2015. július 31., péntek
I'm gay but I don't like gay porn?
I guess you could say that I'm a twink, and I'm 100% bottom. I love men in practice, and sex is great, but I don't really like watching it in porn. It doesn't look really pretty to me most of the time. I normally watch straight porn.What do you think this means for a gay man?
Drunken life regrets
I remember meeting my ex at a local club. Sexy as fuck and the lights and booze just enhanced every bit of it. I made out w him in a corner somewhere before my friends cock blocked me and hauled me back to base. I remember feeling sad and lonely since I would never see him again Till I heard "hey there sexy. Didn't think I'd be seeing you here." Seeing him made my heart leap and my body almost burst w happiness as I springing up and hugged him. We spent that night and many more nights together, but we didn't work out cause of my dumb ass. I didn't want to come out to my friends or my family and I never told him I loved him. Sadly, it's these type of things I think about while drunk and married. I loved that fucker and my own pointless fears and conceptions kept me from holding the one person I feel like I truly connected w and loved. If you are reading this and haven't come out yet or have fears please take my advice and do what makes you the Most happy. It's not worth living the dreams of other people and be a shell of a Human living purely to make other happy. It hurts and sucks. I found and lost the a person I loved more than snything on this earth(including my twin) please don't make my mistake and piss it all away for someone else
If someone stops texting you, how do you react?
Just a curios question on how you guys handle when you texting someone new on grindr or another dating site, and they randomly stop responding after talking to each other for couple days.
Uplifting story to share in the light of so much negativity in the press.
I stumbled into a very happy day for me as a gay man in a time where I am seeing so much negativity toward LGBT in the press. Thought you might like to share in the joy.I recently finished our last band camp for the ultra-small, über-conservative town I work for. One of my students (graduated senior) volunteered to use his truck to help haul instruments back to the school. We both ended up jogging across town at the end of the route to get it.While we were jogging, he asked me if I was married. I hesitantly told him no, and asked why. He mentioned my ring - the one my bf got me at our first Pride and that he saw my recent FB posts (only friends once he graduated). I gave him one of those "ahhhh...so you know" looks and he just laughed and said it was cool and that he was really happy for me.It made me feel really good to hear that the youth is not always the spitting image of the adult population who spew hate and intolerance. I think we have more hope than we know. :)TL;DR - student found out I was gay, told me he was really happy for me, I have more hope for the future now.
2015. július 30., csütörtök
HELP! My father just CAME OUT OF THE CLOSET
Sorry for the OMGSHOCK title. I'm really shocked.Now, let me say I'm gay myself. I'm a 18 y.o. awkward male with no friends and very introverted. My father is 51 next month.I must say I kind of smelled it. When he moved away from my house, he told me about a friend, who I later found out (internet sites...) to be gay. I was suspicious how he told me about this friend, who fostered two gay man who met online for their holidays so they could be together. He's also told me how last week he went to the town's first Gay Pride parade and how he had lots of fun. I thought that he simply had many gay friends and that he only thought of those things and fun. He also told me that he will tell me to go with him and his friends next time (no ty Im not into parties).A few minutes ago - He just came out to me. He says it was hard. My parents are -pending an agreement or a judge deciding - divorced and started so around two years ago. He thinks he was happy those years with my mother. He also adds that he isn't happy now. My grandma is very ill and he has very little money but would need a new car etc.He also went on a bit commenting how he hates tags, how being hetero or homo is stupid, and how he was always different about his sexuality.Right now, I have a few concerns. I hope you can help me with them:I know at some point, he will talk to me about sexual stuff. I don't want to talk about that. Not because he's gay, but because he's my father. I don't want him to ask me if Im dating someone or if Im a virgin (I probably will be for many years to come at this pace).How can I be supportive? He will want to talk about gay things (i.e. going to bars. I mean "gay-lifestyle" things whatever that means) with me, but I'm super out of touch with anything related to that. He will probably want to share many stuff with me, and I'm not all for that. Im NOT homophobic with my father. I wouldnt want him to tell me about sex with girls either if that was the case! I don't want to hurt him.Help!
Love
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I'm 28 and Brant my ex-husband just turned 39 in June, need relationship boundary advice as he has a new boyfriend and we can't legally get divorced! Ugh, Gays!!!
I am turning 29 in December and Brant my ex-husband just turned 39 this past June and well there is a complication on us leaving off on good terms and the help of advice on how to approach boundaries would be nicely put for help!We been together since 2002, which is twelve years since I was 16 and he was 26'ish and then we got married in 2009 and didn't rush things like most people do when it comes to life changing decisions. Well here is where things get interesting, I was born and raised in the UK and came to US in 1998 and now hold dual-citizenship and he was born and raised in Indiana and those two upbringings are totally not alike at all and so for the first many years it was culture barrier after culture barrier and misunderstanding and explanations, you know basically the time to truly get to know one another. In 2002, we met by chance and no intervention / website / mates and it all started from there and finally in 2005 I moved up the SF are to go to University and then in 2007 I bought us a house in Nob Hill as he wanted to still live in the City and not up near my Campus at Berkeley or Davis and so I commuted. I dropped everything and bought us the house I currently own still in two weeks when the last month of both our leases was due to lapse. I dropped my life to make it permanent with him in SF, no questions asked! Well we got married in 2009 and then when I started flying to/from London and Manchester from Dallas and Los Angeles in 2010 as a Purser for American, things went sour a bit. I would take lots of trips and stay several extra days anytime I could back home in England (Raised in Chorlton in Greater Manchester, which is what I am told is like a 'suburb' of Manchester) and I would come home after seeing family and mates with a thicker accent which he could never truly understand at times, slang that he just agreed to pretend knowing its meaning and the missing of home and thus longer trips home whenever I could and then in January 2012 I decided that I wanted to move back to Manchester or Cardiff and live for a few years and then I got the courage to ask that of Brant. I simply one night when he got in from work. that since I dropped all and made it possible to always live in the City of SF and not East Bay or across the Golden Gate if he would come with me and live back home in the UK for a year or two and then approach the subject, he simply told me that was not going to happen and to not bring it up again and then told me a bit later it was going to be a huge culture shock and that he would not subject himself to that. So then the next day I left for a five day trip to the UK for work, I got into London and FaceTime called him and told him that I think its over and that we need to discuss moving forward what the plan is when I get home in four days time. Well, fast forward a bit... I moved to Dallas and bought a 2-Bedroom flat in downtown by the awesome above the freeway park, an extra bedroom if he wanted to ever visit. I effectively told him and put in writing that I would never evict him and that per the prenuptial agreement he gets a situated out lump sum of assets and can't ask for anything more of me in the future. So the not having to pay the yearly taxes on the house in SF or any of the bills and that was an added bonus because i did not want to live in SF anymore and his entire life is rooted there. Well, it gets better... We are both active Catholic Church members and my family are also hardcore at that, so divorce in my family and for us in the eyes of god is not in the cards. So we have chosen to stay married as he says that he isn't going to get married again and I doubt I will find another great guy like him, minus the culture clash issues. So now he has a new boyfriend and has for 2yrs now and that boyfriend was just over 18 when they got together and I do visit SF occasionally and I have my own bedroom and keys and such... The boyfriend doesn't know the bills and property taxes are all in my name and I pay them (House was paid for in full when buying it) and so it is awkward when I am there and not fitting in... Get's a bit better... Me and Brant still do love one another, just are realistic that we are not working or going to work after the hangup on my culture and upbringing and way of life I prefer, yet when I visit and his boyfriend is at work, or not there as sometimes I tell him to go to his parents up in like Richmond for some days... Me and brant will cuddle and we will fuck (no protection, he is legally my husband) and then do the stuff we used to do together like meals, going out in the city, the zoo and shit like that together. We don't do the romantic things like hold hands or kiss in public or that. I mean we still have joint car insurance, he drives my car I left up in SF when I am not using it when there, he uses my free spouse flight benefits with American anytime he wants, I come up just to see him sometimes, we are each others emotional support and crisis go-to person for each other and there are several topics that I would only speak with him about and nobody else in the world...So, Proper boundaries for the ex-husband I can't morally divorce... that I fuck with sexually, cuddle and go out together with, go to each other for emotional support and crisis situation help and shit...Any boundary related tips or advice would be nice and I know I should stop those things, but with someone for 13 years and so intertwined you stop and then it still just happens some how!!!<3 Austyn
2015. július 29., szerda
Why do my fellow gays cat call flamboyantly?
So this is something I can't quite wrap my head around. So my roommate and I are both gay but he's very flamboyant and I'm not. We can be driving/walking down the street and if he sees a hot guy he'll do that standard "Heeeeeeeeeeeeey" in his normal upspeak tone. I am perplexed by this though. If you're a guy on the street your greatest odds that he may actually be interested fall on that he's bi or gay and closeted or not. If a guy is closeted there is no way he's going to respond publicly, he's only may respond off of non-verbal or non-upspeak verbal communication. If he's bi or gay we know that generally in our community (as detrimental as this may be) the more flamboyant we are the less we are openly pursued. So if you're playing the odds to try to get a hot guy's attention that you know nothing about, wouldn't you always want to default to doing a non-upspeak way of grabbing his attention or letting him know you find him attractive?
How do I know if I am gay?
I am 16 and I wank about 1x daily and I recently discovered gay porn out of curiosity and I watched and just couldn't help myself but get down to it. Most of the time I will watch straight but it felt so good all of a sudden. Is there some sort of definitive answer? I can't seem to find anything helpful on google.
I'm MADLY In Love (unrequited) And I Don't Know What To Do.
