2015. április 30., csütörtök
My attempt at poetry
I wrote this poem with a friend in mind who has helped me get through some tough times. This is my first attempt at writing a poem without it being an assignment at school, so.. I guess let me know what you think.The Letter JSome letters come and goSome letters never stayA, E, I, O, U and sometimes Y.The letter J thoughit’s differentThe letter J never betraysit never backstabsit stays the same.F you can never trustA you may never knowG you may come to closeThe letter J is acceptingThe letter J is trustingThe letter J is consistent
Homosexual anorexia/bulimia
Are eating disorders more prevalent in gay culture and have you or someone you know gone through or going through something along those lines?Personally as a gay male bottom I eat less cause it makes preparation for anal much easier. Do any of you have similar thoughts or go through such acts of starvation-purging etc. And those who are going through this or have overcome those behaviours what are your thoughts on the subject?http://ift.tt/1gjOZhm
Looking to internet date with my BF
hi all I live in the US, BF in south Africa. we can't meet up in person. So i was going to have an internet date with him this weekend. Problem is, i just dunno what to do. Its our first real date so I'm just a bit inexperienced. We both love video games but we don't own many that both of us has. So do you guys have any ideas? Thank you in advance
Please, just hear me out.
Hi. I'm here to start a CIVIL discussion. I am anti-gay marriage, but I am in full support of GLBT rights/non-discrimination laws.Sounds a bit weird, doesn't it?Here's the thing - I fully support your sexual identity, I 100% support anti-discrimination laws, I don't care who you want to fuck, I don't care what your sexual interests are. To me, those aren't problems.My problem is redefining marriage. I have always truly believed that marriage was for pro-creation. All religion aside, that's my view. I don't see why it's imperative that gay people are allowed to get married. I don't know how to explain it any further.IamwellpreparedfordeaththreatsbutthisisjusthowIfeel.
I'm a closeted gay in the Navy. If I get married will my chain of command know after I file with personnel?
So I was planning on getting married, but my big concern is that my chain of command will find out I'm gay. I'm not closeted with everyone, but I'm more comfortable at work if nobody knows. Has anybody gotten married in the military, preferably the Navy, and is your chain of command privy to the details (i.e. The name/gender of your spouse)?
What are the personal thoughts and behaviors you thought were perfectly heterosexual and cis when they really weren't?
Just saw an Askreddit thread that got trolled so I thought I'd post the question here.
Dating is hard.
Hey folks. First time posting, so don't hate me.So, I've been single for a looooonng time. I'm fine with being single, I'm very independent and I've been dating on and off for the past couple of years.I'm sure a lot of guys, other than myself, do the whole internet dating thing. I'm not the kinda guy to go out on the scene, so I feel like it's the only place I'll actually find a guy, not to mention I don't drink alcohol.I have been on dates where there isn't that spark, but I'm kind enough to say that it's not really gonna go any further than friendship.I've been on a couple of dates with a couple of guys in the past, and then I start thinking 'maybe this could work, there might be something going on here', but before I know it, he blows me off, can't see me, is busy, has no money, or plain looses interest and drops off the face of the earth.Now, this doesn't just happen to me, right?I know I'm not exactly the best looking guy, having the best looking body or the biggest penis in the world, but sometimes I couldn't even get a guy to look at me if I stuck winning lottery tickets all over me. And no, this isn't a 'feel sorry for me', but more regaining perspective.Thanks for reading and hope to hear from...well...anyone! :)(And a little image of me)
How can I reverse my transsexualism?
I was born a man. When I was 18, I sincerely thought I was a woman inside because of how feminine I was, and I started HRT.I've grown up a bit since then though and matured greatly. I no longer feel like a woman. I was an attention whore who fooled myself into believing I should become a woman because it was what the gay society I looked up to wanted. I'm a man who made a horrible mistake. I fortunately did not get a genital reassignment done.If I stop taking the E, will everything eventually go back to normal?
Should I get my 13 year old brother a lifelike doll?
He is gay and very depressed about being alone and a virgin.He goes to a big school, but there are too few gays there for him to find a boyfriend.I know of a place to get lifelike dolls with realistic anatomy.
2015. április 29., szerda
Gay Online Dating
Alright so I'm new to this but have got some amazing advice from reddit before. I'm a LTR oriented country loving gay man who wants a good relationship. I don't have time to go to gay bars and let's be honest those are just hook up locations. I want a good relationship and have not got a clue where to go online to create a profile and start my search. I could use some help!
Got caught in the act... by my dad
Ok so it happened friday night around 4:30 am to 6:30am we're drunk and we're going at it really... uhm rough... he's the top and I'm the bottom (i'm noisey) we forgot my whole family was in the house and well.. my dad walked in and now he wont look me in the eye (I see his point, I'm literally on top of my boyfriend shouting) he's one of my biggest supporters in my family but no one wants to see their children having sex. anyway... advice??
so like I've got AIDS - this is why you get tested and treated early!
I'm a 25 yo gay guy in Ontario.And no, not just HIV+. I've been HIV+ for somewhere between 6 and 11 years now. No, AIDS, like, full blown AIDS. Like a viral load of 450k and a CD4 of 190. Like I've got PCP infection, it takes weeks to fight off minor skin infections, and the doctor said I have a real chance of dying in the next 6 months even with treatment.I moved from a situation where I couldn't afford meds while living with my parents to living in a small town and I didn't have a GP. I didn't know where to turn so I just sort of gave up. I even stopped seeing the specialist I did back when I was still living at home. I just sort of stuck my head in the sand and ignored it, didn't do my blood work, didn't see my doctor.When you test positive at 19 "dead without treatment before 30" seems an awful long way away. I just kinda pretended this day wouldn't come, but it's here.So guys, this is why you get tested early and follow up when you do and start medication right away. If you have barriers to getting care, fight them. Move if you have to. The alternative truly is death.I'm not even that afraid of dying, I'm just sad and disappointed at myself for having wasted so much. Even in the best case scenario I've probably shaved years if not decades off my life.tl;dr: You can still die from this motherfucking shit. Take responsibility for your life and get tested and treated early.
I always hated to be judged the way how I act.
Recently, a close friend of mine, had a conversation with her friend talking about my sexual orientation, whether I was gay or not.So when her friend said "is he gay...?"My close friend replied "well isn't it kinda obvious"So she told me about the conversation she had with her, and I asked about what's so obvious about me being gay.So she told me that they way how I act, being soft.So I told her straightforwardly, that I was offended, but she meant that in a "positive" view of soft, of which I can't even imagine of anymore due to the reason of my living environment where my family criticize me of having this flawed characteristic by being a male, which supposedly be strong, brave, and so on.*Take note that I never see myself as a flamboyant/feminine guy. Just a normal guy.
Why is the Daddy/son fetish a thing?
It seems so werid that I see a lot of posts and ads for people looking for an older man (50+) or a younger guy (< 30). Just thinking about having sex with a man as old as my own dad just makes my skin crawl. Now I know I have my share of werid kinks so normally I don't judge, I don't even judge you if told me you do this, but I want to know what the appeal behind it is?Sorry if this makes you upset, I swear I don't judge/ hate you if you do this.
Would you let your gay 14 year old boy go to band camp and room with another gay 14 year old male friend?
Looking for honest answers. No rude responses please.
2015. április 28., kedd
Im becoming confused about my sexuality, can you help?
Growing up in high school I found myself staring at womens boobs becuase I was jealous they had them. I only had crushes on guys though (and oh,man, were they major crushes). I have only dated men and can only imagine myself dating men. Aside from the occassional checking out a womens chest because I was jealous of boobs, I never really questioned my sexuality. I was emotionally attracted to men very strongly, and physically as well (though I don't exactly like the sight of pensises, I only like the way they feel). However, in the last year or so (Im 27 btw) I started having what I can only call attraction towardswomen. I notice pretty women on TV, and I actually get mini orgasms sometimes just from looking at them. This all started when my fantasies took a turn for the kinky. I would imagine myself having sex with a man in a crowd, or allowing strange men to please me, or being a stripper. Gradually I included fantasies with females becuase nothing turns me on more than seeing a man being turned on and feeling his desire. These fantasies became more and more common. When I think about the idea of having sex with a real woman though, I don't like it. I find vaginas gross (though I don't think pensises are attractive either...) and the idea of pleasureing a woman seems so foreign and weird to me. I wouldn't want to touch her, I would only want her to touch me. And I also think that what turns me on about those senarios is the idea of a man being turned on. In fact, sometimes I imagine I am the man. These fantasies have gotten to the point though where I am starting to find women attractive all the time. I worry I will change from straight to gay and I don't want to have to leave my bf whomI love very very much and do find attractive. Is it possible to be emotionally only attracted to men and only want to date men but be turned on (and sometimes more so) by women? What does that make me? Do I need to leave me bf? I'm just confused.When I really think of it I think I am more emotionally turned on by men but I can not deny that I am physically turned on by women and sometimes more so.
