2015. október 31., szombat
I hooked up with a straight friend, and I feel really weird about it. Kinda need to talk it out.
So, the other night I went to a work happy hour. I'm out at work, and the only gay guy on the team. I work in finance, which seems to have less out gay men than, oh, let's say Theater. The finance world can be very homophobic and frat-y/bro-y (not in the good way). However, everyone at my office is super supportive and I've never felt like it's been a "thing" that there's a gay guy on our floor. In fact, I've prided myself on the number of times people have said to me that I've shown them that gay men are "just like everyone else."Anyway, this happy hour was a goodbye for myself and a few other people who are leaving the project, though we're staying within the same company. One of the guys who came was someone that I worked closely with. Let's call him Jim. Jim is straight, and I find him very attractive. i mean, the kind of attractive where even seeing his hand click his mouse made me shiver. I made a concerted effort to be professional around him, and to never treat him differently or flirt/hit on him. He's mentioned a couple times how he feels comfortable around me and impressed with my work. This actually means a lot, not because I think he's hot, but because I can tell he hangs around people who probably WOULD have a problem with me. He's one of those fraty guys who would probably be homophobic if this was 10 years earlier. However, we've developed a friendship and I was perfectly comfortable to just be friends.Back to the happy hour the other night. So Jim and a bunch of other people are at the bar when I get there. We all just sit around talking, not really drinking much. Eventually, someone says we should play drinking games. We start playing some drinking games, and people start getting smashed pretty quickly. Jim was one of them. He kinda has a reputation for drinking a ton and going crazy. At other happy hours I've been to with him, I usually find out the next day that he doesn't remember anything that happened. I've even seen him get turned down by the bartender for being too drunk. I was also one of the people who got drunk quickly. For whatever reason, whenever I get drunk, I have to talk about being gay. Someone told me that I introduced myself to someone that night by simply saying "I'm gay." This is totally uncharacteristic of "sober me," and it bothers me that I do this when drunk. Again, I don't want to be known as the "gay coworker" because I feel like just a normal person who just happens to be attracted to men.At some point, Jim says he's stepping out for a cigarette and invites me. I go out with him and we smoke. We're both extremely drunk at this point, and this is where my own memory starts to get fuzzy. I remember asking him if I could kiss him. Then I remember us getting a cab, and him saying "this is new to me." In the cab, I remember assuring him that I wouldn't tell anyone what we're doing. Then I remember ending up at my place and him naked in my bed. I remember blowing him for a while and asking if he liked it. He was soooo drunk that all he could do was murmur and nod yes. Next thing I remember was taking a picture with my phone, him telling me to delete it because "that's messed up", and me deleting it.I woke up naked in the morning and he was sleeping on the floor, clothed. I cannot even tell you how horrified I felt at that moment. It was the worst feeling. Not because I was hungover (though I was), but because I instantly regretted what had happened. I felt sick. And guilty. And sorry. I put some clothes on, rushed to bathroom and tried to figure out what to do while quickly showering. When i went back into the room and turned on the light, he woke up. All he said was "This is bad." I couldn't tell if he meant it's bad because he didn't know where he was, or because of what had happened. I apologized and started handing him his stuff. As he got ready to leave, he said, "All I wanted to do was go to a happy hour." I told him he ended up at my place because he lost his apartment keys (which was true, that's how we ended up at my place and not his). I walked him to the door. Before he left, he looked at me and smiled as if to say goodbye, and shook my hand while he half chuckled. Then he left.I've been miserable since. I feel so guilty. First off, I feel like Jim did something he probably would've wanted to consider soberly. I know if I was sober I wouldn't have asked him to kiss me, or taken him to my place, or taken a picture. I remember not pressuring him, so it's not like I forced him, but still. So I'm worried that he feels terrible about what happened. To him, he's probably ok with gay people, so long as he's not being labeled one himself (this may sound messed up to someone of, but really, it's babysteps with some people). He's my friend, and I would never do anything to cause a friend pain/anguish. What if he's worried about people at work finding out? I don't remember how discrete we were when we left. Apparently a coworker saw us leave together and drunkenly yelled "He's not gay, m073!" People talk. It makes me feel even more sick just thinking about it.Also, what if he hates me now? I've been expecting an email or something from him, screaming at me. I feel tense and in danger mode, in anticipation for some kind of contact from him. A thousand things are running through my mind as I try to mitigate the damage. Who could've seen us leave? How much does Jim remember of what happened? Should I try to contact him?I'm wondering if he doesn't remember any of it. Like I said, he's told us on several occasions that he's done crazy things while drunk that he doesn't remember the next day. It's possible he doesn't remember any of it. But what if other people do remember us leaving and they mention it to him? What if that sparks his memory? And even if he does remember, is that something that matters? What if he tells people? What if my boss finds out? Luckily, I'm off the project, so I won't ever see him or anyone else at the happy hour again unless I try to. Even if the whole office found out, is that a bad thing? I think it is, but I don't know.Really, communication is the solution here. Speculation is what is torturing me. For all I know, he remembers everything and is totally fine with it. The thing is, I don't want to talk to him about it, for risk of reminding him. I guess I'd rather assume he doesn't remember and just hope this all goes away. But that just traps me inside my own mind, free to imagine increasingly worse situations.There's something else that worries me. Sex has always had serious negative emotional baggage for me. I was brought up in a severely religious and conservative home. I was VERY in the closet, and even felt asexual. For me, sex felt so dangerous, even to think about, that I was in complete denial about my sexuality. Miraculously, I somehow overcame the brainwashing and left my upbringing. Yet even after coming out of the closet, sex still seemed overwhelming and frightening. For a long time, I wasn't even able to get hard with guys, I was in such a bad head space. It hasn't been until recently that I've overcome my negative emotions surrounding sex. Now when I see a guy, I don't feel guilt or fear, just unbridled desire (in an appropriate way), which is a big deal for me. Hooking up isn't terrifying anymore because I don't have to worry about "how I'll perform" or half a million other things. Now my body naturally responds to my attraction and it all feels so natural. I've finally reached a place where I can explore my sexuality in a healthy and fulfilling way. But not since hooking up with Jim. Now, I feel severely guilty when I see a guy. I instantly assume he's straight and I feel guilt. Go ahead and laugh, but Grindr was actually something good for me because it allowed me to explore my sexuality and be honest/proud with myself of being attracted to men. But now I can't even open the app, I feel so guilty about sex. I don't want to have undone all the hard work I've put in to getting to healthy place with sex. I was just starting to enjoy my sexuality, but now it seems undone.This is probably doesn't make sense, or even seem like a big deal. No one may read this, and I'll probably end up deleting this soon. Now I'm paranoid that somehow Jim or someone at the happy hour will find out about this post. I just feel very bad about the whole thing, and I feel like sex is now a bad thing again. I just wish the whole thing hadn't happened, and I don't really know what to do.
Welcome to South Carolina!
The husband and I are in Greenville, SC, tonight: don't ask. I expected some culture shock, but wow did the staff at Hilton not let us down. The kid behind the desk reviewed our reservation of a corner king suite several times. He finally suggested we might be more comfortable in a double. I assured him that I know how to make a reservation. Then, he figured it out. He was so discombobulated that he asked me how many keys I needed three times.The kid works in hospitality. Has he really never seen our kind before?
Question about something I find sexy (nsfw)
Have you ever woke up horny and played with your boyfriend butt and or penis?
15 M very confused and I don't feel like I'll ever know
My confusion is very different, because I have one critical element: a porn and masturbation addiction. No, I don't fap every two seconds, and no, I don't watch fucked up shit. But I can't quit and i know it's affecting my view on life and motivation. I'm trying very hard to quit, but it's really hard because porn is my drug. I recommend all of you check out /r/nofap or /r/pornfree (don't mean to advertise, I really really mean it). Some people call it cultish and get the wrong idea about us, because they never thought porn or masturbatiom could be addictive. We're really on it to, like every other addict, self improve and get rid of a dependency. Anyways, I'll go to my point now.Guys are hot, especially muscled and bearish types. I've loved this body type since I was a kid and used to look at them as if they were something special. I've done the same to certain pretty girls though. The thing is, I've never had a gay crush, while I've had a straight crush. To this date, that has been my only crush, my brain is so used to these hairy pixelated men having sex that I don't think it thinks people are what I'm looking for. This is another reason why I'm trying to quit.These men give me boners. They are eye candy to me. But I've never had a chance to build a close relationship with any guys. Partly because I'm shy, but also because I share no interests. I get along better with women. I said I had a girl crush earlier, I found her cute and really liked her personality. I never got hard to her or any straight porn though. The moment I first saw porn I was looking at the penis. It's just confusing. It's like so far, with guys I feel like I could have a relationship (I don't know if I woild ever do anal yet, but i guess we'll see if I ever get a gay crush. All I know is, I would top, lol) but it hasn't happened. With girls, I feel like I could be a relationship (but because society I feel pushed to try and feel sexual towards them, but it ain't happening as of now.)EDIT: I put the two above paragraphs because I'm not sure if porn has screwed with my sexuality because of conditioning. It's why a lot of perfectly straight guys get into trans porn.Do you have any idea? All Thats certain from this whole thing is that when I'm older I will strive to get that sexy muscle bear body! ;)
2015. október 30., péntek
Friends think I'm getting to old to not have a serious relationship yet. I'm 25.
My friends think that I'm approaching that age where I should have had a relationship by now. I'm 25. I've had summer flings but that's about it. I never really thought about it. I am perfectly comfortable not being in a relationship at the moment. But their comments got me thinking....am I really missing out? I just don't think I want to commit to anything. I feel like I've got a lot more living to do. What do you guys think?
Gay Couples
If there are gay couples calling each other *bæ" would it be going to far for them to be callin each other gæ?
Slightly weird story at school
So, in my school, the teachers think they're super modern, so they do all those new curiculums, and they do those 'Visual, Auditory or Kinaesthetic' learner things. So me and this guy I had a crush on were chatting about the thing, and he got Kinaesthetic Learner. It said 'Likes to touch people as they speak to them' on the 'personality' thing, so he grabbed my wrist when he talked, as a joke. Really nice. He has no idea about my crush on him, and it was really nice to get to grab him and make physical contact and pretend it was a joke. Best. Day. Ever.
