2016. március 31., csütörtök
Starting prep tomorrow, a question.
Hey guys. I'm starting prep tomorrow but due to an awkward work schedule (Graveyard shifts) I won't be able to just take it right before bed or first thing when waking up. I've realized that through my hectic schedule, 2pm will be the best time for me to take it everyday. (Doctor says really try to take it same time everyday). My question is do you think it will be okay to keep a week or half a week supply of pills in a ziplock back inside a zipper pocket in my wallet? Or could this possibly make them go bunk or ineffective? I really don't want to have to bring a bottle of pills around everywhere I go. Does anyone else keep a few pills a week somewhere besides in their bottle or is this a big no no? Thanks for any input, I'm still learning!
The second worst form of pain I have ever felt... falling for an older straight man. Who else felt this and how bad was it?
(WARNING)This will not be brief. I'm actually hella pissed. Second post here I guess... Might sound cheesy as hell but this is from the heart and that's what matters...I'l start by saying that I'm closeted ( not the problem here ). Okay...Now let's just say that I have never regretted being gay as much as last sunday at work. I now work as a janitor near an airport. Sweet job. Nice people. It was near the end of last october that a man who got remplaced for a while came back from a very long vacation. I never saw him before. I can tell you that this man...was my fantasy. I cannot kid you less than that...I remember a post about some of people's favorite type of porn. Some said bears, twinks, daddies, chubs, wookies...Well imagine that the guy, whatever the type he was, was now one of the workers working in the same area as you. I shall now take the time and pleasure to describing him.Tall. (I'm almost his height actually). Trimed beard. . . Black army mohawk. Bulging chest (big + for me) Muscled like crazy. Ripped ( this is me repeating myself at this point. I just need to put emphasis on the fact that he is my vision of perection. Mine.) Manly in every type of ways. A slightly trimmed version of Jack Radcliffe Which is perfection in my opinion. Or Hugh Jackman with less veins( holy crap have you people seen the wolverine 2013? The worst part is that he always wares a tight t shirt. No exeptions. The colours are either green, black, blue or white.This guy is there. Obvously older. Way older. Hell, he's been working there for 17 years and he's not doing a kid's job. Now let's say you want to talk to him. Get to know him except you'Re very shy and he's very busy. You find very kind of him that he shows interest in your talent, (drawing in my case). Anyways we talk and there's always that shitty little part of me who just wishes...that he were gay. That little 4% of you. Hoping to the heavens that you could have a chance. But then I realised that this wasn't a godamn fanfic/fantasy. I pitty myself just thinking that I hoped for the chance of a sexual intercourse with the man. Especially because i'm 19 and he looks 40. He, one day, mentions his son. That -0.099% chance was destroyed in seconds. Alright. No biggie.Time went on. I talked to him. Said Hi. Said Bye. Casual. Smiled at him. Laughed with him. One day I had trouble with a barbage bag. It was stuck in the bin. He came to help. While we stugled to get it out, the veins on his arms started to bulge. Okay pretty hot but, dismissed. We got it out and we shrugged it off with a joke. Was pretty funny except...when I though of it, I never actually looked at him straight in the eyes until that moment. I looked at them. Imagine the most physically menacing looking bear, yet with the sweetest, kindest, caring, paddington-esque happy, shiny brown eyes that you have ever seen. I went to my little office at break and held my head in my hands for a good minute...It hurted so bad. I think I fell for him and I don't like it. When I got home, I almost coudn't sleep. I'l finish by saying that his wife is a very lucky woman and I'm happy for her. Almost forgot to mention that he's my second workout motivation next the wolverine.Who else had that sort of experience/feeling? Who relates? How terrible did you feel? I really needed to share this somewhere. I though here was the place. (sorry for the long text ).
Alec and Magnus finally kiss on Shadowhunters
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I respect feminine gays, because all people need to be respected for their choices. But at the same time also gay guys that prefer to be "masc" should be respected for their choices.
Everytime I say that I'm looking for masculine guys, or that I'm into sports, or that I'm not big on the gay scene, I am shut down. I've been called an "internalized homophobe", embarassed by my homosexuality, fake personality, forced personality etc...Everyone should be able to chose what they want for themselves and their partner. Why is being "masc" bad?And disclaimer, I'm not one of those guys that says "masc for masc" and insults everyone else or makes fun of feminine gays. That's very bad, but it's just as bad as people who insult masculine gays.This is who I am. i'd rather go to a Colts game that to Pride. If that offends you, I misunderstood what the gay movement is all about.
Any ideas how to meet people?
So yesterday i posted here asking for help.However today it got worse, again. I cant stand to be around him. I'm hoping I could see if anyone had any ideas about how i could meet other people.,.. Hopefully take my mind off him.only issue is, Im underage, and even though I'm 16 i can't drive because I hate it. I live in the East bay Area (CA), but I cant find anything around here.
[x-post] Question about Pride sponsors
Hi!For my anthropology course, I am doing a mini-ethnographic presentation on Pride in general. The question I am looking to answer is, “What companies dominate different Pride festivals and how do they seem to influence the narrative of the so-called “Gay Agenda”?I do not believe there is a gay agenda, and I plan to discuss this in my presentation. But I am presenting to a bunch of Christians who might very well think there is, and I want to see if there is a correlation between the companies that dominate pride and the message that seems to reach many on the outside.So, would anyone be willing to help me out? You would only need to answer three questions on Survey Monkey. It shouldn't take more than 10 minutes, max.Pride SurveyThis research is not for publishing purposes, but only for my 7 minute presentation. I also have made it anonymous. If you have any comments or information that you think might be helpful, please send them my way!Thank you!
How should I spice my sex life up?
Hey... Gay guy here and I'm a top... It's kinda boring... What are some interesting ideas to spice it up ???
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How to tell him i like him? :D
Well i'm 15 people tell me to focus more on school, but when all your mind is thinking off is where is he now, is he having a good time, where can I get the closest to him without being weird?But I've been inlove with a guy for over a year now and if I don't even use my time to tell him I'm gay and that I have feelings for him, I've pretty much wasted my time. I do hope for a yes that he likes me back. But I'm just happy with an answer which will make it easier for me. Like it doesn't need to be concrete, aslong as he gives me an answer.I do really trust him and we used to be best friends when I lived in the same neighborhood as him. I miss it allot. I miss him allot. Not just as a friend but I wanna lay in our bed together just spooning and talking having a good time.I thought about how I'm supposed to tell him I like him but I can't just go out of the blue and shock him. I've thought about telling I'm with messages . there is something important I need to tell u which u can't tell anyone, meet me if u got time. Or something like that.I have no clue if he likes me whatsoever but maybe he just looks at me like a friend. Or he has some more to but 100x more shy than me so he wanna take his time. It's really confusing. Sometimes it seems like he is interested (low key)and sometimes he seems more focused on other things.He removed me from snapchat but I guess i sent a bit too much and then I think the shy part comes again. Because at school he sometimes just stand aside me which I find really cute and that has happened allot of times after he removed me from snapchat.TL:DR My question is: what is the best way to tell I guy that u like him allot, when u have no idea if he is gay straight or bi? -------Thanks-Allot-For-Answers------ \________________________________/
Why hasn't he called
I saw a profile on Grindr, and recognized he's my colleague and have a crush on for a long time. I didn't know he was guy.. So we hooked up.. I think we had a good time. Afterwards, when i asked him if he wanted to meet again, he said sure, but would like to be friends only. I am totally fine with it, since I'm not really looking for a relationship (but open to it if meeting the right guy). But since then, he never really asked me or actively contacted me... I am a little obsessed now, and can't stop thinking about him.. should I move on? I see him at work almost every day...
2016. március 30., szerda
I'm not sure who to ask for help...
I'm honestly a little worried about anyone I know seeing this, but I think i'm the only one of my friends who uses reddit.I wanted to ask for some advice though. I'm 16, and moved to a new place about 4 years ago. I made this friend, who's kind of a jerk sometimes but a really nice guy. About a 2 years ago I started to feel really weird around him. I dont know if its love, since I dont know what love feels like, or if ive ever been in love before. (I have problems with people, and have a really difficult time expressing feelings.) Lately ive been feeling worse around him, to the point where i couldnt even talk to him today. Ive never felt attracted to anyone else.I was wondering if anyone had experience with this type of situation, and could help....
FWB problems (advice needed)
Ok so I've used Grindr to meet a very nice guy in college. He's blonde and extremely cute. Everything is great BUT Idk anything about him. Not his name, where he lives, nothing. He just pops over now and wants to have sex and we do but is it weird that I know nothing about him? Should I ask him about himself and risk him getting offended ???
Blowjob disease risk?
Hey guys bi curious guy here. So I'm on the fence and pretty much have an oral fixation towards men. I want to explore this side of myself more but also am constantly worried about the fear of getting something. If I don't swallow what are the odds of getting something from giving head to a guy? (I'm sure someone will recommend condoms but when I want to suck a cock I want the skin in my mouth not plastic! Lol) thanks for any and all input guys!!
Need opinions: Best dating apps?
Hey guys! Looking for opinions on best dating apps or sites (preferably in the Toronto area) - i've mainly used grindr and tinder before but looking if there are any other options?thanks
My latest Grindr experience (aka I'm going to hell but it was so worth it)
Last night an attractive guy on Grindr hits me up. We chat and go through the motions until I get the invite over. He's not out which doesn't bother me.I get there and realize this guy's pics are a bit dated. That's ok he's still pretty hot. We go upstairs and as soon as we get to his room there's a knock on the door. He says "Oh shit I forgot about my couch surfer."He proceeds to try to ignore the guy. The guy already had rented Grindr Man's couch through AirBnB so this was kind of fucked up. Couch surfer knocks, calls, knocks, calls and so on for a solid 10 minutes while we're sitting there doing nothing in silence.THEN Grindr Man's friends (who apparently he owed liquor to) come knocking, too. There's a group of like 5 people outside the door now who he knew were coming anyway.He tells me to stay in his room and he lets them all in. Then he acts super surprised to see everyone, lies to couch surfer saying something about his phone messing up. And then a fucking party starts. Beer pong, shots, the works. Meanwhile I'm sitting in Grindr Man's room.I get fed up after about 15 minutes. I'm not one to get pissed but the fact he expected me to wait for his party to end was not going to fly. I messed up my hair, partially unbuttoned my shirt and walked out into the living room. Politely introduced myself to those wondering who I was then told Grindr Man (just loud enough to be heard by everyone) "Damn, that ass could crack a walnut. Same time next week?" And walked out.The silence was the most satisfying part of the night.TL;DR don't fuck with a witty gay man
I'm only attracted to bearish guys, and i feel ashamed for this.
