2015. június 30., kedd
America is not ready for gay marriage
yes you heard me right,a gay man is telling you that his country shouldn't of legalized gay marriage.you may be wondering why i say this. Well,i say this because gay marriage is now being forced onto states where the MAJORITY of the population does not want it,and i simply can't get behind that. i am a believer of democracy,and i can't support forcing an agenda on people who don't want it.the only thing this has done is create even more division in america,i predict we will soon see a reemergence of a klu klux klan type group,burning churches that dare marry gay couples.were going to see more people get hurt,were going to see more people die,we saw it after brown v board of education,we will see it again,and no amount of gay pride parades will fix this.you may say "well this is the price we must pay for equality,we will most likely see an MLK like figure emerge to lead us" well i am sorry but that is a fantasy,a fairy tale. we live in a lazy generation,a generation of twitter nuts and facebook junkies. all we are going to see is the emergence of a leader who is not willing to go that extra mile,who is not willing to to march from selma to montgomery,who is not willing to be shot for his cause.we got to face facts,either we will fight as hard as mlk did,or we will forever live in a nation that is not only non welcoming to gays,but hazardous to gays. that is not to mention the divisions that plague the union today,i will not be suprised if we see a vice versa effect in states like california,maryland,or delaware, where PEACEFUL anti gay marriage advocates are persecuted and or killed.this legislature has not saved us from the lynch mob,it has only scolded it even more,while simoteanusly giving them our adress (the churches holding gay marriages)
Now that you gays can get married, it is only time before this happens!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hpPwB5X4yc
What Exactly Attracted You to an LGBT Lifestyle and When Did You Decide to be LGBT?
Title says it all really, I'm just wondering what made you guys choose to be homosexual or bisexual or whatever you are :)
PSA: Public Displays of Affection
Look, I'm just as accepting and open to homosexuality, transexuality and whatever else you guys like to identify as this week, but lately I've been a bit shocked by the behavior I've come across in the wake of the SCOTUS ruling. Now I know you guys were pretty pumped after the ruling so I put my feelings to one side and tolerated the public displays of affection I came across in public. But its been a few days now and I think enough is enough and something needs to be said.The thing that has been particularly bothering me is the holding of hands. Now the holding of hands is something which should be reserved for utility purposes i.e making sure your child does not run away or for displaying affection to your partner. Now me and my wife along with all our other friends do not hold hands as we realize how impractical and awkward it is, so don't try to trick me by claiming it that it is something you naturally enjoy doing with your love buddy. When you guys hold hands, you don't do it out of some sense of deep affection for one another or for utility, you do it to rub your sexuality in the faces of all the good folk around town. You enjoy baiting and flaunting your choice of lifestyle in the face of those who tolerate you. How are we supposed to tolerate your kind if you are always trying to incite us and make us feel uncomfortable.I appeal to you all out there to stop this behavior before someone less tolerant than me falls for the bait and lashes out. Its not big and its not clever to incite and humiliate the rest of society in this way, if you want to live that way that's fine but keep it to yourself and your own property.Thank you very much kind people for listening.
Why the legalization of gay marriage is an important step towards peace in the LGBTQ community.
Flirty fruities eat dirty booties. Leave your faggots to maggots. I decry! Begone! peckertuckers, and puckersuckers. And pricklickers, and clitflickers. And scuzzguzzlers, and diddlerfiddlers. And maryannes, and maricons. And those whose leave their women lone.🍵 turns pageCast aside your limpwristed, your prancedancing, your thesbian, your singsong epicene! For they are but exaggerated clowns, and anachronistic court jesters, whom portray to you a parody of the holy feminine.Damned are those women who adorn themselves in the garments of men, and emulate them; curse themselves did they, for each and all unions between them are barren, lest they give themselves to strange seed in order to conceive a fatherless bastard. Lost are those wretched maidens deflowered by those few devilish men among you, and seduced by foul females, and left to wither like trampled blooms. Forever are they to deny themselves the divine phallus, in exchange for tapered fingers and trinkets.This lot shall adorn themselves in red and amber ribbons of flame, writhing empassioned to the rhythm of house music that is never to end.
Family Rejects Gay Son For Refusing ‘Gay Wedding’ (Comedy Sketch)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f15mhTCYO8I
Love and Acceptance across all 50 states! We finally did it!
Flirty fruities eat dirty booties. Leave your faggots to maggots. I decry! Begone! peckertuckers, and puckersuckers. And pricklickers, and clitflickers. And scuzzguzzlers, and diddlerfiddlers. And maryannes, and maricons. And those whose leave their women lone.🍵 turns pageCast aside your limpwristed, your prancedancing, your thesbian, your singsong epicene! For they are but exaggerated clowns, and anachronistic court jesters, whom portray to you a parody of the holy feminine.Damned are those women who adorn themselves in the garments of men, and emulate them; curse themselves did they, for each and all unions between them are barren, lest they give themselves to strange seed in order to conceive a fatherless bastard. Lost are those wretched maidens deflowered by those few devilish men among you, and seduced by foul females, and left to wither like trampled blooms. Forever are they to deny themselves the divine phallus, in exchange for tapered fingers and trinkets.This lot shall adorn themselves in red and amber ribbons of flame, writhing empassioned to the rhythm of house music that is never to end.
Family Rejects Gay Son For Refusing ‘Gay Wedding’ (Comedy Sketch)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f15mhTCYO8I
Idea for a Blog: Questioning Experiences
Hi r/ainbow. I am cross posting this to a few Reddit communities. This post comes in three parts. The first part is the motivation for the idea. The second part is what I think the broader problem is. The third part is what I propose to do about it.What I want is criticism of the idea. Is it helpful? Am I proposing solving it in a sensible way?1) What led me to this?A friend of mine 'came out' on Facebook as, for lack of a better word, questioning. He's not coming out as bi or gay. He's said that the best moniker he can think of is '?', followed by 'not straight'.2) The wider problemThis got me thinking. He's literally the only person I know of who has told the wider world that they are questioning their sexuality. I know a number of people who are. Most people just announce one day they've figured it out. At most, some will (drunkenly) tell a few close friends they've having difficulty working out what their identity is.I remember the period of questioning my sexuality. It was very lonely and isolating. I think others have the same experience.I can contrast that to when I came out. Then there was no end of communities I could access. Being out might feel lonely, but there's a lot of communities, online and IRL, to make it feel much less so.Even the concept of LGBTQ (q for questioning) is alienating. Resources and communities are focussed around the idea that you'll eventually figure out your latent queer identity. This makes accessing LGBTQ resources problematic. People who are questioning often don't want to access LGBTQ resources: because they're not sure that they are. LGBTQ starts with four defined identities: concrete ideas of who you are. Questioning people are not even sure they're queer: they might be straight. LGBT resources are definitionally shut off from them. That's a strong psychological barrier towards joining forums for most people.There's almost nothing for questioning people. /r/questioning is largely dominated by people who are probably fairly rapidly going to identify as bi or gay. Literally the only community I've ever come across largely for questioning people is /r/totallystraight (deeply NSFW). This isn't anyone's fault, it's because people tend to resolve these questions fairly rapidly. Even if people are only questioning for a year or so, that's not enough time to build and identity, and become part of a community for questioning people.I think we're unlikely to develop a strong community where people who are questioning can go.This is a large segment of the population. Almost every bisexual, lesbian or gay person will, at some point, have been questioning. A decent whack of straight people have at some point questioned their sexuality.3) My solution.If we can't create a questioning community, what can we do to support questioning people?As I said above, a core problem is isolation and loneliness. Second only to forming a community for support, the only solution I can think of is to stop people from feeling alone.We often like to share our coming out stories - I think because they come from a position of strength. We don't often share our questioning stories, because they're from a position of weakness. I think as a result, people can find it hard to find kinship when they're questioning. They find it hard to talk about, because no-one else does.I am considering making a blog of stories. This would have contributions from bi people, straight people, gay people, asexual people, and if possible, people who are still questioning.Tl;dr. I want to start a blog of people's experiences of questioning their sexualities. I think it would make a period of time spent questioning less isolating. What do you think?
Should I ask to he bfs or too soon?
I've been seeing a guy since April 25 so just passing two months. Is it to early to ask to be bfs? We go on alot of dates have got on a vacation out of town together and spent the night.
straight male auditioning for gay stripper
Hi tonight i am auditioning at a gay bar as a dancer, and have no idea what gay men want to see. I have to wear assless underwear. Should I shave my ass? what should I expect. I am 21 and doing this to pay for college. I am slightly chubby, will this effect if i get through the auditions? i will post pics.sorry for the grammar on mobile.
No U-Haul for you at "no gays allowed" hardware store
As you may have read, a hardware store in Tennessee decided to revive a proud local tradition of selective retailing. (http://ift.tt/1R2gJzz) Sadly, that sort of thing is probably to be expected for small businesses in rural Tennessee run by baptist ministers. What's more surprising, and not reported in the paper, though, is that the store still appears to rent U-Hauls. (http://ift.tt/1ehc7nF) Does U-Haul really want to be associated with this? Or have they not gotten around to pulling the franchise yet?
Trouble Coming Out and I'm 28
Events and circumstances in my life had led me to the point where I am 28 years old and not publicly out as a gay man. I am out to three friends, but not to family members and other friends. From 18 to 25 I was in a relationship with a woman, which obviously had its fair share of problems. I'm lucky to have open-minded parents who I know would not have trouble accepting me, but I guess the idea of totally upsetting the apple cart scares me. I just feel like this would be such a surprise to them especially because of my past relationships. I can't imagine actually sitting down and discussing this face-to-face with my parents, so have considered writing a letter. I just need advice or stories from your experiences, especially if you were a late bloomer like I feel I am. I guess I'm getting to the point where I'm realizing this is a pull-the-band-aid-off-quickly situation, but it's still hard for me to pull the trigger.