Gays I need your help!
Ok I need help and I don't know what to do. My friend is gay. He's so comfortable with his sexuality. But he's 6'4 and weighs pounds. He acts happy around me but I know he's actually really sad. He's never been with anyone and hasn't even had his first kiss. He can't exercise due to a disease he has. I think he's giving up on everything. What should I do?
AID/Lifecycle 2015 Help me reach my goal.
Hey Everyone!My name is Jahmar and i'm from Phoenix Arizona. From May 31st through June 6th, I will ride my bike 545 miles from San Francisco to Los Angeles in AIDS/LifeCycle 2015. I’ve committed to raising a minimum of $5,000 with hopes to surpass my goal. I have a great start on my fundraising efforts and I would be so thankful to have your support, which will keep me pedaling when I’m ready to give up. With this partnership, together we can accomplish the following:Make a direct impact on the lives of those affected by HIV/AIDS Provide lifesaving medications for those who are not financially ableHelp bring HIV/AIDS to an end through educational outreach and medical researchProvide targeted prevention efforts for high risk populationsYour donation will literally SAVE LIVESPlease take a minute to check out my donor page and consider supporting the cause. Together we can make a huge impact.THANK YOU for your consideration , JahmarTo Donate please visit my charity site @ http://ift.tt/1GFQbi4 2015 BannerTeam Slippery pigs shot1Team Slippery pigs shot2
I don't know where else to post this but I need help, I might have been infected with HIV
Alright, so I had unprotected anal sex (I was top) with a guy who is HIV+ with an undetectable viral load since January, the last time he got tested. He also found out today he has gonorrhea, and told me to get myself tested. I'm uncircumcised btw. The gonorrhea isn't what I'm worried about, I'll just get some antibiotics, it's the HIV. I know the chances of getting HIV are slim to start, something like .69% if you're the top and the bottom person has a detectable viral load and you're uncircumcised, and then the chance of getting HIV from a person with an undetectable load like in my case is even slimmer, something like .004%, but then he has gonorrhea, so the chances would go back up. I'm still going to tell my doctor everything and take any medication necessary, but until then, so I can rest a little more easy, should I be worried about HIV at all since the chance of infection was so small?
Meeting Gay Friends in New City (new college graduate)
So I guess I was wondering how one integrates into the DC gay community or the gay community in a new city in general (general advice not pertaining to DC specifically would also be very welcome! :) ). DC seems to have this dynamic of having a pretty large gay population while still being pretty connected - most gay guys seem to know each other at least tangentially.However, obviously the overwhelming majority are not DC natives and from what I can tell, most gay young professionals moved to DC right after (or soon after) college for job/career purposes. So obviously, just about every gay guy starts "outside" the DC gay community (in the sense that they don't have gay friends in the city yet) and then somehow integrates in.I am honestly unsure about how to do this. I had zero trouble making lots of friends in college. Between dorm living, classes, and friends of friends, I was pretty much handed potential new friends all the time.There are lots of gay bars and clubs in DC. However, I haven't found them to be very conducive to making friends with other young professionals. It seems to be a lot more about drinking with friends you already have and only really branching out to find a hookup (which I mean I guess that's the point haha).The other advice I've regularly seen is to join an LGBT organization like gay kickball or a local social group. The sports groups seem pretty friendly but I am pretty terrible/not really interested in playing sports at all. (skinny twink here haha). My interests are largely current events, cultural, or academic. My straight friends and I mostly just chat and socialize over food and drinks, or explore events in DC - we don't really do a lot of planned activities per se other than enjoy each others company. I'm kind of looking for something like this with gay guys.I've also tried a couple of the LGBT social groups in the area. Maybe I just picked the wrong ones; but most people seemed very socially maladjusted and came off as very desperate/fake in trying to make friends (not trying to be harsh but this is how I felt). I have lots of straight friends (sadly they don't seem to have other gay friends besides me haha) and socialize quite a bit - so the over-eager desperation really just turned me off to being friends with the guys I met in the social groups. I guess because I'm not alone and in need of friends; but more just looking to expand my existing social circle to include some other gay guys who I can hang out with/be friends with.A lot of social groups tended to focus on video games and stuff which I'm not so much into and definitely would not understand 90% of whats going on anyway. Not to knock anyone; but it's really not my thing at all and would definitely not fit in there very well.Does anyone who moved to a new city (especially DC) have any advice on how to meet sociable, outgoing young professional type gay guys who want to go out and have fun?tldr; Trying to figure out how to make some gay friends in DC (or just any big city in general). I have straight friends but I'm their only gay friend so I can't really network through them. The lgbt social groups in the area were full of pretty fake/desperate people. Anyone have any other ideas on how to go about making other "have-their-shit-together" young professional gay friends?
The fight will never truly end, will it?
Regardless of the outcome of the Supreme Court's decision on gay marriage, we will have a fight on our hands, it seems. We'll still have to worry about the neocons in Congress, who no doubt will kick and scream with every legislative tactic they can to reverse equality, should we win. Then there's the state and local religious dominionists who will try their own thing to reverse equality. And if we lose, no doubt there will be an effort by them to really crack down on us further than what they already tried before.I guess that given the situation, I'm letting my emotions get the better of me. Given the behavioral patterns of the neoconservatives as of recently, trying to tighten their death grip on the exclusivity they so enjoyed until recent times, I can't help but worry. If we win, we can expect a swift retaliation and thus have to keep our guards up. If we lose, we can expect them to push their objectives much further than before.Your thoughts?
SCOTUS Marriage Equality Oral Arguments (links in description)
The oral arguments for the Obergefell v. Hodges Supreme Court Case are happening today. The recordings and transcripts are available here:First ArgumentSecond ArgumentI will continue to update the links as the arguments are published.
