2018. február 28., szerda
Rimming
I am bi and my guy friend wants me to rim him. I have never done this before. Im a little freaked out. He is smooth at least. What should i expect. Taste wise. Any help
How the FUCK do I get more thicc
I'm not talking about fat. I want to get that ass thicc. I'm around 5'11" 130 pounds, and I just want those legs. Dem hips boi. Also breasts would be nice. So would having a vagina. But no diet or exercise will change that. How do I get that booty thicc?
My bf and I don't have the same sex drive
ok so my bf and I (both19) have been together for 7months. at first we would have sex all the time, and that was great. actually he was the first man to ever fuck me and consciously or not he turned me into a power bottom haha. the thing is that lately I feel like whenever we have sex I have to specifically ask for hit.he's said it many times before, if u want dick just say it, yet at the same time I miss those times when he would just initiate it or follow my moves when we were at bed, like he was actually into me. now that our relationship has gotten more serious, I feel like he just lost the interest on me.honestly I think he just got bored. he's so fluid and he's been in relationships before where he was the bottom, so he has proposed the idea of going on a threesome bc he misses getting fucked. the whole idea of the threesome freaks me out. like I also want to try threesomes but with two people that I don't know, I'm not comfortable with the idea of just letting someone else in our bed. maybe I'm just insecure because of the fact that in every trio there is a duo and a solo, and I'm afraid to be the solo most of the time given my 'little' experience.I have proposed several times to fuck him but he's not into the idea either ! I just don't know what to do. Since its always me the one to initiate it, Ive told him that next time he actually wants to fuck me he should let me know, cause id rather have sex when he actually wants it than when he's not so into it... idk what to do I have this very high sex drive and I don't even know what is it that I've done to make him loose interest on me. help
Is it incest?help!
When i was a kid i slept together with my mother. Some days i was sleeping with my father. i didn't know i was gay back then. i kind of knew i was attracted to guys. so when i was sleeping with my father, i intentionally tried to touch his private parts. he moved away. he didn't say anything to me about it afterwards. i don't know whether he talked to my mother about it. It happened when i was around 12 years old. Now thinking about it , i feel so disgusted at myself. What was/is wrong with me? please help
Just wanted to share a bit about myself
Last year, dad opened my whatsapp messages in my laptop and saw all pics and chat with my bf, learned that i'm gay and it changed everything in our life. I was afraid to be kicked out from home, had a huge pressure from mom to change my sexuality with psychologist whose major is gender therapist, she was acting like dad still doesn't know and if he learns everything will go bad. I also had a serious bad talk with some close relatives, had pressure on me to change myself, give up on my bf, or they will give up on me, also they bet your grandparents may die if they learn such a thing...etc. They were the worst moments I had in my life, with my parents.But also, after those stuff happened, my life about future started to go well. I changed my mind from going to military service and have a regular job to having a master degree. Now I'm so happy with my school, even though I try to have a secret life. If it did not happen, I was probably having a military service and then getting a normal job. And I am so much hopeful about the fact that everything is gonna go well.
Tips on lowering testosterone for a "femboy in training"
So I've recently come to really embrace my feminine side, and decided I'm going to do my best to become a "femme boy", which has always been a sort of repressed dream of mine. Now, I'm not really super masculine in the first place, but I would like to promote a little more of an effeminate look- other femboys have told me to try and lower my testosterone. I tried looking up how, but there's very little information about it except for transgenders who are transitioning through drug therapy, and that's not what I want. Can anyone advise me on what to look for? And on that note, any additional advice for a newbie getting into this stuff?
Is there any hope of a thicc gay guy to become skinny and more fem?
I'm pretty heavy (around 340) but I've been melting the wait off. The biggest I was being around 460 pounds. Is it still possible for me to get in shape and have a more fem figure or are my goals impossible? Like will I ever look normal even if I'm skinny or am I screwed? I just want to be attractive...and I'm afraid it may not happen.
Boy problems
Probably not the right place to tell this story but damn it, I need some good sensible gays to set me straight. I’m the token lonely yet amazingly and flamboyantly out gay kid at my high school. I really don’t put myself out there unless I really, really like a boy (which is nobody, nobody gay anyways.) Sufficient to say, I am a living forever alone meme. So recently I had an acquaintance get a little too close to me. He’s a flirty guy, has a lot of texts on his phone and has a lot of people after him, all at the same time might I add. But the build up to him making his feelings known to me was natural, he dropped hints here and there until I had to say “I know for a fact you aren’t gay for me.” Long story short, he kissed my cheek, he followed me home, after that we started talking, texting, and seeing each other between classes and after school. This went on for two weeks and in that two weeks we had a lot of disagreements. Among the many arguments in that short amount of time, I found the source of them, for me to be that he was seeing girl. Not only that but he’d flirt with almost anything that moved. And that got to me. That really did. And I knew he had no commitment to me, but I established boundaries and I told him that he was doing things nobody does to me. He’d reason that he loves everybody (suspected polyamory) and we’re just friends anyways, it’s only been a week. And I would try and pull away but he’d just keep up the flattery, the affection, the things I think I need and won’t get for a long time. It was and still is madness. I like the boy, he’s an interesting guy and he’s honestly irresistible. But I know I have to be stronger than that. I’ve cut him off in nothing less than a dramatic fashion but seeing as I’m writing this right now, I haven’t exactly moved on. And I know time is the only thing that would cure this but I’m see him almost everyday, and I don’t know if I can not control myself. Was I taking things too fast? Am I naive? I hate saying it but I feel like I’ll never get an opportunity like this in a long time.
2018. február 27., kedd
When am I going to have my first boyfriend
Haii, I'm going to try my best not to ramble lol. I'd like to start out saying that I am an extremely confident person and I love myself, flaws and all. However, I haven't been in a relationship in 7-8 years (I am 20 now). Every time I put myself out there, the guy always ends up being straight, or gay but in a relationship already. more often than not they end up being straight. I have never had a guy approach me, and that has hurt my confidence a little. I've tried tinder, and whenever I match with someone they either don't respond or don't make any effort to have a conversation. I want to be in a relationship mostly because I want someone who I can share my life with, and they share their life with me. I want companionship; I am young and my life has barely started lol, but this is what I desire the most. what can I do? Are there more things I should be thinking about? Any advice would be appreciated!
Hot guy
I made a mistake again.. there is a hot guy that I have been friends with for quite some time. I had a birthday party yesterday night and I got really drunk and kinda came onto him asking him if he wanned me to blow him off( which I wanned so bad) and he was like totally rejecting and it felt really awkward... I just hoped that for once some hot guy would like ne back. But guess not.
Am I gay
A Little back story, I'm 25 and a virgin iv always been into girls and had a couple girlfriends in high school. I got heavy into weed and I stopped getting dates because I was always focused on getting high. After awhile I started going to the nude beach for old men when I was high and would steal my sisters thongs and flash them to girls in public because it would give me such a thrill. I started to put my fingers in my butt and would sometimes let old men watch me on omegle. I would always be high when I did this and I didn't like it sober. I really just want a girlfriend to love me but I feel like I'm hopeless and I almost do this as a last resort type of thing. That being said looking at it all it deff seems a little gay and I'm just really confused and am looking for advice if anyone could help! thanks
I did it.
I’m fifteen,a guy and gay. I’ve known I’ve been gay for quite some time and I’ve told a close friend( who is a girl and also gay) and well I have been deciding to tell my family for some time. So today i did it in the worst way possible. Through text message. Not my whole family though only older sister and well it didn’t go over well. She was accepting and everything but I feel like I’m going to throw up. Is that normal? It’s just strange now that she knows. Has anyone else had similar experiences?
I think I'm finally beginning to embrace my sexuality
I was binge-watching Queer Eye the other day and something just clicked in me. I struggle with being able to cry most of the time, but I cried at almost every episode. It's the first time I saw something that included so many different types of gay people.I realized after watching that there is no "right" way to be gay; simply being me is enough. I don't have to act, dress, look, or talk a certain way to be "truly gay". I know this might seem so obvious to some; it's a little ironic that I haven't been able to see this before - I'm also a transman and constantly see the question "Am I really trans because ___?". My answer to that is always if that's how you feel, that's how it is. There are no prerequisites or qualifications one needs to have to be officially gay or trans.All this time I was adamant that nobody needed to know my sexuality because it was none of their business, but I think that's become a curtain for me to hide behind.I always said that I would never come out with my sexuality, because that seemed so miniscule and irrelevant compared to coming out with being trans. As I'm actually coming to terms with my sexuality, I realized it is important and relevant. It's apart of my identity and who I am, and I should take pride in that.So, with all this being said, pretty sure I'm gay guys lol
I need some opinions.
So this guy and I have been like messing around and stuff for a while and it was fine. He’s still in the closet so when he would come over my roommates would have to like hide while he went to my room and stuff. I work at a movie theater and the other day he messaged me asking if I was at work and I was so I told him I was. He came into my work to watch a movie and when I saw him I was all “hey, what are you watching?” And he replied “Black Panther” and I was like “oh cool” and walked away, that was the end of the conversation. Not 10 minutes later I got a message from him saying that if I see him in public not to talk to him or acknowledge him because he doesn’t want to be associated with someone who’s gay. I told him he had no reason to freak out but he told me he was very disappointed in me because I spoke to him in public. I told him that made me upset and he said the only one that can be upset is him because I embarrassed him. He was alone and it was slow so no one even saw us talking because it was so brief. He’s now been ignoring me and I’m ready to hist block his number because I think I deserve better than that. What do you guys thing about the entire situation?