French singer sing about homosexuality and people's acceptance. "I have the right as well". English lyrics in comment.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOJKGtqNJJI
Quick Update
Ok so this is an update to my previous post on here, this So me and the guy met up again naturally, but this time we wanted to have sex. So we drove to this parking garage parked and began. But we picked probably the worst spot to park, it was right by the exit for the garage with at the very least 50-60 cars leaving as we were "doing our business." But on the bright side i got him to cum on my chest while i was topping. So i guess the excitement helped. Also as a sidenote, if youre going to be getting busy in your car, make sure you have at least semi-tinted windows. :)
2015. október 29., csütörtök
Old and New Language; Sexuality and Labels
I'm tired of all the threads basically giving the situation: Help! I've always been attracted to girls but I've [insert non-heteronormative situation here] what should I do?". I notice these people tend to freak out mostly on the thought of possibly changing labels. Society likes to use 'gay' and 'straight' as both exclusive terms, (meaning you can only be one at a time) and comprehensive terms (meaning if you are gay or straight that comprises your entire sexuality). It's really ridiculous and has to be stopped so I'm here to propose a new form of thinking - from old to new. The old language, basically what we have now, is just language we got through happenstance because the majority needed a way to quickly label the minority as other. This is where gay (originally homosexual) came from and straight is just the opposite of that - the so called norm. The old language was formed mostly unconsciously. The new language is simply a way to use words that are scientifically accurate instead of using divisive historical words that primarily served a negative cultural agenda. New language will obviously be formed consciously. Why do we need new language? A lot of the problem comes with identifying with exclusive terms. Say it is true that everyone is at least a little bi. If someone identifies as straight, they will take it to mean “I am exclusively attracted to members of the opposite sex”. 97% of their life say that will be the case, but when the time comes that they are attracted to a member of the same sex what will be their reaction? They identify as straight therefore they will either deny the experience (probably using a Freudian defense mechanism) or simply call into question their identity which is a confusing and frustrating experience. Both reactions are examples of unnecessary suffering that would have been avoided if they were not using the old language to identify in the first place. Fortunately we already have new language to describe human sexuality: Androphilia, Gynephilia, Ambiphilia or sexual attraction to masculinity, femininity, both. These words describe sexuality without identifying the individual therefore a man or a woman can be androphilic and not feel as though they are being automatically codified or judged. It is a way to describe sexuality without demarcating the person. Similarly since these words describe sexuality to masculine or feminine characteristics, the object of attraction does not necessarily have to belong to one side of the gender/sex divide. Therefore you can be gynephilic and attracted to a woman or transwoman. Similarly you can be gynephilic and attracted to a man so long as they have feminine features. Needless to say, these terms are not exclusive. Now I'm not suggesting these words are all we need. They are just a new addition to our diction. In fact people have already combined new and old. As time goes on we will continue to refine language to be more accurate and less divisive or at least that is my hope. Thoughts?
Help coming out to bigoted friends?
So, i go to byui (byu schools are owned and operated by the mormon church) and i recently realised my sexual preferences and am wondering how should come out to 2 of my closest friends. Their my roommates and I think they should know. They don't have many gay friends and they make a lot of rude gay jokes, and I just have no idea on the best way to just tell them I'm gay. They're not typical Mormons, but just don't know how they will take it. Help?
Looking to get back in touch with someone - should I?
Long story short, I hooked up with someone through grindr. It was nice but I was nervous. He assumed we would hook up again until he got my cue that I wanted this to be a one time thing. I was pretty nervous at the time and didn't really think to myself about if I wanted to do this again. Fast foward few months later, I want to hook up with him again.While I don't know anything about the guy, he gave me his address and I was able to find his phone number through it through google. I want to text him and ask, but I'm too scared.First off, I'll probably come across as a creep if I suddenly message him and know his name and number.Second, if I do text him, is the only info the guy can get from me my phone number? I'm in a small town and would rather have him not know my name (I'm a HS student) and such if it appeared on my caller ID.
Question Regarding Grindr
So basically I was talking to a guy in Grindr. We were getting along and having a casual conversation (surprisingly). All of sudden the chat disappears and it seems to have deleted itself. I also can't find the guy I was talking to in the menu. Is this a glitch or something? I doubt he blocked me or something since we were getting along.
I think I'm bisexual, need to chat with someone.
So, my whole life I've been attracted to girls and boobs. Never have I been attracted or can I see myself dating a guy. But whenever I'm horny, I'm super into cock, fantasize about sucking one, kissing one and being dominated by a gay man. I'm a Virgin, never kissed a girl. Whenever I cum I'm immediately disinterested in men or cock. I keep on doubting I'm bisexual. I would love to talk to some people about this. Thanks!
(HELP) Feeling attracted for a guy for the first time
(sorry for the TL;DR thing, but I need some help here)I’m a 27 y-o Brazilian guy, living in São Paulo city, and I’ve identified as straight my whole life. I’ve had the same girlfriend since I was 20, but she’s broken up with me in the first week of October. It was very unexpected and harsh and I got really heartbroken after that.My best friend is gay and we share an apartment for a couple of years now. He’s the kind of guy that thinks the best way to go over sadness is to get drunk and dance, so he took me to a gay bar on the day after my girlfriend broke up with me. He got me really wasted before, and I hooked up with this random guy there.Here’s the thing: I’ve never felt attracted to a guy before, and had never experimented anything with guys ‘till now. But I’ve been talking to this guy a lot now and we’ve hang out together a couple of times, and he’s a really nice dude. And I am very attracted to him. We’ve been kissing and making out a lot too lol So you can assume it’s been kinda freaking me out!I still feel very attracted to girls – really, I’ve checked. I’ve looked around at the gym, or work and the streets, and girls still get my attention while guys do nothing for me. I can honestly say when a guy is good looking, of course, but none of them gives me a boner or makes me think like “Huh I’d like to get to know this one”. Only the guy I met at the bar.So I’m freaking out because I still feel bad about my girlfriend and miss her a lot of the time, but I can’t stop myself from feeling sappy when the guy texts me and feel turned on when we are together – and dude has a dick! I’ve never even touched a guy’s dick, but I can feel he has boner when we hug sometimes and it is kind of a turn on booster to me. I don’t want my friend or my ex to know about this. At least not yet, because I don’t even know what it means.I’ve been writing diaries (I do this since I was a kid – I’ll upload them to a blog) to help me think straight (he, pun not intended), but it’s not helping much. So what do you guys say? Am I gay? Am I bi? Wouldn’t I already know for a while if I was able to feel attracted to guys before?I’m not sure what to think anymore x.x
What to do?
Short story:With the start of the college year new students entered my fraternity. Shortly before summer vacation I came out, and I have decided pretty quickly to be open about it; also with new people I have met.One guy caught my eye, and after some conversation we got to the topic sexuality. He told me he didn't know his for sure (asexual was his answer at the time), to which I asked him in my carelessness (beer was present) what he masturbates to. I'm not sure where he decided to cut me off, but ever since he rather avoids me and he has even told his friends about the awkward situation.Partly because he may be closeted and because of my personal agenda (I like him), I'm having a hard time letting go. Currently he is telling other people he is straight, probably because he doesn't want to talk about it (or he really is straight, but I'll never know for sure).How do handle this situation?
Anyone live in Newcastle?
Me and the boyfriend are down from Kilmarnock. Looking for someone to have a few drinks with tomorrow! We got the chance to check some places out tonight! Switch and rusty's is the only two really! If any one fancy's grabbing a drink tomorrow send me a wee PM or leave a comment!! :)
Need some advice/help
Hi I'm 21 and currently in college. Recently I've been seeing this guy who's much older than me, he's in his late 30s. We met on Grindr about a month ago, and when we first met, I didn't expect to see him again, but he was so sweet and accommodating. Ever since we've met up at least once a week. I really like him, but a few things bother me about him. He's told me that he's been in a 8 year open relationship with this guy and is still possibly in it? I'm not quite sure because he said things weren't working out so well between them. And he's talked a lot about hooking up with guys and going to orgies. I don't mind if he does go to orgies or crazy sex parties, but it worries me because I'm looking for something more monogamous. I know he hasn't been seeing anyone else after meeting me, but I feel like he might get bored and have an urge to seek out those sexual thrills. I'm also worried about being younger and naive I guess. I just don't know if I'm making the right decision choosing to be with this guy in the long run.
2015. október 28., szerda
The Lack of Titties on Men (It's not for my benefit, It's for yours!) Part 2.
Hello reddit.Do you remember me from such reddit posts such as. "Legalizing Gay Double Ended Dildos" or "Extra Care for Retarded whales at Sea World".Now I bring you another post on the fact that there is a lack of titties on men, now I could go into that whole depth of the matter but let's just go straight to the point.As a heterosexual I like my men with large man tits but when I come across a man who with a lack of tits I do not think much about it. In fact I start to think more about the women then I do the men.Now I know that lots of gays do not like men with big tits because if they did then they would be fat. But I can make you love your man titties and not be fat. It is called a tit magnet. You stick it on the wall and you stand there for a while, you may notice quite a large strange sensation in your chest but that is no worry. And do not worry if you do not like it, it is guaranteed that your chest will go back to normal after 600 hours or your money back.This will provide more fun for the skinny people and they can have the same amount of fun for the fat people.Thank you for reading.This is not my area of expertise, retarded whales is. I tried my best.
18 M4M looking for relationship...
Hey guys. I'm looking for a serious, long term relationship. Not based around sex.Message me for a picture of me if interested... Also on Kik: integral136
Legalize Gay Double Ended Dildos (It's not for my benefit, Its for yours!)
That's right! We should legalize gay double ended dildos.Now you may be asking... Why should we do such a thing?Well the first reason is... Why should girls have all the fun?Men have the same right to stick their little fake things into each other and ride them like racist ponies.(Or Bronies not judging)Now more men will be singing... Ooh you touch my tralala... My Ding Ding bong. If you want an example of the noises click here.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z13qnzUQwuINow I know you are asking. Smwoyf. Shouldn't we legalize gay marriage. Well no. We should not. Do you see any gays who are married and are getting it on? NO!And do you know why they are not getting it on? No! Neither do I.If this doesnt convince you to legalize gay double ended dildos then only being gay will.On behalf of all the heterosexuals (Bisexual, like myself)Legalize these crazy little sticks of rubber. Heheheh... They are great.Here is a little link I found that will help you on your way.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_RTIlVXKfyYGood Day Gays! Go forth with your education.
