Good day gaybros. Just wanted to lay out and my thoughts and ask for your advice and opinions on a guy I've been hanging out with recently, because it's all got a bit confusing for me, we'll call him D.I first met D in a club a few months ago, he recognized me from our course at university and came up and said hey and we talked for a few minutes and said our goodbyes. At this point I hadn't worked out that he was gay yet. A couple weeks later after my boyfriend at the time moved away I saw him again, but he'd had a few more drinks than last time and got pretty flirty, I laughed it off and kinda kept him at arms length in a friendly way, because I didn't want to disrespect my boyfriend at the time by being flirtatious back.So once classes started, I would talk to D a lot more often in class, just as friends and we saw a lot more of each other, the flirtatious behavior kinda continued when alcohol was introduced into the equation but I never let it progress, anyway, we exchanged numbers as friends and that. Shortly after, things went south with my long distance relationship and me and my now ex broke it off. We both saw it coming I guess and it was fairly mutual, so neither me or my ex were particularly tore up about it.Fast forward a few days and D asks me how me and my boyfriend are, and I tell him that we broke up, he gives his apologies and asks if I'm okay, I explain that I'm dealing with it pretty well. Then we both decided to head out together so I could jokingly "drown my sorrows". I guess in retrospect it was pretty obvious what would happen that night. Long story short after many drinks we ended up kissing, and the subsequent two nights out after that we kissed also. The problem was that he would be the first to start flirting / getting all touchy-feely with my when it happened, but I was the one who always had to go in for the kiss every time.To preface this next part, D and I are in the same group for a project in our course, and two friends of mine(call them J & C), who are in a relationship and were having some problems at the time and causing tensions within the group were also in it. So on the third night I think "fuck it" and ask him when he's going to let me take him out on a real date. And his reply was "I want to, I don't think it's a good idea, we don't want to end up like J & C."At the time my thoughts were that that was a fair point, but I'm not the kinda guy to chase after something that has no future so I decided I would just be friends with D.The hard part about this though, is that D is continuing to give me mixed signals since then. We haven't kissed since the night I asked him out on a date, but he texts me out of the blue a lot more, and asks me if I want to make plans with his room mates and stuff, typical friend-stuff. But after all these plans he insists that I stay in his house, in his bed instead of going to my own house a few streets over on campus. The first time it happened I was thinking he wanted to fool around or something, but each time I've stayed in his bed, nothing happens, not even some light spooning, but he's always so insistent I stay.I just find it odd when I live around the corner, and that with me he was(is maybe?) so unwilling to initiate anything, whereas when we were just friends he had no problem initiating a kiss with others? He's only been out a month or two before I met him and is still new to seeing guys I guess, so he may be a little awkward, but that just makes me want to initiate anything even less because I don't want to pressure him, or maybe he just really isn't into me and I'm over thinking it?TL;DR : Asked a guy on a date and he turned me down, but continues hot and cold flirting behavior when I'm trying to be friends with him after.
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