In Need of Advice
So this may be a long story, but I need to get this off my chest and get some advice. I'm 25, live in a very conservative state, and since I was about 13 knew I got aroused by men, not women. All through high school and college I fought these feelings, trying to pretend that jacking off to gay porn didn't mean anything, and that I would get a girlfriend any time soon. Obviously that never happened, and I've still been hiding who I really am. I live on my own, but am somewhat dependent on my parents, who help me with medical insurance, and car insurance. They are both very religious, my dad being more strict to Christianity than my mom, and practice regularly (attend church, lead bible studies etc.). Both of them are very hard to get a read on their feelings about LGBT issues. I have heard them say things like," why can't they just leave marriage alone", about the legalization of gay marriage. I've also heard them talking to a friend from the church, her mom issues marriage liscenses and they were talking about a go find me to help her not have to issue licenses to LGBT couples, and they seemed to support her cause. But I have never dared to bring any of it up to them, for fear of alerting them. None of my friends know, or if they suspect they haven't ever said anything, and only one friend in our friend group is openly gay. He came out last year, and since he lives a few states away from us all, none of us see him that much. My friends all seemed very supportive of him, and I don't think anyone acts differently towards him. Now comes the part that's hard to write. I have been struggling with the idea of coming out, since around the time my friend came out. I see how happy he is, and know that all it would take it being honest and true to myself to be that happy. But I have been seriously afraid of being disowned by my parents, who I am very close with and love, and possibly even my sister. On top of that I don't know how my friends would treat me going forward, and I don't want things between us to change. I've never had feelings for any of them, but I do think that me admitting I'm gay would make things awkward between us. I've had so many nights where I would lie awake and think about the ways to tell someone, a friend, a family member, but I always give in to the fear that they will reject me. Does anyone have any advice for me? Who should I tell first? Should I even tell my parents? How should I bring it up? Also, at 25 am I too old that it is weird I'm still a virgin, or is this normal? I see a lot of posts about gay men having sex a lot earlier than 25, and most of my straight friends have had sex, let alone kissed someone, and I'm left far behind them. I just feel really alone, and being cooped up with these thoughts and emotions all day is wearing down on me, I feel like I'm close to breaking.Thanks for anyone who takes the time to read
Help¡ Dealing with Genital Warts (HPV)
Im 21 years old gay Male. I got diagnosed with genital Warts around the anus last october, and My dermatologist treated me with podophyllin two times, but today i realized that some of them have reappear. Im probably going to the doctor next week to treat them again. The subject of this post is the consecuences of this virus in my personal life: I feel extremely frustrate for this, because I can't have normal bottoming sex with my boyfriend and i have to use medicines that, for me aren't working too much (imiquimod 2 times by week). Plus, for obvious reasons this cause some issues between me and my boyfriend. I want some advices about how should we aproach this issue, because im lacking of support and guide about this disease, and how to deal with it.
Is it possible that he's truly not gay? Or is he in so much denial/so tormented by religion?
I'm 25, met my boyfriend/friend/ex two years ago. I've been active on /r/askgaybros posting about all my relationship drama, but I decided to post this here because I'm looking for a more mature discussion regarding this.Obviously none of us know exactly why we are gay, but I think we can agree it's a combination of nature/nurture. My friend believes that homosexuality is caused by weak father relationship, manifestation of loneliness, or molestation (this is what the Catholic church states).I can prove this to be false because of my personal experience. I have a great relationship with my parents. I majority of my friends are (straight) guys. And I never was molested.My friend's personal experience is this: When he was 15 he had a friend of the same age, and they messed around a lot sexually. Then he hooked up when he was 16 with a guy who was 26. Even though this was consensual, it's obviously borderline sexual abuse.This led to him doing a lot of hooking up between 16-18, then he got really into religion from 18-20. Then he started hooking up a lot again, and going to gay bars, etc.Then he met me right before he turned 22. On Grindr. We hit it off really well. Became super close friends, lots of cuddles, we didn't even start having sex until like 6 months into our relationship.And during this time, he told me several times (and continue to to this day) that he is not gay, and cannot identify as such because it's in conflict with his faith. In addition, we cannot be in a relationship because it's in conflict with his faith.He says all of this is just a result of him being exposed to sex at a young age. And that believing he's gay has done "harmful things" to him, such as leading to hooking up and living the stereotypical lifestyle. He describes his past experiences as traumatic, and it's like PTSD. He says cuddling/being intimate with me brings back those bad unwanted memories.He fails to realize his sexuality isn't the cause of this, but it's the way in which he chooses to express his sexuality. To him there is no "normal" because according to his beliefs romantic same sex love cannot exist. So it's either a) be celibate or b) superficial encounters.He also tells me that he's not going to "sacrifice his dignity" by being in a relationship me like it's some terrible humiliating thing.And of course all of his Catholic influences (friends, priest) reinforce these ideologies and constantly "keep him in line" and tell him that he isn't gay, needs to go to confession, etc. They also give him hope that he can marry a woman someday.Despite all this, it's obvious he's attracted to me because he initiates affection, flirting, etc. all the time. He's been my boyfriend in every sense of the word.I found out he was Catholic when we first started dating, but I didn't realize the extent of the internal conflict he was dealing with. I found out he cheated on me last June, and he just lost it. He visited this priest he used to go to for spiritual guidance who told him to distance himself from me and end the physical portion of our relationship.From June through December it was just a mess. Then in December he came back into my life and things were relatively ok. The priest came back from an extended trip in January, and he's been visiting him on a weekly basis. Two weeks ago, he told me he needs to refocus on his spiritual life and things have been a mess since. Yesterday he apologized for "seducing me".
JO with my BF
We are in a LDR and JO together when we sometimes video chat when we are apart. We haven’t done it as much recently and sometime I haven’t been able to cum with him. Not sure if I’m just not that horny lately, or need more stimulation or just getting bored of jacking off.We have been dating and doing this for almost 7 months. He is getting discouraged that I’m not attracted to him anymore. When we are together the sex is hot and great and do it multiple times a day. So much to the point that after a week i sometimes can’t get off with him and I think I just need a break. He also takes this as me not being attracted to him as well...He still makes me horny as hell and want to have sex with him and do so many dirty things. Am I getting bored of it? Is it normal to get bored/tired of jerking off with your SO? Or am I losing interest?
Mental illness (depression, anxiety, bipolar, etc.) and dating?
If you're familiar with panic attacks, you know how decidedly un-fun they are. Last night, I suffered probably the most intense, scary, pretty-sure-I'm-gonna-die panic attack I've ever had in my 30 years of life. I was at work when it happened (a job I effectively quit when I left the building). I called my boyfriend Wayne, who picked me up and took me home.I've been seeing Wayne since late November, but we only officially became a couple about a month ago. Being that we've only been together for a small amount of time, the last thing I wanted was for him to see me the way I was last night: a sweaty, blubbering, hyperventilating, disheveled mess. This is someone I've started developing real feelings for and after knowing him just barely three months, he's already seen me at my absolute worst.We've texted at our usual times since last night, but I'm terrified to look him in the eye again. I felt so guilty. I pulled him away from his family and made him drive half an hour away to rescue me. I felt like I'd freaked him out and like he'd never want to see me again. Mind you, these are all thoughts I'd cooked up in my own mind and don't have a ton of basis in reality. In fact, he told me to stop apologizing, that it was fine, that everything would be okay. He was amazing. But still. I don't know how to handle it after the fact. Do I even acknowledge that it happened? Do I just forget about it and never mention it again?Also, what have been your experiences dating someone with a mental illness, or being someone with a mental illness in a relationship?
Got blocked on grinder
I literally just got blocked on grinder by a guy who I have done light stuff with before because I refused to put him over my sick mum who was coming home from work.
Im Confused
I think I am falling in love with this boy but I’m pretty sure he is straight. I don’t want to mess up our relationship because we’re good friends but I just can’t stop thinking about him. We run track together, and if I make things awkward between us it’ll be 4 years of having to see him. (I’m a freshman) I don’t know any older gay people to talk to, all my friends are straight and there’s no way they can relate, so I came here for advice. What should I do? I feel very lonely.
The monster in the closet
It's raining today, I cried as hard as each drops is falling in my own car. I hate myself for loving a man, but I cannot love a woman. I can't tell my parent because growing up, they were extremely homophobic. It's sad. Both my parents are always judging and making comment about disowning their own child if they ever found out he was gay. I've grew up like that, homophobic until I was a sophomore in high school, that's when I realized, I love this guy. So much so we would make out during lunch behind buildings. At first it feel gross, but I realized that it is who I am. I am gay. I can't bring myself to tell my parents that. They've worked too hard to put me where I am at, I'm their hopes and dream. The one that they sacrifice so that I could have mine, they don't even ask me to follow what they want me to study, just as long as I study what I like. But these day, I feel burn out. My wings is on fire, I'm lonely and I'm falling, I cried everyday in my car because it's so lonely. I wanted to talk to my parents Some time but I can't, I wanted to talk to my family but I can't, and most of my friend already got enough shit on their plate it's highly unusual that they would even consider listening to me. In moment of desperation I used grindr, then I met him. He was not perfect, but in my eyes he was. We went out on a date. It feel so good to feel loved once more. We ended with a kiss, and planning of future date that is too far away. I'm afraid. Im afraid if I text him too much i might scare him, but if I text him too little he might not care. I'm scared of everything, I'm scared of going back to that hole of loneliness. I'm scared. Please help me. What should I do? So that we may keep dating. [I text him but he usually replied like 4 or 5 hours later]
Being Gay
I (38) noticed quite early that I like men more than women. In the 5th grade I found my gym teacher quite cute and later, my Greek instructor with mustache (sexy). What was it like with you? Tell me about your youth.
2018. február 26., hétfő
Help! Gay best friend is scared/insecure to put himself out there.
A little history: My friend was closeted for years. Married straight out of high school and had two kids. Six years ago he ran into an old friend from show choir. This friend recently came out and encouraged him to do the same.He did. He completely rearranged his live and obviously it was a very bumpy road. He ended up dating his friend. They’ve been in an on again off again relationship since. However, that friend destroyed his confidence about his physical appearance. Basically he refused to be intimate with my friend and blamed his weight. (He has put on some weight but still adorable IMO).Anyway, I desperately want him to experience physical affection and love with someone. He is too nervous to date online because he thinks everyone will be as shallow as his ex.I’m a straight married woman and don’t know how to help him. He has an amazing job. He’s smart, funny, talented, super cute... I can go on. I wish I were a gay man caused I’d totally marry him!Any words of wisdom or resources? We live in Southern California, not too far from LA. He feels like he’s too old for the club/bar scene. I’m anxious to find him someone to experience love with, mainly because I’m worried he’ll get sucked back into his old relationship and start the cycle again.