A Moroccan gay beaten up in public
I just found this video of a Moroccan gay beaten up public just because He is Gay and was walking in a different manner , People followed him and They all started beaten him up with Rocks and hands https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=INFtDvA5VoM
Book recommendation? History of LGBT struggle for equality?
Does anyone have any recommendations for a book that is both very thorough and both very readable about the struggle for LGBT equality in the United States and around the world? I came out this year but dont feel like I really understand this history, it wasnt emphasized in school.Mainly I am looking for a book that meets the following criteriaThorough and well researchedDoesnt just explain but attempts to frame the history as a compelling narrativeDoesnt just focus on Unitied StatesIs aimed at a general audience, not solely academics or only members of the LGBT community.
2015. június 29., hétfő
I made a video in defense of pride parades
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDwFuZw_GdM&feature=youtu.be
"How to Be a Trans Ally: The Video" powerful video performed by Evolve Benton AKA Emotions the Poet, produced by Liberty Hill Foundation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GNWCfeXQ8A
Woman says she spotted ISIS flag at gay pride
https://www.youtube.com/attribution_link?a=F1SyS2JcN7I&u=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Didk0uiK1D-Q%26feature%3Dshare
Woman says she spotted ISIS flag at gay pride
https://www.youtube.com/attribution_link?a=DmNjPcxGsbw&u=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Didk0uiK1D-Q%26feature%3Dshare
Enjoying Pride in Soho, London this weekend taking sexuality with people
https://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=bHXShfHK4wg
2015. június 28., vasárnap
SUPREME COURT RULES IN FAVOR OF GAY MARRIAGE. My message to the LGBT community.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enwdC-ZIRGo
Hillary Clinton on Gay Marriage in 2004
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6I1-r1YgK9I&feature=youtu.be
2015. június 27., szombat
this is what i spend my time doing
https://www.youtube.com/attribution_link?a=kvFJd-W3RYI&u=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DPMQ7iEX6G4Y%26feature%3Dshare
Christian Spiritist view on LGBTparade demonstration
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sbLiTxvmY5w&feature=youtu.be
2015. június 26., péntek
History was made - Gay Rights is a human right
https://www.youtube.com/attribution_link?a=r5WEXyeUNJA&u=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DhNecIOsOmWg%26feature%3Dshare
To celebrate gay marriage, let's remember Why Gays Shouldn't Get Married
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZ0Kn_qyNhM
SCOTUS rules in favor of same-sex marriage.
https://twitter.com/freedomtomarry/status/614433371394048000
I've worked on my craft for 5 years. Really happy with my Pride drag performance! Hope you like it :)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8TLuuXtqJhM
2015. június 25., csütörtök
Matt Baume brilliantly goes through 4,000 years of "traditional marriage" rules to show how marriage has always been redefined for the better -- "Until 1993 it was legal for a man to rape his wife in some states…outlawing spousal rape was a radical redefinition of marriage going back 1000s of years"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90_UlLSz6Nc
Gay Phase?
This is in no way meant to offend anybody at all whatsoever.Okay so I'm a 14 year old guy (straight I might add) who used to think he was gay. I had always liked and had crushes on girls up until about 6-7 grade when I suddenly started noticing guys more. I didn't think I could actually be gay though for some reason. I just couldn't. So I continued this secret life until 9th grade when I met this girl and guy who became my best friends. After only a few months I realized how much I loved this girl and now we are in a great (secret...) relationship I hope lasts forever.The other guy however, well let's call him Chris, came out to me in a friend way telling me he's gay. But something didn't feel right about it and it still doesn't feel right now. Not that I'm at all against gays or anything like that. But I just can't actually see him as gay. I have other gay friends who I am completely fine around, but it just doesn't feel right him being gay. Could it be possible that he's still in a sort of "Gay Phase" like I was? How long? And I know if he isn't then I'd have to accept it. I care about him a lot like, he's a brother to me. He's in our school choir and I think that might be confusing his orientation as a guy maybe just a bit. But of course I could be completely wrong on all of this.
I want to give up.
Some prelim TWs. Suicidal thoughts, suicidal tendencies, depression, family issues, friendship issues, loneliness, worthlessness. I think that's all.You guys probably get these every day, I don't know what I mean by 'these' but I'm sure you get them. I'm not even sure where this belongs, so chances are it'll end up as a x-post with, idk, /r/depression? I can already tell I'm going to get some 'you're over-reacting' comments, and I won't dismiss them. I probably am. I just need someone to talk to. Or at.Let me start out by giving some background to this. I'm 16, Australian, cis female, and pansexual. I realised I wasn't straight after a friend came out to me as bi about two years ago now. I told her a little while afterwards.Around that same time, I got hit hard with a depressive phase. I started harming myself and it was only when an ex-friend (ex for other reasons) told a school counsellor that I was able to pull out of it. Had I not been able to, there is a chance it would have ended very badly. I've never told anybody this.Problem is, because I got ratted on, I ended up with HUGE trust issues. Massive. To the point where I can't talk about anything to do with my ~feeeeeeeeeelings~ without being derisive and bitchy towards whoever is drawing it out of me. I don't even talk to my best friends about it without feeling like The World's Biggest Fucking Idiot™.Whatever. But shit's gotten bad recently and I don't have any real explanation for it. So instead I just feel uselessly stupid. I never cry. Normally. I can't shed two fucking tears, not even when a relative dies (not that that's happened recently, but from memory, my tear ducts sucked even back when one of my family members last died.) But lately, it's all I've wanted to do. I feel like everyone is always watching me, always waiting for me to do something completely stupid or reckless or dangerous or a combination of all three so they can get their LOLs.I'm in a school production at the moment. I've missed a few rehearsals, because I felt like shit, or I didn't know they were on thanks to the fucking great organisational skills of my school. Whenever I walk into the auditorium area where we rehearse, I want to throw myself off an overpass. Everyone stares, I'm sure of it. One... 'friend' looks at me with a mixture of pity and something else... disappointment? I think so. She talks down to me, like I'm a five year old caught with their hand in the cookie jar by their overly-strict, dieting, Catholic father. She tells me what to do in the most condescending way possible. And I let her, because I already feel like shit, so why not just heap some derision and condescension on top too? What a fabulous sundae.Plus, I think a teacher in the same production wants to rip my head off. I'm in the chorus, so they could definitely chuck me out if they wanted to. At this point, it would be merciful. Perhaps that is why they are withholding it from me. She looks at me as though I rose from the grave and proclaimed that I was Jesus, and the other dude was an impostor, not to be trusted.This is already really jumpy (and angry, apparently), and I'm sorry, because chances are it will get worse.A lot of what I carry is guilt, I think. I have a lot of people try to guilt me into doing things I have absolutely zero motivation to do. And for pretty much no reason. My mother, for instance. She is probably the worst source.It's all the little things, teeny tiny things building up over a great length of time that just shit me off and make me feel like a pile of dung next to a busy highway. Vile, unimportant. I feel like, through her life, I've caused my mother a great deal of unnecessary pain and trouble. She was 21, turning 22, the year she had me, and when she got pregnant, my biological father left her. Number one already, and I'm not even fucking born yet.And now, lately, the little things are building up again, and I haven't got any idea how to deal with it (well, I do, but it ain't healthy.) It was her birthday recently and in the morning, when I woke up, my mind was on approaching exams (which, by the way, I'm sure I failed, just to, y'know, top it all off) so I didn't wish her a happy birthday. She prompted me, saying 'Is there anything you want to say to me?' Her choice of words confused me. I thought I was in the doghouse for something so I quickly went through everything I'd done wrong that week- not studying as much as I should, stealing chocolate from the cupboard, etc., etc.. I replied 'No?' and boy did I feel it for a week. Nothing physical happened- she didn't hit me. But the way she acted... I don't know, but it certainly felt like I'd been hit by a truck. The guilt was so intense that, when I got to school, I barely spoke to anyone at all.Then, a few days later, she and I were sitting on the couch talking about how I (a heavy-chested gal) saw a breast reduction in my future. She said something about doctors not doing it until you are finished having children. I already am. 0 children is the perfect amount of children for me. I reminded her of this and what I think happened is she took it as a personal slight against her parenting style. Only thing is... she's an excellent mother. I would die for her. It's got nothing to do with her, only the fact that I'd legitimately die before I had children. 'Over my dead body' comes to mind.But she held that one and the birthday one over me for a little while, and holy dick on a stick did it hurt (and holy dicks on sticks does it still hurt.) I'm ashamed of myself for it all.There was a time when, after that depressive period mentioned earlier passed, I was incredibly confident and sure of who I was, where I wanted to go in life. I wanted to be an actress, to walk the red carpet in beautiful dresses and tall shoes from designers with unpronounceable names. I wanted to travel the world (actually, I still do) and see everything that we as a race, as a planet, have to offer before I blipped off the face of the earth forever. I want to help people in similar situations struggling with themselves.It's hard now though, to even find the motivation to get up from the floor any more. The acting dream is all but lost. Well, I still want it. I just don't ever see it happening. Whatever I'm experiencing now certainly isn't helping. I feel inadequate to my peers. They are good actors, I feel sub-par. Lesser. I did, somehow, manage to land a lead role in a school play last year, but none of my friends came to see it. None of them. That hurt. My brain also decided now would be the best time to worry about money in my family. I think we are fine, but I don't want my parents to spend extravagant amounts of money on me. We're going to Paris to avoid ex-family members for Xmas this year, again. The costs have me worried.I've yet to come out to my grandmother and my father. My grandmother is... grossed out by the thought of two people with the same gender identity dating. My dad? He seems indifferent. I know when it comes, it'll be a big blow. I'm dreading it.Probably the main reason I wrote this is because I just told my best friend I love her. She's the one that made me realise I wasn't as straight as I thought. She said she didn't know what to say, or if she felt the same way. I don't resent her, I resent myself for being so stupid as to think that someone would love me back the same way. I just feel stupid.I think I'm finished crying/whining now. If you've made it this far, go have a cookie or something, because to be honest, if I were reading this, I wouldn't have the strength to finish it.TL;DR: I'm a fucking idiot and everyone knows it. I'm probably worthy of what I get. Huge trust issues, possible depressive relapse, infinitely angry. Used to self-harm and have suicidal ideation. Everything building up to an explosive conclusion. Lots of ~fun~ times behind and more on the horizon.
