it means to be a gay person.I'm also beginning to engage myself more sexually, and experimenting and exploring the more sexual side of myself. I'm recently in an open relationship so this is the perfect environment to do it I feel. That certainly isn't without insecurities, jealousies and the like, but I feel like I'm getting more out of it than it's taking out of me, and the more I do it, the more benefits and less negatives I feel.It's such a strange feeling. I feel like I've always been gay, of course I have. But recently, something has changed. I am, for whatever reason, showing a demonstrative interest in LGBTQ+ things, applying for jobs at LGBTQ+ charities, reading a lot more about our history, and taking more of a general interest. I'm identifying with a culture of which I've been part of, but never really known much about.What I'm experiencing is not without it's downsides. I'm learning about my own insecurities, which I previously thought were separate to one another, but am now realising many are a factor of being gay (body dysmorphia, self esteem issues, feelings of inadequacy against others etc). But overall I feel like I'm connecting with myself on an interesting level.Did this ever happen to any of you? I'm really interested to hear whether you've had the same experience. I'm reading The Velvet Rage at the moment and it talks about how men in the mid-twenties begin to have feelings of regression and looking back to (for me, a previously blocked out) childhood in order to understand who they are.
Gay Politics
Throughout human history, the rich divide the middle/poor by social issues in order to economically oppress them and stay rich.How do I convince gay people that Democrats are evil by splitting America through identity politics and to not fear voting Republican?If a republican candidate only has economic issues in their platform, would you vote for them if the democrat candidate said some bullshit about protecting gay rights? remember: poor gay people can't afford rent, food, etc.
Is it homophobic for two straight men to talk/joke about being attracted to each other?
Is it homophobic for two straight men to talk/joke about being attracted to each other - especially if a gay man overhears the conversation - but it wasn't said just because they were in earshot. How far can the two straight guys go with a joke? - i.e. can they joke about having sex with each other or for example say that they look like they are jerking off their boyfriend when trying to remove something from a wall? Is this homophobic, being insensitive or is the gay person being too sensitive? I posted this to the gay subreddit because I would really like to know how problematic this is as I have gay friends who have never raised anything like this about the way I talk ocassionally.
I think I'm attracted to guys
I have always been straight, but lately I have been wondering if I have a desire to be with men as well. It started with my best friend and now I'm very confused. I don't know if I should act on my feelings or not
2017. augusztus 28., hétfő
I need help deciding
I think I'm falling in love and I don't know what to do. I've know this guy for a bout two years, but I've got a taste of his affection, and I want more. He treats me so well and I don't know what I'm feeling. Is this just a crush or am I in love?
Feel
Have you ever felt so angry and frustrated and hurt and pissed that you actually stop caring about anything. I just sleep all day and all night. I sleep like 18 hours out of 24.
I'm so bi
So as it says above I know I'm bi but i have never had the chance to be with a guy as an adult. When i was younger 10/11 Me and 2 other friends used to wank each other off and suck each other off. I am in a SR of 4years nearly 5 and we have a child together. My partner does use toys on me and she is up for trying pegging. She is very open minded and she want to have a threesome with another girl, I have asked her if she wants a threesome with another guy and she said not really but she wasn't convincing lol. I think she would if I asked her to and I'm desperate to be with a guy. As we are into anal play and pegging I think if something happen in a threesome like me getting fucked she might be cool with it. We are London based if any bi guys or girls are interested message me. Me30 Her30
The Love Hexagon
So i'm in a really, really, really awkward position.. I don't want to name any names because if i do and on the off chance they or someone who knows them see this and by power of deduction figure out who i am and use it against me I'm fucked hahaha so I ain't taking that risk :)so... There's three girls and one weird guy and then my best friend who is also a guy lol. two of the girls are always messaging me and sending me constant snapchats of themselves doing i guess "sexy" poses and they aren't bad looking they're actually quite fit to be fair to them and i know for certain one of them likes me and the other one hasn't said but I've seen enough times to know that the other one is looking for something out of me :/ The other girl i don't know all that well but she keeps starring into my eyes and trying to talk to me during work and it's really awkward lolThe weird guy is some random fuck i met online while high and i mean really fuckin' high. I fucked up real bad there. Anyway, he thinks that I'm his soulmate. Well he's not weird just.. I get flirty while high and well it's my own fault really. He lives in England and i fucked up real bad by sending him my home town so if he turns out to be a crazy stalker who's gonna be mad cus i kinda just deleted my account and dissapeared because i didn't want to add fuel to the fire by telling him "I don't like you tbh" and it's not that it's him it's most definitely me haha.I feel like such an asshole. People are taking likings to me and i can't even tell them why! Which i guess brings me round neatly to my Best Friend.So.. I've known him pretty much all the moments in my life worth remembering in fact. All the moments in my life worth remembering are the moments i spent with him. He never fails to make me smile, he makes me smile and laugh so much just being with him or talking to him that sometimes my jaw cracks hahaha :) Anytime in my life when i needed to talk to someone or just want to be with someone i always turn to him first, always. I love everything he loves; i adore his music taste, he always knows the best food and drink he is the only person who can get me to try new things and actually enjoy them. I never enjoyed peppers, any alcohol and rap before he showed and encouraged me to try. Funny thing is that if anyone else tried to show me things like that, things i thought i didn't like i'd probably either not even try them or walk away with the same opinion.But no matter what it is he shows me or gets me to try I always love it. He showed me Kendrick Lamer's Song "King Kunta" a day ago and when i went to sleep that night I couldn't get it out of my head and i fell asleep thinking of him and that song stuck in my head haha.The first time i ever drank was with him and it was Coors light which is a running joke we have so this weekend me him and two other mates got some weed and drink to watch the Mcgregor fight (Rip Mcgregor btw :( ) and i thought I'll get some Coors for me and him just a cheeky throwback to the old times.I was so delighted when he realised that I'd bought Coors too haha I think he kinda knew why i bought them; like the message behind it I think he was happy that i'd done that too. We had a lot of time to kill before the fight so we all just got really, really baked and so the banter started flowing really well as usual ;)There was so many points in the night where i just lost myself in a love drunk haze just looking at him. His eyes, his smile, his hair, his voice his everything is just so amazing to me and i find it hard to look away. The more i think about him the more I realise that he is literally my everything. He's