2015. augusztus 8., szombat

How important is a perfect body?

I apologize in advance for the wall of text. Feel free to skip to the end questions if you want~About two months ago, I met an amazing guy who I've been video chatting and messaging. Everything is going very well, and so I've decided to take the trip to meet him in person to verify that we still have chemistry in person. Although I'm incredibly excited for the trip, I'm also completely terrified.Growing up, my parents never really taught me anything about good nutrition or exercise. After puberty hit, I rapidly gained tons of weight. 11th grade was my heaviest year at about 270lbs. It wasn't until the summer between 11th and 12th grade that I finally decided that I needed to change. I did my research, and decided to go slowly in order to prevent loose skin and/or a temporary weight loss since habits didn't fully change.Fast forward to now, my senior year of college, and I've dropped a little over 100lbs, currently weighing 168. I look nothing like I used too, and I feel really good about myself now. With clothes on, I feel pretty good about my body. Without clothes on, however, I feel awful. I still have some stretch marks because of the weight gain during puberty, and I still have a bit of leftover fat that I'm currently working hard on getting rid of.Now, I wasn't too worried about how I looked without clothes since I'm personally not interested in hookups, and didn't see myself getting a boyfriend anytime soon. I figured that before I met anyone relevant, I would be able to finish losing the weight and dealing with the stretch marks if necessary. Now I've met this guy, and I feel so afraid! I know that "if he's a good guy, he'll like you for you", but I still hate disappointing him. I almost feel like I'm lying to him by not giving him a heads up since I look slightly fit with clothes. The opportunity just hasn't arisen, and I feel weird/whiny when thinking about bringing it up to him.My questions aside from just general advice on the above situation are-How important is a good body to guys? Would it make any difference if you knew it was a work in progress? Should I tell him about it? If so, how?Sorry again for the long story. I'm just really stressing about it, even though we probably won't have sex the first time. The fact that it might happen is making me stress about this trip that I'm so excited about.

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