Saw this on the comment section of the live blog on Scotusblog which someone gave there thoughts on if there will be a decision tomorrow on gay rights.
We have gotten a HUGE number of questions about whether the Court is planning to release gay marriage tomorrow because it is a historic day for gay rights already. That is enormously unlikely, in my view. The main determinant of when a case comes out is when it is ready; the Court barely considers other factors at all. And these matters are largely under the control of the Chief's office, and I think it would be genuinely surprising, given all the things the Court is working on right now, if this kind of coincidence was in mind. The intervening third cause of days in late June being a big day for gay rights is that days in late June are when big SCOTUS decisions come down. The coincidence could hold tomorrow, or maybe not.
Is homophobia real? [X-post LGBTeens]
Good morning/day/afternoon/evening, /r/Gay!So this guy asserts that homophobia no longer exists in our society. You can see my comment there, where I have compiled a list of instances of homophobia from this and other gay-oriented subreddits. But there is only so much I can do.Please, if you or anyone have experienced homophobia and you are willing to share your story, please let him know.The journey to equality begins with awareness. Awareness can begin with one person. Thanks for your time!
[Throwaway] Enema Help [gross details]
Sometimes after doing a (light?) enema in prep for anal sex, in which I empty it out as much as possible and seem clean, I then, a couple hours later, experience mucous-farts. Needless to say, this makes me very self-conscious and prevents sex. What am I doing wrong?I use warm tap water and lube the nozzle first.
How do we resolve the gay double-standard?
It is amazing to me the hate that is so common place in the LGBT community. Its not just "us vs them" but equally "us vs us", and how sad is it that we cant seem to find love for ourselves.I find myself today upset at the fact that when we look at LGBT perspectives in real world culture we find shows like "The Fosters" which is an amazing look into a "normal" lesbian couple. The show is focused more on life as a married couple, than the couple themselves. When we look into the gay (male) shows there are so many that encompass the couple, but not the life.Sex is great and I love that the world is becoming more and more comfortable with equality. I want to see shows that encompass what a normal life for a gay man could look like. Something that covers things far more important than sex. That covers life.I come about this rant as part of a quest to understand. As a young adult who didnt come out until college and has always lived in a very conservative place I dont know what it looks like to be a functioning gay man in society.So I pose the question:How do we resolve the double standard? How do we show what life could be like? How do we show the upcoming lgbt youth what a normal and productive life looks like?(I know that there is the underlying assumption that there is something different about lgbt life than that of those who identify as straight. Although the goal would be to someday live where it doesnt matter, your orientation, but today it is different.)
2015. június 24., szerda
It's getting harder and harder to not love Hillary Clinton...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2Y9abmNuRw
Sometimes "indifference" hurts as badly as malice.
Ok, first off, I'd like to point out that I could never compare what's going on in my life to that of others' lives. So please listen to what I have to say, rather than picking at my title. Also, I'm on my mobile, so sorry for any formatting issues.My SO's mother is a very... unpleasant woman, shall we say. She's also highly judgmental of me and may lash out at me, through my SO (she notches to him and he's forced to listen, which just stresses him out), with no warning. That being said, she has no idea that I'm bi, and if she were to find out, she would likely start calling me a whore/promiscuous/etc.I really have no intention of her finding out any time soon, since we still have to deal with her until we get a bit more financially stable. However, I'm worried about it slipping out somehow, since I'm out to just about everyone else that I know.What scares me the most, though, is less having to deal with her, and more that my dad is "indifferent" concerning my orientation, and would likely end up asking me why I would tell her--as if it would be my fault that she'd react that way. Essentially, I'm worried about victim blaming from my dad, who we also have to deal with until we're more financially stable. Tips/advice/stories/anecdotes? I'm cool with jokes, too. I'm feeling pretty down about this situation, so they'd probably cheer me up quite a bit.TL;DR: I'm bi, my SO's mom is crazy, and my dad is the type of indifferent person where he's not actually indifferent, but prefers to not talk about it. If my SO's mom finds out I'm bi, dad will essentially be on her side.Edit: clarification
Hillary Clinton on Gay Marriage 2004.. Do you think she's changed her position since then?
https://youtu.be/6I1-r1YgK9I
Confused
I realized I love gay porn and watch it more than I've been watching girl and guy porn. I need to figure out if I love guys or just want their penises. How can I know?
Today on Twitter--"Not confusing: bisexuality. Confusing: Whether this bimonthly publication comes 6 times or 24 times a year."
https://twitter.com/ruthbrarian/status/613527417852968960
Help. Not sure where I fit.
I am a 28 year old pretty straight guy. I am really attracted to girls, but I have thoughts a lot of times such as:Being with a cute transSeducing another guy, but being the alphaHaving a gay experience with 1 or 2 other guysAny thoughts?
Just for a moment, I though I was out
I’m early-30s, gay, closeted, based in the UK.When I was a kid, I liked girls. I was outgoing, a massive flirt, even in primary school.When I was 12, I was sexually assaulted by a total stranger when I was skipping school in a local woods. It’s possible that I’d started to develop homosexual feelings at that point but I’m not sure. I’ve always wondered if he sensed something in me, that maybe he knew before I did. But, I think what he did to me pushed any feelings I did have way, way down, and for a very long time.I didn’t talk about it with anyone. Even though I was young, I knew instinctively I couldn’t tell my parents about what happened. Even though I was a victim, I understood that this would somehow diminish me in my parents eyes. So, 12 year old me kept it secret (many years later I did try to tell my father, but before I could get it out he changed the subject).It took me a long time to understand, and longer still to accept, that I was sexually attracted to men. I know some people say they always knew, or knew from a very young age, but I didn’t.My family, even the more progressive ones, have always been deeply homophobic. There were no outwardly gay people in my life; not in my social circles (real and virtual), not in university, and not in work. As such, when I encountered these feelings, there was no one to talk to or confide in. So I ignored it and refused to accept it as part of me.Coming out wasn’t even something I entertained. I’d been clinically depressed since my teens (I tried to kill myself a few months after that assault) and I’d picked 30 as the arbitrary age by which I’d off myself; I figured by then I could push friends and family far enough away that they wouldn’t be hurt when I finally did it. There didn’t seem to be any point in ‘upsetting’ my family when I was so sure of my plan to commit suicide. I came very close to doing it too; I ran away to Canada (on a visa) with the intent of offing myself somewhere away from my friends and family, only when I got there I fell in love with the country and life didn’t seem to bad. Sadly, I had to come back. Now I feel trapped in a lie that I can’t un-tell, and in a life that feels like it doesn’t belong to me.Recently I’ve become a bit more self-accepting of my sexuality. I’ve even started dropping hints to some of my closest friends; starting with a man-crush on Chris Pratt, and gradually dialling that up to a point where I’ll comment on guys I find attractive. I’d even started to fantasise about the reality of coming out to my parents, thinking maybe their views had softened over the years.Today, my mother called for a catch up. The conversation, as ever, got to its usual point of: “Are you seeing anyone?”. I gave my usual reply “No”, and served up my usual excuses: “Work/study/life is keeping my too busy”. She adds: “Your father asked me the other day - ‘You don’t think he’s gay do you?’”. My heart stopped in my chest.Should I just say yes and get this off my chest once and for all? Is this my chance? Is she inviting me to tell her? She finishes: “You’re not gay though, are you?”. And it’s gone. her tone is sort of quietly disgusted, indicating there’s only one acceptable answer to that question.In a heartbeat, all those dreams of coming out just evaporated. Reality reasserted itself.Maybe one day I can escape to North America, away from my old life, and start again.
restroom nomenclature and signage suggestions
I've done a cursory search of /r/ainbow and I've seen some discussion on transgender/unisex/ restrooms. I was wondering if this community had any ideas or preferences on what everyone would like to see in public accommodations. For example, somebody might suggest that certainly these can just be called "restrooms," but then some people might be confused as to who is "allowed" to enter, because we're so used to having "gender-designated" areas. I think it's important to make everyone feel comfortable with their surroundings and restroom options regardless of whether they're at school or in a store. So I'd like to get some input.What are good names for these restrooms? What are bad names?What should the sign look like? What shouldn't it look like?I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this. I'm sorry if it isn't.