Brother will not bring his boyfriends around
Please don't beat me up about this... because I"m going to be very honest.My brother came out to me about 5 years ago. I handled it very poorly. Cried and got a little angry because he lied for a long time about it. Thankfully I'm married to a wonderful man who helped me see the light and realize that my relationship with my brother was important and not worth losing.I feel bad because I was the first person he told and then for a long time he didn't tell our mother. I told him that I would not out him, but that he should tell our mother. He finally did about 2 years ago and she was shocked, but accepting. My brother is not out to extended family because they're very conservative and have openly made comments about their lack of acceptance. I do think they speculate it, but it's not talked about.I have apologized to my brother numerous times. We do have a good relationship, but I think the damage is done. As I'll always be part of his story of coming out and it's not a good part because I handled it so badly.I really love my brother and he is such a great uncle. My son LOvES him very much!Moving on, my brother dated a guy for a year and a half... he never introduced him to us. I asked my brother why he didn't and he said that he told his bf how I reacted to him coming out and that his bf said he had no interest in meeting me because of how I treated my brother. I was really hurt about it. Now I'm worried that anyone he dates is going to hate me or think of me negatively based on my initial reaction to my brother coming out to me.I only have one sibling and if my brother dates or marries someone... I'd like to be close with that person and I'd like them to be a part of my life and embrace my kids too. I am really excited at the prospect of having a bil and hope that we can become close. How can I make things right? I feel like anyone my brother dates is going to hate me straight out of the gate.Any advice or insight would be helpful. Thanks in advance.
Best friend, why is he doing this ?
So I’m not out and it scares me to I’m not ready.I believe a lot of people suspect in gay, within my group of 4 mates from listening to them they generally make anti gay comments etc or take the piss.I’ve never had a girlfriend and this is being noticed etc, i find it embarrassing.My best friend however (who I presume must know) who from the past had always been with tons of girls, but never in a relationship ship even tho he is stunning and could have any1 he wanted.I have Managed to put any feelings for him away and respect him a lot so would risk that. However he has begun to stay over a lot and when sleeping it’s like he purposely will wear only boxers and make jokes about having sex etc.. on numerous occasions we have been drunk and pretending to be sleeping he has been lying all over me, cuddling and is obviously coming into me. Then just flips over and then some time later starts again. He has been erect also.He jumps to my defence and tried to change subject if sum1 makes gay jokes or whoever.What is he playing at? He definitely is the most caring person in my life and I can’t even come out to him but is he possibly gay/bi, is he teasing me... it’s just frying my head
Masc bi here need help
So im a masc bi guy ans i want to be able to send some signals to some guy coworkers that i would be interested. Not sure how to do it without being completely bold. Im more of a bottom or submissive when im with guys so that my issue. Any ideas?
Cant seem to have sex
So i am 20 and the only things I've done sexualy was to give blowjob (twice) and Thats all. And that too was a while back. Now i have met a great online and he is the perfect guy to loose my virginity with, but i feel like i will chicken out of it.. Its literally like the the 20th time i am doing this, plans to meet up with Someone and cancel on them last minute.Now, i prefer to loose my virginity with someone i am dating. But considering where i live, that wont happen untill for another 6 or 7 years at the earlierst ( when i move to another country)Idk what to do. Should i just go through with it or wait like 6/7 and maybe even 10 yrs to do it with someone i love.. Advice would be nice
High sex drive?
So, I've have quiet high testosterone levels and sex drive is also high. Now recently I've started dieting and working out to loose weight and its been getting worse and its distracting. Now i have to masturbate multiple times a day just to stay focused and not distracted in uni and stuff. What can i do to get rid of this unwanted sex drive?
I'm gay and I don't know how to tell my Christian parents
My mum and father pray to god every day and make me read the bible at night, when I was little they gave me a tattoo of jesus christ and made Jesus my legal name. Please help, heil HitlerYours truly Jesus
Coming out tips?
Hi, I'm 14, dude, and gay. I kinda feel uncomfortable around my parents, they're kinda overbearing and I just feel awkward around them. But I still love them and I want to come out them. Any tips?
I’m in love with my friend
Hi I’m a gay guy and I have a friend called Kia and he’s in my English class but about three three weeks ago I started feeling differently towards him but a don’t know if I should tell him. Mainly because he’s going out with someone else (female) but I feel I should tell him what should I do.
How’s Germany in terms of rights and acceptance?
My parents want to go to Germany for a holiday and have invited me so what are their lgbt rights and general acceptance by the population?
American Ninja Warrior tv show
You know you’re gay when you don’t watch the show for the sport but for other reasons...
2018. február 25., vasárnap
Gay guy with some image issues
I am 42 years old. I've pretty much got a happy life - good job, great husband, wonderful friends, live in a nice area - but my one huge gigantic problem is body image/self esteem issues. Otherwise in good health, I am 5'10", 200 pounds, and run or workout 3 to 4 days a week. I mostly eat right and I socially drink. I am not looking for advice about eating or exercising but I'd like to hear from others who are having similar challenges. This is seriously the hardest thing, mentally, I am dealing with and it's very depressing.
Real Dad Curious About My Son
I am a 35 year old gay man and I have a 15 year old adopted son. I've always been very transparent and open when raising my son. I'm a bit of a naturist by default so when we're at home we're usually nude (unless it's too cold). I just have never seen the point in making nudity or sex taboo subjects. They're normal parts of life just like breathing or eating. So I've incorporated that in the way I've raised him. This has made us very close and open with each other, and my son came out to me as bisexual last month. I'm the only person he's told so far.We were watching a movie at home this past Friday (both nude, since that's how we are at home), and he ended up getting a boner and I was teasing him about it, harmless jokes, just telling him that he better go take care of that. That kinda thing. And he ended up asking me if it would be weird if we jerked off together. This obviously caught me by surprise, but I admit that I was intrigued. We talked about it for about a half hour and then decided that there's really nothing wrong with just jerking off together because it's not like real sex. We ended up jerking off together, right next to each other, while watching porn. I know some people may not agree with this, but in a weird way it was kind of the best bonding experience between us.Obviously I'm kind of hesitant to post this and share this, but I'm wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience with their dad or son. And also would like to know your guys' opinions
Was I Unfair To My Ex?
am posting this as I'd like to hear some impartial opinions so that I can learn from it and not make the same mistake in the future.So basically:I meet this guy and things go so well, I stay the night and we start dating from the very first day. We connected like we've both not connected with anyone in forever. Within a week we are spending almost every single day together.Within a month I am at his house every single day. Even when he isn't there or at university I go to do my own work etc and even have my own food there and everything.We talk feelings and tell each other how much we like and care about each other. We both haven't felt like this for anybody in years. We decide to keep the relationship 'open' to sex with other guys but no dating. Just since it had only been a month at this point and didn't want to add any pressure to the relationship yet.That being said, none of us meet any other guys or anything. We spend all of our time together and have no interest in anybody else.2.5 months in, I ask him for a couple of weeks to myself as I am going through some personal stuff and need to get my head together. He tells me it feels like a permanent break away and then tries to save face by saying he was going to ask to take a step back anyways.A couple of weeks later, we meet again. Things are a little awkward and not as lovey dovey. However next time we go to the cinema and hold hands etc, he tells me it made him really happy and he missed it.The next few weeks are kind of back and forth awkward. There seems to be some tension between us for whatever reason and I was getting frustrated as one minute he's hot the next he is cold. It was emotionally very stressful for me.Eventually I lash out a little and kind of just say "what even are we right now?" he takes offence to that and ignores me for a day then we hang out the next like nothing happened.A few days later he tells me he just wants to be really really good friends as he doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore.I decide to go home to my home country and spend some time with my family. I took that as us breaking up and wasn't really prepared to just be friends yet.We spend the last couple of days together. They are magical and just like old times. We make out, cuddle, sleep together intertwined etc. and I write him a goodbye letter which I give the next day. I go home to pack before going back.I go to meet him and he is in absolute dire state with tears, hugging me etc. and he gives me a letter of his own. Telling me the past month due to some weird conflict between us he didn't feel like the future we pictured together could happen, but the last two days made him feel like it would be possible after all. Just as I was leaving.He tells me he needs me in his life, loves me, cares about me so so much, can never replace me etc.We kiss and say our goodbyes at the train station. He is distraught.I tell him on the plane on the way home that I will be back in a few months. He tells me he will wait for me cause no one could replace me and he only cares about me but can't promise he won't do anything with one of his friends one night while drunk or something but "even that probably won't happen and that's the most that will happen" aka no dates or anything.I am like, fine, I don't care about that.He makes a google album to share our life together and we talk everyday etc, share everything of our life and I am really excited to go back.Then my own friend messages me with screenshots of him asking for **** pics, saying "my name told me it's big ;)" and his grindr bio was "looking for horny twink". This was a week after me leaving. I was mortified. But I didn't find out until three weeks later so called him out for it then.I call him out for it and he assures me it doesn't mean anything, he only cares about me etc. initially he was just like "what? drop it" but then he elaborated on that points. It concerns me and honestly I act out of emotion as I didn't want to lose him and there was nothing I could do while halfway across the world from him.. I cared for him a lot and mostly I worried about him replacing me while away, not so much just asking for **** pics or whatever.Then he tells me I am being dramatic and ignores me for like an entire day. We start talking again kind of like normal but I am feeling somewhat insecure in us now especially as he asked a couple of times "when are you coming back? and "I can't promise if you aren't back by April / May I won't go on dates with either guys" which worried me even more as it led me to think he was getting tempted. Like dude we have so much plans together and you can't wait a couple of months?Anyway I start to panic kind of and start asking him to assure me he will actually wait etc. I told him idc if you have sex with one of your friends but I can't be there to share the things we normally do like cuddling, kissing, going on dates and spending our time together etc. so if he done that with other people I'd have a problem with it.He tells me he will wait.The next day he tells me he is meeting a guy for coffee. I ask him what his intentions were and he says friends and I am looking into it too much. Then he tells me that I am halfway across the world and he will not be limiting himself if he wants to pursue something. Right after saying he wants to be with me "so so so bad".Then the next day I ask how it went and if anything happened.. he snaps and tells me he doesn't want me back "right now" and that I was being a nag and putting a ton of pressure on him.This all occurred over a period of like five days. I have never acted like that before and don't believe my concerns were entirely unjustified..Then he starts not talking to me, eventually starts feeding me breadcrumbs and when I ask if he's being distant, he says yes and he can't imagine a future with me anymore cause it feels like a prison sentence.What strikes me is that it was right after meeting another guy. It kind of shattered me a bit as I have never given so much of myself to somebody and it seemed like a few days of me acting a bit out of character had completely abolished the four months we had spent together with nothing but positivity.Now I am 99% sure that he is dating another guy just two weeks after this (heard from my friends) and it feels kind of sucky that he's replaced me so easily after everything between us. But mostly I feel bad cause I acted needy for a few days and if I didn't do that things may be different.Idk. I am hoping to learn from this and ask your opinions on the situation as it's really difficult for me to comprehend. I feel like a fool for getting needy but at the same time idk how anyone could not start to worry after seeing those things and I acted out of panic I guess.He also sold some of the stuff I left at his house and blocked me on social media when he realised I was still coming back (he isn't the only reason I was there) cause he "didn't know how to handle it" and "doesn't think it's in my best interest to come back"... he emailed me this.Everything just seemed so out of nowhere.