the only person I genuinely love and care about which is what makes the whole thing so difficult :(The thing about him is that he's really quiet about his relationships which doesn't bug me but it does confuse me slightly. He seems to have a tonne of girlfriends but the thing about it is that I can't even think about how he gets away with it because i assume they know each other because i've heard their names mentioned in the context of that they're dating other guys or even in statements that contradict stories he's told me.Doubting him is the last thing I wanna do and i Really hate the fact that now I'm really confused. He's a really proud type of guy and I've known people who're very closeted gays and I'm seeing things of his all the time that make me think maybe he is.But at the same time I could so easily be wrong which makes me so sad. If i tell him i might lose him forever but if i don't say and he is gay or maybe if he likes me back he might think I'm not interested because i havent had the courage to ask. but that couldn't be more wrong. He's all i can think about and I love him to fuckin' bits and well.. I've started to wonder if maybe he likes me back but he's waiting for me to say.Anyway, back to the story haha. I feel i should really give some sort of name other than "Him." I'll refer to my best friend as "PB" which is just an inside joke not intials. PB and I got up and were about to leave our mates house and i asked him what his plans were for the rest of the day and said he didn't have any so in a bold move i asked if i could come over to his for the day and he seemed happy enough about that which of course made me smile.We fucked about for a quite a bit of the day, watched a football match on his laptop, went on reddit had a cheeky game of trials which of course he won lol.I loved the whole day though i think he noticed something about me. He noticed how quiet i was. Normally i talk a lot to him anytime i'm with him but we had really long silences which just isn't normal for me but i was so quiet because i couldn't stop thinking about what if. What if i just ask him. Or what if later we're out and i say something then. I'm torn because part of me thinks he wants me to ask and another makes me scared in case i lose him if he doesn't feel the same way or just then feels weird around me. If he didn't feel the same way i could still function as friends with him and not make any unwated advances on him because it's what i did for so many years already lol. I would just hope that he wouldn't feel uncomfortable around me or my literal worst nightmare him leaving me out of disgust :(Those conflicting ideas really fucked me up that day and drove me into silence whereas normally I'd be chatting away with him the whole day haha.When it got dark me and him left the house with two Coors and a joint to go to a playpark. We went in and sat on the bench and smoked the joint giggling and smiling away at each other coors in hand and there were times i had to stop myself gazing into his eyes because it would've been a dead giveaway because i definitely went starry eyed at him lolWe spent a good bit of that just reminsing on good times and we tried so hard not to attract attention but we just kept laughing and smiling and I'm pretty sure it was one of the best nights of my life I'll never forget it. Just me and him together at night drunk and high fuckin' around on the swings and it was just the most amazing thing. There was this basin thingy that spins around he pointed it out and I had to like fight myself to not say "Can i get in with you" hahaha so i just said "I'll spin you" and he got me to take a video of him and as soon as we started we just started giggling out of control at each other and we enjoyed it so much. I wish i had've just got in with him tbh. After that we went and sat in the bench at the far back i was convinced at the time he was moving us somewhere were we could have privacy. The whole time i was so sure that any second he would just lean over and kiss me or hug me. It never happened sadly but i never made a move either because I'm just shy like that. I almost did i made a promise to myself i wouldn't make any undesired moves cus i still don't know how feels. Felt like a real battle; lost count of the amount of times that night i almost leaned in to kiss him.When we sat on the bench we continued telling stories and laughing with each other. It was really cold but i didn't feel it all my cheeks were burning and my heart was pounding being close to him like that. At some points i could swear he was talking under his breath to me trying to get me to pick up on something. It's one of the reasons i'm unsure about weather he's gay or not i could swear he was flriting with me slightly with a few odd comments here and there.And of course that's when my mind started racing again and the coors plus weed really didn't help. we sat in silence for ages because i just couldn't decide to keep talking about normal stuff or just say straight up to him "I'm in love with you" and just see what happens.I never made the move and it was such a perfect time for it too but i couldn't muster the courage and was too terrified of a bad response. I went to bed dreaming about him and what i should've done.I didn't really know how to lay this out; I just wanted somewhere to put this i guess. Advice would be appreciated.TL;DR 4 other people are trying to get with me but I'm gay for my best friend and i can't really tell if he's gay or straight :/
I'm Black but not attracted to other Black guys?
I know that this kind of thing is pretty weird and sad but it's honestly how I feel. Growing up, I was never attracted to other Black guys. I can recall probably about 2 that I actually found attractive growing up but they were mixed (one had a Black Dad & White mom, the other had a Black dad & Spanish mom). I myself am mixed (Black / White) but I digress.I know that this kind of admittance in the gay world is seen as problematic but it's just how I honestly feel.I just don't find a lot of black guys' faces attractive, well the more prominent features like the combination of both a wide nose and thick big lips. It's just not a very appealing look to me. And also, I'm just not into the way a lot of black guys carry themselves. The use of ebonics ( Slang ) and the saggy dressing sense (though I' also feel the same about the "wigger" style lol). And many times, I just find I have nothing much in common with the average black guy, at least the ones I've run into.And before anyone says it, I don't just chase after White guys. In fact, I actually have a liking for Asian men but usually they're not into black guys from my experience haha. I'm just saying, it's not all about white men for me as I like Asian / Islander, Middle Eastern, Native American, and Hispanic / Spanish guys (both "white passing" and not).I guess what I want to know is if other Black gay guys feel the same way?
Dealing with anger
Hi all,Background: I have a crush on a guy who I don't know is straight or not, no indications either way and I directly confronted him about it but he sort of steered away from the issue, basically an unresolved crush, the story you've seen a thousand times on this subreddit. This post isn't really about that.I'm fairly competitive in general, and play relatively competitive games like Starcraft and Go/etc. which can be very tough when you lose since you really only have yourself to blame. I do enjoy playing these things but when I have a very frustrating/preventable loss, it can be very tough. This is where the crush comes in.Usually, when I lose these sorts of games, I get a sudden rush of feelings for the guy, suddenly out of nowhere, and it's sort of an angry feeling because he's been dodging the issue for so long. I'm much more mild mannered than I was years ago, but I still get these feelings and I was wondering if anyone had any tips/stories/experiences in this regard. Thanks!