Coming out online? (As ace)
Recently I realized I was asexual. Like, earlier this week. I always knew I was different, but I assumed I had a low sex drive. Everyone talking about sex was so foreign to me, I assumed everyone I knew were very perverted but when somebody suggested I might be ace I researched it and it matched me perfectly. It's not a huge deal knowing I have the label, I didn't feel ostracized or terrible for feeling so different, and I don't feel nervous or better for knowing I'm asexual. I just know that information now. But now, I'm thinking about coming out. Part of me wants to not formally come out at all, and just casually mention it when it comes up. Because the truth is, it's not that big of a deal to me. I still want to be in relationships with pretty girls like people have assumed, the only difference the type of relationship I want. And for some friends, this difference is something people already know about (one time I told my friends I'd rather watch Netflix with a girl than have sex with her, they looked at me very strangely). Coming out just seems like more awkwardness than it's worth. I'm not trying to demean asexuality but it's not the same as coming out as homosexual, transgender, etc. If it were something that largely effects my life like that I'd be coming out to my friends in person because that's more intimate and special. But this just seems... less important to be honest. To a new romantic partner? Yeah tell them. But is it super necessary to come out to my friends? I'm not looking for a definite answer, just opinions and thoughts.One thought I had was coming out via text chat. I know it sounds odd, but I talk to most of my friends online most of the time anyway. We voice chat and text chat throughout the day and play video games. A lot of the awkwardness would be gone if I could just chat with people one by one and basically say "Hey, have you ever heard of asexuality?..." (Part of the awkwardness for me is worrying my friends might not have heard of asexuality, but bringing it up randomly might be a bit weird and on the nose) "...well uhh, that's like... that's totally me." Would the lack of intimacy be that big of a deal? My sister is trans and I found out through her tumblr, that really hurt me. I've mostly gotten over it, it was a year and a half ago, but at the time I really hate that she never even came out to me. I read it in a blog post. Might this feeling be shared by my own friends? Or are those two very different situations, because coming out as trans changes more things than coming out as ace.
The worst thing about being in the closet..
.. isn't not having sex or a relationship. It's the fact that nobody in my life knows me. And I mean truly knows me.Family and friends don't know I'm gay. People I meet online don't know who I am. Ever person I've ever interacted with only know a part of me. No one ever knew me.And I made it that way. And I'm fucking afraid of uncovering myself -vulnerabilities or not- to any other human. I just want for anyone to know me, for real.
Can we talk about other identities?
In the fallout of the whole Rachel Dolezal thing, I noticed people on the internet comparing her to Caitlyn Jenner. In response to that, there were a lot of people replying that there is absolutely no comparison, because Rachel Dolezal is crazy, or she's trying to invade black spaces, or she's lying about who she is, and they're glad she got fired after being outed. Just basically, the exact same kind of rhetoric that's lobbed at trans people. It really disheartens me to see trans people and allies just turning around and lobbing the kind of hate at someone for identifying as something that's less approved by society.It's not just Dolezal, though. I've noticed this for a long time. People will totally get it and respect your identity if it's "male" or "female", but as soon as they hear someone identifies as something else, all that compassion and respect for every person's right to determine their own identity, all of it just dries up. This goes for groups like otherkin or third gender too.I'm just sick of this idea that people seem to operate on that supporting trans rights rights requires also hating on any identity that isn't male or female, or somewhere on a straight line between them. That it requires not only building a wall between identifying as female or male and identifying as anything else, but then also shoveling as much shit as possible over that wall. I'm just tired of it and needed to say something.
Quick Question
Hey I'm newly 18 year old, gay, in Sydney Australia and am going out to a gay club this weekend. I have no gay guy friends, so I've opted to take a few of my girlfriends (all straight) out with me.My question is, would that be weird or looked down on ? Like is it normal to take your straight girl friends out with you, or should i wait till i have some gay friends to take with me? I only ask because i don't know if people prefer the crowd to be all Guys or...?I don't know if this is a stupid question or not, i was just thinking it over in my head the past couple hours. Thank you!!!
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2015. június 23., kedd
I'm gay! :D (yay, I guess!)
I used to think I was pansexual but I've pretty much realised that I wouldn't be happy dating a girl, I think I'd feel somewhat incomplete, as if something is missing. Therefore I want to date boys. I'm about where I'll meet a boy in my small university town but I'm not in a rush (only 18) so I guess I can maybe wait? Who knows!Also I wouldn't feel as bad about my body. I'm agender so I'd feel weird dating and eventually having sex with a girl, seeing how my body is different I imagine I'd feel really uncomfortable. But with a boy we're the same so I'd feel much more secure. Weird I know! I hate being trans* tbh, it's different.However, I'm gay, I know I like boys and not really girls but I still find people like the amazingly talented singer Emma Lousie really quite cute and pretty, surely that suggests I'm not gay?Finally, I'm a bit concerned, how can I know I'm gay if I've never been in a relationship, even a straight one?
I kissed a boy and I liked it~
Pardon the dorky title, I'm just a little bit giddy is all! Also hello everybody! I'm a long time lurker, first time poster, and recently bi-curious! I wouldn't go so far as to say bisexual since this is all new to me for the most part and I'm still sorting some stuff out, but definitely curious.Long story short, one of my best male friends (who is an out pansexual) recently hung out after over half a year of not seeing each other. we've always been very close and open with each other, but I've never felt -that way- about him. To celebrate our reunion we pretty much took a whole boatload of acid and molly, took a long hike, and watched some crazy movies. Towards the end of the night and after a lot of cuddling (something that pretty much happens with all of our friends with molly, lol) he looked over to me and asked "can I kiss you?" I guess I was giving him bedroom eyes or something because I was toying with the idea in my head,but I would have never dared to be the one to go for it. I replied with a casual shrug and a "sure man", and we made out quite a bit after that. It was pretty amazing.Now, I know what you guys are thinking. It was just the molly, right? Well, that's what I thought at first, but as I contemplate that night and the days pass on, my feelings remain the same. I don't know if I'm attracted to men, in general, but I'm definitely attracted to him. The best part about about all of this is that my girlfriend (whom I told shortly after what happened of course!) was extremely supportive and not even the least bit upset. She just told me I was cute, that she was glad I told her, and that she had a similar period of uncertainty earlier in her life, and that she'd support me all the way through it, so shoutouts to a loving, supportive, and ultra-sexy girlfriend, I love you kitty <3Therewasalsotalkofapossiblethree-waybutthat'sastoryforanothertime>.>TL;DR: Made out with a same sex high school buddy, liked it a lot. Thanks for reading~
Military pride
I just came back from an LGBT pride luncheon...... on a U. S. Air Force base. Hosted by the commander. All the traditional military stuff, plus a very powerful speaker with his husband. Very poignant stuff about how they had to go through all the stresses every military couple has, plus they had to keep everything about themselves secret, while opposite-sex military spouses could enjoy the support of each other and of the command.It felt great. The American military is now the American military, of and for all of us, not just a subset. I never expected to see the day so soon.
Bad/depressing situation. Looking for advice. (Sorry for the length)
Okay. Well, where to begin. I'm a college student who is home for the summer. The last few weeks of this school year were amazing! I loved every moment of it. But one guy in particular really caught my attention. (Oh, I am a guy as well. Hint. Hint.) We're both pretty masculine, not like extremely manly, but I'd say definitely more masculine traits than feminine. He asked me about my sexuality while eating sushi in my dorm once. After telling him I was bi (sort of, I hate labels but for simplicity), he started to hang around me a lot and I, as expected, really started to enjoy his presence and began really liking him. He knows I'm into a guy whose apart of our friend-group, but he doesn't know its him.He identifies as straight, but it just seems strange that this great friendship happened all of a sudden. I have spoken to a good friend about it and she says she has questioned his sexuality, too. My theory about it is that he has a strict, "macho" dad so he has to try to be a "man" to impress him. Also, he went to an all boys school, so he might have tried to fit in with the bros.I hate it. He tells me these stories of girls hooking up with his friends after flirting with him, getting his hopes up, treating him like shit. He told me about his ideal woman in this deep discussion we had, and everything he described (besides all the lady parts, obviously) was something that I would do and would be happy to do for him. I become depressed and attack myself for it.He wants to come visit me sometime this summer (which I would love), but I am hesitant. My house isn't anything like his (he has money). I don't want to show him to my friends here. Quite frankly, I have become bored of them now. I feel like I would feel ashamed if he came. I know that sounds awful, but... I don't know, it just sounds awful.Now, I have fallen into this state of not feeling. I don't even know if I'm sad or depressed because I just don't feel anything. I feel alone and go to places like restaurants and shisha lounges alone now, even if my friends here want to hang out. I just work, read my school books, and smoke weed. That friend previously mentioned (not the guy) has noticed and says I'm a mess.I'm looking for REAL, DEEP, INTELLECTUAL advice, not that, "Sometimes, a ray of sunshine clears the cloudiest days," bullshit. TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK, PLEASE. I just need to get through the summer.
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Relatively new to gay lifestyle. Boy trouble and terrified to come out.