My In-Depth Summary of Today's Arguments at the Supreme Court
Now that the arguments are over, here would be my personal "executive summary" of what we saw in the arguments in Obergefell v. Hodges, the SSM cases. Note that I haven't listened to the full arguments in-depth with a fine-toothed comb, so this may change mildly if something comes up that wasn't obvious at the beginning.The Conservative JusticesFirst, it's clear that Justices Alito, Scalia and Thomas, the traditionally-conservative justices, are votes against SSM. This was never in question, and it played out in the arguments. Justice Thomas almost never asks questions during arguments, but his previous statements and decisions have been very hostile toward our side. Justice Alito also showed strong predelictions toward the argument that if we legalize SSM, we also run the risk of legalizing polygamy, etc. So he's clearly not on the fence.Justice Scalia has also been very hostile, especially in his dissent in Windsor. What's interesting, though, is his questioning of the anti-SSM side on the second question, whether recognition of out-of-state marriages should be required. He was very adamant on getting an answer about why the Full Faith and Credit Clause wouldn't require such recognition. My opinion would be that he's hoping to eke out some win for the conservatives by voting for out-of-state recognition, in the hopes that he can stave off us winning on the bigger question, of a Constitutional right to SSM in all states.The Liberal JusticesOn the liberal side, it's been clear for quite a while that Justices Ginsburg, Breyer, Sotomayor and Kagan are for SSM nationwide. Ginsburg often "coached" the pro-SSM side with answers, and Kagan and Breyer interjected into a line of questioning by Scalia about whether ministers would be banned from refusing to officiate SSMs if there was a Constitutional right defined. Nothing surprising came up on the liberal side.Where We're At So FarSo we're starting off with a 4-3 score in our favor when you include the "essentially certain" Justices. Chief Justice Roberts was a bit of a mixed bag during the arguments, especially on the question of a Constitutional right to SSM. On the one hand, he indicated that he felt that same-sex couples were seeking to "redefine" marriage rather than join it. On the other hand, he drilled the anti-SSM side about whether a ban on SSM amounts to discrimination based on sex, which would fall under a higher level of scrutiny than simply rational-basis review. The impression that I get from the Chief Justice is that he probably will withhold his vote until he sees whether there is a solid majority of SSM votes on the Court, then will join based on which side he thinks he will have the most influence on when it comes to the opinions.The Kennedy QuestionAnd now we get to Justice Kennedy. All along it's been clear that he is the swing vote in this case, and he certainly earned this distinction in the arguments. At the beginning, during the pro-SSM side's arguments, he mused about whether the Court should go about changing an institution that's been defined a certain way for millenia. On the other hand, he made a very poignant comment about how the number of years between the end of segregation and the Loving case that legalized interracial marriage was the same as the number of years between Lawrence legalizing same-sex activity and the current case.Additionally, he seemingly tipped his hand (in my opinion) by returning to the dignity viewpoint that was key to his opinion in Windsor. He focused on how the institution of marriage is a way of dignifying the couple's love, as well as legitimizing the relationship that parents have with children. He was also hostile to the idea that marriage should be linked to procreation, noting that such an approach would conflict with many states' policies allowing for surrogacy or adoption for same-sex couples.Notably, he was very quiet during the second part of the arguments, which may be an indication that he believes that the first part (SSM nationwide) may be sufficient to resolve the case. Compared to his tough questioning of both sides in the first part, this can be seen (as many have) to indicate that he considered it a pointless line of inquiry, since he may have made up his mind on the first question, which is to require all states to allow SSM.Final SummarySo what does this all mean? In my opinion (and the opinion of many Supreme Court watchers), I would feel confident saying we'll at least get a 5-4 vote in favor of same-sex marriage as a Constitutional right, with Kennedy being the fifth vote. He initially seemed wary of establishing this as a right, but then broke out of this and found a number of ways to link this case with his opinion in Windsor.Could we get a 6-3 decision, with Roberts joining our side as well? It's a distinct possibility, especially if he sees himself as being the arbiter of the Roberts Court's history. If he does, though, it'll likely be to temper Kennedy's push toward the expansion of LGBT rights, by deciding the case on narrow grounds. It would still be a win for us, but it could cloud anti-discrimination laws in the future by sending an unclear message about what level of scrutiny to apply to those cases in the future.With the first question being decided, in my mind, in favor of SSM, I think the second question, recognition of out-of-state marriages, will become essentially moot. If all states have SSM, then it's only academic whether states are required to recognize marriages from other states.So all in all, I think we had a good argument today that will win out in the end. Kennedy wasn't as clear as many people would like with his questions, but I think his comparison with Loving, as well as his focus on dignity that was part of his Windsor opinion, will be what wins the day. We'll likely see a decision on the last day of the current Supreme Court session, meaning that it will be at the end of June on a date yet to be decided. There's a while to wait, but I think in the end it'll be worth the while.A Couple Useful LinksYou can see the liveblog that occurred during the arguments over at SCOTUSBlog. (One of my questions was even answered by the blogging team toward the middle of it! I'm jco22.)(Both links below start autoplaying audio, so be warned.)Audio of the oral arguments for Question 1 (Constitutional right to SSM).Audio of the oral arguments for Question 2 (Requiring recognition of out-of-state marriages)
Am I crazy?
I'm in love with someone with whom I've been having a sexual relationship for almost eight years. When I met him, he was 21. I loved him then but knew he was too young for me (i was 33) at least for anything serious. We used to do dates and stuff but haven't done that for years. The sex is hot though. It only happens when we run into each other through mutual acquaintances though. But I think I wan't more than that with him. Two weeks ago we were having sex and the thought popped in my head "this is MY dick" Then my brain popped in and reminded me that this was not just my dick. I had to stop. Then I almost said the L word to him. But I managed to stop myself but did sleep with him again to completion two days later. I've had my own place for close to three years now, invited him several times but he never took me up on the offer. (he lives in new york I'm in jersey). I stopped asking him over but after the last time, I texted him he should come visit me, didn't expect him to respond but after a few days, he actually did. The thing is, I'm not even sure if I want him to come. I "know" in my head I'm just another piece of ass to him, but can you really have sex with just another piece of ass for eight years. Can anybody provide me with some insight as to what's going on in his head? I'm in the strange position of knowing someone who when I look at them I can tell exactly what they are thinking and yet at the same time I do not know what he is thinking at all. I need a sounding board.
Should I shave?
I'm a virgin but until recently was unsure about my sexuality and I want to experiment now. Most of my straight friends shave their private areas and I didn't know how important it is. What's your preference?
Question about men's clothing styles from a tailor.
Hello all I'm looking for suggestions on a clothing line. A group of tailors and I came up with an idea that originally spawned from women's clothing. Basically we created thicker fabric around the shoulders of a shirt to make shoulders broader and/or wider. Instead of having to have a suit jacket for the extra shoulders we put it into the shirts themselves. That is currently our line. It still looks and feels like a normal shirt. Recently we started to consider making the fabric thicker around the chest as well, or perhaps thicker all over the upper body to create volume. My question is would this be something people would respond well too? our website is http://ift.tt/1HN1HXO if you'd like to see the concept.
Crushing on my friend. :(
So we met in a programming college class, he is quiet and nervous around me but I feel like that is his demeanor, he usually keps to himself around everyone but me. I have talked to him about past relationships and he said he went out with a girl a couple of times but nothing ever worked out. I am trying to figure out how to talk to him about a possible relationship without freaking him out. I have no idea if he is gay or straight. I feel like he is sending me mixed signals. But I don't want to bring anything up and end the friendship. We maintian eye contact and even sleep in the same bed (clothed) when I come over to stay the night. What do I do?? I dont want to stop seeing him and I don't want to ruin the friendship. :(
Live blogging of the Obergefell v. Hodges oral arguments before the Supreme Court starts in three hours
Scotusblog is live blogging the Obergefell oral arguments staring at 10:45 EDT, here: http://ift.tt/1IYB4Of
I have a situation I would like you to help me with.
My boyfriend and I were talking yesterday about having a kid in the future I said I wanted to adopt. But my SO told me that I can go out and get a girl pregnant(I'm bi) so there would be no need for adoption. I asked if he was serious and he said yes because he said I should be able to breed so want to know your guys opinion on it.
Whats your Opinion? the gay people of reddit
http://ift.tt/1DwCHOk reddit thoughts on this cute guy?
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(235 pts, 12 comments)Pat Robertson: Gays Will Force Christians To Like Anal Sex And, Eventually, Polyamory And Bestiality (221 pts, 145 comments)2146 pts, 19 submissions: mepperShit just got real: NASCAR Joins the Ranks Against Indiana’s New Anti-LGBT Law -- "NASCAR is disappointed by the recent legislation passed in Indiana. We will not embrace nor participate in exclusion or intolerance." (287 pts, 22 comments)Mental gymnastics: First Indiana business to publicly deny same-sex service -- "If a gay couple came in and wanted us to provide pizzas for their wedding, we would have to say no. We are a Christian establishment. We're not discriminating against anyone." (209 pts, 100 comments)First San Francisco, now an entire state -- Connecticut governor will sign executive order on travel in protest of Indiana law (205 pts, 14 comments)Michigan: Auto repair owner will deny ‘openly gay’ customers because Jesus -- "Homosexuality is wrong, period. If you want to argue this fact with me then I will put your vehicle together with all bolts and no nuts and you can see how that works" (204 pts, 130 comments)1791 pts, 20 submissions: RedstarXtremeGay Conversion Therapists Claim Most Patients Fully Straight By The Time They Commit Suicide (557 pts, 47 comments)The percentage of Americans saying that gay or lesbian relationships are morally unacceptable is 65% among those who attend church weekly. It drops to 15% among those who never attend church (306 pts, 83 comments)CNN reporter corners Rand Paul on gay rights: You believe in freedom ‘but not when it comes to marriage’ (265 pts, 88 comments)Marco Rubio Just Voted Against Protecting LGBT Homeless Youth In A Sex Trafficking Bill (226 pts, 32 comments)1119 pts, 69 submissions: ZhuangzifreakWhen 'Religious Liberty' Was Used To Justify Racism Instead Of Homophobia (181 pts, 5 comments)Comic: 4 unintentionally oppressive moments that pushed me further into the closet (141 pts, 54 comments)"41 percent of transgender people in the United States have attempted ... suicide .... 19 percent of transgender people report being refused medical care because of their gender-nonconforming status, ... shocking 2 percent have been violently assaulted in a doctor's office." 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If you want to argue this fact with me then I will put your vehicle together with all bolts and no nuts and you can see how that works"175 pts: Flobblem's comment in Friends policing my identityGenerated with BBoe's Subreddit StatsPrev SRSSRS Marker: 1429955637.0
I Hate Cute Straight Guys
So i had this crush most sexiest guy ive ever seen and he was straight (of course) and so i found this new person who so happens to be my friend that also is sexy as fuck and he again is straight, all these cute straight guys makes me mad
Sex with friends dad and I feel horrible, please help
Az összesítés nem áll rendelkezésre. A bejegyzés megtekintéséhez
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2015. április 27., hétfő
"I'm currently seeing someone."
