So...where do I start?

It feels weird keeping this in, but being from a small town I recently moved to dallas for a bit for reasons but things didnt work out so I moved back home but plan to move back again (I freakin love dallas) but what I wanted to know is this situation normal in the gay part of dallas? Oak lawn I believe? I'm trying to keep things discreet because I don't want to expose anyone but to get to the point I've always heard about bath houses soo I went to one...it wasn't as glamourous as I pictures it, but it's a sex spa soo I shouldn't be disappointed. Awkwardly walking around like a dumb ass seeing guys come in and out of doors I stumbled upon a guy giving me this "look" I knew he was interested since he was grabbing his dick under his towel but Sexual invitations are awkward and give me a panic attack lol because I wasnt sure what he wanted so I just smiled awkwardly (keep in mind I'm really knew to the gay club/bath house like scene) but later said "fuck it" so I went in his room and he closed the door and there was gay porn playing on a tv but it was awkwardly quite but we almost started to get into it but he basically was WAY top big for me so I had to stop and he got really mad and I just awkwardly left walking awkwardly (had a painful bleeding anus for like a month) but after that I went into the steam room switched handjobs with somone I finished and left and sat in the lobby for a breather. Then I sh*t you not I ended up having sex with a bathhouse employee. But he must've been obviously horny because he was really confident and flirtatious but I was feeling dangerously young and lusty so I followed him into this empty room minutes later but just in case it was in my head I was prepared to act as if I just wanted conversation but next thing you kno he grabs my crotch and yada yada we blew each other and the end. But my question is... Are situations like that normal in gay parts of popular cities? I was mind blown because that never happened to me before lol