Uggh, you guys, it's killing me. Not like, oh, I'm a little sad killing me, but more like... I can't stop thinking about him, I want to spend every waking moment with him, I feel as if my soul is crushed killing me. He consumes my every thought.A few short months ago I met a man at a local industry specific outing. He was charming and cute and charismatic. Little did I know the effect he would have on me.He came up to a table where I was sitting with a few other people and engaged in conversation. This is normal given the event we were in attendance of (we're both in the film industry and we were at a weekly film crew event).I of course immediately noticed that he was handsome. In a rugged way. As he talked I became excited and attracted. You see I'm a production designer and costume designer (I design sets and costumes for film and tv for a living). As he was talked he revealed to us that he was new to town by way of L.A. and that he was a prop maker. Equate hearing that to something like a music history major being able to go back in time and hear Mozart perform his 5th symphony live. Learning that someone is a prop maker is like music to a production designers ears. This was even more exciting to me as I had a prop that I REALLY needed built.So, needless to say I was now even more enamored with this rugged piece of male anatomy that was sitting in front of me. The night went on. I told him of the project for which I was looking to hire someone and he was excited to learn more. We exchanged information and he proceeded to forward his resume the following day.Long story short, I hired him. I can't lie. There was most certainly a bit of attraction that played into my decision. However, there was also a good bit of consideration of his skill set that played a part in my decision. He'd worked for a few phenomenal companies in L.A. that I'd also worked for. So I was sure the quality of his work would be up to par.Fast forward a bit. After working together for a few weeks we were alone, sitting in the space that I'm designing. It was a random night. Somehow we started to discuss the topic of living situations. Realizing that, to this point, I'd never asked him where he resides, I popped the question. "What part of town do you live in?", I asked. Not knowing what a blow his answer would be. He replied, " I don't live anywhere". To which I replied, "What do you mean?". "I live out of my truck", he said.I sat there for a second and tried to take that in, process it a bit. What did this mean? Was my handsome, hardworking hire seriously homeless?!!! My heart caved in on itself. I couldn't BARE the thought of him not having a place to lay his head after a hard days work as a craftsman. Not having a hot meal. Where did he go at the end of the day? What did he do? I felt as if though I'd been punched in the gut.My attraction to him immediately grew that much stronger. As we talked about his situation I grew to admire him for his tenacity and strength. He drove across the country with only the money he had in his pocket and a dream. A dream to pursue a career in the field that he loves. Needless to say I was enamored.A friendship was born. Our relationship took a turn that day from employer, employee (not that I ever really saw it that way), to simply friends. I respected him soo much for showing up to work every day, ready to work and not letting it show; not even a little bit. Had he chosen to keep that part of his life private as opposed to telling me about it I would never have known. I admired him dearly for that.I'm a nurturer by nature. It's within me. I can't explain it. I wan't nothing more than to have someone that I can care for and shower with affection and tenderness. I want to do your laundry, I want to cook for you (all of which I do for him). I want to massage your back. I want to massage your feet after you get home from a long day of work. I want to take care of you. I wan't someone I can try to shield from all the pain and suffering this world has to offer. As is such, the information he shared with me weighed deeply on my heart. I couldn't bare the thought of him leaving work every day and being relegated to the confines of his vehicle. He's such a tender, warm and gentle, yet giant (he's freaking 6'5 for god's sake), soul. Why should he have to endure this. I needed to, WANTED to (with every morsel of my being) help him.It just so happened that I was on the market for a new apartment. My wheels begin to turn. Eureka! I thought, what if I get a place that's big enough for the both of us. Or, if nothing more, when I get my new place, maybe I can at least offer him my couch, a warm shower, a cool evening (it's summer in the south); a place to call home. So I waited a few days and shyly asked if that sort of situation is something that he'd be interested in. He graciously replied affirmatively to my complete and utter delight. And so... the search began.I was able to find an absolutely beautiful place for us in one of the very best parts of town. Oddly enough, as opposed to just having a couch in the living room this place also has a murphy bed. It was a perfect fit for what we needed. All was going well.Fast forward to now. All is still going well. We work together. We live together. We spend copious amounts of time together. Probably to a point where it's unhealthy for me. You see I've fallen deeply in love with him. But there's an issue, he's not gay and there's absolutely nothing I can do about it. He's smiley, he's energetic, he's charismatic, he's warm, he's tender, he's loving, he's thoughtful, he's oh sooo sweet, he's not afraid to NOT be seen as macho (even though he really is pretty macho (you know the kind of macho that a man can exude without trying? yeah, that's him, UGHHH!!!)) BUT... he's not gay.He was and is soo warm towards me but again, NOT in a gay way. I believe that it has more to do with the fact that he's a creative soul than anything. Even though they might be able to build you Mount Kilimanjaro, creative men just tend to be softer, emotionally speaking. That's what makes them such beautiful souls.As his "bedroom" is in the living room there are times where I get to sit and watch him sleep. God that drives me wild. He's such a big man (again, he's 6'5). To watch him, all curled up like a little angel, as peaceful as can be, takes my breath away. It's like nothing I've ever seen before. Everything about him, his mannerisms, his demeanor, his little temper here and there, his machismo, his unforced manliness, drives me wild.I've never felt like this about anyone in my entire life before. SERIOUSLY.I guess is doesn't help that I also have lived a pretty sheltered life as it pertains to all of, "THAT stuff". I'm a 32 year old man and I've only ever had sex once, I've only ever been on one date, HONESTLY; and for the most part I've always been a bit overweight. So I feel like for the first time in my life, I'm feeling what so many others experience in adolescence. In my adolescence I was too busy struggling with growing up as a heavyset, gay, Jehovah's Witness so I had no time to even remotely think about, "all the things". My "things" were enough in and of themselves. I'm also simply just a hopeless romantic with old fashioned standards. So the thought of random meaningless sex devoid of a real connection was and will always be unfathomable to me.So here I am. MADDDLY in love with my new best friend. Someone I'm talking about opening a business with. Someone I foresee spending an abundance of time with going forward. How do I deal with the pain of not being able to call him my own? I cry soooo much about this situation (unbeknownst to him). Not just tears but weeping, sobbing, a crippling cry. I'm more down and distraught than I've ever been in my entire life. When I say it's ripping my soul out I mean it's RIPPING THE VERY ESSENCE OF MY BEING APART!!! IT HURTS, DEEPLY and there's nothing I can do about it. I think he pretty much knows the way that I feel about him (though I've never actually said anything to him) but there's nothing he can do about it either. He's not gay. He loves me, but not in that way.Have any of you dealt with situations like this before? Does it hurt so bad simply because it's the first time I've ever truly been in love with someone? Does it get easier? I would really love to hear your advice and thoughts on my situation.
Would anyone care to show your experiences after deleting Jack'd for a period of time?
It comes as a surprise to me that I have yet to come across any LGBT articles talking about whether the removal of dating apps on their phone benefits them.I'm sure we all used Jack'd, Grindr and etc. Recently I had really contemplated on removing Jack'd, deleting my account just to get away from all the negativity and superficiality. I am a pretty DL person and admittedly, my only platform of knowing gay men is through Jack'd or facebook (close gay friends). I don't do gay bars, clubs or gatherings/parties.So I'm essentially wondering if anyone is coming from the same background as I do and has taken the courage to remove Jack'd for that one month or longer. And how has it benefited you?Does anyone have a story to share?
2015. július 28., kedd
Anyone been in a similar situation and can give some advice? Can legal action be taken for this?
So, I was talking to this guy on Grindr and after he and I exchanged some photos and agreed to meet up the next day, he signed off and stayed that way for a couple of days. So, we didn't end up meeting. So today he messages me saying how he got his "beer goggles" off and was glad he didn't meet me, but was glad he got my pics so he could enjoy them and post them online. He blocked me a couple of seconds after sending this. Is there anything I can do? Isn't it illegal to post pics someone sends you to the internet like that?
I'm Gay And I Don't Give A F*ck (Coming Out Video)
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I need some serious help here, please
Ok, I'm 16. I like to play with toothbrushes. Well, my grip was less than ideal and I let it go. Now it's gone. I don't feel it or anything. I even optimistically checked all my sheets. Normally one would go to the doctor about these things, but my parents are pretty homophobic and I don't think they would appreciate this very much. My dad is also a doctor. I need some serious help here people and would appreciate if someone could talk to me here.
2015. július 27., hétfő
Straight Wedding invite on good friends' fridge, our gay save the date magnet and bridal shower invite m.i.a. thoughts?
So I was at a good friends bbq yesterday for her daughter's b day. My fiance calls me into the kitchen and points out the fridge decor. I'm like so what then notice a straight wedding invite hanging (with a vegas magnet bottle opener we bought them, ironically) and ours isn't up. We got save the date magnets, where else would it be, but on a fridge. It had a few pics of us at pride marching for teachers, protesting in the state capital for equality. Why would they put one up and not the other? This is hurtful because we've been good friends for 3 years, work together, hang out often. I've been friends with her longer than this straight person whose invite is on the fridge with our souvenir magnet. Should I say something? How do I approach it. I'm pretty upset. I know we're they're only gay friends, but friends don't test friends like second class citizens. Advice is appreciated thanks.
Found an old video of my boyfriend having sex with another man. I really need some advice.
Ive been with my current boyfriend for a year. He has never shown any signs of being sexually interested in other men. Our sex life is fantastic, and he shows me more than enough attention in that area. The other day I was looking through some of his files (I know this was wrong, but lets save that for another day). While doing so, I found a video that is clearly from when he was younger (he was much skinnier in the video which tells me it must have been at least 5 years old). Im not trying to be graphic, but the video showed him engaging in sexual activities with another man (i.e. being penetrated, giving oral-and doing a great job i might add, and also penetrating the man).The video was shot POV style, so I only knew it was him from the oral scene. He seemed to be enjoying it. Also, the person he was doing it will had fake nails, so Im assuming he was, at the very least, on the feminine side. I tried to bring up a topic that would allow him to give me some indication of whether or not he has ever been curious about men, and he didnt take the bait. I am concerned that bringing this up could result in a huge fight or a break up due to the fact that it is so private and I was snooping through his things.I havent found another ounce of evidence that this was more than a one-time occurance, and he has no gay porn or pictures either.I would really like some advice about what this could mean. Is he bisexual, or was it just exploration? That video keeps playing back in my head, and I really want to understand. I am pretty open-minded, but I just want to know what Im dealing with here.Constructive feedback is welcomed. Thanks!
2015. július 26., vasárnap
[Discussion]"I love the dick" /r/jailbreak Reader Prank/Post = Offensive
As a /r/gay man who reads /r/jailbreak multiple times a day, I was wondering how something this offensive - [Discussion] A fun jailbreak prank I played on a friend - can be upvoted to the top & not be taken down by moderators?
