2016. május 31., kedd
Good gay subreddits?
It seems that "Ask Gay Bros" is the only active gay men's subreddit that isn't all about posting porn or selfies. =\ But I don't fit in there at all. They're the elitist type that hate me. They're obsessed with going to the gym, think every good man needs "shave and a haircut" (which counteracts their bear worship though), they don't except anything not "normal guy". I mean I'm not really feminine either but I just feel like I can't keep up with anyone's standards there or anywhere and I need a new, active gay reddit group to frequent. Is this a good one to ask questions and such?
Gay Bisexual Relationships
So I've been reading some posts on here and r/bi about some of the problems bi people seem to face in homosexual relationships. Stuff like people fear that a bi person may leave a homosexual relationship so they can have a heterosexual family, or that they feel because someone's bisexual they're somehow more likely to cheat. Basically I'm just wondering how well founded these opinions are. Bi people do you feel like it's more (for lack of a better word) 'difficult' being in a homosexual relationship? Gay people is anyone actually more apprehensive about entering a relationship with a bisexual for any reason?I'm asking because most of what I've seen seems to be negative (I may have just been unlucky with my selections), but personally I, as a gay man, would find bisexuality in my partner a plus. Rather than think "this person finds more people attractive what if they cheat with someone" I think I'd see it more a matter of "of all the people this person could have been with they picked me".P.S. This is my first Reddit post so I have no idea if I've formatted correctly or anything, I'll just be happy if the damn thing posts! If I've come off as ignorant or offended anyone, I'm sorry.
/r/gay Friends Thread
Since the last post got archived, I thought about creating another one.Just post using the following format if you want to chat with other cool gay dudes:Name (you're more than happy to just put your username or skip this step entirely)Age (this is important, people may want to talk to others who have perhaps had more experiences or who are just older)Short Description Of Yourself (try to keep this concise, but if you need to make it longer by all means go for it)What You're Looking For (try to limit this to either friends, advice, or general conversation.Preferred Age Range (self explanatory)
I think I love my friend
Gay (20) I'm at uni with a guy who ive been friends with for about a year. Since the start he has opened up about his sexuality to me and he's bi. But it's not until recently that he's said to me that he might be emotionally attracted to men as well as physically. We have some fun sometimes, just playing around on snapchat and I don't know what to do. I think I might want a relationship but not sure if he's emotionally attracted to me or if he just wants to fool around with no strings. Feel like if I ask we wouldn't be able to just be friends if he knew how I felt.
I've been asked to take the lead on creating an LGBT advisory committee at my job. I'm wondering what this sub's thoughts are meaningful ways your employer supports the community (or that you wish they did).
I appreciate any and all feedback - I guess I'm looking for ideas beyond just getting us a pride parade presence and/or monetary sponsorship of some LGBT community resources (not that either of those are bad or off the table, at all).I work for a regional health provider and we're not doing a very good job of this at the moment despite having a lot of gay employees and clients.I'm someone who's always flown a bit under the radar with this stuff (i.e. openly gay but not in an up-front-advocate-type-way) so it's definitely pushing me into a challenge in the best way possible.Would love to hear this sub's thoughts! Cheers.
:(
I'm struggling really hard with myself. I'm not seeing my ex anymore were trying the whole friend thing and we are still having sex, and it's really hard for me. It's easy and not a problem for him because he's done this many times. He's dated every one of his best friends. He's about as emotionally available as a rock so I never know what he feels or wants or anything. I suppose it'd be best for me to just stop. But I just can't. I love him so much I want to keep putting myself through this to be around him. I'm starting to get really depressed because he doesn't want me in his life the same way I do him. And it's confusing because when we're together we always cuddle or flirt or kiss or whatever. And act like we're still together basically. It's eating me alive. And I'm too afraid to end it because he is literally my only friend. I don't have anyone else anymore and I don't know what to don
2016. május 30., hétfő
I need help with my mom. She thinks im a pedophile, im not.
Im 21, Im gay, i live with my mother since 3 years by now, and since 2 years she knows im gay. I've had 2 relationships in my life and she has knew the boys i've been with. when i was 19, i was with a 16yo boy (its legal in my country, and his whole family knew), and after that when i was 21, i was with a 19yo guy. And due to that she knows that im into younger than me guys.Im not openly gay to everybody, my close friends know it, my parents, uncles and aunts know, but not my cousins or my classmates or neighbors. They havent seen me with a girl or a boy. So im more like a nerdy one. This is not important btw.The problem is that recently i joined a social group near here. Where most young neighbors go to. I met some guys (2 17yo and 1 14yo) that i knew but i didnt had any chat with. So lately we were fooling around and doing random shit with a online game. The problem is that my mother noticed this, and she got worried and upset because "im into younger ones" and she doesnt want to have any troubles with her neighbor friends... "those kids are good kids" (i dont even know what she meant with that)Im not sexually interested in any of them, even if they were gay. The age gap is too large i dont see a relationship working over there. And im not into "quick stuff" if you know what i mean. I just want to have some people to fool around close my area.I've told her that im not into them but she doesnt understand because she's the overprotective type of mother, i know she wont care what i say, she will say no.Should i get away from them to avoid more problems?Should i confront my mother?What should i do?Moving away is not an option.My mom is ok with me being gay, once she even let my boyfriend stay in my room. So its not that.
Asking those who have done this: What was your experience going to a gay club alone?
I just moved to a new area where I know little to no people. So while this is a new experience, I am looking for other gay people like me to become friends with. Meeting people off of Grindr, Growlr, and what not are a purely sexual experience, so I am looking for something more.Any kind of experience you could share would be super helpful!
I think I may have feelings for one of my best friends. What the hell do I do?
Ok so just for some context, I'm a 16 (17 in july) year old guy currently finishing up grade 11 in highschool. I have a small group of friends that I've known for a few years, but outside of that I'm pretty bad when it comes to socializing. One of my friends, I'll just call him "Alex" for now, is just so nice all the time. Recently, I've just had really strong feelings for him. At this time, I really don't know what to do about it, as only one of my friends actually knows that I'm gay. I'm just about 100% sure none of my friends are homophobic/etc., but even if I did ever let Alex know how I feel, I don't know how he would take it, or if he's even gay at all. What should I do?TL;DR: I think I love one of my friends, but have no idea what to do about it.
Advice - First hookup tomorrow
Im 19, and finally feel like I'm comfortable enough to have a hookup. I've been talking with this guy (35) on grindr over the weekend, and he invited me over to jerk off at his house. We've talked before, way back in august, and he suggested the same thing, but I wasn't up to it, I was still without a licence - only like 3 hours away from it but I'm a goody two-shoes - and we stopped talking, he disappeared until thursday night when he showed up again. I got really excited, because I really did want to go over there, but I was just really timid. He lives not far from me, just in the neighborhood across the street. I keep telling myself I'll bail, but the other part of my brain keeps telling me to go through with it, I really want to. I've truly never seen another guys dick in person and I want to start exploring my sexuality, but I want to be safe about it. I guess I'm really just looking for some advice, or words of wisdom. I have set a boundary with him, that a blowjob is as far as I'm willing to go. maybe not even that, we'll see what happens. He's been complacent, and very kind and understanding that I'm new to this. I also told him Id like to meet him in public first for coffee or something, and he's cool with it.
Anyone else think this Chevy Cruze commercial is Homophobic
https://twitter.com/chevroletcanada/status/735104448284884992Did anyone else see this? His friends are basically saying hes being gay.. (Departing from the correct lane)This is extremely homophobic!!
Any Chinese/Taiwan/Chinese-American/Taiwanese-American bros here?
Hi, everyone! I am a communication Ph.D. candidate at the University of Southern California. I am here for my survey study about safe sex practice among gay men in the United States.Earlier I posted this message to gaybros. I am thinking this subreddit will reach other subgroups among the gay communities. The survey takes around 5 to 10 minutes to complete. No personally identifiable information will be collected and your responses will be kept confidential. The survey is available in both English and simplified Chinese.To participate, you have to (1) be 18 or above, (2) self-identify as male, (3) self-identify as Chinese (including Hong Kong and Macau Chinese), Taiwanese, Chinese American, or Taiwanese American, (4) currently residing in the United States, (5) be open to have anal intercourse with a male partner.If you have any questions about this study, please feel free to contact me at liksamch@usc.edu (with the subject line “Values, Attitudes, and Practices”). This study is approved by the Institutional Review Board at the University of Southern California (Study ID: UP-15-00732).To begin the survey, simply click on this link: http://ift.tt/1soy23u
Confession - Grindr
Every so often when I'm bored (rarely) I'll make a Grindr profile with a main picture of this muscly, really hot guy. Of course the messages come left and right.When the messages start I always:1.) Compliment the lesser attractive guys and make them feel special.2.) Ignore the hot ones who message or tell them "not interested".It's a mix of creepy and sweet. Wouldn't you agree? :-P
What are the odds of this happening?
Hello r/Gay!So, I'm 16 and gay, i often hang out with an 8 people friend group, who are the only people that know I'm gay, and I love one of the boys, he kind of knows, but we've never talked about it, all other 7 know it, and it's SUPER obvious, since I often stare at him on the distance and he has noticed on some ocassions, but never said a word to stop this. Unlike the other boys in our friend group, he doesn't act the same way they do, and kind of reminds me of myself when I hadn't told anyone about being gay. I'm not saying I know for sure he is gay, and not going to ask him.Last week, i "casually" looked at him, and he was staring at me! I was blown away so I didn't know what to think and I stared at him too. We stared at each other for like 20 seconds and then wondered away.The day of my birthday, he was the ONLY onw who hugged me, not even girls, and honestly, best hug ever.I really love him, and, as I said, he kind of knows that, but I have never told him because I don't want to ruin aything. I have instead been waiting for him to do something else that makes me want to know he likes me back or something.Do you think this could work at all? If so, what do I do? I'm so new at this whole love thing (never had a GF,BF or kissed anyone, never loved anyone else) so all help appreciated. Thank you!