Is it wrong to only feel attracted to masculine/bearish guys? I don't hate skiny, girly or 'twink' guys, i just can't feel atrracted to a man who resembles the image of something feminine...But i don't like feeling this way, but at the same time i don't wanna force myself into something that i really don't like.My mind is a mess right now, i would like to know what you guys think about it.
[Serious] I need some love advice
I'm really not good in explaining myself in detail but I try my best to do it.So, I started fucking with this one guy. Let's call him Nick because we both have the same name and I feel retarded saying my own name. Over time, we kinda were on our way to become friends or so I thought at least. We both like videogames and...honestly, we don't have that much in common except some personality traits. It just felt right being with him. On one date we started cuddling while watching a movie (and he falling asleep in my neck). Really sweet. That was kinda the point, where I fell in love with him.You see, I'm a really lonely person. No matter how many people I have around me or how many acquaintances (fuck this word) I have, I always feel alone. I cannot shake that thought. I'm a really....difficult person sometimes so having someone close is not only pretty rare but really touches me. Back to the story - he kinda caught on. That's where he started saying that he does like me, but not as much as I like him. He already had 3 really shitty relationships in the past, he just wasn't ready yet for another one. I can't tell you what but it was really shit. First strike.Now later on, when he was really down from his work (almost 10-12 hours a day). I was getting really worried about him. I mean why not? He always looked tired and it was almost 2 months since I last met him. That was too much for him I guess because he didn't like all my worrying about him. He doesn't like all this closeness and prefers more freedom. Also didn't help, that I wanted to stay with him for the night twice...Second strike.Now in December, when I made him a great X-mas gift, he gladly wanted to meet up for a gaming and movie evening with me. This is the hardest part to explain now. Look, he likes athletic and muscular men just as I do. But I'm not one. So when we fucked this time, he didn't want the lights turned on because it was "too bright". That was the first time he did that and it really hurt me. Not to mention how he talked about stopping smoking so he could get harder boners. What am I supposed to think here? Third strike.Then some days later, when I send him a text message because I was bored and asked him how he was, he told me that he was about to start a relationship with someone."It feels right. It just happened. It helped how it wasn't forced. I hope you don't mind."Fucking knife in my heart.So now I'm trying to forget this assface but he keeps flashing back into my head every goddamned day. He stole my heart and I can't let go.I don't know what to do anymore. He's the only person I ever felt something for and now I feel more lonely than ever despite having more people around me through work and stuff.
2016. március 29., kedd
Kissing him is better than every goal I've ever scored and every trophy I've ever won
I don't have much context outside of hockey.My heart is on fire and I still am amazed that I ignored these emotions that exist for so long.I will do everything I can to normalize being gay for others so that this feeling will never ever be held back from anyone.Fuck, man. It's so good. I want it forever. I wish it could be bottled.
"Being Gay" is growing on me as time goes on
Like ... Idk how to explain...I used to see it as "Meh, I'll have to put up with this I guess", but now it turned out to be more of a "Gift" Imho.Like, I thank God for being like this and liking guys.I'm meeting very nice people lately and having fun, and I'm meeting guys who want a long term relationship, and we are seeing how it goes.Honestly, who can understand a man better than another man?There's nothing more beautiful than two guys caring for the other Imo.Ps: Btw sorry for the English and sorry if the Post is a little bit random, but felt like sharing.Being Gay is a gift and not a curse!Edit: It's just that I'm thinking all I'd be losing if I wasn't Gay. All the experiences and good moments with guys and things like that.
Dating apps for relationships?
I'm new to the gay scene. I made an account on Grindr and it seems as if it's exclusively a hookup app (Got about 10 messages saying "I'm horny" and a few invites for orgys.) I'm not looking for that, I'm looking for someone to date. Are there any apps or websites that are more tailored for this?
How do I meet/best places to meet single gay men for a long-term relationship?
This is my alternate account; I do have another one here, but I mainly use it for things like automobile/car-related things, this is entirely separate. Not quite a throwaway despite the throwaway in the username [it was intended to be but since then it's become an alternate account].I am 30, and have Asperger's Syndrome, and am from the United Kingdom.I am mainly attracted to women, but have some attraction to men - it's 99.98% women and 0.1% men. I've decided to just accept it, realize there's nothing wrong with it. Technically this makes me bi, but my sexuality is my own business, which is as it should be.Anyway, I have had some attractions to men in the past - which I have never acted on. I did once see a guy who was attractive in this small Liverpool gay bar [one where you have to go down some stairs, you can probably work out which one I mean] when it was in a quiet daytime hours period during Christmas, so few people in, but never actually spoke to him - I just was attracted to the guy, don't know why, I just was and felt a bit embarrassed about it. I went into the bar with the intent of making new friends, meeting new people etc. although it was a bit of washout considering it was fairly quiet around 3.45pm on a Wednesday afternoon in the pre-Christmas rush. [the week before Christmas].Going back, to June 2013, when I was in South London [relative lived down there at the time], we were walking through Vauxhall, I saw this guy coming out of one of the gay bars, he had an American or Canadian accent [I cannot quite remember which it was], I liked him but couldn't tell him [didn't have time and other things to do back then]. I didn't really get time to speak to him because me and my family were travelling from one end of London to the other, trying to get to see tourist attractions and spend time with family [a relative lived down there at the time], it was a weekend and the traffic wasn't good.In my area, it is a fairly conservative town, which has a sort of Acacia Avenue-type feel about it, people with a Ford Mondeo, Mercedes-Benz C-Class or a Land Rover Discovery on their driveway, and the town is a commuter town, with a largely older population and some retirees.There is no LGBT scene in my town or area [not saying where for my own privacy, but near to Southport/Wigan].I don't want to meet men for only a one-night stand or sexual experimentation, but for a proper relationship. Not casual dating or casual sex.OKCupid wasn't of much use to me - many of the men in my area were either wanting non-monogamous relationships or casual sex, and those that did want long-term relationships were around the London area [4 hours 29 minutes from me].Grindr wouldn't be much use - I don't really use my mobile phone much aside from emergency calls [it's mainly a camera phone, it being an Android].I could visit gay bars, but the only problem is being on medication means I can't drink that much alcohol - I'm on anti-epilepsy medication for now.Anyhow, I've decided that if I want to do this, I'll have to do this safe, carefully etc.For me, the emphasis is more on the relationship, than it being a solely sexual or anything friends with benefits type. Basically, all the ins and outs that a long-term relationship would entail.I would appreciate any advice and help you may have.Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Anxiety from medication or am I in denial
I'll try to keep it as short as possible, but not sure what I'm dealing with here. I'm diagnosed ADHD with Anxiety and have been on Adderall IR 20 mg/Adderall XR 25 mg and Lexapro 10 mg for a long time now. The Lexapro basically saved my life, as I couldn't sit in a classroom without shaking and running out of my medication too fast. Prior to my diagnosis, I was unmedicated in college and exercised daily, running miles a day to get this anger I always had built up which led to recklessness, substance abuse, and sleeping with a ton of women, yet lacking any serious emotional connection.Along came law school and I met my current gf while I was dealing with some bad anxiety and running out of my medication too fast. We had normal sex life and were going out on weekends but I was definitely impulsive with spending and pretty deviant with her, drinking and taking my stimulant medication (although it's prescribed). After the Lexapro, I gained more control over my life, but felt almost asexual when it came to my sex drive and began questioning my sexuality to the point where my girlfriend got so depressed she thought it was her. I will admit, I knew she was engaging in substance abuse and although I was diagnosed ADHD, I guess part of me knew maybe I wasn't really ADHD but was too busy in law school to understand what my underlying issue was. Recently, I tried to come off high dose of Adderall, lowering it all the way down to Adderall IR 10 mg and coming off the Lexapro, I was overwhelmed with so much emotion and anxiety, I wasn't able to enter places without the crippling anxiety again. I was barely able to maintain an erection with my girlfriend and began being questioned about my sexuality. I immediately jumped back on the Lexapro with the Adderall IR 20 mg, and although me and my girlfriend have sex, she believes I'm not ADHD and in denial about my sexuality. When I'm on lexapro alone, I have almost no sex drive and it's making me question my sexuality. I'm not sure if this is the case of manipulation on their part and I truly have a disorder of ADHD with anxiety, or I was misdiagnosed and I'm just in denial about the truth. Any support or input is appreciated, thank you!
i'd like to chat!
hey, i am 19 year-old boy and i'd like to talk about everything! find me on kik! id: gilpratama. thanks!
2016. március 28., hétfő
4 Year Relationship Unfolding
Been dating a guy locally for three years now before he took off to Las Vegas for career opportunities. We pair extremely well together with interests, humor and personalities.To provide a bit a background; I've graduated college and have found a job that pays well, provides incredible benefits and it's one I've come to adore. He's just graduated college and has been pursuing a temporary position (post-internship) that has led to future and most likely more potential remote work outside out my local area.Though we have visited one another several times while he has been in his career pursuit, I know that a future with him traveling and being remote to where I'm based wouldn't likely work. We had a long, emotionally charged conversation this evening emboldened with facts. I can't be responsible for his career hindrance and he can't be responsible for mine.As a result, I'm 29, alone and feeling incredibly low. My family and friends viewed this boyfriend as "the one" and it makes the situation ever so more difficult to explain. The idealist inside me never imagined being in this position. Fuck.
I got called "Faggot" and it hurts me
So I was sitting in the passenger seat in the car with my mom at the traffic light when some 25 year oldish guy drove slowly by and called me a "faggot" in german, with a slow, provocing voice. It truly hurts me and I have a hard time dealing with that statement since I've never been called that before. I'm a very youngish looking, insecure guy that might appeared gay looking in that situation. And yes, I do like guys.That was about 12 hours ago and I still struggle to calm my mind. Where I live, I could make a police case(germany), which I considered cause this kind of behavior is truly unacceptable. On the other side it'd be a lot of effort and I don't know if it would lead anywhere. I'm just so sick of this lack of acceptance towards gay people and then I even get called "faggot" for no reason.What can I do to just calm down and forget about it? It feels nearly disturbing to be treached like that by a complete stranger. Had anyone similiar experiences? Please give me some advice :( .