Anyone know of similar shows to looking?? A gay tv show?
I've been watching Looking but Im about to finish the latest season and I would really love to watch another show similar to it. The show is about 3 gay friends and their relationships.
Can't find the p spot
Hi I'm current a little downhearted as I've tried but cannot find my p spot. Usually I get really hard when playing anally but at the moment it's just not working.This is the first time it's not worked.Any suggestions as to why?Btw I'm bi hope I'm still welcome
Research Paper Help
I'm in a sexual minorities class and I decided to do my final paper on fetishes in the gay community (how the community views them and if different fetishes are more common in the community). As you can probably tell, it's been fairly difficult finding a lot of research on the topic, so I thought I'd try to get more personal stories and feedback from real people to add into the section I have about how fetishes are viewed in the community today. I would appreciate anything anyone has to say and it would help me more than you can imagine. Thank you!
Fuck
I think I'm romantically bisexual. I love women. I'm married to a woman, and I look at porn with women in it but I want gay men to find me attractive and to want me. I've tried things with men before. I've kissed men, and a man has sucked my dick before (he didn't finish, asshole) and I sometimes fantasize about sucking a man's dick. A pretty man, that is. No ugly sob like myself.I think I'm posting this because no one knows this side of me. And no one will. I just go along with life in this totally hetero casing where I'm the dude who's just really chill because it's the path of least resistance. I'm married with a wonderful woman who I love and I have wonderful in-laws who I love and everything is fine so why bother the water by being like "hey guys btw, I'm romantically bisexual and I'm not gonna cheat on my wife but there are some dudes who make me weak in the knees and I'm telling you this so you can know the whole me. Group hug."That would go over like a heart attack on Christmas morning.So here I am, shouting it out into space for all to hear but none to know cause I have to say it sometimes.Anyone feel me on this one? Don't tell me I'm alone.
I have a problem. Please help.
I'm afraid I don't have any more feelings for my boyfriend. We've been together for 3 years now, He moved to Germany from Italy for me. I don't feel the love I felt for him before, but just a big affection. I don't want to lose him in my life, but I feel like I'm doing him wrong by not telling him the truth. He's a very sensitive guy, he has a lot of self-esteem issues and I don't know how to even start this conversation with him.
2015. október 27., kedd
How Do I Defend My 6-Year Old Effeminite Brother
Hey everyone. My first time posting here. Hope it's welcomed.Anyways- I just have a little rant/need some advice. I'm 21 Years old at the moment and I have like... 5 younger brothers and 1 younger sister, all within the gaps of 14-19 and 2 younger ones, 6 Sister, and 1 brother. I'm gay- which is why I'm posting here.So my little 5 year old brother, he does a lot of things that seem really um... Well- it's sort of leading to him most likely becoming gay (safe assumptions, no stereotypes.) The stuff he watches on youtube (barbie doll reviews, 7 supergirls,), the music and people he listens to (Taylor Swift, Britney Spears, Madonna), the movies that he chooses to watch and the toys he prefers to play with. He also wants to be called "Racquel"... (Who is Barbie's archenemy in some series he watches together with my little sister.) So umm- it's showing signs that he's quite effeminate. Sorry if this offends anyone cuz of stereotypes- I just wanna clear that out.Now, I get really stressed about it because there are often convorsations of me being a bad influence- and all I can say is WTF. It's really unfair because my other brothers show him all types of movies- and I show him my types of movies. He prefers to watch the movies that I watch (Lizzie McGuire the Movie, High School Musical, Camp Rock), basically these typa genre- and all the time, when his "effeminiten-ess" is being brought up- I always get pointed at. "OH. Him. He's being a bad influence. He lets them listen to "White Girl" music. All I can say is "It's not my fault he prefers my taste over yours."Now, I know this might not seem like a problem (maybe), but it's putting a lot of pressure on me as an older brother and being gay at the same time. I don't know how to defend when I'm cornered by my uncle and like 2 or 3 of my younger brothers. I don't know- maybe I'm being a bad influence- but I definitely don't agree on that.This really stresses me out and pisses me off because I'm being put on a situation where someone's sexuality/gender can be "fixed" which I'm sure a lot of you guys probably know about. In my case however, It's hard to explain. I don't know what to tell 3-4 other people in front of me and confront them that you can't "Fix" these things.Any help and advice would really work well. I know I'm typing this sounding really formal or what ever- but deep down inside, I actually feel really sad and would probably cry cuz It's an annoying responsibility that's made from ignorance. I know how it feels to shove beliefs on people's throats- and that's the last thing I want to do. But at the same time, I know that saying "Try to understand him" is a very weak statement and won't get through the ears of 3-4 other straight people who don't understand that it wasn't just a "choice".Thanks for reading.
Can anyone help answer some questions? Bi-sexual with a male BF.
This is a serious post, so please serious replies, I hope no one just makes fun of my situation. So, basically I've known I was bisexual for quite some time. And originally I leaned toward women mainly. I had fucked some guys and gotten some blowjobs from guys but never the other way around. Infact, I never really thought I would ever date a man.Well, flashfoward a few years... For the first time in my life I feel like I am Truley in love. Now, Ive had major relationships before that I used to think was love but they were nothing like the connection I have with this man. He is my first TRUE love.Now, the thing is, I've given oral to him before and was fine with that, but I've never let him penetrate me before. In some ways, I feel kind of nervous about the situation. I want to do it, but for some reason I just feel nervous. Is this normal? Can anyone comment on it? Do they like getting it the same as giving? What can I do to make it more enjoyable.I want to show my boyfriend that I love him in that way. Now, I've never been big on sex whether its with men or women. I tend to love people for their mind. Who they are is what attracts me. I suppose some would call that a pan sexual. But my lover is gay and I feel I need to be able to perform to satisfy him or the relationship could suffer.Does anyone have any advice for me? Has anyone been in a similar situation before? How can I make this the most comfortable for us both. I'm nervous but I don't know why, really. I feel excited too. It's like losing my virginity all over again.Thanks for any and all help.
Do you truly understand?
Hi, So, this is my first post on this (currently confusing) site. I've been wanting to post anonymous things about how I feel now for such a long time, because even if people have judgement to pass on, no one will ever [hopefully] trace it back to me!Growing up, I had such a hard time, I mean I was a fabulous kid with a nasty secret.. I was gay. Not that it was ever really a problem for me, it was just this daunting as fuck shadow that lingered over me that was one day going to overshadow me.I guess there has never really been a point in my 18 years of existence that I've felt like I've belonged anywhere. Growing up I was that skinny pale kid with a lisp, freckles, and an extremely anti-social behaviour. Fast forward to now, and I am a fat, underachiever, with a nice tan and almost over social, with my only friend being the girl I live with.. (With the exception of cute boy #1 who I am currently talking with).I work in an establishment that is suppose to 'Protect' me from discrimination, but even the 'powers that be' laugh behind my back at how I basically leave a rainbow trail everywhere I walk, or snicker about how my sex life seems to have anything even remotely to do with them.Then I have parents who not only denied me of my sexuality for so many years, it got to the point where I was severely depressed, suicidal and for the best part of the time... A hermit.I met this guy, incredibly good looking, foreign as fuck, and an amazing lover, or at least I thought. He turned out to be like everyone else in Australia's gay community; Shallow, sex hungry, willing to take whatever 7" dick and body type the gay version of subway could supply him and overall an outright cunt. So I guess my run in so far with all this crap has been nothing less then utter disappointment.I wish I could just have someone to talk to about these things, rather then complaining to a heap of people who may very well never read this from start to end.But, for those who do!Thank you.
Should I transfer schools for this guy?
So I met this guy online a few months ago, almost a year ago. We really connected, and have Skyped a few times, and we really like each other. We were really good friends, and now we're in a relationship.The thing is, he's in the Midwest, and I'm on the West Coast. He's going to a small college near him next year that's out of state that he can afford that's not too expensive. I'm considering transferring as well, not only because he's going there, but because the school I'm attending O.O.S. is really expensive. I'll have to eventually take out loans to attend, where as at this school I wouldn't.I'm really ambivalent. I really, really, really like it out here west. I'm not sure I'll like it out in the Midwest. However, it's expensive to stay here, and I haven't really had luck meeting any guys my age out here before we got into a relationship, so I also feel like if I don't take this opportunity it wont be for another couple of months before I finally meet another guy I connect with.My options are keep the friends I have and stay at the school I'm at, thus taking out loans, transferring to a less expensive school here on the west coast and start over, or transfer to the same school he's going to. IDK, I want opinions.Thanks to all responses!P.S. I wouldn't be considering the Transfer but I really, really like and connect with this guy :/ And im scared I might regret not taking the opportunity because it's significantly harder to find a partner you connect with gay dating.
2015. október 26., hétfő
Found best friend's Grindr account...any advice would be appreciated
Sorry for the wall of text...thanks in advance for reading.About 3 years ago, I became worried about a really good friend (let's call him Steve) of mine. He was barely eating (still suffers from a pretty bad eating disorder), was drinking a lot and just seemed really depressed. I had always suspected that Steve was gay and had asked him about it but he always denied it. Another gay friend of mine told me he had found Steve on Grindr. Being the curious person that I am, and with the best of intentions I swear, I decided to create an account just to see for myself. Bad idea, I know. Steve ended up messaging me first on there while I briefly catfished only to make sure that it was actually him (it's hard to tell from only looking at body pictures lol). The guilt of what I did caught up to me and I ended up confessing what I did to Steve and reassured him I loved him for who he was and wanted to be there for him if he was going through a rough time for whatever reason. After this confession, Steve stopped talking to me. We're working on rebuilding some type of friendship. Steve says he has no idea why I did what I did and still denies being gay, even though he has become "more obviously out" and he openly lives with a gay room mate now who I'm almost positive he's dating. My question to all of you is how wrong do you think my actions were? I can see that I overstepped a boundary here and betrayed his trust. I know my course of action wasn't necessarily the best but my reasons for doing so were mainly to help him. I identify as pansexual and would have been slightly relieved to have a friend tell me they are accepting of who I am and want to be there for me. His room mate also refuses to even acknowledge me due to the incident. I would love to hear others' perspectives on how they would feel if this happened to them.