People who use the word "fun" and "play" to describe sex
Why do you guys do this? It's always been an automatic turn off if a guy tells me he wants "fun". It annoys me because seems as if they're trying to mitigate the idea of sex, turning it from erotic into childish. (And PERSONALLY I've never seen an attractive guy use this term, it's always socially awkward people online or Grindr like apps). Sex is sex, if you have to deflect what it is and aren't ready to accept those psychological boundaries, you shouldn't be having it.
Coming out to gay friends?
Okay so both of my best friends are gay. I only hang out with girls at school (I'm a gay male btw) and one of them came out last year and the other about half a year ago. I'm gay, I've known it since I was young, and I want to come out to them because they are both really supportive. The only problem is, my social anxious self thinks that if I come out to then they might think I'm faking being gay to fit in with them (which is totally not the case). Any ideas or tips about what to do now?
I just want to get laid as a gay 15 y/o. HELP ME PLEASE!
Hi everyone in Summer I came here with a topic which was different I sorted it out but now I need your precious help for a topic.I'm 15 years old gay(MtF trans in closet) guy. (Though I'm pretty feminine for a guy everybody guess that I'm gay) or I go the school with a driver with my twin brother. He is 35-40 years old and he is a little shorter than me etc but He's kinda sexy for my aesthetics. He's married and has a baby. He is our driver and I've argued with this guy few times because of the way that he drives etc. So we don't talk to each other. His father is my father's secretary and we have been knowing this guy for a long time. Anyways, I usually sit on the back seat of the car but once I had to sit in the front seat, I realised that he has got a HUGE bulge. It's not huge,I mean but It's kinda big and he wasn't even erected and he wasn't showing it off or sth he was driving in a normal position. Whatever, I want him to fuck me SOOO bad I masturbate every single day and I dream of him all the time!!!!(NOTHING romantic I have a crush but let's don't go there :) ) He realised that whenever I sit on the front seat of the car, I secretly take his pictures of this crotch (with a spy camera iPhone app, it looks like a web browser.) and he starts showing his dick off. He once implied the fact that I perv on him ( :) ) by saying "that guy (which was on the phone) has one day to pay his dept to me (my driver) and you have an hour too (our distance takes an hour) Today, when I was perving on him, he got his dick erected (obviously his underwear compressed it so It couldn't reveal the true potential) and showed it off, itched his balls, didn't try to prevent me from taking a pic or anything like that, he was chill. That leads me to think that maybe he wants sth or would experience etc.And I know that his wife wouldn't do anal sex and since she gave birth to a child her vagina may not be so pleasurable for the driver. Maybe their sex life isn't so colourful because they are devout people who wouldn't do oral or anal sex. (He's not though he told me crazy things once we weren't broken :) )Sooooo what should I do? Basically, I want to get my ass fucked by a guy which is married and our driver (obv straight) that I argued with. Note that I have a judgemental ass brother which is aware of everything and could tell if I acted different.I have a week to go because school is about to close and our driver may change next year.All I want is sex, at least an oral. I'd KILL to suck his cock :)Help this horny ass whore :)
Boyfriend seeking others attention
So I've (20) been seing this guy (19) for a bit more than 2 months but I'm starting to have second thoughts about him. The problem lies in how his personality almost completely changes when he goes out to party. He likes to dance a bit too close with random strangers and one night when he got particularly drunk he like made out with whoever was nearby. How do I approach him about this or should I just leave him? The fact that he seeks others attention so much is really hurting me. I'd love some advice from someone more experienced as this is my first relationship. Thank you for reading
No Relationship ~ Anyone Else Similar?
Hi guys! I am 29 and have not been in a relationship (or dated much) for about eight years. I have a good amount of sexual encounters which I feel turned on by. However, nothing more. I would be considered pretty nice looking. A solid 6.5 or 7 to most. Educated. Nice job. More details below.Is anyone else in the same boat??Some factors that play in to this...I tend to get bored easily by people who are too "scene" or too bland or in any way dramatic.The idea of sex and play with different guys really turns me on. I love the romanticized idea of being in a monogamous relationship, though, too. I just can't imagine not having the ability to play with other guys ever again. I would not want to be open. I would be very hurt if my partner played around on me.I do not want to be hurt by a guy ever again. I dated two guys long for a year each years and years ago. Each break up was terribly sad for me. I never want to feel that awful again. Part of me thinks my lack of dating is due to wanting to protect myself from this.I see so many relationships and marriages crumble. I often wonder what the point is if this is so often the trend.I'm insecure inside about myself. I often don't feel I'm worthy of a relationship. I sometimes don't think I'm all that lovable. I have anxieties like many people do. People have said things over the years to make me feel unimportant (I think I take things harder than most people....most could just brush things off). These feelings are probably ridiculous, but never the less, they are there.I'm getting close to 30 and to be truthful...I really don't want to be without a partner forever. I really do want a best friend and life partner. I'm very picky, though, which I think can be good and bad.Just interested to know if anyone feel similar to the way I do. I'd love any suggestions or thought! Thank you for spending the time to read. :)
What's the biggest issue in your life right now?
Just wanting to open the lines of communication about what's on people's minds right now. Maybe fellow redditors can offer some support or insight.
2016. május 29., vasárnap
Looking for gay friends
Im a 14 year old male and i want some gay friends to talk too. All my friends are either straight or female and i just want more gay friends to uhh gay it up with i guess? I my self am bi but i just love guys. Hit me up on kik, guitar_guy0808
Saying "Hi" when you're kissing someone
A little drunk and I'm not doing a My Drunk Gay Talk video this week since I'm on vacation... anywayDoes anyone else randomly say "Hi" while kissing a dude? Everytime I kiss this dude there gets to be a point where we just stop for a second and I'll look at his amazing eyes and just say "Hi." Then he says "hi" back we both laugh and then kiss again.This sequence just makes me feel so good. I guess it's just like a confirmation that it's just equally incredibly fun for both of us to be with each other. I don't know. Me is happy.Anyone else have cute shit like this that they do with each other?...Shit, man. I'm gonna miss him while I'm away.^ that's the gayest thing I've ever said
The Professional Athlete Who Came Out as a Gay Man—in 1989 | Where Are They Now? | Oprah Winfrey
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHkKK6hEVhc
Hemorrhoidectomy Surgery / Bottoming
Hey guys!Have you had a hemorrhoidectomy?? If so please read my below scenario and question. Please help if you can. :)About 2 months ago I had to have the Hemorrhoidectomy surgery. It went very well. The pain has totally gone away. I feel just fine. Basically feeling all back to normal.Last night I tried bottoming again for the first time in 2 months. Hurt like crazy!! Couldn't even get past getting the head in and had to stop. Then he just played with my ass for a while. That didn't feel bad at all.This morning I used the restroom and surprisingly had some blood and slight soreness. :-/ Has not happened again all day, but kinda made me nervous.I know no one here is a medical professionals but I wonder if anyone else has had this surgery in the past. If so.....how long did you wait before you bottomed again (if it applies to you)??Thanks for the feedback and advice!
What are some subtle hints/dead giveaways that someone is Gay
Don't give me any of your "stereotypes are bullshit" crap, how do you go about discerning whether or not someone is Gay. My gaydar seems functional, but applying it retroactively doesn't help. I have strong indications that people who don't fit stereotypes are gay, how do I get a better read on them without straight up asking if they like dudes?
Need advice regarding coming out to religious grandparents
Hello all let me first just thank you for taking time of your day to look over this post, this has been making me stressed for some time and I really need advice.I have came out about a year and a half ago and all my friends know and so does my mum. I'm currently living with my boyfriend who I have been seeing for just over a year now. I'm originally from Portugal and have been living in the UK for the last 12 years of my life.The problem I'm faced with is weather or not to tell my grandparents I'm gay. Here are some things to consider. My grandparents are jehovas witnesses or how ever u spell that. Their old and well stuck in their ways. They were the ones the brought me up for many years as my mum unfortunately didn't have the conditions for me to be with her until a later age. My grandparents are great people I love to bits and in many ways I see them as my parents. Usually I go back every year for holiday but it's now been some time .. 3 years to be exact since I have been and been getting quite homesick. On top of that there nothing more I would love to do than to take my boyfriend to my home country for a holiday and for him to get to meet my family over there. I really can't stress enough how religious my grandparents are and that follows for a big chunk of the family too.I think if I was to tell them they wouldn't accept me for a while but would eventually come round. Maybe not fully I think our relationship would deteriorate in some degree but I know they love me and probably that would be the outcome.But I think that the initial shock could be potentially disastrous and say one of them has a heart attack (baring in mind the extremely religious family, their age and health issues). And if that wasn't enough I also think that even if that didn't happen the stress and hassle I would put them throgh at that age between them and the rest of the family (this is hoping they eventually accept it). There's nothing I would of liked more than to tell them however I really do feel like it's not the right thing to do in this case. I would rather wait for them to pass however bad that sounds and then I won't care who finds out. I really couldn't have neither of heir deaths in my conscious or the fact of knowing I have placed a considerable amount of stress in their shoulders at that age with endless arguments and falling outs between them and the rest of the family.My boyfriend thinks I should tell them which is why I'm making this post in the hope that I will know more certainly if I am indeed doing the right thing. Also keep in mind yes I'm aware and I completely agree that if someone can't accept who you are they're not worth it. However this is not the case and there's a lot more at play here and that's what's scary :( I don't want to play with people's life's specially the ones who I see as my parents.
What music would have been popular during the Stonewall Riots?
I'm a drag queen working on a Stonewall mix, and I'm wondering what kind of music people would have listened to in a gay bar (Like the Stonewall Inn) in the late 60s.
Possibly Petty Partner
I've been with my partner for close to a decade, and in that time, things have worked well for me but he's not been so lucky. We've both made a lot of sacrifices, him more than me, which has left him with basically no career whatsoever. Currently we're out of our home country coz I'm studying. He's got a shitty job, I've got a kinda nice job, and I went out with my office buds for a drink yesterday and my partner blew a fuse coz he doesn't get to go out anywhere. He's got no friends, never has, while I've been lucky to always have great friends. So now I'm being made to feel guilty any time I socialise without him, which is about once a year, which isn't that often. Is he right? Should I not have a social life either coz he doesn't? Or is he a possibly petty partner?
am I wrong for feeling this way ?