Jealous of hairless.
Kinda dumb there are time I get jealous of people who don't have to shave or trim at all really. Does anyone else have this problems? I get I could just shave or wax but it's a annoyance sometimes when u have a hairy ass.
A Husband and a Wife Who Kept the Same Shocking Secret from One Another [The Oprah Winfrey Clip]
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Feelings on LGBT Safe Spaces
I will be attending college here soon. The university I have chosen has a LGBT safe space. I've been in the military for the better part of a decade now and I was looking for how others who have been to places like this to hear their opinions and experiences on safe spaces. I have a no real preconceived notions on them as of right now. I'm note looking to support or bash such places I just want to know how the people of /r/Gay feel about safe spaces.
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Meet me
I want to meet people in Iowa. My name is izaiah and I'm 17 years old. I like to paint and read and play video games. I also like camping. If u want to talk cool. http://ift.tt/1RnKERq
Goodbye Club Pantheon Charleston!
I learned today that the owner is retiring and the club has shut down. It was the first gay club I ever went to, and it was a great one. Anybody looking for a fun alternative in Charleston should check out Dudley's on Anne Street.Pantheon will be missed.
2016. március 27., vasárnap
Help me get over a boy
I met a guy a year ago, I didn't even kiss him. He clearly wasn't in to me so I cut all contact with him to try and just forget about him. I've been with guys since, even on a steady basis. Just one year later I still can't stop thinking about this guy I met once. Please, somebody tell me what to do to get over this guy! I haven't been in contact, ive been under somebody else... What do I do? I feel like such an idiot even writing this but how do I let go of the idea of the perfect guy
Gay friendship sites/apps
I'm looking for sites/apps that mainly focuses on platonic gay/bi relationships because i'm lonely af but don't really want to get into a romantic relationship. Grindr seems to be too sexualized and I find it too intimidating.
How do I get over a guy?
Okay, so I have a friend who I thought for the longest time might be gay, and I kinda sorta made the mistake of starting this whole bromance thing with him., which only made me develop like actual feelings for him.Well, I got to the point where I couldn't go on waiting around, so I came out to him today. He was fine with it and didn't care, but he said for me to remember that he is not and never will be gay. Basically, I was wrong about him. I have to assume he's telling the truth, really.Basically, we are like best friends and talk all the time, and even after coming out to him, he hopped right back into the bromance stuff. Like when we hang out it's a "date" and we'll call each other babe and stuff sometimes. I still have feelings for him though. Like strong ones. And as much as it's cool to sort of pretend that it's real, the fact is that it's all fake and he's straight.I want to get over him and move on, but I also don't, and idk what to do bc we are literally best friends and I'm with him so much idk if I can ever move on...
My wish.
I wish more LGBT Arabians like myself can be happy with who they are. I really desperately wish that one day, LGBT Arabs will finally got coverage. Sometimes, it feels like no one even cares about our struggles which honestly leave me hopeless. The organizations that DO exist for us are barely working, to the point where I don't even care about them. Seriously, I'm not trying to make you guys feel awful or "throw shade" or whatever, I just wish more people can realize we DO exist. It just feels like no one even cares about us.
What do I do? (tension)
I am a senior in highschool and the other guy is a junior. Neither of us are 'out' but I THINK it's obvious that we both like each other (tell me if i'm delusional). He sometimes touches my hair, clothes, and we had a class last year together where we sat in close proximity and our shoes was touch and we'd just leave them touching each other. On the same hand, we can also really be assholes to each other, and I think I throw him off in that way. I started avoiding him last year because we would keep running into each other in the hallway. We spent time together earlier this year but I got really nervous and I was A FUCKING ASSHOLE (not really an asshole but I was being sarcastic and I think at some points he thought I was being completely serious). There came a point where we were all alone in that same day and he touched my hair but I just casually responded like it was normal. Anyhow we haven't really talked much in months except when I was in the hallway I looked at him and walked the otherway and then he ran to me grabbed my bag and we had a brief conversation (of course i looked awful on that day.). I have really improved the way i dress and my appearance because of how attracted I am to him which i know is also ridiculous, it got to the point where I spent almost 2 hours a day running. What do I do? I'll probably never see him again after this year if I don't say anything, and I just know that we have a connection and it will suck to just not know. Sounds like ridiculous fantasized young love I know. I also know I come off as stupid, pretentious,etc. in this post but I want you to know that I'm not!! Thanks for any advice you can give me!!
My parents will find out I'm gay tomorrow. Advice on what to say?
I'm 21, senior at my Uni. I left a letter in their mailbox when I left after Easter lunch. They will almost definitely find it tomorrow. In it I addressed three questions: Is it a phase, why did I tell them in a letter, and what happens next. They are very religious, but I'm confident they won't kick me out/cut me off. The letter was just to give them time to process so they did not say something which would hurt me forever in the initial shock. I'm sure they'll call and want to talk or scream or something. My big thing is I refuse to apologize for my sexuality and I refuse to go to a religious consular which I think they'll suggest. If its relevant they're (Methodist) Christians.
Problem with woman n sex.
Ok so I'm gay, 15M. And there is allot of girls who wants to fuck me. But i have no reason to say yes and ive tried before but it doesn't work. So how can I say no without being bitchy and not sounding to self confidential? I haven't come out.
Call and text me ;)
Hey, 19 in March, UK, new to all this and had my first time with a guy last night need some advice and looking for fun please text or call me anytime I'm always happy to talk x 07908361073 my names Jacob btw x
Westboro people protesting at my school April 6th.
I don't think I've been more scared about going to school in my life.Source: https://twitter.com/WBCSaysRepent/status/713892228372926464
A-ha - Take on Me - live @ the O2 Arena, London - Morten Harket looking good @ 56
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mSnY8O0UB1I
GayDads...
does anyone know if there's a time limit on promise ring, 6yr relationship w/ flaws but soaring to new heights
can you be gay and still like woman?
i am not sure if i am gay but i find woman very attractive but sometimes i see a man and he is very smartly dressed and he speak with such confidence and i feel i am attracted to him, but i am not sure if you can like men and woman at the same time?
2016. március 26., szombat
Hi everyone. I'm reaching out to the community hoping for some help.
Hey there /r/Gay. I'm more of a lurker here, I haven't actually made a post since around the time I made my account on Reddit I think... Anyways before I ramble, I'm am going to cut to the chase. I'm currently engaged to a wonderful man. He is the most loving and caring man I've met, even if he doesn't show it all of the time. He's the man of my dreams and we've decided to get married a few months ago on our 4 year anniversary (August 12th). The problem is we've run into a lot of financial issues (medical, financial.. I don't want to give a huge sob story but i guess if there's a demand for it I will). He's crushed. And it's completely breaking my heart. I'm doing everything I can go give him the wedding he deserves but we seemingly continue to be paycheck to paycheck. I know the logical thing is to wait on it and plan for next year once we make it through this stormy chapter; but If I'm honest, I don't want to make him wait. I love him and want us to get married.We started a GoFund me just because we figured why not. No one has contributed aside from my mother. So I'm reaching out to the community in an effort to give the love of my life the wedding he deserves. He's been through so much hell and I want to give him this but I can't do it on my own. I'm only one person and I need help. Every little bit would help, even if it's just a few cents id be more than grateful. Hell if you want, come to the wedding or something. Anything.Sorry for the wall of text, I just don't know what else to do. I guess this did turn into a sob story. Oh well. Anyways here's the link:http://ift.tt/1RGg5IK
Experienced my first instance of real homophobia.
Some background: I'm gay, 15, out.So a few nights ago I was at my friends house and there were like 5 of us, and his dad starts drinking. He kept asking me questions which I'm not bothered by because as I live in a smallish, predominantly white and straight town I have to answer them a lot. All my friends treat me the same and are very accepting of the way I live my life.Now his dad starts getting personal trying to talk about sex and 'How do you know you're gay?' 'Have you had sex with a man?' All that stuff and I'm getting uncomfortable, from there it just gets worse so I'll just put in the highlights'If you flirt with someone and you don't know they're straight, they have every right to beat you up' 'If my son was gay I'd beat the shit out of him' 'I hate gays, so I should beat you up' 'You're going to make mistakes and have a bad life because of your sexuality'I didn't put this here to complain, I put it here to say that I don't care. People are ignorant and small minded but that isn't going to have any effect on my life. If this is the way you are it can't be changed (no matter how much you'd like to) so just ignore the idiots who are too intolerant to come outside of there self-made bubble of hate and actually see. Thanks :)))Tl:Dr Don't listen to homophobes, they aren't worth it and you're amazing
TIL 823 same-sex couples were married in New York City on the first day that same-sex marriage was legal state-wide
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c3Bqun4L86c
Question about virtual reality Porn?
I checked out the vr porn setup and its all cool... but is there any gay vr porn yet? I would like to experience this but i dont get use out of female porn.
2016. március 25., péntek
I honestly don't like sex...
It feels like a sacrifice Tbh. Topping, bottoming, sucking, getting sucked ... I feel like Im doing a favor to the other.And when I feel like having some "Sexual pleasure" I'd rather masturbate on my own.In the other hand, I could pass HOURS hugging and kissing a guy.Anyway, how do I tell my partner? ? Like ... I wanna make him happy but it's honestly a sacrifice as I said.We are not together for long yet but we kind of are a couple, we are partners now. I don't fear he'll be like "Just Wtf? Really?", but more like "Meh... Facepalm/SMH".Since... You know, he has his "Sexual needs" just like any other guy I guess.So, how do I tell him? Do you know someone that feels like me about this issue? Any help appreciated, thx in advance. Also sorry for the writing, I'm not English and writing from the phone.Edit: Sometimes the idea of the sex turns me on, but I like talking about it than practicing Tbh. As I said, I prefer feeling the other near me skin with skin while hugging and kissing, but I dislike penetration, and sometimes even sucking. Is this weird??
