2017. április 30., vasárnap
My boyfriend doesn't seem attracted to me anymore
We've been together for almost a year now, and it's been great. We get along almost all the time, we have fun, and we love each other. The only problem is that he doesn't seem to be sexually attracted to me anymore. We haven't done anything sexual in over a month now, and he doesn't even wanna make out with me or anything. How could I bring this up to him in a way that won't damage the relationship? Thanks!
NewYear Kitiwhut (Thailand Lifestyle), A CAMERA, Influence Asia 2017
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any of you watch Skam?
tbh I started watching it in february and I have to say that I feel extremely attached and identified with Isak's character and story.I was wondering if any of you guys feel the same thing (of those who watch it, and to those who don't: watch it! :c it's amazing)
Friends!
Hey just looking for some like minded people to talk with. Would like to meet some cool people and get to know people from all over. I'm 28 and in Tennessee if that matters ha
I'm Straight but I want to have gay sex
I'm a straight guy and I'm not attracted to guys at all but some days I fantasize about being taken from behind and creampied. I have decided to experiment with this and my question is, how do I go about finding a guy to hookup with for one time or for a FWB type thing?
About to come out to my wife. Need some pep talks.
I'm a 31 year old man with a wife and 3 year old son. Due to a whole bunch of internal and external issues throughout my life I've spent most of it denying the fact that I am gay.I've been working with a therapist on this and on Friday I came out to my brother and his girlfriend. They were both super supportive and definitely helped me feel like I am ready to have that talk with my wife.I've written a letter that I want to read out loud to her but I keep chickening out. The past two days I've spent telling myself "tonight is the night" but once our son is in bed we're both exhausted and I just can't bring myself to do it.I'm really thankful for all of you guys sharing your stories on here. Lurking on this sub has really been helpful to me. Any words of wisdom would be so appreciated. I know I just need to pull the trigger but in the moment I get scared and freeze up.Tl/dr: I need help telling my wife that I'm gay.
Gay guys, what were your experiences at University like? (UK)
I'm going to Uni this year in England and want to know how openly gay guys found it. Did you experience much homophobia, how did straight guys get on with you etc?Idk I guess I'm just paranoid I'm not accepted etc because the accommodation is all male so bound to be straight guys there.Thanks! X
Beta Readers Wanted for New Short Gay Book
Love to read? I could do with your feedback. I did a Reddit last year for one of my books and the feedback was excellent and those who contributed were happy to have been involved. Hide and Cheat is a short story with a relatively hot MM scene, in which a young guy must choose between his wife and his best mate. Please let me know if you'd like to be a beta reader. Thanks! Fox
2017. április 29., szombat
What is the general take on femininity?
Hello,I'm firstly here hoping that the topic is not very controversial.The thing is that, as many of us have experienced, a relevant portion of outspoken gay guys are not very into "fem guys", although I must admit that the concept in itself is somewhat broad and vague.I was wondering what the general take of the community on the topic is, being the three broad options I can think about the following:A. It is considered similar to being gay: some people are simply fem, and it's something that should be accepted, discouraging people from trying to change it.B. It is considered similar to physical build (e.g., lean, buff, etc.): some people naturally lean towards a specific physical build, but some people like to change it, it's possible, and its ok if one wants to.C. Either A and B can be true depending to the individual.Thank you for your input.
Need some gay hugging
I really need a great big hug from a guy about now. I've been single for over a year now and can't see myself with anyone on grindr or such sites. I'm not after sex (although I do enjoy it). Where else can I go? How do I meet people like me?
Long distance
So I've met someone who i really like but he lives in Philadelphia and I live in Utah. So I'm planning on heading out there and I was just trying to think of how much I should save up. Anyone have any advice? Should I fly, drive? I want to be there at least a week. I have a rough estimate but I've never gone on a trip like this lol.
Ray with red hair
I've been wondering where you've been. You are a red headed Puerto Rican with a nice big nose and few freckles. I hung out with you when we met in Pensacola, Florida years ago when you were in town for a short while. As creepy as it sound I still remember how you smell. I just wanted to see how you've been, and how life has treated you. If you're on Reddit and read this please reach out and say hi. As trivial as our fling may have been it meant a lot to me in my life at the time. I can't think of any other way to find you. If anyone has any information about this guy please point him in my direction.
Advice?
Hi, I've identified as bisexual since late high school (turning 28 in a month) and I have kept it a secret. I've done phone sex, webcamming, sexting/trading pictures with guys, but I have yet to have a relationship with a guy (which keeps seeming like a better idea every time I think about it) or physically be with another guy. I haven't had a girlfriend or even slept with a girl since 2011. During this time I've grown more attracted to men. I'm looking for advice on how to go about the dating scene or maybe even a hookup, while trying to avoid sketchy situations of course. Any advice would be great. Thanks guys!
Too Scared Of Getting HIV.
Hi, my name is Hugo and i'm 21 years old, here's the thing about me that you need to know, i'm afraid of getting HIV/Aids, to the point that i will not kiss someone, today i have a date with an old friend and something might happen, i'm still a virgin so anal sex isn't happening, but Oral sex freaks me out, mostly cuz i don't know if he is lying to me about his status, he's a great person and promises me that he always uses a condom and he's careful too, what should i do? should i trust him? should i stop being so scared? how do i enjoy this without fear?
Please give me advice
Hey, so I'm 17 and in high school. I've told my best friends and family that I'm gay at the end of last year, I haven't told anyone at my school however because you know, jokes, a reputation, people who are going to ignore you ect. I have some "friends" but I changed to this school a year ago so I don't have real good friends. I'm just afraid that nobody will like me anymore but I'm also eager to tell them because I don't feel like I'm being myself around them. Please give me some advice what to do. Thanks -a 17 y/o guy
Angel Xavier THE WORST human alive! EXPOSING HIM!
Let's talk about this manipulative lying scumbag. He's a gay from New York who moved to Texas. In the Austin area and now coming to the Dallas area with his unstable problematic self. This guy just doesn't take the hint. No one around here likes him. No one even feels sorry for him. He was in an "car accident" earlier this year but everyone knows he just saying that for attention. Maybe that "drunk driver" should have hit his car harder then we wouldn't have to deal with him or his annoying stuttering. He uses his "situations" to manipulate sympathy from everyone. It's disgusting. He tells everyone about his cancer he had then his abusive homophobic father. While those may be true it's disgusting he tells everyone when he meets them. Even WORSE when he is drunk. I can't tell you a single person who actually likes him or wants to be his friend. He wonders around the gay clubs desperate for friends. I can't tell if he is a creeper or trying to find his next victim. Gays of Dallas BE WARNED. If you ever meet him run towards the hills. He is NO GOOD. JUST AN ATTENTION WHORE WITH NO SOCIAL SKILLS. Angel can't take a hint or read the room for his life. Someone needs to teach him a less. Anyone else have stories of him? We need to warn people. And before you say I'm being mean. I'm not. He's a horrible person and needs a wake up call.
You Think You Know a Guy
I’ve never been one of those guys that felt like I knew I was gay since I was a kid. I didn't fantasize about guys, or girls for that matter. I didn't think any guy was cute. I just have no recollection of having those little symptoms of, “Oh, i'm gay.” I’m 27 years old and I just believed that my homosexuality was a symptom of my environment. Yet unchangeable just the way my sense of humor is a symptom of my environment and unchangeable. Recently I was talking to a friend about relationships. We started talking about my relationships with girls who want to be in a romantic relationship with me and I would be totally down to be in a romantic relationship with them if I were sexually attracted to them. I started to wonder what it would be like to be one of the girls who are friends with me but are attracted to me as more than just a friend. That's when it happened. I realized I had been doing this with my good straight guy friends. I realized I didn't have a single good straight guy friend that I didn't consider attractive. I had been harbouring these romantic feelings for them but misinterpreting them as a desire for deeper friendship. I then started thinking back to straight friends I had as a kid and realized that I had been doing the same thing with them, just more obviously. Of course since they are straight this would put them off and we would stop being friends. However in my initial interpretation of the event it was just they didn't want to be really good friends with me because they already had some or I wasn't good enough to be a really good friend. So being the scientist I am I had to test my theory and I called my mom to see if she had noticed that when I was a kid. Among other things she confirmed that she had noticed that. So now I can say with confidence I was born this way. I know that difference shouldn't matter much but it does. It causes me to merge my sexual attraction with men to this desire for deeper friendship with my friends as two sides of the same thing. Before I always had an issue with being anything more than sexual with guys and it ruined a lot of relationships for me.TLDR: Through empathizing with women, who are my friends but also have romantic interest with me, I was able to re-frame childhood memories and discover I was born this way. In doing so possibly set myself up for healthier relationships with men both gay and straight.
I [M/23] just cheated on my boyfriend [M/32]
I [M/23] just cheated on my boyfriend [M/32].To add backstory, he has recently accepted he has bad issues with anxiety - and as an addict, he still craves to go back to the drugs when things don't go his way. He hasn't gone back to the drugs. He instead called up his insurance agency before going on vacation to look into rehab and counseling options. He dumped me while on vacation after getting into an argument and walking off on me, telling me that "we are over" and that he's "never once needed medication" before he met me. By the end of the vacation, we both sobered up and came to a better conclusion, forgave eachother for the most part, but he refuses to talk into detail about the argument. I've never asked if we are "back together," and I've only been assuming at this point.When we got back, I went over to a friend's house to talk about my situation while my partner went to his parents house, and my conversation with my friend ended up into consentual oral sex.I know if the tables were reversed, I'd be very upset with him - but the way things are, he has emotionally hurt me, manipulated me, and sent mixed signals he refuses to address.Should I feel guilty? Is this normal? I've never been in this situation before.TLDR; I had oral sex with another man while I'm in a bad situation with my current partner. Is this normal and should I feel guilty?
Is that weird?
Is that weird that I only like manly guys and absolute don't find feminin like man attractive?Sorry for the bad english
Should I break up?