1st time plugged
I just bought a set of butt plugs. Used 2 sizes in the shower just now omg it felt so good. Going to try the biggest tonight
Hi. I'm 17, and looking for an online friend (ahem)
Hi! I'm Slava, and would love to have penpal, for sharing thoughts, photos etc. I feel not ready to have an offline boyfriend, but someone not near me. I just recently came out for myself about my true nature. If u r interested in such relationship, please, contact me on instagram (its the only international social network i am in) my name there is @slaavaa16 there u can see me, and decide . Dont get me wrong, i'm not promoting my acc or smt. If u r under 25, and pretty enough, i would love u to write me. Thank you I'm sorry for such an ask, but i really feel like i need someone. I wish you good lives
Being submissive (bdsm)
Sooo. I think i am gunna loose my virginity. Finally! Soo.. Along with the usual stuff i am also into a lot of kinky stuff like bdsm and all. And i am the submissive one. Any tips for a first timer doing it?
Dating tips
Going on a date with a guy I met on Grindr in a few days, any tips? This would be my fist time going out on a date ever haha.
Outing someone in the closet (or bi)? Why??
I am not trying to be homophobic or sound like I have internalized misogyny. I was in a relationship with a guy from December of last year, until September of this year. He was the only guy I have ever had sex with, and one of 4 guys I have ever messed around with in my life.About 2 years ago, I messed around with a guy from Grindr, and he wasn't really what I expected, so after I met him the first time, I never really tried to reach out or hang out with him again. After about a week, he somehow found me on Facebook and messaged my mom, my cousins I have marked on facebook, my girlfriend at the time,someone I randomly added with the same name as me, and several other family/friends, saying that he and I made plans to elope, all kinds of crazy shit.Now fast forward to today, and the same thing happens. A guy i knew from high school had catfished me on Grindr, (he is gay) and once I found out it was him, I kindly told him I wasn't interested. I had sent him explicit photos of myself, and he kept posting them into the comments of my statuses on Facebook, and then message me threatening to send them to my mom and family if I wouldn't message him back or blocked him. He will sometimes post things at 3-4 in the morning , knowing I won't see until I wake up and at that point they have already been there several hours.I have now finally blocked him last night, not sure if he has messaged my mom or anything yet. I have never been rude to him, I never lead him on, but I am now very hesitant to mess around with any gay guys because they all seem to be very very vindictive, two faced and sometimes take enjoyment out of fucking with people and ruining their lives. Why is this? Is if because they feel insecure in themselves and try to bring people down? Or do they just hate people who aren't out? Because most guys, outside of the one I was serious with, get SO angry when they find out I am attracted to women as well, and have primarily been with women. And I don't know if they do this because I am bi, or they feel spurned or what ? It's so fucking FRUSTRATING that people could be so rude and vicious, especially to people who have the same struggle in common!!
Why do some gay guys develop a lisp or voice that can easily be identified as gay?
I know I have a gay voice but honestly I can’t even tell when I talk that I sound gay. It’s only when I listen to myself on tape that I can actually here how I sound to everyone else.Why does this happen? I’ve never made a conscious effort to talk the way I do, and I assume that’s the case with most of the people on the page. So why do we develop a way of talking that differs from heterosexual guys?
Best/most gay friendly cities in Europe for American twenty-something?
Hi, I'm an American that is graduating soon and I am hoping to live abroad. Where would you recommend?
Want to explore my gay sexual side.
I wanna talk with a gay man that’s been out the closet for a long time. I recently found out I love dick. On my mouth. I don’t like dick in my ass but I love getting tied up and played with toys, small ones. But I don’t like giving anal... what are somethings I should try??!! Super inexperienced but I wanna see what else I like. I also like girls too, love me some good pussy. How hard is it to find a threesome with a guy and girl but the guy only plays w me... sorry guys I’m horny and so excited to explore his whole new world!!! PM me if you’d like to help or comment! Thanks fellow gay men! Xoxo
Stuck on a holiday boyfriend: Pt.2
I'm smitten and happy to let off a little steam.Last July I posted something about being stuck on a holiday boyfriend. A guy I met the year before camping. He's 18, I'm 27 and over the holidays we just bonded. As far as I figured in a brotherly way, me being the big brother. However, at the end of the week when I had to leave and he stayed behind with his (foster) family, he locked me in embrace, started crying and wanted to kiss me. I didn't reciprocate: I felt the 10-year age gap was a little too much, my mother already had called me a pedophile and I was happy being his crush over the summer (not paying attention to my own feelings) and left it at that.Fast forward a year later when FB pops up a memory of that holiday. I hadn't gone camping and was stuck on a 7-hour train ride. The photo popped up, a French love-song came on and suddenly I was sobbing. Took me a little bit of soul-searching to realize I missed that guy. A lot. I looked him up online, sent him a message and nothing happened for a long time. We did get into contact, but he was very quiet...which made sense, him being young, closeted to the extent that he still considers himself straight, and growing up with his biological family being taught not to express any genuine emotion. I did get into contact with his foster-mom tho, who is a great woman anyway. We chatted for a while, also about the guy, and things were just great.Again, everything quieted down, until a few weeks ago an idea popped up in my head to go visit foster mom. I bonded with her own kids too (ages 4, 10) and felt it would be a nice trip for me too. So...last Friday I went over and had a great time. My guy wasn't there, staying with his own parents, and I just had a wonderful time. After a walk and lunch, I was offered to stay for dinner, and few glasses of wine later we decided I would be staying the night. And then. My guy's biological mother walks in and stays for dinner, out of the blue. Bit awkward. I had been thinking about him plenty, but decided to leave it there. No need for me to head over to him, just let it be.Then again, me having had a few, I just asked where he was. Out with his dad, so I was told, would be home in a few. I blurted out: So, ask him over!I couldn't keep my eyes off the clock. When I knew he'd be home..no less than five minutes later (they live down the street) he steps in the room. Silence. He knew I was there, and still stops dead in his track. We hug. Embrace, and can't let go. For the rest of the night, we sit at the table holding hands. His real mom completely oblivious, but his foster mom just gazing at us and loving it.The hours go on deep into the night when bio-mom goes up to leave. The guy declares he's staying for the night as well. He does that often, no surprise. Bio-mom leaves. We talk a bit more. Foster-mom wants to sleep too but decides to take the guest room (single bed) and offers up her own empty double bed.She's out the room. We peck a small kiss. And another, and another. We go to bed. Clothes fly everywhere and you can guess the rest. In the moment he talks about how, two years ago, he had asked me to sleep with him to figure out his sexuality. I told him no: Based on the age-thing. He still was a bit raw about it, good thing we got even at last.We wake up next to each other. I can hear foster mom keeping everyone quiet in the house, trying to let us have our morning together in bed. Little bit more sexy things happen, but we're mostly curled up like a pretzel, going in and out of sleep and stroking each other's hair, beards, arms. You get it.The rest of the day we just wander about the house, a bit hungover. At some pointe's upstairs playing video games with the kids, entertaining them, whilst mom and I discuss the situation. How he's obviously smitten but has a lot of issues dealing with it. After just sharing our thoughts, I decide to call him downstairs and just talk about it with the three of us. He doesn't talk much but lets me know that he doesn't want to tie things down and that's that. I'm of course slightly disappointed, but more than happy to take things at his speed. Later he does mention that he doesn't mind seeing me often, but I feel him quieting down already like he's turning inside on himself.Too bad. Having had a great day with the lovely peoples, and basically never leaving his side and holding hands as much as we can..I decide I still have to head home. All is well, as a group we decide to meet again soon and I get in the car. About half an hour in I realize I'm still wearing his earring and he's wearing mine. I let out a stifled cry and realize this story ain't done yet.Right now I'm sitting in a coffee place with my best friend, trying to work, instead putting my feelings to the screen. It's been a crazy few hours, but in the end, I'm happy to be feeling the way that I am. I sent him a few messages, trying to keep a slow pace. For me. I know I can go head-over-heels, but I'm afraid that could get messy. Following my friend's advice, I'm just enjoying the moment and what I'm feeling. Hoping, in the back of my head, things will work out. So far...we'll see.tldr: I'm in love with someone and let's leave it at that. Just sharing my own feelings and maybe someone reading this will get hopeful too ;)
I Just need to write this down somewhere.