Straight guy with a question
OK I have nothing against been gay, but if a guy kisses your cheek? Could he be gay, this happened to me once and I wonder was he gay?
Gay and confused
I'll admit I tend to be someone who will fall for someone fast. Well recently I decided I wasn't I was going to try different for this semester. So it went great until someone which I will call Anthony showed up. Anyways class became very interesting. I talked to him kinda hit it off. I'll admit he was attractive and has an accent. The next day he after class we walked out togather and I had no where important to be so we talked. I reintroduced myself because honestly I didn't know his name or if he knew mine. I've also been trying to get out of my comfort zone because I'm not a touchy deeply person(mainly from previous things that happened to me plus OCD). So I decided to shake his hand to be polite;but he held on and after a few seconds I kinda retracted real fast not because I didn't like him because I was haveing extreme anxiety.after that he looked me in the eyes and asked for my number... Which really confused me because I'm usually the one who asks for numbers not the other way around. Well I gave it to him and got a responce almost immeaditly. So I texted back didn't get any responce didn't think anything of it oh well. So the next few weeks class was just euphoric. Mainly just full of flirtations. Anthony kept stealing looks and I've caught him and he would smile and all he would try to do the yawn arm trick but realized he couldn't espeacily in class so it was increadibly akward bc I knew what was going on. He would accidently touch me a lot. To much to be accident but I wouldn't say anything. A couple days passed and asked if I wanted to come over and study with him. I immeaditly realized I couldn't bc I had preaviously made a commitment to my BFF to hang and said no but we could skype or text or talk. A week or so after that agian he asked the same question and I was in my head like we already had the test we don't need to study. So I was confused and said no and told I had previous arrangements again. In retrospect I think he was trying to get with me or something. I mean I've never had a boyfriend let alone relationship so I don't know really anything. Maybe I'm over thinking that part or am to naive. Well after that he became a little drawn away but yet still very much flirty. To the point where another guy came up to me flirting and asking me out and he straight up gave him some weird like death stare and like had head pointed down a bit. As if like some animal protective type urge came out like this is my territory.anyways I denied the invite only because the guy was super weird and freaked me out. Days pass and the flirting continues and then one day it kinda stops the talking but the flirting is still their and that territorial protectiveness is their too. I would walk with him but he darts out to fast and last time I tried I almost broke my hip trying to get out of the seat. So their is now this compete radio silence not to mention he's not talking. Which I mean Anthony is very silent in genral but very much a texter. Haven't seen him not texting ever which made me really angry. So like a break came up and all but before hand I made sure we had contact. But towards the end it ended weirdly with a unfriended for no reason. Then back in class he started the flirting but even harder. And I'm confused and trying not to flirt back because I just don't know what's going on. Also it's not me just over analyzing. I've had people pull me aside thinking we where dateing and where just really close and loved how cute he was to me and well us togather. My professor thought we were dateing too. Honestly I don't know what to do because A) I have never dated B) their is some sort of silence going on C) he's become more flirty and touchy I'm not a hook up kinda person. I can't help but like him and still I don't like him at the same time. I am not good about speaking about my feelings or showing them. I mean im from south of i ever showed any interest in guys I would be beat up or targeted. I'm now in a more liberal location and out to friends and can be out at class but I still have problems with all of this. Honestly I am asking for what to do. Do I just let it go. Talk to him. Or what. Thanks in advance
Gay American Going to Kuwait...advice please
So in a few short months I shall move to Kuwait. Will be there at least a year. I'm 25, and gay. So I've read some stories about how difficult it is to be gay in the Middle East. I'm only human,and will want to date. Heck since I'll be in Kuwait like to date Kuwaiti as I find them attractive. Nervous about finding friends there, and dating. Now I am not what you would call flamboyant or anything, but often in USA because I'm small people assume I'm gay. Any advice from any gay people who have lived in Kuwait and rest of Middle East...would be most welcome...
I just need to get it out here that I am gay
I have not ever told someone this so this is the first time I am coming out. I just had to tell someone.
The new underwear campaign from Aerie plays like an ad from the Onion.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2lXUgD_X-D8
19, Reserved and Uncertain. Help?
Like any good male, red-blooded, middle-class American, I started watching porn around age 11 or 12. Let's start there. After several weeks of the straight stuff, I decided to see if I'd like gay porn. I was surprised to find that I did. Maybe it was because there was no piercing squealing or over-aggressive slamming; maybe it was because I was building a kind of tolerance that needed to be overcome; maybe it was because, on some level, this was what I wanted. Before I knew it, I was watching gay porn exclusively. Fast-Forward to now. I've had 1 date (girl; we decided to just stay good friends; honestly it was the right choice), 2 'first' kisses (also girls: Truth or Dare and in a play), and 0 relationships. In high school, I wrote off relationships as extra work with no real payoff. A partner was a burden to be kept happy. And honestly, I didn't feel 'that way' about any of my classmates, male or female, so why bother? Now that's not to say I didn't fantasize; I have a sex drive. And no, I don't think I'm 'aro' or whatever. I just haven't felt serious romantic attraction for anyone I've ever meet, just one or two puppy-love crushes. I find it harder and harder to picture myself having a real bond with someone, just fucking them. Have I not found 'the one'? Does 'the one' even exist? Are my standards too high? Am I really looking for someone in the first place, or is this just theorizing? And if I did find someone, would I be dating them because I cared about them, or just to prove to myself and everyone that I can get a partner and have a definite sexuality? If I was gay, would people change the way they look at me? What would my parent think? My friends? Am I straight because I have told myself I am, or gay because of what I watch when no one's around? Now I'm wrapping up my first year of college. Nothing's really changed. My most recent fantasies have been somewhat..softer, about guys like my RA, someone just a little older suddenly revealing what we've both felt. Some way to know for sure that this is what I want... but that's neither here nor there. I still do nothing in real life. So I guess my question, if I had one, would be: Does the fact that I went to gay porn so soon mean that I'm gay? Could gay porn have influenced me early on, and I could be straight? Am I denying my true sexuality because it's convenient, or am I just turned on by this because I've been taught it's "wrong"?Opinions needed. Thanks for reading.
Regarding Crisco - "It's oilier, it's smoother, it FEELS better"
https://youtu.be/4rqlEmdUANA?t=1m57s
ah!! dont know what to do!!
so i posted a thingy a couple months ago about me and my bestfriend.. i havntdone anything but about 3 weeks ago he started sending me dick pics saying "i just want ur opinion on it and he wanted to know if its normal or small" and made it very clear that he just wanted it kept between us. i promised and continue to no tell anyone ( first time discussing it is this post) but when i askee jokingly if he wanted one of mine he said sure.. a couple night ago he sent me a video of him masterbating..as well as a picture..i then askes if he wantes a video of me masterbatingand he said sure... the problem is that he has a girlfriend... ive been in love with him tho for over 2years... and idk what to do... should i tell him i like him and risk our friendship or just let it run its course... btw for more information check not my last post but the ine before that
Why I think being gay or bi is wrong...
There is only emptiness in this world. Everybody just want to fuck and there is no reproductive goals: so no family, no love.
2016. március 24., csütörtök
I'm gay and I'm not okay!!
Dear readers,I'm a 25 year old male from New Mexico. These last couple of days have been hard for some reason. Harder than usual and i can't wrap my head around it. i feel not here, not on earth, not in my own body basically invisible....and i don't mean invisible to others just to myself if that makes sense. As I'm typing this up my eyes are starting to water. i don't want to live anymore. i don't think this life has anymore to offer. life has been hard on me and i don't want to make it seem like I'm looking for pity because I'm not. i have done bad things, things that are wrong on many levels and i think that's one of the reasons i just don't want to be here anymore. Some times i want to be religious but then i remember that I'm gay apart from all the fucked up stuff i have done and i just can't be a hypocrite. is there even a god? and we in hell already? i would be gone already if it werent for my family, my mom mostly. I been diagnosed with severe depression amongst other things wrong with my brain. if you were to meet me on the street you would think that I'm a very funny laid back guy, you would like me just like everyone i know does...but they can't see that i don't love myself. they dont know that everyday that i open my eyes in the morning I'm like "Fuck, I'm still alive" I'm also mad at the fact that i take crazy pills i feel like an idiot that has to take them just to be "Normal" why can't i just be your average joe???? why can't i be straight and have a family and live the American dream like most? if i could trade my life with someone that has a terminal illness i would in a heartbeat because many they would have more of the desire to live than me!
Roberto e Umberto: You & Me: coming out a passo di danza - Italia's Got Talent
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vxRVgSGJ5tU
[Nearly 9/10 Studies on Relationships Exclude GSM - We Want to Change This!] ~~Seeking Participants in Relationships For Online Study On Sexual Problems and Sexual Well-Being~~ [Master's Thesis Project]
I am a Master's student in Clinical Psychology at Queen's University, and my passion is in conducting inclusive sex research and making sure that LGB&T voices are heard in research. I am currently completing my master's thesis that looks at how different couple constellations negotiate and navigate sexual problems.We are currently recruiting participants in intimate romantic relationships who have been dating a minimum of three months for an online study on sexual problems and sexual well-being. We are looking for participants in ALL relationships with any level of sexual satisfaction, with or without sexual problems or concerns.We greatly appreciate everyone who is able to participate and/or able to help us spread the word. Thank you for your help in conducting inclusive sex research!*****To participate visit: http://ift.tt/1S9HVYg: There is also a 'save and exit' button in the survey if you would prefer to complete it over multiple sittings.
Anyone from London, UK in here?
Hey all.I'm making the move to London in a month's time, and while I know a few people in London, it's still a fairly limited number. Just curious if there's anyone on here in London that's up for a chat/drink/help show me around when I arrive. Been twice before but it'd be nice to get build up some friendships.
I confirmed my suspicion that I'm gay today.
I met a old high school friend who is gay for a hike today after telling him that I might be gay. We talked and he answered all my questions.....then we kissed and it felt amazing, he has a boyfriend but his boyfriend was there and was totally cool with it. So yeah...I'm gay...now what.
How do I get over my boyfriend fooling around with his roommate?