Young, Gay, Republican
I am a gay republican and feel strange about how I feel on many issues. I love offensive humor like George Carlin, Louis CK, and Jimmy carr, and I wanted to know if there were any people like me. Whenever I talk to gay people I meet and politics come up, they always cant believe that I am a republican, and that I think offensiveness is funny. I have always felt alone even with people who are similar to me because I have no one to talk to about my beliefs. Would love positive feed back if possible, thanks. PS Im 17, so young but not young enough to not think for myself
Should I confess to my best friend/ room mate?
I'll try to keep this short. I'm gay, my room mate is straight, probably. To be honest I have my suspicions that he is Bi, or maybe gay.anyway if he is bi or gay, he's in the closet and has no intention of coming out any time soon.I've been in love with him for a couple years now. It's made living with him really difficult. He is also probably aware that I like him, at the very least i'm sure he knows that I find him attractive..He's one of my best friends, and even if we can't be together, even if he doesn't feel the same way, I still want him to know how I feel. Even if I don't come out and say "I love you", I could use less serious language to send him the message. (ex: I really like you or something. He will know what I mean, and it doesn't have as much weight as saying I love you).He probably wouldn't even be that surprised, but I can't decide if telling him would be a good idea or not.I want to tell him that I care about him, that I really like him, and I don't expect him to feel the same way but I need to get this off my chest. It seems right now like these feelings are never going away, and if that's the case I want him to know the truth instead of hiding it from him my entire life. I've truly never felt this way about anyone before.I know it will be a little awkward after. What do you guys think? Should I tell him how I feel about him?
Came Out To My Wife
I came out to my wife of five years last night. It went really well, better than I expected at least. I'm a fully gay male and she is a fully heterosexual female. I've literally only ever been attracted to her as far as females go. I don't understand the biology of my attraction to her because it doesn't make much sense to me as a gay man, but the sexual attraction is there. Literally no other woman can do it for me but her. Anyways, I came out to her last night. I told her that I was gay and that she is literally the only woman I have ever been sexually attracted to or fulfilled by. She asked a lot of questions. Mostly prying to determine how gay I am and if I was more bi than gay. I explained that women don't excite me sexually in any way and apart from her, I don't think I have ever had an erection caused by a female. We talked for a long while. We talked about guys and how I was attracted to men. We talked about our life and where to go from here. Ultimately, we love each other. I don't understand how or why she does it for me. I'm not asking too many questions about that. I do know that I'm a very lucky guy. She was fully supportive. We're remaining together. We will have an unconventional relationship, but it will still be one defined by love.
Telling my girlfriend I'm gay
Hi all!I'[m] 25, been in a relationship with a girl for 2 years during which I identified as bi. Unfortunately for me, reality has caught up to me in that time and I'm just realizing that there's no squirming around it, I exclusively like men.I love her, and I know I have to tell her and end it, but has anyone gone through this or have advice on how to go about doing it? She has generalized anxiety and depression and is in a pretty dark place at the moment. I'm also supposed to help her move in two days and her sister's wedding (which she isn't going to because she recently cut all ties with her family) is in less than two weeks. I'm not sure if I should wait until these major events pass. I'm not sure I can manage to hide it. Add on top of all this that we're currently fighting (us being on the outs led to me having this realization) and haven't communicated with each other since yesterday evening.Despite all the negative here, it's hard not to feel relieved that I can finally admit I'm gay. I feel so peaceful, but know I have a huge hurdle in front of me. Anything you have that might help is appreciated.
Still Somewhat Closeted
I really want to come out to whom I consider my best friend, the problem though is that I'm fucking deeply in love with this guy and he's married. As far as I know, he is straight but there are times that I question whether or not he might be bi. We are both in the military, submarines specifically, and being away from women for months on end I'm not gonna lie things do start the get a bit weird. And that is where my confusion on if he is bi stems from. However, there are things that we both do that make me think he is bi such as when we see each other in the morning we greet one another with a hug, we always jokingly tell each other that we love each other, except I'm not joking, and a few days ago he said something about when we drink together that it's MY hope I get him drunk enough to have sex with ME. Obviously, that threw a flag for me like 1.) either he knows that I like him or 2.) he actually hopes that happens. Here is what I'm having trouble with there have been multiple times in conversation where I wanted to come out to him and other people, not necessarily that I like him, literally yelling at myself in my head to do it but my mouth just won't let me say the words. One of my friends is openly gay and I can't even tell him I'm bi. I'm really not sure of what I'm looking for here but how were you able to come out to people.
I'm bisexual but...?
So for as long as I can remember I've been bi but leaning towards woman. I'm only sexually attracted to the lower half of some dudes but for women I'm attracted to it all. I used to lean towards women but over the years, possibly from my loneliness and lack of many female friends, I've started to lean towards men. This isn't exactly the problem in itself, the problem is it was my dream to get with a girl for my first relationship then I'd see where it goes from there. I don't even want a gay relationship but that's the only thing I've ever had the option of taking. I don't know why but females don't like me and over the years it's turned me more and more "gay". What would be my next course of action? What should I do?
Anyone want to chat?
Not into finding chat buddies on omegle, so asking here if anyone wants to chat.
Being comfortable telling people you're gay
I'm 22 and have been in 2 longer relationships since I was 15 (the first lasted about 2 years and the other, my current relationship has lasted for 4 years and counting). I'm very proud of my boyfriend, we've lived together for 2 years now and our relationship is basically everything I'd hope for, but when I meet new people I find it hard telling them that I'm gay, and that I live with a man. Everyone generally assume that I'm straight, and I even find it hard to correct them when they do so. I think I'm afraid of being treated differently when they find out.My family and friends know that I'm gay, but how do I tell class mates (I'm in a new class right now), and other acquaintances in the future?I might add that I'm very disconnected from the LGBT community where I live.I figure I'm not alone in dealing with this, does anyone have any advice on how to become more comfortable telling people?
Would anyone be interested in a gay movie club of sorts?
My thinking is that it'd be similar to the concept of a book club where everyone watches on their own and then we can all discuss. Movies would either be actually gay or just cornerstones of gay culture. For example, Brokeback Mountain is actually gay, but Whatever Happened to Baby Jane is a iconic piece of gay culture. Both types would be acceptable.I figure we would either choose 1 movie a week, or 1 every like 3-4 days. And people could watch at their own connivence and then we just discuss and share our thoughts and feelings and what not.Not really sure how we would make selections. I guess we'd either take turns choosing or just vote.Anyways, anyone interested in something like this?
