2017. december 31., vasárnap
Am I gay please help
So recently I’ve been debating whether I’m gay or not. I’ve been dating this girl for 11 months and I love her a lot and one time when we were doing sexual stuff (this was our second time that night) I got soft while doing stuff. She jokingly said what if you’re gay and I’ve been debating it a lot now. Whenever I see a attractive guy I’m like wow he’s hot I wouldn’t want to do anything sexual but I think he’s hot and I’m keep having these thoughts about if I’m gay or not and ever since I’ve been thinking this whenever I see a attractive girl I don’t think she’s hot or something as usual I just think she’s prettty but if I see a attractive guy I’m like he’s hot. I’m not sure right now I’m in need of some help
What do gay guys think of gay trans guys?
Hello all! My first post here. I'm a bisexual, gay leaning trans guy. I've been on hormones since I was 19 (I'm 29 now) and had surgery that same year. I look like every other guy in the world at this point. I'm a little on the shorter side at 5'5" but still blend into society as a "regular" guy. I've had an interesting journey over the past decade as far as dating or hooking up. The first guy I was ever with sexually as a guy myself was completely gay and only ever been with other men. He was intrigued by my special anatomy (never had the bottom surgery) and really wanted to have sex with me. He had trouble staying hard and said that while his brain really wanted to have sex with me his body wouldn't agree. We tried having sex again a month later and he was able to do it. The second guy I was with was also gay and had only ever been with men. He loved that I didn't have a dick and I had an amazing time with him. I took a break from guys for a few years after that while I had a steady girlfriend. 5 years later (3 years ago) I went back into the dating pool and joined Grindr and Scruff. Most of the guys that talk to me are bisexual. I haven't found a guy since the earlier years that doesn't identify as gay. Did I just stumble upon a few gems early on? I don't need to be with a gay guy, I'm just curious what most of you think. I'm only dating guys these days and I can see why I attract bisexuals. Just curious as to what you all think!
Is gay wrong
Ever since I was a kid I was interested in other boys. But every time I put something up my butt I get fucking welted by my dads belt. It really hurts But I like it, ever since he started doing that(around 9 ;)) I've slowly started to like him more than a dad and more of a lover. My moms dead so it's ok. And tonight I'm gonna try to stick my four inch ten year old meaty cock in his ass. I'll tell you how this goes tomorrow, love y'all. edit:he put his shotgun up my ass, it worked 😊😊😊
My Experiment
So I was curious. I'm str8. I went on Craigslist, found another guy willing to experiment. Texted him for a while, found a discreet location, awaited his arrival.Fucking Fat Albert gets out. This dude looks just like him. And he smelled like piss. He gets in my car, asks me to pull out my dick. I've immediately fucking gone flaccid, I'm not comfortable with this man in my car. But I don't want to be rude and let my long wait go to waste, so I let him. It was awful head.He stops, I watch porn for 10 GODDAMNED MINUTES, and he proceeds to go on and suck it. I don't know how, but I faked an orgasm during a blowjob. I just wanted him out of my car. And off my dick. It worked, and I've never driven out of a parking lot so fast in my life.I think I'm traumatized. I'm never using Craigslist again.
Do you ever think "What are the chances that I am gay"?
Especially me, being a gay, autistic, mixed-race person.
How to know if you are gay?
I'm only 14 but I'm really unsure about my sexuality all my life I've been attracted to girls but a few years ago someone came into my life (who is a boy the same age as me) and I love him. He is the only boy I've ever even liked in my life but I just love him. He is my best friend and knows that I love him but I still feel attracted to girls. Please help!!
Hormonal
I go through phases where I become very hormonal or something and I feel like I need a man literally like water. I had this dream last night about a guy I barely know and we were cuddling in bed and we were all over each other. The dream felt so real and I woke up smiling. I haven't had sex in a year...and deep down I don't want to just hookup with men. It would have to be something within a relationship. But when these spells come over me it feels like the most intense feeling in the world.
Am I gay?
Even though I might be younger than the average user on this subreddit I'm still wondering if I'm gay. I've always thought that being gay was something cool and because of where I live I've been able to speak my mind. When I was around 10 years old I was starting to wonder if I was gay and started privately wishing for it. I would like hope I was gay for no real reason at all. Now I think I'm gay or maybe bi. I'm still wondering if I only was convinced by my own wishes or my wishes was just me telling myself I'm homosexual.
My ex more or less said he still loves me but
Not to sure what im looking for with this post, maybe just some wise words or just to get it down to reflect myself but anyhow, here it goes.Long story short, me (27) and my ex (23) broke up in febuary after a 2-3long relationship (it was my first gay relationship). It was some sort of mutual breakup so we have still remainwd friends after it and noone have any hard feelings towards eachother. We still talk from time to time and hang out once in a while, as friends.I still felt that if i would have the opportonity i would want to try again, with the knowlage we now got we might be able to not do same misstakes that led to the breakup.I told this to him and after that never really tought much about it, instead trying to move on as i cant sit and wait. But a couple of daya ago we talked on phone and he more or less said he still loved me as much as he did before, but he didnt wanna try again cus he is afraid we will just get into same old habits. Wich im also afraid of but i still feel like trying again.Im just not really sure what to do. I want to tell him and do a bunch of stuff but i feel like that would make me that annoying ex that wont let go, as i rather have him as a close friend then not having any contact at all with him. As we both has been/still is in some wat suffering from depression on and off and we have been quite good supportive people to eschother about it.I hope something i wrote is understandable, just trying to get it all out of my head. Now its new years eve and im gonna hope for a good 2018. Maybe i should just try and ger him out for a dinner/cinema and do more stuff together? (His biggest problem with me was that i didnt show him enough passion, and i do agree with him there, i was real bad at that)
Break Up
I'm 21 and only recently accepted my gayness a couple years ago. Long story short 8 months ago I found a guy in my area like me. Somewhat of an outcast, fellow furry, 19 so young but I didn't care. We were happy until I grew and changed. Your 20's are weird like that. And I realized that deep down I wasn't happy with him. It was so damn hard to break up with him. I have anxiety and what causes it the most for me is letting people down so you can imagine how the emotional implications of dumping someone really pulled my heart strings. It's 9am here and I did it last night. It went fairly smooth but even though I wasn't happy I still love him. It was so damn hard and I'm so damn sad. But it had to happen... idek why in making this post but I'm just sad.
Which gay porn stars are your top 5 favorite?
I just want to know who are your favorite. Mine are : 1. Dirk Caber 2. Derek Bolt 3. Wesley Woods 4. Tim Kruger 5. Christian MatthewI love beefy guy. Honestly, I want to put Carter Dane in this list as well but he has no new scene in this year so I assume he is already retired. That's sad.So who are yours?
2017
Hey guys. I am not usually the type of person that likes to summarise his year and so on, so I will just be quick and honest. I want to thank you all... 2017 has been one of the toughest years in my life so far and I can definitely say that if it weren't for your help, love, support, advice I wouldn't be here. So I want to say a big THANK YOU to all of you, my dear friends, my family. I hope that you manage to achieve everything that you desire for this new year and to overcome every obstacle that comes your way! I love you!
Free Gay Illustrations. Send me your poems to illustrate.
I'm a very competent artist and just feel like offering my services to see what might happen. Msg me your poems or other gay related written material and see what i come up with! I'll republish the result only with your permission and full credit to you (or remain anonymous if you'd wish).
Making friends in clubs?
I don’t have any gay friends, and my straight friends only go to straight clubs (I’ve tagged along to but they’re not my thing) so I was going to spend New Year home alone. I’m now thinking of going to a gay club alone... The idea gives me anxiety (what if I’m just stood in the corner and no one talks to me and I look stupid?) but hey it’s probably better than sitting at home, and one of my NY resolutions is to get out of my comfort zone! Anyway, how can I make friends in gay clubs? Is there any point in even going? Will I look stupid being alone? I’m a girl, in London and thinking of G-A-Y or Heaven if that helps
Am I bisexual?
This is a two-part question.First, I am a 21 year old guy and unquestionably heterosexual. I have no desire to pursue intimate relationships with other men and honestly only ever consider it when I'm horny. I masturbate to gay porn sometimes but I usually feel guilty afterwards and not because of social conditioning but because it feels inauthentic to who I am.However, when I am horny, I do really get off to it and enjoy it. I fantasize quite a bit about gay sex and sometimes do really consider exploring that, but then the feeling goes away and I think about how it's not really something I want, and I'd rather not discover I'm not into it while in the process of experiencing it, you feel?The second part of this question is that I am constantly worried that people assume I am gay because I haven't had a relationship with a woman, and used to do things more typically associated with the gay community, such as musical theatre. Two of my all time closest friends were also gay. I have also been known to be highly sensitive and artistic, and just unlike typical guys my age or even my brother and cousins.Again, I really don't have an issue with that itself, and I feel like if I was actually gay I'd be open about it, but it's more the fact that people are assuming something that is inaccurate and it upsets me.The weird thing about that is it's almost like a negative feedback loop. I feel like if I have to keep saying in my head that I'm straight, that's proof that I'm not.Has anyone else experienced a similar type situation? Is it possible that my frustration with heterosexual relationships is the sole factor influencing this? This isn't something new, and I've actually had weird sexual preferences going back to since I was a little kid.
2017. december 30., szombat
I'm sure to have a virus soon. Newcomer.
I have so much porn bookmarked on my computer, if my family saw my computer...I'd be dead.
Messaging
So i made this account because I can stop worrying and hopefully you guys can settle my mind a bit. Ive been texting a guy for a few weeks now, we've gone on two dates and hit it off great. Theres some distance between us, about an hour drive and i dont have a car so I rely on him for the transportation. We arent dating yet but I plan on asking him within the next week. Heres the problem in my head, within the past few days ill message him and get no response. He then texts later at night and we talk back and forth for about 30 mins but then he just goes silent. Is there a reason i should be worried about this or should i just assume he's busy? I would tell him goodnight and usually get a response but nothing in the past few days. When we do message each other, hes the sweetest thing and calls me the nicest names ever. Hes already so supportive of me even though we arent together. My mind loves to assume the worst situation possible and i always think that the person im talking to will just throw me away so I'd like to see if im just over-reacting like usual. Thanks guys! .^
Been feeling very lonely and depressed lately and looking for "something real."