I've been dating by boyfriend [gay] for almost three years. I always joke with him about how close him and his friends are. I would say things like, "You could totally get with him," and, "We should have a threesome." It was said jokingly, so I was not worried. He became roommates with one of his straight friends. They are close and kinda play flirt with one another. Well, My boyfriend just celebrated his 21st birthday and got drunk (maybe just buzzed) for the first time even though he told me he had to work and wouldn't be drinking. I was disappointing because I wanted to be there for his first time being drunk. He said when his friends brought him back home, they laid him in bed and he stayed there until they left. He then got up and took his pants off. So he was in bed in his underwear when his roommate, also drunk, came in naked and with an erection. My boyfriend said he doesn't know what he was thinking, but he moved over to make room for him. His roommate climbed into his bed and got under the covers. They cuddled and began grinding. My boyfriend said he got curious and reached around and started jacking him off. Also, at one point, he decided to squeeze his butt while he was humping him. He said he never took off his underwear. Then they just fell asleep like that. Then my boyfriend woke up maybe an hour later and decided to roll over and start sucking off his roommate. He said that lasted about 2 minutes before his roommate said, "You know I'm not gonna cum, right?" So my boyfriend stopped, jacked him off for a minute or so more and turned back around. They cuddled and fell back to sleep for another hour or two. Then my boyfriend woke up and told him he needed to go to his bed. That's how the story ends. So here's my question: How upset should I be about this? I don't know how to feel! I'm devastated, but at the same time I was always alluding to it happening - I put the idea out there into the universe. We used to fantasize that I was his roommate while we fucked. We had sex on his bed once. I mean, his roommate is cute and has a really nice butt, but I didn't expect anything to ever really happen, he's straight! Do I really have the right to be this angry? It took him two days to tell me the complete story. At first he was going to lie to me and say he just saw his penis, but then he said that made him feel bad. He was scared to tell me, so at first he said it was only a hand-job. He saw how much that upset me, so he didn't tell me the whole story until the next day after I cooled down. So for about a week I was upset. We cried together and talked. We're working through this. I just hate not being able to trust him. I mean, its his roomate! They live together. I haven't said anything to the guy, either, so he talks to me like everything is ok, not knowing that I know. It infuriates me, but he's not a bad guy. I don't want to hate him, but what am I supposed to feel?! They are still Snapchatting and texting each other like nothing happened. They were drunk, He didn't hide it from me, and I don't want to be mad. I just want to feel the same way I felt before all this happened. Is that possible to do when I fear it will happen again given the right circumstances? I also feel like I'm not getting the whole story. The bars close at 2, and they are only about 20 min from his house. He says it happened randomly and he didn't expect him to come into his room, but I saw where they had a conversation for 11 minutes at 2:30 a.m. (He doesn't remember) and a Snapchat at 3 a.m. (he doesn't remember). He says he doesn't remember how long he was in bed before his roommate came in. I feel like there's more to the story even though he swears there isn't. There's a possibility that I feel this way because he withheld information from the beginning and considered lying to me. I don't know. I just want to move on, I feel like we are making progress. Its just a nagging feeling in the pit of my stomach when I picture them in that moment together. I feel betrayed and the fact that they live together doesn't help ease my worries. Any suggestions or advice on how to move forward?
Best US cities for 20-30something gays
Where in the US is best for recent college grads in your opinion? Where have you been in the states that seems to have the healthiest/best/most diverse gay culture? I'm not just talking about a couple bars, clubs, etc but also other stuff outside the 10pm-2am time of night like gay sports leagues, gay coffee shops, gay bookstores, etc. What city seems to have a good balance for those gay couples transitioning into the part of their life when they settle down and want to build a family?
2016. március 23., szerda
I am faster as everyone to find new gay pages ;)
Today i found a new launched gay site named "Justbegay". Really funny. I am sure that nobody - really nobody - heared before my post about this site ^What I like: Super fast registration, cool style, 5 languageshttp://www.justbegay.com
I heard this song on the radio today
Typically I listen to classic rock or country, but today on my drive home I decided to change the radio station to something different, and I'm glad I did. I was kind of thrown off at first because it's not something you'd typically hear on the radio. It's a really great song and at first it was really sad but the ending made me happy.Whether or not this artist is gay, I think it's great that people of social influence are openly supporting equality through social media and now through the radio.Link to music video below:"Boys In The Street" by Greg Holden https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcZLMtWEcF0
I want to wrestle.
Ok, so as a 20 something virgin I was thinking about what I would like to do if I hook up, and it boils down to wrestling and cuddling. I wonder how many people want the same?And also, handjobs from the back, I imagine this as being very intimate and nice, like hugging someone from the back and giving them a hanjob? Is this common? Does it seem better in my imagination than reality? :D
Anal for the first time
Again, the same problem. Sorry guys! I just can't find the right answer. I'm a 19 yo virgin. I met a great guy on Grindr (don't judge me, please - relationship is the last thing I need right now). I want to try anal sex with him. I asked him how should I prepare for that. He said that I should do enema a few hours before sex and before that day I should eat only easily digested foods....Well, I want to try but I'm not going to do that. I won't even try douching. That's not where your shit is stored. My poop has solid form. Isn't enough to go to the toilet when I feel I need it? Of course I would wash area outside. But nothing inside. I've started to eat flaxseed for more fiber.Has anyone of you had anal sex as a bottom without douching/enema and without any shame situations?Also, I asked how top prepare for that and he replied "well...". Well, that's not fair! :pSorry for my English.
Guys with Prince Albert piercings, any complications?
I'm a top. 've wanted a pa piercing for a while, but feel like it would make anal more difficult / dangerous. Experiences?
What do you (gay men) feel when people use the term faggot as a slang term
I'm just asking out of curiosity really. The word faggot is, as I'm sure you know, used as an insult to gays. But it's also used as an insult to non-gays. How do you feel when you hear someone calling someone else a faggot?For example, let's say you're on a train and 2 friends are sitting across from you. They get into a bit of an argument and one of them says "shut up faggot". Would you be offended by this?
If you've never been tested, go for it. I had my first STD test, and here's how it went!
I've lurked on the gay/bi subreddits for a while, and finally had my first gay encounter. I've been in a long-term, monogamous, hetero relationship, and the gay sex I had was from a transgression. I messed up. I had been putting off being tested for a several months because the guy is one of my best friends, but I just couldn't get it our of my mind. I have no symptoms of anything, but still. What if?I didn't want to spend money of this, first of all. I looked up free clinics near me on this site and found one about a half hour away. I called and spoke to the person who sets the appointments, and he was extremely friendly. He also took several minutes to answer some questions I had about how the tests were done and whether or not I should bother coming in at all (of course I should). I set an appointment for noon that same day.I got there and the building was fairly non-descript from the outside. There was no sign about it being for gays or about STD testing. In fact, it was on the second floor of a building that has a dentist on the first floor.I walked in, went upstairs, and the same guy I spoke to was there at the desk and was again, so, so nice. He had me fill out several papers and privacy notices. It asked a lot of questions about my sexual history and whether I had ever been tested. Because it was a free clinic, and they are funded by the state, they do report results (confidentially) back to the state. I was fine with that. They also ask if they can share it with my primary care doctor, and I opted out for that.After filling out the papers, they called me back and I sat down with a community health person in a very comfy room with a sofa, decorations on the walls, etc. and he administered the rapid response test for HIV, Hep C and...syphilis maybe? This guy was really cool, too. He talked very openly about everything and talked told me all kinds of things I didn't know about STDs/STIs, and it was all really good to know. Again, extremely nice, very helpful. It was a finger prick blood test and the results took about twenty minutes. While that was happening, I went to another room and met with a nurse who swabbed the back of my throat, took a urine sample, and gave me a cotton swab to do a rectal swab. She sent me in another room to do the swab and gave me the vile to put the swab in and told me to seal it. Cool.After that, I went back to the first room and found out I was clean for the first three tests! Yay!My point in sharing all this is to show anyone who has never been tested that it's incredibly easy, everyone is very non-judgmental (even after I told the community health guy that I slipped up and cheated on my SO, he was really cool and didn't pass any judgement), and the people there are genuinely happy to see people come in to be proactive about their sexual health. Also, the whole process took about 30 minutes, and they will call me later with the other results.If you have never been tested and have been sexually active, please go get tested. It's incredibly fast, easy, and many places give out free condoms to anyone who wants them!The other cool thing was that in the event I tested positive for anything, they have a service where they will call anyone I have been with and tell them, "This is ______ from the free clinic. We have reason to believe that you have been in contact with a person who has tested positive for an STD and you should come in and get tested and or treated, and there is no cost." They won't tell them my name, they just leave it at that.I'll take questions, now. You in the back with your hand up? Go ahead.
Advice for gay virgins?
Hey everyone! I'm a 19 year old gay guy from a small town, and I'm looking for some advice. I'm a virgin and I want to lose my virginity. Any tips? Should I just hookup with a stranger? Should I try dating, even though I'm more interested in sex? Either way, where do I meet guys? Thanks in advance everyone!
My best bud thinks dif of me since I told him I am gay
He seems cool with everything but is standoffish about hanging out. I wish I had never told him. But there's an age difference of about 25 years so I didn't want him to be wierded out about anything. Guess that was a wrong call lol.
2016. március 22., kedd
Initial affection always fades away
Hello guys, i need a few opinions regarding a situation i'm currently in, since i have no gay friends with whom i can talk about it.. Everytime i meet a guy that i'm interested in, i tend to develop quite unrealistic feelings that slightly fade away by the time. At the beginning i imagine things like how i would introduce him to my parents, how our life could look together and sort of stuff. Well now there is this guy, which i really like a lot. We are now dating for about a month and met like 5 times. But now, my affection for him slightly fades away and that scares me.. i don't know how it feels to be in love and i don't have much dating experience. He told me that he slept with more than 150 different guys, so compared to him i'm a bloody beginner. Another thing is - we are both bottom. I kind of lied when it came to that term and told him i am both, but honestly i can't really say if that really was a lie. I'm pretty anxious and stressful so i'm afraid to disappoint him when it gets serious after he told me what he is used to. We did not have sex yet because he had a surgery some time ago and did not fully recover from it. He also stated, that he likes to cuddle much more than having sex, which also applies to me. Although he has more experience as i do, he is not really the guy that initiates sexy times. If i meet the right one, should this affaction from the beginning stay..or does it transform into something else? It really scares me and makes me think that i'm not capable of loving someone... One thing i should mention is that i'm on medication right now..i take Finasterid and that probably reduces my libido. I think i will quit or pause taking it because i don't want it to ruin this relationship.. but something is telling me this is not what causes my problem. btw i'm german, i hope my writing is ok.