Thinking I'm gay (or maybe bi) whilst in a hetero relationship?
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and love him very much as a person - however I've had no desire to have sex or see him naked etc. for the last year or so. In this time I've had a lot of sex dreams about girls and have even noticed myself having small crushes on girls.How do I know if I'm gay? These feelings have only arisen in me slowly over the last few years and in most stories I've heard, people have known their sexual preference from childhood. I've only ever dated boys and I've always been comfortable with this until now.Additionally, has anyone been in a similar situation of being in a hetero relationship whilst questioning their sexuality? What did you do?
2017. augusztus 27., vasárnap
Having a lot of relationship problems. On sex first...
I'm married to a handsome 32 year old gay bear for 5 months, we've known, cared for, and kinda wanted each other since 2011 but we never got serious till 2016. Our sex was good at the beginning. But some months after we got married, it started waning. Sometimes he won't want to have sex with me and just help me get off because he jerked off at work, and most of the time he says he's tired. Sometimes when I ask him to help me get off, he even rejects me. It makes me feel unattractive and think that he's starting to get bored of me.We also haven't had anal sex for almost 3 weeks now. He tried but he never came. I don't know how to deal with it, and whenever I try to talk to him about it, he just wants me to be thankful that he does other nonsexual things for me like helping with groceries and helping with the bills, rent, etc.I do appreciate all the things that he does for me. But when I feel like we've never had enough sex, when he rejects my ask for help in jerking off (not even sex), and when you find out that he jerks off at work and not be in the mood when he gets home, then i'll just end up being disappointed and just being someone who has to deal with it.This is rly bothering me, so any help will be welcome. Thanks!
Prostate Stimulation in Males
So my friend wants to use household items to stimulate his prostate, and he's having trouble getting aroused in that area. He's gay, and it wasn't a problem until recently. He also says butt-plugs are fine. Basically he just wants to know how to get aroused by a dildo and hit his own g-spot. Thanks.
Am I missing something or is he in denial?
I had been working at this warehouse for a long time, about a year and a half before I met him. He was a bit goofy, uncoordinated and seemed a bit weak for the job. So I despised him for it for awhile. It was due to the fact that he was placed in a position to where I felt he was a hindrance to me and my work (which is/has always under appreciated and overlooked by management). It took months but I learned to work with him and actually started to get to know him better. We both actually have quite a bit of the same interests. We both enjoy gaming, anime, and watching some of the same tv shows and would talk about them all every time we see each other. One day at work we were talking and I happened to notice that he had an erection. He of course tried to hide it but the way our job works we have to stay near a conveyor for majority of out time there. At this point I was thinking "maybe it's one of those involuntary boners that guys get from time to time" (and it might be). So I didn't think much of it. Then I noticed that it happened almost every day, almost every time we talk. It still happens til this day. I'm convinced he likes me at this point but he has talked about his interest in the opposite sex and also have made a few homophobic statements. He obviously likes my company and even asked to hang out outside of work multiple times and we have about three times now. He acts differently towards me than he do other guys and I let time pass and basically watched over time (basically taking notes). He's all down to earth, calm and gentle with me and more idk how to really explain it with other guys. For example my brother works there two and those two are cool too but there has been two times where he's hugged my brother from behind 😂😂 (and my brother didn't like it either time). However he'll never do that to me. My guess is he doesn't want me to know he's interested (if that is the case). Anyways (geesh I ramble way to much), my brother actually found an apartment literally next door to his, and I was invited to move in. I will be moving in in about six months. I helped my brother move in and stayed for about a month and went back to my moms place. During that month I had gotten closer to him and learned more about him as he learned more about me. I had kinda been annoying (at least I felt I was but every time I apologized for it he told me that it wasn't annoying at all) and would text him every other day asking him if he wanted to hang out. Most times he would find an excuse as to why he couldn't but we successfully hung out three times (not including walking our dogs together which also brings me to the fact that we plan to breed our dogs together eventually, Husky/Collie mix) Anyways during our conversations at work he asked "So when's the next time you're coming back to Rivington?" I had told him that I would give it a month or two before I made another long visit to my brothers place (Even told him that before I left during my first stay). He told me that he wanted to watch a movie together. I ended up visiting again this weekend and again he's being dodgy. I like our friendship but I would love a relationship too but not if it'll ruin our friendship. I like him, I think he likes me, but I think he's in denial about it. I don't know what to do or think now because one second the signs are obvious then other times they aren't. I'm at the point now where I'm going to start letting him take the initiative because I feel like I'm making a fool of myself. I plan on confessing my feelings in a way that I think will protect our friendship and will probably give him a chance to come to terms with his feelings if they exist that is, and that is by telling him that I am starting to like him and if it is a problem for him that I'll distance my self a great deal in order to rid myself of those feelings. Is this a good idea? Am I missing something? Is he in denial? 🤔🤔
Shaved balls for the first time
I'm 18 and fairly new to the community so maybe I've missed something. But why isn't this more advertised or talked about. They feel velvety and soft asf. I'm in love rn no joke.
is this too risky?
so my boyfriend got diagnosed with HIV a couple of months ago (he got it before our relationship) and I am supporting him to my best capacities. We haven't had sex since the beginning of April (yes, it's been a WHILE) and he's been on antiretroviral therapy for a little bit over one month.We always used condoms and there wasn't any problem, since I'm HIV Negative, and the main reason why we haven't had anal sex is because of extreme anxiety and intrusive, catastrophic thoughts on my part. The most sexual thing we've done is having him give oral sex to me and having him finger me, with no wounds on his mouth/fingers.Is it too risky if we attempt to have sex again with a condom? It's been almost 5 months without se and it's gotten rough. My anxiety has been big these months but I'm finally getting to a good point where I won't be so scared of everything.Our plan was to wait until he was undetectable to have sex (always with condoms) but now honestly we're both dying with abstinence and I'd really appreciate some orientation from anybody who has something to say.Thanks in advance :3
Encouragement
(This is my first time posting on here, so please be gentle :3)I'm 15 years old and came to the fact that I was gay 3 years ago. I haven't come out to my parent yet but I have to some of my close friends (I'm still currently in high school).I've had feelings for some of my close friends (that I haven't told that I'm gay) however, I've had to painfully accept the fact that their straight, that they wouldn't be into me physically and wouldn't be comfortable with me if I told them. This kinda leads into my next point...Am I ever going to find somebody? A bit of a cliche question I know but seriously, I'm really kinda scared of not being able to find anyone that will accept me. I'm scared of being alone for ages after I leave school since it looks like nothing is going to change afterwards. I just, want encouragement or just want to hear from other people to see if things will change.Thx :)
After realizing you're gay or homoflexible, how do you get out of the stage where you can feel uncomfortable, sad, or weird about it?