Sorry if I sound like an ignorant asshole,but I'd like to speak my mind about thisI'm 19 and I'm semi out and would like to have a relation ship one day however i only like manly gay guys and I am seriously annoyed by the feminine gays who act very girly and have a " gay voice". I know that a lot of gay guys don't act like that and are just normal guys,but it seems like every gay gay that I know in my home town acts this way,and I honestly hate it because I really want to find some one who don't act really flamboyant.
Academic Survey for all who are interested!
Hello all! I am currently doing something called a Personal Interest Project called Lesbians, Gays and Stereotypes. I'm trying to explore the relationship between stereotypes and the lesbian/gay community and I would really appreciate it if you could help and respond to the survey :)http://ift.tt/1Z6AJRM thanks, Riebs
I hate im straight
Work out, care a lot about my looks, i'm just socialle awkward, have no social status and lack courage. I notice attention and compliments from guys, but nothing from girls, was disappointed with a few girls and the whole thing seems so insanely complicated. It'd be so easy if i was gay, so please appreciate it, my dear gay guys. I refuse to sex older women or pay for it, so i'll still have a long way to go unless you can convert me
2016. május 28., szombat
I need some advice.
I hope this is the place for some wisdom.My brother came out to me about a decade ago. At first, only my mom and I knew. Eventually he told my dad who was disappointed. He is pretty religious and more prominently, had an image of what his sons would become in life, with gay not being a part of it. So there was a sense of disappointment and internal struggle on my father's end.My brother and father love each other but it's put a serious strain on their relationship. I can see my dad trying but it's hard for him to reverse 60 years of thinking a certain way.My brother is at a point where he wants to propose to his boyfriend. My dad's side doesn't even know (theyre also pretty religious) he's gay and he's scared when they find out he's not only gay but also ENGAGED, it'll change everything. The great relationship he has with them.He reached out to me with phone calls and I don't know what to tell him other than be brave. I don't have gay friends to tell him "this was their experience". I feel like I can't help my brother overcome his fear, and I feel weak in not being able to.I need some advice on what to tell him.
I really don't know.
I've been thinking about this much more recently. I might be gay, I just don't know. I think the feelings come from me being more emotionally attracted/attached to men but more physically attracted to men. This is the first time I've ever typed this out, I really don't know. I know this post sounds short or maybe a bit arrogant but I'm struggling to put what I'm thinking into words. 19m.
Scared to shave legs
So I am a 14 year old male and my legs are hairy af and the hair is brown so it is really visible. I want to shave my legs, but I don't know what I'd say if my mom or dad noticed. What could I tell them if they noticed?
Someone came out to me, struggling to give correct advice.
So I cqme out to my entire school at once. Since then I have had quite a few people come out to me in private and I have handled it pretty well.However, today a guy contacted me to tell me hes been curious for about a year and was interested in trying out some things with a guy. That guy would have been me, but I moved 2 weeks ago (Damn! He was hot too..).So here he is asking me if I know any other gay guys for him to try things with. And my problem is I dont know any guys up to his league in my school that are out. The ones that are closeted to me want to keep it that way, and I dont want to play a dangerous game of cupid between two closet gays.What advice should I give him to explore his sexuality more? I want to help him but I dont want to get him outed or anything.Thanks!
Made out with someone of the same sex at a club for the first time?
So I made out with this person of the same sex as myself last night in a "straight" club, and I couldn't help but notice all the stares and pointing fingers. I don't really go to clubs that often and I've certainly never made out with anyone in public but I almost felt shameful that I was showing my gayness in public, even though there were straight people making out everyone.Just wondering if that's a normal feeling.
My Boyfriend is a sex machine. Help!
I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 months and there are still a lot of his sides that has not yet revealed by me. Last night I went out with him and his friend 'Leo', and Leo mentioned that my boyfriend used to have a friend with benefits and they have sex for straight 2 HOURS!as a gay man, i enjoy sex not as much as i enjoy porn. I like sex, but it really gets uncomfortable at some point (i bottom) and I really wish my partner could climax already. And now knowing that he is a horny sex machine that goes for hours and hours, it just made me panic and anxious that I wouldnt be able to make him happy.any suggestions? thoughts?
Late night tequila induced questions
K so set the record straight I had a couple3. So I'm gay, I got a loving boyfriend and all that yadda yadda. So is there actually a gay gene, kind a been questioning what made me, me like I know it's not a choice and stuff but like am I the result of a gay gene? Or am I combination of environmental factors with a genetic aspect to things. Also thank god for autocorrects otherwise this would be impossible to read.Drunk and questioning stuffs - halp pls :)!@!!
2016. május 27., péntek
Fart Fetish
Hey everyone, I know it's off putting for many but I've had a fart fetish for as long as I can remember. I love when cute guys fart around me and it's my dream for one to fart in my face. I was wondering if anyone else has the same kink. If so feel free to message me!
Please report for harassment
This user /u/Woodenhelicopter has been asking for nudes and harassing me for a relationship. He made a post earlier saying i was looking for some gay friends and people talk to with a ;) I myself am completely straight and do not appreciate this self proclaimed gay man to keep harassing me. please report his user to keep the toxicity down. Pictures will be provided of evidence.Pictures - http://ift.tt/1sgFeia
Old school (pre-internet) hookups and such
I'm super interested in reading about gay culture when there was no internet and very little sympathy for gays. Everything about this article is amazing, including the pictures of the hustlers in the 1960s waiting for their clients.Are there some good books about this? I read City of Night and loved it, but I want a 60s/70s version. I'd like to read about what was so gay about the YMCA that it inspired the Village People song. What it was like to live in San Francisco in the 70s. How would a newcomer to town learn how to meet guys? Etc.Any recommendations?
How to recalibrate my Gaydar©?
It keeps on setting off when I see hot straight guys. How to fix this error?
Hopeless Homoromantic?
I know this is probably a problem a good portion of you in this subreddit face, but sometimes it feels like I'm the only one. As someone who considers themselves to be pretty young (only in college), I find it really hard to find someone who wants to get into a serious relationship. I tried a dating site (OkCupid) but I was a little disappointed in the fact that the vast majority of individuals there were at least 10 or more years older than me. I'm not really interested into looking for just a casual hook-up so that's why I never tried clubs or apps such as tinder or grindr. Is this something that I should probably wait a few more years to try again when people want to settle down? Or is there a better place to be looking?TL;DR what's a good place to look for serious relationships in college?
Honest Questions on Homosexuality
I have been questioning my sexuality over the past few years. Even though I can't say definitively that I am gay; I don't consider myself straight in the usual sense of the word. That is beside the point though. When I started questioning myself it made me really stop and think about homosexuality and how it pertains to humans. While I do not think that it is a choice, I am highly skeptical that it is entirely biological in nature. I have also come to wonder if it might be a defect. If only because those people would not be likely to pass their genes on and continue their genetic legacy. Additionally, that fact that any health risks related to sexual encounters are much higher with same-sex than opposite sex. Although I do not believe that being gay is a conscious choice people make, I do wonder if it is subconscious choice that is out of a person's control. I should also clarify that I grew up a protestant Christian, so some of these queries could be coming from my upbringing. I'm a bit of an over thinker, but I can't imagine I'm the only one who has ever had these questions. If anyone has any input, personal experience, scientific knowledge, etc. please share it with me. I am genuinely curious and only ever seem to find perspectives from Christian doctors and scientists, and I cannot trust those to be unbiased. Thanks for reading. Cheers.
Is there something wrong with me ?/ What am i doing wrong.
so i will start off with some basic information. im 24 and im from the uk.i came out when i was 19, most people reacted with surprise but accepted it. in the last 5 years i have only had 2 relationships both did not last long due to 1 being married (which i did not know) lasted 2/3 months but i ended it when i found out he was married. and the other one was extremely clingy and just didn't trust me from what i gather of him following me around. that one lasted 4 months. so now i am 24 and i haven't had a relationship in a few years i have been actively looking for a relationship for the last few years as well, i use 3 different dating apps and only being interested in long-term relationships norrows that down a bit, i also go out around once or twice a month, i would class myself as being average looking, because i talk to alot of guys and they are only intrested in nsa/one nighters. is there something wrong with me wanting an actual relationship ?if anyone has any questions just ask. any help would be great.sorry for the rambling
msg me?
i want people to message me. i'm lonely and it would be nice to have someone to chat with. plz PM me if interested.
First gay/bisexual "date"? Help!
So I'm recently becoming more comfortable and embracing my own bisexuality. Yes, it's a good thing because for a long time I thought what I was into was wrong and I had to hide it. I still am hiding it, but not because I'm ashamed but because I think everyone's sexuality is their own business.Anyway, I'm a 27 m and I am very attracted to a 25 m in my MBA class. I am always checking him out and I have a sense that he is at least bisexual if not gay. My reasons for thinking this are 1- he drinks angry orchards, 2- "all his friends are teachers" 3- he's always impeccably groomed, 4- slightly effeminate posture, body type, handwriting, and speech, 5- doesn't know/like anything about sports. I realize these reasons are entirely superficial and probably a little offensive, but, again, I am brand new to this game and these are things I've noticed.I'm hoping my intuition does not blow up in my face tomorrow night when we are going to meet for drinks for the first time outside of class.My question is: how do I approach this so as not to make him feel really uncomfortable if it turns out he is straight? How will I know if he is into it and how should I try to steer the conversation? I am very attracted to him and he's very nice, but we also have five more classes together over the next year, so I don't want things to be uncomfortable.Please help!!
How can I advance this relationship in a cute way?
Alright, so I've got a bit of an interesting situation here. Basically I've met this guy who's been very sweet to me over the past 5 months, and recently there has been a kind of push from his side to get just a little closer, while at the same time a sort of uneasiness or apprehensiveness (If I had to describe the feelings I pick up on). When I see him, especially recently, there is usually a lot of cuddling, and the likes, but it hardly goes farther from that.Basically what I'm trying to get at here is I am pretty interested in furthering what we have into closer relationship territory, and I know the best way I can do that is just talk with him, but I'd like to try and segue into that conversation somehow, preferably during our period of cuddles and etc.However it sounds, I'm basically interested in ways to, in a kind of cute way, drop some hints that I'm interested in progressing, without dropping the ball too hard. Possibly in a way that leads to conversation and further discussion.