What are my chances of having contracted HIV?
Hey guys. Gonna cut to the chase. So I was last tested for HIV in Nov and it came back neg. Made an appointment with my doctor on Mon to get tested this Thurs. Then just an hour ago an ex partner just so happens to hit me up and mention in Nov he tested poz. He bb'd bottomed in August. Between Aug and Nov we were together. We usually played safe. From what i remember however, he swallowed my load 3 times and I topped him bb once for about 5 mins but did not cum in him (could have precummed in him.) How at risk am I? Since blood tests don't pick up the last 3 months of sexual interaction I feel like that test in Nov I took may as well not have even happened. Ehhhhh, I'm stressing this.Anyway thanks for all responses everyone. I know HIV isn't the death sentence it use to be but the social stigma of it would be hardest for me to deal with. Cheers.
[Survey] Research for MBA thesis!
Hi everyone!I'm a gay male working on consulting package for my MBA thesis, and need some insight into the gay and lgbt community's ideas towards apps!If you could help me by taking the survey here: http://goo.gl/forms/czc1NGlCEtI'd really appreciate it! It shouldn't take more than 5 or 6 minutes!
Need some advice, not sure what to do :(
About a month ago I (23) met this guy (24) on a hook up site. He seemed nice and we messaged back and forth for a couple days. We met on a Friday night at his place, chilled for a bit...chatted and watched some Netflix, had a drink. We had a really good time, great sex, conversation, etc. Crashed at his place, cuddled all night, woke up in the morning cuddled and had more sex lol.Now, here is usually when on a one night stand you're either kicked out or want to get the fuck out. But we were both enjoying each other's company. We walked to grab some breakfast and went back to his place. Spent all afternoon talking and chilling.The following weekend I met him for lunch and we hung out for a bit, no sex or anything. Then the past two weekends we chilled at his place, I spent the night, only had sex one of the two times (still messed around though), and spent a majority of the next afternoon with him.So I'm finding myself actually liking him, but...He got out of a 1.5 year relationship in December, so I don't think he's ready for actual dating or a relationship again...still brings his ex up quite a bit. I don't know the whole story but apparently his ex hurt him a lot. Anyways, we've both opened up a lot to each other. We've told each other about our past, childhoods, family, personal struggles, ambitions, dreams...basically gotten to know each other on a deeper level than "fuck buddies"...at least that's how I feel.From past experiences with dating, I'm really insecure and cynical. Like I said, I keep telling myself that it is wrong for me to have feelings for him...and that if I do I should probably just stop hanging out with him because he'll inevitably want to stop hanging out with me, which will just hurt more at that point. Awful right?I don't know, maybe I'm just being paranoid, overly cautious, anxious. But I do genuinely like him, he makes me laugh, smile, feel good, I enjoy being around him. And not to mention he's cute as hell. He always tells me that I'm cute, and told me that I'm "a special guy to him" (I don't know wtf that is supposed to mean). Every time he's said something like that I haven't really reciprocated (thought I want to) for fear of coming off too affectionate.The first week we texted quite a bit..equal amount of both of us texting first. And the last few weeks we have barely texted. Pretty much just check in or confirm plans. Which honestly that's fine with me, I'm not a big texter, but it kinda sucks I'm the one to initiate 100% of the time. I know I'm probably look into this too much, but I feel like I shouldn't text him as that might come across desperate/clingy...or maybe he's really not interested and hoping that I just go away? But then again, what if he's thinking the same thing by not texting me. We texted a bit Sat night but I haven't heard from him since, and I don't know if I should initiate or wait...even if that means he never contacts me again.Anyways, just looking for some advice on how to approach this situation.
Just how hard is dating going to be for me now?
Hiya! I have recently come out to myself and a handful of close friends and family as transgender (FTM). Essentially, I am a gay man in a woman's body. My question for you guys is, how fucked am I when it comes to dating/cruising? How accepted are FTMs in the gay community? I'm pre everything right now, and don't think I'll be up for dating for awhile while I figure myself out, but will likely get on Testosterone in the near future and have top surgery. Any insight you can give me would be great!
Had my first gang banging!
Let me just say one thing.... I have never had so much pleasure in my life. I have always been so frightened of putting a dick in my ass, let alone getting blasted in my mouth as well. I have had anal before but not like this. It was terrifying at first but after a couple of minutes 'Jose's' huge cock mesmerized me. He lasted about 15 minutes. I am so sore, but a good kind of sore. What are your experiences like? I know i'm looking forward to getting gang banged in the future. Please no hate, were all gay here so please respect my story. Thanks, Love you all.
Should I ask why he is not interested?
For some time now, I've been friends with a guy I met on Grindr. Started as friends, but I kinda wanted more than that. He is the first person I have ever met I really feel like getting in a relationship (I've never been in one at 26y). For me, he is just the perfect guy ever, mainly because he also looks so damn good. We also share a LOT of interests (trance music, motorcycling, kitesurfing etc) and mindsets (adventurous and so on). Almost everything he is into, I am into and vice verse. We still have out differences though, which makes it even better.Thing is, I've heard from other people I look pretty good (I'm fit, well groomed, and apparently I have a very symmetric face). That, plus our combined interests and activities would make for an ideal recipe for a couple in my mind and the people I've talked to about him. Yet he is not interested in me as far as more than friends. He just want to be good friends, that is all. For me, it was really depressing (first love etc etc) but I value hour friendship too much to let him go or push him away. I am kinda struggling with it, but one question really bothers me.. What about me isn't working for him?Since I have no real experience with relationships and am not too great with these things, is it weird to ask him what about me is "wrong"? What is the best way of asking it, since I am really curious about it.
PLEASE HELP WITH DISSERTATION!
Hi I am a fourth year psychology student who needs to complete a dissertation in order to complete my degree. My dissertation is investigating attitudes towards meeting people online and I have an issue with recruiting non-heterosexual participants. It would be great if you could take 5 minutes of your time to do my survey!http://ift.tt/1RhXbTb again thank you!
The Velvet Rage
I just finished this book, and thought I'd share it with all of you. Never before has a book captured my feelings and inner thoughts since I was a kid so intimately. And knowing where behaviors come from, and how to avoid making the same mistakes over and over... It's truly a life changing book for gay men. Seriously, check it out. The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs
Makeup on guys?
Just curious as to what the general consensus is on guys wearing some makeup?Recently I've started filling in my eyebrows and using fake tan lotion. I receive compliments on it a lot from some of my girlfriends but I don't know how it'd be perceived by gay guys, the people I actually want to bang (no offense ladies) I've been single forever so not sure, whats your personal opinion on it? Attractive or not? I can post a photo if it helps
2016. március 21., hétfő
A weird situation
I am 26 years old and Im in a strange situation. You see Im married to my wife and I have a daughter but I think I might be gay. I love my wife and I find her attractive but not as much as I find some men. In fact other than my wife I find no women appealing. Its hard to explain properly but I feel like things are changing and Im really confused. Anyone out there have any idea whats up with me?
What do you want the most?
Honestly what I want the most with a guy is to be able to cuddle them, feel their warmth while watching a movie. Feel their muscles with their arms around me(all of this while cuddling) or feel their stomach/chest while my arms around him. Listen to his heart beat, hear his breathing pattern. To me this would be amazing, I could do it all the time honestly. What do you desire the most? What would your dream moment be with your guy?
I just got a rectal syringe but I don't know how to use it. Can any of you point me in the right direction or give me some pointers?
All I know is that I need warm water/warm saline but I don't know much else besides that.
the guy I like seems to be pushing away after I told him how I feel...advice?
it was my mistake entirely, not really trying to cry over what's already happened, but i need advice on what i can or should do next...we met on tinder, texted back and forth for a bit until we finally met. it went really well and i thought that we both liked each other a lot. he asked to stay over the first time we hung out. nothing happened but i still thought that was a good sign. we went to his house the next day and hung out and it was really fun, and we ended up kissing and it was awesome.we continued texting and everything was fine until the next time we hung out.it was a little awkward as it had been since we were still getting to know each other. we kissed again, then stopped. i leaned in to kiss him again but he didn't so i just kissed his cheek, it was quite embarrassing. he left shortly after that, but we kissed again as he said bye.i felt so awkward about what had happened though. we texted a little bit after but not nearly as much as we'd been texting. The next morning I made the mistake of telling him how I felt. all I said in a nutshell was this: "hey how's it going? Sorry if things got weird or anything yesterday, the truth is I like you and I just get a bit nervous and shy around people I like. Sorry if this is weird in itself x-x"he responded saying "It's going well. Sorry it takes me a while to start liking somebody, so I don't want to say I don't. I definitely like hanging out though. :)"I responded saying "I understand, I just wanted to get that out there haha".that was yesterday, and we haven't texted since. I don't want to be annoying and text him if he doesn't want me too.... but things seemed to have changed after i texted him that.I'm crushing hard on him so this is like tearing me apart haha...all of yesterday went by without anything, except later at night (i'm pretty sure when he got off of work) he liked a random fb post of mine from that day.Only mentioning that because I want to know what you guys think, is he still interested in me?...Today he was having a simple surgery that he told me about so I texted him saying good luck, and he said "Thank you :)".Nothing after that. I snapchatted him a few hours later asking "how did it go :)??"I can see he opened it about a half hour ago...but hasn't responded. I could give him the benefit of the doubt and say that he is busy or at work or something, but I feel like he's not texting me or anything at all now and he may have lost interest....We have so much in common and things were going so well. I want to text him but I don't want to be annoying. He ignored my snapchat already... i'm hoping he will send me a late response or something.I was thinking the sure fire way to find out if he's still interested or not is just to ask him out again. but my friend is coming over for spring break so i probably won't be able to make plans this week. shoudl i just text him some time during the week and ask him if he wants to hang out next week?I think i'll have my answer based on his response...