I don't know if those 4 words have ever hurt me as much as they did tonight. A guy I had been seeing a few months back and I had a falling out. And I can't stop thinking about him. And I want him back so badly.So I texted him tonight. And he told me he missed me and that he thinks about me too. And then, after I asked for a 2nd chance, he said it:"I'm currently seeing someone."And all I want to do is cry.I just wanted to get that out there.
Serious question from bicurious person
So, as far as anyone else knows I'm 100% straight. I hardly know any gay people personally (not out of bigotry, just not many around here) but I'm bicurious. I hope I'm not violating subreddit rules by saying this but: I want to meet a gay man and spend some "quality time" (get down on my knees and suck his dick) with him to see if it suits me or if I'm just talking it up in my mind.Any advice on the most realistic way to make this happen? I'm an 18 year old male in the us meaning I'm universally legal but can't go to bars or that sort of thing.
A moment more than 12 years in the making...
I just wanted to talk about my thoughts going into tomorrow's Supreme Court case concerning the rights of same-sex couples to marry.12 years ago you were hard pressed to find a national politician who supported same-sex marriage, but that was when Massachusetts became the first state in the US to have marriage equality. Who would have thought that in just over a decade and 36 more states later, we'd be pinning our hopes of equality on 9 people in black robes.I still remember the first time I came out to anyone. And the 2nd time. And the 3rd. Hell I can probably recount every coming out I've ever done-including my attempt to come out to my mother (who didn't accept it, refused to believe it, and now thinks it was just a phase. I haven't bothered to tell her differently yet).Even when I started to come out to more people, gay marriage wasn't something that was going to happen all over in our lifetime, so we thought. And certainly it wouldn't receive the more broad support is has now. But here we are, in 2015, just 15 years since the first gay marriage in recorded history took place in the Netherlands.I don't know if this case will make everything better. I don't know if the people who oppose our marriage rights will stop or be silenced because of the finality of the decision we hope the Supreme Court renders. I don't know if the bullying, the name calling, the pain will stop. I don't know if parents will accept their children when they wouldn't before. I don't know if there won't be another gay child who kills themselves because people don't accept who they are. I don't know if it will finally stop getting better, and it will finally BE better, but I do know this: tomorrow may the beginning of our dreams being realized. And I hope and pray that the ever American across our country will finally be able to commit to the person they love-regardless of gender.We've come a long way. We've still got a long way to go. But we're getting there guys. We're getting there.
Stonewall was a Riot too.
With everything going on in Baltimore I've been seeing a lot of "You have to remain peaceful to get your message heard" comments online from both straight and queer people alike. At times like these, I think it's necessary to remind people that Stonewall was a riot too. Queer people threw rocks and bottles at cops. So, if you're queer and thinking, "These people are tearing up their own community!" or "Nothing gets solved through mindless looting and property damage" look to your past and your history. I'm frustrated by the lack of compassion for the anger in Baltimore and around the country. I just felt like it needed to be said.
Help! My inability to come out is taking its toll on my relationship.
Ok. I really need some help. I am gay (29 years old) and am currently in a relationship that been going on a little over 6 months.I am out to my good straight friends and the majority of my gay friends. I am not out at work (with a few exceptions) and I am not out to my family (besides my brother)My problem is I have issues with bringing it up to people. There are certain people who I can't bring my bf around for fear of "outing" myself to them (including work people). I don't get why I am so afraid of it. None of these people would care and they probably have already figured it out by now but I can't bring myself to do it.For example, I have an event planned that a lot of work people are going to that I'm debating if my bf should come to. He says he doesn't mind not being invited but I feel it isn't fair to him to be 'ashamed' of him. And if I invite him but only under the assumption he keep our relationship on the DL that's also not fair and I know I will be very stressed out about it the whole time.These situations cause me a lot of anxiety to the point where I actually lose sleep over it. What the hell is wrong with me? Should I just introduce him to my work friends? Am I just not cut out to be in a relationship? I just don't know what to do...Any help would be very appreciated...
Is being gay a choice?
Why/why not?Personally I have very strong beliefs on the matter, however I simply want to spark discussion and see what responses this question gets.
You know what's annoying and hilarious at the same time? Str8 people who...
...have figured out on their own after a while that you are gay, even though you are str8-acting as fuck and deliberately in the closet to them, which in my case, are my employees, and try to goad you into coming out.After a while, one or more of them figured it out somehow, told the others, and now it's all:gay people are coolI respect gay peopleI have a ton of gay friends (from where? I have, like, two)I have excellent gaydarso, do you have a girlfriend, or, anything like that?I still won't tell, because I know it drives them crazy and it's funny as fuck.
I never knew it was this hard.
Pretending to be straight. I thought it'd be easy, but nope. Oh god no it was not. I had a talk with my dad and he started crying so I felt bad and I decided to try and convert into being straight. I just decided I need to try to date girls, and that was a big mistake. I liked this girl, and I've tried to be romantic with her about it. I've told her about my sexuality and I pretended to be romantically attracted to her, but damn it was just so hard to do! I cannot keep this act, it's making everyone confused. People in my school think that I'm faking to be gay, and I just decided to lie, to everyone, "I was just confused, sorry everyone for saying I was gay." I've gotten so used to being gay that I didnt even try to be straight. Sometimes I look at other girls and think, "Wow, how could I date that?" What's sad is that I've been trying to show my feminine side and I'm not supposed to. It's been hard to try to be masculine, because it's how you're supposed to act as a boy, which I am against, so I try to hide it. I just need help trying to hide it, that's all.
Feelings of isolation
(Posted this in /r/askGSM earlier but someone told me this was a better place to go, so this is a repost)I'll start off by saying that I'm a 20 year old gay man, and for my whole life I've never met any other gay man. A few bisexual men have entered my life occasionally over the years but they always ended up leaving my life weeks after I found out, before I ever even got the courage to talk to them (I was much younger at the time, too).I know a lesbian and a few bisexual women, but they're not the same, really, even if I have things in common with them. They're obviously not compatible when it comes to romantic interest, too.I don't want to sound rude, but it seems like every time I try to find any gay spaces they're just full of exceptionally horny hypermasculine gay men looking to have sex and ogle each other.I'm not like that. I'm mixed-race Irish/Indian, I'm quiet and shy, I have a low sex drive and I'm feminine (and not in that flamboyant twink way either, I mean I look androgynous and get mistaken for a girl on a semi-regular basis). I'm really not interested in partying or hooking up for casual sex at all and even if I was I feel like nobody would be into me anyway.I don't feel like I fit in with the gay community at all, so I feel pretty isolated since I of course don't really fit in with straight people either. It's really frustrating because from what I know of the lesbian community it seems to be a lot calmer and less sex-obsessed and people seem to be fine with butches but when it comes to gay males it seems to be just a bunch of super masculine guys who like other masculine guys that are not asian.There's gotta be other guys like me out there somewhere, but I don't know how I'm supposed to find them.
Should my ex be off limits to my close friend?
Is asking a close friend not to hang out with a recent ex ridiculous? I am the common link but over the last few years they have developed somewhat of a friendship. They have even gone out together without me. It was something that always bothered me. Their friendship is hardly much of a friendship. The x stood him up enough times, that the friend stated he didn’t care about him or hanging out with him. Yet, now that he has become an ex the friend does not understand why it is hurtful to know he would hang out with him. Could I just be immature? My logic- The wound of the x is fresh. At this time I need supportive friends. I don’t feel it is supportive behavior. The last thing I want to hear is about a friend having a grand time with the boy I’m still crying about. Until I am well again I’ve asked him to respect my wishes. I’ve also questioned our friendship due to this matter. Thoughts? I am 26 and dealing with heartache over a 5 year relationship. I feel that out of respect to our friendship he wouldn't pursue the x the hangout. At least not while things are raw. The x has never pursued him to hangout. It was a one way road.
How to make new gay friends?
Any ideas on how to make new gay friends? Not just drinking friends but actual friendships. Recently single and I only have one distant gay friend. 26yo here.
Is it normal to not like oral?
I'm sure I'm gay but I feel no excitement whatsoever while sucking dick, and it's bothersome because my partner gets disappointed; I wonder how common this is.
How did you guys know you were gay
just wondering about the gay guys on reddit came to the fact that they were gay and when did they realise it.
2015. április 26., vasárnap
It gets better?