In case anyone cares, this is me. http://ift.tt/1Iw96aN... I've been living the gay life style for only about over a year now. I had always been attracted to guys, I think, but I always kind of just thought it was an insecurity type of thing. Like, me wishing I looked like a guy because of how good looking he was. Fast forward to 24 year old me. I got curious and went to one of those gay chat roulette things and was pretty much enjoying myself. I met a guy on there who happened to be less than a mile away from me. We ended up chatting for a good bit and met up and he blew me. That was my first gay experience. And I enjoyed it. Then came grindr and a few more gay experiences. From grindr, I met this guy who I fell in love with. Here I am, age 26, and in an on and off again relationship with him. I love him. But there are many, many aspects of this relationship that I do not like. We've been dating since February last year and he's just barely started to treat me the way a person who loves another person should be treated. He almost seriously lost me once and since then he has tried. He continues to do things that are disrespectful and that kind of break my heart. When these things happen, he asks me why I bother to keep trying with him. And I simply tell him its because I love him. But there is always something at the back of my mind telling me that I may be happier with someone else. I ignore it. I don't like it. But it makes me wonder. Would I be happier? We do have some things in common, but not a whole bunch. Me? My friends, partner, whomever are the world to me. And I make sure they know it. I put everyone before myself because caring about people and making sure they know it makes me happy. Simply because I've been on my own since I was 13, I feel its important to make sure the people I love KNOW that I love them and that I care for them. Its just how I am, I guess. Anyway, I just don't feel like I'm happy anymore. I don't really feel anything anymore. Except for now. As I'm typing all this up, I'm crying. Which is rare for me. I don't even cry anyone. Even when he hurts me, I just don't feel anything. If anyone is familiar, I feel the same way a moderately high dosage of Prozac makes a person feel. Assuming you've had the same reaction to Prozac as I have. I go completely numb. And while I don't think I am happy and feel like it would be best to move on, I just can't. I can't seem to officially end it with him. He's trying to make things right. But I just don't feel like any of it matters anymore because when he tries to make it right, he does something that's entirely fucked up and ruins any progress he's made. My wall is up with him. And I don't see it getting knocked back down any time soon. I just don't know what to do. Reading all this back to myself, it seems pretty obvious what I need to do. But I just can't do it. I'm at such a loss....As I've stated, I'm relatively new to the gay lifestyle. I went from barely any experience with guys, straight into a committed relationship with one. As time has past, I've grown to accept who I am, for the most part, and be moderately proud of it. Its still all new and there is a lot I need to do before I can fully accept it. And I feel like one of those things would be to come out to my family and friends. A very small number of my friends know I'm gay. Like a couple of them. And none of my family members know. See.. I come from a family of Christians. And while I feel like they would be able to accept me for who I am because they accepted my gay cousin before he committed suicide. But even with that, as a child, I could feel this weird energy surrounding my family when my gay cousin was nearby being himself. He was flamboyant. And I am not. At all. I guess I'd be in the whole "straight acting" category. It's not some front, its just how I am. Anyway, because of those things I remember feeling as a child, I fear what would happen to me if I came out to my family. There is one side of me that is entirely private. I keep shit to myself. I've never really felt the need to tell anyone anything unless they asked me. If someone asks me, I'm an open book. I'm always honest about things. If a member of my family were to ask me if I were gay, I'd most likely be honest about it. I feel like I'm at that point. I'm just not ready to blurt it out to the family. I don't know. Any advice, a simple conversation, anything will be helpful to me. I hope its okay for me to post this here. I have no gay friends and I don't have anyone to talk to. I feel.... very alone.
Ideas for a college GSA/LGBTA group?
You can skip down to the numbers if the beginning rambling is too much to read.I was involved in GSA a little bit in high school - I went every single week when I was in 10th grade and closeted, but my depression got really bad in 11th and I stopped, and then in 12th I was getting better but also in the process of coming out as trans. So that year I stopped partially because the kids were almost entirely 9th graders, but also everyone their misgendered me even though we stated pronouns to begin with, and a lot of my mental health issues that make speaking up difficult haven't been resolved so I stopped going.So to say, in short: My high school experience with GSA was incredibly weak. Even when I was involved, it was very centered on like...gay bake sales, and our president was very against it just purely being a safe space, it had to be all business, all the time. But "business" wasn't activism either, just making t-shirts that said "SWAG = Secretly We Are Gay".My college's GSA has apparently kind of disintegrated, and I'm starting this fall, so I'd like to build it up. The ideas I have basically fall under three categories, I think?Activism, either in the form of advocating for gender-neutral bathrooms, or trying to make the school more educated with workshop-like events.Within-school safe space events - just having it be a place to be, to vent about parents, to vent about rude peers, where everyone's pronouns are respected, etc. My old GSA did a lot of silly ice breaker activities that I didn't hate, and since we were all pretty comfy with each other, we'd ding karaoke a lot too. It was just calm, a get away, and I definitely find importance in that.Non-alcoholic, non-sexual, outside of school meetups. So you know like, a gay bar, but like, gay coffee night at Starbucks, or whatever.These are all fine bases for things, but I need ideas. Have any of you ever tried to have a workshop like that? What would it entail exactly, booths? People talking on stage with a microphone? Different kids sitting at desks and talking? Talking about what then? I have so much I could say but being cohesive and organized can be difficult. I have literally zero idea. Does a gay coffee night sound dumb? The idea of going somewhere where I'm not afraid to be misgendered sounds so appealing to me, but maybe other people don't feel the same need to connect to other queer folks?I was also thinking we could have a queer-specific book club sort of things, to sift through books and try and find good ones?Oh, and I'm a bisexual trans man, if that matters any?
2015. június 22., hétfő
Another term for "straight-acting"?
"Straight-acting" makes me sound like I'm trying to literally ACT like a straight guy. No. I'm just a guy who loves other guys. I don't like using the term "masculine" either cos I feel like I should enjoy heavy manual labor and fast cars and other such bullshit. I'm trying to make friends online (introvert problems) and I don't quite know how to say that I'm gay while clarifying that I don't align with the stereotype.
did you compare cock sizes with your friends when you were young?
i remember starting to experiment in junior high by comparing cock sizes with friends which lead to further activities. lets share our stories!
SCOTUS ruling in marriage cases may be released this Friday June 26
The court has just announced that they will be releasing one or more rulings on Friday June 26. June 26 also happens to be the anniversary of two other important gay rights rulings. While not unprecedented, it is somewhat unusual to announce decisions on a Friday. It's possible the court picked this day because of the historical significance, or it could just be a coincidence. Scotusblog.com will be live blogging the announcements.The court is also scheduled to release rulings on Thursday and Monday, so stay tuned then as well.
Brazilian Valentine's Day - A Video Surprise to my american Boyfriend!!!!
Hey Guys, Last June 12 , was celebrated in Brazil Valentine's Day . And for the first time in a long time, I felt I really had someone to call my boyfriend, someone who makes me happier as nobody has ever done before. It was then that I had the desire to demonstrate my love for this amazing and sweetest guy I met . It is very difficult to find someone who makes you be willing to go further , someone to give you reasons to smile , even when he's not on your side , someone to call my love. And today, I can say that I found that person. I've never done this kind of statement in public, but this sweetest guy who made me fall in love makes me want to tell the whole world that I love him. That's why I want to share the video here . I Hope y'all enjoy my surprise to my boyfriend!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7WDO3FHhBQ0
Looking for good gay-themed movies on Netflix
I just binge-watched a bunch of the gay movies on Netflix, and I really loved some of them. I think I tend to like movies that are about coming out/coming to grips with being gay.Boys (Jongens) was actually this really sweet, atmospheric romance, and I enjoyed it immensely. It was low-stakes and romantic.Free Fall was another amazing one, a German movie about two cops who fall in love, one of whom has a wife and baby on the way.I liked Weekend a bit, but thought it was kind of overrated (mostly because I'd read a lot of people freaking out about it online before I saw it).I couldn't get through North Sea Texas (too twee and cutesy, like it was trying to be Amelie or something). I started to watch Come Undone but it seemed really pretentious.Anyway, are there any other gay movies-- preferably ones that haven't received heaps of attention, like Free Fall and Boys-- that are romantic and amazing (bonus points for being on Netflix)?
2015. június 21., vasárnap
shit i think i'm done for
so, one of my best friends just said he had feelings for me. i kind of knew he was gay a long time ago (he didn't say it or anything, but, you know...), but i never thought that he would ever come out. i am openly gay (around people that aren't related to me lol) and tonight he texted me and told me his feelings. i like him too, and i tried to play it cool but i'm not a cool person, and sorry for the long rant i'm nervous. wat do *ninja edit: he asked for date
Cheating in a Distant Relationship
My boyfriend (23m) and I (22m) have been in a long distance relationship since February after meeting on a dating website a few months prior. Very recently, I let a guy I barely knew go down on me, and I felt so upset afterward that I called my boyfriend and explained everything. He immediately forgave me, and a couple hours later he called and said he had gone down on a guy a couple months ago. We both agreed that this wouldn't have happened if we weren't so far away but it would never happen again. I'm moving close to him at the beginning of next month, so it wouldn't be hard for me to just not talk to anyone else in the meantime.This past weekend, my boyfriend went out with a bunch of friends and he ended up getting drunk and making out with a guy he met on Instagram. He called me afterward and we talked about it again today, but for some reason this one isn't sitting well with me. He asked if he should tell me when he makes out with guys but then assured me that when I get there, it probably wouldn't happen anymore.I'm suspecting that he wants to open our relationship to seeing other people and learning more about what we like and dislike, but I don't want an open relationship because I'm kind of a health freak. I care about who I share sex with, which means I also care about who my partner has been with in the past. I don't like taking risks when it comes to my body, but I'm afraid my boyfriend has too big of an urge to explore with other guys.Any advice on how to handle this situation? I feel like I can talk to my boyfriend about this once I've established how I feel about him kissing other guys, but for now I just want to establish my own stance on open relationships. Has anyone else run into this in their relationship? For those of you in an open relationship, what rules do you follow, if any?
[Serious] When you came out what made you feel most comfortable and welcome by the people you told?
What did your friends or family do that made you feel most welcome? How did they show you that they didn't care about your sexual orientation and that you were still their best friend from before?Background to why I'm asking if you're interested: My best friend just came out to me (I'm straight) and a few others in our circle (all also straight). Although not a thing has changed between him and I, and he knows that, I want him to be just as comfortable with our friendship as he was before he mentioned it to me. I don't want him to feel worried that our friendship is in jeopardy or that I see him differently. He's my best friend and has been for years. Just want to make sure he knows we're still the same good ol' boys like we were before he had mentioned anything.