Looking for a relationship in a small town
I live in a small town in Texas and there's a total of ten gay guys in the town and that's about it. I'm really lonely and would love to just talk to someone who understood but there really isn't anyone I can talk to. I'd love to be in a relationship but it's not like it could be public around here. I'd just be happy to have someone to talk about this stuff with.
Meeting a boyfriend in a New City
I'm sure there are others in the same position as me but I feel better about making my own post about it. I recently moved to Seattle and am in my mid 20s. I'm gay but I have never been in a relationship before as I wasn't really comfortable being out before I moved. I really would like to meet someone nice that I am attracted to but have not had a lot of luck since I've been here.I've tried traditional avenues of meeting guys like going to bars or using apps like Grindr. On Grindr, I've really only found people who want to hook up and I never seem to have more than light conversation at a bar.I don't think I'm unattractive (5' 7", 130lbs) but apparently I don't know what to do in terms of flirting or getting a guy to want to spend some time with me.I'm an INTJ personality type so maybe I'm just not good at relationships in general. I've had a very successful career, I make 6 figures, and I'm really good at gaming any system to my benefit. I just don't know why I fail so hard at finding a cute boyfriend and I don't really know where to begin to start building a relationship. It would be so much easier if I could just buy a relationship but then it wouldn't be a relationship.Any advice is appreciated
Meeting Guys in College
I am going to be returning to University in a month's time. Last year I didn't socialise as much as I would have liked. Particularity, I didn't meet any guys. I've only known two gay people my whole life. I want to meet other gay people to make friends or possibly something more. Any input would be helpful, thanks.
I have forgotten how to relationship.
...or how to pursue one, perhaps. Long story short, about a year and a half ago I split with my partner of 4 years. I haven't done much relationship-wise since then, enjoying the freedom of being single and so on.Last night I was invited to a night out by an old work colleague. It turned out old work colleague had invited 2 other guys who were gay and, through some miracle (or possibly just alcohol) both showed interest in me during the night.One of them - let's call him A - is just my type and is the reason I am dwelling on this more than is healthy. He was the first person to talk to me when we arrived (I was surrounded by people I didn't know) and we made out a fair bit after a few drinks.The other - whom I shall call B - is not my type and I have to admit there was no initial attraction. We don't have similar personalities (introvert/extrovert split) but he does seem really nice. I may or may not have flirted with him on the night but this, unfortunately, is the part of the night my memory has decided to delete.Today, after I went home slightly upset after seeing A making out with someone else (I'm aware our drunken make-out session probably didn't mean much but drunk me isn't as rational) a Facebook friend request is received from B. Deciding that I want to see A again, I send a request to him. Both are accepted and I've spoken to them a fair bit.A apparently does not recall most of the night - fair enough, a lot of alcohol was consumed all around - while B remembers the majority of it. B wasn't around while I was making out with A and has been complimenting and flattering me a lot; he's made it clear he wants us to go out again sometime. We've talked a lot about our respective pasts and other stuff and he's easy to talk to. A keeps it simple and I'm not sure my occasional attempts at flirting have been obvious (or effective) enough.I am now unsure of what to do. I don't want to string B along or even think about using him as a fallback in case A isn't interested, because I believe that would be a total dick move.I'd primarily like to find out if A is remotely interested or if that was just the alcohol, but I'm not certain of how to go about it. I could just ask, I guess, but I don't think I'd get a straight answer.Obligatory TL;DR - met two other gay guys on night out, one is my type but I'm not sure if he's into me, the other isn't and definitely is.Any advice? Am I thinking about this way too much? Should I just carry on speaking to both of them and see where it takes me? Do I risk texting old work colleague to ask his opinion?
2015. július 25., szombat
A Friend of mine experimented on me and now I feel bad.
Well, this is a long story, so if you don't want to read this, just go down and there is a tl;dr.I've been living in Turkey for a long time and recently I got the news that I'd be going to Venezuela (my home country) for about 2 weeks because of a family issue. This was great news for me because I got to see all my friends that I hadn't seen in a year. Once here, I met up with all of my friends and it was awesome. There, a friend of mine who I'll call "Adam" asked me if I wanted to get a hickie. Adam and I have had some history, he's always acted really gay, but has always denied it acting like a homophobe. I said yes to the hickie proposal. After two days or so, he calls me, he asks me if I want to go to the movies with him. I said yes, just because I wanted to see the movie (it was Paper Towns). Once in the movie theater, the film had already started, he decides to go for a kiss. I kept kissing. It just felt so damn good. I wanted more and then he just stopped kissing me and said he needed to go to the bathroom. He then came back and finished the film. Then when we leave, he texts me that I was a good kisser, but that he didn't enjoy it, not at all. He said that he was experimenting with me, and I asked him why didn't he tell me in the first place. I haven't talked to him since and I don't know why but I feel super bad.Thing is, we both are in relationships, he's dating a girl and I'm dating a guy (it's long distance so I don't have physical contact). This being my first actual kiss with a guy, it just killed me. It was so perfect.Now, I feel super sad because I want more. I want to feel what I felt today again, and I don't want it to stop. I really don't know what to do.tl;dr: An old friend of mine decided to experiment his sexuality with me without telling me by kissing me without warning. I loved it, felt a connection, but he didn't enjoy it nor felt a connection. Both of us are in relationships except mine is long distance and I want physical contact. I don't know what to do.
Did my buddy try to seduce me? I'm straight...
Alright, so I need some cold hard feedback from you guys regarding a buddy of mine and my suspicion that he's secretly bi and actually tried to seduce me with the help of a gay friend of his.Some background:I've known him for about a year and a half now and we've became pretty good friends. He considers me his best friend and I could consider him the same, despite some reservation to feeling there's absolutely more to his life and story that he's never revealed to me.Anyway, everyone else I know who is straight takes one look at him, or him standing next to me (I consider us both handsom guys) and they immediately think "gay lovers" or in his case he like of looks like a porn star.. The way he dresses and his level of physical aesthetic...etcSome 'flags' -He used to call me almost every single day, and I started to get seriously annoyed with this because I ignored about 80% of those calls until he finally stopped. I thought of this as just part of his personality and need for attention because he lives with just roommates, so I just looked passed it.He got me and a female friend of ours to nearly hook up, and then later on when he invited me to hang out with him and her, he tells me to meet up literally 1 minutes before I can no longer go. When I asked him about it and her attraction for me he denies it, and this is where I started to think "Is he jealous or being possessive over her?".. after all he's close friends with her.I told him I'm moving to another state soon. I think he believes I'm leaving forever. His response was simply "Farewell my friend."Now here's the actual story that has me VERY concerned that he'd actually try to seduce me.He met some new friends who happened to be bi. A few weeks back he told me a little about them, and he made it sound like they're cool people to hang out with. Then one night he invited me to roll with him. We'd done that a few time before, just him and I while being down town where the bars are at, talking to chicks and what not- this is what I thought the night would look like again, hopefully with me and a sexy girl at the end of the night. Anyway, he tells me we're going to hang out with his bi buddies, so I said sure. I drive to his friend's house, and it's immediately apparent the guy is gay. Lets call his bi friend Stan, and my friend Bill.Stan's house is pristine inside. Extremely well kept and designed. We hang for a little bit and then we hop into Stan's wicked ride to pick up our molly. We drink it on the way back to Stan's house again, and by the time we get back there I'm completely in the throws of the drug. I can't remember why exactly we went back to Stan's appartment, but we were there. Bill takes his shirt off because the cool air feels nice, so I do the same. We seem to be waiting for something, and as everything slows down for me, Stan seems anxious, pacing around the house quickly, walking in and out of the house...etc Bill's just relaxing across a sink, and that's when the paranoia kicks in.I immediately start to observe everything, carefully choosing which cups I drink water from...etc All of a sudden I feel the need to puke, so I puke, and I wonder to myself "Was the confusion with which bottle already had a dose of molly designed to put two in me?" Later on Stan walks over does like a quick 1 second massage on my shoulders and asks something like "How ya feeling?". If it were straight guy I'd be more comfortable with that but I'm rolling, with no shirt, and he's gay and he's touching me, and I'm already paranoid... that freaked me out a bit more.I walk over to use the restroom, and the moment I walk over Stan's sitting there taking a shit with the door wide open, while Bill talks to him from the door, looking at Stan as they chat like it's no big deal. I'm immediately repulsed by this and I just walk away like "What the fuckk"Anyway, I can't help but walk and talk slowly, and some how we're back in Stan's car again going to a gay club. I've never been to a gay club, and being a straight guy I actually feel queasy seeing guys hooking up. It just bothers me. But I'm taken by the positive feelings of the molly so I'm just like "Why don't I just learn to be more accepting and go with it. I need to experience a different setting." Then Bill's turning around from the from seat, patting my knee and saying something like "Whatever happens tonight, just trust me. Just trust me with whatever happens." That doesn't really help my paranoia. At this point I'd become suspicious that because he thinks I'm leaving forever, he might as well try to leverage some molly to see if I'm bi curious.I found out earlier that night that Bill had spent many nights at Stan's house. Bill had a decent excuse, but the end of the story will reinforce my suspicion.So we get to the gay club, and I'm not really enjoying myself, having men faintly touch my ass or doing similar things..etc so I get Bill to leave with me to go down town. The entire rest of the night is hard to enjoy with this idea that I don't want to believe.My car's still at Stan's house, so I think "Aw fuck.. They had me drive there to have an excuse to get me back to the house when the night is over."Any touch, gesture, arm rub..etc I'm moving away from them. Bill and Stan's arms rub while they sit next to each other, and Stan stands pretty close behind Bill in certain situations..etcWe get back to Stan's house, the molly is wearing off, I don't get a feeling that I'm being forced into anything, more like 'situationally exposed to availability', so I just sleep on Stan's couch......... While Stan and Bill share his bed.....................In the morning I go to use the rest room, and Stan's bedroom door is slightly open (It slides in and out, it's not a normal swinging door. When I leave the restroom, the door is fully closed.I get my keys and leave.If my friend is bi, I really don't care. I'd much prefer he just tell me and carry on being friends. But if he's hidden that and he's now tried to see what my reaction would be under the influence of molly in his gay friend's house, and by taking me to a gay club (he's been there before with Stan without me).. I'd never speak with him again.What do you think? Thanks for your feedback!
