Fiancé shoved me to the ground

I'm looking for advice on what just happened this morning as Im not sure what to think.My fiancé and I got into an argument. It started out as a tense talk about our sex life, but escalated after he said something rude and I tried to call him out on it. He covered his ears and refused to listen to anything I was saying. So I said "Fuck you" and walked away. I continued getting ready, and he came to me and told me to "stop behaving that way" so we could resolve our argument. This annoyed me because he was the one who said something rude, then covered his ears when I pointed it out.So I made it clear I was still mad and didn't want to talk to him now. I just wanted to get ready and leave for work. He got mad at this, and started yelling. He put his mouth right next to my ear and yelled at the top of his lungs, it was so loud my ears were ringing afterwards. He trapped me in our bathroom and wouldn't let me leave, blocking the exit with his body, and shoving me backwards every time I tried to get by. The more I tried to leave the angrier he got and kept yelling. He was yelling so close to my face that he was spraying me with spit.I kept trying to leave and he kept pushing me back. Eventually he got more aggressive and started shoving me harder, and then he shoved me to the ground.He seemed to realize that he took it too far, and tried to help me up, but I was too upset and refused his help. He stayed angry though and wouldn't let me leave the room for awhile. Eventually I convinced him that he was making things worse by not letting me leave. He let me leave the room to finish getting ready.But when I was leaving for work, he took my laptop hostage and wouldn't give it to me in an effort to keep me from leaving the house. Again I had to convince him to give it to me, and that holding it (and me) hostage was not ok.Now Im at work trying to process what happened and Im not sure how to feel. We have been together for 3 years, I love him very much, and for the most part he is an exceptional partner. I know violence is never okay, but I wonder if it's not as bad as a man treating a woman this way because we are both men (though I am substantially smaller than him). Also this is NOT the norm for us.Unfortunately couples counseling is not an option at this point. Though possibly in the future.