Achieving a simple goal?

Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit for this but I feel like it would fit in here.So what I understand is that you can reach any goal you want if you first know your goal, set it as your goal and then take as any actions towards that goal as you can. Be it setting yourself a sum of money as goal and saving even the smallest ammounts every day to reach that goal.My goal is, and was for a really really long time now, to have a relationship. To finally find someone that loves me as much as I love him. But this is one of the goals that seem impossible to work towards to. No matter how much I would go on dates or be nice to people around me. All of that does not matter because in the end I also need another person to feel the same. And I cant do that. I cant change the feelings for another person. And even if I could it would be wrong...So am I just not seeing it from the right perspective? Is there actually something active I could do to reach my goal? Other than being open minded and letting myself be found? Or should I move on and accept that this is out of my hands and the one and single goal I wanted for long should be replaced by something you can reach by working hard?