Reversing rectal stretching?
I'm not sure if this is the best place to be asking this question, but here goes:I am 22 years old, and I recently got into fisting about three months ago. I've taken a few fists with a couple patient verses and I don't want to give it up.But I am a little concerned with my hole as it is right now. By no means do I have a good large rosebud, but when I push out without any assplay, I can see much more of my insides than I would like. I've seen other guys' holes and they look incredibly smaller than mine does in the mirror, and they are able to take a bit farther than I can. Now I haven't been bottoming for sex lately, so I don't know what tops think about the tightness, but I'm a little worried.Now, the question is what should be done. Almost everyone says just to do lower body exercises. And truth is, I haven't been going to the gym for about the last month. Some recommend some kegel exercises, too.Those sound like actionable things to do. But I never thought to ask if it would reverse stretching, or if exercise needed to be proactive.Does anyone have any insight? Or where I should direct this question?
2015. július 24., péntek
if somebody is not out
dont try to put them down for it. not everybody's life is the same, and you do not know the other person's life situation. why this is even a thing is beyond me.
"Just Not Gay Enough"
So - as I type this, I know how goddamn ridiculous the whole thing is. That said, I cant help but feel like garbage over it. I fairly recently came out to my entire family (I'm 26 - not relevant, but still) and had a recent boost of confidence due to that.That said, It's been a rough year for me. To explain a bit, while I feel comfortable presenting/identifying as a gay male, I tend to live inside the grey area between male and female because that's where I feel the most comfortable and happy. This has been emotionally taxing over the last 9 months or so and I decided I needed to come clean with my folks. So - I basically came out twice. Once with he whole gender dysphoria thing and then again with "Hey mom, dad, and sister- I'm also really, really into dudes.All of that seems irrelevant but I promise it's not.So - with all the "coming clean" I've done, I felt great. I felt like a weight had been lifted and I was ready to (after a very long hiatus) start dating again. I met this guy through a few friends and we hit it off right away. Same taste in weird horror flicks, adorably geeky, just my type of person. After a bit, the topic of becoming "a thing" came up and I was greeted with "Sorry, man. I like you but you're just not gay enough."What. The. Hell.What does that even mean?!Okay. I'm a 26 year old geek and I'm the farthest thing from a queen. I'm a little rough around the edges and I lovingly refer to myself as an "aging punk rocker." I like art, and comics, and video games.Basically, what does "Not Gay Enough" mean?! I feel like trash. I feel like in a community where it's heavily expressed that gay people come from "all walks of life" I don't fit it. This isn't the first time I've gotten turned down or broken up with where "not gay enough" was cited as reason. I didn't think there was some mould I had to fit into to somehow "validate my gayness."Is it possible that I'm just awful and it's coincidence that "Not gay enough" has been a repeat offense? Maybe.That doesn't take away from my general confusion as to what "gay enough" actually means.Any insight, Reddit? Because I kind of just want to crawl in a hole for a bit.
found a perfect match
on grindr. we finish talking, they sounded excited, im excited.... they never msg again. T.Ti feel like my prefered type of mate is pretty hard to find, and im not even 100% sure what they are... so it sucks alot more that they were really pretty much perfect. also.. it makes me question what is wrong with me that threw them off @.@
Unable to form meaningful same-sex relationships?
Hey, I'm a gay man, 22, has had many sexual partners since coming to terms with my sexuality when I turned 20 (but not like, a ridiculous number of partners). I've dated one guy for only a month and I've noticed that it's become very hard to convince myself to have a relationship. I've been on dates and felt a connection but then we either sleep with each other and we never talk again or we agree to see each other and nothing comes of it. I've stopped using Grindr and Tinder and similar apps in hopes that it may help curb the hookups, but I'm worried that I'm becoming numb to emotional connections with other gay men. Has this happened to anyone else?
My experience in the woods:)
Im currently in the closet and only a few of my friends know, but thats not what this is about. A few weeks ago my friend and I went on a camping trip and ended up jerking each other off and sucking each others dicks, it was amazing:). I always thought my friend was straight but we were messed up and somehow came out to each other and one thing led to another. It started out by me looking up at the sky and saying "I could jerk off to these stars right now man" and he said "you won't whip your dick out." but i did haha. Sorry if it doesn't make too much sense im just really happy i have a buddy who's down to do things with me now;).
Love can't wait, the plane can't, too
Just wanted to share something on the lighter side.A month ago, I met this man who was in my country for a weekend vacation. He has been working in a neighboring country for two months and decided to visit my country one weekend. We spent a few hours before I sent him off to the airport to go back to the country where he's working. We continued chatting and Skyping during the following weeks and eventually decided that I should take my turn and visit him before he goes back to the US before the month of July ends.It was during my visit when we shared our very first kiss and other expressions of our feelings for each other. After more than two days of being in cloud nine with a person I've fallen in love with, it was time to go back home. We had coffee at the Starbucks near the departure area, and I just didn't want to leave him.Thirty minutes before my flight leave, we went to the departure area and hugged right outside immigration. After hugging for a while, we bade each other goodbye and I lined up for the departure area. I looked back and saw him walking away. When I got inside, I looked back again as I was walking towards the immigration counters. I saw him on the other side of the glass walls, walking back towards the walls. I kept waving to him until I could no longer see him.I started to cry a bit in the immigration line, but I knew I had to compose myself. As soon as I got past immigration, I looked at my flight information and it said that my flight was on its last call. I grabbed a trolley and ran towards my gate, which of course, is the farthest one.I ran for a good quarter of a kilometer or so before reaching the gate, which was flashing the sign "GATE CLOSING".I barely made it to my flight back home, and I was out of breath when I got inside the plane.But the thought that I spent all the time that I can with this guy I really like up to the last minute makes it worth it.We plan to keep our long distance relationship for now. I don't know what will happen in the future. But I guess there's beauty in that.TL;DR Visited a guy in another country which might be the last time we'll be seeing each other for a while. We were inseparable up to the last moments before my flight back home, which almost made me miss it. But no regrets.
2015. július 23., csütörtök
Found out my friend who I am extremely attracted to is also gay...
Going to try and keep this brief. I am homosexual, but in the closet still (sadly). A friend of mine who I have known for a long time, and whom over the years I have developed a strong attraction to, recently came out as gay, which was great to hear in all honesty. The problem- he also announced he has had a boyfriend on the go for around a year. Now I have no idea if my friend would be interested in a sexual relationship with me (he doesnt even know I am also homosexual yet) but obviously he has a boyfriend so it rules the possibility out.Problem- we are going on a short holiday together in a few months. If he were single I would make my move- obviously I would do anything so spend the weekend having sex with him, but as I try to be a decent human I will have to resist the urge for advances. The advice I could really do with is: Should I tell him I am also gay, and when? and how am I going to get through this holiday...TLDR; My friend who I am infatuated with recently came out as gay, to my delight- however he has a boyfriend. I have a holiday with him soon and don't know what to do.
Berrien High School of Nashville, GA Against Club for Gays; Club Sponsoring Teacher Speaks Out. [Video]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yg0UsTyaXJ8&sns=fb
Just Wrote Myself Out Of Committing Suicide
I just was about to commit suicide but I remembered this amazing person I follow on twitter who is a former classmate of mine and an excellent writer and poet. Instead of doing something drastic, I decided to get on my computer and write what I was feeling and express myself.I didn't realize I had so much to say, but I wrote six pages, over 1,400 words. I hate writing, so this was much for me. I was crying hard for the first three pages but I was laughing for the last three pages. I got all I wanted to say out and at the end I was really happy and I didn't want to end my life.Before you do anything drastic, try writing. It might help you and keep you alive like it did with me. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
Memoir of a drag queen | Jeremy Grimins | TEDxChemungRiver
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKw9rzBdtxM
Sick of hookups, feeling like shit right now
Last week in Singapore, I met this guy on jackd (a gay dating app) last week, with him messaging me first asking for "Fun?" He sent along a pretty hot pic, and I was bored so just decided to go for it. He came over and we talked for a bit before having sex. the sex was great, after that while I was in the bathroom, he apparently got dressed, since when I got out of the bathroom he says he wants to leave.I was of course disappointed as I wanted him to spend the night, but I thought to myself, "oh well just another one night stand I guess". Come tomorrow, I felt a strange feeling, I missed that guy a lot so I decided to text him on wechat (I found out he blocked me on jackd), asking if he'd blocked me and commenting that the sex was great (lol).He replied and asked me why I didn't ask him to stay. I told him I thought he didn't want to. He then asked me not to see any other guys and said he missed me, to which I replied the same too. It felt weird, I felt that he liked me back. So we set up another meeting for a day later.We continued texting each other on wechat, he said he wanted to know more about me. He even searched for plane tickets to come to my country (Myanmar) from Taiwan (his country).The second time after sex we talked for a long while about many things before drifting to sleep. It felt amazing and I found myself growing on him, I really liked that guy at that point.A day later, he left Singapore. We continued texting like a couple, saying things like I miss you and updating each other on what we were up to. We were a couple in anything but name.But two days ago from today he stopped texting me abruptly, and I even texted him twice but got nothing as my only reply. I saw him updating his Wechat wall with some events as well and just suddenly felt so stupid. Why did I even think anything could develop from a "Fun?"? I feel heartbroken and dumb. Anyone else has any comments/similar experiences?After this has happened I promptly put "NO FUN" on my jackd profile. I kinda got bored of fun and am looking for a relationship based on love and trust, but seem to have fucked up majorly instead. Was it stupid of me to expect more than anything after we had already left for different countries, or was it his fault for leading me on? What do you guys think, r/gay?
Going in a date, plz gib advice
So I finally got around to getting tinder and things went much better then expected. One of my first matchs and I instantly started talking and things went very well. Well enough to add each other in FB and set a date. Now I'm gonna be honest, I'm 18 and have zero, and I mean ZERO experience with dating and all that. Now I'm pretty social but I just never had the opportunity. I've explained this to him and he's 100% supportive of it and actually thinks it'll be more fun because of it. But I'm not one to make a fool of themself so I was hoping you fine gents could give me some advice.Thank you in advance as I work 3rd shift and will not be awake much longer :)
Eviction due to sexuality?