This isn't about dealing with the social stigma of being queer as the title might suggest. It's more about a lonely boy's pursuit of happiness. Also my first post on reddit ~ever~.I'm 22, gay, been single my entire life. Never had a steady relationship. Flings here and there that last for a couple months at best, but they're ultimately all about the sex and fizzle out because of my craving for something more.This post comes from something I experienced just minutes ago. I have a friend who's also gay. We met through work and started hanging out a lot. At first I didn't find him boyfriend material, but eventually warmed up to his awkward charm as time went on.Tonight I decided to give him a call and tell him I sorta like him as more than a friend. My heart starts racing before I even hit the CALL button. I'm so inexperienced with romantic relationships, and all around afraid of rejection. I had a spiel planned out in my head before calling, but when he answered and I had him on the line my mind went blank and I probably sounded like an idiot struggling to remember how exactly I wanted to word this confession. I framed my words to say that I assume he's not into me romantically, but just want to get this off my chest. This is essentially to psych myself out of feeling bad if he doesn't return the attraction, to assert that I already know he's not into me.I finally spit it out and he answers: "Well I'm attracted to you... as a friend. and you should value our friendship.""Well that's that", I think. "Nothing to see here." I take it well, outwardly, and say I'm perfectly happy staying friends. We change topics and continue talking for a bit.We hang up and for a moment I think whatever, I knew that would happen. but also hoped for a surprise that maybe he had feelings for me too!!foolish of me.This whole post is just me not taking rejection well. not this one instance, but my entire life as a single guy. I try to stay optimistic. but does it really get better? I honestly can't imagine myself in a stable relationship. as much as I want one it's hard to see how that could ever happen to me. all I've known are casual hookups. Now this is turning into word vomit. If you haven't stopped reading already and switched to some sappy story about two "straight" friends coming out to each other and eventually dating happily or some bullshit, thanks for reading this far! Any words of encouragement for a dumb lonely gay boy?
Does video chat ever lead to hookups?
In the last 20 years, I've used lots of video chat apps. I get that they have a purpose, but I've never found them useful to actually make a physical connection. Most often, you are videochatting with people too far away to actually meet. Even when someone is nearby, if they want sexy video chat, once they (or you) have gotten off, meeting up doesn't make much sense.What has been your experience with videochat and actually meeting up with someone?
Traveling Alone to Paris
Hey everyone... not sure if this is the right place to post but wondering if anyone has any suggestions for spending a week on my own in Paris. I've been there before and done the more common tourist events, more interested in doing and seeing things more off the beaten path. Would be great to get connected to someone there and hang out too. Any suggestions?
High school homecomings for the closeted?
What did you do? If you went with a guy how did you ask him? How did you elude your parent/guardians? Share any cute stories!
Cutting Him Out
Today, I ended my best friendship I have over some stupid mistake. About a month ago, my straight friend (we'll call A) and I shared a drunken night together, where as, the next morning he said he didn't remember anything. Great. I told him what happened later and he just got mad and said he was disappointed in me (he had known how I had feelings for him). At this point, I'm livid. He wanted what happened just as much as me, but blamed it all on me, which I told him. After that, we barely talked for a month. Today, I was going through snapchat and one of my friends had a picture of A in just his underwear, so I screenshotted it because it was pretty embarrassing. I should say that my friends and I often send each other bad and embarrassing pictures of each other, so I figured I'd go ahead and grab this one. That's where I fucked up. Apparently, he found out I screenshotted it, leading him to ask me why. I told him why and he just said that it was a weird coincidence because I like him. I told him I'm trying to put that all behind us, but he just says he can't look at me the same. I told him we have one month left of school and he'd never have to see him again. Was this the right thing to do? I really liked him at one point, but he's just being an asshole for no reason and won't let the past go. Should I try to salvage this, or just let him go?
Do you ever get lonely
I was wondering if anyone ever gets lonely I feel like I'm alone and want someone to talk to I live in georgia so people are few and far between
How to help a friend?
In a world of GoFundMe etc, are there any resources in this case?My best friend was asked to come home and take care of his aging parents. He had left them early in his life due to their heavily held dogma.He goes, thinking they were promising to reconcile and be more open to him being himself. With only wishes and help from friends he changes states, only to find out a month later that calling his husband, "husband" is forbodden and he is not allowed back in their presence.So this is not your typical case of surprise, I'm gay, and being kicked out. This is someone who wanted to have a full family so much they dropped everything only to be rejected again.He is currently looking at being homeless near Richland, Washington with his hubby and and two dogs.Any ideas, resources, or help would be greatly appreciated.
How do you ask somebody if they're not interested in being your friend anymore and if so, why?
So I have this friend, who was my ex's housemate and we ended up getting along and would hang out a lot even after my ex and I broke up. A couple of months ago we kinda started drifting apart (which I feel was more on his end). I would hit him up to chill and as where he would normally be free, he started saying he was busy or just wouldn't reply or answer his phone and I wouldn't hear from him unless I had made the effort to contact him.A few weeks ago I invited him to a bon fire on the beach with a few friends and coworkers of mine. We did that a lot last summer and it was really fun. He replied "sounds like fun", but didn't say if he was down to go or not so I asked him if he wanted to go and he never replied.A while before that we were hanging out at his place and had been drinking beer all night so we were kind of drunk and we were just hanging out in his backyard chatting. He started talking about my ex (which unfortunately, is a slightly sore topic), he mentioned to me that my ex had invited him to a 3-some with him and his new boyfriend and he said he had declined. He knows how I feel about my ex, and you would think that he would know that I wouldn't want to hear anything like that. It still bothers me to know that about my ex, but I decided to let it go because he was drunk.There was another time where he would send me text messages and Snapchats that would imply that he was interested in me (which I had ignored). One day he sent me a text, and I can't remember what he said, but I told him that I kind of liked him. I probably shouldn't have. He didn't reply for a while. Eventually he did, and he said he wasn't down with that and said he was just joking. He's never joked with me like that before so how was I to know? I feel like he set me up.I can't figure out if he doesn't want to be my friend and has been trying to push me away or not. I have no idea what's up anymore because I don't even hear from him. What should I do?
Sometimes I think my parents are somewhat ashamed of a gay kid?
I mean they have made me promise not to let other people know that I am gay
Confused About My Sexuality?
Okay so basically I have been under the illusion that I have been gay for about the last two years and have masturbated over gay porn daily but recently I'm just finding it harder to climax and even get hard while when I watch straight porn it makes me slightly uncomfortable however I do climax easier. In terms of feelings I've fantasies about guys but I've had a small crush on a girl once. So what is my sexuality- this is really confusing and a pretty odd case in my own opinion!
Am I completely deluded?