Hey everyone, just wanted to get some thoughts written down, I'm feeling quite bad at the moment. I can't come to terms with my sexuality, and I just feel so ashamed whenever I think about the fact that I could be gay. I'm in high school, and whenever I see an openly homosexual person I just feel so envious. Sometimes I dream about that one day where I could just wake up and embrace who I am, but then I get hit with a dose of reality. All my friends are straight, and often make jokes about people being gay. I just laugh and play along, I don't know what to do. A few years ago, I slept with another man. It was a bad time in my life, I was in an edgy drug phase. Anyway, after it happened I immediately became embarrassed and destroyed our friendship. Over the next couple months I tried to keep it on the down low, but then that kid started telling people. I just ignored it, or convinced people it was a lie. It fizzled out, but some people already knew. They were kind enough not to say anything, and I'm grateful about that. Until a few months ago, everything was going fine. Then one of my closest friends started hinting at what happened, laughing, knowing that it made me uncomfortable. He would stop whenever nobody laughed, because nobody ever really found it funny. Tonight, him and another friend decided to come over and stay at my apartment for the night. We just joked around for hours, until it was time to go to sleep. We couldn't decide what to watch on Netflix to fall asleep to, so I just started picking dumb stuff as a joke. I guess this was making my friend mad, because all of a sudden he just started making all these passive-aggressive references towards me being gay. He's been taking more shots at my sexuality than usual lately, but I couldn't believe that he could be so cruel over something so trivial! He then went a step farther, and essentially outed me in front of my other friend, who just sat there listening the whole time! I don't know what to do, I know this sounds like bs high school drama right now, and it probably is, but I'm legitimately so afraid that he's gonna tell other people, and I can't stop him. I feel like he's ruining my opportunity to come out on my own terms, all because he's homophobic! Now I'm laying in bed at four 30 in the morning writing on Reddit. If there's any advice you can give me, it would be greatly appreciated. I messaged his weird stepdad on Facebook for a joke, since it's four in the morning. That really doesn't count as revenge, I just found it funny. Anyway, if you read all this, thanks for listening.
I AM 14
I just came out and my parents are talking about putting me up for adoption. Or having my aunt take me.... I don't know what to do?.
2018. február 24., szombat
Looking for a friend!
Hi I’m a male I’m 15 and gay and in need of friends! I have Snapchat if anyone wants to talk!
I have finally accepted my gayness
I had this thing in the back of my mind and it came full frontal one day. I am a confident and self-loving person so I finally stopped suppressing these thoughts. There is 100% fear. My family will never know (because I won't tell them) and I am anxious whether my friends will accept me or be disgusted by me. I come from a religious background and I question if God will accept me. And it has come to a point were I consider being closeted forever. I just want perspective from a loving community.
My crush is cute....
I don't care that everyone posts this and no one else actually cares but Idk he's just so nice and adorable.
[25] feelin' lonely.... Advice? NJ
25 years old....college graduate... in a relationship with a guy I love but I have zero gay friends. All his friends are girls. I only really make friends with guys but no str8 dude wants to be friends with a gay guy.... and every gay guy i've tried making friends with "ghosts" me when they find out I have a boyfriend. I have a snapchat & instagram... but no luck. Trying to make at least ONE friend before summer time. Any advice?
advice? im at my wits end
so i dont know why im going to reddit but it seems like this is a good place for advice.my question is, to all of you who are willing to answer, is how do i repair a friendship? its with this guy, lets call him D, and we are like brothers, or so he said and i consider him one. i let things slip out of my mouth pertaining to certain things we did, and he is identifying as straight, so i kinda messed up. its been over a year and we keep trying to get on even ground (he has forgiven me for what i did but animosity still remains). he wants to be friends, and i want to too, but im not sure what to do. he blocks me on snapchat because i ask him a question about trivial things and im not sure how to rebuild that trust we had. do i leave him alone until he is ready or should i confront him (gently) on what i can do?
In my 30s - never had a boyfriend. Is that odd?
Hey all. I've never posted here before. I'm in my early 30s now, and I've never been in a relationship. Is that unusual? It seems like every gay person I follow on Twitter has been in one, is engaged or married. I do not live in a city, which many of them seem to. Anyone else in the same situation?
Relationship help?
So I’m gay, 20 years old, and this may sound bad but I’ve never met a gay man that wasn’t attracted to me in some way. The only problem is I can’t see it no matter what. No matter what the circumstance is, I always see myself as the ugly one despite so many people telling me otherwise. Does anyone know why I feel this way?
Shaving bum for the first time... Advice?
So I’m a teenager and I can’t really buy hair removal creams or any of that stuff. All I have are razors and scissors. My bum hair is too long and I’ve wanted to at least trim it for ages, but I’m too scared I’ll cut myself or something. Help!
help please!!!
So im gay and i have very homophobic parents who are very religious.I know that coming out isn't an option since they're so religious and would never disrespect their traditions. im currently going to high school so i have a lot of time to think about this and it isn't something urgent but still its a big problem. My best friend who i have known for more than 10years fully supports me and i came out to him about 3months ago while another close friend supports me too which is great but the problem is that my family doesnt. I live in Europe in a country where theres no death penalties for this but everyone over 30is homophobic but at least the younger generations aren't. What im trying to say is that I'm not depressed and this isn't destroying my life at all since it could be way worse but i still do have a big problem with them being homophobic and idk what should i do. My life plan is to move to the United States where i'll marry a man and be myself and where people will accept me but after i thought about this i understood that it isnt so easy to say oh i will leave my entire family behind and move to another country while hiding a crap ton of details about my life from them so i thought maybe after i get financially stable i can bring my parents over there? but then i understood I'd have a problem with hiding my relationships and with them constantly asking me when am i going to get a girlfriend so that plan is not so smart although even if I was straight i would want to move to the us since i really like everything about it so my ideal plan of solving this issue of coming out to them would have to include solving dditional issues of moving to another country. Its really complicated and i dont know what the fuck am i supposed to do???? i dont want to break their heart by coming out since they love me so much and we have a great relationship but this is really bugging me. I know yall are about to say how do they love you if they wouldn't accept the fact that ur gay? well that's not because they are crazy and hate gays for no reason and want to kill them etc its because they are religious and because their religion says being gay is a sin. i investigated their beliefs on gay ppl a lot and they dont believe in conversion therapy and exorcisms and that bullshit but they think that its a very big sin and that its a "choice" and that the person might not understand that it's a choice but after "talking to god and seeking spiritual heeling they would understand they made a bad choice" i was so fucking pissed because of the fact that religion brainwashed them into believing into all this crazy stuff but at least they dont think gays deserve to die or some crazy bs like that so i just went to my room and cried but i got over it after some time,im not sad and this isnt something huge but i know that my life would be way better if i solved this issue. so know im like what should i do? maybe there's a way that i could change their beliefs? but thats really hard since they are very religious and my entire family is so i would stand no chance at that. I think that if i came out they would be really sad and would try to "help" me but they just would not understand that it isnt a goddamn choice!!!!!!!!!! can you please give me advice on what to do i would be really thankful❤ (btw English isnt my native language so sry if i made some mistakes)
(NSFW) - In a gay relationship wit a sub, not naturally a dom myself, advice needed? (TL;DR at bottom)
Hi all,To quickly summarise I'm a 23 year old gay male currently in a very strong, long distance relationship of around 3 months with a 20 year old male.What with ours being long distance we've naturally had to adapt to not being able to be physically with each other, and so we've found other ways of keeping things exciting, I'm sure you already know what I'm on about so I won't go into details. As a result, in the last few weeks I've found out more and more about what makes him happy and what his 'kinks' are, and it's become vividly apparent that he's very much a submissive. He's openly admitted this, and has gone on to explain some of the more, let's say, extreme things that he likes and would like me to do in the future.Now herein lies my dilemma. I am not naturally a dominant character. I'm confident, don't get me wrong, but the thought of actively degrading the one I love and causing them possible pain is something that has never even crossed my mind before. I'm open to the idea, as with many things I'm willing to try almost anything at least once, plus if he truly likes it then of course I want to do all I can to please him in that way. However what with myself not being naturally dominant I'm looking to any of you who perhaps has experience with this to offer me some advice?For now I've grown somewhat comfortable being dominant via text and voice chat, but I know for a fact if we were to meet tomorrow I wouldn't be able to be physically dominant, not yet.If anyone has any genuine advice I would be more than grateful. Even if anyone can simply offer an explanation as to why he likes being submissive? I kind of understand why being submissive might be a turn on for some people, but I'd be lying if I said I knew exactly why, so a thorough explanation from someone who truly gets it would be appreciated? Plus if anyone has any tips on how I can personally grow more comfortable with the idea, then that would also be hugely beneficial?TL;DR: In a relationship with a submissive, not naturally dominant, don't fully understand why it's a turn on, but I'm open to the idea. Need advice on how to be more comfortable with the idea of degrading/hurting/dominating the one I love.
Need help. This is the only place I can get it.
How do I get revenge on a straighty that toyed with my feelies?Thanks.
How do I tell a guy I like him, but I don't know if he's gay?
I just fell for a guy I know from school, and I think we get along, but I don't know if he is gay. I read this stupid thing online that if a person likes you, their pupils get bigger and he has bright blue eyes, and sometimes they seem bigger but sometimes their normal. I sound stupid, but can I get any advice on what to do?
Is it possible for testosterone levels to affect your sexuality?
Now don't hate me for this, I don't believe that people are gay cause they have low T or something like the Nazis. This personally happened to me a while back and I thought I'd share it.I never used to work out or do kind of exercise before, but I recently got myself to do at least a few push ups every day. I got to doing 20 daily but one day I wanted to really push my limits. That day, I forced myself to do over a 100 push ups in a few hours during the small breaks I took while studying. I was exhausted but it felt really good, and as any form of exercise does, it greatly increased my T levels. I decided to the same thing the very next day, and I felt like I was practically drowning in testosterone by the end.That night when I went to bed I felt a bit different. This is kind of embarrassing, but I sort of fantasize about other dudes to help me sleep most nights. Surprisingly though, I didn't feel the same that night. It's not that I wasn't in the mood, I just had trouble seeing other guys in a sexual way that night. I felt like a straight alpha male, and the idea of finding another bro sexy felt weird and kinda disgusting. I won't say I magically started to like girls, but in that moment I just felt out if touch with my sexuality, and just saw all men the way straight guys do. Thankfully I still liked dudes the next day, but that experience got me wondering. Could sexuality be affected by psychological effects of testosterone?Let me know what you all think.
Should I come out to my Grandma?
I came out about 4 months ago to my family, I've only come out to myself in December 2016; My family was always super supportive of gay rights and the lgbt cause, so I took a while because I wasn't sure if it would change their treatment to me. Like, not discrimination wise, but just in general. But I am more concerned about coming out to my grandma, she's Sexist and slightly homophobic, though she claims to have gay friends she still uses terms such as "fag" she's also 84 and nearing the end of her life, i'm not sure if I should risk our relationship and the little time we have left, but while it feels horrible to lie to her when she asks me of girlfriends I feel like I would be being selfish in coming out to her at this point of her life, she is also a bit temperamental and she has some health issues that enhanced that.