So I live in Kentucky which for the most part is bassackwards as can be when it comes to moving forward. I live with mother and take care of her because she's disabled and in a wheelchair most of the time. Recently we moved into Housing Authority controlled apartments that have wheelchair access and much better handicap accessibility. I've only recently been open about my sexuality with anyone other than her. I have a rainbow flag I'd like to hang on my wall and other things that would give away my sexuality, but here maintenance comes in twice a month whether we're home or not to do various tasks and I'm scared shitless that we could be evicted on some religious freedom crap considering this state and this super small very conservative town. I could easily trash/store this items, but that feels like being ashamed. Any advice, random thoughts?
2015. július 22., szerda
Gay marriage might ruin my life please help!
I've been living with the same roommate for almost 5 years now (we are both male). Since gay marriage is now legal do we technically have a common law marriage? If so do we need to get a divorce? Can he take half my stuff? I'm not queer i swear! Please Help!!!
Need Advice
So I went on a trip last weekend with my best gay friend. Only gay friend for that matter since I loathe gay people usually. They are so fickle and superficial. Anyways. I crush on my bestie hard. He knows how I feel. I met someone the day we were heading out and we clicked really well. My bestie tagged me in a status and the guy I had been texting saw it of course since we had just added each other on facebook and shit. Long story short he thought my bestie was more attractive and cut of texting with me to text my friend. I rarely meet gays I click with. So this pissed me off, especially because my friend knew I liked this dude, knows how hard it is for me to meet people, and HELLO WERE FUCKING FRIENDS. Friends don't do that. So we do our shit over the weekend and then once its done I go off on my friend. He says I over reacted and I should see it as an opportunity for him. I see it as there would have been no opportunity if it weren't for me in the first place and I don't like the idea of him pursuing something with someone that so easily brushed me aside for something as simple as a higher physical attraction. So I gave my friend the choice of our friendship or the possibility of something with someone he's only texted for a weekend. Other friends say I should just cut my friend off anyways because of past incidents where he says things that make me feel like shit. Like he's okay with me sucking his dick whenever, but if it comes to sex it's like I'm a horrible person for even mentioning the idea. Some friends say he's playing games and doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't want me because I make myself too available for him. All I know is I do love my friend deeply, romantic feelings aside. We've talked about everything and he says he won't talk to the dude and our friendship means more to him but he's upset I'm making him choose since there's a chance he could click with the dude but I'm just like why would you want to click with someone who shoved me aside and treated me like shit and unfairly. Advice?
What to expect at a gay bar?
So I turned 18 (legal in Canada) a couple months ago and haven't been to a gay bar yet. I also just realized it's been a year since I broke up with my high school boyfriend about a year ago now and I've been pretty lonely so I wanna meet someone. Like, for real meet someone, no hook-ups. So, what should I expect?
What to expect at a bathhouse
Hi. I'm a pretty inexperienced guy hoping to change that soon. I've thought about paying a visit to my friendly neighborhood bathhouse but am just a bit nervous about what to expect. I've poured over the establishment's faq and learned the do's and don'ts but that hasn't given me a very good idea of exactly what to expect. I realize there is a fair amount of sex occurring within but is it an orgy. Is there a proper way to signal to strangers what I might be into? Is doing things in public areas forbidden or is that part of the charm?
First hookup tips
Hey guys, I'm about to meet for my first gay hookup here in a couple hours and was wondering if you had any advice for me. I've been curious for a long time and have used a dildo on my ass a lot in the past but have never done anything with a guy. Is a dick a lot better than a dildo? I have lube and condoms. Any recommended positions? Tips for sucking cock?
Advice on coming out to straight friends
Hey guys, so first time posting on Reddit. Sorry if this is too long.So I am 21 years old, with one foot out the closet (2 people know so far). I feel like I am ready to blast that closet door wide open, and start fully living my life. Actually I lie, I am no where near ready to tell my parents yet. But one step at a time I guess.I told my best friend last year, she was very accepting (as I knew she would be). It's been great to finally have someone I can truly be myself with, even if it is online, (she moved to a different city this year). Came out to my brother a few months ago, he was fine with it too. Although we haven't talked about it since.I feel like I am ready to come out to all my straight bros. I go to uni with them. Spend most of my day with these guys as we are all doing the same courses. I've known some of them for over 2/3 years, and few I've only met this year.Recently I find myself feeling guilty about lying by omission / hiding my true self from them. Especially when conversations come to girls.I am pretty certain they would be accepting. I live in a pretty socially progressive country (New Zealand), where being gay is usually not that big of an issue. I know one friend that might be a little... homo-ignorant?Only problem is I don't know how to go about doing this. I feel like it would just be awkward if I randomly/casually mention it. I was thinking of changing my wallpaper to the LGBT flag and go from there once someone notices it lol. I mean it would certainly bring up the topic.Any advice on how I should bring it up? What to say/not to say? Any advice in general would be helpful.TL;DR: Need advice on coming out to straight friends.
I think im gay but idk?
So like i was hangin with my buds one day and i just found myself extremely attracted to a friend ive known for several years Whaddayidoooo?
2015. július 21., kedd
Educate me: Did you turn to homosexuality because you're so attached to your mothers that you couldn't allow yourselves to break that bond by having a relationship with another woman? [Serious]
I mean, if you didn't have a very "present" father to absorb your mothers' needs in infancy, perhaps that's how come you can't be free, and settled your sexualities towards men instead. Does that work?
First gay sex relation.
Any advice for it? I feel tempted since long time. I think it will be a quickie.
(Nsfw) Enema tips for sex?
I'm probably going to buy an enema for a cleaner sexual experience and I was wondering if anyone had any tips/stories they could share to help. Thanks!
Anyone Else Saving Themselves?
I feel like I am the only person who is not into hookups and is actually waiting for someone special. Everybody else has lost their virginity and is having sex like people throwing beads at a Marti Gras Prade. I feel like if your not having sex a lot or even within the gay community, not hooking up with people or experienced, you're looked down upon. I get made fun of because of this and it actually pisses me off that people don't respect my choices. I am no way hating on people who are into hookups or hating on someone owning their sexuality, but are there anybody else saving themselves for someone special or marriage?
I'm terrified of going out to meet new guys
TL;DR: The title of this post is just aboveMore detail: I'm a 22 gay guy. I've been out to everyone since I was 18 and my whole family and all my friends support me. I'm also really accepting of the fact that I'm gay to the point that I would not change it even if I were ever given the choice. I just like guys too much. .-.I've had one serious, long-term relationship that lasted 3 and a half years and ended earlier this year. Held hands, kissed, sex, all that kind of stuff. Before that I didn't exactly do anything with that. First kiss was with a girl at a bar when I got absolutely hammered at 16. Second kiss was with a guy when I was drunk at 18. Held hands with a girl I was in a relationship with at 15. But that's really all.My problem is that I think I have some form of social anxiety. I'm ready to move on and meet new people and maybe date again if I like the person enough. But I can't get over this crippling, nauseating feeling when someone asks me to meet them. So I haven't met up with anyone yet. We talk and when they ask to meet I feel like my whole body has run cold and I start shaking and feeling as if adrenalin is pumping through me and I have to tell them I can't and I feel bad because they usually get annoyed even after I explain why I can't.I don't even know what's so scary about meeting them. I think. I'm always, always worried that they aren't going to like something about me. I know most people would tell me "it's not that bad. Just get over it" but, to me, it's like, you're not going to tell someone who broke his arm to just get over it because that does nothing. I don't know if that comparison is exaggeration or whatever but it doesn't feel like it to me.And I guess I'm terrified because I don't know how to hold a conversation. How do you talk to someone consistently? I don't want to try make them have to do all the effort of making conversation. And when I try to talk to people about their interests a lot of them will say "chilling with friends. Partying" and then I have no clue how to ask more about that. This post is a mess, is this even making sense? x-x I'm also scared because what if they try kiss me or want something more. I'm fine with that stuff but I worry that I can't do it properly because I don't have experience. I really have googled how to kiss and everything. It's so embarrassing x-xBut yeah. I guess I'll try summarise what I'm looking for. Mostly, I just want to get over this horrible fear of actually going to meet people. And I want to learn how to keep a conversation going with someone. I'm not very good at doing that but I want to be. I want to show people I'm interested in the and what they do but I don't know how when I don't et much to work with.I'm sorry if the formatting sucks, using my phone. 😋
Should I and how should I approach my friend?
So I need some advice on a situation I'm having so I'll write some background and then ask my questions.So I'm gay but in the closet. However I just found out my best friend from middle school (we've haven't been in touch since middle school) is also gay but out. I just found out because we're both doing internships abroad now in the same country and I ran into him on the street. Anyway, he invited me to "his club" which I found out from some friends is a gay club he goes to. Frankly, I'm not interested in going clubbing, but I'd be interested in seeing him maybe for dinner. We can't start a relationship since we live far away now and won't see each other past the end of the month, but I'd like to maybe engage in something sexual since I'm not out and I want a chance to finally try something.So, is this reasonable or am I shallow or something? Should I reach out to see him for dinner? Is it completely stupid of me to hope for a one night stand if I open up to him? I've never had sex or anything so I don't know if this is me wishful thinking and being perverted or if I could actually see him and maybe do something. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.Also, if it's relevant, I don't even know if we'll click in conversation or anything. It's been years and he seems a bit different so I don't know if we'll click like in middle school.
2015. július 20., hétfő
Websites and apps to meet people?
I am moving from a decent sized city to a college town in 2 weeks and I want to meet more people - friends, fwbs, etc - but so far have had issues finding other guys online. I only use Adam4Adam and OKCupid, but was wondering if you guys had suggestions on other sites to meet people with, especially since the only guy I was getting to know had hi profile suspended and I now have no way of contacting him. Suggestions?
Not a Rainbow Life.
