need some constructive criticism.

deep breathalright so first off, here some background on me. im 22, always been gay, living in the south. im seeing someone now (not yet official) and it seems promising. my first boyfriend i dated from age 14 to 20, and my second from 20 up until last november (too soon to start dating again?) so for sure i am a lifer, i dont want a temporary boyfriend i want a LTR (Life-Term relationship) and thats what this new boy (richard) seems to want.and here some background on richard, hes 27, also gay, lives with his parents, has no car, but has a job and goes to part time college. this is the first boy ive ever liked that was taller than me and older than me (ive always been a top and liked boys that are smaller than me, but hes special). so we get to talking and i asked him whens the last time he had sex with someone, and he told me that he had a non-intercourse hook up last august (do people really remember the last time they did anything with anyone? he seemed to be very specific about the date and exactly what happened). i was skeptical to believe him but im not going to call him out so soon (our first date a week ago, but have been talking over a month). i also had asked him how long hes been single and he told me 7 years (!!!!!).. hes very tall, gorgeous, charming. i have a hard time believing that. he did state that he had some flings over the years but nothing solid, it may be his mature way of saying that he didnt have anything serious.on our first date we went to the cheesecake factory. we met up just to have dinner but ended up spending almost 5-6 hours at the restaurant and mall right next to it. we didnt hook up or anything, we just talked. we connected perfectly on everything that we talked about especially music. and i know he wasnt lying about the music (to ensure that i liked him) because he whipped out his phone and showed me a bunch of his playlists and mine are almost identical.my main issue: he has kept his grindr and i have deleted mine. he tells me its like facebook to him and gives him something to check. when him and i talked there we did not discuss sex or anything sexually related (i will block if it gets to that). but since we're not officially dating and i have no claim to him i have to sit here and take it.also, he text message replies come in bursts with 4 or 5 hours in between. it takes me second to reply to him or anyone but he can go 5 hours without messaging me. yesterday i saw that he hadnt replied in hours but since updated his facebook status and had been active on facebook messenger :(.im half tempted to make a blank grindr and see how often hes active and how long he stays on. but it will cause me pain if i see him on there for long periods of time.i know im getting attached too quickly, i dont need to hear that. i dont really know what im asking you but im uneasy about this and need some criticism. some words of hope would be nice (unless there are none to be had with this)thanks in advance :)edit: spelling and grammar