R/CCJ2 Mod calls me a Faggot: "You are an unfunny faggot without a single comment that wasn't pure AIDS, please make us permaban you." Why does reddit allow Mods to act this way?
You've been temporarily banned from participating in r/CCJ2 expand allcollapse all[–]subreddit message via /r/CCJ2[M] sent 11 hours agoYou have been temporarily banned from participating in r/CCJ2. This ban will last for 3 days. You can still view and subscribe to r/CCJ2, but you won't be able to post or comment.Note from the moderators:The first post, I just removed and warned. The second post, I should have b& but didn't. Third post, I mean, how stupid do you have to be to try the same shit three times?This isn't your playground to disparage an entire people and get us all b&. Remember when I said there was a fine line between jerking and being a blowhard? You can take a few days to focus on why jokes about specific kinds of people are fine, but your posts are not. Perhaps you'll have cleared your head by then. Feel free to try again once those days have passed.If you have a question regarding your ban, you can contact the moderator team for r/CCJ2 by replying to this message.Reminder from the Reddit staff: If you use another account to circumvent this subreddit ban, that will be considered a violation of the Content Policy and can result in your account being suspended from the site as a whole.permalinkdeletereportblock subredditmark unreadreply [–]to /r/CCJ2 sent 11 hours agoDon’t call me stupid, it’s clear I’m not. I’ve been civil and appreciate the same.I understand not getting shut down. But take one step back and realize how sad it is that a circle jerk has to impose limits.Still I get your message.permalinkreply [–]subreddit message via /r/CCJ2[M] sent an hour agoYou are an unfunny faggot without a single comment that wasn't pure AIDS, please make us permaban you.permalinkdeletereportblock subredditmark unreadreply [–]from CaucasianChinese[M] via /r/CCJ2 sent an hour agoprevious reply was me #fuckthenewmodmailpermalinkdeletereportblock usermark unreadreply [–]to CaucasianChinese[M] via /r/CCJ2 sent 23 minutes agoFuck u and your sub. Bye bye
Just Want to Rant About Being In Love With My Best Friend
So I’m a uni student from Australia who identifies as staggeringly stereotypically gay. I’m 18 and I came out when I was 15, firstly to my friends at high school, and then to my family. One of those friends from high school holds a special place in my heart for many reasons. One of which is the fact that he was one of the first people I came out to. Another reason would be the fact that he was also one of the first people to be entirely accepting of my sexuality, no questions asked, no strange looks or reactions, no fears of “Aw no is he gonna try and flirt with me now?”, nothing but a nod of understanding and kind, heartfelt words.So we were quite close with each other in high school, and further on down the track, fast-forward to my first year of uni, we met up for lunch or movies or whatever we wanted as often as we could. We’d find time for each other within our busy uni schedule; I’m studying music theatre an he’s studying education, so free time was somewhat hard to come by. All the while within this first year of uni, we would tag each other in memes all the time, text each other about just funny things we saw that day, always a good time whenever he and I speak together.When suddenly his birthday arrives, and on a spur-of-the-moment decision, I’m buying him shoes, dinner, movie tickets, whatever I could for him. In total I spend like $210 on the one afternoon, more than I had ever spent for one guy before, let alone a guy I was romantically invested in. Just to provide context, before this I had a boyfriend for two and a half years in high school, and that was a pretty good relationship until he dumped me. The most I had ever spent on that first boyfriend was like $60 for a new Pokémon game.This thought played in my head whilst my friend and I were out and about in the city celebrating his birthday, just the two of us. Why was I so adamant about the frivolous gifts? Why do I feel so much pressure to give him everything he wants while simultaneously feeling no pressure at all because that’s what he deserves? Why do I think about him all the time in this way? Why do I want to make him happy so badly? The answer of course was obvious to my heart maybe, but my head didn’t comprehend it until the two of us had actually gone our separate ways after the birthday outing was done. I had fallen in love with my best friend. Yeah I know... sarcastic-teenager-voice “Oh Em Gee, a fag who’s in love with his straight best friend? That’s like, sooooooooo originallllllllll...”Yes I know, it’s incredibly cliché of a gay adolescent guy to be in love with his straight best friend, and this story is probably both very relatable and sickeningly overheard, but even so, it’s my story that I need to have told, and talking to my other friends about this doesn’t always help. Bare with me through this gross amount of gay unrequited love if you will.So yeah, after his birthday I realised that I was in love with him. I knew that I had to tell him then. I had never wanted to lie to him before, and I wasn’t going to start now. A couple days later maybe, we meet up at a coffee shop, and he’s wearing the shoes I bought him. In that moment, watching him walk up to the front doors of the shop I think to myself “Ok this is it. I can’t keep hiding how I feel about him. I have to tell him.” We sit down and chat casually for a while, about our usual inside jokes and whatnot, which I use as a means of setting the mood for a casual mention of my feelings, something like “Hey man so I’m like, head-over-heels crazy about you ya know? Now how’s that macchiato?”Obviously I don’t say it like that. Instead I tell him that I need to tell him the truth. I tell him that he needs to be aware of these feelings because hiding them from him would be wrong of me. I tell him that I know nothing will ever come from having these feelings, and that a romance between us will never happen, and yet these feelings still exists. I tell him how important he is to my life, and that I never want anything to change our relationship that we already have.His response of course was exactly the same as his response to when I came out to him the first time, a warm nod of understanding and even more heartfelt words of encouragement.With my second come-out to him out of the way, I felt both incredibly overjoyed and relievedwith his reaction. However, another part of me was also slightly disappointed that he hadn’t stood up immediately and took me in his arms and hugged me so hard so as to never let me go, and slowly plant a kiss on my lips that I’d been wanting from him for quite some time. In my head I thought “well hey, I’ve told him how I feel about him and he still wants to be friends with me, so who cares if I don’t have him in my life the way I really want him? He’s still in my life either way, and I’m just fine with that. We have been best friends since high school, and nothing could change that, not even my love for him. I’ll surely find someone else to fill this hole I have in my heart and it will be someone who will treat me better than my first.”So i thought.Turns out that guys on Grindr aren’t exactly “boyfriend-material” and they fill up the “other” holes that I don’t really want filled. I mean there have been plenty of potential guys that seemed like a good match to my personality, but none so like my best friend. In fact, when I looked through the catalogue of guys on Grindr that claimed they were “looking for something serious”, the criteria I had in mind to be eligible to be that something serious, was if they were anything like him. Not too many were.This goes on for like almost half a year and I’d been repressing my feelings for him pretty well during that time. I’ve had plenty of meaningless sexual encounters since that time and I was feeling content with where my love life was at, a string of f-buddies and a small list of guys I’d actually go on dates with. I’m optimistic about my future love-life, and all the while, my best friend has supported me along the way, laughing with me about the funny things that happen when coitus goes wrong, encouraging me to follow through with plans to meet up with guys who are genuine and sincere, all that jazz.Then he tell me that he’s also started dating... and later on he tells me that he has a girlfriend now... and that he’s been sending her love letters and been going on super-cute dates with her... and he even takes her to a few places and hangouts that he and I have been to... and to top it all off, he even sends me screenshots of text-conversations that he has with her...Now obviously the considerate and compassionate side of myself reciprocates his support that he’s given me back to him with this girl. She’s a great match to his personality in my opinion and I do want to see the two of them go far in their relationship. He tells me about all the cute things he does for her and it’s incredible. However, the jealous part of me is sulking in the corner yearning for the same treatment for myself.I really thought that I could keep being friends with him and being totally fine with suppressing my feelings for him. Well I mean, I am, I really am I swear, but my mind can’t help but think about what it would be like if only he felt the same way about me that I do for him, what kind of life would we have you know? I know that it’s honestly so silly that I’m still so hung-up on this one guy. I continually tell myself that nothing will ever happen between us. I know this, I know that I know this; that truth is locked in my conscious mind at all times. But then why do I still have these feelings for him? I shouldn’t, I know that at some point in the future there will be a guy who will be so amazing that being with him will make me laugh at the concept of being in love with my best friend. But I guess until that day happens, I’m trapped in this reality where I can’t have what I really want with him. My friends at uni are incredibly supportive of me, and they tell me all of these things each time I un-bottle-up these thoughts to them. But still... you know.Literally any words of help or advice are appreciated. If this cheap, cheesy, melodramatic recount relates to you at all, then feel free to respond with whatever you can think of that would be helpful to me. If you think that the fact that I’m 18 kinda invalidates all of these feelings I have and you think that I’m overthinking all of this, then you could very well be right, because that did also cross my mind. If you just want to pour out your own unrequited love story in response, please do; it’ll be a nice cathartic way to make me feel better knowing that I’m not alone. If you’re still reading this far, thank you so much for listening to me rant, and I’ll give you a moment to relax from this whirlwind of a story.
Fun with Straight Men
Straight guys are honestly pretty terrible to mess around with. There's something very damaging for your mental health about being with some straight guys. I know this isn't always the case, but sometimes they're just too unstable to have anything stable. My last experience was horrible. It was someone who was in a relationship with a woman (I didn't know about this entirely. I thought he was recently single). I should've known, he was acting very strange the entire time. He didn't want to do intimate things like kissing or holding. It was very detached and honestly I wasn't that into it. I chalked it up to him being uncomfortable and trying to get used to being with a guy but it never really changed.Another issue I have is that we were initially friends. I honestly hate and regret the fact that any of this ever happened between us. We are both living in the same dormitory, but in separate rooms. I mostly cut things off when I later found out that I was not the first guy he had been with - something he told me beforehand. He had been with guys on my college campus that I know are extremely unsafe and promiscuous, so I now have to get tested. I feel lied to and misled. I feel taken advantage of. To make things worse, he has kind of been a prick since we've been no longer sexually involved.I've just been wanting to vent for a very long time, and I've been struggling to find someone to talk to since he is still in the closet and I'm not about to go outing people by talking about him to someone who actually knows him. My advice with straight guys is to try to avoid the ones that come off as less stable. Obviously don't go for one that is in a relationship. I would consider it a red flag if they are only interested in sex and nothing intimate beyond that or preceeding that. If they're doing this, it sounds like they're using you. Don't do it, you're better than that.He can go fuck off right now for all I care.If y'all have some perspective you can share I'd really appreciate it. I know I'm not being the most sympathetic/understanding individual right now. Maybe there's something I'm not seeing.