Aloha.For the past couple of months, the craving for "real love" from someone who truly cares about me has taken the best of me. I'm 20 years young and have never been in a real relationship, nor have I ever had loving physical contact from anyone.I won't rule out my deep depression as a reason for that. These days however it just pains me more and more to read successful stories or see nice images. Does anybody else feel like this? How do you get to know people and how is it like to fall in love and find the right one?I'm out and very open about it. My family knows about it, half my class knows about it and everyone is cool with it. So I don't have trouble expressing myself. I just cannot seem to be loved by anybody. Is it just bad luck on my side? That nobody I meet is also gay and into me?I realize this post might come off as very ridiculous and sad, but I don't really know where to cling to. I don't like dating websites, although I'm fine with long distance, and I'm very socially anxious, which makes things even harder for me IRL. I'm just a bit helpless and need a shoulder to lean on, some friends, since I got none of those, either.
Newcomer
Heyo I honestly found this subred and thought eh screw it im gay so why don’t I make some posts. I am out to my friends and my brother. At the time of writing this i have a Bf he is great and well im not but i like HOI and Weezer i talk about alot. But yeah hi im probably gonna lurk more then post
why, as a gay guy, do I only like strait boys!
so there's this guy at my school and I love him but he just broke up with his girl friend because he liked another girl and he always asked me for advice, this. is. torcher! I don't want to kill our friend ship by trying to see if maybe there was some possibility he is bi. I've considered becoming trans for him but I know that wouldn't do anything as he would know it was me so what do I do? I would love advice, and just for reference I'm only 14 and he's only 15.
Heres canon proof that squidward bottoms.
https://twitter.com/bruncbucciarati/status/946952289943805952
Gay sex advice?
To put it bluntly, I just plain am interested in knowing some of the finer points of being a good partner during gay sex, both as a top and a bottom (I'm ambidextrous, lol). Does anyone know where I can look for detailed information on doing so- maybe books, articles, subreddits?
Lonely
Any advice on how to meet other gay people? My age (13) would be best but I’d be happy to just talk live to any aged gay person. I live in the suburbs and dint drive, but I can take the bus places.
Pedophilia in the queer community
Hello,I just wanted to share my thoughts and experiences with the topic of pedophilia within the queer community, as this seems rampant especially within the gay community. I understand that paedophilic interactions/harassment will occur irrespective of whether it's within the gay community, straight community or whether it's a boy or a girl who is essentially the victim, however it seems as though it is commonplace within the gay community, at least from my experiences. It seems as though gay porn fetishizes pedophilia with a specific genre being set up to facilitate it, as is with the whole 'daddy' porn that's distributed on every porn site. This is equivalent to the straight porn 'MILF' kink that I also grew up to view. In addition to this, it seems as though gay male predators specifically prey upon minors with the whole fetishized daddy-son relationship that I grew up to be familiar with mainly by watching gay porn, and entice them with that idea of a fulfilling daddy-son relationship when the age gap between the two partners is above 20+ years thus the minor cannot properly consent as they are unaware of the concept of consent and what it actually entails. It seems as though pedophiles are out there in the open and explicit in their doings nowadays, even more so in the gay community since the whole salacious connotation surrounds the gay community in most of the world, even nowadays. With the advent of technology, the internet and specially gay-geared apps like 'Grindr' and 'Hornet,' pedophiles have easy access to an array of virgin gay teens that are new to the discovery of their sexuality and capitalize on this newfound curiosity and thus engage in sexual acts/relations with them.Once again, paedophilic interactions are heinous, horrific crimes that should be punished accordingly and my thoughts are aimed at those who target teens (11-16 year olds) who are unaware of the implications of their sexuality and how it could negatively affect their mental and/or physical health. These are just my thoughts and my thoughts alone and they are not necessarily facts nor should they be viewed as such. I am just addressing them since I've seen this to be rampant throughout my adolescence and no one, at least no one that I've seen, has properly addressed it to be pedophilia as such.
My closeted friend
Hey, this is my first ever post on Reddit, so sorry if I make some stupid mistake(s). This post is really long, I realise that, but I would really appreciate it if you took a few minutes out of your day to read it. Thanks.I think some background information about me might provide some context for this post. So here goes, I'm a straight male. I was raised religious, but I'm not anymore, and the religious oppression of gays is what made me start asking questions about my faith and retreating from it. I haven't told my family that I'm non religious, so in some ways I can relate to being a closeted gay, though I realise the obvious differences between my situation and one of a closeted gay person. But you can see how this is a topic near and dear to my heart.So, finally getting to the main point of this post, I have a friend who I strongly believe to be bisexual. We'll call her Sarah, but that isn't her real name.A long time ago, I overheard Sarah talking to a friend of hers, and of mine. We'll call her Julia. They were saying something about a secret, and of course I was curious about what it was. They refused to tell me, but I heard something about them messaging each other about it.Alright, this is the part of this story which I regret. I swear I regret it, and I wish I hadn't done it. Me and Sarah are good friends, so we know each other's phone passwords. Me, Sarah, Julia, and a few others were out at an amusement park, and everyone went on a ride except for me. They all left their bags with me, so nothing would be stolen. I looked on Sarah's phone at her messaging history with Julia, and of course I found the secret. The conversation went a little something like this:Phone call Julia: So, you're bi? Julia: Who knows?Sarah ignored those questions, as I assume they talked about it on the phone call maybe. A different conversation started after that.I know I shouldn't have looked on her phone, but I couldn't just forget what I knew. So I made a plan. Later that day I took Sarah's phone, playfully, and in front of her opened it and went into her conversation with Julia. She took the phone away from me at that point after exclaiming to Julia "He's going into our conversation!" with a panic-stricken expression, and a knowing look passed between them. My plan worked, she saw me look at her conversation without seeming like I had looked at her phone while she was on the ride. It made me seem like I stumbled onto it without trying to, and like I wasn't a creep. Sarah still didn't think I saw the secret, but she now knew it was a possibility.After we all went home I texted Julia that I knew the secret and that I had to tell Sarah, it was only right. At first Julia denied it, but eventually she admitted that I was correct. She didn't want me to tell Sarah I knew, but eventually agreed that I probably had to. It was late and I didn't want Sarah to stay up worried about it, so I waited to text her about it until tomorrow.Ironically, I texted her about it on the way to church. And her response almost broke my heart. She said, and I quote, I still have the text, "No there is nothing I was just talking about random stuff". And then, the next text was a semi incoherent dismissive statement that it was a girl thing and that they were just talking about random things. I responded with "Oh ok" because I could tell I was making her uncomfortable. But it doesn't add up. Everything else clearly points to her being bi, Julia admitting that I was correct, the quite clear text from Julia to Sarah that blatantly states that she is bi.So I just don't know what to do. I know coming out, even to just a few people is very hard. I get that. But I've always been very supportive of gays, and she knows that. I just wish she felt comfortable enough to come out to me, especially when pushed like that.I just don't know what to do anymore, it's hard to support someone when they won't let me.TL;DR: I am very confident that my close friend is bisexual, but when I told her that it's ok and I support her and I won't tell anybody, she denies it. What should I do?
I’m sick of it
I’m writing this drunk but it’s something that I’ve needed to get off my chest/to tell someone who will listen.I’m sick of it all. I’m sick of lying to people. I’m sick of being uncomfortable when people talk to me about relationships and sex and feeling like I’m dodging bullets. I’m sick of feeling like I’m not up to par with other gay men. I’m sick of feeling out of place with my other friends. I’m sick of having no confidence in finding a relationship. I’m just sick of everything. It’s draining me, I’m tired.Sorry but my drunk ass just needed to get this out somewhere in hopes maybe someone will understand. /endrant
I've considered myself a straight man my entire life, until tonight.
I can't stop thinking about it. My wife got a new bull that we were trying out tonight (possibly the bull we're going to use for New Years?).So he undresses. I'm in the corner in my chastity cage, and he calls me over to prep him while my wife is fondling herself.Well when he pulled his underwear down and put his cock in front of my face.... MMM. All I can say is his BBC is ABSOLUTELY divine. I mean, this BBC is absolutely SUCCULENT. Me and my wife have always worshiped and revered the BBC, but this BBC is one that had my little nuts quaking inside of my cage. I have a long, sharp punishment pin locked into my Queen's Keep and I'm getting hard just writing about this BBC right now. Ouch!!Anyway, just wanted to share! Hope everyone had a great year!!!!
2017. december 29., péntek
Attention: User of Lip Balm - Asking for your feedback!
Happy Holidays!After suffering from years of using very crappy lip care products that smell and taste like the chemicals it is laced with, I've had enough! I am attempting to create a 100% vegan and organic lip balm that appeals to both genders. Yes, guys - I'm talking to you; you deserve nice, unchapped lips as well!I'm sure I'm not the only one that face this issue, especially during the winter season, so I am asking for your input to help me create something that you will also enjoy. Please take 1 minute to complete this easy survey:http://ift.tt/2ljmE87 you for your time and attention! Hope you have an awesome 2018!
Come join our Lesbian (WLW) Server :D
Our community!is dedicated to all lesbians (or others identifying within the feminine spectrum; cis, trans or non-binary), who are attracted to others within the feminine spectrum!Join our mature community to seek advice and support, or just chill out with like-minded people. This server has plenty to offer. Hope you'll help our family grow, and that I'll see you there soon :3https://discord.gg/zUYR4MpPS: WLF = Women who Love Women.
Online relationship maybe?
I am a 14 year old looking for a fun chat to cure the ongoing boredom I am experiencing that is slowly killing and enervating me. I might also be looking to possibly start a relationship, who knows? Anyways if you do want to chat hmu on the pms, there is no age limit to chat with me, but if you want to start a relationship (maybe idk) the age I would prefer is like 17 to something that is not too old to fill the ambiance with awkwardness (but I do like older men). One last thing I would like to mention, please no nudes and I would favor conversing with someone rather intelligent to provide me with wisdom.
How to deal with jealousy?
I'm in love with my roommate and he knows it, he tries to be understanding. I don't feel jealous at all when he goes somewhere to have sex only when he brings someone home. I can't control it, I get overwhelmed and I don't like the feeling. I can't move out, no money, stuck for at least 4 months.I try to go out when he brings someone but I don't have much money and I need money for transit or eating out. I don't want to date anyone for now. Any ideas how to deal with jealousy?