Have any of you had experience with Lexapro or ADHD meds
I am also diagnosed ADHD and have been on Adderall for law school. My anxiety and depression has only gotten worse and people are constantly asking me if I was gay based on my mannerisms and soft-spokenness (even though I have only been interested in women). I was prescribed Lexapro 10 mg and it completely numbed my emotions and I'm much more aggressive and maybe even irritable. My girlfriend told me I'm much more of a man now than I was, but my family is telling me I changed for the worse. I read somewhere that Lexapro can actually make a gay person straight in some ways and I'm just curious if any of you had experience with any of these medications.I have slept with an unusual amount of women throughout my life and have been on medications and partied for years, so I wouldn't know who I am naturally anymore but just want to hear from those of you who have been through similar experience with meds. Thank you!
I just want to kiss my straight friend. How should I ask him this?
We're both pretty good friends and I kinda want to experiment at a party tomorrow night. But I don't want to ruin our friendship. What should I do? Advice?
Huge problems with parents... Need advice ASAP
Hello reddit, long time lurker here... Most likely, this post will be a bit long for some of you so I will try writing a TL;DR at the end of it. My name is Eddy, I am 19 years old and I live in Romania. I always knew I was gay, even when I wasn't familiar with the concept of someone being homosexual, I knew something was "wrong" with me but I never really paid attention to it. I built my childhood based on what the society would like to see and I tried to not think of this idea of me being gay, it was hard... extremely hard. I remember when I was about 16 I got to the point where I said to myself that whenever I think of men in a sexual way, I would punch myself hard, and not because I thought it was wrong, because I didn't want to be this way. Almost 2 years ago, I was about to kill myself because of it and that was the most difficult period of my life, it was horrible. After that, I met a wonderful guy on a dating app, let's call him Kevin (we are in a healthy relationship now). So Kevin helped me a lot to accept myself, he made me realise that I should be proud of who I am... he basically saved my life. Few months later after talking every day online, we decided to buy plane tickets for me to go to Canada (where he lives) to visit him for the first time. The days have passed, everything was perfect. Since I am 19, I was still living with my parents and it was the time to tell them that I am not who they thought I am and that I am going away for 5 weeks to visit my boyfriend. You may now know, but here in Romania, especially in rural areas(I grew up in a really small town), homosexuality is seen as something horrible, like a mental disease so I was expecting my parents to not understand. They took it very hard, my dad cried for days, my mom as well... we went to a psychologist and things got a little bit better. I got to my boyfriend, everything was perfect, we got along very well, we love each other very much and honestly he's the best thing that happened in my life... ever. Soon after I got back to Romania, I started university and things were going well... my parents were OK even thought we haven't talked about how it was there or about my sexual orientation... but I thought it would be better to give them some time to be confortable with the idea. Few weeks after I came back, me and Kevin bought another plane tickets for Christmas, because we miss each other very much and we want to spend the holidays together... nothing wrong with that, right? Now it is that time again to tell my parents that I'm going away for Christmas... I told my mom first, because I feel like she's more open minded than my dad. She freaked out because she thought that, magically, I am straight again because after I came back from Canada I went for a few psychologist sessions and she actually thought that I was going to "conversion therapy session" which is ridiculous. She told me that my dad thinks the same (that I'm straight) and she is afraid that he will get sick because of me. I really love Kevin and I know he loves me as well... I want to escape from here, I don't feel safe and I know that my parents will never understand it since they grew up in the communist regime and they are very close minded... What should I do?TL;DR I'm gay. I'm perfectly OK with it. I am happy with my boyfriend but my parents think that I'm mentally ill. I want to escape from them.
Some tips needed for a new relationship
This is being posted on another account for anonymity**Hey guys,Here's my story so far.I've met somebody online almost a year ago and almost on a daily basis we've talked for quite some time. We recognized the flare we had with each other about 5 months ago and since then things have been going very well between us.I had recently came out as Bi, however I'm still unsure whether I'm into Girls and Boys...All I know is that the boy I'm talking to makes me very happy. I am also a virgin and this will be a first for me being in a relationship if things go well.We were scheduled to meet sometime in March but that might have to be postponed for reasons he mentioned. He recently got off a long relationship, 5-6 years and what he explained is that whenever he feels close to me there's something telling him to back off. Being afraid to get overly attached and getting hurt once again.He mentioned that he doesn't know when he'll be able to fully commit but has reassured that he does see a life with me someday. So by assumption if things don't go as planned, we will probably meet up in the summer time.Thing is that is in a very long time, I mean for me right now because I was looking forward to our meet up and I get this. I'm not going to pretend I understand what he's going through because I've never been in a long-committed relationship. But I promised that I'll always be with him through good and bad times.It's come to a certain point where I want to explore and experiment with others in the meantime. Having talked with others about this, I most probably won't be doing this , however it is always an urge to fight against. I don't want to feel that I'm going behind his back with others and especially being a virgin, I want my first to be a special one. I do have a dildo that I recently purchased a couple of months back for practice and I love it. The stimulation feels so good but I'm always craving for more...the real thing.I'm not looking for the right or wrong answer, I would like to hear what some of you think on the matter.
Do you ever notice how it's the ugly straight guys who worry about gay men liking them?
Like who would ever like you anyway? Don't flatter yourself.
Came out to my best friend the other day, not sure what to feel.
Got fed up the other day and decided to tell my best friend just how things are with me. I knew he'd be supportive, he claims to be a massive "ally," I guess they're called. He's the first person in my day to day life that I've told so far and I don't know what to say or think. He's been supportive, saying it changes nothing, but I'm almost certain it does. This is my bro I've been talking about girls with since we were 8th graders, but after my revelation I've been talking boys boys boys out of habit, just from wanting to for so long, and I feel like I'm scaring him almost. I hate talking about my sexuality, but I feel kind of like I have too, just because I've been hiding it so long and now it's somewhat free. It's a really big 180 to have your best friend ogling over girls with you only to tell you he's been lying the whole time. I wish I had a female friend to come out to just to squeel about guys over, but he's the only person I really trust and I don't want weird him out. Honestly there's nothing I would like more than to be straight right now, but I'm about as straight as a circle. Why does sexuality have to be such a big deal, it's my business who I want to love or fuck, why does it have to be so characterizing? I feel so awkward right now.
2015. október 25., vasárnap
Looking for a bit of advice for my situation with this guy.
Sorry for making another "I'm single and so sad, help me" post on this sub, as I know /r/gay is inundated with angsty people like me with no one else to turn to for advice. I just kind of need somewhere to vent a bit and hopefully get some guidance.So, essentially what happened is that about a year ago I met this guy who I decided was really cute and seemed pretty nice so I decided to ask him out when I heard from a mutual friend that he is gay. Unfortunately, he turned me down (and I don't blame him, since for some reason I thought it would be appropriate to ask him out via text. Urk.). I didn't think much of it at the time and brushed it off - I'd been rejected a couple times before and it's not like I had really strong feelings for him anyways.Well, as it turns out, "had" is the operative word in that statement. Since then we've spent a lot of time together and become what I would call pretty good friends; working on assignments together for classes that we've shared, hanging out on the weekends in our limited free time, that kind of thing. He's become one of the best friends I have at university, actually, easily within my top 3. Unfortunately, to my (thus far) endless regret, I've developed scarily intense feelings for him. He kind of makes my stomach fill with butterflies while my heart tries to crawl out of my throat. Being around him and talking to him really make me genuinely happy no matter how I've been feeling prior to seeing him, and when I'm with him I can just be myself and don't feel like I have to pretend to be anything I'm not. I stay up at night thinking about him and when I do anything creative I always find that he's my inspiration in one way or another. I know he's been on a few dates with others in the past year, none of which have ended working out for him (many of which serve to fuel my already flourishing Taylor Swift addiction, with Teardrops on My Guitar and You Belong With Me quickly climbing to the top of my playlist). Though I have never asked him, I have gotten vague impressions from friends that during the first half of last year (towards the end of which I asked him out) he was less interested in romance and dating, but has since warmed up to the prospect.My issue is probably obvious. Even though I'm ridiculously in love with him, I don't think it's appropriate for me to say anything because I already asked him out once. The very last thing I want is to lose him as a friend, and I don't know how he would react if I were to say anything to him or even just ask him out again. To that end I have done my best to pretend that I don't have strong feelings for him. The greatest indulgence I gave myself was writing him a thoughtful and very friendly birthday card, so I don't think he has any good idea of how I feel about him. But the longer I pretend the more it wears on me. I've been hoping I'll get over him or something, but it hasn't really happened yet. I guess what I want to ask is, would it just be crass and desperate-looking to broach the subject of dating with him? I'm not so tactless as to one day just say "Oh ___, you know that I love everything about you and think you're perfect," but I don't know if it's at all appropriate to say /anything/ ever.Anyways, thanks for reading. For me writing things out has always been kind of cathartic (I have a folder full of love letters I've never sent), and knowing that someone out there might sympathize is comforting on its own. Any advice you might have is much appreciated.tldr; I got rejected a long time ago, am now good friends with the guy and have fallen in love with him. What do?
