He got the wrong bitch...

So, me and my husband have been together 7 years.... married for five.As you can imagine being monogamous is kind of boring so from time to time we venture out on Grindr, talk to people and disappear.Well, we've done this twice. This last time this guy messaged me, he's been in the same town as my dating back prior to my relationship/marriage but we've never crossed paths. He wasn't particularly attractive but, our gay ties are dwindling down.So the first time we hung out the guy was wanting me to cuddle with him and this and that I politely declined and went on about my night.Following that, we invited him over to our house and he wasn't paying as much attention to me but more so to my husband.I didn't think anything of it, but recently my husband went away and his iPads connected to his texts. I looked only for reasons dealing with things he wasn't telling me about an encounter with his homophobic father. (I needed to make sure my presence wasn't needed).In this I discovered text messages between these two. In them my husband vents about me, which I understand, I mean... I'm a lot to deal with. This other guy completely trashed me like how he deserves better and how he doesn't know how he dealt with me for so long and that I was very cold and distant.So on and so fourth, the last messages were while my husband was away, he said that he missed my husband. Then my husband says something and he replies with "when we get alone together what are you going to do to me".I died. DIED I tell you. My husband didn't reply (which was in his best interest) that night I called my husband and told him that I knew what was being talked about and I'm not dealing with being bad mouthed. If you have something to say.... be man enough to say it to me.My husband agreed and I told him I've blocked him for him and I would text him to let him know. This was my response.I've been thinking for days on how to respond to you and the way you've bashed me to my husband, me and ******* have our issues, but trust me when I say you won't be one of them. Consider this friendship and whatever it is you had with ******* over. I wish you the best and have a great Valentine's Day!Has anyone ever dealt with something similar?