A surreal experience; My brother came out to my dad- and then vice versa
I really wanted to share this experience but felt the need to make a throwaway for it first, as a precaution. Also apologies for wall of text, TL;DR at the bottom.My older brother (28) and I (M23) were raised by our widower dad. When my brother was in highschool, there were some rumours about him that I heard, and I had see how close he was with one particular friend of his. Over time it became an open secret between us that he was gay, we must have verbally confirmed it at some point I don't remember. Anyway I never held it against him, but because of him whenever the topic of gay rights n that came up I always felt very empathetic about it. After school I considered myself an ally, made a few gay, lesbian, bi friends through my brother, etc.. But there was always the looming question of him coming out to dad.Dad's a sort of old fashioned bloke, somewhat religious, doesn't like fads or change (and would express a kind of resigned disgust when emo became a thing). He'd never expressed anything in particular that was homophobic, it was a topic that seemed avoided. The only time I can remember us talking in depth about it was dad talking about some 'poofs' (which he would say without a note spite) he knew in previous jobs: he liked the guys because they were hard working and loyal.My brother (Steve we'll call him) has a boyfriend now and they seem pretty serious, so Steve decided it was time to set the record... uh clear with dad and tell him and he wanted me to be there. More than happy to of course. So the big moment comes, we were round for lunch just the three of us, sometime after we'd finished eating but still talking Steve took a breath and said something like "Dad. I love you. There's something I want to tell you and I've wanted to say for ages. I'm gay." Dad looked down into the middle distance and said in classically, laconically, dad fashion "I hate to piss on your parade, Steve, but I knew that around about when you were 10." Steve was disarmed but relieved, I could see he stoically fought back tears. Dad even worked out who Steve's bf was. We had a great talk, Steve stayed a lot longer to hang out with dad than I did but it was a great moment.I did feel a small amount of resentment because I felt dad should have said something a long time ago but I'm sure he would have if he thought Steve was really hurting.That was last saturday and some things happened since then, like dad meeting the bf n that. Yesterday though we were around at dad's again, the 3 of us, having tea (dinner), and he says he has something to tell us. He said something like "Your dad's bisexual, boys. I honestly never thought I'd be saying that to yous, I didn't think it'd ever matter. Kids are the ones that come out to their dads, not the other way around" We were just... I mean, rattled. I had never picked up on this side of dad and am still kind of trying to harmonise it with my understanding of him. He also said that with all that's changed on LGBT stuff in recent years, and with Steve being gay, he felt he might as well share his secret. I asked "Is this your biggest secret?" He says with a laugh "No way, I have to save something for after I'm dead!" (Might seem a bit ominous to you but take my word for it that that's his blunt humour).He had a bunch of stories to tell us about the few guys he'd been involved with. We learnt even that him and mum got together after a guy had ran out leaving him with no where to go or stay. Him and mum were friends, she looked after him for awhile and they started dating a wee while after that. Mostly the stories were sad which is why I don't think he wanted to tell us till now. He said he felt like he had left all that behind when he got married.Later on Steve pointed out to me that I was the odd one out now. That was a sobering thought, I'm the straight guy in a gay-ish family! But it's cool, I love dad and my bro.Thanks for reading, r/ainbow! Love you fellas.TL;DR My brother came out to dad as gay a week ago, now dad has come out to us as bi. I'm the straight guy in the comedy troupe now.
What do you guys think about expressing the fact that you're LGBTQ?
Hey everyone,So I'm a gay college student, which in my mind isn't anything special to be honest. But I'm home for a few days and I got into a discussion with my family about telling people my sexuality. Normally I tell people once we get close enough or when it becomes relevant to any conversation that we're having. My family on the other hand believes that it shouldn't be spoken of in casual conversation. My question for all of you is "When do you think it's appropriate to tell people about your life and even more so is there a time when it's not ok?"Addition: Please don't think is an attempt to have people rag on my family. I love them all dearly and value their opinion, I simply want to know what some other people in the LGBTQ community think. Thank you!
Movie about older mother going to live with closeted asian son
Sorry if this isn't the place for this but I'm trying to remember the title of a movie I recently saw a trailer for. It's about a closeted son whose mother comes to live with him. Pretty sure he's first generation Chinese and he works as a cook in a shitty fast food asian restaurant. The movie looked really funny but now I can't remember the name. Thanks.
By that logic
So, I was reading a post here on reddit, on gay parents adopting kids, and the debate that gay parents makes gay kids and therefore it isn't right.I just realized, that by that logic, any and all parents of gay children should also be gay. Heck, it goes both ways, right? It sounds silly when putting it that way. My parents aren't gay. Well, I wouldn't know, but I don't believe they are.But then again, maybe this train of thought isn't so far off, since there are so many parents out there freaking out when their kids come out. After all, the definition of homophobia states it is more about the fear of being or becoming gay one self, rather than fear of gays itself. lol.See where this is going?
In honor of fathers day, I submit: Honest Conversations with Fathers and Their Gay Children
https://youtu.be/rAohpbd07eA
I'd say at least 33.33% of any city's population will be familiar with this particular Friday night phone call...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n7a7F5fBWFs
A heartfelt appeal: please stop calling me queer.
First of all I don't claim to be an authority in gay rights, nor do I know all the latest politically correct terminology or what acronyms I am support to use this week, however I'm older than a lot of people on here and have seen some terrible shit in my time, from houses being burnt down to people being beaten and killed in the name of homophobia.But then again I've also experienced wonderful things like dancing with a self titled drag queen at an illegal Irish gay club at 2am on a Saturday night, and some of the earlier prides when it was still new and full of the passion of freedom, marching behind a big pink tank while singing abba and singing because I'm glad to be gay, so I would appreciate it if you would listen to what I have to say.The internet is an odd thing, on the one hand it has broken down national barriers and formed a global community, but on the other it has fooled us in some ways into assuming that all English speaking cultures are the same. We have all seen and got tired with that whole "oh but in England we call it a lift" but there is one very important way in which this is relevant.In the Uk fags are cigarettes. The question is if fag does not = gay what slur is thrown at us instead? It's not gay, gay has never really had much of a impact as a insult because it's hard to use as word your grandmother still uses to mean happy in anger. So, as you may have guessed the word reserved as the worst insult is queer. As a insult it's a good one really when you look at the meaning, queer, odd, strange, off, not right. It's why they picked it.Some might be thinking the word "reclaim" here, some of them might be young Brits, but no, it's simply not an option. there is a history behind that word that the young should know.Sex between men was illegal till 1967, the age of consent was 21 till 1979 and 18 until 2001 when it became 16. 2. does not happen so much today but in the past gay men would have two options:go to gay clubs and pubs, it got better over time but this was a risk for a lot of people as unless you were well and truly out then being caught there could have dire consequences, so a lot of people went for option 2.Cruising. Gay men would meet in secret and at night in local parks or toilets, hamsted Heath was the most notorious for this. The reason was because it was so well known there used to be gangs of "queer bashers" roaming around, and so many people were hospitalized or killed by them. There aren't many statistics on who or how many were beaten in what park or bathroom because the police didn't care enough to investigate or make lists, it was simply put down as "queer bashing"So please, don't call me queer.
Loneliness Inevitable When You're Gay
Being gay means once you hit 40 you're considered too old for any gay activities like going to bars, mardi gras or even being... well gay. I've had 2 long term relationships leave me for younger men (younger than themselves) and now as I head towards 48 I've come to the realisation I will spend the rest of my years alone. Had I'd been straight at least I might have children. Being my age means younger gay guys think I'm lusting after them if I try to hold a conversation (I'm not into younger guys) and many older guys are trying desperately to cling to their youth or are locking themselves away knowing the prison of time has taken their gay life away. Face it it's inevitable for all of us.
I don't know where else to post this but...
I've had a crush on a friend forever and i made the decision a long time ago that i value his friendship more than anything and i wouldn't do anything to jepoardize that. Fast forward to tonight... we went to the bar and got shit faced and it ended up with me blowing him. My first man-on-man experience and i gotta say... i LOVE it. I've never felt more justified in my sexuality than i am now. We did more than just trade oral and it was everything i hoped for. I've never felt this way before... im sure my emotions are just running through everything that happened but.... we made plans to hang out tomorrow night. Am i getting ahead of myself? I just don't know how to feel, other than just 100% satisfied. How do you sort out your feelings after something like this? I guess im still riding on cloud 9.
2015. június 20., szombat
Venting: Today was difficult.
So today was going great. Got up at a reasonable time, got new wipers on my car, and got everything I needed to do at work, I did. My day was going great. Until the family party. At this time, I'm still in the closet (gay). So recently it was my cousin's birthday and today was his birthday party. Out of the clear blue sky, my mother (who is against gay rights and stuff) said "We need to stop taking Tylenol." So I am wondering why. Was there a recall? I don't know. Then she proceeds to say, because they have a commercial with two gay guys with a child. So I'm thinking "what is your problem?" And she keeps going on and on about how "disgusting" and "gross" this is, and how they should not be around children. If that is her belief, I can not change that. I understand that. But to call someone else life and who the love disgusting and gross is beyond comprehendible to me. Then some of the other family members chimed in with the same negative stuff and bring religion into the mix. Just adding more fuel to the fire I suppose. My three cousins somewhat tried to stick up for it (they don't know I'm gay either). I love them for that, but it doesn't help when the people I live with don't support it. Eventually I have to come out. This needs to stop. I don't have my driver's license yet, so I couldn't just leave. I ended up locking myself in the bathroom for a while, right at the verge of crying. There were tears in my eyes, and if anyone were to look close enough, they could obviously see that I was hurting.Sorry to vent like this, but I just needed to get it off my chest.TL;DR: Family doesn't support gay rights, hurts a lot.
[NSFW] Is it morally wrong..
I'm a guy, into guys. There is a guy I know fairly well who has a girlfriend, but wants to hook up with me and have me dress up in his girlfriends panties etc, etc. I think it sounds hot and I want to do it, but I don't know if I'm comfortable going behind this girls back like this... What do you guys think? Should i feel bad about it if I do it?
Should I experiment?