Hey guys I'm in this relationship with a guy who is nice and everything but one way or another I don't feel satisfied - or just that I feel bored speaking to him. Even now our schedules don't mix real well to arrange meeting - just like once in a while.A few months from now I am flying abroad too - which can really doom the relationship, but I haven't told him yet. I'm kinda confused right now and I'm his second guy, I don't wanna hurt him though.Any advice would help. We are closeted anyway, it's kinda bad weather for gays here.
How do you feel about lesbians putting down men?
I used to belong to a lesbian sub which recently allowed a thread called "men are annoying". Although I am a feminist, I try to stay objectively equal, and I don't agree that we should be putting down the entire male gender.Here's the link to the thread: http://ift.tt/2oJvmjR excerpts:"I'm hating men more and more everyday, they are annoying as fuck.""After listening to men all day at work, I'm ready for the first ticket out of here.""The only men I love are my nephews. All the other men are just stupid and gross."Keep in mind, this sub is supposedly extremely harsh with anyone who even hovers around intolerance. They will ban anyone who comes close to transphobia or sexism towards women. I just think it makes me feel awful as a lesbian that the most popular lesbian sub on reddit is allowing this kind of discussion. What if we substituted "men" with "women"? I'd be furious! Seems pretty intolerant to me.Just wondering if you guys support this kind of talk and I'm alone in thinking this is wrong. Thanks.
Gay Marriage -> Move to UK?
Hi I'm from Hong Kong and I really want to move to a more open-minded country, but seems like it's so hard to move to UK just by working, as they need applicants having extremely high salary job in UK and apply visa every year recurringlyI'm a music student and will study in UK for a year soon (student visa), but I can only stay for 4 more months after graduation.I know marrying a guy I love can help me stay, but it seems impossible to find the right guy in only 1 year of studying, some old guy offered me fake marriage, but I don't think there'll be no consequences plus I don't want to risk being caught, or waste other's time or chances to find true loveI really want to get citizenship by my own power, but if I teach violin (which is my part time job in HK), I'll be counted as self-employed and not qualified to stay :(I really don't want to live in a city that is homophobic, which I cannot marry the guy I love there, even if married its not legally recognized, and have to hide in closet forever because of my job (parents donmt want kids to have gay teacher here)Plz help!! Thx
How do you decide which last name to use?
Im really thinking about proposing to my boyfriend. I really have no idea how we would do our last names. Do I take his or does he take mine? We could hyphenate but then who's goes first? Plus that just seems like a lot of work to write both last names all the time. Idk. I'd like to hear what you guys did and why.
How do I make gay friends?
I'm a 27m and I have zero gay friends. All my other friends have had kids or are couples so their MIA. Kinda on my own at them moment, so I'd like to start making some gay friends. As stupid as this may sound, I just don't really know how.
2017. április 28., péntek
Straight Boy keeps staring
So there's this boy I liked for years now, he's my first crush and he knows I like him and he says he's straight which me and everyone else dont believe. But this year in school I dubbed him and then he asked 2 of my friends why I dubbed him and then he found out I stilled liked him and he hasnt said anything about it. But now he continues to constantly stare at me our eyes meet at least 5 times a day and even when our eyes dont meet I can still see him staring at the corner of my eye. Do you guys think he's bi-curious? Im really confused and would like to know what you guys think.
How late is too late to find out that you're gay? (male)
I'm 26 right now. Have feelings more and more that I might be gay, or bi leaning more toward men.I can talk about it more, but just wanted to get a general opinion on if there is a certain "limit" to when you usually figure this out?Thank you.
Just asking
So ive been wondering if my uncle is gay. He is 56 years old arealdy but hes never gotten married or has had kids. Hes had a girlfriend but they broke up. I come from a family where if you come out as gay they would treat you awkwardly. So iv been thinking that he has kept it a secret by dating here and there but never committing to make it seem like hes straight.What do you guys think?
First time feeling lonely in a long time
I don't want this to be a woe is me post but just want to vent. I was taking the bus to work today and I swear every one in that bus was with there significant others from old people to college kids to freshman in high school all happy together it felt like I took a hit to the heart seeing that and kinda soured my dayIt normally doesn't bother me seeing stuff like that but something about today reminded me what I was missing out on and just put me in a lonely moodLike I said just venting how was your day? today felt like a non-stop rush at work (food service) going to go make it better now that I left work
Enemas? How much to use?
I know a gross subject but I want to bottom soon and I want to have one of these that I'll do myself. It's a fleet saline pre packed one but I'm not sure about how much of the bottle I squirt in my ass (is it just all of it?) and how long to leave it in there for it to take effect.If anyone knows please tell me!
How to couple with couples?
My fiancé and I don't have any gay couples as friends, actually very few gay friends, come to think of it. What's the best way to meet other established gay couples for friendship, not interested in sex with them, just friends to hang out with.
He's making me spin around in circles.
(Does a Gaydar exist? Could I please have it?) My crush, whom I've been crushing on for the past 5/6 months, has completely spun me around from thinking that he's straight to gay to straight again. I use to never even consider him a possibility... He's a senior on my swim team who just turned 18... I'm turning 16 in October, but by then he'll be gone. He's made me feel wanted and I feel like he cares about my wellbeing. One day when I was experiencing severe stomach pain, he seemed genuinely concerned, like a side of him that I've never seen of him before. And then this past week, we've been joking about an accident that I made to where I fell into the pool with my school uniform on. It just felt so good to finally hear him laugh from something I did. And then there'll be the times where he seems completely and totally straight. He'll joke around with his buddies and make gay jokes in the locker-room and pull the occasional prank. It could just be a thing that guys do, (for some reason I'm just not that type of person). He'll be gone soon, but literally this is tearing me apart right now. I've told myself to hold on on telling him my feelings because I don't want his time remaining to be tarred by my selfishness, nor do I want him to go off to college in a bad mood. I've prayed for strength, but I'm not sure how much longer I can go seeing his smile and hearing his warm voice without buckling and giving my secrets up... What should I do?
How did you guys deal with bullying in high school?
Hey guys. I'm in the Scandinavian equivalent of high school. Recently this guy started bothering me at school. Every time we pass each other in the hallway he makes a high pitched sound and laughs with his friends. My friends barely notice, and they don't know he's doing it because of me. I barely know the guy, but it's making me really uncomfortable. I was just at a party at my school, and he and his friend came up to me and yelled "gayyy!" in my face and pushed me around. I didn't really give him a reaction, and I'm trying to ignore it. However, it's making me really uncomfortable. I get this pit in my stomach thinking about it, and I desperately try to avoid him in the hallways. I know this probably is nothing compared to what some of you have been through, but I just don't know what to do. Advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Interesting Story - need advice
So this is my first post to the reddit community and I'm hoping you guys can help me out. I've known I was gay from an early age but I've never come out because I didn't want to deal with the drama. Because I know my family would shun me and some of my friends would certainly be put off by it, I choose to keep it to myself.Lately I've been having a strong desire to come out to at least one of my friends because I'm really just tired of hiding it. I haven't been able to figure out who it should be but then a couple months ago something happened.I was browsing Grindr and got a message from this headless torso profile and decided to respond. We talked a little bit and swapped dick pics and then I ask him for a face pic. When he sends it I am completely astonished. It was my best friend (who by all appearances is straight as an arrow, he rags on gays quite a bit too). I stared at my screen in disbelief and did nothing. He still doesn't know that it was me he was talking to. He disappeared for a while and showed up again about a month ago. We messaged a few times and then he went silent. Hasn't been back on the app since.The predicament I find myself in is that I am attracted to him, and if some kind of sexual relationship were possible between us I'd be so down for it haha, but I'm deathly afraid of making things awkward between us by bringing it up. I know I shouldn't be since I found him on Grindr but the thing is, I kinda feel like he was just on there to bust a quick nut. Since I haven't seen him back on Grindr in a while I'm suspecting that he is at most heteroflexible.So my questions are: Should I come out to him? If so, how should I do it? Should I talk about seeing him on Grindr? Knowing that I'd welcome a sexual relationship but don't want to damage the friendship, how would you proceed?A couple of details - we're both in our early twenties, both very straight acting, and very good friends. We spend a lot of time together (hours a day) and used to live together.
Interesting story - need advice
So I'm kinda crushing on my best friend (like you've never heard that before lol) and I'm not sure what to do with it. By all outward appearances he is straight as can be but a couple of months ago something happened and since that I've started to think something might be possible between us. I'm not looking for any kind of serious relationship (but if it happened I'd be open) but a fwb thing would be cool. Honestly, I just want him to know the truth about who I am. I've been thinking about coming out to him for a while but I'm so afraid of damaging the friendship that I never have. Lately I've been having a very strong urge to come out to him and what happened has made me consider it more seriously than ever before.I was browsing Grindr a few months ago and got a message from this headless torso. Usually I wouldn't respond but in this case I went ahead and messaged back. We talked for a few before he asked for a dick pic, we swapped and then I asked for a face pic. When he sent me his face pic everything changed. It was my best friend, and I was completely shocked. I stared blankly at my screen and did nothing. To this day he still had no idea it was me he was talking to. This really threw me for a loop because I'd never suspect him of even trying anything gay and because if that I'd more or less resigned myself to the fact that nothing would ever happen. I don't know what to think now.Most of me thinks that he really is straight, or at most heteroflexible. After that encounter he disappeared for a month and then I saw him again. We messaged a few times and then he disappeared again and hasn't been back on since. That's been about another month now. I'm thinking he was just on there because he really wanted to bust a quick nut and maybe thought he'd give it a shot. Maybe I'm just so paranoid about the whole situation I can't see what's really going on.So my questions to you are:Should I come out to him? If so, how? Should I mention seeing him on Grindr? Knowing that I'd welcome a sexual relationship but don't want to damage the friendship, how would you proceed?
