Turning Lovers into Friends

Do you have advice on how to create a group of gayfriends? My current groups of friends are relatively homophobic, or unpleasant towards gays to say the least. It would be awesome to have a group of friends who share the same feelings. However all attempts to befriend gays in my surroundings (including the friend of a friend of my room mate) all end up with sexual tension, or, if I show I'm not interested in that, desinterest in continuing the conversation. Do you have advice on how to tackle this?