I recently accepted I was a naturally at man who was conditoned to like girls, it left me homoflexible instead of gay. I believe it's true but I just feel weird about it. I feel depressed, insecure, and awkard about it. I want to just want to get to the point where there's no discomfort about being homoflexible /naturally gay. I don't know how to speed up the process.
Catfished on a dating site - what to do now?
So I was speaking to this cute guy online and I gave him my number and he text me today. He has sent me a selfie of himself and ...erm...it looks NOTHING like his online profile photo - which admittedly was taken from slightly further afar.Shall I tell him that he isn't what I thought he would look like close up? I feel like I've been tricked. On our messages I have said I want to meet up with him - what's the bet way of approaching this as I don't want to now.
Video
https://youtu.be/G1_OgK46pjc some very stupid organisation in my country did this video that was filmed in the capital and draws the most ridiculous conclusion- that "bulgarians are not homophobic" 😂
Call from church about being gay?
First of all sorry if this is the wrong subreddit for this. I was on a vacation in Ohio with my boyfriend, and while we were watching TV at about 2 AM a number from New Mexico called me. They told me about how someone from my local church (I'm from Michigan btw) came in and talked about how I "participate in homosexual activity". He started saying some other things but I hung up pretty quickly to hear much else. How would people be able to obtain this type of information about me when I am extremely quiet about my orientation?
HELP!!!! I thought these guys were my friends but they drugged me and live streamed me
Any help would be greatly appreciated. I went to a friends house yesterday to watch the UFC game and he said he was giving me dab but after I took it my heart rate started getting really high like so fast I felt like I was going to pass out and I was almost panicking and I started to fall asleep but I had just enough energy to wake myself up and I caught them videotaping me and I said "What's the link?" and they were like "What?!" and I said "To the livestream" and these guys knew they were caught so the one guy said "You would not believe the number of views." They streamed this somewhere on the internet and I need help finding it. I'm fairly certain they damaged my car too!! What can I do here? I'm still having symptoms from whatever they gave me I feel like I'm intoxicated and it's been 18 HOURS!!! Someone was looking out for me I don't know if my heart would have stopped if I fell asleep.
Few questions about anal!
Hi guys , Just a few questions , so the back story is I've had anal 2 times with my partner now , it was great but he has to take viagra to keep it up as it takes a while for me to be able to get him all the way in without him going soft , Will this get easier to go in quicker the more we do it? Is 2 times a week a good number of times to do it? Thank you
A friend of mine is having trouble accepting he is gay.
A right wing friend of mine is having suicidal thoughts because he can't shake being gay.I'm not sure what extra information I can put here without just regurgitating far right propaganda, but essentially his interpenetration of Kant's categorical imperative (he's big into philosophy and politics) has led him to believe that being gay is immoral. He also bolsters this with a list of studies that apparently prove this to be true.He's desperate to not be gay any more and is considering converting to Catholicism to go to one of those anti-gay camps on the advice of a priest he knows. I'm the only other person he's really able to talk to about this, and for ages I have tried to tell him that he is normal and he shouldn't try to hurt himself because of this, but that won't sway him.I advised he ask here, since I've seen some helpful people post in these Reddit communities, but he's not a fan of the website so I'm doing it for him. Hopefully someone here has had a similar experience and can give advice.
AMA | Poly Relationship, 19m (me), 22 m, 27m
I've been in a poly relationship for about two years now. I never expected myself to be in this sort of relationship, but it works amazing for me and is the most loving, caring, and solid relationship I've ever had. Ask me anything!
Relationship Advice
Hi guys. I've been struggling with my relationship for a little while and I could really use some advice because I don't have a lot of friends near me to talk about this with.I've known this guy for about three years now and we've been dating for just over two. There's been some up and down moments throughout it, like any relationship, but it had always been pretty good. But about five or six months ago, he told me that he had a dream where I proposed and he said no and it ended up ruining our relationship. I think he was trying to joke about it, but ever since, I've kind of been wondering how he really feels about me or a future with me. In the two years we've been together, he's never told me he loves me, just that he cares about me very much and I'm his closest/best friend. He lives in the same town that I do, but we only see each other maybe once a week at most because he's somewhat introverted. This wouldn't really a be a big deal except I'm the only one who ever suggests doing anything or trying to initiate spending time together.But so things had been kind of tense in the past few months and then a couple of weeks ago, he admitted that he still has feelings for an ex from before he knew me. Things have been even rougher lately and I'm not sure how to handle this. I asked him about going to couples counseling and he expressed concern about it being too expensive. When I showed him a free program that I had found, he came back and said that he really doesn't want to see a counselor because he doesn't like talking to strangers.Sorry. I'm sure that's a lot to read. But I'm really not sure what to do at this point. I think I'm going to talk to him in person about how important the counseling thing is to me. But I'd really appreciate any advice on this. Thanks for taking the time to read, anyway.
Is my friend gay?
He knows I'm bi.He's done these things before: Changed around me, he's always shirtless around me. Doesn't seem like a big factor.A few times he said this to me "dude some gay guys aren't bad at all a lot are actually really good looking." (Yes, I know it's dumb to say).And once he was like "bro help me with my Snapchat" because he accidentally posted a dick pic on his story. I forgot what happened entirely but he showed me the picture.My gut tells me he's bi but idk. I've never seen him on Grindr or Tinder but I do know he doesn't have a car anyway. He's a fuckboy who hooks up with a lot of girls.
I'm not really sure what to do.