To Any Gay Guys Who Use MenChats Chat Room
Since FoxFire recently did an update the Java Script that the room runs on no longer works on my browser. The website itself says that only IE and Safari will work with it. Well, I'm not a tech guy and when I try to run it on either of those browsers I get teh message that "Java is disabled or unavailable on your browser". I've looked and it seems to be set up correctly. Do any of you guys have a suggestion on how to get it to work?Much appreciated!TNT
Don't you love men?
Why are men so hot and attractive? I can't say it enough. I love men. Anyway whoever is reading this, have a good weekend, sir! :)
A true lovestory - Gay FanFiction
Ayaz was sitting on the couch waiting for Ryan to come home. Ayaz got a message from Ryan saying: Babe im coming home soon in like 45 minutes. Ayaz was happy to hear that and he was agitated. But Ryan got home earlier. Ayaz assumed that Ryan was caught up in the traffic. The longer Ayaz waited the more he felt a sense of longing for the blond boy.Ryan had been working really hard the past few days. And it was nearly christmas. Ayaz was looking forward to spend some times with Ryan. As Ayaz was still waiting for Ryan to come home he warmed up his bath and got in it. But then Ryan came home Ayaz heared the keys going in the lock, and he got excited. Ryan came in the house and said: ''i'm home sweety'' Ryan went upstairs to see Ayaz's beautifull face. Ryan lookt into the bedroom and didnt see Ayaz. As he went to the bathroom to go shower he saw Ayaz. Ryan got instantly tackled by Ayaz's body. And started kissing Ayaz everywhere. As Ryan whispered in Ayaz's ear saying ''I will never leave u again'' They both where in the bathtub their body glided over each other. Ayaz started touching Ryan's penis got an erection. As ayaz bended over to start sucking on it. Ryan loved the warm feeling of Ayaz's head over his dick. It got hotter in the bathroom. Ryan started masturbating on Ayaz's penis. Ryan bended over and Ayaz knew what to do. He started putting his penis inside the butthole of Ryan and started fucking him after some minutes Ayaz got on his knees and Ryan was ready to cumshot Ayaz on the face. Ayaz started masturbating on Ryan's penis. Ayaz opened his mouth and Ryan started cumming all over Ayaz. ''I love you Ryan'' ''I love you too Ayaz''
I get jealous hearing my boyfriend talk about his past
When I met my boyfriend 5 years ago I fell head over heels in love. Fast forward 5 years and details about his past experiences have come up. I was a virgin when I met him, and he was not. For some reason when he talks about how he made out with strangers at parties or bars, and that he had a couple of boyfriends before me just for fun, I get jealous I never experienced that. We've discussed this and he's not unsympathetic but we are monogamous. I really don't want to hurt him, but these feelings make me feel guilty but also like I missed out. He even would kiss other guys behind his boyfriends' backs. He's my first and only and we both love each other very much. However at 25 I feel I'm the only gay man who hasn't "played the field" so to speak.Tl:dr He's never cheated on me, nor I him. Will I be able to get over it or will I only feel worse the older, and less attractive, I get?
Hard-line anti-LGBT groups are brigading against this anti-conversion therapy video from the new Bill Nye show. Let's hit back hard! Smash the like button!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46h-LfNWPn8
Is Grindr a hookup app or a dating app ?
Hello dear friends. I'm wondering whether Grindr is a hookup or dating app? Haven't found the answer neither on their official website: https://www.grindr.com/ nor on different sites with a reviews like this: http://ift.tt/2oE7fD6 in it. What do you think?
All that hate? (political)
I am really concerned currently. Why is there so much hait against "leftist groups" or anything related to them? Even so far to say that the bad animations in games (Mass Effect Andromeda) would be because of "leftist propaganda" instead of the obvious reason that it just was rushed? It seems ok nowadays to hate on anything that is not far into the right wing for no real reason. But I guess you already know that...So my concern is how popular those opinions actually are. These people cherrypick the few instances where extreme left wing people were, well, extreme and then they take that as an excuse to say stuff like that they should gas us or worse. Why is that acceptable? When the society finally overcomes its tendencies to the right and LGBTQ+ people are somewhat accepted, that is too much? I mean I know in recent times there always was that certain ammount of discrimination against any LGBTQ+ people (except against lesbian porn of course. Because that is not hypocritical). But it seems like that hate now is amplified. And why is it that people only think of the extreme left people and then decide that the complete left wing is bad?Sorry if this is more of a rant than anything else but I am really worried about the current situation. And I am always upset when I see hoe bad humanity actually is :/
Rimjob help
I haven't given but a couple of rimjobs in my life and I'm not big on getting them. Can anyone give my some pointers on this?
How to stop falling for straight boys?
So I have this problem, I see a hot guy, and get overly attached to him and fall in love with him. So I try to become friends with him and get to know him better. And then it turns out he's straight and I get really depressed. Any tips that you guys have to stop falling for straight guys?
I need help...
I am currently deployed and not getting attention I need I was wondering if anyone would like to trade pics and talk dirty 😏
Gay Marriage in UK?
Hi I'm from Hong Kong and I plan to study in UK next year, and probably moce there because I like Pakistani men, but setting all "love hunting" aside, laws are important as it affects the quality of my gay life and the quantity of serious gay men I'm going to meet.Which city in UK has most gay Pakistani men? Also, would it be best to study in a city that allows gay marriage and adoption? Thanks~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Pakistan Same-sex sexual activities: 2 years to life imprisonment Recognition: X Adoption: XHong Kong Same-sex sexual activities: Legal Recognition: X Adoption: XUnited Kingdom Same-sex sexual activities: Legal Recognition: Same-sex marriage (England and Wales; Scotland) / Civil partnerships (nationwide) Adoption: Joint and stepchild adoption (England and Wales, Scotland, Northern Ireland)
One of Six times I cheated
1 of 6The first day I cheated on you was January 19th, 2016. But I thought about it long before. From the beginning of our relationship I felt you didn’t value me or what I was giving to you. So I challenged that by giving you more. Our first kissed was on March 7th, 2015. I remembered because it was my first kiss. But you didn’t. Even after I told you the date it wasn’t anything that stuck in your memory. That made me feel like I was just another guy you were with. In retrospect, I think you were too hurt to appreciate the things I gave to you, and it was hard for you to see value in someone saying you’re the only person I’ve ever been with and the only person I want to be with. On my end, I wanted to see what is was like to be in a relationship, although I didn’t understand all that I was asking for.January 19, 2016 The night leading to this day was like many others around that time. I masturbated to pornography more than twice and I scrolled down Grindr to see who was around. I didn’t believe I could ever cheat. I felt like I was too much of a pushover to do something of that nature. Throughout our relationship I felt controlled, whether it was who I hanged out with, what I was doing, if I could workout, and the fact that I had to tell you every single place I went, when I went there. I remember saying, “I don’t even tell my mom where I’m going like this.” This feeling of being controlled, paired with my full self-disclosure and your obviously hiding of your past, I started to feel like I wasn’t important enough in your life to know you or your past. Of the things you did tell me, your sexual history was one, including how you had sex with a particular person for two hours and it was great. This didn’t bother me until I realized the contrast between that statement and the sexual relationship we shared. I supposed being with someone who hasn’t had sex with anyone else has its pros and cons. One pro would be lack of comparisons. In my eyes, you were everything. All of my sexual experiences end and began with you. Imagine that security knowing that the person you’re with has only given themselves sexually to you. But I knew you didn’t value that, because I asked you and you told me that you didn’t. One con would be you would have to teach them everything and they wouldn’t do things an experienced person would initially. For me personally, the learning curve was steep, not only was I beginning my first relationship, I was having my first sexual experiences, but I was also coming to terms with my sexuality which was the devil on my back since I was in kindergarten. I let you into a broken place but that wasn’t valued, and I eventually stopped valuing myself.I used to feel shame when I masturbated, especially to gay porn. This wasn’t as I child, or adolescent. It was up until the time I met you, and even after. I felt like God couldn’t make me who I needed to be until I got over the temptation of being sexually attracted to men. I would whip myself daily with each thought and action that fed my sexual nature. I hated myself, and I wanted to go away. I wanted to be free from the internal turmoil the carved holes in my intestines and through friction burned my mind and soul until I was mentally and spiritually shapeless. But one day I decided to do something different, I was scared but my existence was so tormented that standing still was no longer option. Working at best buy I met my friend Corey, and I noticed he had an app named Grindr on his phone, and through the context of our conversations about the app, I knew generally what the app was about.I met you on January 19th, 2015. And I was desperate to rid myself of the self-hate and the image I held of myself for always following the rules. I figured through this relationship I would learn and grow and experience a life different than what I led for the past 23 years.After scrolling down Grindr something happened that I didn’t expect. I had voices telling me “Jalen, you always do what’s expected of you.” “You’re too weak to do something that’ll make you happy.” In our relationship, I can’t say I felt any better than I did before I met you. I felt worse. And I wanted out more than anything, because I felt stifled and constricted. Where I felt like I would grow I felt starved. I found a guy who moderately attractive, short Latino, toned and he asked if I could come over. I had already been up throughout the night thinking why the only person I choose to share myself with sexually doesn’t value me sexually. I told him yes, and that I would meet him at his apartment, not thinking I would actually go, thinking I would close the app and continue with my day as I’ve done before. But this time was different. I was fueled by hurt, resentment, the fear of never being able to know myself sexually, and the part of me that said I only do what’s expected of me. And I wanted to cast them all away. This is the part of the story when I here you say, “What about me?” “Didn’t you think of me?” And I did, but the feelings I had grew into a monster so enormous that when he roared, it drowned out all things around it. So I got in the tub and took a bath, and cleaned and prepared myself the best I could in the limited time. He told me he had to go to work around 0930. I left my house, told my sister I was going to the gym and I drove to his apartment in Vestavia. While I was there I thought, you don’t have to do this. You can drive to McDonald’s and buy babe breakfast and none of this will matter. You don’t have to do this.I sat in the parking lot of the apartment complex for some 20 minutes contemplating. Thinking “What the hell am I doing.” He then messaged me on Grindr, “Where are you?” I said, “Outside.” He followed by looking outside, and messaging me that he lived in the top apartment. I spotted him and I got out my car and walked up the stairs towards his apartment. What I was doing in that moment didn’t feel like cheating. His cavalier demeanor made me feel less like I was committing murder. He asked me, “Are you nervous.” And I said, “Yea.” And he signaled for me to come in, which I did. He then grabbed me like I haven’t been, like he wanted me. We went to his room and started making out on his bed. My body on top of his, I nearly came from making out alone. The act of what we where doing wasn’t something I hadn’t done before but the intensity and the way he wanted me reverberated through my being and validated a part of me that was gasping for air. He was prepared with a condom but he didn’t have lube. I mounted him and started to fuck him, after a while he flipped me over and started sucking my dick then he asked do you want to bottom, and I said “I’ve never done that before I don’t know.” “I’ll try it.” He penetrates me and it hurts a bit but not intolerably and a few minutes it became pleasurable. We both came and I immediately felt exposed and put on my underwear and clothes. He said to me “Do you have a boyfriend?” I followed with a yes. I asked him does it make a me horrible person for cheating, he said, “No, people do it all the time, he’s probably doing it to you.” He then asked my name as I edged closer to the door, slightly fearing my life as I am in a stranger’s home. I told him, and I asked his name and he told me “Jose.”What I learned after that experience was that I was attractive, and it’s possible for someone to want me and validate me sexually. I’d never experienced that before. I learned that I am strong enough to make my own decisions and I’m not trapped. But this is only 1 of 6.