Where/how to get a sensual gay massage NYC (Possibly NSFW)
I really hope this doesn’t come across as dumb but I’m slowly coming out of the closet and I was thinking that I would like to have a sensual gay massage to kind of break the ice for me. I’ve never been touched by a man that way but it has always turned me on. Every time I’ve gotten a regular massage, I’ve always asked for a guy using the excuse that men are stronger. I would love to get a massage from a guy and end it with either a great hand job or blow job (both)?Where is a good place to look for one in NYC area? Not Craigslist.
Advice on boyfriend's newly outed lesbian daughter being excluded from sleepovers with other girls...
Advice for both the grown-ups in this 11yo's life, and also for her. We did expect some parents not to want her to do sleepovers with their children anymore, but tonight a long-time friend said he wouldn't want a straight boy having a sleepover with his daughters, and probably same for her, because sex stuff might happen with the girls. I'm pretty upset over it, the child doesn't know this came up, and I'm not even sure how I can tell her dad without ruining the friendship between the families. What would you do? Kill 'em with kindness? What can I do to help her be secure with her emerging choices? I don't think she ought to be somehow suspect, excluded, or shamed in any way just for owning her own preferences. Cross-posted on /r/TwoXChromosomes/ for a variety of perspectives... And boy, is there some variety... Any advice for us or for her?
Update on the older guy, married, coming out, scared
I posted a few days ago about my finally deciding to come out. Thought I’d give an update:I went to the LGBT Community Center on 13th Street in Manhattan. Everyone there was so nice. I felt so comfortable. I met with a nice counselor who asked me a bunch of questions. They are supposed to contact me again about group therapy and individual counseling.I reached out to someone I know who is gay and we’re supposed to get together to discuss things next week. Trying to build a support network.I’m anxious all the time. I want to get the ball rolling but I really can’t until I get the therapy going. I cannot come out to my wife alone. The things she will say will be truly wounding. I know in the end she’ll come around but it will take time. Initially she’s likely to go ballistic.My 21 year daughter suspects something is up with me. She’s sensitive like I am (picks up people’s moods). I told her that I have start therapy and deal with some things.Just thought I’d update my situation if for no other reason than it relaxes me a bit.
Not sure if anybody’s thought of this before, but are vegan guys (or ladies) who swallow still vegan?
Is my question NSFW, like at all?
How do you guys meet people?
This is more of a general question out of curiosity.I am not the type to invest heavily in dating, but I struggle with meeting new guys. I have some apps, and that’s generally how I meet people. I’ve met a few people out at bars before, but I don’t prefer it.My question for you guys is simply, what methods do you have for meeting new guys or girls? Do you use apps like me, go to bars, meet through friends, etc.? Just curious!
Question about gay weddings?
What do two guys do for their groomsmen? Me and my partner both have 4 or 5 guys we want in our parties, but did you guys think it looked weird to have all men up there (all straight, btw)? do you think guys would feel weird walking down an aisle with a guy they didn't know?
Fake Grindr profiles
Hey,Today I received a Grindr message from a guy who really seemed to be very decent and my type in general. His Grindr pictures looked pretty real and everything sounded legit at first.We moved to continue chatting on Whatsapp and I started to become suspicious at first when I saw his Whatsapp profile picture which wasn’t clear or somehow related. And in general as we continued chatting I noticed some things he said which made no sense to me... In general I recognize fake people very quickly during conversations when you just easily try to connect things together.Eventually I decided to ask him for a selfie and obviously first thing he did was blocking me.Now I have always been asking myself why people do that? Why do they put so much effort in creating fake profiles? What benefits are they getting from doing that besides wasting their time?🤦🏻♂️Thanks,
Texas
Hey guys, I have lived in Arizona all 19 years I’ve been alive but I’m beginning there is nothing here for me. My uncle lives right outside of Dallas, Texas and he’s mentioned to me that if I ever feel the need I can move out there with him. I’ve honestly been thinking about it. I never imagined I would move to Texas due to all of the guns and stuff like that. But I feel like it would be better in a sense. Do any of you live around Dallas or in Dallas, and if so what are your opinions?
Rock and a hard place
I went over to my ex's today, he fucked me, we talked a bit, I left, this wasn't the first time since our breakup either. One of us is horny, so we hook up. I don't have feelings for him, and I think he knows this, but I feel like he may still have feelings for me. I want to move on, but there aren't many options for me here, and the sex is amazing. I really don't want to stop fucking, but I don't want to string him along while feeling like I can't get over him. Do I cut him off, stop talking/fucking and force myself to move on, or should I keep doing shat I'm doing until someone else comes into my life. I had another relationship inbetween him and now, and I don't hit up that guy... I don't know what to do...
newly come out as gay
Hello my name is joe and I’m 20 years old and I’m from PA and I recently came out of the closet to some of my closest friends and honestly it’s been hard because I keep finding the constant battle of being gay or straight in my life I feel like I say I’m gay but I act straight and honestly based on the feelings I have I am gay and I’m proud of it but I see all these guys that are gay and skinny and there’s me the fat gay guy that no one likes and it really upsets me
Anyone else find people they know in grindr?
I just found a guy who bullied me for years today. It's kind of weird (also calls himself a nice guy but eh, maybe he's changed?).I found 2 of my neighbours on grindr from different houses.And I found a couple friends on there too.
What are your thoughts about this TED talk?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Khn_z9FPmU&feature=share
Awkward conversation advice
I'm looking for advice on how to breach the subject of condom size with my fwb. He's a great guy and great in bed, but he is a bit on the thin side, which is perfect for me. However, the condoms he uses are too wide.He always has trouble getting enough sensation to finish, and they're very loose on him, to the point where they could accidentally slide off. I'd rather not have to go spelunking for a loose condom if I can help it.I know there are slim fit condoms that would probably fit better and make things more enjoyable for both of us, but I don't know how to suggest that to him. I'm worried he might take it the wrong way.
My unrequited love
I was turning inside out. I could hardly breathe, I was in a prison of anxiety, and there was no breaking out. The entire week I couldn’t sleep or eat properly. I yearned for him, I was bruised in his absence and every passing moment without him was like added salt to the open wound. I woke up in the middle of the night after having had a dream about him. I had been having nightmares involving him all week, sometimes it was me looking for him in a maze, and sometimes it was me plucking out shards of glass from all over my body. This particular dream, he had locked himself in a room, and I wasn’t allowed in.He had promised to text, but that text never came. I needed to see him, I needed to feel him. In my hopeless desperation and weakness for him, I invited myself over. He had been painting his house and I had offered to lend a hand, I would have taken any pretense just to get a glimpse of him. The couches were moved to the center of the room. I finally had him next to me; I finally had his hand in mine. For me, his embrace was as natural and pure as it could get, anything else with anyone else couldn’t even compare. I wanted to be let in. I wanted to peek into his world. So I asked questions; but his answers always followed long, painful pauses and struggles of finding the least hurtful words. I demanded honesty. He had been in two previous relationships, both with women. A 4-year long one with Amy with whom he had almost gotten married and a 2-year long with Christine that didn’t quite work out. He had been single for over 2 years.Me: Trying to gauge where you are with us, what do you feel about us?Him: I am not ready/looking for a relationship, I do like hanging out with you.Me: You’re not looking for a relationship, with a man, or a woman, or either?Him: I have been thinking a lot about this. Earlier this year I fooled around with a guy, a friend of a friend, it wasn’t dating (like us); it was just physical; we would do things that’d be the end of it. It doesn’t feel right for me (dating a guy) and that’s not fair to you. I don’t feel the way I should.I embraced him, it was the rightest thing I’d ever experienced; how could he think it didn’t feel right? How could I possibly be the only person for whom every single physical touch meant our souls were touching?Me: This feels real to me, do you not feel anything? May be you are not allowing yourself to. I am also torn. Is it unfair to you if I insert myself when really you need your space and are questioning and trying to figure yourself out?Perhaps I was in denial, may be even selfish. I wanted him to feel the same thing I did. But the reality was dawning on me. I asked for a glass of water.I quickly reorganized the couch so we could lay there. That’s really all I had longed for all week, to be in his embrace.Me: The first few months when you dated Amy, how did you feel?Him: I wanted to be with her all the time.Me: You don’t feel like that about me, do you?Long, painful pause, he struggled to find words again.Me: But you can’t compare; each interaction is unique in its own way.Him: Yes, you’re totally right, I shouldn’t compare. But I just don’t feel the way I should.Me: We’ve only been hanging out for a month; you can’t expect to feel a certain way in just a month!Long pause again. I couldn’t stop embracing him. Holding him in my arms was feeding my soul. At that moment it was more important than the most basic of human needs like food and shelter. In fact, all week I had craved that more than anything else.Me: Please let me in. I want to be here for you. Who knows what’ll happen, worse we’ll spend some more time and nothing comes of it we’ll just move on, be friends and look back in our time as fond memories. Or, we’ll fall in love. (At this point, he was taken aback, I shouldn’t have mentioned the word love; it’s a scary one).Him: Yeah, I do want to keep hanging out. I like you as a person.“I like you as a person”, really? I had held my tongue until then. Enough was enough. I had already given myself up. I had displaced myself with him as the center of my universe. He meant the world to me. I reached in for a kiss, he stiffened his lips. It was the ultimate cruelty.Me: So when do you want to hang out next?We talked logistics. I was going away for New Year’s weekend and was transitioning to a new schedule at work. He had plans for the weekend. He really made no effort to make time.Me: At first you texted me quite often. You were the one who messaged me on linked in, gave me your phone number. You initiated us to hang out. But lately, it has been only me. Am I right in feeling that way?Him: Yes, you’re right, I haven’t really been initiating. You seem to be really into me, and….(long pause to find the right words)…that freaked me out.Me: I feel like I’m just a fill-in for your empty time slots, you make no attempt or effort to see me, do you?My alarm went off; it was time for me to go to work. I got up, put on my jacket and shoes. He walked me to the door and gave me a hug.Him: I don’t want this to be the last time we hang out.Me: Then act like it.After a week of utter desperation there was a tiny flame of empowerment as I drove to work. We are prisoners of our own devices; his was impermeable. I had taken all my guard off, I had helplessly become vulnerable. But I believe vulnerabilities are empowering, perhaps that’s why I am deciding to wear mine as armor. The dwarf from Game of Thrones has a point. This will pass, I hope for my own sake.I come to the office and it’s a mausoleum. His ghost is everywhere; within me and in the cube next to me. For almost a year we used to see each other every morning. We would exchange hellos and smiles. It would have been some story to tell. I can’t seem to escape him.My friend saw the exasperation in me as I walked in the office, “Are you Ok?” He asked. For a second I was in my own head, but I looked up at his face and saw it covered in rashes. “Are you Ok?” I asked. I made fun of him for being a Vietnamese-Australian dude allergic to shrimp. I made fun of myself. That's all I can do now.