Am I gay or just lonely? How to find a guy?
I've always had bad luck in relationships, but after being cheated on by a girl whom I was best friends with for 8 years, I just sort of gave up. I've only dated women but I watch all kinds of porn and have definitely been interested in the past with trying something. I don't know where to look for a casual hookup other than Craigslist, and I kind of don't want anything to do with people from Craigslist. My family will be out of town in a few days and I want to find someone who won't try to kill me with an axe or something to hang out with and see where things go, but I don't know how to go about it. Are gay guys as chill about hookups as straight guys? Any advice will help.
2016. május 26., csütörtök
So I'm doing a presentation tomorrow
So to give you some context, I'm 17m in high school and for our final project before exams my teacher told the class to "make a presentation on something we give a damn about, something that leaves a mark on your classmates before you graduate".Sooo in my infinite wisdom I decided to do a presentation on my experience on coming out :)!(My school and family already knows I'm gay and they're really supportive about it!)Not really any point to all this just thought I'd share you with you guys. Honestly being able to do a presentation about the experience of coming out really makes me feel like there is hope that one day being gay won't be looked at as a taboo :).Thanks for reading if you made it this far hehe.
Convinced I have the best gaydar on the planet...
So, throughout high school there were about 8 guys who I had crushes on throughout it. I was very picky and did not get attracted to anyone easily. (I don't know why...) I've also always been a psychology nerd, so I always could sense the mannerisms and unintended body language.Now... 6 of them are openly gay and 2 DL. Keep in mind, they were all "straight" in high school, most had girlfriends, and we're on sports teams like football and lacrosse... Yet, deep down, I just always knew they were gay, in ways that I hope that I will be able to fully articulate in the future!My high school had about 2,000 kids at a time, and lots of people moving in and out. There is absolutely no way I could have this much accuracy with my gaydar and it be a coincidence. Even now in college, I can tell when a guy I meet is gay within minutes of talking to him (sadly, it doesn't stop some of them from being hoes lol).Any similar experiences or people with super gaydars? Anyone else feel like they have this ability?(Please no sensitive ppl in the comments saying I know they're gay from stereotypes, I repeat, these guys are VERY deceptive at first look. If there is anyone who loves the gay community it's ME)
What am I?
Tbh I'm am very confused about my sexuality.At certain points I feel attracted to men, but when I think about doing anything it kinda turns me off. While with women I feel like I really want to start a family and have children eventually, but just thinking about doing anything doesn't feel right either.My girlfriend broke up with me and said it was due to stress in her life, but I have a feeling it was because of me since I never did do anything for 8 monthes because I was and probably will always be scared and nervous. I did not even give a kiss.I'm also not old enough to really do anything yet since I still am in high school. However, I do mainly prefer gay porn, yet I can totally get off on straight porn too.Most the time I feel more of a emotional/personality based attraction rather than sexual attraction with people that I know.
If a girl tells me I am cute and handsome but knows I am gay, does that mean that they actually think I am attractive?
I sometimes see that unattractive gay men and women can still flirt.
Turning Lovers into Friends
Do you have advice on how to create a group of gayfriends? My current groups of friends are relatively homophobic, or unpleasant towards gays to say the least. It would be awesome to have a group of friends who share the same feelings. However all attempts to befriend gays in my surroundings (including the friend of a friend of my room mate) all end up with sexual tension, or, if I show I'm not interested in that, desinterest in continuing the conversation. Do you have advice on how to tackle this?
I've been told by a psychoanalyst that homosexuality is a choice
Today I went to a psychoanalyst, It is not the first one I went to, but this one has been recommended to me by a medical center.I explained my problems and how I’m struggle with being gay, how it affects me everydays etc. she asked me questions about my family and specifically if my brothers have made heterosexual choices, I said they didn’t choose but yea they are. latter on she came back with that telling me that I don’t accept my choice, so I said again I didn’t choose, same way i didn’t choose to be brown hair or left handed, she said yes indeed these are not choices but being homosexual is an unconscious choice I asked her couples of times to explain what she meant or maybe if she had a different meaning of the word, I was thinking maybe in psychoanalysis the word choice have a specific meaning, but it seems that it is not the case.it hurts me that it comes from someone who is supposed to help me, and I’ve the feeling that she doesn’t know what she is talking about. what do you guys think about that ? is she crazy ? or is it me ?
I'm so confused.
I'm in my late 20's, am 'officially' straight and have been dating and sleeping with girls for my whole life (I'm in a relationship with one now). I do consider myself primarily straight, but I have also slept with men over the past 10 years. I think maybe 6 or 7 in total, but they weren't anything spectacular, mainly because of my own nervousness or it just hurting too much (I'm a bottom).Most of the time when I fantasise about sex, it's about men with monster cocks having their way with me. For this reason, I've mostly slept with black guys (when I've actually gone through with it and met up with them and not chickened out). The thing is though, when I'm masturbating to these fantasises, as soon as I come, I'm disgusted with myself and the gay part of my brain just totally shuts off. During the day, when I see guys out on the street, I'm not attracted to any of them. I've never seen a guy and thought 'He's cute, I would love to sleep with him'. All I'm interested in are their cocks - I don't even like kissing guys. Also, when I'm with a guy, I generally feel uncomfortable and can't stop thinking about whether I'm making a mistake. It just doesn't feel right..Just today I was supposed to meet up with someone, but thinking about it got me so horny that I jerked off and then ended up cancelling the meeting because of how I felt after. I'd say I'm annoyed with myself for doing it, but I'm not. As soon as I came, I was instantly thinking about cancelling and was telling myself 'Good thing you jerked off because you didn't really want to go through with it, you were just really horny.'I'm so confused. Do I only want to have sex with guys when I'm really horny? Am I bi, or what? My solution to thinking about guys recently is to just jerk off and get rid of the feeling, but it always comes back.Has anyone else experienced/is experiencing something like this? I'd really appreciate some advice.
why are women more accepting towards gays than guys?
someone plz explain. it peaked my curiosity for some reason.
Venting my idiocy (?)
So I went on a trip to my future college to see what it was like. It was in a different state than where I lived. My parents were busy so I had to fly by myself. Our family friends took care of me and I told them what hotel I was staying at. They immediately told me that wasn't happening because the hotel was not safe so I switched hotels (the first hotel was unrefundable ouch). At the new hotel, they offer a complimentary shuttle to and from the university which was great because I needed to be at the univ the next day. So fast forward after my tour I get in the shuttle and there was this really nice driver. He talked about how he was actually a student at the college. And we talked and found stuff in common (i.e. military brats). We hit it off and really made a connection. We got to the hotel and I got off and said thanks nice to meet you bla bla. That night, after my family friends brought me back from dinner he was working the front desk and asked me where I went to eat. I told him "oh just ate with friends of my family." He then asked me to go out to lunch with him so he could show me a good place to eat. I used the excuse that I was leaving pretty early and I couldn't. He persisted and asked me to an early brunch. I smiled and said "oh it's ok" and walked off to my room. An hour later I realized that he might have been asking me out and I just rudely blew him off. I seriously that he was just being super hospitable like the idiot I am. Like I'm confused if he knew I was gay cause I usually pass off as straight but I'm a little feminine. Maybe I'm just overreacting?? I might end up seeing him next year and I'd be so embarrassed if I do cause he's going to be a senior. Ugh
2016. május 25., szerda
Question, how do you wake up and feel like your another sexuality?
Im asking this because a lot of gay guests on....Political talk shows I listen, I wont name any. One said he used to have sex with a lot of women but then became gay. So how do you just wake up one day and say "You know, i dont like women anymore". I am not Homophobic, I dont care what you do in the privacy of your own home, and I simply dont care enough to say you cant get married. So do you care to explain?
random question
ive seen a lot of "gay" guys say theyre homos but watch lesbian porn whats up with that
Very selfconsious.
Hey r/gay/ what do you guys think of a little long curly hair? I have short but to my forehead black curly hair its exactly like Jesse Eisenberg's hair. Would you guys date other men with that type of hair?
2016. május 24., kedd
Why not say it here
I've known I'm gay since basically freshman year of highschool. Due to my apathetic nature though I found it to bothersome to even worry about dating or anything related to it. Because of this I didn't really think about my orientation until now, the end of my senior year about to graduate. As college comes closer I started to think of making a fresh start by coming out. I want to tell my parents and I'm positive that they'll be cool about it but I still have that irrational fear when I just about set my nerves. I put it off saying I'll wait until the mod shifts closer to the topic such as my dad trading me about getting a girlfriend. I have all these scenarios in my head but I just can't act on them. I know I should do it when I feel ready but I want to tell them. This it's just my rambling to the internet at large, I've read a lot of other posts asking these same lines but it still feels good to have it out there.
Wanting a Relationship
So I haven't been in a relationship since I was 15-16 and I'm really getting to the point where I envy people in relationships. I'm 21, I have a job, and I go to school. Should I wait for love to find me? What are some tips of getting out and starting a relationship?
First Date Tomorrow, Help!