Ended 10 yrs relationship (m to m), don’t know what to do
My bf ended our 10-years relationship by saying that he wanted to be free and explore without me getting hurt or being unfair. It was a big surprise to me, eventhough I could feel signs that he is no longer that in to me, things like having less conversation, being less sweet or having more fun with his friends where the things I noticed in the past weeks. I didn’t expect that he can do this do me, despite being so in love with each other and being best friends along the way. What really irritated me is that I was doing all the effort these recent weeks to patch up our relationship.. When he told me this, I got really mad and started to ignore him. Its been 2 weeks that we’re not talking and everyday it hurts like hell. Since I felt betrayed, I’m using the pain to get over the daily hurt telling myself that he’s not going to change or he really wanted to leave me .. as a way to move on.A few days after we broke up, he told me that he cant stand that I’m not around and he wants me back. I think this is just a normal reaction of me being gone. Now that 2 weeks has passed, I did send him a few text and he responded back, the way he responded made me think that he is starting to move on and he really don’t want me anymore. This weekend was just too difficult, my mind is giving me tons to think about and its driving me crazy. I don’t know if 1) I’m doing the right thing – ignoring him at this point will just make him forget about me faster 2) if I’m not ignoring him, maybe we can patch this up and be together again? However, all the unfair things he’s done makes me think that we shouldn’t get back together 3)I’m afraid of getting hurt even more when he starts dating/being with others 4) should I talk to him to have a closure on this topic – last week he said that he wants me back but I really don’t know if I should give him a chance or talk to him again and hear it again that he doesn’t want me ( so this way I can really move on and have no doubts about us getting back together).Need advice.
Best apps for younger guys?
Though I've seen younger guys on Scruff around my age range (22), it seems that the only people I attract are old, white men who are fascinated with black guys, which isn't a problem, though as a person of mediocrity who hasn't been too relevant or successful with dating apps I shouldn't complain. However, it would be nice to converse with younger guys, though there may be a benefit to conversing with older men. That said, what are some apps that would be best for younger guys to chat and stuff?
How do you deal with hate?
I work at a customer service desk, which alone is a headache. But the other day I was helping a couple and it exploded into more than that. The woman was on her phone looking like she wanted to leave while I was helping her boyfriend. She then out of nowhere caught something I said and misinterpreted it. She went off - I mean 0 to 100 instantly. Started calling me a "faggot ass motherfucker, gay ass bitch," etc before storming out. I deal with irate customers a lot, so I wasn't too bothered by her outrage - but I was bothered by her words.It really caught me off guard, ya know? It was cutting in a way I really would never expect. Mostly because I had no idea that people could really... tell. I mean I don't think I have an especially effeminate voice, or anything. I've never considered myself anything but confident in who I am, but days and days have passed and I can't stop thinking about it. Not about her - But about myself. She's gotten me completely self-conscious of everything I say and every way I move.Logically of course, I know I'd be happier to just let that go and me happy in myself. But I suppose I never realized that the way I was, who I was - is so obviously different to others. It's noticeable.How do you guys deal with it?
2015. október 24., szombat
Looking for anal sex advice.
Hey guys. I dont know how to aim into the hole and if i try to push my penis in and miss it often goes numb and it takes a lot of time to get it in good state again. Also i was never able to do anything but standard missionary, how do you even insert your penis between those ass buns when your partner is on his stomach ? Should i seek medical help ?
Biphobia in Gay People
Before realizing that I was gay, I identified as Bisexual to those I'd come out to. This wasn't to "soften the blow" or "test the waters" but as I actually thought that I was Bi. Anyway I have since then come to the realization that I am gay, and I am catching myself having thoughts that are obviously not okay. Like, when I identified as Bi I didn't understand Biphobia in gay people, and to a certain extent I still don't, but NOW whenever I hear that someone is Bisexual in my mind I'm all like "yea I thought that too once ahahaaa" and then I'm like "wait wtf that was biphobic" and also like "woa dude dont think like that just coz ur gay doesn't mean other people aren't bi". But those thoughts do enter my mind pretty naturally and I'm wondering what it is in some of us that are inherently biphobic after coming out as gay. What do you guys think?
I need help
Hello guys I'm a male and I've been doubting myself if I'm gay ever since I read the book Will Grayson Will Grayson. I have a girlfriend and I still like her. I see guy and I have this feeling of anxiety it's not with every guy but it's with some. Can you anyone help me I'm confused
Just had a debate against a group of homophobes about marriage. Their one argument bothered me because I didn't know how to respond.
Their homophobia was a by product of traditional Christian religious belief. Most of their arguments were frankly unfounded. But one did get under my skin. They spoke of lawsuits against wedding photographers and cake makers for simply turning down services due to their religious beliefs surrounding marriage and losing jobs in turn. I didn't know how to properly respond to this and it bothers me. I guess it's because I understand they have a different concept of marriage than we do and I don't think it's right for us to take that away from them in the same way they can't take away our marriage outside of their religion. It's unfortunate, but it just strikes me as freedom of speech. I don't view this as being the same as the Kim Davis situation where she intentionally got in the way. These people just don't want to be involved and are being punished in turn. Can you guys help me? What would you have said?
Dear R
Dear RI am confused right now. I am also quite tired. Our intellectual exchange tonight at Barnes and Noble really wore me out. Listen man, I don't know how much I trust myself on this, but I think you might be gay for me. Perhaps, I have just always been gay and in denial because I am starting to develop feelings for you and having you as a friend has provided the activation energy needed to stop denying it. The thing is that I have had feelings for many women and you are the only man out of all the guys I have hung out with that I have develop feelings for. Anyway, a few months ago you seemed so excited to tell me that gay marriage is federally legal like that had some relevance on our lives. Perhaps you were just excited for some friends. Tonight when we met at B&N, the first thing I did was show you the books I bought and the first thing you said was something sexual about the books. Now I am second guessing myself, but there was the time you asked to lay down on the couch beside me to watch me do yoga in the living room. There were several times that L said "Yall look cute" and part of me thinks she meant "together". It was odd that L was your B.F.F. She was best friends with a lot of the gay guys in college and she never really hung out with straight ones. Perhaps you were the exception. Also, the only time I have ever gone to a cuddle party was with you and that weirded me out since it was mainly dudes. I walked away from that party as fast as I could.I don't think I will send you this letter. Bro, I love you like a brother and an intellectual equal. I don't think I am gay, but if you happened to be, then I would be OK with it. The most likely outcome is that I would warm up to you. Again, perhaps this is just me being scared of coming out and I am trying to use you to help me come out. Either way I value our friendship more than being partners. I would be fine either way. Right now, I am honestly just confused.Yours, Could be gay throwaway
2015. október 23., péntek
Twenty Years Single, Getting Back Into Dating
I've been single since my mid 20's. Since 1995 I've lived life without any romantic relationships and with only a handful of abortive dates. I've lived pretty much completely alone for the last ten years with minimal social life. But recently I decided to dip my toe in again and dated a guy about my age. I can't say I'm totally thrilled with the idea of dating. In fact I kind of hate it. Having to go out at night. See and be seen. I feel old, fat, and totally out of my element. All these kids around. Little tables to knock over in crowded bars. Urge to beat people with my cane rising. So that got me wondering--are there better ways for us old farts to date? Bars here are either depressing or full of young, loud people. What do others do?
About hookups
So on this Reddit alone I've seen a lot of talk about hookups but i never understood them. So here is a question to ya'll : What is it about hookups that make them ''desirable''? I do not want to ignorantly judge the matter without any knowledge of it. So enlighten me, the gays of Reddit or anyone really.
Question regarding online casual hookups
I'm at 28 year old gay man. I am still in the closet and for personal reasons, I'd like to keep it that way. I've never been with anyone else but feel like it's well overdue. The only issue is, wanting to stay closeted, I don't know the best way to go about it.I've looked into Craigslist causal encounters and have chatted with a few guys but nothing more. I know that it comes with its risks but I don't know how else to have casual sex while staying anonymous (I would use protection).That being said, if I go through with it, I'm still terrified of running into this person in the future and it biting me in the ass. I've looked into guys a few hours away from me but it's still just in the back of my mind. I was messaging one guy but he posted his face in his pictures so the fact that privacy didn't concern him scared me away. I don't know of anyway I can have sex with someone but not have it come back to bite me in the ass.Does anyone have any advice on how I can have a safe, occasional anonymous hookup or am I being unrealistic?
LGBT Trauma Research
Hi everyone! I am part of the LGBT Research Team in the Counseling Educational Psychology and Research department at the University of Memphis. We are conducting an IRB-approved study on sexual orientation, traumatic symptoms, and help-seeking behaviors. We are currently looking for adults 18 years of age or older who identify as a member of the LGBT community in the United States. The goal of this study is to understand how life events and support from others impacts the psychological well-being of members of the LGBT community.Your participation in this study is entirely voluntary and would involve completing several questionnaires that will take approximately 45 minutes to complete. Your responses will be confidential and your participation will help advance this field of study. Once you complete the survey, you may choose to participate in a raffle for one of two $50.00 Amazon gift cards. At that time, you will be prompted to send an email with your name and contact information to an email account to the principal investigator. This contact information will be kept separate from your survey responses and will be stored on a secure, password-protected computer to ensure that your responses remain confidential. After the raffle is complete, the winner will be notified by email. In order to ensure privacy, all contact information will then be deleted.If you would like to participate, you may click on the link provided. For confidentiality purposes, you will not be asked to provide your name. If you have any questions, you may address them to the lead investigator, Elin Ovrebo, Ph.D., at eovrebo@memphis.edu.The link to access the survey is: http://ift.tt/1GmNKSH you all so much for your help! It is greatly appreciated!
Hey guys I need some advice/help
So to make things short I need a job to gain experience so that I can work abroad. Locally no one wants to hire me since I have no experience but somehow I was given a job offer to Saudi Arabia that requires no experience. Right now I'm unsure what to do and just want to get out of this country and away from my slightly homophobic family. Any help guys? Just want to get away before I do something stupid like before.
Finally had a revelation
My whole life I've considered myself Bi, and lately I haven't been interested in a female relationship lately. So, I considered my love life with women and realised that I've NEVER been interested in having a sexual relationship with any woman. I mean, I've been in plenty of female relationships (including one that lasted 2 years), but every time a relationship with a woman has turned sexual, I end it. And now I've consciously realized it. And after many years of having awful female relationships, my life makes sense. So Reddit, I'm proud and happy to say that I'm gay. And that I love who I am.
2015. október 22., csütörtök
Should I come out to my cousin?