Man I feel like my brain is working overdrive rn
Hey guys, for anonymity's sake I don't wanna give out my real age (I'll tell you I'm in my later years of highschool) but I'm a dude, and I've always been very comfortable with my sexuality. I like girls. I know I like girls, that's an indisputable fact right there that I've known since my childhood.But over the past month things have gotten... weird.The first time I noticed it was in the changing rooms. I'm on the school's basketball team and after practise one day, I found myself checking out the other guys' abs. (wait, that wasn't even the first time, it's possible I could've been doing it before but I wasn't really paying attention to myself.)Anyway, I shrugged it off, but it only went downhill from there. My sexual attraction to men has steadily been climbing, after a game last week I got an erection in the change rooms and tried to hide it, embarrassing as fuck.This attraction isn't just every so often, like when theres half naked guys around. I've found myself gazing at guys in public and this has even stemmed into my sexual fantasies.This is confusing as fuck, my brain is stressed enough, what with school work (thank the lord for summer holidays!), but with this, it's hard to explain. I feel a sense of shame and also hopelessness, I can't do anything to control it. Lord knows what would happen if my friends and family found out about this.I don't know. Sorry for ranting guys, and sorry for the possibly messed up formatting of this post.
2017. december 28., csütörtök
FWB just told me they found someone and are currently starting a relationship. Am sad, wut do?
So this guy I have been in a friends with benefits relationship since the beginning of September just told me on Monday that he was "seeing someone so ya.." in that exact way, hes not a very enthusiastic texter but I only replied "Ok" he hit me up 8 days before that asking to come over to fuck but I had to work in the morning so I said another day which he was fine with. Im so distraught about this and I didn't think I would be but he was so nice and cuddley, very romantic, also everything I like in a guy physically. We talked a lot he has a great personality, the guy hes dating he only started talking to 3 weeks ago. The part that fucked me up the most was that when I asked if we could still be friends he said of course, then said "Im just saying im in a relationship now and I don't cheat when I'm committed" which makes sense but the next text after said "If things don't work out you'll be my first call." I don't want to be some piece of ass for him but I don't know how he even feels about me so basically i'm asking for advice on what I should do, I think I like him but I fear rejection and I don't want to make things awkward or end things as a friend because of my jealousy... wut do reddit :( :( :(
Mini rant
Aint it some bullshit when somebody leaves you on delivered and doesn't respond or block, like either or are cool with me, just not being indefinitly in the land of delivered. Rant over.
Need to get out on Sundays, don't know what to do
I'm in love with my roommate and he knows it, he tries to be understanding and all but he has his needs. I don't get jealous when he goes out and has sex. I get really jealous only when he brings partners home. He has his own room but being in the same house is intolerable. So I leave the house and just wonder around a mall etc but don't have much money and it's usually a Sunday. Don't have many friends, don't want to date anyone.My ideas for now: (1) Volunteer (2) Work on Sundays? (3) Stay in my room, watch movies and drink beer.Any other ideas?
I have Borderline Personality Disorder
IntroI wanted to share this, because I haven't been truthful with you guys at all. The charade is up, and I have to stop bullshitting.I wouldn't feel comfortable or happy if I didn't do this. Now is the right time. I feel I owe it to myself to be honest and truthful with this.Going into 2018, I just think it's time this came out.I'm doing this because I been here for quite a while, and this is a big part of my life, and something I don't think I should keep hidden or secret, or deny or shun.Despite the fact that it was only a few weeks ago that I admitted this to myself. I think that's the main thing. Which is what this is as well. I admitting this to myself for public record on this forum.So with that, I guess I will start.I have Borderline Personality Disorder.I will get to what that means in a bit, for people who do not know, or are unaware completely of what that is.But let me profile myself for a bit, for people that don't know.BackgroundI am male, I was born male. I'm Black/African-American, in my late 20s. My religion is Christian. My family (both mother and fathers side) isn't originally from there, but I was born and raised in Los Angeles, California area. Which is where I still live. I was born an identical twin. I am currently unemployed, and I've had numerous jobs in my life. I'm currently contemplating work/jobs that I would like to do. I am gay/homosexual. Any pictures that I posted on this site of me, even though I don't post pictures of myself anymore, were actually of me. I have been charged with a crime before. I've never been to jail or to a mental hospital. I am single. I've never been kissed, or had a boyfriend. I'm a virgin.I like urban music and R&B, blues/jazz and soul and electro disco house music. Whether the music is current or old. I don't care. I like to dance, I like aerobics and gymnastics and tumbling and exercise. I like cartoons, I like classic cartoons, I like classic television shows and films from before I was born, reality and game shows, horror/thriller and crime drama and comedy movies, documentaries. I like some video games. I like researching about past and current pop culture. I like books. I like to write.Again I'm Christian. I believe I reincarnation, aliens, ghosts.I have pipe dreams of going into entertainment. Being a musician, actor, comedian, writer, etc.Growing up, I had a rough upbringing. Growing up in the urban inner city, it was tough. But I was appreciative I guess. My mother whom I was really close with, sadly passed away when I was 10 years old. That was when I first started to become upset.I hated school, I was always upset and angry. My twin brother was the same. He was depressed and upset about it was well.We stayed with extended family members, when my twin brother started to become really sick. He passed away a few years later when he was 14.At that point I really hit rock bottom. I felt at that point my life was pretty much over. Having your identical twin pass away is something so terrible. I felt incomplete, and still do feel incomplete about it.I was then expelled from school as I was always ditching, and getting into fights with other boys at school, being defiant towards teachers.I then began to smoke cigarettes at the age of 15, which I still smoke cigarettes.The family members I was staying with suggested I be evaluated by a psychologist.I was diagnosed as being Autistic/having Aspergers, Bipolar NOS, and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), and having Depression/PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), due to the death of my mother and my twin brother.I was given medication which I hated taking. It would make me fall asleep in class. I would stay up all night and couldn't sleep. Or as soon as I came home from school, I would just go straight to sleep due to the meds I was taking.So I stopped taking them.I was also going through therapy. Even though I liked my therapist, she told me to stop seeing her, as she felt I was stable enough at that point.I have not gone back to therapy since.I don't know how, but I did manage to graduate High School.As soon as I left High School, I was 18, and was going straight into college.I was staying with more extended family/friends when I was in college.I hated it. I would ditch class, and write or read or do something else. I changed my major a million times. I didn't know what I wanted to study.I was struggling with my sexuality and my race. Especially in the United States, this is kinda a tough time right now.So I decided to drop out of school. I been living for myself. I have very few family members I talk to. I don't have any friends anymore. I have worked an array of jobs in my life, however I'm currently unemployed.One of the most traumatic experiences recently, I was robbed at gunpoint. http://ift.tt/2pQVNF2 pretty much leads to present day.So that pretty much sums up my life leading up to this.I will now explain what Borderline Personality Disorder is, evidence as to why I have it, and what my plans and agenda is because of that.What Is BPD? Borderline Personality Disorder, is a mood disorder/illness, is patterns of abnormal character actions, unstable or poor relationships with other people, unstable sense of self or low self esteem, and unstable and impulsive emotions.Also patterns of dangerous activities with ones life, feeling of isolation or emptiness, self harm, and fear of abandonment or rejection in addition to that.Borderline Personality Disorder typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs in a variety of situations.Substance or drug abuse, depression and suicide, are associated with it.Borderline Personality Disorder is usually and more typically associated with women. Now being that I am a gay male, I don't know where that circumvents anything? Or makes any difference. Whatever.It is officially unknown as to what causes it. But incidentally, it's common to find people, myself included, who have had traumatic life experiences, be connected to having Borderline Personality Disorder.It has been seen and misconstrued in the media by fictional characters several times as well. Most commonly in thriller movies.Therapy is done to treat Borderline Personality Disorder.Borderline Personality Disorder can also be mistaken under other disorders.Which is why I do not believe what I was previously diagnosed with by a psychologist, that I am Bipolar or that I have ADHD. I do agree that I am autistic. But I believe I have Borderline Personality Disorder.EvidenceNow, I will now go over evidence as to why I have it.Disturbed sense of identity*An identity disturbance can be conceptualized as a deficit or inability to maintain one or more major components of identity.In other words, this is more not knowing my place in the world, or my purpose for being who I am.*For example, me being a man. Most men are supposed to have a wife, children, be a male role model. Have a steady career etc.That isn't the case for me. I'm a gay black flamboyant man. I've never been in love, I'm not really knowing what I can do to improve society, or how I can get out of the loop. Especially adding the unasked for burdens of being gay and black, it just causes more friction and bullshit.So I go into a dark state based on this. Not knowing why am I here.Efforts to avoid abandonment and extreme reactions to suchThese are actions or emotions triggered by being isolated or abandoned. Whether the circumstances or situation were as severe as they actually are, or if the circumstances or situations were directed at the person or not.So I remember I was doing Jury Duty one time. I was the only black guy there, for all I know, I was possibly the only gay guy there. I was also the only person who looked like they were in their 20s. All the other jurors I remember they were much older than I was.For those that have done Jury Duty, you know it's one of the most aggravating things in your life.Anyways, I felt kinda isolated from the rest of the group. We were kinda confined to this one big room for however long we were in Jury Duty.I tried going up to people and talking to them. But due to my age, perhaps my race even my sexuality, I wasn't really meshing with them.I remember I was kinda ticked off over this. I had my laptop, I was playing some disco/urban music, and had it booming loud, and I was moving and grooving and dancing. To the point the other jurors were coming over to see what the fuck I was doing.It got to the point this one guy told me to chill, and he asked if I wanted to step out and smoke with him. I agreed, and I chatted with this guy, and I felt better.I behaved myself for the remainder of my time on Jury Duty.So basically, I didn't want to be alone, and if I had to be alone, I was going to cut up and act like that. So there you go.Splitting/Black and White thinking.Failure to see the positive and negative aspects in an equal situation. It is either completely positive, or it's completely negative. Things are either all good, or all badI remember I was in the fifth grade. There were about 20 of us in the class, and the teacher, she split us into five groups of four.If someone did perfect on their homework, did extra credit, came back from recess on time, cleaned up the classroom, etc. they would earn points for their team.The groups that got the most points or something like that by the end of the month, got a pizza party.One of the boys in our group fucked it up for all of us, he was just really bad, never did his homework, he basically ruined our chances. So our group did not get to participate in the pizza party.So ordinarily, you would have a "win some/lose some" attitude.I didn't, I was mad as hell. I remember I had