Today a guy sent me a email, asking me to go with him to this banquet at my school. I don't know the guy well, but were both in the GSA (gay club) at my school. This is my FIRST Date. What the hell should I do?TL;DR: First date ever with a guy a barely know. HELP!
am I being shallow?
talking to this guy for 4 months and i like him but he has loose/saggy skin & bumps and it's kind of a turn off idk what to do. other than that I would date him. advice???
my now friend/bestfriend/idk what he is anymore 's mum hates me because i spammed her phone when blocked me cause i was about to kill myself.
yeah so me and my friend were talking then he just stopped and blocked me and said he couldnt hang out the next day. btw me and this guy could/ could of be/been a thing one day (;) ;)) and yeah so now his mum hates me and i just want to die.help (i'm a guy btw if i couldnt tell)
I'm dating my best friend
Throwaway because reasons. It's 2 am where I am and I just feel like sharing my story. I would like to apologize ahead of time for the length of this story. A little back story first. I have known I was gay since I was about 13 or 14. I never had any real friends, as I had ADHD and was always picked on. There were a bunch of boys that I had crushes on, but alas I was too afraid to do anything about it.Come high school I decided to start telling a couple people that I liked hoping that they'd like me back, but unfortunately they were all straight. Fortunately they kept my secret as promised. My family and everybody else think I'm straight, as I had 3 girlfriends (they only lasted about a month each and I broke up with them because I didn't like the commitment). At the point that I was with them I thought I was bisexual. They funny thing is the first girl I ever dated became a lesbian, and the second girl became a bisexual. The third and last just became a bitch, but that’s farther into the story.Fast forward to senior year. I was big into engineering and was always in the shop. Because of that I was close to the Engineering teachers and one of them did stage crew. That teacher, Mr. C, asked for my help with making some props. I complied. I brought some of the stuff when I finished to the theater and that's when I first laid eyes on him. Let’s call him J. I didn't know his name, nor did I know anything about him, but he was cute as hell.I asked Mr. C if I could get a ticket to see the show and he gave me one for free since I helped. Now Fast Forward to the show. I watched the play and watched him closely. He kept smiling and I smiled back at him in the dark pretending he was smiling at me.After the show I searched the playbill and found out who he was. I searched him on Facebook and added him. It turned out he was a freshman, like my sister at the time, and he was BIIIIIGGGG into theater and acting. On top of that his voice was very feminine, and his antics just screamed gay. I thought he was the one. He added me the next day and I messaged him.“Hey” “Hey” “You guys were good last night” “Thanks” “I haven’t been to a musical since my cousin graduated high school years ago. I think they did Grease” “Oh well thanks for coming out and supporting us we really appreciate seeing everyone out there” “Do you know my sister, [redacted]?” “Yeah” “Do you have any classes with here[sic] this year?” “No” “Oh” “Yeah she probably has all honors and sadly I only have two” “Actually the funny thing is, i scared her because i have all ap and honors, and i said that we move fast, so she dropped all her honors classes” "I have to get in the shower because i have work at two. What's ur #? (No homo)” “867-5309” [obviously not gonna include his number here.]I texted him a few times and we kinda hit it off as friends. I tried not to annoy him, and was even going to not text him for a day or two, but he texted me first. He is the only human being o ever text me first with the exception of family and people who need things (and wrong numbers.) We kept talking and becoming more open with each other. Then it happened. As I started to feel light-chested I told him the truth about me. I told him I was (at the time) bisexual. He said that was cool. No, we aren’t even close to being done this story. We became closer friends. He was friends with a couple girls and I kept pestering asking him who his best friend was, and he wouldn’t give me a straight answer because he didn’t want to choose. So being funny I asked him who his best guy friend was and he said me! Senior year went on and Prom was coming up. My aunt told me about a girl she works with who is about my age. She told me she showed her pictures of me and said she wanted to meet me. So my aunt invited her over to a party and we started talking. My family kinda edged me into asking her to prom. I did, and she said yes, and asked me to hers as well. We started talking and then I asked her out, to give the girlfriend thing a try again. Things weren’t the way I wanted, as there seemed to be too much obligation. She wanted to keep texting me, and I was playing video games or talking to J, and didn’t feel like texting her.Her prom came first, and we sat at a table with her friends. There was one kid at the table, B, who was 15 or 16 and was openly Gay. I didn’t say much to him directly, but after the night was over I asked for his number and this other girl they were friends with, but really so I could get B’s number. Up to this point I have talked to J every day since I first contacted him, I was losing interest in future bitch, and was seeing potential with B. I texted B that night and told him my secret. He was so happy to find somebody else who liked guys. We talked for a little. Fast forward to my Prom. Nothing special happened, but a couple of days later I got a text from future bitch and she said somebody told her about B and me. It happened to be the other girl since she knew already about me and AB she was supposed to be our “Protector”. So present bitch broke up with me (I swear she just used this as an excuse because she then tried getting with my cousins). I then broke it off with B. The only person I was talking to was J. J knew everything that happened, too.Now for some more info about J. He was very self-conscious of what others thought of him and he didn’t like when people thought he was gay. He has anxiety as well. I always tried getting him to send me pics of himself shirtless, but he never felt comfortable. I went on my senior trip and on the day we were at universal I got a snap from J while I was in line for the Harry Potter Castle Ride. It was a picture of J in a bathing suit next to his pool. I almost cried tears of joy. Still to this point we have been talking everyday.A month later comes my birthday. It was the eve of my birthday and J was talking about going to slep soon (this was just before midnight). At midnight he sent me a snap of himself shirtless and said Happy Birthday! I sent a reaction pic and said OMG I thought you were uncomfortable. He told me he was, but not to me anymore. He kept commenting on how he liked my smile. We literally became he bestest of friends at that point. He was still straight as far as I knew, but he was beginning to play flirt with me to satisfy me (a great friend am I right?).I then have a conversation with him telling him that I loved him as a friend. Like a brother. I told him love didn’t need to be sexual. I loved him like family. From that point on I got him telling me he Loved me as a friend and it was awesome. We have been friends for about 5 months at this point. Unfortunately we haven’t been able to hangout at all because my Mom was giving me shit for talking to him because he seemed gay and was in my sister’s grade, and he’s 3 years younger. J’s parents were giving him problems because of the age as well.So, the only time we got to see each other was in school. I met him in the hallway after school a few times and he allowed me to hug him. But after I graduated things sucked cause we couldn’t see each other.I started college the following year, which was a 20 minute drive so I just commuted from home. I live practically across the street from my high school, so I would stop by from time to time to say hi to my engineering teachers. One day J and I made a plan to meet outside of school and drive to get lunch at Panera and then drop him off at home. The plan went off without a hitch. After Panera we had some time so we stopped at target to walk around. I wanted to hug J but the only private place we could do that would be in the bathroom. The problem was, J had a fear of going into bathrooms. I tried convincing him before to meet me in the school bathrooms so we could talk and stuff, but he could never do it. I told J I had to go to the bathroom so he waited outside. I told him afterwards that I wanted to hug, but he refused to go in. I begged him and tried easing his fear and finally got him to step in for like a 10 second hug. He thanked me for helping him with his fear. I dropped him off and hugged him in my car quickly. I told him I loved him and drove off. We talked on the phone instead of texting from time to time after my classes were over. Around that time J started dating this girl A (it was his first girlfriend) I encouraged him through the relationship because if there is anything that I love most in this world, it’s making J happy. Our 1 year friendaversary eventually passed, and again we have literally talked every day since we became friends. I finished my first year at college and all was good. Then one night J told me that A broke up with him. He was upset, and I was there for him. I told him “Psh, who needs girls anyway. I bet I could be a better boyfriend to you then she was a girlfriend.” I asked him just for one night for us to date. Just so I knew what it was like to date him. He said sure. I couldn’t believe he said yes. I asked instead of just one night we could do a week and he said he didn’t know. And that was it. A day became weeks, and weeks became months. He told me he secretly started to like me, and now I am dating my best friend. That happened over a year ago. We have been dating for over a year, have been friends for two years, and still talk every day. We have so much in common, never fight, and never get angry at each other. Its almost perfect except our parents and he’s afraid of how everybody at school will react.I keep trying to convince him it will be okay if we come out together, but he wants to wait another year until he graduates. I love him so much, but there is so much hate in this world that we can’t be truly happy yet.It is now 3:15 in the morning, and I have to be up in 5 hours for work. Any suggestions please feel free to comment below. I apologize once again for how long this is. Its almost 2,000 words.
2016. május 23., hétfő
Am I gay? Bi? Something else?
How you doin folks? I got a bit of a problem. I don't know how to say this other than blunt so pardon if it isnt PC. First off, I'm a cis male. Growing up I've had no sexual attraction to anyone. Started hanging out with my now then girlfriend. I would say about two months ago now she came out trans. She wants to be a boy now. I have no problem with this. I still love who I love. "What does that make me?" It's not about what gender she is (call her "she" still out of habit, shes cool with this.) Its that I love her. I get nothing from other people, like at all. So whats up?
Family drifting apart Advice needed
Hey there friends,Let me begin with a bit of back story to the situation we're in at the moment...So my brother came out to me 6 years ago during a skype conversation and came out to the rest of our family only 2 years ago.My parents come from a religious upbringing although are pretty open minded and accepting. I too am from a religious upbringing as is my brother but in my teens disgarded any religious allegiance and became agnostic, as did my brother. In the years prior to coming out, my brother started spending less and less time at home and had actually moved in with his partner in a different county (hence the skype call) with out any of us being aware that was what he was doing.We've had our fair share of hurdles to overcome since as a family although I imagine nothing compared to what my brother had to go through growing up, or indeed, coming out to us . The one i'm facing now is that not all of my extended family know that my brother's gay and a few weeks ago my brother got an invitation to our younger cousins birthday and my mother was afraid to ask if my brother could bring his partner too (as all other members of my family who participate in couples were asked to do.) as she is also employed as a childminder by them to mind my cousins whom she loves dearly. My brothers response to this was to state that we as a family cannot deal with him being gay and has cut off contact with all of us since.I read somewhere a while ago that when a family member comes out, the rest of the family are also tasked with a form of coming out to their friends, colleagues or in this case extended family members whereby they tell whoever it may be that they have a gay family member. This i believe is where my brother and our family are having growing pains so to speakNow, I love my brother and want him and his partner to be in our lives as much as possible as we all do. I told my friends with no issue however my parents seem to want to "protect" my brother and probably themselves a bit too from any potential negative/homophobic remarks made in response to the news that my brother is gay. Which i can kind of understand, taking into consideration the time they come from. My brother then views this "protection" and an inability to accept him. which i also get when trying to view things from his perspective.I truly believe my parents aren't trying to be intentionally hurtful to my brother but rather that perhaps both parties are neglecting to recognize there's a learning curve that comes with having a newly "out" son and both parties are giving up on the learning part too quickly.I have absolutely no idea how to resolve the conflict and need advice or perhaps to gain a new perspective on thingsAny help greatly appreciated, Thank Youtl;dr Brother and family not communicating anymore. Brother thinks we cant accept him as gay. Parents claim to be trying to protect him which obviously isn't working. Need help to bring them back together as both want each other in their lives. Just still trying to figure out how to make it work. Thanks.