Hi Guys,Background: 16m, virgin. So I usually consider myself mainly straight, but I have fantasized about gay sex, watched some gay porn, etc. I hadn't considered actually acting on these urges until recently, considering how vastly easier it is to get laid with a guy rather than a girl. I guess what I'm trying to ask is: are there any possible bad side effects of sleeping with/fooling around with a guy if I'm not sure I'm 100% gay? Especially because I am virgin as fuck and I don't know how this will affect my sexuality in the future. I am definitely not opposed to being gay/bi, but will it turn me off to women at all?Thanks
Is it bad that I don't much care for representation? (see text for explanation)
So, maybe I care a little bit. It's nice to see gay or bisexual characters in fiction.However, I see people, especially online, who say things like "this is a good show, but where are the LGBT characters?"You watch a show or movie or read a book for the plot, correct? At least, I don't pay much attention to the sexual orientation, gender, or race of the characters unless it's central to the plot. I hate the amount of emphasis people put on types of characters, while ignoring the plot.Additionally, I don't really want an lgbt character inserted into something simply for the sake of inserting that type of character.ps- apologies, I've been on Tumblr too long. ;)
I've got an interesting situation right now and input would be nice.
Hi Reddit, throwaway obviously. I'll say this now that I'm bisexual if it matters. As my name implies, it is involving a cop. Last night I randomly started talking and a bit of sexting via snapchat and we were really hitting it off. We enjoyed one another and we talked and I found myself more and more interested in the guy as time went on.He then mentions he has a secret, a really important one that I would need to earn his trust for, so unbeknownst to me, I send a short snapchat and he sends a photo back! This time, its literally a police scanner and I kind of freaked out a bit when I realised I was playing around with a cop, but for some reason I was happy. I literally couldn't stop smiling over this revelation.As it turned out, he's from Canada and 22 (I'm almost 18 like really close, but in my state its alright for someone my age to do this). He's literally my porn fantasy brought to life (tall, bulky, muscular, and hairy but not too much) and he's just leisurely laughing about me freaking out, but I loved it. Arguably one of the greatest moments in my young adult life...So...what should I do from here? I've still been talking to him more in a casual manner and he assures me he'll be fine as well as me, but I can't shake off the fact that I've been biting from I guess you could say forbidden fruit. Is this right? I mean, I'm sure not too many people can say they've been in this situation before...I'd love some feedback.ThanksNinja edit: I should mention this is my first time actually wanting to act on my more homosexual tendencies, I'm usually just attracted to the sexual connotation of men, never really felt feelings for another before like this.
sad and anxious about how to move forward [22m]
Hi everyone - I'm a 22 y/o male who hopes to meet some new guys now that I've graduated and will be settling into a new job, city, and way of life. I'm a pretty confident person, generally, but I have one major anxiety about any future dates: how to navigate the topic of sex without being overly forward.What inspired me to write this, actually, was a conversation I just had with a guy (not a romantic conquest, an acquaintance) who was mentioning to me his sexual preferences and that he had just bottomed the night before. He then went on to describe what he is looking for in a partner and how he wants his relationships to be balanced and equitable -- that is, that both partners are versatile. Anyway, as he went on about his anal sex habits, I became increasingly saddened, because I had little to contribute. He reminded me of the big elephant in the room whenever I meet guys or am among gay men in social settings.I despise anal sex. I find both topping and bottoming horrible. I was fortunate enough to be in a good thing with a guy for a few years and was able to fully explore and determine this for a fact. What I fear now, however, is that my disliking anal will basically make me a pariah as I look for someone to date. On top (heh) of this is the fact that I refuse to have an open relationship, so it's not like I will let my partner indulge in anal on the side.Anyway, I was wondering how I should proceed with this when going on dates with guys. Should I just feel out our conversations and decide when to drop this bomb on them? I just feel so awkward mentioning it, but I know that I must say it sooner rather than later so I don't waste my time (and theirs). I already feel like an outcast in the gay community for a lot of reasons, and this only makes matters worse for me!
Not sure if I'm asexual?
I'm sure this is a very common type of post, so I'm so sorry. But for the last 24 hours or so I've been very confused and I want some advice. I'm a 16 year old boy, never been in a relationship. I've never asked anybody out or tried to be in a relationship, because I think relationships this young either become "let's sit next to each other at lunch and hold hands" or just having sex over and over again then breaking up. That's not what I want, which brings me to my main point. I've never considered myself a very sexual person, I have a joke with one of my friends that I have the sex drive of a sloth. One time at lunch I said if a cute girl was in my house I'd rather sit down and watch Netflix with her than have sex with her, and he said "no other guy in the world would say that, and probably no woman either". One time when speaking to another one of my friends, who was not there for the Netflix discussion, asked if I was asexual. She wasn't sure, but she thought I might be because I'd spoken about having no interest in having sex, even with the girls I'm attracted to. I said I wasn't sure, and she was like "alright" and moved on. But that's why I'm in the mental state I'm in right now. I've always known what asexuality is, but I've never considered myself one. Because, I am definitely straight. When I see breasts I'm like "yeah that's pretty nice", but when I have feelings for a girl it's because I like talking to her, and I want to share my life with her, spend time with her, I've never thought about girls I know in a sexual way. I like the idea of cuddling, watchin movies and talking all the time, but I honestly have no interest in having a sexual relationship. Am I just a weird straight guy, or am I asexual? I feel like accepting that I am would help me stop feeling weird about how "no other guy would choose Netflix over sex", but I also feel like I might be reading too far into this, I have had crushes after all. Just not in the same way my friends have described them.
Just wanted to thank all of you
So, about seven months ago I submitted a text post on this subreddit with a throwaway account (account name: womsyg - just in case any of you remember by some chance).Anyways, back to my point. I made that post, like so many do, because I was struggling with my sexuality, and I desperately needed help.And, despite the fact that a lot of my friends don't understand why I would ask the internet about something so personal, you guys were absolutely 100% the most helpful source I got. You were able to provide me with unbiased, educated, experienced advice that I couldn't really get from any other source.And it's because of you that I was able to finally, after two years, admit to myself that I'm not straight. And my life has never been better. I'm out, have a fantastic group of loving and accepting friends, and, for the first time in my life, I am able to be completely and unequivocally myself.It's such a great feeling, to finally be free of everything that questioning was doing to me. I had it better than most, yet I was still always uncomfortable with who I was. I would constantly have internal conversations with myself, which would lead to mild panic attacks, sobbing fits, all that good stuff.When I made that post, I created a separate account so that nobody would find it.Now, I'm writing this from my main reddit account.In the end, it doesn't really matter what account I write this on, but the point is that I don't feel the need to hide my involvement in this community anymore, and that is thanks to all of you.I hope this wasn't too cheesy or touchy feely. I just hoped to add something positive to this subreddit, and I figured that a thank you would be welcome where it's due.And with that, thank you.Thank you so so so much.P.S: if you by any chance are a commentor from my original post, and happen to remember it (somehow), please let me know! I remember some of your usernames! (Also props to you because lord knows that was a while ago)
Asked him to be my boyfriend, he said he didn't know.
I met him about January 2015, and I asked him last night. We haven't met irl but we have strong feelings for each other and I have no doubt because he said he did. He said he didn't know and wanted to wait until we met in person after we graduate, I'm kinda panicking. Should I be worried? Or am I over reacting
2015. június 19., péntek
Gays: How do you feel about bisexuals at Pride? Be real
Hi folks,This is for cis male or cis female gays:I know a lot of you are going to/have been to pride parades this year or in years past. My question is: How do you feel about bi people celebrating at Pride and/or wearing rainbows? I know there's a B in "LGBT+", but... some folks are not too keen on bi females being at what they see as "their" event.A lot of people think guys who identify as bi are just closeted gays (so, not so weird there that they'd be at Pride), and gay guys don't seem to be as concern about their partner having slept with a straight person in the past as lesbians do. I've had some bad experiences with negativity and flippancy in the past, mostly from lesbians- but also from gay men and straight women as well!I'm kind of nervous to go, or to wear any sort of rainbow colors, and then on the other hand I'm also nervous to wear the blue,pink,purple bi colors.What do you think? Honest answers!
Looking for new people to chat with
Hey guys I'm an 18 yr old gay male looking for new people to chat with.. hut me up on my snap chat Henery_granni and naughty snaps are alway welcome ;p
It's hard to wait...
I'm 17, gay, and I haven't found any oppurtunities to interact with other gay people (in real life that is). I se all these lgbtawww posts and i get this profound sadness. to top it off, i've never been in a relationship at all, straight or otherwise. Any advice to someone thirsty as hell for a true relationship, or just interaction with people in the same ship?
Please help me find him (Alex) (x-post from r/Zurich)
TL;DR: If you know a gay Alex from Zurich who was in Amsterdam last weekend (June 13th), please please please let me know or put us in touch.Hi everyone,Long time lurker here but I had never made an account -- I've often witnessed the power of Reddit, and I'm hoping that maybe you can help turn this into a lovely success story.I was traveling in Amsterdam last weekend when I met a man named Alex in a bar called Soho (this was on Saturday night). We got along incredibly well and had a great time together. We danced and eventually made out, and I hadn't felt that good about someone in a long time. Unfortunately I had to leave to walk my friend home, and I only realized the next morning that I forgot to ask for his number or last name. He was leaving that morning to go to a small beachtown in the Netherlands, before flying back to Zurich the next day. I've been searching for him online all week but cannot find him.What I know about him: his name is Alex. He is between 5'10 and 6'1 (175 - 185cm), fairly slim, blue or gray eyes, dark hair. He lives in Zürich.Any and all help would be truly appreciated. If you or your friends know an Alex who is into men and who was in Amsterdam last weekend, please let me know. We didn't spend much time together but as I said, there was something between us that isn't usually there and I would love to have at least a chance to talk to him. Feel free to pass this along etc.Vielen dank!PS: Mods, if this type of post is not allowed, I'm very sorry and I'll take it down.
I interviewed my friend Lorelei and the results were amazing.