the biggest tantrum. I didn't want to leave the classroom as I thought I should have won the pizza party. I then had to be locked outside, and when one of the kids opened the door I ran inside the classroom throwing things. I was sent to the principals office, it turns out they actually called specialists from a psychiatric hospital. My guardian at the time luckily persisted against all of that. and I was just dealing with emotional trauma which I was. I was only suspended for a few days because of that.So even though that happened in my childhood, I still have that splitting thinking to myself into my adulthood.I just got my drivers license not to long ago. When people usually get it in their teen years.I remember I failed my driving test four times. On the fourth time, I thought I did well, but we got back to the DMV and the examiner said I failed. I cussed him out, and told him to get the fuck out of my car. I then went back into the DMV and cussed him out some more, and I was escorted out by security to leave.So instead of just realizing my mistake and that I needed more practice, that wasn't on my agenda.If that isn't enough on my fifth try, fate would have it, I had this examiner again. I told him to get the fuck out of my car and he did.I was then given another examiner, who then gave me passing score. I am now a licensed driver lol.So it's shit like that.Impulsivity and impulsive or dangerous activities.Basically acting on impulse or doing dangerous things.I was in High School, this was after my twin brother died. I had this teacher who hated my guts, and he was treating me very badly.I remember I broke into his car (I don't know how I did it), and I stole some thumb drives that he had.Despite the fact I gave him back his property, the police were called, and I was charged with theft due to that.So that was impulse acting.I remember months ago, I went to this meetup from a bunch of people on reddit.We went to this bar.I was the only gay person, I was the only black person technically. There was another black guy who was there very briefly then he left.I felt really alone and isolated and ignored.They seemed very cliquey and I felt they didn't care about me.Whether this was the case or not, is dismissive really.But we were playing Cards Against Humanity, (which is a boring as hell game. Especially after a few minutes or so)I started to throw cards at people, whenever they would be sidetracked and talk about something that had nothing to do with me, as I wasn't apart of their group or clique.I remember I was cussing these people out. Saying very harsh things to them.I remember I got a steak knife and was giving people evil looks.I was acting very inappropriate looking back.So that's that.Unstable and chaotic interpersonal relationshipsNot being able to hold relationships, if at all.As I said, I have had friends come and go, but I don't currently have any friends. I never been in love. I struggle befriending other people at times.Self-destructive behaviorBehavior that is harmful or potentially harmful towards the person who engages in the behavior.So this is doing things to your body on purpose, that is causing harm or destruction.I do not cut or self harm. I know that's the case for some people.But I will sort of do self damaging things to my body, and not really care.This includes smoking, drinking liquor, marijuana and recreational drug use. Watching pornography excessively.Sometimes I just walk outside late and night for no reason. I like to climb on top of gates, fences, storefront awnings, bluffs, bus stop shelters.I remember a few years ago a bunch of these hippies at the beach had a bottle of something. I think it was Vodka looking back, but it could have been gasoline for all I know. lolI've been having a shitty day, and they ask me if I wanted to take a swig, so I say yes.So doing stuff like that.I won't go into detail, but I've had a couple suicide attempts as well So.Distorted Self ImageSelf image that feels distorted between ones self and others.So basically, this is having low and/or high self esteem about yourself. Feeling you aren't worthy for particular situations, or feeling you are more worthy for particular situations.A good example would have to be the fact I'm black and gay and I'm a feminine man. I already have a distorted self image not to ask out other men usually. I feel I'm not worthy to mess with that man, or be with a group of guys. So this causes issues and causes me to isolate myself from certain situations.On the flip side, I also feel in certain shades of limelight, that due to the fact I'm black and gay and I'm being ignored or shunned, I'm allowed to be a queen and a clown. So I'll just act a queenly fool as a defense mechanism, and giving that portrayal of myself.I remember I was with an acquaintance of mine. There was this private party here in LA that I decided I wanted to crash.I didn't know anybody there, but felt due to the fact I never get to do anything fun, I wanted to crash it.One of the security guards told me to leave, and I started to trip with him, and I decided to leave. I felt like I was important, and fuck what he had to say.Despite the fact I wasn't supposed to be there.So this is the distorted self image on myself.DissociationExperiences with detachment from surroundings and detachment from physical and emotional experience.So not being in touch with reality. Being unrealistic to a very damaging degree.In some cases psychosis.So this one, wow.I maladaptive daydream, quite a lot.I said earlier that I like to write. Fiction stories.I have notebooks which I write down all this shit.Ever since I was like six years old, I've had imaginary friends. Which that's all what an imaginary friend/character is. Maladapative daydreaming.Now in my late 20s, I had over 5000 imaginary friends/characters. Of those 5000, many of them I've let go, died, I forgot about, no longer care about etc. I'd say about a few hundred or so are still active in my brain in some shape or form. I have about 10 or so, which are versions of myself. Another five or so, are imaginary infatuations/guys I'm currently crushing on that I can't get over.I basically maladaptive daydream, episodes and scenarios. It's like a TV show or movie with them. So it's not real. It's all delusions etc.75% of these friends are celebrities/actors whom I have some type of infatuation towards. In some cases youtubers, reality television personalities and porn stars. The other 25 percent are guys I see in my everyday life whom I don't know, that I'm comfortable enough maladapative daydreaming about. I just see their face on my way to work, or coming home from work etc.None of my imaginary friends are or were, family members.In some cases, I will use classmates, coworkers or people whom I developed some type of extreme bond with that I'm comfortable maladaptive daydreaming about.If there is a guy I see on the subway on my way home from work. He's now one of those characters. I just give him a name. lol.They all have names. If it's a celebrity, I usually just change their name. If it's a guy I don't know, I make up a name. In some cases, the name stays the same.For example one of my imaginary friends is Tom Arnold. As there was a time when I had a crush on Tom Arnold. But I changed his name to Alex. lol.That's not always the case though.One of my imaginary friends that I've had since I was in High School, his name is Chris. He is actually his actual name which is Christopher Meloni. Because I'm really into Law and Order, and at the time had a major crush on Christopher Meloni lol.His character is in limbo right now. I let his character go, but he still plays a part in some of the episodes I maladaptive daydream about. Well lol.Practically all of them are male. I don't think I have any that are female. It's very rare. I think I have like 4 or so female.Some of them are gay and bi in real life. Either they are openly gay celebrities, or I know them in real life to be gay.For example, another of of my imaginary friends is Marcellas from Big Brother. Again, he's one that I didn't change his name. He's gay in real life. So.Some of them are straight guys in real life, or I presume they are straight, but I change their sexuality to gay/bi in my maladaptive daydreams.The rest of them are just straight.Now I know these guys don't exist, but I maladaptive daydreams situations on them. I come up with like fake movies and films and like fake reality shows. lol. It's fun for me.In order to preserve this, again I write these characters and events down on notebooks. I have a bunch of notebooks that I would hate to lose or throw away by accident. I mean I would get over it, but I don't want to lose these books. Sadly over the years, I have lost a couple of my notebooks, but I don't want that to happen again.Also, due to how I'm feeling, I don't always write everything down. So I forget and move on, and come up with new characters and events.It's all fake really. But I still want to hold onto the notebooks.As of late, I been really letting this go. I sadly don't think I'd ever give up my imaginary friends or stop maladaptive daydreaming, but I don't really do it as often as I used to, it's not as bad as it was when I was younger at all. Which is why I want to keep the notebooks from my youth.In addition, at times I have a handful of personalities.I know I'm me, and I know I'm only one person, but at times I just have different personalities.I'm not going to tell you my real life personalities. As I'm not comfortable.But I will tell you my online personalities or handles.Taralen:This personality has now been changed into JazzyFusion.It used to be, that I was young gay black boy. Around the age of 12. I do have Peter Pan Syndrome in some cases. I am my same race which is black. This is my more nostalgic personality. It's also one of my oldest handles online. I think of when I was into Nickelodeon and cartoons and things like that.Taralen is now being merged into my Jazzyfusion name.Boaxy:I'm in my present state. I'm a gay black man.But this is kinda me if I were an older Caucasian man. Again, I believe in reincarnation, so this is how I got this. I kinda have more old fashioned views and values. I use this name to debate other people and have discussions.Kai:[See Domosuke]Domosuke:This was one of my most popular personalities.I am still kinda myself in this personality. But not quite.I'm more open to international things and people.With this personality I am a wapanese/weaboo/japanophile person. I am obsessed with anime, Japanese language, JPOP, KPOP, etc. I am into music, and world music as well.I also use the name Kai as well.Due to my involvement with the anime culture that I removed myself from, I also used this name.This is the name I also used when I was on Tinychat.JazzyFusion:This is the name I use on reddit. This believe it or not, is probably 99.99% how I feel in real life, but with no filter because it's reddit. I am me in my current state with no conditions.This is also the same name I went by on that reddit meetup I talked about earlier and was tripping at.So those are all my personalities.I'm hoping to find a partner or a guy who would understand all of this or not care. The psychosis, imaginary friends, my split personalities. God willing, I suppose.So you can see this is probably the symptom of BPD I experience the most of. Dissociation.MiscMiscellanyNow I'll also add that things which I've probably already mentioned or brought up.I do experience moments of depression or sadness. Under certain situations. Mostly due to being alone or isolated, or not feeling self worth. Especially if it's related to being black and/or gay.I don't always take rejection, criticism, or disappointment well. Especially if it's related to being black and/or gay.I do take most bad experiences, whether they happen in real life, or the internet very personal, and it's very painful. It hurts.I am in attack or argue mode quite often. Whether it was justified or not. Especially if that circumstance was from me being black and/or gay.I sometimes manipulate people do have them do what I want, or fuck things up on purpose for people.Similar to the guy in Jury Duty. Or when I was cutting up on the reddit meetup.I think that's just about it as far as symptoms and signs and evidence.ConclusionNow finally I'll go on to what I'm going to do now.No, I have not been diagnosed by a psychologist, but I feel if I were to go to a licensed professional, and show and tell them the same evidence I did on this thread, it wouldAlso due to the past diagnosis, which I have paperwork for in my youth that diagnosed me with Bipolar, ADHD, Autism/Aspergers, and PTSD.I'm more than sure I have Borderline Personality Disorder.I do plan on seeking treatment and help from this very soon, also understanding that this is apart of my life.2018 is coming up, and who knows what's in store for me.I'm just happy to finally come out with this secret I've been harboring for 20 something years. My entire life almost.I am a gay Christian, and I do have faith in god.I miss my mother and my twin brother dearly, but I guess I have to continue life.I hope to find someone to love someday, and someone for support.I just wanted to bring this out, and I want to thank you all.I just ask for your compassion and empathy and understanding.Thank you, and I love you all.