So I came out to a lot of people some years ago. Most of my friends and some of my family even. Not all my family knows but I believe that they may know what's up by now. Some of my family give me a wink or a smirk so I'm pretty sure they know. One of the kids just straight out asked me at a party and I had to dance around it ever so gingerly. I'd rather not say it to everyone as the older members of my family are very religious. And if my parents hear about it again I fear we would have a massive fight like the first time I tried to tell them.But who I'm really worried about is my 19 year old cousin. She is rather sheltered and her mother is just as bible crazy as my mother. She's like my little sister though and we enjoy hanging out when she's not swamped with college. She's really into K-Pop also and we watch the videos together. I sometimes make comments about the boys ("hot" "he's cute" etc.), but she never seems to question it. I even bought yaoi with her once and she looked at me sideways for a week lol. But she never questions me. She still acts the same towards me and all that.I've thought about telling her for the longest time, but I'm afraid that it would kill our friendship. She gets uncomfortable at the mention of LGBT individuals, but I don't think it's out of hate or disgust like some of my family members. Moreso she just hasn't met anyone like that before. Part of me thinks she already knows, but I don't really know.Should I tell her that I'm gay, or should I just not even bother?TL: DRI haven't told my 19 year old Kpop loving cousin who I treat like a sister that I'm gay and I'm wondering if I should tell her or not.
gay but lesbian
gay man here i love watching lesbian and straight porn (mostly blowjob when its straight) but i get insta soft when thinking about doing it to a man whats going on
Constant Coming out
Anyone else find it very frustrating that you are almost never fully out. I came out in high school, and now I'm in college and just don't really want to do it again so I'm kind of just letting people find out. It's like who do you tell? Who would be bothered by it? Who would change around you? It is just so annoying going through it all again. So annoying that I have to think about holding my boyfriends hand or kissing him because for some reason I think someone will care.
Does he want something else?
I live inside the university campus where I study, and I've met this guy, Matthew. He's my classmate since the first semester. We live in the same building, a few rooms away from each other. He's 1.7m, just like me, but has a californian guy look. He was an athlete in high school, so he has the kinda muscular body, tanned skin, dark blonde hair, about 60-65 kg, bigger than me. I'm more the nerd guy look. White, dark and short hair, about 55 kg, thin, not exactly fit. So, when we first met, I thought he was just a popular asshole, who'd never talk to me. We got closer, and once I asked him if he was gay. Not a big deal, but the way he behaves makes you doubt it. He got nervous, seemed offended and told me stuff, that it was not anyone's business, he was straight and we didn't talk for a while. As I was just letting him say it, about a week later I apologized to him about what I'd said, that it was a ridiculous question and so. Later on, about august, I wanted to get back in touch, and sent him a message, apologizing again for my what I'd said, and on october he wanted to talk face to face and apologize to me about his attitude. We then got closer. He sits now in the table next to mine in the restaurant, not exactly togehther. We've been chating a lot (I'm trying to show interest), talking about random stuff, sometomes getting personal, talking about porn. He then invited me to watch a film togther, me and him only. I agreed. He then started to visit me almost every day at work, even if it means he has to leave his own job (we work a few rooms away, both at the college building, but in different departments), and once we were talking about exactly this, and I joked that he visited me just to get free candy (my department gives it for free), not expecting he'd respond "actually I come to see you". I melted inside but laughed while he left the room to do something at work. He makes me feel good, I like being with him and I think both of us enjoy being together, alone where I work, eating at the restaurant, running in the rain while going to class, chatting about everything on WhatsApp or whatever. I'm never sure of things, if he says all this just kidding or if he likes me, which is what I think (or want to think) it is. I'm asking you guys what you think. Is he just being nice, wanting to be my friend, getting closer, or he wants something else? Any option is ok for me, but I'd really enjoy being his boyfriend.
Feeling insecure about acne scars on my back
So I'm a 25-year-old guy. I think I'm decent looking (at least as long as you don't see me from the back). I do get told I'm cute and I do get hit on every now and then when I go out.My problem is that I have pretty bad acne scars all over my back, down to my buttocks. I have to mention it's by far not as bad as the worst cases, that show up when you look them up on google pictures. However it is definitely VERY visible.I'm so insecure about this that it makes it very difficult for me to enjoy being naked in front of other people (even though I'm pretty happy with the rest of my body). On the rare occasions that I do hook up with guys, I can't really enjoy it, because I'm constantly worried that the other guy might feel disgusted by it. So the last few times, I tried to top, so the other guy doesn't have to stare down my back all the time. However, I'm actually more of a bottom, but that damn, scar-ridden back makes it hard to enjoy that.Not to mention stuff like going to the beach or swimming...I won't do that, even though I'd love to.I don't even know why I'm writing this here, maybe someone else experiences something similar? It just pisses me off. I also currently can't afford getting treatment for it, because it's expensive as fuck and not covered under my country's health insurance.
help with denial
ok so im a gay 23 m i found our when i was 19 i came out a year ago families ok with it. only problem is i still have fantasies about women. non sexual relationship ones. just chilling with them talking to them cuddling sex too sometimes. the bad thing is once i come back to reality and i remember im gay it hurts and i feel sad. i dont want to feel sad thinking about me being gay i want to feel good about it. also i just want to not think about women or not get too excited about the fantasies. how do i replace straight fantasies with gay ones
Pretty sad
Dont really know why i am making this post, maybe to help future bisexuals as myself.I just came out to my parents, and chockingly they didnt belive that i was bi. my dad said openly "to bad for the girls" and my mother whom i came out to months ago asked if i had made up my mind.Not sure if they think its a phase but if 7 years is a phase then sure. i know that alot of people come out as bi at first to soften the blow but please be who you are and own that. and if you havent come out yet and you know you are gay say that, its much easier trust me.
Did a married guy just flirt with me?
I was at the gym today and took a class which I rarely do. the instructor had us get into small groups. There was one really attractive guy in my group, so we started chatting. We chatted throughout the class and again after for about 15 minutes. As I was leaving, he was leaving at the same time and had another 10 minute conversation. He was friendly, but I don't know what to make of it. he was really attractive, and hope to see him again. I'm not sure what to make of it. I saw he had a ring, but couldn't tell if he's gay and flirty or straight and just friendly. What should I do if I see him again?
Close to darkness
Almost 24 now, elementary school I lied to bestfriend in 5th grade that I had sex with a girl in middle school in hopes of bringing up the topic of me and him i guess. he told a "friend" that blackmailed me thru 6th grade with a lie ...highschool i started throwing my feelings out to friends who could never return them. I turned to porn...when I started college I struggled with applying myself as I had in past, also socially strugglingwas not ready to wake up to roomate having sex within the first 2 weeks and getting involved with the first guy that was convenient and unstable. I began seeing a counselor and after awhile decided to bring up the fact I was watching child porn. The counselor was newish and called in his sup. I was naive at the time and honestly never considered getting reported for talking about my addiction. I get a call over winter break saying "through a process" I had been reported to police. 9 months later I'm starting 5years probationwith a deffered sentence. Got my first job as a dishwasher during this time. Took me 6 months of monitered job hunting to get that job after burning through grandma's inheritance during that time. Treatment really drove home the point to feel the guilt about that. I'll throw this all away by not talking openly enough in groups and was unable to pass any of the expensive polygraph tests. End up taking the prison sentence with a conviction and 10 years on the registry. I was extreamly lucky that I was not abused in prison. I did get called out on my status here and there, spent time in my own cell for awhile. When i finnaly got to facility and moved from regular population asking for my papers to the health pod/faith pod/ "gay pod" unit... I thrived, I made friends, played games, read more, worked out and built myself to a new high, meet my first serious romantic intrest. lost my virginity. We became cellies. Celebrated my 21st over a cookie/cherry coke cake with peanut butter and m&ms on top. It was simple and I was happy. I even feel like it got cut too short.offensive thought isn't it, what about my family I got out and did a short stint of parole. Now I'm out and lost. Never feel like I had the time to make therapy work. Unhappy with the simple labor jobs I have to take with my record but unconvinced I can make it if I go back to school for something I won't be passionate about. I'm a creative guy in general, love the abstract/surreal parts of life, I could get lost in it or a nice pair of headphones/quality speakers and chest pounding bass...Got into a 18month relationship with someone I met online soon after release, adorable inexperienced guy. He grew way too attached and I knew I could never return that feeling. He attempted while we were together but he had attempted before we meet aswell. I was in the process of losing my job due to it getting bought out and dismantled during the end of relationship. Now we're separated on good terms and I'm unemployed drinking my time away because I don't smoke to keep a clean UAcop out right?Just in case.... but I'm not seriously job hunting... not fooling around or exploring my sexuality...not seriously learning... not traveling or going out to party... I feel the urges to go back to porn... but I know It won't be so pretty the 2nd time around nor do I want porn forever. I'm isolating and I can feel it. I don't have the courage to put myself out there anymore. I'm living in a paranoid bubble of self doubt pissing the days, money, and my health away. I have a issue with myself not being able to top. I don't get aroused easily. I don't want another guy in my life to sit there waiting for me to let him screw me. I'm not comfortable with casual sex. But romantic intrests isn't what I need right now, hard news i need to hear? Unsure about a lot....feels like I'm throwing another big pitty party for myself. how can I see sex in a positive light and not something as it being a reason people use eachother? I resent sooo much in my life and in others. I need to let go. I need purpose. I think I have trust issues. Along with a flair for the dramatic. Feedback? Criticism? Positive words for a young gay sex offender? I'll be happy if it's just an entertaining read for somebody out there.
2015. október 21., szerda
looking for some one to chat with reularly
nit sure if this is the right place for this. Im openly bi sexual with my wife but to her wishes i no longer have relations with members of the same sex. I how ever still think about it from time to time and would love to have a guy or gal to talk about it with.
Confused about the dating sites- kinda hurt, need advice...