If you really want to help me out, please read until the end.I'm a teenager, using my throwaway since most people close in my life know my main account, and recently I had a small awakening, almost.Now keep in mind that I grew up in a very conservative family, and myself am very conservative. Up until about a year ago I was rather vocal about being against LGBT culture and the ideas that came with it, when lately I've learned to just stop caring and let people be ok with what turns them on.I, up until recently, was very adamant about being straight, but something happened. I was looking through a few porn subreddits, when I came across a solo image of this dude just holding out his massive dick. Normally I would be disgusted and carry on, but something about it made me stare. I got more turned on by that than I have any other woman, and I just couldn't help it.Does this automatically make me gay or bi, something along those lines? The idea of stroking someone else's cock or even sucking on it really turns me on, but I just don't think I could go all the way with it. I'm just really lost at the moment. I can't exactly talk to my parents about it as they still are adamant against it, and I'm not fully sure they'd be ok with the idea of their son being interested in other guys.
Opinions please
I am a straight guy, but I think about guys sexually. There is a guy at work that is gay and we are friends. Would it be a bad idea to talk to him about this? Or try to talk to someone else?I'm worried that I will regret it but at the same time I'm attracted to him and curious to see what happens.No, nobody else knows about me having these thoughts, but I'm pretty sure that he might suspect it though because I do kinda flirt with him. I'm just worried that it will be bad once someone I know actually knows what I'm thinking.And I have no intention of coming out to everyone, I'm still not ready for that. I'm still attracted to women. I just like certain types of guys.
He's straight
Simply I'm infatuated with this boy from school like I really really like him . I could think about him for hours but like usual I must consider the pivotal factor , that is his sexual orientation . I go to a preforming arts school where 42% of the boys are homosexual . But you see he dosent seem interested in relationships let alone boys he's very apathetic I can't get a read on him we talk sometimes but how could I possibly know and refrain any comments that say just go for it because just going for it could lead to the superfluous end of a friendship
I want to lose my virginity so badly but I want make it special
I'm 18 and I haven't had sex even though I feel the urge to almost all the time. Grindr is helping either. How do I look past this?
Who else identifies with black culture?
Idk I kind of understand the anger, Idk.. My favorite movie is 12 Years a SlaveI listen to a lot of Algiers and I just realized maybe it's because I'm homosexual?
is my prostate not working?
hi,So I've done anal like 3 times in my life, but a few days ago was the first time it was like proper anal (lasted about 10+ minutes, usually it wouldn't fit and such), and I didn't feel any pleasure at all?It felt like nothing, just a dull pain.So is there like a technique I need to make it feel better or is there something wrong with my prostate or something?Also, does anyone who bottoms feel like they have to pee while they're having sex?Thank you!
2017. augusztus 26., szombat
help me please
Well...i need someone to tell me ,how to make an enema without a douche or any other instrument like that,sadly i cant get them in my country,so i need someone to tell me how to do it without buying any instrument like that,please someone help me
What should I do? (Open relationship/ mixed feelings)
So let's get to the point. I am gay.. married and in an open relationship.My husband and myself rarely have sex. There are a lot of underlying reasons for that. The result is sex with others.I've never really been that guy but over time I've just been chipped away and it is what it is.I'm 33. And I seem to have found myself entangled with a much younger guy. He is smart. Funny. And we have chemistry. I'm currently in college (veteran) and so is he.. normal college age.Am I just filling a void or am I naturally just trying to find someone who genuinely likes me? We have not had sex. But have spent some great times together. We have had sexual experiences and have been communicating how we feel.I really like him but I also don't want to tell him that. I don't want to be the guy who dampens his youth.I'm up for open dialogue.Thanks
older male
i've come to the resolution that i am gay in some way.i think i deluded myself for years that i was attracted to women.in recent years i've found after some experimentation sexually,i enjoy men on men sex better.i'm in my 50s,love to find a partner to enjoy my time with
am i gay
I feel excited to chat dirty with someone. But ive never been with a guy and had many straight relationships. i just feel super horny.
How to Talk to a Guy (Gay)
This is a dumb question because I know that there are no hard-and-fast answers, but one of my lifeline friends who I could talk to anything about is not available for almost 10 days. So I just am hoping for any advice or comfort.Fact about me: I'm a boy. And gay.So, I recently arrived at college. I'm about a week in. And there's this really cute guy who I saw on my first day, and I'm pretty sure he's gay just because of everything I've observed (but I'm not positive). And I really want to talk to him, even if it only leads to us being friends and nothing more.I'm pretty sure he lives in the dorms right around mine because I see him a lot walking around or in the dining hall sometimes and things like that. Just passing times.I'm an introvert. Extremely so. And I also have anxiety. I hate college life in general and it's not like me to just talk to someone out of the blue, especially someone who's cute and who I'm interested in.So, I guess my question is, how do I strike up a conversation with him? I only see him every now and again and I feel it would be too weird to say like "hey I've seen you around. What's your name?"I don't know. I hope you get the gist. I just want to know how (or if) I should approach him and if it's reasonable to assume that we could be friends.Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!
Question about job security
I wanna be out at work because my gaydar has picked up potentially three coworkers who seem to be lgbt, and while my company has an anti-discrimination policy, my state says it's ok to fire away at the first sight of gay.My manager is a pentacostal christian, and having grown up with a friend whose family was pentacostal (and having attended many a service at his church) I know how judgemental they can be at small things like clothing choices and entertainment selections, let alone sexualities.I don't plan on getting on the intercom and being all HEYYYYY EVERYBODY I'M GAAAAAAAAAAAAAY but I'm also tired of a few of my other coworkers asking me if I noticed female customers they found attractive.I can't afford to lose this job, as little as it pays, but I don't want to pretend I'm straight either. Does a company policy protect me even if state law does not, or is it thrown out the window because the state allows employer discrimination?
Can someone clarify what terms mean these days?
Straight guy here and I'm hoping for someone to just clarify some terms for me. It's come to my attention that I no longer know what people mean when they say they are "trans". I don't mean to sound offensive or anything but all I can tell is that things do not mean what they meant when I was growing up. I'd just like someone to get me up to date on the most used slang of this community so I can avoid saying anything offensive in the future or misunderstanding what is being said. Thanks for any help you can provide.