New Years Eve (New York City) I need help!
Hey everyone. I was wondering if there are gonna be any events going on in the city this Sunday? I tried looking but can’t find anything online. I mainly wanna go dancing and just have a good time. Will bars/clubs be open or am I stuck at home watching the ball drop on tv.Thanks for the help.
Have you seen the show *Schitt's Creek*?
I highly recommend this show. It stars Catherine O'Hara, Eugene Levy, Daniel Levy, Annie Murphy, and Emily Hampshire. You can watch it on Netflix and/or Amazon Prime Video (those are the only ones I use). There are currently three seasons available, with the fourth beginning in January.The reason I highly recommend this show is because it has fucking awesome LGBTQ representation, in my opinion. In all fairness though, the transgender community may not be represented, but that could only be my unawareness. The stories themselves haven't addressed transgender issues, but there may be an actor or few who are transgender and I'm just not aware of it.All sexuality is treated in a way that I haven't seen in shows. It's just a normal thing here, and it was very refreshing to see. The only time it ever really came up was during this scene.Also, the season 3 finale had an extremely cute scene between David (Daniel Levy) and his business partner Patrick (played by Noah Reid). But the best part about it was how extremely relevant it was to me and my situation! I'm a recently-come-out pansexual, 40-years-old, who has not been intimate yet with anyone other than straight, cis-women. It was a beautiful scene, and it made my heart smile.Check it out, if you're interested. The show is wonderful.
Gay Secret Societies
So I'm a university student in Mexico, and even though the city where I live in is pretty open about gay marriage, it's still a topic many are against. And you know how some homophobes are like "the gays are pushing the gay agenda upon us" but it's really all lies, so a group of people at my school (myself included) thought, "well, why not make it a reality?" lol... So now we are starting this secret society at my school and pushing the gay agenda just like they feared we would... Muahahaha
I'm 28 and came out as gay a week ago, I'm going in my first date with a guy today. Any advice?
Long story short: I have been repressed for quite a long time. I came to the personal epiphany last week that I am fuckin 28 and it is time I come to terms with who I am instead of trying to hide from it.However, because of this I've... missed out on a lot of things that people with healthy relationships with others tend to go through. I've only been on two dates, I've never had sex or even gotten intimate with someone, I've basically missed out entirely on the "adventure" that most teenagers and young adults seem to go through in High School and College.And today, a week later, I have a date with a guy. He is a bit younger than me, but we seem to have quite a bit in common. We've chatted a fair bit via text message and we're both really excited about it.But, deep down, I am terrified. I feel like a teenager all over again. I am generally a fairly confident guy and this has he second guessing every interaction I have with him. I want to say he's sexy, but I don't want to be creepy. I want to tell him about what I'm telling you guys here, but I don't want to scare him away. I want to flirt more, but I couldn't even really tell you what flirting is or what it looks like.Anyway, if anyone can offer me some advice here, I would appreciate it immensely. I really don't want to fuck this up because of my inexperience. Thank you all in advance :]
13/M If someone wants to talk,relaxing,not into nudes
So yeah,with this post Im not trying to get dicks or something,I just like meeting new people.I prefer older guys 16-26 because I like to talk with smarter people 😂
There's no way to coat this so I'll be straightforward. Does penis size matter?
Super insecure gay virgin here, I have some self esteem issues. And after having seen a good variety online (and I don't mean porn, well it is porn but not pro porn, some home videos I found online, also some personal experience [no one knows I'm gay and my friends are confortable being naked around me, happened on a few occasions also some music festivals]) I realized that my penis is incredibly small, I know that at least 30% is due to my overweight, working on it (doing great progress), I still know my penis is the smallest i've seen in my life.Does that matter in the gay community in general?
A question on gay relationships
Hello! I'm a redditor that is not from this sub. I would just like to ask out of curiosity, would you redditors say that gay relationships are better or worse that straight relationships?
i'm gay
My name is Sorena. I live in a country in the Middle East. I'm not happy with my life. I love my family. But everything started when I realized I was gay. This is very hard. Homosexuality is a crime in my country. People find it so bad. And we have no freedom. And if the government realizes our sexual orientation, they will execute us. I am so sorry. I'm depressed. And I think my life has reached Palin while I can not do anything. Many times I thought of leaving my country. But that's not easy. I had several suicide attempts, but I did not do it for my family. I cry out everyday. High school was very hard for me. I'm not sure what I want to do. I'm sorry if you get sad
Is body type really as important as it's made out to be?
25 y/o gay man here. I'm a slowly-recovering perfectionist and one of the issues I've always had with myself is my body; I'm what some would call "skinny fat".From what I've seen of gay media, being out of shape is only acceptable if you're a bear or have a "dad bod", and I'm negative on both counts. Everyone else seems to have perfectly sculpted muscles or a carefully maintained physique. Compared to most gay icons, I'm kind of a slug.I'm making progress towards eating better and exercising better - taking a weight lifting course in the approaching semester (hooray for undergrad). But I've got a date with a really cute guy next week and no matter what, I can never shake the conviction that a guy will take one look at my body and get turned off, and I'll be forever alone.Am I overreacting? Do cute guys go for guys with imperfections?
A question for Trans gentlemen
Okay first, don't down vote me into oblivion. It's a serious question I want to know to the answer to. Don't be offended either its not that intention. I'm simply asking a question because I don't know.Right now that's out the way. If you were formerly a female and you transitioned into male, do you prefer males or females? I know if you're a female and you like females then you're a lesbian but it's really confusing if you've come from previously being a female to transitioning into a male.Again sorry if bringing this up upsets you but I can't think of another way to word it or you'll just get confused as I am, it wouldn't any sense you'd probably think I was talking about something completely different.
Is my new friend Gay?
Met this guy through a coworker who happens to be his gym buddy. the guy added me on snap chat. yesterday by 11pm he sent me his chest photos. I ask him what was it for he just smile.......Could he be gay?
2 Part Question : Coming Out and Healthy Relationships
So I am a 23 y/o queer male. (Although sometimes I identify as gay or bisexual which I feel better fits my mood although most of the time it is gay.) I've had two relationships with females back in HS and have had 2 relationships with males while in college. I've been single for about a year and a half now and have gone on dates here and there with nothing becoming relationship-worthy. I feel that I am ready for my next relationship but it doesn't seem to be coming, the last guy I dated was too young and mature for me. The guy previous to him dumped me and left me with heartbreak. I am not confident in my gaydar and have difficulty approaching guys in public. (Possibly issues within myself that need to be resolved.) But when I finally do get myself on a date from either an LGBT group or online, I haven't had much success. Is it possible that I might be doing something to deter guys away? I'm not trying to let me ego get in the way but I've been told by friends and strangers that I am an attractive person.. So it kind of leaves me wondering if I am doing something majorly wrong, do many gay guys just go disappearing after a couple dates, or is there a secret formula to win a guy over so he is interest and doesn't disappear/leave. Can not being completely out to family have any impact?TL;DR 1) What makes a healthy gay relationship? 2) Is being out completely necessary for a healthy relationship?
Being gay is hard!
Foreword: I knew it would be difficult. It took me a while to accept being gay and honestly it's been great, save for a few things. I'm not sure what I am looking for in this post, I just feel like I need to lay everything out.I'm 17 years old, a junior in high school and a good student. My future looks bright, I have a 3.8 gpa and got a near perfect score on Sat math. My friends are all amazing people and have been more supportive to me and shown more love than anyone ever has, but they can't sympathize with my problems because, yknow, they're not gay. I am very happy with myself, and I'm fortunate to be able to channel my anger and sadness into better emotions.Recently I came out to my mother. Her immediate response was putting me in Christian counseling. I'm not sure what the point was, she paid some guy hundreds of dollars over the next few months to tell me God doesn't love gay people. Doesn't matter, I'm not religious anyways. She is keeping my sexuality a secret, treating it as an illness. She doesn't want me to date anyone, she doesn't want me to talk about other men, she doesn't want me to come out to anyone. I'm more than sure I'm gay lol, no clue what any of her rules will change.anyways, I totally ignore the fuck outta her. I regularly hook up with a really nice guy (20 years old, legal in my state) who is very supportive, fun to hang out with, and sees me as more than just my penis. I'm pretty much openly gay in school and almost nobody makes fun of me for it. Being insecure about something always invites unwanted attention. The problem, however, is that I am soul-crushingly lonely.My brother came back from college with his girlfriend for Christmas and my parents love her. She's a respectful young woman, I like her. Knowing that I will never be able to bring someone back to my parents and be truly supported feels real shitty. I know that my parents will never be comfortable with my sexuality even if they feign smiles and kind words. I'm ashamed to be in my own home.I have tried a few ways of meeting guys, none have worked out. The gsa at my school is just a bunch of girls with dyed hair, and one bi dude who isn't intelligent or really my type. I used Grindr once or twice to try to find hookups but that shit was fuckin weird. Im done looking for random hookups, I just want someone to love.There are not many people in my school that are my type. The one guy I'm really into is unapprochable, as in very socially inept. Not even sure what his sexuality is. We have similar interest and are planning to go to the same college out of coincidence, but I have a feeling that even if he is gay it would never work out.I don't know, the whole family situation is isolating to say the least. I don't feel like I belong anywhere anymore. I'm hoping the future holds somewhere I can get some rest. Anyways, if you read through this, thanks for taking the time. I'm sure it will get better for me and for people going through the same. feel free to share how your life is going, it would be great to be reassured that I'm not alone in this
2017. december 27., szerda
Am I gay?