Getting started, not my usual sub. here, I'm I my early 30's, came out about...a year and 7 or so months ago, officially, slow with friends at first ( who really were Not all that suprised )..then to family. Even stated a thank you to my friends and loved ones on FB about their support. So eventually I began sifting through some dating sites, met a few guys online ( thank God only online ), met up with 2 of them over time, in person. OKCUPID was a good place at first..until what I found out about alot of the guys in my area seem basically ( not all of them mind you ) interested in casual sex...Even if their profile says differently. The two I met over time seemed cool at first, the first one I dated, briefly..1 1/2 months approx this summer. The other one openly spoke of getting drunk, popping pills etc. "Thanks for letting me know ahead of time"...jerk. As far as relationships I have come to find out- I get invested emotionally and spiritually Way to fast. Advice I'm searching for..." how does one Not get emotionally attached to fast"? and also, of course like so many, want a good Guy to be with, Not all day or Every day, but at least for some respect. Feeling kinda hurt over the whole " I love you " line, that later leads to sex, and getting dumped. Sucks. I'm a firm believer in karma, and the Law of Attraction ( am I inadvertently attracting the wrong type, if one buys into that stuff ) ? ..now I'm single, its pretty Ok..not spectacular..I make all my own decisions to the best of my ability, some guidance is welcome of course ( Heck- I'm posting this ). Any helpful suggestions or comments are welcome. This seems to be a safe place to post this. No judgment.
Great music video from Walk off the Earth for their new song "Alright." Give it a listen.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CbmjEv-OUDk
What's the LGBT % population?
I'd really REALLY like to know this. Some Webpages say it's a 5%, others say 20%, I honestly don't know.Please take in mind that:1.There are A LOT of closet cases, even men married with woman due to fear of being rejected socially.There are people who just dont LABEL themselves, or are "Straight" but would fall in love with a guy after a Comrade-like relationship, or maybe just curious or whatever.Transexual ppl are included in "LGBT", just for some people to know.
Looking For Interviewees
Hey,I'm an undergraduate student looking to interview members of the Gay community about facilitators and barriers towards health promotion/disease prevention in the Gay community in the United States. The information will be used to help create a community based program that is designed to promote the health of Gay men in the Baltimore area.If you are interested in being interviewed leave a comment or private message me and we can try to work out a time/method.While my interview/community based program has to be aimed towards the Gay male community in the United States, I also want to encourage discussion of facilitators and barriers for health of the global Gay/Lesbian communities. Please use this thread to share any thoughts related to the topic, even if you do not wish to be interviewed.I hope I have the pleasure of talking to many of you about this topic further in depth.Thank you :)
Help please..
I'm about to ask the biggest question there is here. How do i come out to my parents? I am afraid of what they'll think. My mother will most likely be ok with it, but my dad thinks I'm straight, he is ignorant, and always talks about how I should ask women out, I usually just ignore him when he tells me that, then ask why I never talk to them. I actually recently bought a pride band for myself to remind me that it will get better, right now I'm dealing with depression and anxiety, but my dad saw the band on my wrist and this is what he said "Get that gay shit off your wrist." That really hurt. I just recently moved out, i was going to tell them before they left my place when I moved in but I couldn't bring myself to it. I don't know what to do. Although I am getting counseling to deal with my depression and the anxiety and I have someone in person to talk to about this.
I've just been diagnosed with HIV.
This happened earlier today. I'm a 25 year old gay man and I don't know what to do. I've told my best friend and she is there for me, but I still feel so alone. I can't help shaking off the feeling of shame and regret. I feel so scared right now you guys.
What am i? Need help from the Pros
Soo as long as i can remember ive liked girls and always been attracted to them. But the better part of a year now ive been very sexually attracted to men and little to no attraction to women. The last 3 years ive been kind of curious on the whole thing but now it's taking over. I can't force myself to like something so therefore i'm looking for a conclusion. Thanks in advance!
Being "friendzoned"
So I met this really nice guy I had 3 dates with.The first date was great and he specifically said that he really wants to see me again and I felt the same way, which I told him.During the second date we kissed, hold hands and later made out in my car. However, as we were waiting for his train, he said something along the lines of "I wonder where this is going between us". Obviously, I enquired and his responses were that he has a problem with the distance, after that he mentioned that he's also seeing another guy and the conclusion was that he just wants to be friends. However, the day before the next date he said that "he's really looking forward to it".The third date was at his place. We watched movies and snuggled up for most of the time, but he did not want to kiss. That was pretty much the only thing he didn't want to do, because later on we had sex and I'm more or less sure we both enjoyed it. Still, no kissing. Not sure why in his mind sex was ok, for "being just friends", but kissing was taking it too far.If anything it didn't feel like he just wanted only friendship. I suspect that he doesn't have that many friends and his relationships might not have been that successful. So it would make sense that he'd opt for a friendship instead of a relationship (which will eventually end disastrously...)I have to say that I did all the common mistakes to end up in the friendzone. So, currently I'm following the usual steps to get out of it. Any other advice?Thanks
2015. október 20., kedd
He's perfect.
Too bad he's straight and barely knows my name, and I'm too depressed to date anyone.But there's someone for everyone, right?
Attending the recent Pride events has opened my eyes to something.
I might get downvoted to hell for this, but I feel like it has to be brought into light.During the Pride parade this year, I grew tired of all the degrading and defacing stereotypes that the gay community is perpetuating.During Pride, I noticed so many sexual things. I listened to one woman, in particular. She sang a song that required lyrical improvisation. She filled in the blank with words like “pussy”. I also couldn't get through a crowd without someone slapping my ass. Things like these are what makes people think that the LGBT community are full of freaks and perverts.Don’t get me wrong, there were many events of Pride that were great, such as seeing different companies and organizations coming out to show their support. There are qualities about the community that I fully support as well, such as promoting the idea to be proud of oneself. But, it’s not cool if a person is proud of oneself, but also contributes to a community’s degradation like walking around in public three-quarters of the way naked. It's difficult to be a proud member of the community if I have to stand idly by and watch as it gets stigmatized for its stereotypes, such as promiscuity.The negative stereotypes that the LGBT community are perpetuating is perhaps one of the reasons why some parents feel incredibly disappointed when their children come out to them. They feel like their children will become promiscuous and get persecuted by society.This can all stop if enough people promote the idea that homosexual people are not negative icons of human society. Such as keeping all the sexualizing behind closed doors, and promoting the idea that not all gay people want to sleep with every guy who sits next to them.Thank you to any fellow LGBT members who supports this view.
Who do you expect to make the first move, top or bottom?
If you're a bottom do you like it better when the other guy makes the first move? If you're a top, do you enjoy having more control and making the first move? Are you turned off when the other guy initiates? Or, does it not matter? How do you know who should be the one to initiate? Thoughts?
Gay friend help with bi curious friend
Question, would you be comfortable or have you, get with a bi curious friend who want to experience sex with a man.
Looking for info on that old Dildo Energy Drink
Back in 2009 the Hardcore Energy Bullet came out with a very phallic design, here is a picture http://ift.tt/1hRxOMy lost mine and I am sure I'm not the only person here that thought to use this as a toy. Wondering if anyone knows where I could still get one even though the original design hasnt probably been in production since 2010. Really miss this thing.
Gay social events in SJ area?
Looking for a non-bar gay scene in the area. I get that I need to go to SF to really party but there must be something more than 3 deeply mediocre bars in this huge city.
Having trouble understanding these feelings
So to start off I will say that I have lived my life as a straight male my entire life even though I'd had two intimate interactions with males (one kissing, one fellatio) when I was very young, 10-12, trying to figure myself out and just entering puberty. Since then I have only been with women and never really had the desire to have any sexual relations with another male. I have never really seen other men as being attractive the way women are. That being that I have never seen men as sexually attractive but at the same time I fantasize about being in a perfect gay relationship. I would also like to state that I am not a child, I'm not going through puberty, so please don't give me the typical "puberty can be confusing" response. Not trying to sound aggressive. I'm a little confused by these feelings because I do not find men to be particularly physically attractive but at the same time I fantasize about being in a gay relationship. Just looking for other people's thoughts on this and maybe some advice, not really sure. Maybe I just needed it off my chest.
Australian Marriage Equality Interview With Peter Tatchell
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UhSM55X8S2g
Unplanned coming out to both myself and public
I started college as a freshman about a month ago and over this time I've started to embrace the fact that I liked guys. It really wasn't something I had even fully accepted myself before college, as I kept trying to force myself to like girls, and I feel like it is an unconventional way to come out but really just when I went to college I started to act like being gay was something I had been open with for a long time and that it wasn't a secret. It's a little bit complicated to explain but I never came out in the form of a big reveal and announced "I'm gay" but just sort of became openly gay when meeting all these new people in college. None of my friends have any idea that they are the first people to know that I am gay.And again, up until moving to college I never even admitted to myself that I was gay. This whole process just sort of happened when I moved to college and it wasn't something I had planned at all. So I really am new to this lifestyle and there is just so much that I don't know. I feel that this is an unconventional way to come out and I suppose I don't really have a particular question but I sort of just felt like telling my story and hopefully just hearing from other people and having a place to speak my mind anonymously.
2015. október 19., hétfő
Unsure of how to meet guys?
Heyo Reddit. So I'm kinda new to the whole gay dating scene. :P I'm an 18 year old college freshman coming from a small high school out of state. I'm in a liberal area...but I'm finding it significantly hard to find anyone to date.I just want one guy that isn't perfect, but that I'm attracted to and can get along with/do things together. I've tried grindr, and while I initially went crazy (like sucking a dick a day or more crazy) it didn't give me the fulfillment I want. And it's quite frankly a depressing scene because if you ain't super hot or shirtless pic you usually don't get that much attention anyway.Clubs have been good at meeting new friends. But still no gay guys that I know about in them. Or if they are they're not interested. And to be honest I'm just joining clubs to meet people more than because im interested in them. The thing about clubs too is that im kinda shy, so I'm not like the out going gay guys that always have a flock of girls/friends around them :/ (Not to be a pty - me fest Im just being honest xD)It's honestly getting me down. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. Am I ugly? Am I not outgoing enough? Am I too young? It's honestly making me considering transfering schools to a larger city where I'll have more of a pool to work with: or a smaller school where things are more intimate and I might be able to find someone easier.I'm just lonely is all. Even having gay friends would be nice. I went 4 years of high school where other gay guys either weren't out, weren't interested, or we didn't get along. I thought college would be different.Any advice?
