for bottoms

how the hell do bottoms feel no anxiety about sex when they have not had a chance to go clean themselves out? i went to the movies the other day on a date... and afterwards, we went to grab some food... and afterwards, it was getting kinky... and i, luckily, have great bj skills @.@ i didnt feel comfortable after having eaten and it was like, 4 hours after i had cleaned myself out @.@ objective for the night basically failed @.@