Greeting /r/Parenting!
My wife called me today saying that our 11 year old daughter expressed a crush on one of her girlfriends. She kind of flipped out about it and wants me to talk with our daughter about it.
I told her that first of all our daughter is 11 and still has a lot of developing and changing to go through. This could be a stage or it may not. She's had a crush on a boy who hasn't exactly returned her affection and has upset her a few times.
My daughter has told me that she doesn't identify with being boy or girl. She's picked up this concept of gender fluidity in school I believe. She's a very independent child. She seeks to be different and set herself apart from the crowd and be her own person. Of that, I am very proud of.
My wife and I both share the same views on homosexuality. We just don't care what two consenting adults do and find it foolish that we spend time trying to limit the rights of people who are homosexual. So, in that respect that aspect is not the concern.
I am less concerned about it than my wife is though, I think. My wife is worried about the challenges and abuse our daughter could face if she is gay. I guess that concerns me a little too, but the time are changing and I see my daughter's world more accepting and tolerant. Then again she may not be gay at all. She's started puberty early and I can't imagine how it is with all those hormones running rampant.
Anyway, the big question is how do I approach her about this? I don't want her to feel weird about it or anything. I don't want to give her a complex about or anything. My daughter and I have had a good, open and honest relationship thus far. She knows she can come to me and talk to me about anything and everything.
How do I begin or should I even begin?
Thank you for your time and advice.
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