2016. március 20., vasárnap
I'm scared of not being cute.
I know that sounds strange, but it's true.Basically, the way I identify myself is with femininity. I feel like that's who I am inside. It makes me very happy and when I can express my femininity I feel a sense of fulfilment and completeness. I spent a long while pretending to be masculine and when I finally stopped with that mask, I felt amazing. People accepted me for who I was too, which was a huge bonus. When I catch a glimpse of myself looking brutish or overly masculine, I feel down. It doesn't feel like me. It feels like the old fake me. When I see older men, it looks like femininity is much harder to convey. If I go bald, that will make me feel like a part of me is missing. Being a balding old man and trying to look feminine sounds really difficult.It's less so to do with how other people view me and more so to do with just feeling like myself. If people thought looking feminine was ugly or undesirable (which some people do I suppose), I would still do it. I don't care about that. I have a long term boyfriend and I think he would love me no matter what I looked like. It's more just about how I feel when I look at myself. If I looked at myself and I was very masculine-looking, I'd feel incomplete. When I've asked female friends about this, they reiterate the same sentiment. If their femininity was taken away, they'd feel like a part of them was taken because they wouldn't be able to express themselves. This is how I feel, but in my case I'm male so it just feels like the biological clock is harsher for me, if that makes any sense. I'm sure that there is a certain sense of that for all old people. Maybe old ladies look back and wish they could be as graceful as they were when they were young, but I don't know. I just don't seem to be able to handle this idea well.When I ask male friends, they just seem to deal with it. Sure, nobody wants to age, but other people just seem to man up and take it. If my boyfriend aged badly or went bald he'd be sad but he wouldn't freak out in the same way that I do. I recognise that there is something unhealthy going on here with me. I have a phobia of aging because I just fear that it will remove my a large part of my identity. It just sounds harder to be me, as an older person. I respect older people, I really do. I'm not trying to be ageist. I personally just have some kind of internalized shame or fear to do with aging that I can't pinpoint the origin of. How do I come to terms with this? Has anyone else struggled with this? I'm open to criticism and suggestions, as long as it's constructive. I know that I have an issue, so I don't need to be told how messed up it is or how shallow I am. I don't feel shallow inside, but this problem is intertwined with the way I look so I can understand why someone might think that. I would really appreciate advice.
Tired of jockstraps and flapping junk
Hi. I was wondering if anyone here has experience with shrinking their junk? I'm always on top, and I'm tired of having my genitals all over the place. Could somebody share their experiences?
Typical gay behavior
Hey guys,I kinda got the feeling lately that there is nothing as : love between gay people. Everyone if "met" online just wants to f'ck or swap pictures.I live in a small city in germany. There's a german webside for gay and bi-sexuell boys. Everyone I've written with is just interested in sex or picture swapping. Same on e.g. Grindr. Even a 14 yo from my city messaged me if he could srsly suck my d*ck. And he was not a faker, I saw him once in RLIt really makes me depressed if I'll ever find someone who is really interessted in my personality and not just my body.EDIT: added a little extra, pls excuse any mistakes I'm not a native speaker.
[16/m] I feel like one of my male friends gives hints of being gay
Hello, I'm 16 years old, I'm a guy and I live in France. I am gay however I'm not out yet, simply because there's no reason for me to say it so I've been denying it when people asked me whether I was gay or not. I have very little to no experience with girls in the past and none with guys. When people asked me about relationships, I've always thought that how I was right now was fine, that I prefered having fun with my friends and I was not interested in it.But lately, I had to review this thinking. I have one male friend (in the same class) and I'm not really close to him or anything, I talk to him sometimes but we're just classmates, we rarely hang out together. At first, I just thought he was really cute but that's it.After a few months in the same class, I had a few talks with him (still school-related) but I still think we're just classmates, not friends. Recently, I heard him talk in the lockers about how a guy was checking his ass out in the public showers (he's in a sport club) but I don't think he said he was disgusted or anything, he just casually said that while laughing about it. After that, here comes the ambiguous part, he asked me and also one of his friends if we wanted to suck his dick as a joke. I laughed it off and said no while trying to act natural. (Yes that's all lol maybe he's just a bit childish ?) Plus, I don't think he dated many girls before (or so I heard) and he is single right now. On one hand, I want to think of it as hints that indicate he's gay but on the other hand, I feel like I'm just fantasizing it and those "hints" were nothing more than jokes, casual talk.Also, there's a possibility he's just messing with me because sometimes his friend would say things about how I'm a bit girly (I do agree I'm a bit feminine but at a limited extent) and all. So maybe he's just playing around, and that possibility is quite strong.Yet, I do not want to think that is the case, that'd be pretty pathetic of me otherwise hahaha. The whole thing "I'm not even out but I want to know if someone else is gay" is quite ridiculous. Anyway, I wanted to share this thing with you guys and ask you what would you do if you were in this situation. If you have any advices or stories to share with me, please don't hesitate! :)Have a nice day.
I really thing I am gay but I'm so confused!!!!
Hi guys, I'm a 22 year old guy from Massachusetts and I've struggled with my sexuality for over 6 years. I used to post pictures of myself naked on Craigslist looking to talk dirty with guys, but I never actually kissed or had any sexual relations with them. I sometimes glance at a girls butt and it make me feel a little turned on but barely. I don't care about dating at all, like no interest in sex or relationships with any girl.So I made a little test, I watched porn with girls for 5 minutes and no erection, then 30 seconds into gay porn I became instantly aroused. On top of all of this I have terrible anxiety so I can't even explore my sexuality.Also I'm really only ever attracted to much older men or people who I know are gay.I think I might be gay. What do I do now?
Feeling desperate
I'm using a throwaway here,I am 19 and a freshman in college. At this time last year I was expecting to have a lot more experiences with dating/sex at this point of my freshman year- but I haven't.I have gone a couple of dates, but nothing more. I have also dabbled in tinder/grindr, but haven't got the results I had been hoping for. I am relatively good looking dude- maybe 7/10.My college town is full of gay men and students but I still haven't gotten any action.What is there to do at this point?
What do I do with my situation
I'm just your average 23yr old male living in Melbourne which happens to be bi-sexual but to everyone else who assumes and thinks they know me better gay.I grew up in NSW with my older brother and younger sister until I turned 17yrs old, that was the day my life turned upside down.On my 17th birthday I told my family I was into other guys, they were pretty cool with it not one negative thing about it well so I thought.A week later after my birthday I started sleeping around as I was told it's good to have sex and relationships are just crap so I listened to people's stories and went with it.I had a lot of unprotected sex you can say I was stupid and yes I admit that I was but I had a good doctor who gave me a blood test every month for the normal STI/HIV test. They always came back negative which was good.For nearly a year I was just going around the block and sleeping with this guy and that guy until I wanted to try have a relationship..........skip a head the guy was a dick like the the rest after him and before now.*********FAST FORWARDING*********2014 I moved to Melbourne to permanently live here instead of NSW I had two relationships with a female and one male between the last two relationships I had another test as it was while since my last test good results they came back negative.My last relationship I had was for 1.5 years and sexless and me unhappy for all of it beside the first 4 months. I had my suspicions that my partner was sleeping around behind my back like most of them have in the past but anyway he said he wasn't so i believed him.After that relationship as we decided not to continue on as there was one to many arguments and nothing working out (the truth his brother was a prick and thinking he can tell me what to do in my own house as he got kicked out of his girlfriends house for being a dick).I moved out to a place with friends which is like a share house. This is where things get more hard for me.One of my housemates is someone I liked, we spent a lot of time together watching tv and movies, going out and doing things.Between us we grew feelings for each other over time I started to fall In love with him he knows I love him and he loves me but we ain't in a relationship.I'm aware that he wants one with me and I want one with him but we don't want to rush it, during the time of a month or so of spending time and feeling more for each other it's gotten to the point that we would leave each other's side.We share something special that no one will understand but that's not the point to this, I was given some bad news by my doctor a few weeks ago and it's taken a turn in my life.I got a phone call from my gp (doctor) to come in and speak about some results, when I got there I knew it wasn't good news but hoped it was good. My doctor told me my blood test came back as HIV positive.I told everyone I live with and I believe the guy I love took it worst then I did. He says he ain't going to do anything but wanted me to do another blood test so I did and it got confirmed that I do have it.As it's been confirmed the guy I love is not sure what to do exactly but wait for me to see more medical professionals at the clinic who specialises in this.HoweverI feel like he is becoming more distant and pulling away but scared to say it he has said that he doesn't want to leave me but he would feel bad if he does as there would be no one else that would care or support me so he stays.I feel like he is forcing himself to stay so I don't get hurt and feel like it's a waste of time of what we have etc.What should I do??? I don't know what to doEvery night I become emotional I cry a lot even though I sleep next to the one I love I try not let him know that I'm crying.I think he is going to leave me eventually at some point soon but not sure. He talks to a lot of other guys and I don't like it but I can't say anything.I'm more jealous of some people he talks toAll together I can't pretend that it doesn't bother me but then I can't push him away all I will loose him for good.What do I do
Coming out in college
Hey all. For the past year or so I've pretty much been open with myself about being gay, but aside from myself and a few close friends I haven't been open with anyone else about my sexual orientation. Mostly cause there's not a good way to bring it up in my family, but that's not the point. In a few months I'll be heading off to school (I know I'm getting ahead of myself a little, but it's really been on my mind and I just want some sort of plan so I feel prepared) and want to be totally out there.I'm not worried about poor reception there as it's known for being a good, very liberal, very accepting college, I'm just worried about how to do it logistically. There's nobody in my life who I really care if they find out I've just never made a big deal about it, so now I just don't know what I'm even supposed to do to let people know.Should I tell my roommate first thing when we meet? Have it be one of the first things out of my mouth whenever I talk to someone new? Just continue making awkward gay jokes so people feel a need to ask if I'm slightly homophobic or just plain gay myself like I've been doing? Wear a massive pride flag as a toga for the first week? I'm cool with any ideas people offer cause I'm totally lost about what to do
2016. március 19., szombat
I just want some peace of mind [NSFW]
Hello Everyone. I'm 19, and had my first sexual experience at the age of 17.I'm going to get right to the point, I'm worried I have HIV. I know what most are going to say, "Get tested, it's the only way to know!" and I realize that. I am unable to get tested at the moment, because I am abroad northern Canada and won't return to the states for a couple weeks. I know it's impossible to provide a 100% accurate answer, but I'm just looking for some sort of peace of mind to get me through these couple weeks.First of all, I have ALWAYS been a total top. And I've always used a condom. Well, except for two times:The first time, I went to a gay bath house in NYC (never going again) and had sex with a young guy about my age. We used a condom, but towards the end I took it off so I could ejaculate, preferably on his chest. At the last possible second, he grabbed my dicked and inserted it into his butt again. I know it sounds funny, but actualy I'm not even 100% sure it was in. I know I should have stopped him, but I didn't. It was only for a couple seconds. About 4-5 days later, I came down with a fever, terrible sore throat, and headache. Is it possible to have symptoms that early? Then a couple days later, a few folks in my circle of friends had a fever, but no sore throat, so I thought it was just a bug going around. I went to the clinic to get tested for strep and mono, and it came back negative. Doc said it was probably a virus. Those were the only symtoms I had, and they cleared up within a couple days.My second risky encounter happened two weeks ago.I went to a guys apartment. He was supposed to buy condoms, but he didn't. Again, I should have walked away, but I didn't. And I feel sick because of it. We had sex for a while, no condom. I never ejaculated inside him, and it wasn't rough. He hasn't had sex very often, so he said. (He was really tight). And he insisted he was clean of any disease.About a week later, I had a small rash on my arm, near my armpit. It was very itchy at first. A week later it was cleared up. No other symtoms at all.Perhaps I'm too paranoid. But this has been consuming my mind 24-7.I've read that most people who get HIV don't get symtoms, then I read other places that 85% of them do. I'm very confused.Any insight you guys could provide, I would greatly appreciate.Thank you !btw, I marked this NSFW for my describing my sexual encounter. I'm not sure if that was needed but I wanted to be sure.
