Done with dating

I'm 30. I am in pretty good shape. People call me attractive. I'm a sweet, genuine dude with a good head on my shoulders. But I cannot find anyone that is interested in dating me, or that I want to date.Why aren't they interested? I believe it to be my physical appearance. I may run 20-30 miles a week, but I don't go to the gym, so my grindr body type is "average", and that is never going to be good enough.I feel like I am "not good enough". But why? Why do I let little squares filled with abs make me feel like I am not hot? Why do I let strangers dictate how I feel about myself? Its because I ascribe to this need to "find someone" that everyone else is drinking thekool aid about.But I don't. I don't need to find someone. I need to be good and happy with myself. I need to find good friends. I need to find "MY" people. I need to find the things that make me want to wake up every day that do NOT require another person. I need to finally figure out what the fuck my cat's favorite pizza flavor is! I can do this myself, and likely that's all I will have anyway. I am more than okay with that.Love, Apathetic in Atlanta