Hey everyone,I am sure I am not the first gay guy to post something like this and I apologise if it's the 10th one of these you've read today and I do crawl through sites trying to gain perspective on similar stories to see if I can answer my own question. Though I never find anything quite like my story to a tee. So I thought I may as well write it out. I am sorry it's a long one and rants and raves a bit..Basically, this is a story of: I am in love with my best friend and I don't know if he's gay, bi or straight. I have spent the most part of the last couple of years desperately looking for evidence to support one or the other. Mainly because of the fact, I want to know before making a fool of myself and confessing my love for him. If he's straight and weirded out by it, I lose a friend and alienate myself from my sports club and mutual friends..He's a few years younger than me, I am 24 and otherwise a normal guy. I have a good job that I enjoy, like my sports and I am bisexual. Though I believe I have more of a skew towards guys than I do girls and pretty much always have.I am completely and totally in love with my best friend. In my eyes everything about him is perfect, even what about him that isn't perfect, I still love. Personality, interests, looks, outlook on life... Perfect.So basically we became friends through playing sport together. He doesn't know I am bi, nobody does. It's an aspect of my life I am content with and I don't think it identifies me as a person, so I don't make a big deal of it. Apart of me doesn't want people knowing it because it would make my sporting pursuits tougher.The last couple of years he has had no girlfriends or even hooked up with any girls. Girls that show interest in him he seems to make no real move with or just ignores them until they go away. Without being too bias, but I know he is a very good looking guy, much better looking than me. So to me it doesn't make much sense that a guy who is so good looking and athletic doesn't really pursuit girls, even when at times they're basically throwing themselves at him. He doesn't ever talk about any girls or any women really. He makes no comments about girls when we are out and only occasionally, usually when drunk, will make a comment about women at all. He has said to me he likes girls with brown hair and a dark complexion. And sometimes will dig up a mass liked Instagram photo of an absolute babe of a girl meeting that description.He isn't homophobic even despite his younger age (he's 20), in fact he's supportive of gay people and very liberal minded. He occasionally mentions gay rights issues with me that are occurring in the US and overseas. We have a mutual gay friend that even when he was younger he didn't mind and is still close with (though I don't believe they are any closer than friends).He seems happiest when around male friends smoking weed or drinking and whenever we go out we don't go to venues to seek out girls.He has a friend that basically he will do anything for and will hang out with one on one at any costs. My crush won't let me ever sleep in his bed when I crash at his house but he does allow this one other friend. He's a good looking guy, brown hair and a dark complexion and I always wonder whether deep down my crush has a crush on this other friend of ours. This other friend is straight for all intensive purposes; long term girlfriend etc. not that this is a definite, but I would be extremely surprised if anything else was the case. I get a bit jealous because he seems to adore this boy who is honestly much better looking than me and fits more of the bill of his 'perfect woman' characteristics than I do. I wonder if his dream girl is really maybe his dream boy?We have got drunk and high a few times together and I have got a bit overly touchy and emotional. Professing that I love him and think he's amazing, as a friend, and he at times hasn't liked this at all. However other times not so much... One time we got very drunk recently and I started massaging him. I got nervous that he'd get mad for me being really gay towards him, but he was just happy with me rubbing his back legs and ass. Nothing happened because I worried that he may just tell me to get off him and hate me for being too touchy so I stopped, though wonder what would've happened if I kept going... Then again A while back he got really mad at me after I put my arm around him on his bed and he told me to take a hint and stop trying to hug him all the time.I think at times he may know that I crush on him really hard. Maybe he takes this to his advantage. Like I'll basically drop everything to do him a favour, I always apologise to him even if I know he's in the wrong and at times and I will just pay for everything when we go out at times to ensure he's having a good time and realistically if I kept a tab, he'd owe me hundreds.. But I don't mind. I have a good job and income and he's still studying..Sometimes I can't help myself. I just am so blindly in love that I will get too sentimental and stuff. He jokes that I am his boyfriend sometimes or makes a joke that I am going to try something gay with him. I buy him what I think are well thought out expensive gifts and write long cards basically telling him I think he's the best friend ever and I love him. But really it's more than that.Anyway. The whole point of this whole thread was. I am madly in love with him and the thought of him not being gay or bi and even potentially able to feel the same way I do back is the biggest worry on my mind 24/7 and has been for a couple of years now. It is draining emotionally. I almost entirely shift my life around this boy. I feel though if I tell him how I feel or that I am gay/bi, he and I will not be friend anymore and it'll crush me to the point I won't recover.I feel like if I don't say anything, I can wait longer to see if there's anymore tell tale signs he maybe gay, bi or straight and if he's gay or bi, telling him becomes a lot less of a risk for rejection. If he's straight, I don't tell him how I felt and keep a really good friend that I love to hang out with, more accepting of the fact that I couldn't ever have him anyway.I just don't know if I ignore the signs he's straight and deny them to prolong my misery, or whether I maybe waiting years and years before that happens and if it ends up being that he's straight, I have wasted so many years of my life potentially finding someone who could love me back.I need advice or opinion on this please. So sorry for the ranting and raving long post. But I just had to get this all off my mind. I love this guy so much and id be so happy if he could feel the same way towards me.Am I deluded? Am I an idiot? Do I need to make some tough calls?
Best Gay Podcast
Im going on a long train tomrrow and was wondering if you guys had any gay poscasts that you can donwload to listen to .. thx
What do you wish you were told about Truvada before you started taking it?
Hi all! I was recently asked to give a talk on Truvada (specifically in reference to South Africa) and I thought I'd approach some LGBTQIA+ people like yourselves and ask you the question in the title:What do you wish you were told about Truvada before you started taking it?Please, also feel free to share any stories or pieces of advice about your experience with the drug
My bf has no libido at all. What to do?
HiI have been with my partner for 5 years. I met him when he was 20 and I was 36. We love each other beyond everything we could imagine. He is everything I wanted BUT he has no libido... We had more sex at the begining of our relationship but nothing wild once every two months. He doesnt express his feelings so it makes it harder for me. At the begining he did, sending love notes, etc. I tried to break up as I have libido and this situation makes me feel bad and unwanted. But weeks after weeks the pain of being apart from each other was horrible, I couldnt sleep, I couldnt stop thinking of him, etc. After a maximum of 3 months I agreed to meet as he was asking me. Two days later he asked me to have sex with him and we officially get back together. Since we have once a year sex... To give a bit of a background he had health issues (bipolar), financial issues and now he tries to get a job. Yesterday I told him if he thinks it s fair to me, he said he has no sexual needs so what can he do? He is ok for me to have sex outside our relationship. I told him what s the meaning of being with someone if I have to be unfaithful. He said do what ever you think is good for you and he will follow my decision. This situation is so hard for me as we cant live without each other, we love each other, and with a bit of sex in our relationship it would be the most precfect one!! What can I do??
Need Advice
So, my partner and i have been together for 3 years. We are both in our early twenties. When i first met him he had never experimented using cock rings or jockstraps or anything similar. I had. So to him it was new ground. He tried it with me and did not really like it and at first i was okay with it, but now i want to see him using a jock strap and me using cock rings since i have bought them and i enjoy the thrill. Well, i have gotten into arguments with him because i want to use a cock ring, but he says we dont need it and doesnt like it. As for the jock strap he doesnt understand that the turn on is not just in the penis but its more than just getting hard, and its difficult to find a compromise. I respect that he doesnt like them and he tells me to forget about them, but i find it tough letting something that i like go because i enjoy it so much during sex, or at least use to.Please advice on where the middle ground is.
2015. április 25., szombat
Here is why I struggle with the idea of gays
This is me being honest and I think the load of hateful comments with prove me right. I've met so many gays who are down right mean, even to people who have done nothing wrong to them...Gay bullies have become commonplace in America: The biggest jerks you will ever run across are people who feel entitled to act like creeps because they believe they're victims. A lot of gay Americans have had bad experiences with people who've treated them poorly because they're gay.Unfortunately, gay, liberal Americans wear their victimhood as a badge and believe it entitles them to oppress people who haven't hurt them in any way. The whole idea that an unwilling Christian baker or photographer should be forced to bake a cake or take pictures at a gay wedding is fascistic. It's similarly despicable to try to get people fired for opposing gay marriage. The people doing these things aren't victims or crusading for civil rights; they're just run-of-the-mill ***holes who happen to be waving a rainbow flag.
Survey regarding condom usage.
I am doing a project for school and have created a survey that asks about experiences with condom usage between men who have sex with men. If you have a few minutes to answer I would greatly appreciate it. Thank youhttps://www.surveymonkey.com/s/866VXG2
How do you spend your time?
A life without children (for the majority) means a lot of free time relative to other adults. How do you spend that time? How do you take advantage of that?
Would you let your son date a guy like this?
He is turning 14 in a week, and he is gay.He says he likes one of his friends, a 15 year old bisexual, which I find very concerning.This friend is abusive to him. When he comes over to visit, he is always mean and rude to my son and to me. He's constantly putting down my son or whining about how bored he is no matter what they are doing. He's also constantly smacking my son on the shoulder and head while they play games, and it leaves bruises.I never hear any laughing or fun on the part of my son when this guy is over. The kid's always complaining about something, and my son is just apologizing and trying to calm him down. He's one of those "autistic" cases that are actually poor parenting where what the kid actually needs is a smack in the fucking jaw.He also calls my son on the phone and yells at him to vent, and it stresses my son out to tears.I've had to ask this kid to use indoor voices, to SHOWER, to change his clothes, and to brush his teeth so many times when he has been over here. He comes over with long greasy hair, clothes that he sleeps in every night, and he smells like an ashtray.My son says they are not a couple because this kid has a girlfriend (he's bisexual) (also, how?), but he broke up with her.I don't want to seem like a homophobe or unsupportive, but I don't want my son to date him. It is just going to be a painful experience.
So I guess I have to be attracted to transgenders
So I recently discovered this subreddit, and I was talking about Bruce's recent news about him being a transgender. I said that I thought it was fucked up how the community was targeting him for being too privileged, and said that "You know, Bruce Jenner is beautiful, even if I am not sexually attracted to transgenders" or something along the lines of that, and somebody got mad at me for not being attracted to transgenders. Well, I guess there really is something wrong with the community. Why does it matter what I am sexually attracted to? Apparently I am bigoted for not being attracted to transgenders. Why is this? I don't care what people decide to do with their lives, and I hate anyone who thinks that they can control whether or not two people can be attracted to one another. I am certainly not going to stand for anybody, regardless of gender/gender identity or sexual orientation telling people who they should be attracted to. Can anybody tell me what this person was on about? He (or she or they, I don't really know) also stated that if someone wasn't attracted to a certain race, they are also bigoted.