Crushes on Straight People
Hello, I've never posted on here but I feel really trapped and I decided to try to find some help. I'm a 16 bisexual guy and I'm really close with my straight friend. He's been my best friend for quite a while and I have developed a big crush on him. I'm not delusional and i know there isn't any chance of us dating but I was wondering what's the best way to deal with this. He doesn't know any of this but I would really like to be his friend and can't really imagine a world where he isn't my friend but I feel so lost and confused and was wondering if someone can help.
Come out but still not happy
Guys, I need someone to tell me something good. I've just come out as gay but I don't feel that weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I still feel scared, anxious, worried and not proud of who I am. I was hoping to feel so much happier and relieved but I almost feel even more scared. What advice can you offer me because I am feeling depressed and not my normal self.
What song do you think is the quintessential Gay anthem?
I recently ran into this song. That was the first time I heard of its lyrics in entirety and felt it spoke to me. Have you guys found something very similar?
TIL in the Family Guy show when mayor Adam West says on the only major West that's in trouble in the episode "You may now kiss the... Uh.. guy who receives", it's a reference to former Mayor Jim west from Spokane. He was a strong opponent of gay marriage whose career ended over a gay sex scandal.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P6guYBOQ9iA
This makes no sense..
Ok for a while now I've become closer to my crush. Long story short it has happened allot in the last year. Not sexually but kind of just between us. And I've sent him snapchats all the year but now he has u friended me and that happened at least 2days ago. And the thing that doesn't make any sense is that when we are in crowds he places himself beside me. And he's like generally interested in talking. At the gym today I was standing on a ladder in the gym stage and I wasn't doing anything that lesson because I forgot my clothes. Then he climbed up to me just standing beside me again and I was the only one just standing there. And one thing which is kind of funny is that when the lesson was done. I was just minding my own business and I walked right in his ass. Any ideas what that means?
Cam out to my parents but...
So I came out to my parents this week. I spoke to mum who spoke to dad. The way she found out was a bit accidental and we only spoke on the phone so far. But when she told dad he didn't take it as well. He is very conscious of what people think and say about him... And coming from a bit of a conservative society in which he had lived all his life, he is worried people will be talking about me, and himI am meeting them next week. Mum told me to avoid talking to them about my boyfriend at all, but it doesn't make sense to me because it will almost be like hiding it and pretend it does not exist.Any advice from anyone who has been through it?
Some questions from a curious man.
Hey there. If this should go somewhere else, please let me know. If something about the language or content of my post is incorrect or hurtful. This is all new to me, I don't want to offend anyone, I'm just doing the best I can in fairly unfamiliar circumstances.I am a 30m who has been, for all intents and purposes, straight up until about a year ago. I still strongly prefer women, but I have made out with some men at parties and festivals, men have started creeping into my porn selection (especially mmf threesomes) and the idea of sex with a man has really been turning me on for a while now. So I've decided that I'm going to seek out some male sexual partners.I've turned on men on my Tinder and having some success, although I haven't met up with anyone yet. I have two questions that have been causing some hesitation on my part. Maybe you can help me solve these:1) I find stereotypically flamboyantly gay behaviour and the common gay accent to be unattractive. I don't want to match someone, flirt, meet up, and then know immediately that I'm not going to be interested in them. Is it gauche to ask someone how flamboyant they are? Is there a better word I can use for that? That seems like the sort of question that might be hurtful. How do I find that out?2) I know that many gay men don't want to get involved with bi men. I can respect that, although it's a bit of a bummer. What's the best way to let someone know that so they don't end up wasting their time? I don't want to put it on my profile because I don't need the drama of people questioning my sexuality while I'm still working all this out myself.Also, flirting with dudes is so different from flirting with ladies. Did you know that men will actually straight up compliment you? Such a breath of fresh air.
2016. március 18., péntek
I Think I am gay
Sorry for a long post but I need to get this off my chest. XDSo, basically, I have been suffering from PANDAS (mental disorder caused by strep) for about 1 and 1/2 years now. One of the side effects of that is OCD. One of the side effects of OCD is questioning your sexual identity (questioning-not changing)-and for a while I have. I thought I was straight, and even though I was (and still am, obviously) a huge supporter of LGBT rights, I didn't feel comfortable with being gay or bi, especially since it was all caused by a single gay sex dream.But recently I have realized: I was only straight because society pressured me too. In the 2.5 months since I've been questioning, I haven't had a single straight thought, conscious or unconscious, while I have had plenty of gay thoughts.For the record, I am 14 and have never masturbated and don't plan to (something about it just disgusts me, though no judgement to people who do).Now, I can naturally ejaculate when I see an attractive naked man or see two guys...you know. Occasionally I see a cute guy in public and think "I would have sex with him" (even though I am a virgin and have never been in a serious relationship with a guy or girl).But, I am nothing short of disgusted and frankly a little offended when I see a naked woman. Something about how disgusting everything seems and the inherent sexism of it all just turns me off completely. I wouldn't have sex with a woman my age-ever.So, yeah, that all seems pretty gay right? I am far from stereotypical (I am an introvert with only a few close friends who would rather watch tv than go to a party)-but I am drawn to shows and movies with gay characters and such for some reason-I think its the OCD-but the fact is I can picture myself in a same-sex relationship and I am actually happy.Plus, while I am writing this, I feel a huge weight being lifted off of my chest.Coming out would worry me a little bit though. My mom, though she has said in the past that she would be fine if me or my siblings were gay, is also a psychologist who knows about HOCD and I am worried she would think that is all it is. My dad is hugely conservative with almost everything-and I am telling the truth when I say that I took comfort in the fact that he didn't boycott Star Wars after the Campbell's ad (I am so desperate XD). I am too afraid to even tell my therapist (even though he knows I was struggling with HOCD), much less my loud mouth friends who might out me to the entire school.I have been obsessing over whether or not I am gay a lot-and I have a lot of the symptoms-but that might be that fact that I am gay with OCD.So, any thoughts? Thanks for reading and I would appreciate any help?
How the hell do you bring up the conversation?
I'm 22, male, gay and am out to most of the people in my life that matter. The only person that doesn't is my dad.I love my dad, but he is conservative, and Christian, and, from what I have been able to figure out over the last few days, not as homophobic as I thought. I have no idea if he still does but he used to believe the "Gay agenda" crap was real. I can't quite tell if he does.The thing is, I made a new years resolution that I haven't told anyone about. I resolved to become a happier person, to love myself, and to not hide myself. So I want to tell my dad, and I want to tell him before I head to Europe for 5 months, so I can be open about what I'm doing and I don't have to hide anything on facebook or the like.I think he'll be fine with it. He's very libertarian when it comes to other people and has expressed before that he wants the best for me, and knows that I need my space to discover life on my own (I'm a middle child, it's very important lol).So here's my dilemma: how do I bring it up? How do I bring up how I feel and be open with him?
So I guess I'm confused... (need gay guy advice)
I am so confused about my sexuality I don't even know where to begin. I had always found girls attractive growing up and you can even say I was an early bloomer in that department. Now I'm in my mid 20's and its almost like I have had an extremely gradual shift from straight to maybe gay, so gradual I didn't even notice what was going on.Now that I think of it, I stereotypically act and look like a gay guy. I used to always hang out with girls when I was very young and would love to play barbies with them, I have always been very conscious about the way I dress, and I'm a LITTLE flamboyant.The thing is, if a woman is touching me, I can get hot and I don't know how to explain it but its like there's no emotional connection there anymore.I'm increasingly seeing guys walking around and thinking "wow, he's really cute and has a nice petite figure". and other stuff like that. Wanting to actually build a great relationship with a guy and though it's horrible, I almost don't even see woman to have any value anymore, they're just there.I used to want a hot wife to fuck when I got older, now I want a sweet and caring guy by my side. Wtf how did this happen???I have to admit, I feel if I did find I was gay it would be really hard for me to come out of the closet. I have a few homophobic friends and I feel I would get a lot of resistance from my family as I'm kind of known for sleeping around with women (due to my lies).I'm very emotionally attracted to guys but not sure about sexually. I have experimented a little in the 2nd grade (lol) and found it kinda fun. I have to admit though, when I think of 2 guys having sex it kinda makes me feel sick, maybe due to social programming?Doesn't it make more sense though that guys should be with guys and girls should be with girls except to reproduce? Men understand men and women understand women.
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