2017. április 27., csütörtök
Be friends with a guy you're really crushing on?
First time poster on here. Just to give you guys some background on me: I'm 31, my partner of 7 years passed away last summer, and I've been looking at dating again.So I started talking to this guy on A4A just about 3 weeks ago. He's a couple of years younger than me, smart, and gorgeous. He's planning on moving to my city pretty soon. His last relationship ended a few months ago and he just needs a change of job, city, etc.We really hit it off chatting and eventually started texting all day every day. Seeing his texts pop up on my phone would just light me up. After texting all day we'd eventually say goodnight to each other. I was really crushing on him. He lifted me up from a rot and inspired me to get back to running miles every day.He was in town last weekend and we met up for coffee. I guess I let him down or something because his texts just weren't the same after that night. I ended up liking him even more though.This whole week he sent me good morning texts and I thought that was really sweet and maybe I just read too much into our coffee meetup. So last night I asked him out to dinner next time he's in town. He says he's down for a "bite" but only if I'm asking as a friend.I text him back "No I'm not asking as a friend"I haven't heard back from him since. I don't regret asking him out on an official date. I guess I'd rather lose him as a friend than open myself up to being hurt later on. I guess the bridge is burning now and it hurts.What do you guys think? Should I just move on or keep quiet for a couple of days and reach out to him?
Do you guys get depressed when looking at a guy so beautiful it hurts?
So... I'm having this problem. Whenever I see a guy who I find to be gorgeous I get depressed, cause I know no guy like him will ever want me. (I'm not ugly... but not exactly a handsome motherfucker either).Do you guys also get hurt by looking at gorgeous guys? How do you cope with it?
"Straight" friend?
I don't know if im asking for advice or just vent my confusion about it. I've recently gotten really close with this guy these last couple of months. We knew each other from volunteer work and recently began to hangout casually and talk a lot more. I was really into this dude before we ever even talked and had a thing for him for a while. After getting to know him for a while, i really enjoyed having him just as a friend. Not wanting to fuck what we had up, I quickly forced myself to get over my feelings. Fast forward a couple month and we talk almost everyday and see each other all the time. At this point im already over my lil crush on him and we jave gotten really close. Closer than I have been with any other dude that I ever dated. We have gotten pretty deep and just been really real with each other. In the last couple of weeks I've been getting weird vibes and signals off him. Our mutual friends have too and joke around that I'm his boyfriend n shit. Part of me thinks he's questioning what we have, and the other part is telling me im reading i to things too muchI really don't know what to think about it. From what I know he is a pretty open dude and doesn't really identify with any sexual identity. So maybe? Idk, let's see what unfolds I guess.
I need assistance! #silencedondayofsilence
Hello everyone. I'm a high school senior who is the president of my schools SAGA (Sexuality and Gender Acceptance). Our club has been around for about 4 years as of now, and we have had very minimal interference with anything we've wanted to do... till now.We wanted to make a video for day of silence discussing our personal struggles with harassment on/off school grounds, and how Day of Silence matters. But we were denied by administration with no clear-cut reason. We posted the video onto YouTube (currently private) because they only stated that the video wasn't to be shown in homerooms, and then some stuff happened.You see, some kids aren't out at home, and the principal said he may call parents who don't know of the video. They say that the video being out kinda outs them, but they don't know it exist so they aren't technically out. We're currently coming up with an argument on why this illegal and that he is treating are club differently than any other.I need help with any laws and regulations that can help us. Please support us and our fight against the silence.
Gay males and shallowness over muscles
I used to be very skinny, but not SUPER skinny, so I began lifting weights about a year ago and have gained a good amount of weight. Literally the only thing that has changed about me is that I have bigger arms and a developed chest! Yet... guys who previously wouldn't even acknowledge me want to hang out all of a sudden and even try to fuck. Even online too, grindr guys who previously ignored me will message me and even HARRASS me.I know that this is kind of a weird complaint lol... but it's really sad that I am super nice to the gay guys I meet and most of them really only care about appearance. Many pretend to have such deep personalities... but literally won't even befriend people just because they do or do not look a certain way. (which is ironic because gay people fight hard for acceptance from outside groups)Why am I better "friend material" to these people now that I'm more muscular...? Are my arms supposed to make a friendship more valid or something? Why are gay males so picky about even their PLATONIC friends? We're not even fucking dating!It's EXTREMELY sad that no matter how good of a person I am, many gay guys simply do not give a fuck unless I look a certain way.DISCLAIMER: Nowhere in this post does it say that all gay guys love muscles. Please do not try to spin the words on my post and make this about ALL gay people.
I'm gay and haven't came out to anyone but there's a guy I like and I don't know if he's gay.
Basically title, I'm 18 in college and there's a cute guy I really like but I don't know how to approach all of this, I'm pretty new to whole thing. I don't want to ask him if it turns out he's straight and ends up telling people about me. Any advice?
Dealing with rejection when it's clearly cuz of your looks.
I'm just feeling a little down today. I'm 25, I came out a few years ago and so kinda because of that I've never been in any kind of romantic relationship.So I started using dating apps and fell in hatred of things like tinder or scout. But I've started using OkCupid and I like it because you can actually see who you're closely compatible with and it's not just a face. But I've messaged several guys that I'm closely matched with like upward 80% or 95% and have been flat out ignored. Which is okay in of it's self I don't think people have an obligation to talk to me, but it just has me down because I can't help but think it's because of my looks alone. Why else would they ignore someone who's a high match. I just feel like a loser for even being upset about it. It is pretty insignificant. How do you guys deal with rejection like that when it makes you feel like ugly trash?
I look too young for my age and I like going to chat sites.
I am 22 years old but look like 16. Sometimes I go to chat sites to wank and daddies would watch me. However, I fear that the system might flag me as underage and may cause problems in future. Will this cause an issue?
Are younger bald men unattractive
I am 25 and currently have lost quite a bit of hair on the top of my head. I have a decent body and a good looking enough face, but balding so young has taken a huge toll on my self esteem. When I go to the clubs I feel I'm the only guy under 35 with so much hair loss. Baldness runs heavily in my family so I know it's simply a genetic curse out of my control. I started growing heavy stubble on my face to try to distract from the fact I'm lacking hair on my head.Tl;dr Are most gay men shallow enough to find an otherwise attractive man who is balding undesirable?
[UPDATE] I finally came out to my best friend of 20 years last night!
Original Post: http://ift.tt/2oNdFuU were sitting around the living room, drinking scotch and chatting, with his girlfriend passed out on the couch. After he said that he was about to go to bed, I immediately blurted out "Hey, I've got to tell you something." Upon him asking what it was, I just froze. It took me a good few minutes to get it out. After the 10th time of him asking me to just say it, I hesitantly said: "I'm not... into... girls." He responds with: "so... you're... into... boys?"He seemed surprised and asked me when I knew, so I had him read my journal entry above. After reading it, he gave me a hug and tells me that he's so glad that I told him. He then hilariously exclaims "This is awesome, now I have a gay best friend!!" It was at that moment when I really felt accepted; I'll always be grateful for that.We ended up talking for a couple hours into the night. He asked me a bunch of questions (some tough ones like "Did you ever like me?" to some hilarious ones like "How does it feel to have something up your ass?") and I answered all of them honestly. I'm so glad that I never have to lie to him again. He reassured me that all of our friends will be accepting and that my parents will learn to accept me as well. He said: "Regardless of what happens, nothing changes between us or the fact that you're my best friend. I can't wait for you to tell the rest of the guys, because you'll see that they're all going to think it's awesome that you can be true to yourself."This will go down as one of the defining moments of my life. Coming out to my best friend was such an amazing relief and to have him respond and react in the way he did made it even more incredible. He actually texted me this morning saying: "Hey I'm keeping the empty scotch bottle that we finished last night for the memory".After last night and after all of the AMAZING support you guys have given me with your heartfelt comments, I'm feeling much more empowered to tell the rest of my friends. You are all incredible and I'm so grateful for my (NEW!) community!
24 Toronto Gay wanting Ginger Twink BF
Is it weird that I have a thing for Gingers? I've always wanted to date a ginger, have been with a couple but never as a relationship. I just think red-heads are so sexy!! Damn :SWhat do you all think? Gingers = Super hot right?
Super Busy Boyfriend?
What would you do if your boyfriend is a student, but he's too busy to see you because he prefers to study all the time and to take classes that he does actually not have to take?
