My mother is a nurse midwife and I think for whatever reason that has made her grandchild obsessed. I, 28 straight male, and the oldest. I only say straight because even though she acts like she's ok with it, my younger brother who is gay only intends to adopt if has kids and that's part of the problem. She's intimated without outright saying that an adopted grand child would not be the same. Her best friend's daughter is now pregnant and my mother is also the midwife. Every time she brings up the friend's daughter she slights me with a "some people get grandchildren" and then pretends she was just joking, but even my youngest brother who lives in another state knows it was a dig at me. Every time I get mad at her for this or anything related to her going after me she screams at me for raising my voice (even when I don't) and for being abusive towards her. She once suggested I have unprotected sex with random women and she'd be happy to raise the baby, which may have been a joke but I honestly don't know, because she has told me things in the past about birth control that were outright lies, and as she's a nurse midwife, so she knows better.
How do I deal with this? This is only a small part of how she treats me and I've considered that when I move next year to the opposite coast, cutting ties with her. Has anyone else had to deal with one parent making grandchildren all about them to the point where you've considered that if you were to every have children you would keep them away from your parents?
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