No Boundaries Episode 89-Ask a Trans Woman w/Lorelei ErisisBlogger, activist, pageant queen, columnist, improv comedienne and transwoman, Lorelei Erisis, answers listener questions on a No Boundaries version of her Rainbow Times column, "Ask a Trans Woman."In this two part episode Lorelei was funny, poignant, honest, and insightful. One of the best interviews I've ever had!Part 1-http://ift.tt/1FrWorF 2-http://ift.tt/1I3eg25
Call for research participants – Impressions of a Social Interaction Study
We are seeking self-identified gay, lesbian, and bisexual individuals who are 18 years or older and currently live in the United States for the Impressions of a Social Interaction Study at http://ift.tt/1G0YmAE. The survey only takes about 10 minutes to complete. We are interested in learning about your impressions of a disclosure exchange. This research has been reviewed and approved by our ethics review board (#386947-2). If you have any questions, please contact the principal investigator, Lisa M. Huang, MA, at lmhuang@ucdavis.edu.Thank you for your time.Social Cognition Lab Department of Psychology University of California, Davis
How to work towards fixing this?
So I live in the United States and recently found out that the state I live in most of the year offers no protections to LGBT people against discrimination and that anyone can be fired for no reason whatsoever. While I know SCOTUS will be ruling regarding marriage equality soon, but an not certain that it will protect anyone from such discrimination. Additionally, in a state where you can be fired for nothing, I'm not sure that anti-discriminatory laws will help much anyway. I love the state I live in, but don't feel like I can stay if this continues. Does anyone have any ideas regarding being proactive about fixing this?
My Story
it's pretty longWhy is my life crumbling before me. I just want to die seems like everything I do just gets me in trouble. I want to have a boyfriend truth be told, I told mom that I’m actually straight and that’s what I’ve been telling myself, but I want a husband to live with in a small house and have kid, and bring them to Christmas at Nanny’s and have fun, but I know that will never happen. When I graduate I could just leave and never come back. I could do that never speak with my family again, but I can’t because God doesn’t allow Gays in heaven. All I want is to be happy and I think that is impossible. I try and tell myself that God isn’t real so I can have a husband and live happily ever after, but my heart tells me otherwise. I can’t just not believe in him because I love him. I thought about killing myself, I could. I have blood pressure pill and Hydro’s I could just take all of them, but it’s said that if you kill yourself then you go to hell, and I don’t want that. But I read a article that was pretty compelling it said a Christian could get to heaven by killing themselves, but a drug overdose isn’t always promised If they find my body before I’m actually dead then they could pump my stomach and save me, and then everyone would look at me like the psycho who tried to kill myself and no one will look at me the same. I can’t even look up and read this because I want to break down and cry, I want to so bad, but I’m telling myself that if I stay strong and make it to when I graduate then I could leave Morristown and do something with my life. The thing is I can’t do that. When I look to my future I see nothing. Every now and then I think I could end it, but I can’t do that. When the doctor told me a year ago that I might have kidney cancer and I would have to have a biopsy I wasn’t afraid of dying, but now I’m terrified. I wish God would just take my life. I pray every once in a while that he will, but it hasn’t succeded yet. I don’t know why I’m writing this I Just wanted to get this off my chest. I already started crying when I wrote about the scared of dying part. I’m pretty ok now. But I still don’t know what to do, I thought for a while that I could still go to Heaven if I was gay, I would look up articles about it and I would come across a few that would say gays wouldn’t make it to heaven, but I was pretty sure I would, then I went on a trip with my church and during the trip a man spoke about Gays. I thought oh great some more bullshit, but it really helped me. He said that gays would make it to heaven, I was like of across, but he explained it to me better. He said that a gay person usually was influenced on gay tendencies, he gave examples that fit me. I was raped by a female when I was 6, my mom let me play with dolls, I have no father figure and grew up with just girls. I didn’t believe hi, until he said this. “The thing about it is if a male is raised with stealers around him, he’ll grow up a stealer. But as a Christian stealing is a sin, so when you stroll by a jewelry shop and see something you like but can’t afford you choose to take it or just walk on by. So being gay is like that you choose to act upon those gay thoughts.” Story over. So I thought about that I guess I would have to hide my feelings to get to heaven. But I was pretty sure that I was born this way. I remember that when I was like 4 there was a dvd case of some Lord Of The Rings case and I thought the boy was pretty cute. I told my brothers friend that and he pointed at female and said I should like her not him, so I thought that I was born gay but then I remember another memory of when I was kissed by a boy in kindergarten I immediately wiped my face and said yuck. It might have been because of a little kid doesn’t usually liked to be kissed. I also remember all through elementary school I would like different girls it wasn’t until middle school when I realized that I officially liked boys I started thinking guys were cuter and never thought any girl was sexy or hot. I just don’t know what to do. Many people say God speaks to them and tells them to be a minister and a preacher, but you never hear of God telling people what to do. I could go to heaven or hell it seems he would try to help him, Usually when I pray and tell God my issues I usually would get them answered, but this is one that I can’t solve on my own. I just need some help. In the end I just want to be happy. But I can’t find it. I already told a whole bunch of people at school that I was gay. The thing I really hate about being gay is that I fall in love with straight guys. My first crush was a boy named Jacob. I had a crush on him for three years. I thought he liked me back. He gave me so many signs that he liked me back. And every night I would cry and realize that he didn’t like me back. But I would just think he liked me again. Then sophomore year I found another guy this was the year when I came out. This was way worst then Jacob, because people would always tell me you guys are cute together, and he liked me back, but he didn’t either. I would crush on so many straight guys and write stories about how they would love me and how we would live happily ever after. That would just make me cry harder. There is a gospel song that said God will never put more on me then I can bare. I just think that this is all I can bare. I just want to get this over with and just get to heaven. I hope when I get older that life isn’t this hard. If anyone reads this and having a hard time then my advice is write it down, everything because although the problems are fixed it makes you feel better to get it all out. By the way if you are reading this please forgive the terrible writing and grammar I can’t handle trying to proof read this I would ball my eyes out. I’m just glad I could get this out.
I have just left the cult of jehovahs witnesses. Please, what are some actions I can take to reverse my homophobic upbringing? What can I do to show respect and true love to the LGBT communities?
Hello R/AinbowBefore I say anything, I want to personally apologize for my disgusting and hypocritical life. I was a member of this cult for 9 years, and was born into a family of them. Over the years, I have held the same beliefs, though with reservation.The sexual repression of this group in unbelievable, and if I hadn't witnessed it myself I Wouldn't believe it.This being the case, where can I turn to to educate myself, the way I should have years ago? What are some resources? And most importantly, how can I help LGBT people to be accepted and gain the rights that should belong to all of this human race but, sadly, do not?I feel like such a piece of scum for being closed minded for so long. But no more. I can't stand for hatred.
Hi! do you think that hatred is a right?
Hi! i am a south korean. I am currently studying at sogang university, which is located in seoul, south korea. today, i was looking my university community site and found alot of hate speech posts towards lgbt by other anonymous students. i tried to refute their opinions. but they were so insistent.the posting is lasting for more than 6hrs. so i got exhausted. well....i just want to tell you guys about their opinions. they said thatgays are the spreading center of AIDS since the anal sex is anormal. anal sex is so dangerous, unhealthy.Homophobia also has right to hate someone. it is right to articulate one's own opinion in democaracy. reversely, having someone to stop articulate his or her opinion or preferences is a violence.Hatred and aggression are human instincts for survival. so just let it be. straight males have intrinsic irreparable homophobic traits for their own survival.GAYs are promiscuous and sleazy. that is why gays get more STDs than heterosexuals. so gays should be quarantined or should not be openly talk or express their own sexuality5.what if you do if your siblings, relatives and friends are gay? would you still support homosexuality? you can say you support homosexuality because you don't have any homosexuals in your vicinity.well there were more than i wrote here. i just could not translate every hate speeches i've read. these busted opinions don't make sense at all to me. but some students don't even afraid to articulate their hate speeches. cause it's right to articulate their own preference and hatred. it's the right of expression. i feel so depressed. i hope that i can leave these morons and these homophobic country behind someday. i am having been gone through these scumbags for my entire life. i was trying to talk to them, providing them with some academic recourses such as judith butler. but maybe i was not persuasive and eloquent enough to stop their hatred. do you think any of those make sense or are valid?
Is It Just Me or Do Most Lesbians in Popular Media Feel Like "Gay Lite?"
I don't mean this as like a diss against lesbians or anything, but anytime I see two smoking hot lesbians in any movie that will inevitably make out it always kind of pisses me off because it feels like the movie wants some socially progressive points without actually having the balls to show a relationship that will make anyone think or do anything meaningful.
2015. június 18., csütörtök
Would just like to talk, in Tulsa, OK. Lonely. Not looking for anything weird. But, it's been since 2010 that I've been with anyone, in any situation.
Good career, decent place. I'm quiet, but I'm a cook, love food, and just trying to get out.
Sense8
I am enjoying Sense8. It is very LGBT orientated and has a hacktivist transwoman character dating a lesbian and it reminds me so much of Laureilai, which is amazing. As well as a discreet Hispanic gay male couple. It is good to have representation !!
How long is too long to be strictly dating? GAY M
I was just curious when is it too long to just be "dating"? (like not exclusive or call each other bfs)We are both shy guys so idk if one of us would bring it up the whole exclusive bf talk. I'm so lost when it comes to dating and guys i don't know what to do. what if he's waiting on me or thinks i don't like him enough to ask him to be my boyfriend?what are some ways to bring up the subject without scaring him.he always talks about us hanging out or doing stuff in the future tense like he mentions next month his friend is coming and that ill meet her. or he says he will see me next week and that we should go on a road trip for my birthday which is next month. Am i thinking to much about it? i guess I'm just worried since we haven't mentioned what we are that nothing will ever happen and i don't want to fall into some fwb deal.
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