Pissed
I hate my life soooo fuckin much. Ever since my last failed attempt to change my life for the better I have been sooo angry and full of hate that I keep fighting with everyone around me. I feel like I wanna throw up this ball of negativity and pain. Why is my fuckin life sooooo MISERABLE
anyone want to join a fantasy football league?
Just seeing if there's interest. No specifics yet, we can figure it all out later, but let me know if you're interested.
Achieving a simple goal?
Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit for this but I feel like it would fit in here.So what I understand is that you can reach any goal you want if you first know your goal, set it as your goal and then take as any actions towards that goal as you can. Be it setting yourself a sum of money as goal and saving even the smallest ammounts every day to reach that goal.My goal is, and was for a really really long time now, to have a relationship. To finally find someone that loves me as much as I love him. But this is one of the goals that seem impossible to work towards to. No matter how much I would go on dates or be nice to people around me. All of that does not matter because in the end I also need another person to feel the same. And I cant do that. I cant change the feelings for another person. And even if I could it would be wrong...So am I just not seeing it from the right perspective? Is there actually something active I could do to reach my goal? Other than being open minded and letting myself be found? Or should I move on and accept that this is out of my hands and the one and single goal I wanted for long should be replaced by something you can reach by working hard?
Is this normal?
So, let me just start by saying, I've been single for a long time. I started seeing someone, and we've been talking for a few weeks and hung out a lot, and then it just came to a halt. He had some issues going on and did not even tell me or talk to me, kind of left me in the dark. I had to pry it out of him. Well, I realize I needed to give him his space and I did. And it made me incredibly anxious, nervous, worried, sad, confused, just a mix of emotions. See, I felt really good about this guy. I did! I really did. And it was nice to have something promising going on. I really enjoyed it. Well, I decided that enough was enough and I can't make him talk to me, so I had enough of it. I felt selfish for how I felt. I wanted to respect his wishes and I thought I was, but I started seeing he was hanging out with friends, he was on Grindr, but he couldn't even utter a word to me. I was furious. So I went out with some friends, had a blast, didn't even have him on my mind. I didn't want to think about it, and I wanted to enjoy myself. Well, one of my friends was waiting for a ride and who calls me? The guy I was seeing. I was floored. Obviously, it was very late and he was drunk. Saying he misses me, wants to see me, all of that. I held on to that. I left, went home, sent him a text about how I miss him and hope he's okay. We talk the following morning, he acts like it never happened. Still wants to not talk to me, won't tell me whats going on, none of it. I ask him, will I see you soon? Just to have it met back with a no. Going on to say he shouldn't have called me. Just completely shutting me out. I felt so disrespected, hurt, sad. I burst into tears. I cried, a lot, and it was so foolish because I had only seen him for a few weeks, but I just could not help how emotional this made me. It really, really hurt. It still does. I decided that this is not happening, I don't need this, and frankly, no one needs to make me feel this way. I talked to my friends, my mom, they all agreed. I don't deserve this crap. The question I have is though, was that a totally normal reaction? I just didn't understand what this guy did to me to make me like him so much to the point where I am in tears about him. I felt so weird about it. What's the consensus here? Does anyone have any kind of similar experience?
It's 2am and I can't sleep (rant/seeking advice)
I had no idea what to put as the title, also please excuse the grammar and some spelling I'm using the app on my phone so I won't be going through it.Anyway as the title says, it's 2am and I can't stop thinking about what happened a few hours ago and what my sister said to me. Brace yourselves you're in for a D and M lol.I was raised by a Jehovah's Witness not a mother, at least that's how I look at it. My sister had a fight with my mum yesterday evening so I invited her around for dinner with my niece. My sister got to telling me what they were fighting about my mother not telling us about an aneurysm she's had for a while, my sister got angry because my mother could drop dead at any moment and we'd not have a clue why. Shortly after they strayed down to arguing about me.My sister started arguing about how I'm gay because according to my mother I choose to be, however before she was a Jehovah's Witness she had many gay friends, according to multiple friends she no longer talks to, not out of an argument just stopped talking or making contact.I've never been able to have any form of positive relationship with my mother at all, since she kicked me out when I was 16 I've barely made contact with her, I only see her when I'm with my sister. As I've gotten older (now 25) I've come to realise I'm not angry at my mother I'm angry at the Jehovah's Witness that's taken control, my sister managed to get my real mother to show one evening when she pointed out flaws in her religion, my mum broke down and finally told us that she needed the religion because if she didn't have the religion she didn't have anything left. When my sister told me this ages ago I literally stopped and said to myself "mum" because it was my real mother talking not this Jehovah's Witness, for the first time in my life I got to hear something real a true about my mother it's hard to explain but I felt in a way I got to visualise my real mum, the mum both of us lacked as children, my sister raised me from the age of 7 when my mother would just leave the house, leaving my sister to care for me.My sister was arguing with her about me not having a family and that she was my only family. She's right, I don't have any other family but my sister, my other realities are nothing but useless tools in the shed, my cousin and Aunty only spoke to me because they had a bet running I was gay, no joke when my cousin was working as a manager of a phone store near home my sister and I stopped in to say hi while she was on her break and I wanted to tell her I was gay, I was actually excited about it for once I could be me I recall her words "really? Ha! Mum and I had a bet going you were gay" since that day, not a peep from either of them, they only spoke to us at once every 5 year family events or funerals, when my nan was alive she was the only reason we all spoke to each other, now there's barely a hello, we don't get invited to Christmas or Birthdays we're the outcasts to them.I'm getting off track. My sister was right I have no other family, I considered a woman around the corner I knew for 15 years my mother because she looked after us better than my own mother and she could barely afford stuff for her own son let alone us, turns out I was just being used, that day was a right punch in the stomach.I wanted to go to my mums last night and say everything that's been bottled up but if I do my sister will likely get kicked out and I wouldn't want that hanging over my head. I want to tell that Jehovah's Witness everything I think of that fucking religion and then some, but I also want to tell my mum it's okay and that she doesn't need to feel alone anymore and although I don't show it, I love her dearly. I want to tell mum that it's okay. She became a Witness when she was pregnant with me she was suffering from depression because of my father leaving her, that religion hooked its claws into someone that was in a vulnerable state, that's exactly what I want to tell my mum. I want to tell her that she's not alone and she has us kids 24/7 but I know all I'll get is "Jehovah doesn't want that for me"I don't even know how to approach her, I want to do this for me so I can get rid of this anger towards the Witness I've had all my life. I really shouldn't appear to be complaining, there are people way worse off than me who would trade places in a heartbeat but I need some advice on how to do that and I don't know where else to look.