Sorry if this isn’t the place for this type of stuff but I don’t know where to go. I have always found myself attracted to girls, but sometimes I find myself looking up gay porn. While this only happens a few times, these feelings have left me consider lately as I was recently hit on by a guy. We talked and when he invited me over he sort of got sexual with me. I went along with It, but when he made the suggestion of ‘going somewhere more private’ I shot him down and soon left. I haven’t talked to him since, but the encounter left me super confused. I sort of feel it’s more the idea of being with a guy then actually being with one. Anyways if you guys could help me out to understand what is going on with me that would be appreciated. I’ll try to answer any questions or go more into detail in the comments if you want. Thanks.
I want streaks from different countries
Hey I’m a 16 year old boy from NYC and I just think it would be pretty cool to have streaks from all over the world. I’d prefer for for you to be around my age and also I really ONLY want streaks.
Temptation Men’s Spa
My fiancé and I (25 and 24 y/o) are thinking about going to a Men’s Spa to spice some things up. We haven’t yet talked about if we would watch others or let other guys join in between us. What should I expect when going? Is there a possibility for just us two to be more private but still more kinky? I am really just looking for some advice on how to approach the situation so neither of us get hurt.Thanks!
So was this guy interested..?
So kind of a pointless post because it doesn't matter either way.There was a guy I used to know from work. He was really funny, sexy as hell ( I think he may have actually shown me what my 'type' is) and just a bit of an odd ball. At the time I really liked him but I assumed he was straight.One night after work while having drinks he starts asking me about me. Like really interested in what I like and stuff. But he's also being kind of vague like he doesn't want to ask me something directly. Now I'm not out out with the work lot so I assumed he was trying to ask me if I was gay. Either way I just sort of slithered by the question and we carry on.Later on he pulls a girl in a bar. Now I had had a bit to drink at this point but from what I remember I got a bit huffy (I know douchebag, right?). Just before he leaves the bar he comes up to me and says sorry, gives me a hug and kisses me on the cheek. That really confused the hell out of me.He eventually stopped coming to work and then disappeared altogether. Doesn't have social media or anything. (Am I the only one who thinks that's attractive? Not having social media. So dark and mysterious..)So here I am 3 years on. I still occasionally think about him and wonder what the hell he's up to. In fact my feeling have probably increased in the time without seeing him. Is that mad?Does anyone have any idea what his deal was?
Think imma be single forever
Ughghg. Will be 20 next year and I am still single. And have never kissed anyone!! I live in Dubai unluckily! There is 1) no one here, 2) it's hard for me to really like someone 3) even if I like someone, he will be straight!
Currently looking for my SugarDaddy
Young 21 yo Hispanic athletic slim guy looking for my knight in shining armor to get to know better and ultimately build a strong lasting relationship. Feel free to leave a message if you are interested in exchanging pictures and video chatting to set up a meet together.
Body issues
So, I am only 19 yrs old. I am brown skinned, chubby and very very hairy.Now, the thing when people see my body they say It looks like someone who is like 40 yrs old something. It's really hurts when people say that. I do work out and try to decrease my weight, it's slow but it's happening!I want to wax/shave my body hairy off, but my parents are extremely against it (I am Indian btw). And they think I wanna shave it's cuz I am gay! And that "real men have body hair"Also, I am possibly the hairest person in my uni!
Who would have thought??
Super strict parents. I've always struggled with accepting the fact I may never have contact with my family when I come out.I had a crush in highschool(I'm 18, graduated early this year), to someone who is trans. I didn't really know at the time. Anyways we started talking recently.I think it's funny in a way. Of course my parents wouldn't accept a trans individual, so they would insist he is a girl. Which means I would be dating a girl in their eyes??Absolutely they'd be unhappy. But also they wouldn't have legs to fight on. It's almost amusing?
Another opinion on Lies and Deceit
So this weekend I caught my boyfriend in a lie. He told me he was going to be with his parents for the weekend, but it turned out he was with a gay friend that came to visit. I found this out through a friend & social media one morning and I talked to him like normal and he proceeded to lie to me and say he was with his parents getting ready to cook. At that point I texted him all the screenshots I got of him with the other guy and a time stamped video of him at the club.He told me he told me that he lied to protect me because he knew I would get mad at he circumstance. Which was his friend came short notice and needed a place to stay. Even with that it was fact that he lied. And when I checked the other guys social media he would post about getting sex and whatnot. I couldn't prove that, but based off the details of what he told me it's possible based of time stamps, social media posts & what he told me himself.I wanna stay, but want to leave the relationship as well. Because he did lie, but his reasoning was I would get mad he was going to hang out with this guy instead of with me.Have any of you guys ever dealt with this?
Boyfriend watching porn
My boyfriend watches porn while I sleep and tries to hide it. This makes me feel insecure. I’ve talked to him before and told him how it makes me feel but he still does it. He says he doesn’t know why he does. Anyone else dealt with this before?
New year’s Florida party gay
Hey I’m coming to Ft.Lauderdale for New Year’s Eve - any parties or fun communities to hang out with ?
How well do you know your partner? A Study of Personality, Emotions, and Work Behaviour
Hello Everyone,I’m working on a psychology project examining the accuracy of romantic partners perceptions of personality, emotions, and work behaviors. I pretested the survey for length, if you both have just 20 minutes to spare, are currently working, have been in a romantic relationship for over a year together, are both at least 18 years old, you can participate. I will be granting access to your personal results through a password-protected system. If you would be willing to help a young student out, I would really appreciate your time and effort.Thanks again,http://ift.tt/2CgbWq7
a dilemma, boys!!!
recently, i've encountered a 'two buses at once' sort of situation, and i could use some advice as to how i should proceed.i'm a severely depressed person. it's a long story i won't get into, but it's made me very emotionally barren, and i hadn't felt anything for any guys in about five years, until recently. this guy is 100% my type, and we've only met a couple of times but i feel a kind of attraction to him that i haven't felt in a very long time. i have no delusion, i know we're at that stage where anything could send things tits up on a hair trigger, but, after so long, i feel i owe it to myself to at least see where this is going.also recently, i was offered a separate experience that could change my life forever. a friend has invited me to travel the world with her, which would mean i get to leave my shitty job and my shitty living situation in exchange for things i've never seen and may never get to again. the kicker is that i could be gone for upward of six months, and i'd essentially have to sever ties with my new man friend.what should i do? i see no downside to travelling where i see doubt in a new relationship, but this WILL be one of those situations where i wonder forever what would have happened if i'd taken the lunge and given this guy a go. who knows how long it'll be before i find my next romantic avenue, given it took me five years and two abusive relationships to discover this one??i'm stumped. give a brother your thoughts!
“Call Me By Your Name” messed me up [Spoiler]
Last night I watched Call me by your name, I was really exited to see it and after watching it I realize that it was a beautiful, amazing movie. However the ending left me really sad and gloomy, and a day later I’m still thinking about it. Why do all gay love stories, books and movies, have a sad ending? It’s really messing with me and making me think that gay love is doomed to end in a sad way. Is Hollywood right? Do they all end sad?
I think my school is homophobic.
Hi guys! Im kinda new here. I was just lurking for a while but then I remembered this thing about our school. I wanted to learn your opinions about it.First off, let me start by saying that I live in a... I guess you could say conservative, country. But though the newer generation of people here are more open-minded, A lot of the older generation are still homophobic or just sees it as a joke due to how its represented in media. Though, Ive never seen a case like my school.My school is very religious, we have masses every month. Its a private school, we wear uniforms and stuff, though in my country even public schools require you to wear uniforms. Its a pretty big school.So, besides the usual textbooks, they also give out student diaries, for parents to keep track of what their kids are doing in school (but no one actually takes logging lessons in their diaries seriously), a list of all the things the students need for the school year (Color-coded notebooks, specific stuff that ends up just going to waste but we still need to buy because the teachers check for the materials at the start of every school year, etc.), and a student handbook.This student handbook has most of the information you need to know about the school. Stuff like their mission and vision, history, blah blah blah, but the most interesting part is the page on boy-girl relationships. It states that it encourages healthy relationships between peers and the opposite sex. No mention of same-sex relationships at all. So I was intrigued, but I didn't think anything of it, since I thought that maybe they just aren't aware of things like that. So then I moved on to the discipline system chapter. They were separated into five categories, 5 being the worst offenses you can do. They all made sense, until I got to the last category 5 offense. These were the offenses that could get you expelled. There was the obvious ones like bringing drugs, bringing deadly weapons to school, involvement with hazing, scandalous pupblic appearances, that kind of stuff. But then, the last one. It said, "Immorality, but not limited to having intimate relationship with the same sex...". I just couldn't read more. I was furious, but I couldn't say anything. I was in the middle of class and I couldn't make a scene, I couldn't very well just show it to the head of the disciplinary comittee, he/she is probably the one who wrote it anyways. So I kept my mouth shut.So there you have it. According to my school, Having an intimate relationship with a person of the same sex is just as bad as bringing a gun to school. What do you guys think?I'm not really sure if this violates the rules against political endorsement, and if it does I'm sorry, I just really needed to vent about this.
Do you think there can be pleasure in pain?
So, I’ve been talking to my boyfriend about buying some leather/BDSM stuff from a sex shop and got me thinking about how far I would go. I mean I find harnesses, cuffs, blindfolds, even slings and whips, I can see the appeal, I can imagine a sort of heightened sexual experience. However, got me thinking I could never do the full mask or latex outfits where the person almost gets reduced to some holes. Maybe because I have a boyfriend, I value the intimacy part and would feel quite offended if my boyfriends wanted to see no noticeable features of mine haha. What do other people think? I’m really interested in how other people see it.