Relation Advice Needed!
Well ,the background is we r at a conservative asian country we r 21 aged couple we are in relationship for like a year , we stay together and we run a business together .I love him and he’s gonna marry with a girl he don’t love since his family push him hard. And in the relationship I also feel that there is a lack of respect for me. His opinion always matters more than mine and he gets offended when I make a decision without consulting him first. Whenever we fight, even though we both are mad, I keep quiet because I know things will get out of hand if I shout too. And whenever we fight he threatens to break up, but One time he cried to me and asked me to never leave him. Im now in his hometown for the Chinese new year and his family is here too , he won’t let me leave even though I have much appointments at our work town and he did super childish things like didn’t give me my wallet and luggage even I bought the ticket. Sigh sigh sigh
2018. február 23., péntek
We just enjoyed Hungarian sizemeat
We met him at the gym. 9 inches long and 7 inches around on the tape measure with humongous low-hangers! Uncut and stinky with cheese! We performed ‘oral love’ and then he cornholed us. And NO rubbers!
What’s the verdict on ChikFilA today?
I am curious on if any more news about it is happening. I know they were funding homophobic funds in 2012, sort of stopped in 2014. 2018, is the community still yay or nay?
I hate being gay 👎🏼
Hi, I’m new to this site and not even sure anyone will read this but hey! I’m in my 30s and I can’t accept my sexuality. Having always hung with straight people and even finding gay guys a bit too much, I’ve never accepted the scene. All I’ve ever wanted is normality - to me that should be a wife and kids. Live a normal future and not be terrified of it.I’ve recently had the opportunity to leave a decent job, well paid, my life in London right now is good. But I’m just thinking of quitting for 18 months and exploring the world. I’m hoping that my tolerance of gay guys and tolerance of my own sexuality can improve. But on the other hand I feel I’m running away to the other side of the world, but I don’t know what from.I had 4-5 dates with a guy recently and I actually could see things getting good, until I broke it off. On one hand I want to accept it, the other I want to run a mile. I’ve had a relationship for 3 years a long time ago, but now I feel I’m alienating myself even more than I ever have done.How can I accept this? How can I be happy with who I am? I hate myself and have never been happy. Do I go on this trip and see if I can work things out, or do I potentially expose myself to lonely days/nights in hostels with 18 y/o’s, thinking even worse thoughts than in my secure, safe home in London.I want to be happy but I don’t think I ever will be. I don’t know how to give myself a break. Its really depressing.If anyone can offer any guidance at all it will be greatly appreciated. Thanks
Advice on how to get over the feelings I have for my (straight) best friend
Hi, I know this is probably a repetitive post because sadly it happens to a lot of us, and I even used to give advice to others, but unfortunately this time it happened to me and badly.I had crushes on other friends before, but because they were more acquaintances than very good friends, it was kind of easy to get over them. The thing right now is that I have some feelings for a very special friend to me, we have a really intimate connection, we talked about everything, we help each other always, we have similar tastes, share music and movies with each other, chat all day, give each other presents, send goodnight messages, everything, and it’s something that I really appreciate because it’s a friendship like no other for me.The problem is that he once said that even though he’s straight, he didn’t reject the idea of falling in love with another guy, and that’s when my problems started. I thought that maybe I had a chance with him, and as the friendship grew, my feelings for him did too, I thought that this could be the first time I had a relationship with someone else (I’m 18 and never had a boyfriend or even kissed someone, kind of a loser, but it is what it is), but as time passes by and I saw him hooking up with other girls and all of that, I realized I was just being a fool by expecting him to see me as more than a friend.So I ask if you could tell me some advice to get over this feelings, distancing from him is not an option, because I just can’t do it, I recently moved out and he’s my only real friend here, so there’s no way I will do it, he’s one of the only good things in my life right now
VERY CONFUSED
I'm a teenager and I'm very confuse with my sexuality. I like females. But for some reason whenever I read about gay couples or gay stories it fills me with a kind of happiness idk how to describe it. I just feel a want for something like that. But then whenever I think of myself kissing a guy it gives me the feeling of when I was little and imagined kissing a girl... like icky I guess? I have never really done anything much with either gender so I have nothing to go off of. I have been to a gay rally in Vancouver and it was so cool to be seeing how accepting everybody is; a lot different to my chavy school where gay is an insult and you get beat up if you question why.Maybe this is a thing that will come to me as a progress through puberty. Be glad to hear from any people who relate to this and can help me come to my own decision!
Head cheese hiding behind lace curtains
A fabulous eldersister once said it’s no problem. Just a few swipes of the tongue and it’s clean as a whistle!Discuss!
I have no friends and I stay home all day with the kids. If you need some one to talk to Im here!
I live in a shady ass little town where everyone smiles at you then talks shit behind your back. I have no friends and my girlfriend is my only connection to the social world. If you are feeling lonely or just need a companion, im good with advice and conversation. Please feel free to talk to me I might not respond imediately but I do log in quite frequently and will be more than happy to talk. 27yr old straight male.
🌟 Gay Gordons 🌟 - Join us now!
Sup mofos! You’re all invited to a fun and bullshit-free LGBTQ server, where everyone regardless of their sexuality is welcome to join! We're a brand new server so bring your friends or whoever you know that would like to join a free-spirited server. Straight people are welcome too, as long as they support the LGBTQ community ^We only ask for a few things: • Don’t be a dick to other members • Respect the diferences amongst everyone, whether it is sexuality or anything else • If you have a problem with LGBT people, I ask you not to join the server, we want to make it a comfortable and free enviroment.http://ift.tt/2owfTRg
Meeting people in a new town
Good morning /r/gay!I wanted to ask about how you guys meet people when you move to a new town? Do you use apps, go to bars/clubs, or some other way?I am moving up to Philadelphia in a few weeks and am pretty much starting my life from scratch. I only know one person in the city, and he's straight. It really makes me nervous to start over again and I'm looking for some tips/tricks/advice on this whole process!Thanks!
Is there a way to come out without it just being for no reason?
Really weird to describe but I feel like I want to tell my sister and possibly my mom that I'm gay but I don't know why. I can't think of an actual reason to tell them but I just want to. But I also feel like I don't NEED to come out. Idk its just confusing but is there a way I could bring it up? I have no idea what to say and even though I can't foresee them reacting negatively but I'm still so damn nervous....
2018. február 22., csütörtök
Questions about friends
This is going to be a little complex and rambly, and I'm aware that this won't be anonymous if the guy finds out but that's half the point (cough). I am in the Sixth Form (age 17) at an all-boys' grammar school (yes very homoerotic I know). Since Year 8, when I was first truly aware of my sexuality, I've shared a class with someone who I'll call Lewis here because I don't know how strict the mods are on real names and also because he's called Lewis. Lewis was and is very attractive and was also my first crush. He and I used to row together and we are among best friends now- the only 'problem' is that he has a girlfriend, who also happens to be one of my friends. So when he approached me a few days before our 4-day Geography field trip and asked me if I wanted to sleep with him and share a room together at the centre, I said yes initially. Bear in mind at this point I've been fantasising him on-and-off for the best part of 5 years here. He says that he has always been curious about anal and wants to know how it feels, and that because I'm a good friend, he trusts me (and also I have a fair bit of experience somehow; I don't know how, I'm not exactly attractive). He is serious about it and to be honest I think I am too; and he is going off to university at the end of the academic year so naturally we will grow apart to some level, and of course I've wanted to sleep with him for some time now, but the two of them make a wonderful couple so I am naturally rather nervous about the outcome or if she finds out (she doesn't Reddit so I'm safe here). Have any of you had similar experiences? If so, what do you recommend? Should I do it or have moral standards? Thanks for feedback :)
Looking for old photos of nude men with green, blue, and red hues to them.
When I was in high school 2000-2004 I found these photos that a photographer posted online of artistic nudes of various men. All the photos were fairly dark in nature with dark backgrounds. They all had a sort of hue to them - either blue, green, or red. The men were all in great shape. I'm wondering if anyone can help me find these photos? The website I found them on was not the best, I just remember the site and the photos themselves to be dark colored. Also, the were all downloadable to be set as desktop wallpapers.
We Spent Our First Year Dating In Secret :( But We Just Celebrated Our Two Years, Coming Out Was The Best Thing We Ever Did
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1ME2C_L9zk&t=24s
On Coming Out to New Friends / Acquaintances
We all know that Coming Out is not a one-time event. Over our life, we must continuously come out to new friends and acquaintances. I need advice on coming out to new people in a way that is smooth and appropriate. Experiences, scenarios, or advice are welcome.
Is it automatically homophobic to say that somebody "Looks gay"?
I don't want to color the answers by giving too much context. Obviously if you say it in a derogatory manner, it's homophobic but that's not what I'm talking about.
Age difference
So I met a guy on Grindr the other night, we started talking and eventually he told me he was 34. I’m 23, he seems really nice. The thing is I feel like the age difference kinda makes it a little weird. I dunno I figured I’d ask here.
Would you ever guess that an openly gay Turkish singer's song is in worldwide top 100 list on YouTube for almost 3 weeks?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qUsE49lUQUY
Older & Out
My name is Carter. I grew up in a small town in North Alabama, was married to a woman for 22 years, and I am gay. I led a "straight" life until I was 45 - when I finally came out to my wife. I decided it was time to tell my story, and to tell the stories of other men dealing with coming out at an older age. My website is www.olderandout.org
Seeking Advice on Adult Activities (NSFW)
Ok, so, I'm looking for some advice about, well, anal. If this is the wrong place to post this I will happily move it. With that outta the way, I'm looking for advice on how to make it not sting. I had a boyfriend a while back for about two years and it was never a problem. But now, years later, I can't really pull it off and that is frustrating for both me and my wife. Oh yeah, I have a wife now. I also want to be able to, well, use toys, but again, it always stings. Is it not enough lube? I'm not relaxing enough? Could it be as simple as I'm out of practice? Please help.