LGBT+ Discord Server
Just made a discord server for LGBT+ peeps.You should check it out :Dhttps://discord.gg/tuc47Cz
2017. április 26., szerda
[NSFW] ? for other bottoms/this guy told me I'm not gay??
Hi all, just recently admitted to myself I'm gay. Felt like such a relief. I've always felt like such a weirdo and then I finally felt normal after realizing I'm gay.I'm a hard bottom. I don't top, I never want to top, which is just to say that I have no experience with other bottoms. I'm not exactly "out" I guess, I have a few gay friends but I've yet to tell them I'm gay and I'm nervous how they'll feel about it after me repping as straight for so long so have nobody to talk to about this.Soooo usually I don't get like fully hard when I'm having sex. Sometimes I do when I'm really in the mood, but most of the time I'm just hard, not ROCK hard y'know? Well this guy I hooked up with told me it means I'm not gay. He said it means I'm not into guys I'm just into anal.Now I'm all confused, I mean yeah I can't even remember the last time I jerked off without something up my butt. And it's not like I can't have sex with girls cause I have in the past, but it's been a long time since I was even remotely interested in a woman. Girls can be easy on the eyes, but seems more like an envy thing for me, cause so far all of the guys that make my jaw drop are super straight so sometimes I just wish I was a girl. When I think about having a serious relationship it's always with a guy in my mind, but it hasn't always been that way.Which is all just to say, is my lack of a raging hard on or how it sometimes takes me a while to get it up normal for a bottom like me? I get that tops have to perform in that way, but I never thought it was weird for me until this guy said I'm not gay because of it. Now I'm really self-conscious about it and really distraught. : [
Is scissor in really a thing?
I like some good ol scissor porn, but my girlfriend (who is super-feminist and likes to argue about ever ything I do) saw it in my browser history and told me it's not real; that they only do to get guys off.I google it, but it's like 50/50 . Do lesbian couples actually scissor?
And now what? After coming out
Hi. My name is Felix I'm a 29 yrs old and I recently came out as a gay. My story is long I will try to make it short, I have been aware of my sexual orientation since I remember but until last year I was a Pentecostal Christian on a Hispanic church this is one of the most fundamentalists of the Christian churches that doesn't accept gay lifestyle or anything that has to do with it. I'm from Mexico and haven living in the USA for about 10 yrs now, I basically fled my country because of fear that my father would harm me because he doesn't accept my sexuality and say that is shameful to my family the way I'm, before I left he didn't knew that I was gay but he told me that he would hang me from a tree if I was. I left my country as soon I turned 18 and got my papers to legally leave the house, leaving everything behind was the worst thing I have ever done in my life, when I came to the USA I was still at church and try to make everything as "normal" as possible praying every day fasting and reading the Bible I even graduated from a bible school here. I have my certificate and diploma I was trying to "cure" my self with everything I could I study the Bible looking for a answer to my life because I could imagine my life outside the church that I loved so much. But now that I left I feel so bad even after they didn't accepted me as a gay person, My mom died when I was 14 yrs old and that was devastating for me she was the only person that have love me and actually accepted me, now I'm almost a year outside the church and trying to make sense of my life and looking for a purpose to it, before it was the church, my life was for the church, after coming out my friends accepted me everyone on different degrees but I'm happy they actually ok with it, not that they applaud it but they accepted me. My family is a different story I still talk to my sisters and brother but not my father, hopefully he can change his mind because I really do miss him. 10 years is to much to be separated from him.
Coming out would shock my parents
Hey everyone!I know everyone gets stressed about coming out but I have been thinking a lot about it recently and, after many google searches, have not found people in a similar situation.So I definitely am not straight (not super sure on a label yet). But I I.D. somewhere under the bi umbrella and grew up attracted to boys (I'm a cis woman) and so my parents 100% believe me to be straight. One time, my mom even said to me, "I respect and support gay people, but when you told me about your first crush on a boy, I was relieved." Yep, that was an interesting moment.Any way, my parents are supportive of gay marriage/adoption/whathaveyou but sometimes my mom says biphobic things, asking particularly rude questions and making thoughtless statements about one of my close bi friends who is out to her. Overall, I need help with how to handle a situation where your parents are very supportive of other gay people but absolutely do not know that their child, me (HI), is a part of the community.I tend to share everything with my mom as an only child and I think if I told her, she'd feel absolutely shocked and maybe even a little deceived. I'm just really torn because I could just keep allowing them to believe I'm straight and not ruffle any feathers or I could come out and feel like I'm actually being honest.I know they wouldn't disown me or anything drastic but I just don't know how it might affect my relationship with my folks.Help me
Considering killing myself
So let me tell you a little about myself. I'm an 18 year guy who's about to graduate high school. For as long as I can remember, I've been sexually attracted to guys as opposed to girls, but at the time I would just brush it off like it's nothing and continue believing that I was romantically attracted to girls at all. That backfired when I fell in love with a guy, and enough time has passed for me to figure out who I am.I really hate myself for being gay. I tried to run from it, but I never could. I stay at home, I hear my parents making fun of gays. I go to school and end up having a breakdown because of my classmates endlessly bashing gays. I try to sleep, I awaken from the constant nightmares of people I love telling me how worthless and not normal I am and how I don't deserve anything. I wish I'd never been born, but here I am. And while I would like to live a normal life, that just won't be happening for me. I won't be able to get married or have my own children. Even if I do, I'll end up ruining an innocent life by not being able to raise it like a straight couple would, which would result everyone bullying them. So by the time everyone gets married and watches their children grow up, I'll still be a failure and disappointment to myself and my parents on that part. I'm feel ashamed of who I am and I wish I could just be normal like everyone else. Carrying this burden for two years is killing me and I don't know how to move past this, if I even can. So it all comes down to killing myself before I ruin other people's lives. I can't live like this anymore. The war is at my doorstep and at this point I'm not even moving a finger. I am just done fighting this.
Terrified Of Turning Thirty.
I get it, theres nothing I can do. But I'm curious for the older SINGLE gay guys, if its hard to find dates. In my area, I find theres some very few and rare gems. For example:Most 18-25 year olds are partying, doing drugs and hooking up. OR they are work-aholics or in long term relationships that tend to end around the time their thirty.For the ones that end around thirty, introduces the immature, emotionally insecure guys.Now this isn't indicative of all gays in my area. Theres some really nice ones, some really hot ones and so on and so forth. But the thing I see the most from media (gay related) and hear from people is that we are limited to a certain age range, from 18-26(ish)That once you hit your late 20's early thirties, you are less desirable. Now I don't know if this is true or not. But I have been in one serious relationship, three years ago and ever since Ive gotten lots of dates and messages but as I get older its like the line on the graph representing number of messages has gone down.When I go to bars or pubs or even gay related events its like I'm sucked into the circle of "old queens" ass if thats where I now belong. (I'm far from a queen, not a "masc for masc" but not a queen either).It feels like when you tell some one, Im 28,29,30 you are looked at differently. You are less desired. Its brought on a lot of questions and fears of being a lone. Not in the "well you're insecure with your self, learn to love your self sense" but in the "Whats going on here ..."I essentially feel like I've missed my "prince charming" so to speak. A lot of my gay friends are mid 20's and are engaged, good careers, nice homes. Me? Im 28 going on 29, an apartment with two cats and I feel lonelier then I ever did.Now I know a lot of you will downvote this, tell me to suck it up. Some might even tell me off. But this is how I feel, and I'm not looking for a sympathy party. Just advice.Have I missed out? Life doesn't end at 30, but in the gay community, why does it feel like it does.
Homo's: If you have A.D.D./A.D.H.D.
...and you were "closeted", is it any easier to sit still and not fidget if you're around attractive guys?I'm trying to figure out if when you are attracted to anyone do the symptoms of your ADD get worse or seem exaggerated in any way.
Are gay guys interested in making friends?
Are gay men able to be friends with other gay men without anything sexual happening?
How can I tell if someone is bi?
I'm bi and I really want to give someone a blowjob, problem is that I live I a small village where everyone stays in the closet, including me. How can I tell if someone is bi so I can ask if they want a bj, I'm afraid of asking someone and them telling everyone I'm gay. Would asking "would you ever let a guy blow you" be my best bet?
Engaging Others
Hi all!I'm not a new gay. I've been out for over decade. But I have some problems. How do people engage in the community? I want to be a member, but I don't know where I should start? I go to gay bars, but I'm essentially socialized as a middle aged lesbian, so are there any tidbits or hints that would be better gay male? Any help would be lovely. Thanks!
2017. április 25., kedd
Met a really good looking guy in coffee inn, and now I'm thinking about what to do next.
Sunday, in Coffee Inn, I saw a really good looking barista, so I kept changing stares with him, cause I could see how he oftens checks me out.Monday I went there with a friend of mine, and she told me that the barista looked at me and smiled while I wasnt watching, and then we exchanged smiles every few minutes.When we had to go, my friend made me wait for something, and she went to the barista and gave him a tissue. I thought she gave her number, but in the end she told me that she gave him my number.I did want to give him my number, but I wanted to do it myself. He still hasn't messaged me, so maybe he thought I'm not worth it if I can't do it myself. Or maybe he's just not interested in men. So today I want to go there, sit, read a book while waiting for my meeting with a pal of mine, and if he's there, then apologize for that and ask him if I can talk to him about it when he has free time.Would that be a good idea?
Is this a good idea?
