Some questions from a curious man.

Hey there. If this should go somewhere else, please let me know. If something about the language or content of my post is incorrect or hurtful. This is all new to me, I don't want to offend anyone, I'm just doing the best I can in fairly unfamiliar circumstances.I am a 30m who has been, for all intents and purposes, straight up until about a year ago. I still strongly prefer women, but I have made out with some men at parties and festivals, men have started creeping into my porn selection (especially mmf threesomes) and the idea of sex with a man has really been turning me on for a while now. So I've decided that I'm going to seek out some male sexual partners.I've turned on men on my Tinder and having some success, although I haven't met up with anyone yet. I have two questions that have been causing some hesitation on my part. Maybe you can help me solve these:1) I find stereotypically flamboyantly gay behaviour and the common gay accent to be unattractive. I don't want to match someone, flirt, meet up, and then know immediately that I'm not going to be interested in them. Is it gauche to ask someone how flamboyant they are? Is there a better word I can use for that? That seems like the sort of question that might be hurtful. How do I find that out?2) I know that many gay men don't want to get involved with bi men. I can respect that, although it's a bit of a bummer. What's the best way to let someone know that so they don't end up wasting their time? I don't want to put it on my profile because I don't need the drama of people questioning my sexuality while I'm still working all this out myself.Also, flirting with dudes is so different from flirting with ladies. Did you know that men will actually straight up compliment you? Such a breath of fresh air.