Akward gay/bi moments
I just wanna hear some of the most akward situations you deal with as a gay boy or girl. My weirdest moments are when I talk about gay people but pretend Im not part as I still havent come out, even though I could fuck the shit out of the guy next to me. Please this isnt for over serious stuff its more the funny side.
Confused with myself
I have a boyfriend. We've been doing pretty well over the past year, and I'm looking forward to spending a long time, if not the rest of my life, with him. We started off as friends, and somehow, it evolved into a relationship.There's just one issue: I'm straight, or at least I've always thought I was straight my entire life.Honestly, I'm not attracted to him physically; I've never categorized guys by their looks. However, I do have deep feelings for him. I know that no straight person would have a boyfriend, but I don't necessarily think I'm a clean cut homosexual either, so who, or rather what am I?He's a bisexual, so one thing I'm worried about is him finding someone that can do things that I can't and/or refuse to do. Is this something I should be concerned about, or am I just giving myself undue stress?
Help for Someone Lonely
Hello All, new to reddit. I've seen all the memes and whatnot and have been officially sucked into this wonderful mess with you guys.I guess long story short is that I'm a 17 year old college student that was home-schooled and is lonely. I graduated high-school at 11 and started college officially the same year and have been taking my time figuring out what I want to do but I've recently opened up to myself and accepted I am gay. Obviously being an 11 year old in college is GREAT for your social life (sarcasm).I've always been raised around adults and mature people, I never did sports and always had literally zero friends my entire life (locale prohibitive). I've been told that I act/talk/dress like someone far wiser than my years. I grew up on a ranch with my sister, we were homeschooled, and worked our asses off both physically and academically, and still do.As I said in the last few months I've realized that I am gay and I've been struggling because I have no idea how to meet people. My university is full of idiotic teenagers and 20 year olds that frankly make me sick. I have zero desire to socialize with any of them as they are all bros, or have no class/brains. I have always liked older people, people with maturity, composure, and class, and my sexuality lies in the realm of 28 and older, even so right now any human contact with anyone sounds amazing... But I don't want just sex, I want a connection with someone. I want to feel something, but that doesn't look like it exists near me...I guess what I'm looking for is help... I can't find guys over 28 because it's technically not even legal and they can do better than a lonely 17 year old, I hate people my age emotionally and physically, and not only that I'm a full time college student that lives 45 minutes from town so it's not like I'm easy to work with... I've always retreated to the internet in times of need and have made one or two great friends, but I guess just some new perspective would be helpful.I usually wouldn't do this but am just completely miserable and starting to feel like love and passion is something that only exists in movies and/or something the universe uses to torment me. I just want to know what it feels like to have someone care about you and want to hold you/be held, and smell and touch... Not even sex just the comfort of a man's company... I don't know where to find this as a minor or if it's something that even exists... It's hard because age is just a number, it has nothing to do with mental acuity, maturity, or responsibility. I am age 17, but nothing about me resembles a "typical teenager", but I am still treated the same politically as an 8 year old.As I said I'm new to reddit and don't know how the community works but anything anyone offers is extremely appreciated... I'm a loving and passionate person and just want to feel the same back... I've been abused emotionally by several different groups at school for various reasons and I'm tired of being hurt and just want to find one good guy... Doesn't seem like a whole lot to want...Thank you in advance, here's to helping someone find a good path, mindframe, person, or all three... :)-epic1
Update on that awkward 3D Printing story you guys probably don't care about.
So I just went in there to check on the project and he was super nice like nothing happened. it was professional, we discussed the project and how they're not finished yet but will be soon and all that and it was just great. the test version of the project was better than i expected and i'm just happy. no awkward feelings and i can be free to be in there again.
I was straight for 23 years, but now I'm experimenting with a guy next weekend and I'm super nervous.
After I started giving myself prostate stimulation, I started really opening up to the idea of having a gay experience a lot more. I found a guy on an anonymous hookup app to do it with, and he's very down (and I set our terms, no penetration sex just yet only oral sex) but I'm still extremely nervous. Excited nervous too, but nervous like I might get cold feet.There's like a million thoughts running through my head, what if I don't like it, what if I like it more than straight sex, what if someone I know finds out, what if I'm bad at giving head, what if, what if.Anyone have any advice for me or why I might be so nervous about this? I would love to hear thoughts from anyone who's been in my position too.
Coming Out
So I came out about 3 years ago and it was very difficult for me because I was mostly surrounded by alpha male friends. I couldn't accept it and it drove me crazy. I had gotten really depressed and written this poem:http://ift.tt/1GlY7Wx all my bottled up feelings in this poem was the best thing I ever did. Since then I've been very happy and basically all I want to say is just be you and love yourself. And yes it definitely gets better <3.
2015. október 18., vasárnap
Looking to explore a bit
I'm a 20 year old college guy at a large university. Up until a while ago I have always identified as straight. But recently I've become a little but bi curious. I've dated and slept with women before and I'm thinking about trying it with a dude. What would be a good way to go about finding a man to fool around with? If it helps I'm primarily interested in bottoming
I'm Just So Happy
Hello Reddit! I'm 16 and gay and I think I'm the happiest I've ever been. I don't have any sob story and really I've had a very priveleged life so far but still I'm so happy right now. I'm only out to my brothers and a few close friends and this summer I got a crush on a boy and we started texting a lot and it turns out that he's bi! We're very close now and I think we could even be called boyfriends. I never expected to have any sort of relationship in high school so I just wanted to share to let people know that happiness will find you. I hope that he and I can both come out sometime this year because I want people to know about us.
How do you feel about relationships with a significant age gap?
Significant being if one partner could quite literally be the other's parent. Personally I mostly of the train of thought that says age ain't nothing but a number but at some point it does get a little creepy. I know 20 year olds dating 60 year olds and my body cringes a bit even though it's mostly none of my business. But I'm still willing to have an opinion on it. I feel like if there enough eligible bachelors in your own age group what gives? What do you gayls think? Would you date someone way outside of your age range (older or younger) and why?
I broke off contact with my crush from a few years ago. Rediscovered him and found out he felt the same.
Hi, this sub is awesome, because it takes the pressure of my chest.. I met a guy a few years ago. He is by far the best looking guy i can imagine, he is very smart and is very interested in all aspects of life. Although he is 8 years younger, i felt like he knew more about life than i do. He got messages from sooo many guys, what led him to disable his profile everytime he went offline. He had a very bad experience once, which led him to be very careful with meeting new guys or revealing his phone number. At some point i totally misinterpreted his intentions and broke off contact in fear of rejection and to protect myself. I don't know if it is possible to fall in love with someone just by texting over the internet, but it really felt and still does feel real. Fast forward 2 or 3 years. I stumbled over his new profile a few days ago and it instantly threw me back in the same state i left at that time. Nowadays i'm normally able to keep my expectations realistic but with him i have to be again very careful. I can't even look at his photos or my brain will imagine stuff. I texted him and didn't expect him to even remember me. But he did. He said he was disappointed and very sad for many days by the time. That was something i would have never imagined. I explained as good as i could, told him i was afraid to get hurt again or that his profile won't come back online. I hope he will understand, but again i have the same fear as i had years ago. I try my best to avoid acting desperate or clingy, but i have to think about him all the time and don't really know what to expect.. is this a very bad starting condition for a relationship..? a sign of weakness? Can anybody relate to my actions from the past and has a similar experience? I think i just needed this to get off my chest to calm down a bit..it worked before :)
Unsure of what to say
I wanted to ask on here for maybe another perspective. My niece is 10 years old and today she asked me for the second time how is Sam Smith gay? (she heard it from school) Her mother (my sister) is a practicing Christian and doesn't believe that someone is born gay. I'm not not out to her or any family so she's never explained the concept of someone being gay. Do I respect my sisters parental boundaries and tell her to ask my sister? Or I do tell her that some people like the same sex but are no different from mom and dad. The only thing I worry about my sister telling her is that she'll tell her it's wrong. My sister doesn't hate gay people and would never tell her to hate them I just don't think she'll stress the ideas of tolerance and equality. So I guess my question is do I tell her? What do I say? And is it overstepping boundaries to tell her?
Throughout the 9 months I've known my friend, I sent 98,722 texts and received 102,291 from him.
I've had a new phone for about 2 months after we broke up, data usage for whatsapp is still at 100 messages sent/received... And they're all with my mum. Got a time machine anyone?
TIL that if you're a club/bar and talking to a stranger, and that guy said that he's gonna get some drink and will be back -- that means he's trying to get away from you.
Well, it was last night actually. After the guy bought drinks, he went elsewhere and talk to other people.
Gay men: have you noticed that they are more guys that are out as bisexual in the recent years?
In Reddit and other Internet forums, bisexual men are more visible: is that virtual coming out as a bi man something, according to you, that is happening in the same proportions in the real life among your friends and colleagues, at work/school/college? in your families? Do you have out bi men in your circles? not necessarily your dates, boyfriends, partners, etc. But also in all your social circles.
2015. október 17., szombat
Sex drive tanking??
Okay, I have much to say... Four months ago, I began the process of coming out. It was probably the best period of my life so far (I'm 18). Just after I came out for the first time, around July, I noticed a large decrease in sex. I was able to ignore that and blame the decrease on stress and the Zoloft I was taking at the time.Late July, I accidentally came out to my parents, whom were not supportive or accepting of it. They sent me to a pastor, yadda, yadda,yadda, but I was prepared for this and got over it quickly. And by September they've shut up about it, things return to 'normal' but I notice something very strange. My drive was almost nonexistent. I had been off Zoloft for a month, and it was all screwy down there (masturbate maybe once a week, down from every day).As of now, I jack it three times a week if I'm lucky and it doesn't even feel great like it used to. I have trouble maintaining erections, and guys just don't turn me on nearly as much. Physically, I'm pretty healthy, working out three times a week, and no other health problems. Mentally, I feel like I should be over the stress by now if that was causing my libido to collapse. I'm in my senior year, and trying my best to ignore it and stay positive, but this shit has taken a toll on my self-esteem. I just want to explore my sexuality but now I can't!So what should I do? Let it run its course for longer? Maybe hidden stress of coming out? See a doctor but not tell my parents somehow?! Has anyone else been here before? I dont want to be like this forever... I'm freaking out too much about such a thing.
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