"Just Not Gay Enough"

So - as I type this, I know how goddamn ridiculous the whole thing is. That said, I cant help but feel like garbage over it. I fairly recently came out to my entire family (I'm 26 - not relevant, but still) and had a recent boost of confidence due to that.That said, It's been a rough year for me. To explain a bit, while I feel comfortable presenting/identifying as a gay male, I tend to live inside the grey area between male and female because that's where I feel the most comfortable and happy. This has been emotionally taxing over the last 9 months or so and I decided I needed to come clean with my folks. So - I basically came out twice. Once with he whole gender dysphoria thing and then again with "Hey mom, dad, and sister- I'm also really, really into dudes.All of that seems irrelevant but I promise it's not.So - with all the "coming clean" I've done, I felt great. I felt like a weight had been lifted and I was ready to (after a very long hiatus) start dating again. I met this guy through a few friends and we hit it off right away. Same taste in weird horror flicks, adorably geeky, just my type of person. After a bit, the topic of becoming "a thing" came up and I was greeted with "Sorry, man. I like you but you're just not gay enough."What. The. Hell.What does that even mean?!Okay. I'm a 26 year old geek and I'm the farthest thing from a queen. I'm a little rough around the edges and I lovingly refer to myself as an "aging punk rocker." I like art, and comics, and video games.Basically, what does "Not Gay Enough" mean?! I feel like trash. I feel like in a community where it's heavily expressed that gay people come from "all walks of life" I don't fit it. This isn't the first time I've gotten turned down or broken up with where "not gay enough" was cited as reason. I didn't think there was some mould I had to fit into to somehow "validate my gayness."Is it possible that I'm just awful and it's coincidence that "Not gay enough" has been a repeat offense? Maybe.That doesn't take away from my general confusion as to what "gay enough" actually means.Any insight, Reddit? Because I kind of just want to crawl in a hole for a bit.