Supposed to spend new year eve with a man but..
Hey,I was supposed to spend 4 days around the 1st with someone I really like. I already met him twice, once with other people and once with just him an I. It was awesome.I'm suffering from acne for 7 years. I'm 20 now. And this week, it's really bad. Big white spots. Disgusting. So I think I'm not gonna see him. I'm way too ugly and very much uncomfortable with myself.Normaly, I already have a huge lack of self-confidence. But with this. I just can't do it.So I'm gonna tell him tonight. We were supposed to travel and meet at Paris the 29th.
Suffering from a terrible breakup- should I move on?
A bit misleading- obviously I should, but should I try and do so now? Me and my ex shared an intense, loving relationship for a few months, before it ended abruptly because of his anxiety back in October. It was awful, like out of a nightmare, but he let me down gently, and expressed hope we could get back together someday. That hope's been what's kept me going all this time, until just before Christmas, when I learned he'd moved on without telling me, despite us having still been talking daily. He's since cut all contact, and I'm so close to a lot of edges- going back to drugs, alcoholism, and suicide. I don't want to die, I just want the pain to stop.But this isn't my first breakup- given, this is by far the worst. I know the best solution is to just move on; people tell me I should learn to love myself, but I feel a deep, internal need for romantic emotional support to help me get back on my feet. Trouble is, this is a difficult time for getting back to dating; I'm going to be on vacation for a couple weeks in January, then getting a new job as a move back in with my mother, just a few miles from where I live now. The logical thing to do would be to wait until that's all settled through, then get back to dating, but I'm very, very worried about my mental state right now. This is a critical time for me and a lot of my family, due to the changes taking place- I can't afford any slack, and I'm scared I could be on the verge of a terrible mistake that could ruin everything. Should I just go for it, try my luck for someone willing to tolerate this busy time period in my life, or do I need to just take a step back and try and force myself through this on my own?
Unable To Live Openly In Foster Care, Gay Man Finds Family In His Fraternity.
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This Site legit.
Im thinking of buying some toys and seen this site floating around can anyone confirm its legitimacy ?http://ift.tt/2BYFZWt you in advanceAlso i was looking at the 2 naughty boys and the bead if anyone wants to give me their input about those too haha
I just came out to my wife. I'm not really sure where to go from here.
I'm 30 years old, and have been with my wife for 6 years. She's handling it extremely well, but unfortunately, I'm not. I feel completely lost and sort of numb. I'm not sure how I'll meet people, or anything about the culture really. I've been lying to myself for nearly 20 years, and I feel like it might be too late for a fresh start. I'm sorry if this is poorly written, I'm an absolute wreck right now.
Should I do it?
A guy has offered to fuck me for money. He is the straight jock kinda guy and I am concerned that he could be the mocking-type of person( you know he will probably act bad towards me during sex). However I have never had sex and I'd really like to and finding a guy here is pretty much impossible. So I am wondering if I should take the offer. What do you think?
2017. december 26., kedd
I finally did it
So I have finally come out to my parents but in a weird way and they’re honestly kind of funny, so I was showing my mom the screen of my phone at whataburger because I had gotten a new screen protector and it just so happed to be on my Reddit profile, so then she said the magic word “ Are you gay.” My heart stopped and I made an instinctive decision and said yes, and so the WHOLE way home I was bombarded with questions. Later when we got home she said she wouldn’t tell my dad and would let me do it, This was a lie and on Christmas Eve she told him and so today in the car to home from getting my dads phone screen fixed he told me he knew and was ok with it even a little more than my mom, we went to the same whataburger and got the same thing we did when I was with my mom and both times I never came out to them it’s funny to me the way this all turned out.
Any advice?
Turned 15 recently! After years of hearing the word “gay” as an insult, I’ve come to the conclusion that I am gay!Is there anything I should do about it? Should I tell anyone, or is it not a big deal? If you could travel back in time to when you were a teenager to give yourself advice on this, what would tell yourself?Sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask questions! I’m new to reddit and unaware of which subreddits to go to.
Should I block my FWB because he keeps pestering me and won't take no for an answer? (NSFW)
My god I'm trying so hard to be nice but he keeps pestering me to hookup even when I tell him I'm not available at certain times or days.I just had extended family over so beforehand I told him I couldn't chat for about a week. They just left and I started talking to him again and he sends me a dick pic while I'm playing with my niece. It's incredibly annoying because I told him I didn't want to receive those kinds of pics/messages.I told him I'm not available this week and he says he can't wait until next week.I was honest and told him my car is being used by family which he said that he can come pick me up.I told him that I can't just disappear and he tells me to sneak out when it's clear.These responses are buzz kills for me. It makes me not want to see him at all. I feel like an asshole but I honestly want to block him without any explanation at this point because he keeps sidestepping around my refusals.I don't dislike him...but when I can't come over... I can't come over! How hard is that to understand?
I'm alive, and I'm back.
Thanks to all of you who reached out to me while I was going through shit last month. It was really helpful to have people to talk to! Now I'd like to make some new connections on a more positive note, so, if anyone wants a new Internet Friend *TM, don't be afraid to PM me and ask for my Skype. And if any of you live in the Boston, or more specifically, Merrimack Valley area you should DEFINITELY pm me so we can do cool fun things together!!
Video chat hangout/parties
I came across this video.You don't have to watch the full thing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-sI88xZtK0I just thought that same idea and setup, would be nice if there could be a queer version of that.Is there any way possible that we could have like google hangout sessions. (They would be heavily moderated of course in some way).We would just have honest dialogue, everyone let's their hair down in a scheduled and organized format. We could play party games, or play "never have I never", or play like Match Game or The Dating Game.We could answer questions in a turn based format or experiences that could be funny, shocking, thought provoking, inspiring, dramatic, educational. etc. would then maybe have a serious section to where more serious discussions and issues are done, and we have debates.People are free to disagree, and maybe quarrel for a bit in a civilized way. But if it gets out of hand, code words or signs or procedures can be done to stop it and to move on.Fighting, flaming, trolling, bullying, heckling, making fun of others will not at all be tolerated though.It would be a way for people to meet other queer people and break the ice and discuss things.This could also act in a way as an queer support group as well. Just putting a different spin on it.Anyone who is queer, or queer positive or queer ally can come and participate in a diverse google hangout party.Like have it on Fridays or something like that.People would generally be free to say what they want. Again, racism, homophobia, bullying, making fun of others, etc; People won't be free to say that.There again could be code words or signs and protocols we can do if things are getting out of hand, or if you want the person to either drop the subject or etc.But generally, it would mostly be very filter free to a degree. People would be free to share their opinions, but of course that doesn't mean people will be attacked, or that racism, or homophobia would be tolerated.All you would need to do is use your Google/Youtube account.I understand that not everyone is at that level to do this, but for the people that are.I believe with google hangouts, you can also use your avatar or mask your face, too.Maybe have it be 18+ as well due to this.I don't think this exists.Yeah there are chat rooms online, but to me they are kinda already cliquey and developed. If not that, there is just a lot of ignorance and bullshit.From my own personal experience, they also aren't really comfortable spaces.This would be nothing like that. This is more structured and kinda different and less triggering.So what do you think?
if only we could read people's minds
Wouldn't it be great to read people's minds. There are at least 3 guys I've dealt with for a couple of years, and through sporadic texts and facebook messages I STILL have no idea how they feel about me. And I guess, we'll NEVER know. Even if we are in a relationship for years you just never know how a person TRULY feels about you. Case in point, I went to the movies with this guy over a month ago and during the movie and the bar and all that he kept saying stuff like "oh yeah we'll go see that. I'll show you that." like... he liked me and wanted to see more of me. We had sex and he has not responded to ANY of my texts since than. So wouldn't it be great to read people's minds and know that they are full of shit, or only want you for the D. SIGH!! I swear being gay is the worst.
I think I will never found a boyfriend
I am a 20 years old gay male and I am still virgin, nor even a kiss, I am into math, physics and science, I have never found another guy with similar interest in science but gay, it seems that all gay man I have seen are interested in art and such kind of things, so i feel I am the only gay man interested in science, I am really sad because I think I will be virgin forever and I will never found a boyfriend with similar interests, has someone passed a similar situation? if so, what should i do? thank you for your help english is not my mother tongue sorry if i make mistakes
Do gay people like being gay?
Serious question. Like if it was a choice would you rather be straight
Im closeted bf isnt, been together for 5 yrs, is this unfair?
Ok so before you judge me, i would like constructive criticisim and honest opinions. How would it feel if you were my bf?I guess i should start with the fact that im 33 and hes 35. Ive been fooling around with guys and was bisexual since i was 18. He is my first bf and first guy that i fell in love with. I have come out but only to close family and friends like only a hand full of people not including my parents who are 1. Religious and 2. Asian (hopefully you get my meaning) having said that this means that i am still leading a double life and its hard on me emotionally because i cant share my relationship with my bf with my family in full. I know this is hard on him too as he would feel left out and i so much want him to be apart of it.I love my bf and we have certainly had our fair share of ups and downs but i cant see myself coming out to my parents.Do i continue to lead a double life and hope that our paths dont cross? or do i have to make a choice to leave him to save him from not having a choice? Or do i risk being disowned by my parents? I want him to be happy and have the things he wants but i dont want that at the expense of me losing my family (potentially)I know its alot to read and probably a familiar story to some of you. There is much more to it but i guess ill keep it there for now till theres some input.Thanks
Montreal Gay Village is the hottest place in the world!
Well I am at the Airport awaiting my flight to Montreal! Once again I will be seeking hot men with captivating shapes to their penises and bodies! I will be visiting the gay male strip clubs mostly.... I’ll hit Stock Bar to look at the muscle stud steroid pumped, gym-rat alpha males..... then I will probably spend more time at Bar Taboo —- younger coked up skater boi twinks with fat uncut French Canadian cocks! ..... anyone else have any other suggestions ? Each time I go to Momtreal I wind up high and horned up in a cock fueled sex party!Anyone else been there or know of places to go?
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