Hello everyone. It is about 5am here. Tomorrow is my exam. Can't sleep. And I have something to say. This is my first post on this sub-reddit. It's gonna be a long and hard one. Also, English is not my first language. Please be gentle.I am 22 years old guy from Europe and for a year or two now I am really struggling with my sexuality.I have always knew I was gay. And I was always very fine with it. I skipped the whole "not accepting myself" and "dating girls" part. Just always knew who I was and was very proud of myself and always positive and optimistic about it. Even when I was closeted I always tried to defend LGBT community when I heard someone is saying bad things about it. And believe me, I live in a place where almost everyone is homophobic. Been bullied a few times but I am very strong. Volunteered in a local LGBT organization for a short time. In a place where even gay guys are homophobic I was a kid that was a beacon of reason. I would say, and my friends would agree, that I was VERY optimistic and chill person. One of my friends said "Every time I see you, you make my day better". I was just that one guy that was always positive. Had a lot of dreams of carrier success, travels and beautiful romance.And somehow, In the last two years everything changed.At this point of my young life I became so dark, sad and hateful. (yeah, another sad and hateful gay guy, judge me, I can take it) Beside the fact that my educational goals (going to American college), career dreams (making it in a music industry), love life dreams (having one) are crushed because nothing of it ever came true, The worst thing is the fact that I really despise being gay now.Why?Well, I have never, ever, been attracted to another gay guy. Ever. Live, on TV or internet. All my crushes were heterosexual man. I know str8 crushes are a common thing but I think my brain is taking it to the extremes. No matter how much I know, or don't about the guy, It always turns out that he is str8. I was in love once and that guy was my str8 friend from high school. No matter how masculine gay guys can be (and some gay guys are really masculine) I just do not get that same energies from them. I am just not attracted to anything gay man have to offer as a potential partner. This is not a auto-homophobia or not enough acceptance, It's just a personal preference. I don't know what it is, I did not chose to have such a taste for man, It just so happens that str8 man have something that gays don't (and vice-versa). I met MANY gay men, had dates, long talks, dinners, going out, friendships.... doesn't matter, It is just not IT. Can't get joy out of it. Can't feel attracted to any of them. But unfortunately when I meet a guy somewhere (faculty, pool, coffee shop, hanging out with friend, gym...) and I am really attracted to him in every possible way - It is always a str8 guy. Always.So, I am still waiting for my first boyfriend. First relationship. While everyone around me is in a relationship or is getting out of one I am still waiting for my first. It is kinda depressing.Even worse thing is that gay sex is gross to me. (TO ME) Gross in a way that toping is not attractive, fucking guy in the ass, and smelling that weird smell of ass+lube. No matter how clean he is. Just the fact that it's the ass... man, I lose my hard on in about 5 minutes. And when you bottom... man, just a HORRIBLE experience. Nothing enjoyable about it. Just a constant, horrible pain. Feeling like you are endlessly shitting. And it's dirty. I don't wanna see shit. And I don't want to have to put hose in my ass to clean my insides few hours before every time I want to have sex. I love man. And I am very sexual. It's just, anal sex is not a good experience... but I need sex. I think about it all the time.All the sex I had, I had just because I was horny. I felt regret after every sex I ever had. A lot of time I would watch heterosexual porn because I find penis + vagina part very beautiful and str8 porn actors are so attractive.When I get sad or lonely I go to YouTube, as I am sure lot of you do to, and try something from this world to cheer me up or something that I can relate to. Looking for gay vlogs, "What Would you Do" vids with gay scenarios, gay couples, songs........... but I just can't find a gay couple or theme that I can relate to. Everyone loves that couple Mark and Ethan...And I just don't care. It looks so good but feels so alien. Gay culture... all those divas, pop, bars, fashion, denials, hate... I really can't relate to any of it.The fact that I live in a very homophobic country where we don't even have Pride parades is just a horrible bonus. It's so dark that I don't even like going out anymore. I spend my time in my room playing video games, watching reality TV, hanging out with my cat and working out.I can't even find some in my community or online that has same problem as I do. I can't find YT clip or some article that talks about this... Most gay people love every part of gay life and enjoy it.... love, good sex, happiness is a common thing for them... but for me, every day is a battle. Every time I wake up I feel sad that it is just another day of nothing. Most people will just not understand because they don't walk in the same shoes, will say that there are bigger problems in the world or will just judge me and say that I ask for too much.In the last two months I started thinking about the extremes. I started thinking of changing my sex. Maybe If I was a woman everything would be much better. And the crazy thing is, I don't want to be a woman. I'm not trans. I like my manly body, I don't mind being man... but, you know.I just don't know what to do and I don't think there is much to do. Maybe I should try my best to find little bit of happiness in materialistic part of life. I don't know.I don't know... Am I alone in this, can someone relate?Life is going to be hard for me.I am lost.
I'm Sorry
TL;DR: I ruined a guy's relationship that he had with me by ignoring himDisclaimer: I changed the name of the people in this story so I don't out anybody.I was 16 my name is Jacob, I was friends with a girl in my class named Robin. During this time I was noticing I had some gay tendencies, and confided this fact to Robin she said she knew a guy that was looking for a date in the school. That day I did something I normally didn't do, I faked an illness to get out of the classroom and go see this guy. His name was Greg, he was mind numbingly cute. He had the "gay lisp" that most found annoying but it made me crazy for him. We talked for a while outside of his classroom. We even kissed briefly and nearly got caught. He wasn't my first kiss, but I still remember him after 15 years. We exchanged numbers and decided to meet at a movie theater. I don't remember the movie we saw but I do remember two things. 1. We made out a lot during the movie (probably why I don't remember the movie). 2. We took pictures together in the photo booth. Our second date was at my parents house they didn't know it was a date. I was so at ease with my new sexuality no more pressure and found a great guy. I told my parents about it and they were ok with and I was talking with Greg every day on the phone. I never told my brother not because I was afraid but because it wasn't his business. He was the one guys I expected not to care, I couldn't have been more wrong. He came home after finding out and screamed at and tried to beat me up. He said I was an abomination and I wasn't his brother anymore. I failed Greg that night. Ashamed of who I was, and what my brother had said I did something really stupid. I broke up with Greg and ignored him, I never gave him a reason for the break up and I hurt him. I hate myself every day for that. If your reading this Greg I ruined us I'm sorry. Don't let hate stop love.
What should I do about this !?
So at work there is this guy and we keep looking at each other but he works in a different department then I so I don't get to talk to him that much which really sucks. But we keep looking at each other and saying hi or what's up to each other when we pass by one another. Now I think he's gay but I'm not sure. But I really want to start texting him to start to get an idea of what he likes but I don't know how to ask him for his number in a way that wouldn't seem creepy. Can someone please help... I suck at this shit haha
The Echoes
When I was a kid it seemed the only thing that ever made me feel better was retreating from my world. This practice became a ritualized indulgence of despair in the shower. Things arent like they used to be, so why do I still feel that way?I wanted to be someone helpful. Somehow along the way that dream twisted into a nightmarish subsistence of avoidance. Now I'm a blank canvas, unlined paper. But sometimes there are reminders, a rip or a tear. I think hoping I would belong left me hopelessly deluded, because I didnt. So the little things are all I have to sort through.And some of the happiest times I have now seem like glimpses of the intensity of the feelings I used to feel. Of the happiness I used to think I could have. And almost always Im only ever reminded of my humanity when it comes to being gay. And I never turned out to be very good at that, in my course of gay exploration I was refused by everyone. People do feed on positivity, after all. There's nothing to say for being nothing.I wish I had a chance to go back and at least tell a few guys I actually did love them. The worst part is knowing that it doesnt matter now. I had so many chances but I couldnt rise above my own sinking feelings. And now I get a bit of mental clarity as my sexuality wanes from desperate inattention.Without the reverberations, the feedback I put into my own memory, I would very much think that in essence my story is already written. Ive spent a couple years "finding myself" and now I think there really isnt anything to find at all. Like in the movie Coraline where the belle daume stomps the floor and everything blows up into lines.Well, I havent been very true to myself, the boy that once was. I think humanity has a mental failsafe for times of despair, I feel myself caring not for myself more and more, like a slave to my own nature. Go to work and go to sleep and all that.I think, if only I wasnt gay! But then I dont really know what that kind of life would be like, I had always thought I built myself on my interactions with the guys Ive loved. I think the only hurtful thing is the cruelty of the situations I always ended up in, those guys couldnt ever love me. Why would I lie to myself so much? Why cant I just have lived for the self, asked myself what I wanted?I know theres no answer for me, never home again. I just wish I could tell a few guys, get them to understand how important their affection was to me. I dont even think any but one of them was actually gay (only because he told me he thought it was easier to like guys than girls in confidence on only one occasion).Was that supposed to be enough for me to live on? That same ripple in time, worn out moments? Dont let a chance to take someone's hand and make it real pass you by. It beats living a life without touch.
Advice Needed
There is this guy that I like, but I am not sure that I want to go out with him. We live relatively close, but once the summer is over I am going to Canada for school. It's about an eight hour drive from Illinois, which is where I am currently. I'm not sure I could date someone long distance. Additionally, I may not be coming back to Illinois next summer. I may stay at school for summer classes or just find a job in my University town. I've also never gone out with a guy, so I'm a bit nervous about that whole thing as well. Any advice would be helpful, thanks.
2015. július 19., vasárnap
Am I the only one who gets super turned on by cologne?
So I'm 18 years old and in the closet, and yesterday one of my hottest straight friends and I were hanging out and he had to change so he took off his shirt and jokingly threw it at me and I swear to god the smell made me just melt. I fucking love cologne, especially mixed with a day's sweat.