Am I a bad person?
Backstory: There was this guy I had a crush on. We did everything together from going to dinner and hanging out to even working the same shifts (I got a job at my job). Fast forward a year. He told me he was upset because no one was ever gonna find him attractive, or wanna date him. I told him that I did and let all my feelings out all over the place (and it's not really easy for me to open up) and told him that I wanted to date him. His response; "Oh, I know." Three days later he started dating my best friend.So now they recently got engaged but I'm not happy for them at all. My best friend could do so much better. My ex crush is a liar and cheater. There are times when I get on Grindr, he's always on there and they've broken up more times than they've been together. I know my friend is angry with me because I didn't congratulate them. Am I wrong for not being happy for them?
22 years old, and really curious, but very nervous. Help?
So, as stated in my title, I'd really like to try sex with another man. I've identified as straight most of my life, but the past few years I've sort of declined to identify (just because I don't feel comfortable being labeled). When I was 13 I had my first homosexual experience with my best friend at the time, which was very exciting, but it made me feel really bad about myself and really dirty (in the bad way, like I had to take 2 or 3 showers to feel better).Anyways, skip to today. I just ended a 2 and a half year relationship with a girl I was very much in love with, and we've talked many times about my sexuality and how it would be good for me to explore it, and I'd really like to explore it more, but there are a few hangups.I am VERY turned on by the idea of servicing another man and letting him use my body for pleasure, but as soon as that thought turns into actually wanting to try, I begin to panic. My throat gets dry, I lose my erection, my heart beats out of my chest, and I find it difficult to breathe. Obviously not the sexiest situation.I'm worried that having a full-fledged gay experience will ruin straight sex for me.I'm worried that I'll hate it so much that I'll be emotionally scarred by it (my experience when I was 13 messed me up emotionally for the rest of high school).I've watched a lot of gay porn, and I'm turned on by gay porn, but as soon as I finish, I'm a lot less into it, as opposed to when I watch straight porn. I'm really at my wits end and I'd love to try it, but does anybody know any ways at all of getting me to calm down?Also, how might someone like me go about finding someone I can be comfortable enough to try this with?
Recently stopped being friends with my ex.
We stayed really good friends after we broke up, but last night we had a fight because my ex lied to me for a month and wouldn't give me a straight answer about getting back together only to find that they have been dating someone else that whole time.This is after I cleaned their super messy apartment during their depression, went to the ER with them in the middle of the night and looked after their dog for days.I was the one that said that I didn't want to talk to them anymore and it didn't seem to bother them.But I miss my ex and I can't help but wonder if I've made a mistake.
First kinda gay experience went horribly wrong - I want to overcome this
I am a 17 y/o male and I have no clue of what my sexuality is at the minute, I kinda think i'm bi. However I have a friend at college who I really like, I think he's incredibly attractive and I kinda just fell for him. He doesn't know how I feel about him at all and I couldn't tell him. I'm pretty sure he thinks i'm straight. We always talk and we're really close friends. We have a streak on Snapchat of something like 124 days. We talk on social media a lot and we've always been kinda flirty. I always take it personally even though I know that he's only messing about. Yesterday we started talking about our dicks and the size of them and stuff.. Then we started sending 'body pictures' to each other on Snapchat. He told me that he doesn't really find the male body very attractive but he liked the fact I am slightly toned. Anyway later that evening I sent him a Snapchat saying 'Send nudes' as a joke and he told me to go first so I just started sending him pictures of me hard but slightly covered under the duvet. This is when he replied with the same kind of pictures. We were both sending pictures to each other slowly revealing more and more each time but then he asked if he could see my dick. So I sent him a picture of it and he sent one back. I was so overwhelmed at the time.. We started talking on just the chat and he said that he got himself off to the picture of my dick and that he came a lot, I did the same. We were talking about how it was weird that we were both attracted to each other's dicks and that we should try giving each other handjobs and blowjobs.. Shortly after this we both went to sleep.. I woke up the following morning and I sent him another picture of my dick to which he replied with a similar image of himself rock hard. Moving on, after we had been to college today we were talking and I had sent him another three 'dick pics' that he got off to. However after he came this time he told me that it felt really wrong and that he regretted doing it. It finally ended up with him telling me that we should stop what we're doing because it's weird. I'm kinda devastated but at the same time I would never have thought that he would have sent me pictures of his dick as I didn't think he would be that way inclined.TL;DR Me and a really close, attractive friend started sending dick pictures to each other, after he had got himself off to the pictures he told me that he felt wrong and that he regretted it. I don't really know how to overcome this any advice would be appreciated!
Thought I [22/M] was gay, had first sexual encounter last night, now rethinking my sexuality
Up until last night, I was a 22 (almost 23) year old virgin. The farthest I went last night was oral sex, so whether I'm still a virgin or not--who knows. Not only that, but up until last night, I had never kissed another person on the lips, made out with anyone, felt someone up, etc. So this is all new for me. The reason I waited so long is two-fold. First, I was raised in a very strict, Christian, conservative household. It was drilled in my head that sex is exclusively for married couples. My parents also made me worry a lot about unintended pregnancy and STDs. Second, since I was 14 (when I went through puberty), I secretly thought I was gay. Because of my religious upbringing, I always thought this was a sin. Setting that aside, I never wanted to deal with the stigmatization in secular life. So I always stayed in the closet, and paralyzed by fear in many ways, my sex life was non-existent.Up until last night. BTW, this experience was with a 29 year old man.Being 22 (almost 23), the whole virginity thing was literally starting to drive me crazy. My friends kept bragging about all the sex they were getting. Not only was I a virgin, but I went through mental torture and extreme bouts of guilt about my sexuality. Moreover, being a virgin at this age has been a huge confidence crusher. Last night, I couldn't take it anymore. I went on Grindr, and a guy messaged me. In his pictures, he was exactly "my type." He was very muscular and jock-like. I was horny, and said I would meet him, and that we could give each other hand jobs. The reason I drew the line there is because I just wanted to know whether or not I actually liked guys. I figured this would be enough for me to tell without having to worry about contracting STDs.I've wanted to experience this for a while, but I'm still surprised that I actually went through with this. Anyway, his family owns a barber shop about 30 minutes from my house. We met there, and did the deed there. I was awkward and nervous, and he was probably experienced. We pulled our pants down, sat on a couch, and jerked each other off. We spat on our hands to use as a lubricant. He asked me if I wanted to make out with him. I hesitantly agreed. We kissed with a little tongue for just several seconds. (I couldn't stand it--I'll get to that later.) My curiosity getting the best of me, I asked him if he would like to blow me. He did for a little bit. I never blew him. Finally, he came. He hadn't ejaculated for a week, so there was a lot of semen all over my hand. He resumed jerking me off, and eventually I came. So that's pretty much what happened. BTW, before I met up with him, I asked him if he had STDs, and he said no. Being a virgin, obviously I did not either. I asked him if he usually tops or bottoms, and he said tops. I asked him if he was into eating semen, and he said no. (That's why I didn't cum in his mouth.)So that was the experience itself. On the drive home, I was totally elated. Ironically, not because the sex was good, but because precisely the opposite. I hated it and everything about it. The way his dick looked and felt was gross to me. Kissing him just felt weird. I didn't put my face near his dick because I didn't want to smell or taste it. The blow job itself felt like a massage, but I felt like I would enjoy it much more from a girl. But it was by no means the mind-blowing experience I had always hyped it up to be in my head. And his hand job felt so lame. Honestly, masturbating was way more satisfying than that. And the longer he kept going, the more I could feel my erection dissipating. While he ejaculated within several minutes of my hand job, it literally took me a solid half hour--and I had to try. And here's the kicker--I felt like he could keep blowing and jerking me for hours and I wouldn't cum. In fact, I would've been perfectly content leaving without an orgasm. But I started to feel badly, so to make him feel better, I said, "Sorry for taking so long. You're doing fine." He seemed kind of embarrassed. Oops!The experience wasn't bad because he was bad. He was the type of guy I always masturbated to. He was very fit, muscular, and had a great body. I couldn't understand why I couldn't cum when this dream guy was blowing me and jerking me off. I was feeling up his muscles and everything. Still nothing. So finally, I figured, maybe I was attracted to the allure of something that I always thought was forbidden? And now that it was actually right in front of me, the excitement just wasn't there at all. It was sort of like the Wizard of Oz. Everyone made such a big deal about him until they pulled back the curtain (in this case, the underwear) and saw it for what it actually was. Interestingly, the most erotic part for me was feeling up his package as it got harder through his underwear. But then once I saw his dick, I was grossed out. It didn't get any better from there. So how did I finally cum? Since this guy wasn't doing it for me, I figured I should imagine the alternative. I closed my eyes and thought of my friend's ex-girlfriend who I always thought, "If I were straight, I would like her." I imagined her naked and that I was doing the deed with her. Lo and behold, I finally came.So I was thrilled on the way home because 1.) I finally had a sexual experience, and 2.) I finally knew what it was like to be with a guy. I experienced enough that night to realize I definitely did not want to give or receive anal sex. And I was thrilled because it totally made me rethink my sexuality. Now, I really want to date a girl because I feel like I have a whole new appreciation for them. I can't wait to have an experience with a girl, and I already feel like it's gonna be good.If you have any thoughts on THAT whole part of the story, please feel free to comment. I know that was a lot. As a side note, before age 14, I always had crushes on girls. I hoped my attraction to guys was just a phase. Now I think it was just me being sexually inexperienced, repressed, and wanting something I thought I could never have.Now here's what I'm not feeling so great about. STDs. He said he didn't have any, but honestly, who really knows. He's a guy who goes on Grindr, and he's older than me. This wasn't his first rodeo. I did some research, and based on