There's a guy I like in school and I have like class every day with him first period but he's with his friends, and every friday I have last period with him, but only two more times until school ends. He's 18 and I'm 15... I'm not like really looking for a relationship or even care if he's gay that much but i just have some random urge to be friends with this guy. I'm friends with 2 of his friends who are also seniors and I think on Friday I'm going to walk over to him. I know he like Star Wars so I'll be like "does anyone like Star Wars" and if he says yeah or if he doesn't I'll just directly ask him since he usually has headphones in, and I'll be like here take this cuz I don't want it (it's like a metal foldable thing of one of the tall elephant looking things that I found in my house). Then I'll say "but send me a pic when it's finished, and like hand him my phone with the thing to start a new text for him to put his number in.Is that like a good idea or no? We have band together, he likes video games but I play league and he plays like halo on Xbox or something which I have an Xbox but idk... I just want to find some way to be friends with this guy cause he graduates and I'll like never see him again if I don't do it now. I don't have much time at all.
Getting my Bio Degree Ruined Mass Effect [spoilers]
So I'm about to graduate with my bachelor's in biology from UCSD, and I'm trying to get a list of video games together that I'm going to binge before Med school, and I've always been fond of the Mass Effect line, but I stopped playing at 2, still kinda followed the story, and now that Andromeda is out, I was thinking about getting back in.I started remembering the story line, all of the alien races, their features and such.... then I wondered, "Are all of these aliens DNA based?" I mean, I figured there would be another type of nucleic acid form of life that would differ at least SLIGHTLY. Unless the trasnspermia theory is 100% proven in that universe, or DNA is the only basis for life in that universe... is that mentioned at all? Too deep? It's like I can't take the whole game seriously anymore lmao
After 33 years of being in the closet and I was high last night on LSD and weed...
... and I couldn't sleep. Tossed and turned for hours in bed -- I had never felt such anxiety before. So I decided to write down a confession that I never thought I would be able to write. I'm sharing this with you because I need to get it out and I'm hoping that others can help me along the way. It's long, but I appreciate you reading. Thank you all.Here it is:I've known since I was in 5th grade but I always refused to believe it. I tried so hard to not be. I always wanted to live a normal life: get a girlfriend, then a wife, and then have kids, and then grow old with my perfect family. I've always wanted to have that life, so I denied to myself who I was over and over again. I tried to like girls, I did everything I could to be a normal guy: get into supermodels like Cindy Crawford or Tyra Banks, make out with girls, scope them out, all that stuff. But it never felt real. It always felt like I was putting on a show. However, constantly being bombarded by my parents and family members fantasizing and talking about my future wife and future kids (their future grandchildren) forced me to lie to myself about who I was. In fact, I was sure that I was going to "grow out of it" and just naturally start being straight as I got older.As I grew older, the lie just became bigger and bigger and I couldn't stop it. I couldn't bear the thought of breaking my parents' hearts. To have them realize that they have a gay son or that they may not have grandchildren. I just couldn't handle breaking that to them, so I kept up the show.In high school, I met my best friends, many of whom were Christian at the time. In finding Christ, I found a bit of hope. I can pray this away. As long as I'm a strong believer, God will show me the way because how could He make me gay? God knows I didn't choose this for myself, I've lived my whole life trying so hard to not be. Any spiritual high and temporary relief would only last for a moment, as it always ended up succumbing to the inevitable: that I'm still this way.After becoming closer with my social group, I just kept it up because I felt that I would be shunned. Gay jokes were constantly being flung around and nobody else we knew was gay. I didn't want to lose my friends. So I just kept it up. Dated here and there, but I always felt awkward and out of place. When the guys talked about hot girls, I could easily agree (I mean, objective hotness is universal), but I was never into hot girls like they were. I never had the desire to kiss them or have sex with them, I just thought they were beautiful. The easy thing to do was to keep it up. I didn't want to be looked at as disgusting or immoral; I didn't want this to be the only thing people saw when they looked at me or the first thing that people thought about when my name was mentioned.I didn't want this to be my identity.In college, it was the same situation except with different people. I had the opportunity to hook up with multiple girls but I always backed out. I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to get it up and that it would be painfully embarrassing. I just played it off like I had too high of standards.Even when I joined my company, surrounded by gay co-workers, I always envied the fact that they weren't lying to themselves or the world. They always seemed so happy and free, but I don't know why I couldn't do it. It was way too difficult for me to accept it. I couldn't even watch gay-themed movies or be around gay people because it made me so uncomfortable. I was asked a few times if I was gay and I always instinctively responded by being taken aback, when in reality, I always wanted to just tell the truth.I constantly thought about committing suicide. Death would be so much easier: it may be painful for a moment but then I will feel nothing and I would die with everyone not really knowing the truth. My parents would be heartbroken from my death, but at least they wouldn't be heartbroken from having a gay son. I never came close but I did think about it quite often and that led to many sleepless nights and consistent episodes of depression.With every passing birthday, holiday season, wedding of a good friend, baby born, I'm constantly reminded of the life that I could have had. The life that I've always wanted so desperately. I blamed myself all the time. Why couldn't I just be fucking normal? I kept convincing myself that maybe I could just force myself to marry some girl, have a kid, and just grit my teeth to make it work. Maybe having a child will make it all worth it in the end? So I dated some girls and when it came around to the 3rd or 4th or 5th date, I just couldn't look them in the eyes and betray them like that. So I always broke it off. Some of them I really cared about and they really cared about me, but that's why I felt I couldn't continue lying to them. After I broke it off, I always hated myself because I couldn't just suck it up and continue giving it a shot. I have to have at least one serious girlfriend in order to REALLY know, right? But when the situation arose again and again, my conscience always made me break it off. It got to the point where I would go on dating apps, match with cute girls, and then just ghost them. I didn't know what to say to them because I knew whatever I said was going to lead to me breaking it off eventually. I struggled with this for so long that I became numb to it. Each time I ghosted, I hated myself each time for being such a pussy.I found my escape in drugs and alcohol and cigarettes. It allowed me to temporarily forget who I really was and just have fun with my friends. And then I would wake up the next morning and it would be the same sadness, the same feeling of not being normal.I recently have been doing microdoses of LSD and since I began, i started not only realizing how amazing life and the world are, but that if I continue lying to myself and everyone around me, then I will live the rest of my life not being able to actually enjoy it. I'm 33 now and I'm almost 34. I've never been in a serious relationship. I have no idea what romantic love is like. People already constantly tell me how weird it is that I don't have a girlfriend. How much longer can I go before people end up assuming that I'm gay anyway? I'm sure many of my friends already do. I'm just so glad that I'm surrounded by incredible friends that I've known for most of my life, but even then, I'm afraid that telling them is going to change everything.Telling my parents is going to be complete hell. I've lied to them throughout my whole life. Lying about girlfriends and potential girlfriends. Letting them believe that I'm just really picky. They're going to be heartbroken that they won't have a grandchild from me, that they won't be able to face their relatives and family and friends. I'm going to be a gossip topic across all my extended family and their community and I really don't want to put my parents through that. Family visits and holidays are going to be tough. I'm not sure if I'll be able to handle facing all of my relatives. I know I'm almost 34, but I've lived my life with them seeing me as the perfect son. I don't want to break it to them that I'm not the son they thought or hoped I was. I just want them to be happy, to be proud of me, to not be ashamed to call me their son. I would give anything for that, but I'm not sure if that will be possible.In the past few years, I've been on a relentless journey to heal this deep-rooted sadness and pain inside. I've tried self-help books and videos, meditation, psychedelics, dieting, everything. Any happiness I gained would be instantly fleeting. I always knew exactly what it was but I couldn't allow myself to say it because once I said it out loud or put it down in writing, then it would instantly make it real. My family always said how I was the happiest and most confident child but that when I entered middle school, I became less energetic and happy. They brushed it off as my personality just changing with age -- a natural progression of adolescence -- but the truth was that I was struggling with my identity and being confused. I didn't want to be this person, so I always carried it with me deep down inside, like a horrible cancer that was slowly metastasizing throughout my life, my spirit, and my happiness. I was ready to accept the brutal and painful fact that I will never be happy and that I will just have to live out the rest of my life in hiding.I can't lie anymore. My mind, my sanity, I just can't take it anymore. I just want to live my life with truth and integrity, and I'm ready to accept whatever consequences stem from accepting that. I sincerely hope that my family and my friends will accept me and treat me no differently than they always have. I hope they can forgive me for all of the lies over the years -- I'm so damn sorry. I love my family and all of my friends so much, and I don't want anything to change. I've always been exactly the way I am today, but the only difference is that I'm no longer lying.Me 4/25/2017 at 4:20am
Dad. It's been a year.
You think the grief will make you smaller inside, like your heart will collapse in on itself, but it doesn't. I feel spaces opening up inside me like a building with rooms I never exploredDear Dad, You said we would be happy without you countless times before you made your decision, you were wrong. Everyday my mind brings me back to the day, I spent the night with a man I love followed by my morning class. Half expecting the news after reading a text from mom saying, “It's serious, you need to come home. Call me!” I call my brother answers, my heart collapses on itself. The day before was normal as it could have been living with a suicidal parent. You got mad over the dishes “I'm not your maid” you said. I tried to explain that I was about to do them and you didn't want to hear it. I wasn't trying to argue, but I'm sorry. You were so messed up, and I wonder how much of your traits are ingrained in my psyche. Your voice plays like a mp3 over and over on repeat as I wonder how much pain you were in and if it had anything to do with me being in your words “A fucking faggot.” I'm trying to feel the love for you, but it's hard when those sounds pop in my head. The times you exclaimed “I hate myself.” has definitely been passed on to me. You left no note so Ill forever question the ways in which I could have been a better son. I have no-one to talk to about this and the ways I've fallen apart since you left. In the past year Ive failed at the best relationship Ive ever had, im not sure whats hurting me more: missing you, knowing I pushed a good guy away after you took the pills, or the ways in which youve destroyed me. “You fucking faggot” “ Crybaby bitch” are the sounds I hear at night, I hope one day I can control them, but for now in some twisted way they comfort me coming from your voice in my head as I drift to sleep. Nobody hears my cries as I drive alone. I’m so alone. I miss you dad, its so screwed up. My self esteem is broken because of you. Mom is suffering after 30 years of your cheating. Remember when you said “they don't want fags on construction crews” well im landscaping this summer and I'm doing a good job.