Erection frequency question
I started to Gym and get some testo from the trainer now i am having like 15 erections a day, is it healthy?? Im 27FS
Accidental bareback experience, cognitive dissonance... NSFW text
After years on Reddit, I'm finally creating a throwaway for all the sex stuff I can't really talk about with anyone. So here goes.I have this hugely annoying elephant in my life that is sex. I'm early 30s, pretty in shape, slimmer side, probably medium looking.I want nothing more sexually than to bottom for a sensual, passionate top. The problem? Pretty sure I've set the world record for tightest hole. Barring some major surgery, I will never in my life be able to have spontaneous anal as a bottom. I can practice and work up to it, but it takes me at least an hour to get ready in perfect digestive conditions on a given day. Even then it's not guaranteed. I've had one guy tell me before I'm built different down there, I think there's more curving or something going on that makes it tough/impossible to fit some penises in there.So that leaves topping. I'm not usually that into it (would prefer to be power bottom as mentioned above), and whenever I put on a condom I lose my hard on, the sensitivity seems gone, so I just avoid topping, too. Here's where my story comes in, and where I experienced something bizarre/cool/scary for the first time.Last night I broke a long dry spell, and it was fucking amazing. The guy was cute, passionate, sensitive, and just wanted to keep on going. This stuff never happens to me, I'm probably going to remember that for a long time. We were having that good a time without any anal, it was incredible.At one point he turned over, and I got into rimming him. Then I was grinding my penis over his ass, just back and forth kind of lubed up from the sweat. Well, apparently he's the opposite of me, has no tightness, and at one point he started making some other noises, I felt this amazing sensation, and I realized I had just accidentally penetrated him bareback and did a couple thrusts inside him.I've always been totally anti-bareback unless in an LTR, but what I couldn't believe was how AMAZING it felt. I didn't want to stop when I realized what just happened, because even that one thrust was incredible, but I knew had to pull out.I asked him if he had any condoms, he did, so I put one on and try to do it again. Hard on totally disappeared, didn't feel anything like the first version.So basically, I never top, have never barebacked cause I know it's irresponsible, but I do it literally for a couple seconds and it was amazing.I don't know. I don't even have any question really. I just need to get this stuff on my chest, and I don't know where else to go. At the same time I feel so irresponsible for loving it, cause it would tempt me in the future, but I need to wait till I'm in a committed relationship for that.I just wish sex were more anatomically straightforward for me.
Trying out a new gay subreddit-help jump start it with me!
I am an openly gay police officer and I have lamented the lack of a national org that helps gay cops get together and chat and share stories, victories, defeats, etc. So with a few key strokes I created r/gaycops. Maybe it will take off, maybe not, if you feel like helping me getting the ball rolling, please pop over and drop a link on there. Thanks!
WOOOOOOO
After YEARS of questioning my sexuality (I'm 20), I finally feel solid. I can say to myself, "Yes! I am bisexual!"Because I really didn't know. I knew I liked girls, that was easy. Sex came easy and I knew I liked it. But even after fantasizing about being with guys for YEARS I wasn't sure if I was bisexual because I'd never tried it.Well I met a guy online and had a blast. And you know what? It's so freaking nice to think about having sex with guys without it being this big frightening deal, or being some crazy fantasy that I'm not even sure I want, it's just something I can do! There are so many more options now! Woman AND men!I didn't even realize how the uncertainty was driving me nuts until it went away.I just needed to share this. Thanks.
2015. július 18., szombat
Dealing with closet homosexuality and social anxiety?
I've just came out to my friends via facebook message. I don't want to send my parents a facebook message but my social anxiety is really preventing me from telling them...Has anyone had an experience with this? :)
Help a Gay Scout!
http://ift.tt/1GtmA5I My name is Joe G., and I was heavily involved with the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) for many years. I am an Eagle Scout, and Vigil Honor Member of the Order of the Arrow (OA). When I was in scouts, Joined the Order of the Arrow, Scoutings National Honor Society. I never knew what I was getting into. The OA became my family, Shaped me to become the man I am today and it saved my life. If it wasn't for my brothers in the Order, My type 1 diabetes would have gone undiagnosed until it was to late and I would have succumbed to a diabetic coma. The first people I came out to were my brothers in the OA, and they supported me and elected me Lodge Chief of our Local Lodge. I served on the Lodges's ceremonial team from for 7 years, until the culture wars hit home. In 2011 I left the Boy Scouts of America due to their Ban on Gay Scouts and Scouters. the people who supported me throughout my scouting career were now joined by people who were equally hateful as my friends and mentors were helpful. I did not feel I could be in the BSA without hiding myself again. Now I am the Chapter Lead for the Scouts for Equality organization in my Council helping make the BSA an equal place for all. This year, 2015 marks the 100th Anniversary of the Order of the Arrow, it also marks the possible day discrimination ends in the BSA. On the 27th the BSA will be voting on whether to lift the ban. unfortunately this comes too late for most gay scouts and scouters who had dedicated their lives to scouting and the order before the ban started to be more regularly enforced, This means when the conference starts August 3rd, that not one person affected by the ban would have been able to register to attend the 100th Anniversary as an official participant. Even if the ban is lifted, SFE has more work to do making sure every scout has a safe and inclusive unit and to educate the BSA on LGBT issues. That is why I intend to go up to the Campus of Michigan State University, in East Lansing Michigan, and celebrate with my brothers the end of this ban. I want to be there to distribute information for Scouts for Equality and thank an organization that has been so critical to my life. This is in fact a once in a lifetime oppurtunity. Unfortunately, medication costs make it hard to save money for such a trip. Not to mention, as a diabetic I can't skip any meals to help pay. I would not be asking for help if I could do it alone. That is why any money not spent on the trip will be donated back to the Scouts for Equality nonprofit. If you would like to make a donation to SFE directly please do so here. http://ift.tt/1IVP9fy I thank you from the bottom of my heart. With loyalty in Brotherhood and Cheerfulness in Service, Joe G.
AZIS - Evala / АЗИС - Евала - Bulgarian and Turkish
https://www.youtube.com/attribution_link?a=ki-eLuqFc5s&u=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D385k7GE-e20%26feature%3Dshare
Any of you boys saw Magic Mike? How did you like'em apples?
would like to hear some review about it from this sub.
Lonely significant other (M53)
After 14 years together, I feel so alone as a partner in a gay relationship. We have a wonderful life, but the connection between us has slowly dissolved over the years. Our sex life isn't what it was - although it never was 3 times a week thing. Now, it's once every three weeks. I feel very depressed and alone. Where did my best friend go? Where is my soul mate? I'm 53, so I'm looking at the rest of my life and wonder if this what to expect? I want to make the most of my life, not feel like I'm watching it slip away.
2015. július 17., péntek
I need dating advice.
I'm 19 male and bisexual. I knew I was bisexual since I was 14 or so but never really tried to date guys because I didn't want to get picked on in school. Now I'm out of school and want to date who I want man or women. But I have gay friends and they are telling me that dating a male is totally different then dating a women. So what is the differences? Thank you.
First gay bar date -- need help
Okay so I'm recently out of the closet and am going to a gay bar with a guy I've been seeing and have no idea what the etiquette is for dancing with your parter. Someone please help!
Why can't we help each other?
Why can't us, gays, just behave our fucking selves and stop with the "types"? I'm really tired of those less-feminine gays picking on the feminine ones and vise-versa. Can't we just understand that in every sample of humans, of any size, there will always be diversity, whether we fuck the same gender or not? Don't we have enough problems coming from conservative institutions already? Gosh. Seriously, let's just fucking celebrate diversity and stop with the "what kind of gay are you"! We're all gays and that makes us fight for the same rights, so hold hands and sing I Will Survive, god damn it!
Which type are you?
From my understanding,there are 2 types of gay men. The 'boyfriend' and the 'girlfriend'. The girlfriend type of gay men doesn't have to be girly,but has that soft spot in them,like girls,and the boyfriend type of gay men acts like the man of the relationship,simple. So,which type are you guys? Im the girlfriend type haha!
I need style advice please..
Hello, I'm Skyler. I'm recently single and back to the dating world. For the past 7 months with my ex boyfriend, I've had my hair slightly grown out to around 2-3 inches in a fauxhawk for him. Before hand I'd had it shorter, closer to just 2 CM. Which looks better? Which will attract the guys more hahahaha. Perhaps you even have a different idea for my hair? LongerShorter
Need advice
I'm thinking about coming out but am not sure to do it before or after my senior year in college. Advice?
2015. július 16., csütörtök
Hey, In need of some advice.
I'm under the age of 18, (17 to be exact), and I'm not into just hooking up. I was wondering if there was a easy way like an app or something I could use to meet people my age, and talk to them. :\ I live in a pretty empty town, so no clubs around here. Thanks, Gay Male
Help this gay couple drive across the country!
http://ift.tt/1gEsFay ^15 years ago, in third grade, I met Mary. We immediately became best friends, hanging out literally every single day. You would think after that long we would have grown annoyed of each other, but that never happened.In 2012, Mary and I had to part ways for a while because she joined the military. It was a rough time for the both of us, but we wrote letters, and talked on the phone as much as we could, so that made it a lot easier.She's visited home between now and then, but it wasn't enough.That's why, on June 15th, I made a surprise visit to see Mary. It was the perfect time because I was off for the summer. She was so surprised and happier than I could have ever expected.My first night there, we realized our true feelings for each other. We were in love and we have been for a while now.So, as a new gay couple in the world, we want to go on a vacation together. It's always been a dream of ours to drive across country. And that's exactly what we are going to try to do.We have a little bit of money for our trip, but not nearly enough. If you guys could help us in any way we would greatly appriciate it! Anything helps!If we get enough donations ($500), we will be posting pictures every day during our trip on this Facebook Page: http://ift.tt/1HBSdvE Name on fb is differentLove always,Maria & Mary
Could anyone link me articles of churches performing their first gay marriages after the new ruling?
I'm looking for some news articles highlighting and talking about churches performing their first ever gay marriages. The larger the church and the more well known the city, the better. Thank you all!
2015. július 15., szerda
Songs associated with the gay rights movement?
Hey all, I'm a [gay] classical composer working on a project, and I'm wondering if anyone knows of any songs that are historically associated with the gay rights movement. I'm looking for something historical and that is to the gay rights movement like what "We Shall Overcome" is to the civil rights movement. Does such a thing exist?
[nsfw?] help
ok so ive had a crush on my friend for a while and i was gonna ask him to jerk off w me but idk how to bring it up without sounding creepyn should i even ask at all or is that a bad idea?
Straight but gay porn
I always and exclusively prefer women in my walking life and love girl on girl porn. But a few times a year i randomly get a hardcore urge and spend a weekend on a gay porn marathon. It gets me so hard and I jerk off like seven times a night during those splurges and I spend all day thinking about it. But after 2 - 3 days this goes away COMPLETELY and it does nothing for me and it's back to vaginasIs this just human nature or why does this happen
I think I'm bi, but I don't know
I've never been romantically attracted to a man before. Every single crush I've had has been on a woman. The issue is that gay porn turns me on a lot, sometimes more than straight porn. The image of an erect penis on a ripped male gives me an erection. I've had fantasies about men. After I "do my business", I feel really grossed out about it. Am I gay?