what I learned, it seems like herpes is the main concern. Despite all my reading, I honestly don't get it. Apparently nearly all of us have oral herpes--it just never shows symptoms. But you can contract genital herpes (which is lifelong and incurable) from getting a blow job with someone who has oral herpes? I don't recall him having any cold sores. But apparently you can contract it even when the virus is dormant about 1-10% of the time. I also read that you can contract it via oral sex even if you wear a condom. Since nearly all of us have oral herpes (heck, I could even have it without knowing it), doesn't that put almost everyone at a risk for contracting herpes via oral sex? Why doesn't that make genital herpes a virtually inevitable STD for all of us? And hardly anyone uses condoms for oral sex. So I just am a little confused by that. And there's herpes type 1 and type 2-- but there is a genital version of each type? Huh? Based on what I did (hand job, briefly received blow job, brief kissing), what would you say my risk is now? I just think it would really stink if I ended up with genital herpes based on a single encounter of oral sex that was totally unsatisfying. I plan to get tested for peace of mind. When do you think I should get tested, and where should I go? My general doctor's office? Am I being too concerned or not concerned enough?While I wish I hadn't done this (to avoid the STD headache), I felt like it was kind of necessary. If I had never had this sort of experience, I would've probably gone my whole life driving myself crazy about whether or not I liked guys. Now I really don't think I'm gay, and I think I'll know for sure when I have an experience with a woman. After this encounter, women oddly seem more attractive to me all of a sudden. It's hard to explain. I feel like I know how satisfactory sex is supposed to go now (for me, no judgement if you're actually gay). As a relatively smart guy, I feel like I can be stunningly naive in these kinds of ways. But I already feel a huge confidence boost from having had a sexual encounter, and I'm feeling confident enough to keep it going with women.Next time I get with a girl, I'm definitely going to make sure we both get tested before we have oral sex or anything more. And I'm also going to try to meet a local girl personally, instead of through Tinder or something like that. But let's say the girl had oral herpes--does that mean I should never have oral sex with her? Even with a condom, I could still theoretically contract genital herpes form that. Just wondering for the future, especially since oral herpes is so ubiquitous.Thank you so much for reading all this. Any advice or insight you can provide on anything I wrote in here would be greatly appreciated! :)
Need advice
I need some advice with my boyfriend. I want to know if I made the right choice or not. A little bit of my boyfriend. He is mid twenties, he has BPD (borderline personality disorder. He takes med for his anxiety and BPD. He even see a psychiatrist twice a month. I have found out that he likes to talk to other guy on Craigslist, I have looked through his phone and I've notice he has been talk to only two guys who are super Dom, and he is sub towards. I've ask him why he talks to them. When he know that he has a great amazing boyfriend who treat him well and give him everything he needs. He doesn't know why he does, but he said that he is going to his therapist to help me solve this matter and to see a solution out of this. I can understand where is he coming from. I've been able to pin point some stuff in his past that make me do this. He said that it's not a fantasy or a desire, he can't actually do it to himself. Or actually do it in person. I've even ask to perform some of things he talks about, but he said he can't cause he doesn't want to be hurt or hurt me. He likes to get off by what he reads or send. Just two weeks ago. I gave him the open door to let him talk to this guys almost like an open relationship to him but not for me. I only did instead of him doing behind my back. I've done a lot of reading on BPD and i understand a lot of his disorder. This past week he has been talk to them alot only when I am not around him. Did I make the right choice or not, or how do I confront this matter or how do I help him with this matter. Please help with any advice or solution. I am desperate for an answer.
Am I weird for not liking sex?
I'm a 19 year old male. Been out and gay since about 13 years old. I've never had a serious relationship and I Only do oral with a guy. Ive tried doing more and I cant. I'd say I'm decent enough looking. Never had any trouble there. My question is, is it weird that sex turns me off? Like thinking of just sticking my dick in someone's ass or vice versa is totally off-putting for me. I'm completely okay with eating ass though. I've been scared to date because I'm scared whoever im with will think I'm weird or something.
Revived gaybros chat! [repost]
150+-man strong now!I've received many PMs and realised that the link keeeeeeps changing. So you may not access the group.As of now, this is the link: http://ift.tt/1OJh0l9 me a PM if it doesn't work for you.
A new web series that's inspired by 30 ROCK meets SCOTT PILGRIM but gay!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?list=PLbZ2h95aLdP8gdTrS1AAy9lsN--S1U1yc&v=bIgaVi5wPxQ
Had a wonderful time yesterday
Since moving to Virginia not long ago, I've spoken to/hung out with a couple of guys (last time I moved to a new place, same thing happened, and then tapered off after a while. I figure it's the new blood and whatnot). One guy in particular has been different from the rest-so far we've hung out twice. The first time, we had dinner at a new place and we spoke for probably 3 hours. Had a lot in common. Then he said he wanted to see me again-typically when I've heard that it never happens. But we kept chatting, and we agreed to hang out again this weekend. We grabbed lunch and spent probably 5 hours together. And it was fun, we had great conversation, and at the end, when he dropped me off home, we hugged for quite a while, then kissed (and he's a damn good kisser), and he told me that he thought I was very kind and that he had a wonderful time.Oh, and he's a Marine. So bonus points.Just wanted to share that since I've been grinning like an idiot since.
What do you find attractive in guys?
lol idk what i find attractive in guys but i wanna know what you find attractive fellow redditors. plz comment if you want.
My friend told me, that a group of guys are teasing me.
So like a month ago, I made a post about this kid who was showing signs that he may be gay and interested, well I was gonna get him alone and ask him, but I told one of my friends what I was gonna do, and she stopped me and said the boys are teasing me, and wants me to make a move to "expose" me. Which I really don't get cause i'm pretty much out to most the school, and if you ask me nicely, i'll tell you. Which what she's saying make a lot of sense, its just this one guy, its multiple group of kids, doing stuff like Readjusting themselfs, pulling there pants up, smiling at me, bending over infront of me and stuff like that. It started about an month ago, and most of these guys dislike, its been like this since elementary, dont really remember why we just dont like each other. Like this year, one of them slapped me cause another guy payed him, and I joked to one of my friends i'll kick his ass later, and someone heard it and they tried to get us to fight. We didn't, the principal found out and I got suspended, nothing happend to them. But back to the teasing thing, i'm fine with it, these guys are hot and if they want to show their bludges and asses, then it fine with me. But it is pretty mean of them, if they was doing this to someone not comfortable with themselves, it could get ugly. Also, my friend told me that the original guy, I have the crush on, actually does like me, she wouldn't tell me how she know, but she recommended I met up with him after school away from the other guys
Afraid of dating 18yo, Im 29,
Looking for advise here, I'm 29, had a LTR for 5 years with someone a year older than me, he broked up two months ago and I saw myself mega lonely on hornet just chatting and started to date two weeks ago an 18 college bi guy, and I'm in a moment of my life where I might get a job after PhD is over overseas or in another state and im really devastated and nauseous with the word (boyfriend ot life partner), im going as slow as possible but there are times I just want to kiss him all day long... He has never been in a relationship and seems mature for his own age, Do you relate? Any advise? Thanks
More fetish than love
I've realized that with some of the guys I've dated I've been treated more of a fetish then an actual person. Eg they didn't want to go out unless I was 'dressed up' , has anyone else experienced this?
2016. május 22., vasárnap
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Gay indicators
Hey guys, so I'm recently out and now that I'm able to talk to my friends about all this, the subject of what indicates a gay guy has come up. There are the obvious ones like makeup, dyed hair, and certain vocal tones. I have argued that eyebrows could also be an indicator, since gay guys are more likely to get them waxed or trimmed. Do you guys agree with me? Is it a valid indicator, and if not, what else could we be looking for?
How can I be a resource to my son?
A little background on the situation. Father of two sons and one daughter. For my two oldest children who are straight I'v had the talk with them and everything been fine. My youngest son who is 15 came out and told me he plans to be sexually active. I want to be a resource should I need to answer any questions he may have about practicing safe sex. The thing is I don't know what that looks like in a gay relationship. I'm not sure what I would say if he were to ask me specific questions.
My Drunk Gay Talk Episode 2 featuring Corn is out now! I got way too drunk last night and didn't make much sense though. Enjoy!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2hFaQ3UNcY&feature=youtu.be
What are the best gay movies you have watched?
I think I like Weekend the best. Also Freier Fall and the Way He Looks, but Weekend is on top. What about you?
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Did telling your family help your Social Anxiety?
I'm a socially anxious person and have been as long as I can remember.I've come out to some and not others.At work it's a struggle - it's easy to tell some people at work (women), but harder to tell others (usually straight, mature men).Did you find that when you told your parents, your social anxiety dissipated?This, of course, is on the assumption that you are socially anxious.
Am I overreacting or is it worth talking to my boyfriend about?
I'm in a confused situation about my current relationship with my boyfriend. First and foremost I want to say my boyfriend brings the best out of me and he's been amazing throughout our time together. But as with all relationships, nothing is always perfect which brings me to my dilemma. My boyfriend and I are still in the closet about our bisexuality (side note: him and I don't really believe in labels. We believe we just follow our heart and it led us together. But for reddit purpose I'll say bisexual) . He is more in the closet than me for my family and close friends know about who I am but he hasn't told any family and friends. The main problem I have is when he's with his friends and they talk about getting "bad bitches" or pussy he goes along with it. My boyfriend has told me he will never cheat on me and I trust in my heart he won't. But the thing about his friends, am I being too sensitive about the topic or should I tell him how I feel and set up boundaries? I don't want to force him to come out because it's not my place to tell him when he's ready. It should be on his own accord. My other concerns is what if he's with his friends and they all agree to do something and peer pressure my boyfriend to do it. I just need some advice
How my heart got crushed and rose from the ashes.