I'm short (5'2"). Is this a bad thing?
I was told by my friend that nobody really likes little guys. Is this true? I don't really know any other gay people and I'm only 20 so this is all new to me. I'm just a little worried. :/
Curious man!
Hey I'm 30 years old only had sex and relationships with women...but lately I have the urge to try new things. Any suggestions on how to try intercourse with a male with no attachments. Or could I hit on a good friend who is also straight?ask him for fun and what ever happens!
2018. február 21., szerda
How to be subtle about making a character gay?
I know I should've posted this on r/writing but I just didn't feel comfortable posting this there. I myself, am not gay but I am writing a novel and I have an urge to dive more into my characters and their personality and such. I don't want to blatantly have my character look at another characters ass and such but i just want to be subtle about it. Are there any signs where I can make a character a closeted gay without it being too obvious?
New Achievement Unlocked: Personal Trainer
Hey y'all!! I am suuuuper excited. I have never been "fit" ever in my life and today I just paid up front for two months of personal training 3 times a week. The way he's talking if I stick to it and follow the diet he's going to work with me on: I will be in fantastic shape just in time for pride!!! This means for the first time ever I will feel comfortable taking my shirt off in public!! AND at pride?!?! 👻 Dead! I am so excited I could vomit!!
Another homophobic show
"Gays are replacing our moral values with their sick deteriorated views; how will I explain to my kids why 2 men are kissing; who will the kid call mommy; this environment is not normal and healthy for a child" and so many others... all in one TV show...
I've gone back into the closet in my 30's! Help
I got a new job 2 years ago. People assumed I was straight because I didn't fit the gay stereotype so I guess I was uncomfortable with breaking their impression of me as a 'typical bloke'. I enjoyed some of the girls flirting with me and fancying me and I am naturally shy and hate being the center of attention or subject of gossip. Therefore, I let them believe what they wanted to.Anyway, recently I have become closer to my workmates. Personal questions were asked and I started to lie and make up little stories to cover the fact I'm gay (e.g changing nouns so 'he' becomes 'she' when discussing ex-partners). It's gone so far and now I feel like I'm 17 years old again, not a man in his early thirties who should have come to terms with his sexuality and be proud of who he is. I feel too embarrassed to come clean now, and explain that I have lied that I'm thinking about getting a new job (lol).Anyone have constructive advice? Anyone been through same situation.
Hello! And Question!
Hello everyone! I was actually just posting here because i had a question, It's probably a question that gets asked a lot here however i never thought id need to ask it.Recently i have been talking to someone online and i am kind of growing fond of him i guess i started to get feelings for him. He is really sweet and caring and we seem to always have really nice conversations. We also seem to have quite a bit in common. However he is in another country i am from the US and is also 7 years older than me. I guess my question is would you say 7 years age difference is a no go? Especially if they are in another country or is it okay?Thanks~
Anyone else just feel mortified to date?
Before I go too far, my reasoning is just from what I've heard and seen. Everyone gay or bi that I know tells me that a relationship lasting longer than 6 months is a "unicorn" and just the level of shallowness that I've been exposed to in the gay community makes me scared to even think of dating someone. Please tell me I'm wrong.
Addicted to Grindr
Hey all, Never used reddit before, but I figure this place is as good as any to bring up my personal issues. I graduated college a year ago, and since freshman year of college, I've been hooking up with dudes. I remember being curious and giving it a go. I tried it a few times over the course of 3 years, then I found out about grindr and have been with alot more guys than I'd care to admit. Everytime i hookup with someone, i feel like shit, and I know before hand that I don't even want to do it, but I do anyway.More information about me: I dated a girl in highscool for almost all 4 years of it, and I "loved" her and all that good shit. And i'm sure it was because we were in a relationship, but I felt good after we had sex. We broke up to go to college and in my sophmore year, i realized i still loved her. Long story short, I'm still hung up on her and she has a husband and kid now. I also don't view myself as gay (or even bisexual really) because I only want to be in relationships with girls (not "want" like, forcing myself to, I just naturally want to be in a relationship with a girl and not a guy). I've recently remade my grindr account but this time put a long, convoluted password that I could never remember, but I'm still scared I'll go back.Has anyone had a similar issue and if so, how did you handle it? I really want to stop doing it, but I feel like my depression (both general and about my ex) is in more control of this than I am. Also encouraging words are welcome as well
Denver gay volleyball league
Anyone in the area wanting to join? Looking to start for the first time and wouldn’t mind making a new friend and someone to practice with. Any takers?
i am so happy!
ever since coming out, life has been so amazing, everyone has been so supportive and there for me, it was the best decision i’ve ever made. 🌈☺️
I had a one night stand with my best friend...
He’s been my best friend since middle school. He came down to visit from college and was really upset about his girlfriend. They got into a huge fight and so, I offered him comfort. We were just hanging out, but then I suddenly found myself spooning with him. We got more intimate than usual. Next thing I knew, his lips were on mine.I woke up the next day naked on my bed right beside him. He was still sleeping, so I got up to shower. By the time I came out, he was already dressed. He thanked me for letting him stay the night. We didn’t bring up what happened the night before. All he did was hug me goodbye.But I’m still thinking about that night. I think I have feelings for him. I just don’t know how to talk to him about it...
Gay/str8 relationship? help me understand.
For 4 yrs I’ve been very close to a str8 guy. He’s 25, I’m 41. We don’t interact like “friends” I kiss his neck, cheek, forehead, rub his back, touch his thighs, touch his butt. Most times he is open/receptive, then other times he jerks away. We go on weekend trips together, and vacations. We sometimes share the same bed, I give him massages. I help him out around his house, cook for him and I am the first person he calls when anything happens in life. We seem to connect on a whole other level, both admittedly. We talk of the future as “we” and “us” and talk about moving out of state together. He has admitted deep feelings for me and said more than once that he was open sexually, but then at other times he contradicts that, saying he’s not gay. People usually think we are a couple when we are out together. I’m just confused because I know I love him. On Valentine’s Day he said he was not celebrating this “stupid day” I had a little gift for him, expecting nothing in return. He said he didn’t want to celebrate it. I went ahead and took his gift over, he thanked me, we had a nice hug and I left. I was not upset at all. Saturday rolls around, I go to pick him up for a weekend getaway. He seems kinda down. He proceeds to tell me that he spent all night depressed and listening to music on Valentine’s Day, after I left because he felt that he treated me bad, and felt guilty. He then says we could’ve went out to celebrate on Valentine’s. I don’t understand. Does anyone have any thoughts on this situation? He says he’s never been w a guy, and has been in relationships with girls since I’ve known him.
I need help on starting conversations with a guy I haven't talked to in 3 years that I have feelings for.
So this guy in the last 3 years has somehow become one of the 'popular kids' in High School. And he's never left alone, he's always with some jackass. How do I approach or text him? Considering I haven't talked to him in 3 years.
Getting the HIV morning after pill in Denver?
Last night I hooked up with a guy, and gave him oral only, and it all happened kind of fast. In the vigor, I cut the inside of my lip on my teeth. Then, as we slowed down a bit, I found a bump on the bottom of his dick. I should have checked first, but it all happened really fast :/This set me off worrying about STIs, and I'm wondering where I can get a morning after pill for HIV. I'm also going to get tested, but as I understand it can take a bit for it to show up on a panel. Where can I get tested in Denver as well?Edit: I swished my mouth out with tequila and spit it out because I didn't have mouthwash.
I don't get this at all it's confusing ...advice please
It was hard enough falling for someone and not letting my own insecurities get in the way because I profoundly cared for this person in a way I just haven't experienced before , I am working through that whirlwind patiently and with a sense of perspective and I thought it was all going to be ok but man was I wrong !!!The last few days have been a whirlwind of hot and cold messages which led me to take a step back only for him to message me to make plans which I said yes to.Subsequently I initate to ask about his day and I'll get nothing for days or he will text but then suddenly leave me hanging. It's a few hrs before we were supposed to meet up and I have no confirmation ....nothing !!!It's bad enough trying to protect myself but then opening up to someone and feeling vulnerable , but then to have to deal with this sudden hot and cold behaviour ....it hurts and now I'm just confused ?What the hell is going on ....why is he behaving so differently and how do I navigate this ?
All I want.......
Is to find someone who I can experience life with. Someone I can talk to until 430 in the morning. Someone I can absolutely trust. Someone who is beautiful on the inside as well as the outside. Someone who’ll make an effort to try not to lie to me. Someone who wants to travel with me. Someone who won’t take advantage of me. Someone who won’t use. I just want someone to love.
30 Years Old - Need Help Coming Out
I feel a bit like my entire life up until now has been somewhat wasted. I have not been able to live my own life out of the closet and until about a year ago, I was still in denial about my sexuality. Compounded with the fact that I have a conservative family and was raised in part by a fire and brimstone, bible-thumping step-mother, I feared my own salvation given my innate sexuality. Thankfully, I am now free of that nonsense and am comfortable with my spirituality (rather the lack of spirituality as I am now an atheist). However, I am feeling that it is time for me to face the barrier of coming out.For complete disclosure, my best friend and I are both male and he is unaware of my sexuality. I have encouraged him to pursue healthy girlfriends and am a little vocal about when I think he might need to assess love interests that don't treat him well. In many ways he is like my little brother (he is a few years younger), and I truly want him to be happy. The only caveat is that I have a romantic attraction to him, a phenomenon not exclusive to my gay experience, I know. However, I am pretty certain he is mostly straight, though sometimes he huddles up next to me or puts his head on my shoulder, which I interpret as a blood-brother type bond more than anything. I plan to come out to him when I next see him and I have set aside a whole day for us to hang out privately to do so. However, I am mixed on what to do with telling him my feelings. We already acknowledge that we love and care about one another, almost all of our conversations end with "love you" or other things family members would typically say. However, I feel like I should tell him that I am a little more romantically attracted to him as I share a deep emotional bond with him.While it would be nice for him to secretly feel the same way, I doubt that will be the case. But still, I feel that I will never quite have the closure I need to move on and actually come out fully unless I am absolutely honest with him. It is a little selfish since I can already assume he cannot ever be attracted to me in a romantic sense, but I don't want to make things awkward by continuing this deep romantic attraction.How should I handle this situation?
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