Sorta straight Best Friend asked me to wait for him.
We've been friends since our senior year of High School (2008), he helped me through figuring out my sexuality. Out of curiosity he asked if I found him attractive and since then my feeling grew till I would be basically crying to him about how I feel, usually while drunk. He would tell me he doesn't feel the same way. Although it always seemed like he was saying it pensively and it annoyed me he wasn't including me in his thoughts, because we would talk about everything.At his sisters wedding, I had another one of my break downs. After that when he came to visit on thanksgiving (he lived in Tally, FL at the time), he was upset I was asleep when he arrived at the airport (I knew he was coming, but why should I be expected to waiting for him? His parents were picking him up.) There were several other outburst and we decided to take a break till my birthday a couple moths later. He never showed for my birthday, he said he had to study for a test, and after a few text messages he said he didn't want to talk to me anymore. Great, one less problem. I moved on and made new friends. Six months later he tells me he's moving back to Miami and wants to see me and a mutual friend. My friends tell me it's a horrible idea, but he's sending me text asking me to review his status before he posts it to facebook or that he noticed a van from the company I worked for and sent me a pic, and other generally cute stuff.I agree to meet with and we talk, he kinda apologizes. We hang out a few more times. We go to a bar were there are lots of girls he'd be interested in, he's only had one serious relationship, and he seemed very happy and I was happy for him. I was hopping that he could find that again so that my feeling could be quelled. However he insisted he wanted to just talk to me. We inevitably talk about my feelings and he implicitly lets me know that when I talk about my feelings for him, he feels I'm not very confident about it and I'm just wrapped up in my own painful emotions. I realize this is my moment and I noticed his voice was softer and more flirty then usual. The bar was loud so we head to his house, he says to keep the parking ticket as we were leaving because the date might be special.In the silence of the drive I couldn't help my self and poured out my feels as I've done before in the past. He actively encourages me to keep going because I would pause out of shyness and tears. When I had no more to say, he layout out what he would always say before "I don't feel the same way." I kinda just died internally. Still in an unusually soft voice he starts asking "So what do we do?"Now ever since we were friends he made it a point to hug everyone, calling himself the "hugger", everyone but me. We had an discussion about it and he insisted it's not a big deal, so I told him if he is going to be weird my not hugging me, then I won't be shaking his hand and we'll remain contact free. We agreed, it was weird, but we respected each others rules.So as we're going to his house, he buys me taco bell and in the driveway of his house with his continued questioning of "what should we do?" I tell him he can start by treating my like a normal person and give me a hug every once and a while. As soon as I say that his demeanor changes entirely. His face goes from kind and flirty to straight up angry. He snatched the food he bought me out of my hands and is only able to say "I can't talk to you right now."He walks toward his house and now I'm pissed. I yell at him and say "If you leave right now with out offering anything else, I will never speak to you again." He turns around and asks me to wait for him. I am livid, but I say ok and walk away. This was around October of 2014.Fast forward to today. He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. He still won't pick up my calls or reply to my text. He use to love social media, but now his accounts are mostly bare. He's gained weight, possibly from drinking. My boyfriend came into the relationship knowing my history, but I can't keep making him feel like he's not my priority. I'm someone who is very committed to my word and my friend knows that, I also can accept when I'm not wanted. In this case, it doesn't seem clear.I've considered going to visit my friend at the shop he works at. Not to speak to him, but just to see the look on his face. I can walk away from indifference or shock, but not from a sense of longing.
fuck all you gay fags
fucking burn in the hell you faggots you all belong there. christ cannot forsake you from what you have become fags.
99% sure this article about Sweden is bullcrap, but I can't demonstrate why. Any help?
Warning: bigotryA friend of mine posted this on Facebook. There's no way this isn't complete crap made to make gay people look bad. I can find no other sources in English. Does anyone with any knowledge of Sweden/Swedish know more about this? Is this a lie? Is it a deliberate distortion?Thanks!
A Modern Age love story . Prologue
Jay James, a 21 year old man from New York City is about to go on a date. It’s not a regular date; where two people who have met previously for a short period of time, say at a party or a club or on the road decide to meet again to get to know each other or give themselves an illusion that they know the other person before they have sex with them or they have at least made an effort to know that person while carrying a packet of condom in their pocket, you know, just in case. This date was with someone who he knows for almost six months, yet they’ve never met or talked on the phone even once. All their interactions have been on Instagram, Kik and Imessage; all tools of social media used to bring two intelligent, good-looking and not to forget horny men together. It was time this virtual relationship hit the streets of NYC.
Looking for some statistics
I'm trying to find statistics on the rate of sexual activity and the number of partners among different sexualities and so far I haven't found anything. A simple comparison of gender, sexuality, frequency of activity, and number of partners would suffice. I can find a comparison by gender, and I can find a comparison of gay men to straight men, but what I'm really looking for is straight, gay, and bi all compared among men and women.
Coming out to myself
Hello,I could like to write an entire book about my emotions right now but that would be unreadable for anyone but myself.Instead I try to summarize my story as short as possible, as I do feel I have to share my story to some random people on the internet.I was late to the party, my first intended orgasm was at age 16. Before that I never put any thoughts about girls(or boys for that mater) Things went rapidly from there as I felt I had to catch up, dated some girls but not very succesfull. Discovered tranny porn and sissy lifestyle. Fell down into the sissy/feminization fetish but considered myself straight. Crossdressing, hypnosis files and just fantasying became something regular.Kneeling down infront of the mirror wearing a lingerie set and with red painted lips whilst holding a banana in my hand did not change my stubbornness . "It was a phase" I told myself often.This year, at age 22 I decided to reset my brain thinking a no-fap challenge would heal the confusion in my head. Everything went well and two months later there I was feeling more confident and less introvert ready to go clubbing with my friends this time ready to grab the attention of the local girls. But of course that did not happen, instead as I sat at the bar I watched one of my friends flirt with a hot girl and I SAW why she felt attraction to him. I left with the excuse I was tired but I was angry at myself. Angry that I did not feel attraction to the girls there but instead I was checking out one of my best mates. But perhaps also angry that I was in denial even though it was obvious enough for years on end!.Abstaining from orgasm was the best thing I could do in my life, it made me realise how bad porn is for your health(I have a really low testosterone level!) but also how it effects your social life . work and school results if you use it as an excuse.That night changed me, yes I was angry at myself for sure but it also opened up my eyes. The next week on my way to uni I caught myself secretly looking at guys in the train. It was exiting and I felt no guilt at all. In the last week I let my fantasies go and enjoyed every dirty thoughts, but that might be just to much information to share.That leads us to now. Reflecting on the past few months and how stupid I was for the last few years. My entire teenage years spent watching porn and getting drunk on the weekends. But also curious on the future. And that's where this subreddit comes in. Are there any somewhat similar stories to mine? if so how did you progress after coming out you yourself?Feel free to ask questions and advice is always welcome.
In need of advice. Has this ever happened to some of you?
Hi, guys! I'm a closeted19 y/o unicorn and I am just now starting to meet the lgbt community. It's been some months since I accepted myself (or so I thought), and I have never got to know any lgbt yet.A day ago I decided to attend a lecture on gender and homosexuality, organized by the lgbt group of my university. All went quite well, but at the end if the lecture, a dude started to talk to me. He seemed at least 25 y/o and a nice guy overall.He was very friendly douring the conversation, but I realized he was probably hitting on me (gave me his e-mail so we could meet for a coffe..). Of course there's nothing wrong with that (not my tipe, anyway), but when we separated I suddenly felt a bit anxious, maibe even "dirty" or "abused", even if he never said anything a nice person wouldn't say.I think I am not ready for a relationship, yet, and that what I felt is caused by quite a bit of internalized homophobia (Yay, catholic upbringing!!). But I wanted to ask if this happened to some of you douring your first time meeting (or being hit on) a lgbt? I mean, is this common/normal?
Fav gay porn websites
ive seen around alot of sub reddits porn, just wondering what you guys watch for pleassure thats not on reddit
Nothing ever goes right
I just met the most beautiful, kind, sexy, smart, caring man two weeks ago. We were perfect for each other. His parents found out about us almost immediately after he got home from our second date. He's been forced back into the closet. I'm not even sure if he'll be able to remain friends with me...I want to curl up into a ball and cry.