What's the biggest secret you ever kept from a lover?
Or, the biggest secret they ever kept from you? In full disclosure, this question is part of research for a work of fiction on the nature of keeping secrets from lovers in order to present your "best" self.
Kind of a long one, can you guys help?
So, get ready for a long one….will probably seem like I’m looking to accomplish years of psychoanalysis in one Reddit posting…. Intro: 61 yo happily married man, kids, successful. But, I’m gay. I didn’t “get it” as an adolescent and young adult. Fantasizes only about men, but dated only women, never considered otherwise. Don’t think I knew what “gay” was until I was 20, then didn’t think it applied to me because I didn’t think I fit the stereotypes (I did, actually, even knowing now how meaningless they are). Always fantasized about men. Only had sex with two women – high school girlfriend and my wife, who I met after college. Sex was okay, I enjoyed it, my wife did too, but it was vanilla, fast and became less frequent over the years.It got harder as they years went by, unbearable after the kids left and I had more time to ponder life. Like many closeted people, I suffered depression, anxiety, self loathing, inadequacy. And conflict and regret. Conflict because I love my life, my wife, my children. Regret, as I realized what living inauthenticity had done to me and to those I love. I read everything I could. I wrote to myself. I finally came out to myself 5-6 years ago. Within a couple years, I decided I had to come out to my wife. I saw several therapists until I found one who could really help me come to grips with it all. I realized lifting some of the burden from me would result in placing it on my wife, who isn’t the strongest person. I should also say we’re not people with a lot of friends or outside engagement. We’re together all the time. Everyone we know thinks we have the perfect marriage. So I told her two years ago. It was awful at first. She was shocked, angry, terribly sad. She saw therapists. We’ve evolved. I’ve had encounters with other men, with her blessing. She remains very sad about it. And fluctuates between benign acceptance to denial to anger. My sex life is largely limited to gay porn and masturbation. I don’t know if I’m “addicted”, but if you can be, I probably am. Where I used to masturbate to fantasies, that simply doesn’t work anymore. Minor health issues, ED, doesn’t help. I've seen my doc, he knows it all. Cialis helps, but only to a point. Here’s where I’m seeking input and help. As I said, I’ve been with a few men, including a handful who I’ve been attracted to. But I don’t get hard. In fact, I feel nothing. The first was a CL “massage” with a hot guy, I was totally into it at first, but then lost my erection and couldn’t get it back. Other times I’ve felt nothing. It’s like I’m asexual. Zero arousal. I was with a 40+ guy, incredibly good looking, great body, amazing cock. I never felt a thing. I’m a grower, not a shower, and I didn’t grow a bit. I was getting a blow job recently and I felt nothing. Only had an erection at the start from porn, lost it as he sucked away. It’s humiliating besides being so terribly frustrating. So I’m hoping for thoughts from guys who’ve lived authentic gay lives forever and from guys who have lived in denial as I have. Specifically, • Any thoughts on how it’s possible for me to feel nothing after a lifetime of obsessive fantasizing about men? • Have any of you experienced this? If so, has anyone successfully come back to natural stimulation where they could only get hard and cum with porn? How did you do it? • Any other married guys with similar experiences? Oh, one more thing. How does a guy like me meet decent men? So far it’s all been CL.Finally – a shout out to the men and women of my generation and to young people coming to grips with their sexuality today who had/have the courage to be who you are. I have so much respect for you. And I weep, sometimes literally, for the pain adolescents experience as they realize they’re gay in an often hurtful world. It’s obviously getting better, but it’s still not easy. No child should have to experience this alone, without help, but almost all do.Thanks friends for any thoughts.
So my straight neighbor asked me to get a beer with him..
My neighbor came over the other day and asked if I wanted to go to a bar and get a beer with him on Thursday. I come to find out it's singles night and I'm pretty sure he's totally straight. He talks about hot girls and is single. I've never really talked to him a whole lot but I went with my stepdad to his house while he was outside..cause we just popped over before driving somewhere and he talked about how hot the girls were at this place and that I might like them too or something. I'm not sure if he knows I'm gay, my stepdad thought he told him that I was gay, but I can't be sure there...he is really hot, but should I go just like for someone to hang with , no expectations or should I warn him ahead of time I'm gay or should I not go, what are your thoughts?
Loss of sex drive after losing virginity
Firstly I apologise if this isn't in the correct sub. I lost my virginity almost a week ago and since then my sex drive has gone very low. Has anyone else experienced this?
What would be a good name for a gay nightclub?
I'm a business man and I have the intention of opening a new nightclub with a focus on gay community, however me and my staff are out of ideas for names. What would be a good name for a gay nightclub? Any suggestions? I'd appreciate that.
After 7 months of casually dating, he said he's not ready for a relationship at the moment
It sucks when I meet a guy who I connect with on a deeper level, share the same values and our time together is just fun and great, but he doesn't want things to be serious, even though you act like a couple.He's a very busy guy, sometimes he travels a lot for work and I can see why he says he's not ready for a relationship. We've been hooking up with other men in the meantime, but not really dating anybody else.I told him I'm a person who gives all when I meet someone I connect with and that I expect the same for the other person, but he replied that he can't have anything serious right now because of his career. Maybe in the future, but not now. He wants to stay in the present and let things happen naturally.When I mentioned if I should also date other guys, he said he didn't want to put any rules, and if I find another person it would "suck for him" and that if I decided to not be OK with not having something serious he'd understand, but it would be really sad because he really cares about me. At this point he cried for like 5 seconds.Now, the only way I can accept all of this is if I keep him at arm's length and start dating other guys. To give him less attention. I honestly hate playing games, but is there anything I could do to make him want to commit? Acting less interested, for instance?(He's 35 and I'm 25)
Hey guys, quick question.
I'm a gay male but I am also unsure of my gender. Is that common to question your gender when you identify as LGBT?I'm bisexual in reality but I consider myself gay because I'm mainly into other guys.Thoughts?
Social media
Anyone around 14-15 that is either gay/bisexual want to exchange social media? Sorry for the name it's just an anonymous username i used.
2017. április 24., hétfő
Being in sports is cool
I was on the bus home from a game today with my teammates and some interesting topics came up. They started asking each other questions about how many dollars they'd need to be paid to do certain stuff (general consensus: half a million to suck a guy's dick, a thousand to taste cum, nothing to suck your own dick) and questions about how often we jerked off and what kind of porn we like. Later we all started to feel each other's asses to see who was more toned and that led to grabbing dicks, pretty soon everyone was cracking up and it lasted like the whole drive. So if you've ever wondered if vaguely gay stuff happens on sports teams, it definitely does. But it's not really that sexual, it's just like those are my bros and we joke around and shit. Straight boys are funny 😂😂😂
Probably the greatest moment in the history of equality for all! This bitch Anita Bryant was obviously one of those whores that slept their way to the top only to find God and think that God will forgive their past if they spread their hate on those that are different. She deserved this!
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Fuck this sub, im out in the real world trying to make a differencen
So honestly im just genuinely wondering. Ive seen multiple gay selfies on this sub that didnt get deleted? I post a picture of myself getting beatin up in downtown st paul and i get my post removed because of the rule, no selfies. Why? I think that is absolute bullshit. I guess me getting my ass kicked isnt as sexy as the other selfies ive seen but i did it to make a statement and promote safety in our community in st paul. If youre an administrator to this sub, i think your rules are astoundingly bias and all of you are just a bunch of fucks. Go ahead, ban me.
Dating tips in Utah.
So I'm a 22 year old gay guy who just came out of the closet and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on how to get any dates in the Lehi area? I'm trying online dating apps but those are kinda hit and mostly miss lol, and I'm just looking to expand my options. Any advice is welcome!
I don't know how to feel about this.....
(To preface this, Im a senior in high school getting ready to leave for college.)So I feel like I might be gay or bi as I can't keep myself from paying attention to the male talent in (hetero) porn and have experimented with gay porn before in addition to some other personal reasons. My southern Baptist family has already casted out one of my cousins for being gay and I'm afraid of what coming out would do to my relationship with them. A little personal, but in my family, I am the last remaining male that carries our family name and is still able to "continue the family" if you catch my drift. This makes me feel like I have no choice in the matter. I want my family to thrive and especially to not be disappointed in me, but I also want to be happy. I know I didn't ask any specific questions or ask for advice, but this is supposed to be a safe place and I just felt I needed to type this out. :)
Photos for multimedia project
Hey friends! (mods let me know if this isn't okay)My friend and I are working on his senior project, Heartless, which is a really cool story of modern gay dating, told through a multimedia app.One part is a fake grindr-style app, and we need help getting photos to use with the fake users!What we need from you are shirtless, faceless torso pictures that we can use. Nothing super NSFW, and just an iPhone selfie will work.We love bodies of all types and are looking for contributions from everyone!Feel free to DM me if you have any questions, or just to send your photos my way!Thanks again!Tom (and Josh) from Heartless 💕
I think my friends gay
I think this is the best place to put this.I need help, i think my friend is gay and that makes me pretty awkward to be around him (both from conservative households) i know his parents are super homophobic and fear for his safety if he is gay and comes out to his parents. I don't know what to do.
Too scared to come out but too lonely to be happy
How can i find a guy without coming out not just for hookups but like at least friends with benefits, i need to be cuddled and loved and shit
(X-post r/LGBT) LGBT charities
I am looking to donate to a LGBT charity. There is hardly a LGBT society or place in my city or I would go local with my donation. Besides the Trevor project are there any other amazing LGBT charities I could donate to?
Nervous: Advice?
Hey everyone,I've never been with a guy, but have met one who really knows how to turn me on with pics and words. I want to go for it but there is one thing holding me back.I am terrified of having a messy accident. I play with toys a lot and sometimes it just happens no matter how much I clean beforehand. Hoping to find some tips on what people do to give themselves the confidence that there will be no mess.Do you alter your diet or not eat for a set number of hours beforehand? Do you drink more/less water? Are water enemas very effective? I find using a douche doesn't work very well because they don't reach very deep.Any other advice would be amazing, because I really want to do this. Thanks everyone.
