Im camp/feminine intolerant. Help me understand why.

So im a 30y old in a stable relationship for 5y, and we both dread camp/feminine guys. We are men not macho in any sence but manly still. Why am i so bothered with this? Am I jealous that they have the courage to live life to the fullest? Or mad that they force there life style and stereotypics on us all? Why behave in a way that attracts attention, is that juvenile? Or am I a coward that hides behind being propper? Please help me bounce some ideas/toughts so I can find the reason for my irrational anxiety and deal with it. I hope I have not offended anyone. Sory about bad English not native plus dyslexic.