In the need of an advice
I'm HIV+. I've been on medication since 2014. Since 2016, the virus is undetectable. I broke with my boyfriend. But I am cool. We didn't break up because of my status because he knew around three months later that we started dating. Hew as cool with it, very supportive. But we broke up because he got a job and the time for dating and more became very scarce, and it literally built this huge abyss between us. We decided to break up. It was mutual. We remained friends. As far as I know, that was what caused our separation.When my recent former boyfriend and I were taking a time off to reflect about our relationship (even though, we both know it was done), my ex boyfriend, who I dated five years ago, got in touch with me. It was a little strange, but we started talking. He knew I was in relationship because he had already talked with a friend of mine. I told him we were taking a time off because we were considering to either break up or do something to save the relationship. He was very kind. He told me he would love for things to work out for the best, but if not, he would love to reconnect with me again.So, I broke up with my boyfriend. And, he has been there since that moment. We haven't seen each other because we have different schedules in different city. We are not too far from each other, however, work sometimes makes a little difficult to meet up. He has been talking a lot about trying to be boyfriends again. He says he misses me a lot. I have been considering, but there is one thing he doesn't know. As you have already realized, he doesn't know I'm positive.Right now, I don't know what to do. That's something I won't say on a phone call or send a text saying "Btw, I'm positive." I know I have to tell him, but I'm scared. I know I got infected after I dated him. But, my conspiracy-theory spidey sense tells me that he might be positive as well. And he wants to know who infected him. He told me he just came out of an eight-month depression. So, there's one of my clues to think that he is positive as well.I'm pretty sure I got infected after dating him.I believe I'm just imagining things. Maybe, he is really healthy.But I'm a little scared about the reaction he might have when I tell him that I'm positive. I have been very strict and responsible with my medication consumption. I'm fine. I feel fine. But he is the second person I date after I was diagnosed. So, you might imagine why I'm feeling so anxious and nervous.Thanks for any advice or encouragement you can give me. Have a nice day.
Just wondering If I can/should post this story I have.
So I had a very close to being sexual thing that happened to me when I was a freshman in Highschool (it isn't actually related to highschool though) with my cousin, I was wondering if I can post the story here, or is there another subreddit I should go to? Thanks for answering if you do and sorry if this is weird.
[Serious] Anyone else having a hard time coping with getting older?
I'm 36 and have been having a really difficult time dealing with everything that comes along with being single, gay and older. I just feel like the best part of my life is slipping further and further in the rearview and am nearly helpless to stop it. This paired with my fear that I'll never again be in a relationship caused me anxiety and depression and I've gone for counseling but they don't seem to 'get it'. I'm just wondering if anyone else feels this way and, if you've made it through, how you did it.
Ok I need advice I meet this guy in tinder all cool and stuff I saw his pictures on his profiles and he was my type everything was cool we decide to go for a coffee tomorrow but then he told me those photos where old and now he does not look the same. I feel like I got catfish. What should I do?
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In as much as I hate Grindr, it's been my best shot and in some cases my only option at meeting people.
Like most gay folks, I have a love-hate relationship with Grindr. I always delete the app and swear to the gods never to re-install it but I keep going back. Amidst all the Grindr bs that the app is infamous for, I've come to the realization that sometimes it's just the best place and perhaps the only option to meet people. I guess it just requires patience and going through a lot of weird conversations but you eventually find what you're looking for.
(repost) I wanna date a ginger
New account I'm Asian and Bi. I really want to date a ginger guy. 2 years ago, I became attracted to gingers due to a character from a TV Show named "Ian Gallagher". Since then I have been wishing to be with a ginger.Most of gingers that I have met, 90% are my crushes, the first ginger I ever had a crush on was in my college class. He is a tall ginger with blue eyes(I don't like blue eyes personally but I would not care as long as he is a ginger) his hair was red. He is a perfect ginger in my opinion with his blond eyelashes and eyebrows. If he had brown or hazel eyes, it would be excellent.I really wish I once at least dated a ginger guy. (get married if that was even possible)
Married
I am married but I think I may be gay. At times I have trouble keeping it hard with my wife. The thought of other women excites me, but sometimes it is other men. I get off the most to gay/ shemale porn. I need some sort of guidance to be happy with the person I am.
2017. augusztus 25., péntek
How tf does one date?
I just had a first date with a guy. It was chill, we had coffee and got to know each other. Somehow, some way, he wants to hang out again. So do I but i thought I was terribly boring and uninteresting. I asked him out, which I've never done before, and we didn't hook up first. Also new to me. I'm not very experienced at this. I've never dated just fucked and ran... which also doesn't happen too often. I'm excited and nervous about all this. I don't want to mess up anything but I also don't know how to proceed. I feel like I ran out of personality on this date and now I'm gonna be not talkative and boring which is how I usually am with most people. There are so many emotions and things going on. Plz halp
Are there any sites for dominant and submissive men looking for longterm relationships?
i'm 21 years old. tall and willowy. I'm 100% gay but the thing is, i don't suck cock (because i don't like doing it) or take it up the ass. I definitely consider myself more of a 'dominant' man (or a master, whatever you want to call me)BUT i'm not into 'rough' stuff at all. As in, some submissive guys want someone who'll degrade them, beat them up, and pee on them, I am NOT into any of that at all :Sbut I'm looking for a man who's 'submissive' to be in a long-term relationship with.By submissive, I mean a man who'd love to suck me off a lot but wouldn't care that i never sucked him and who'd let me fuck him every now and then, But who'd also be open to relocating to Florida (where my adoptive parents are sending me to live soon) And who's also 'adventurous' and loves to drive for a long time and take me on long road trips out east and through the south of the USA.it'd also be better if he was more of a 'recluse' as well, like myself, and who doesn't like going to gay bars or being promiscuous at all. I prefer monogamy.I'm wondering if anyone here knows what site i can find this on? Or what subreddit i could look for this on also?so far I've already tried Fetlife, recon, and collarspace, but guys on there are just 'all talk'... Does anyone know where else i can look?And please no criticism please. it is what i want.
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