STUNNING hypocrisy on gay wedding cakes. I need you guys to explain this to me...
I'm a gay male. I'm not personally preparing for marriage but nonetheless I shouted "VICTORY!" when Christian bakeries were rightfully punished for refusing to bake gay wedding cakes based on their personal beliefs. My thought is if you are running a public business you must cater to all who request your services, and if you cannot do that then you shouldn't be in the business you are in. The gay community and our allies rained down on said bakeries with a righteous fury, letting them know we will not stand for intolerance.But.... what about Muslim bakeries?A straight comedian (whom I have no love for, but nonetheless) went into 13 Muslim owned bakeries and requested they bake a gay wedding cake. Of course, most refused. My question is: why the hell aren't we DOING anything about it??! The media won't cover it, social networks aren't littered with the same calls for justice that were demanded when Christian bakeries refused service, and no lawsuits have been filed. Now, if you don't think ANY bakery should be forced to go against their personal beliefs then that's your right to feel that way - BUT if you voiced any outrage, any condemnation whatsoever at Christian bakeries (or any other comparable service like photographers, florists, ect.) then the same disapproval should be directed at any and all religious public business to not discriminate. It's infuriating to me. There's no logical or good reason why one religion should invoke our ire but not another.I'm trying to get a group of people here in my community to band together and start ordering gay celebratory cakes from local Muslim-owned bakeries, and if they refuse, take legal action and cause the same shitstorm everyone did with Christians. You cannot stand for one and not the other. You can call me a pot-stirrer but the reason I'm pushing this is because it's literally unfathomable to me how the media and even my own gay community (if aware) can ignore this kind of blatant hypocrisy.Am I right? Should Muslims be exempt? Why? Why is no one making an issue out of this? It's literally sickening, and I've decided to make this my personal crusade. Join me, talk about this because, just like myself until today, hadn't even considered this until I saw that video, which while the creators of it had a different agenda, still pointed out a glaring problem. Now that I'm aware I cannot stand idly by. Please help - even if it's upvoting to spread the message. This needs to be discussed and addressed. Let's band together and start testing this. Discrimination cannot exist in the public sector under any circumstances, and ignoring this is ignoring bigotry.
2015. július 14., kedd
[Repost] Research team needs your help to better understand how love and connections of all kinds affect health
I am part of a research team at The City University of New York. We are passionate about the physical and emotional well-being of people across the entire spectrum of human sexual and gender identity. We'd love your help! Complete this 30-minute confidential survey if you:Are between the ages of 18 and 65Currently Live in the United States or U.S. TerritoriesIdentify as lesbian/gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, or otherwiseYou will be helping us to expand the state of scientific knowledge about the diversity of human relationships and the impact of these connections on health and well-being!Some participants will receive gift cards of up to $100 for participating in the study, as a thank you.Click here to begin: http://ift.tt/1DfK3Hu research has been approved by the Institutional Review Board of The City University of New York. The primary investigator is Margaret Rosario, PhD. You can contact the research team at healthandlovestudy [at] gmail [dot] com.
Religion restrictions
Hey guys! I'm 14,and gay(obviously). I discovered my sexual orientation when I was 10 years old(attracted to male friends). I am a Christian and believe that it is wrong to engage in sexual activities before marriage. The problem is,in Christian,marriage refers to man and woman,and never mentioned about same sex marriage. I really want to get married and have a stable relationship,but I'm scared if it goes against Christian teachings. Please help me! What should I do? Any help is greatly appreciated!
2015. július 13., hétfő
DTR advice? Exclusive?
I met a guy on okcupid 4 months ago. We've been seeing each other and spending the night every other week. After about a month we both deactivated our okcupid accounts. Recently about 5 days ago on my birthday a friend sent me a screenshot showing the guy im dating reactivated? I'm really starting to get sad. He's been on twice since then. Tomorrow I'm meeting him for dinner. I feel like I need to define the relatiobship now or else I'm going to be stressed and sad about he whole ordeal. I texted him today asking if he still liked me and he said yes.How should I go into tomorrow about bringing it up the whole determining what our relationship is between us?
May be moving to Utah...
Hey friends, I have several potential job opportunities within my company, the most promising of which is in Orem, UT. The town borders Provo, which is where BYU is located, and about an hour south of Salt Lake City, which I understand is relatively progressive, compared to the rest of Utah. I have a lot of preconceptions about Utah, not the least of which is its conservative and Mormon reputation!My company is very progressive, so I have no worries there, but I am very happily out of the closet and I have no intention of going back in!Does anyone have a sense of the gay community in Orem/Provo, or if there even is one?...x-post from askgaybros...
If my BF and I were to get married, neither of us have anyone to ask to be our best man.
The rudely morose thought sprang to me as I stepped out of the shower. And now I'm in a nasty funk. Although we both have always had trouble making and maintaining friends, I would've thought that by now, in our mid-/late twenties, we'd have at least ONE. Blah.
2015. július 12., vasárnap
Two guys pretend to be gay in Russian streets. Check out pedestrian reactions (LOUD at 0:14) x-post from r/videos.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgm3lb9JUU0
I need help!
Ok so I used a throw away because I get nervous about maybe being bisexual. Anyway, I am a 19 year old male going on my second year of community college and throughout high school I had a few girlfriends and they were all sexually involved relationship and I loved it. Well I am really kinky and love to try pretty much anything and I have always wanted to try sex with another guy but I get so freaked out to even ever try. I live in a very very small town because I moved out of my parents house last year and I don't want everyone to find out if I turn out to be gay I am in a huge Jesus family. I thought about using grindr but I'm scared if people find out. Basically I want to try it so bad but I don't even have a beginning idea where to try and I am incredibly freaked out. What should I do?
Came out as bi and that wasn't the whole truth
I told my mom about a year ago that I was bi. She was surprised, but not upset. She didn't get it how I could like both boys and girls and I just shrugged and said "It happens."Well, that wasn't the truth. I exclusively like girls. I cannot ever see myself with a man. I want to tell my mom, to tell her I am actually a lesbian but I don't want her to be mad. I feel like she might this time around just because she hates it when I lie to her.How should I go about this?
Guy I'm Dating Reactivated OkCupid Account??!!
So I've been seeing this guy for over 3 months and him and i haven't been seeing anyone else. We both have been intimate about one month after dating. We are both shy guys and guess you could call us introverted. he is a chatter box when we are in person but outside of that we don't talk on the phone and send like 10 texts a day and a couple snapchats. I usually don't text much (unless im into someone then i look forward to texting them or hearing from them), which i dont feel is the case on his end he usually will take forever to respond like a whole day or reply like for 8 minutes then dissapear. He says hes a bad texter which i've notice when im with him as he rarely ever picks up his phone throughout the day. We usually see each other maybe 2 or 3 times a week due to our busy work schedules. Sometimes him or i will spend the night if our schedules aren't as busy also. We both met eachother on okcupid and each of us deactivated our accounts about a month after seeing each other. We still haven't talked about the whole boyfriend subject yet (i get nervous about bringing it). Recently one of my friends sent me a screenshot showing that he reactivated his account on okcupid and it says he "replies frequently." What do I do? I feel sick to my stomach I feel like maybe im boring him now? Maybe he feels i've been taking to long about the bf/exclusive talk? We are going to be seeing each other in 3 days, idk what to do. I understand he maybe just went on to look at something as he hasn't been on in 3 days (yes i had my friend look). Have any of you dealt with this problem? What was the outcome?
Relationship trouble.
I'm sorry if this is inappropriate for this thread, but I have basically nobody else to talk to about this, and nowhere to go for advice. I'm scared this problem will either end our relationship or contribute to it. Again, I'm sorry if I do or say something wrong.I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now, and we've lived together for four of those years. Generally speaking, we get along well - we have the same/similar interests in games, movies, shows, etc. We've been generally happy without a hiccup except for one. We had just moved in together and he and I both ended up cheating. In my case, I had two one night stands that he found out about by looking through my phone (shitty of me, I know) and in his case, he started cheating on me right around the time we moved in together (about 3-4 months afterward) and it went on for about a year and a bit. He found out about my cheating right before finals week of our third year of being together, so about a year and a half of living together. He was understandably upset and confronted me about it. When he did, I was angry at myself and wanted to leave. When I thought about the reasons I cheated, I came to the conclusion that I did so because I felt he was neglecting me physically. When I tried to initiate anything sexually with him, he would tell me he wasn't in the mood or he'd physically rebuff me. This went on for about a year and a half until my fuck up was revealed, then things cooled off even more between us.At the end of the year, about two weeks after he found out about my cheating, he went home to visit his parents for Christmas (he lived across the country from me) for a few weeks. When he was gone, I was cleaning the apartment and found a used condom in the bathroom garbage (which we almost never use because of cats). He and I have never used condoms before (firstly because I'm allergic to latex and secondly because he was my first, as I was his), and I immediately knew I hadn't been crazy about my intuition that he was up to something, and so I confronted him about it via Skype. He finally admitted to it and why he was rebuffing me made sense finally. Ironically, I felt better about myself physically because I knew then it wasn't an attractiveness thing.When he came back home, things were much better between us and we were pretty happy except for a few problems with one of the guys I messed around with. Those passed and that was that. How this all ties in with my current situation: I am mostly a bottom (75%-85% of the time) and I enjoy doing so. He claims he is versatile and enjoys both at near 50-50. Whenever it comes up that I want to top, however, something comes up or he makes a joke of it and flips me. The other day, I tried to initiate on him and he made a comment about how that's all I ever want to do. It seems small and he may have been joking, but I'm pretty sensitive about it because I'm shy and kind of insecure because of all the issues surrounding it. In any case, it seems to me he never wants to (the last time we did was over a month ago, and we've had sex 2-3 times per week since then with me bottoming exclusively during those times, and the last time I topped before that was three or four months prior), but when I confront him about it, it's always a huge fiasco because he insists he does. I'm afraid to bring up the subject again because I'm afraid I'll snap and leave.Thank you for sticking with me this far if you have, and I'm sorry for being so long winded but I felt a lot of background was necessary. Again, I'm really sorry if this is in the wrong place but I didn't know where else to go.
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