Relationship advice help pleasr
So I have asked for advise before on here and you all have given me a lot of help. Right now I'm really stuck and need some outside perspective. I am struggling with a break up from my ex, who was my first boyfriend and first love ever. We dated from February of 2016 until February of 2017 and broke up just before our one year. The reason we broke up, or so I thought, was because he said I wasnt giving him my all and that I didn't appreciate him. This was confusing to me b.c I know I'm not the best all the time at showing my emotions but I felt like I tried so hard in our relationship because I really love (loved?) him. We also had two separate instances when dating that I received texts from his exs where my boyfriend asked them to hangout and have sex. The first time it happened I didn't believe it and I just wanted to ask him about it. His reaction was anger because he couldn't believe I would think he would do that. The second time was another ex who told me that he was messaging him to hangout but he never did because he knew I was dating him. Now all of this happened with in the last three months of our relationship leading up to the break up. So fast forward to the actual break up. One week into our breakup I received another text from a friend who said my ex reached out to him to get head. Now I know we were broken up but that was just a slap in the face when it happened just a week before. This time I forwarded the messages to my ex and he was overly apologetic and was sorry for everything. He then told me that he was talking to other guys for a week in December and that he felt that I should know. As soon as he told me that it was over pretty much for me because everything I thought was happening was true. The reason for talking to others is because I wasn't giving him the emotional support he needed. That hurt more then just a hook up to me b.c I wish he just told me so I could have figured out how to fix it. My struggle now is that I am still in love with this kid even after all of this. I am still very physically and emotionally attached to him, the only thing is I can't trust him of literally anything. He will contact me occasionally wanting me back and I have declined b.c I'm terrified to bring someone like this back into my life. So what is wrong with me? Why can't I just let go of someone who clearly would put his needs before anyone? Idk it's been over two months and I'm still struggling I just need some type of insight if possible.Thanks
2017. április 23., vasárnap
Am I gay?
I have identified as gay for the passed probably 6 years or so. I am still a virgin but the thought of having sex doesn't really appeal to me. I like watching porn and watching guys have sex, but I don't feel the want to have it myself. I find guys attractive and want a relationship with a guy, and I might be okay with sex in a relationship, but little things like travelling together, and cuddling, and home decorating together get me more excited than the thought of sex. So am I gay or something else?
Gay but hate lgbt movement
Ok so basically im a fairly contrarian gay dude, im a bottom but i love sports and all the manly stuff, but more importantly im pretty right wing and i also am fairly conservative in my views on flaunting secuality and such, you see im feeling that the lgbt communityand its in your face sort of attitude is making it harder for me to accept myself because i just hate what most other gay men would hold near and dear, i also feel like the lgbt movement is making it near impossible for me to come out. I don't want to be associated with them but if i go against it im automatically outcast and left to rot alone, what the hell do i do?
How to move on?
Well first of all, i'm kinda new here; so Hi! I'm going to start this post by asking: is love real?My boyfriend of 8 months just dumped me a few weeks ago, because he wanted to focus on his major (medicine) despite me being "the most important person in his life" and despite everything.We were just fine just a day before breaking up, and suddenly by text he told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship and that he wanted to keep being friends with me till he was ready. At first, I agreed to keep being friends but he was acting like if nothing had happened between us.Three days ago, we stopped talking. I got sick of his attitude and how he always put up an excuse to avoid seeing me to talk about HIS decision. So I just told him that he lost me forever. I feel horrible, I feel like if I screwed it up and I just don't know how to move on and feel better; i'm only 21 years old and I know I have a whole life ahead of me, but is love even real?TL;DR my boyfriend dumped me by text because he wasn't ready for a relationship despite being together for 8 months, he wanted to keep being friends because he was afraid of losing me, and I'm done with him. I feel horrible and I don't know how to cope with all of this.
First time dating a gay guy, need some advice.
I'm a bisexual guy, and I recently met a gay guy on Tinder (long short story, I didn't know I could switch botch men and women, and I got more matches with dudes than girls, we kinda like each other and agreed to go on a date). This is the very first time I go on a date with a dude (and the first date on a very long time). I'm kind of nervous I will do or say something wrong, so I'd appreciate some advices for this date. Thanks ☺️ and sorry for my bad English.
Does it annoy you when people use 'gay' to describe an annoying situation?
For instance, when someone is killed in a game and say "that's fu**ing gay."It really frustrates me because the word doesn't mean that, so it is associating gays with a shitty situation. Do you guys feel the same, or do you just ignore it (I try my best too, but it still gets to me after a while)?
Serious Question
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Who should I hang with if my best friend has no time for me anymore?
My best friend is my sister. We grew up together and essentially did everything together: movies, get food, and stuff. Nowadays she seems to be occupied somewhere else: work, other friends, she's tired etc. I get it she has other friends and stuff, but I always invite her to do stuff and she can't for whatever reason or just doesn't respond via text.I know when you grow up people can grow apart and stuff, but Idk lately I just haven't invited her to do stuff anymore and I could hang with my friends, but she was my main person to kick it with. Idk should I just give her her space and start hanging with other people?
I'm at such a loss... I need help please.
I'm going to try and make a long story short. I have a boyfriend. We've been together for six months. In that short about of time, we've realized that we are meant to be together forever.However, we have problems. Lately we've been fighting a lot. Over, it seems, pretty much anything. We are both 21 and in college.He has a hard time letting go of the past. He's been hurt a lot by different people. And so have I. But he continues to believe that some day I'm not going to care about him or leave him. Even though I assure him I won't, he persists. He also has a hard time owning up to something. I'll bring up something he did (for example, whenever I don't give him enough attention, he'll claim that I don't love him anymore or that I'm a bad boyfriend. He justifies this as "that's just who I am".)There have been many times where he will just make excuses for his behavior instead of owning up to it or admitting that it's wrong. You can see how frustrating that gets.Another small example is that I don't drink. He likes to drink a lot. I don't mind him drinking, but he likes to get really drunk and black out and throw up and be super hung over the next morning. I tell him that maybe he should ease it down and focus on school (he's not an excellent student), but he doesn't because it's "too much fun".He has no problem getting fucked upend drunk in public but he will never hold my hand in public because he doesn't like PDA.I'm having a hard time getting through to him. I don't want to leave him cause I know we are suppose to be together. But I can't handle it anymore. Everyday I cry. Everyday I come home mad at his behavior.I don't know what to do. Please. I need help.TL;DR my boyfriend likes to act immature and childish, pushing me to my limit, but we are going to be together forever. Help.
how to be less shy towards guys
I've always been shy when it comes to people, and it sucks worse when you don't fit the eccentric, outgoing personality everyone thinks gays of to be (and being in college for a year and not being with any guys) (and top it w/ 1.5 years of depression from bullying of my "friends").Anyways, I just want to know what I can do to begin being close & comfortable w/ a guy (even just ones I meet on Grindr lol). Any & all tips would be helpful!!!
New here, and not sure what I am.
Hello everyone, I've decided to take the first step for myself and create a account to admit to myself that I'm "not straight". To give some context, I'm: 16m, a long time lurker, a boyscout, suburban Indiana, having two scientest parents, (one I think would be ok with it, one from a hick background that worries me to the point I stay in the closet (calling people on tv "fags")), a nerd, and pretty lost in life. I have never dated a girl, and have never felt any major attraction, and have to try to become aroused when looking at girls, but can if I try. I have felt sexually attracted to several kids at my school and troop, but cannot see myself "with them".Of my class of 1,200 there are only 3 out guys I know of. To simplify things, my school separates the class into groups of 400, through shitty luck, only 1 out guy is occasionally put into a class with me. Unfourtunately, when we got assigned a project together, I burned some bridges when procrastination became a issue with my group, and he took it as a attack on his sexuality which it was not. (fem guy who chit chatted with girls 24/7 and I asked if he wanted to keep talking or do the project) And I think that among them, I am labeled a homophobe.I am somewhat sure that I will stay closeted until I get midway through college, possibly until medical school (or whatever I decide, and am able to financially fend for myself), and then tell my parents, and if I get a bad response, ghost them. Sorry for the unorganized rant but I decided that now is the time to tell some stranger on the internet.
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Loneliness
I think thats a feeling many of us can relate to.Don't have anyone to talk to, no gay friends or scared of homophobic society.How do you guys cope with it ?
Looking for others to chat with!
I'm 22 and I'm just wanting to meet new people! Always looking for someone to have conversations with and maybe exchange some pics!!
How do I break up?
I have been dating this guy for 2 months (but we have been going out since december). While it has been fun and everything, I think we have both changed a lot since things started. We are both in college and we are both in the closet on what regards to our families (the differece is that I'm a local in my college town while he is from another state, so he can do almost anything without his family finding out, I on the other hand need to ask a lot of permissions). I have never been the romantic type of guy so this is frustrating to him, telling me "I would do anything for you, but I know you wouldn't do the same for me". He has depression and sometimes has complete mood swings. I have tried to be the best boyfriend in the aspects I can and while he tries to support me, he gets frustrated. I am president of the student council, which means I sometimes have a lot of things to do and he feels like I don't pay attention to him (although I do try to balance both things in a way I feel is good enough), he is always telling me that he gives up a lot of things for me and he would like to feel I do the same for him. Last wednesday I tried to break things up after he told me he felt we weren't growing like a couple and stuff, but he cried so much and I felt so bad (because I still like him and because I was afraid he would harm himself) that we got back that same day. However as soon as we got back together, things got back the same way. While I do love him, I know that our relationship is toxic and is hurting both of us. I am sure that I should break up with him, but (since he is my first boyfriend) I don't know how... This is elections week (he is running for student council president) and I don't want to add more stress to him at the moment, but if he loses I don't want to add more stress then... What should I do? I still love him but I can't keep this up.
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