I'm a dude who just started dating guys about 9 months ago and the last time I was with a girl was 7 years ago.Well, tonight my heart got crushed. Right. In. Front. Of. Me.I met a guy -- let's name him Jeff-- last week through a mutual friend when we were at a bar. We had a good chat that time. I ran into him again this afternoon because I play sports with our mutual friend. And today was the day I decided to learn the moment of truth.After a few minutes of chatting today, I asked him, "Hey man you're really cute, and I was wondering if you'd be down to hang sometime. No pressure though." He said he was not interested, so we ended up having a friendly conversation and went on to talk to other people, and then went home to our separate ways.Well, tonight I went out with the same group of friends to a gay club. Jeff was there too. Moments later, He was making out with a dude that's somewhat similar to me but only skinnier (I'm buff). I was 2 feet away from this guy that I've been head-over-heels for the last 2 weeks and he was making out with a guy that's similar to me. It crushed my heart.Every moment I saw them made out, I felt the pain in my heart. No, it wasn't just a simple rejection. It was seeing the person chosen was no different to me. That should've been me. Did I not play my cards right? Had I asked him when he was drunk tonight than when he was sober in the afternoon, would have it been different?Should I hit on other guys, so that the thought of Jeff would not bother me tonight? -- No. I must not. It wouldn't be fair for the guy and for me. I must face this inner pain head on. I will not look away, and I will learn to feel the pain from within. I will acknowledge it. I will live with it at that moment. As each minute passed by, it felt like a hammer was crushing my heart.After an hour or two, the hammer that was hitting my heart was slowly losing its force. I could still feel it hit my heart, but it wasn't as painful anymore. I became chattier now with other people whether strangers or friends, and started dancing more too. The thought of Jeff was no longer bothering me as much.The night wrapped up with Jeff leaving with his guy. I saw them walked out. I smiled. Not because I was happy for them, but because I was proud of me.I started walking towards my car smiling for I've learned something about myself tonight:I consciously chose to not hit on other guys to forget someone. I would just be lying to the guy and to myself.I learned how to feel heartache and not suppress it. My therapist from when I started coming out told me that it is not bad to feel anger, sadness, and other negative emotions. I believe heartache is in the same category. And I survived it.I'm proud of myself. I'm still new to the game, and now I know what I can be capable of for next time.
2016. május 21., szombat
Have you ever loved someone so much it hurts?
I'm currently there now. I'm am so in love with this person and when we argue/fight it's like the end of times. My heart sinks. It just sucks.
Straight Friend Dating Girl, Could be Gay..
I have a friend, let's call him Jeff, who I have a feeling may be in the closet. We are both in high school, I am out, and we are very good friends and hang out a lot with a few others in our friend group.So, before I became friends with him, people very frequently speculated that he could be gay. He fits a lot of stereotypes, all of his friends are/have been girls or LGBT guys. His mannerisms are fairly effeminate, and often times people within minutes of meeting him assume he is gay. He gets touchy with me in subtle ways, hugging me and holding it for a little too long (to the point where other people have mentioned it to me), and just generally talking/touching me in "jokingly" ways that most high school guys would not joke with their gay friends. Similarly, sometimes he is over-the-top disgusted talking about homosexuality, yet other times he doesn't care as much and will even ask me questions about it, which makes me think he is working really hard to convince people he's not gay. Often times when he talks about girls it feels off and not natural. However, it does get a little more complicated.This year, he got involved with another one of my friends, let's call her Sandra. Toward the beginning of their relationship, she was very concerned with him being gay and talked to me about it. Now, their relationship has picked up and they frequently have sex. Knowing this, people still think he's gay. talking with him about it is sometimes weird. I remember one time in particular he was acting really defensive for no reason, making sure to tell me he initiates the sex most of the time, as if he needed to convince me.The problem for me is that I want him to be comfortable being who he is if that is gay, and most signs point to yes. It's hard to articulate how overwhelmingly literally every person with the exception of his girlfriend think he is gay, and even she has had concerns. I hate to be one to act on stereotypes but I feel with knowing him very well personally that he is most likely gay. I see him react to things in the way closet-me might have. I feel like this is harder than just letting him know I support him & he can talk to me, because it would hurt Sandra to even suggest my thoughts or for him to suggest he might not be 100% straight, and worse, she would be incredibly hurt if he ever came out. This whole situation stresses me out because I want him to know he can confide in me, but if he is in the closet, he is verryyyyy deep in there, even though everyone assumes he is gay.TL:DR, friend everyone assumes is gay dating another friend (female), and I don't know how to offer support
Anyone else making LGBTQ comics?
I have a weekly webcomic where the main characters are a bisexual woman and a transgender lesbian woman: http://ift.tt/1TuxG4i I'm curious to see the work of other creators.
I legitimately want to insert my erect penis into other men's willing, lubricated anus
I legitimately want to insert my erect penis into other men's willing, lubricated anus, and then relax while they read me a selection from the venerable Dr. Seuss catalog and I drink copious amounts of grape Gatorade. With their beautiful sphincter muscles squeezing my now flaccid member, I slowly begin to urinate as they moans in ecstasy, feeling the warm stream inject into their bowels, like a Taco Bell binge in reverse. As their tummy begins to rumble from the all-natural enema, I slide out of that sweet balloon knot, and they move to place their backside directly over my face, and begins to push out slowly. I open my mouth and take in the essence of both of us while we high five. They climb off me and we lay there in bliss and order Papa Johns while sipping my sodi pop.
Relationship with some one younger
I'm 61 years old and met a guy of 34. He is lovely, charming and an interesting person. But I'm wondering if such difference of age shall be too much. In my opinion younger people at the end always leaves you. I don't know if this thought comes because of my former relationship which was not a nice one. Would like to revenge your comments with interest I had 3 relationships always with younger boys, mostly 15 years younger than. Myself. And after 5 years they finished.
2016. május 20., péntek
Anyone's unsupportive parents come around?
So I've been out for around 5 years now (I'm 19) and my parents still hold a great deal of contempt for my "lifestyle". They're Baptists. My mom thinks that all male homosexuals are miserable, promiscuous, drug-abusing pedophiles. Seriously.It eats away at me. I try not to dwell on it, but that's hard to do. Every time I talk to someone about it, they always say the same thing: "They will come around."I'm sorry, but I just can't see it happening...I guess I'd just like to hear from people who's parents used to be the way mine are now, but eventually came around and accepted them. It'd be nice to hear how long it took, whether it was gradual or sudden, etc. Not limited to gay males of course.
Is it me or is Monogamy dead?
Mainly it's probably because I live in the south and it's a smaller town. I just find it funny that everyone is stuck in this whole hookup thing and I'm all like um I'd like a boyfriend that would be nice. Honestly idk if I seen a gay couple at all in my town hmmm. I guess I need some light shed on this situation.
[23M] I want to out myself after lying to myself and others for years, but I'm scared
Hey,Well, my situation is a bit different than most people. I live in West-Europe and being gay is quite accepted here. But the thing is: I've been raised by my mother, my father is bisexual too.My mother didn't know my father was bisexual (I've never met him myself), but he cheated on her with a man (during a time being gay wasn't really socially accepted). After that, he did a lot of bad things (even went to prison) and he constantly switched having a relationship with both men and women. My mother hates him now.I've also had very close contact with some very religious people during my youth (yes, that still exists in Europe) who were very homophobic. They're quite good people, but completely brainwashed. Because of the story of my father and because of these constant anti-gay comments I've had to hear, I've been homophobic myself.When I became older, I realised I like guys, but it took me years to accept it. I'm 100% pro-LGBT rights and I always accept LGBT people, but inside of me there's still a voice telling me I'm not normal, even though I realise that's not rational.I'm done living a lie and want to out myself, starting with my mother. I know she'll accept me, but she will be hugely disappointed. I'm really scared to tell her, but I'll feel like a disappointment to her because of her experience with my father. I'm sure she hopes I'm not like him... Has anyone here ever been in a similar situation?Another problem I have is that I don't know whether to out myself as gay or bisexual. I'm fully sure I'm bisexual (I've been in love with a girl before), but only very few girls interest me: I think about 90% of the people I find attractive are boys and only 10% are girls. Are there other bisexuals here in this situation who outed themselves as gay?I don't want my family to have wrong expectations: I don't want them to hope I'll get into a relationship with a girl as that's really unlikely. If I tell people I'm bisexual, they'll most likely think it's 50/50 and I really don't want to try to explain to them I'm more into men than women.And I'm so scared to lose friends...Does anyone here have been in a a similar situation?
Starting a Queer radio show. Join me?
Hello, I'm Chloe. I'm a 33 year old pansexual woman who also just happens to be transgender. I'm trying to start a non profit radio show for queer people. (although for now it doesn't officially have that status until i can afford to do all the paperwork and stuff) I'm wanting to make it an international show for both america but with a focus on other nations too, giving them community in places where it may be dangerous to do so, taking advantage of SW radios radical christian missionary organizations pass out to places they visit. I feel we can offer information on asulumn, give a relatively safe form of community (radio listening can't be tracked), a requiem from the stress of being in such a situation, digital communications in the form of one way text and image transmissions, and of course include our own first world culture, fighting back against bigoted politics and radio stations by claiming our place on the airwaves. Radio is a powerful medium because it can not be tracked, filtered, or blocked. Once the signal starts as they say in the movie "Serinity" "you can't stop the signal" please have a look at my indiegogo. The transmitter cost for our first month is $200 dollars ($50 per show) american for a one hour show every week. With time we may get better rates even. I need at least a month worth of funding before I'll start this. I CAN make this happen, and I can make this a quality show. Here is the link to the indiegogo http://ift.tt/20gbMDy
Am I a twink?!?
Hey guys! I'm insanely curious about what tribe I fit into. I mostly get that I'm a twink, but there are some who say otherwise. What do you guys think? Here's a picture of me and I'd love to hear your feedback 😄 http://ift.tt/1W6L5D0
Sucking Dick?
Ok so this has been a mystery to me for the longest time. Across multiple porn sites there are videos of guys blowing hot guys with big dicks constantly. I'm aware that porn is not realistic. Even the "amateur" sites. However, I still want to know how a guy can get between the legs of that many guys. I'm not in the closet at all so I just want to know how I can make it more clear that I'm down to suck dick? Lol. Do I just start asking.TL;DR: I have a bit of an oral fixation and I want to suck dick more frequently. So do I just ask the guys that I want or is there a secret method that I don't know about lol.
Anyone know who this is?
I was watching a youtube video and this guy came up. Not only did I want to share, but I was wondering if anyone knows who he is. For science of course.
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