Just a rant really
I dunno why I'm posting this but hey, I'm sad and need to vent.So I was talking to this guy for a while and started to really like him. He was sweet and kind, and just a fun person to get to know. I usually don't fall for people so hard, but I did for him. When the.topic came up he said he was out and I told him I mostly was, due to me currently living with some homophobic family members.Anyway, we decide to meet for our first date. He was going for drinks with work friends, and then we'd head off somewhere else and see where the night takes us. I meet him at the bar and I'm instantly smitten. We talk for a little bit and head upstairs to his friends. This is where things spiral.I meet them. They're really nice. He buys me a drink and we all start talking. Only he doesn't really talk to me. I tried to brush it off but the whole night if I tried to get a conversation going, he would say a few words and done. He was super chatty with his mate and I was talking to them too.Eventually I pull him outside for a bit and learn that one of his friends noticed his behaviour. She pointed out how she saw me try and just rest my hand on his arm at the table and he got uncomfortable and eventually pulled away. He insists he's not uncomfortable. He points out that he wants to get to know me before any of that. I ask if he even likes me or wants me to be there. He says he does and when I point out we haven't been talking, he says he'll try. We kiss and go inside.But here's where it hurt again. He still didn't talk to me much at all. I was sitting there feeling awkward and unwanted. Eventually I got up and left and that was that. I was a wreck going.home in the taxi. It just hurt to have someone be that into you before and then refuse to even speak to you.So my plea to you all is this. If you take a guy on a date, at least show some decency and talk to him. Make him feel welcome. Don't work things up like you want to really get along and enjoy eachother's company and then blank them. If you.don't like them say so so they can get on with their life. And for the love of everything, don't disappear every five minutes and leave the guy alone. I had fun talking to your mates, but they aren't the ones I was on a date with. Now I'm sad and hungover in bed and just looking at your phone number gives me a mixture of butterflies and this sore, sickly feeling in my stomach.So yeah. Rant over. Gonna go cry into some ice cream now.
How do I get over a gay crush on a straight coworker?
So I'm a 20 year old gay guy. Im only out to 3 of my closest friends. About 6 months ago I moved across country and started a new job. I work in a small tv station, with about 3 other people. One of the guys i work with, G, I have unfortunately developed a huge crush on. He and I get on pretty well and we spend quite a bit of time together at work, occasionally going out together to do fieldwork and stuff. He makes the occasional gay joke about himself, and can get almost a little flirty with me, But I know that the crush wont actually go anywhere because i'm pretty sure he's straight (he has a girlfriend who he's been with for close to 5 years) but its becoming increasingly painful, having to work so closely with someone that I have these feelings for. I find myself thinking about him all the time now, even when he's not around, and actually get quite sad if i get into work and he's not there. I'm getting to the point where I just want to stop liking him and move on, because im pretty sure that nothing could happen between us.Any advice to help me get passed this would be great, Its hard to distance myself from him when I have to work so closely with him.
2015. április 24., péntek
I came out...
To my best friend right now over text messages while I'm drunk. I'm still in full blown anxiety attack but e he took it very well which I'm happy about. Unfortunately I can't stop shaking. I was so tired of facing this alone. Hopefully when tomorrow comes around I still have a friend.
How do you move on?
So I've been in love with a straight best friend of mine, he knows that I love him. But despite everything he doesn't wanna get back to the way we used to be just as a friend as i kinda freaked him out (quite natural) but then again i had only one good memory in the earth & that's only with him (not that I am an alien or smh) i know i can never live without him. It's been 6 years now. More the year passes I think the feeling gets stronger idk. I lost the friendship I had once with him and I know it's my fault that i came out to him. I should have give it a second thought before doing so. Idk how to move on. I tried! Give me a solid suggestion of moving on.
Anybody have a link to the bruce jenner interview?
I missed it! And I can't find it on any of the streaming sites I visit
Coming out seems impossible. Any insights?
I recently decided that I needed to come out, but I'm having difficulty doing it. I'm a very shy person and I rarely talk about my feelings with anyone, so it seems like a huge leap to actually approach a friend or family member and reveal something so personal. I feel like a lot of the anxiety I experience when I think about actually doing it is completely irrational, especially when I would be coming out initially to someone who wouldn't out me to anyone else, and I know they would be supportive. I've lurked here for a while now and I would just like to list some of the worries I have, no matter how irrational they may be, and see if anyone feels similarly or has experienced any of this in the past.This got long so here: TL;DR I'm really scared of coming out, but I don't know why it's so very scary to me. My main worry is that people will only see me as a gay man instead of a complex human being.I'm pretty sure that my parents and my family would be fine with it, but I feel like they would be afraid to ask me about it. To be honest I'm not sure that I would even want them to. I just worry that they would accept me because it's the right thing to do, even though internally they may struggle with the idea, and I'm pretty sure they will be secretly disappointed.I have never been in any kind of relationship. I always kind of thought I should at least try dating a girl before I could really know, but since I always knew in the back of my mind that I wasn't attracted to the potential partners who came along, I could never do it. This is the stupidest of all my reasons, but I just worry that 'coming out' without any real experience means there is more of a risk that I'm just wrong about myself. All of my crushes as a teenager were guys, so I should really be past this by now.I don't really know any other gay people either, which doesn't help. All of my immediate family are straight and for that reason a lot of my family believe that every gay man follows the stereotype portrayed by western culture. Although I think my coming out will help humanise homosexuality to a lot of genuinely nice people, I also feel that me not being entirely stereotypical will make this a big shock to them, since they are only used to viewing homosexuality from afar, as a sort of abstract concept that doesn't really affect them.My last worry is probably my biggest. I am worried that my friends and family will try to justify my past actions with some new homosexual identity, and that when I meet new people I won't just me the blank slate of 'me' anymore, but people will have all these preconceptions about me. I know that many of you have struggled with being seen as 'gay people' instead of just 'people' who are gay, and this is really sad to me. Will straight male friends become afraid to be close to me? Will Female friends suddenly get a lot more comfortable around me? I feel like meeting straight men will become difficult. I have a lot of really good friends who are male, but how can I bond with new male friends if they're constantly worrying that I'll develop feelings for them? I have a pretty large group of friends from school who I meet up with at least every few months and none of them are gay as far as I know. Nobody in my new group of friends is gay either.Thanks for reading this. It turned out pretty long, but if you took the time to read it, I am really grateful. Any feedback would be great. :)
Congrats Bruce!!
I'm sure I can speak for the majority, we're proud of you for finally accepting yourself!!! <3
Bruce Jenner needs some love from the trans community, not this typical tumblr-eye-rolling-bullshit response about his priviledges.
Since Bruce Jenner has decided to come out as officially transgender, there's been a shit-storm of hate and "ugh, so privileged" and "he doesn't represent us". Obviously he doesn't; he represents him.http://ift.tt/1Dkv7Gw
I need some help here people!
I am 50 years old. My nephew has a 15 or 16 year old. By text, he just came out to me and ask me to teach him how to have sex.Of course I am not going to have sex with him. I straight for one thing. Not sure why he picked me. But I am very gay friendly.He lives in a really small town. Hell, I knew he was gay for a couple of years. I don't want to crush the guy. But still what the hell should I tell him? He is just confused kid in a hick town in texas.
Casting Call: LGBTQ youth and young adults who want to come out of the closet (Nashville area)
Hi Everyone! My name is Ari and I'm the Casting and Development Assistant at Lucky Dog Films in Silver Spring, MD. Right now we're developing a show with counselors from Nashville who want to help LGBTQ youth and young adults come out of the closet to their families and friends. I found this awesome group and thought it would be a great place to spread the word! If you guys have any suggestions for other places I can reach out to, feel free to message me here or email me at castingluckydog@gmail.com.Casting Call: LGBTQ youth who want to come out of the closetA region-wide casting call is underway for LGBTQ youth across the Nashville, TN area who have yet to come out of the closet. We're developing a new show with counselors who specialize in helping all types of LGBTQ youth open up and talk to their loved ones about their sexuality and gender preferences.*Are you a teenager or young adult who isn't open about your sexuality or gender preferences?*Do your friends and school peers know about your sexuality or gender preferences, but your family doesn't?*Are you afraid to come out because you're worried about being rejected by your family or friends?If any of these describes you or anyone you know, contact us! Email us at castingluckydog@gmail.com. Please include pictures, a bio and why you should be chosen.Thanks so much!
I always have to wonder...
...what if I'm wrong? I mean, about my place in the world.What if it is, in fact, me who is being intolerant when I ask that people and politicians treat me the same way they would a straight man? What if my sexual preferences are somehow disgusting in the "natural order"? What if I deserve some sort of corrective ridicule for loving who I love?I think I read way too many comment sections on articles that are linked in /r/ainbow.
TIL my sister is bisexual.
Happened a little while ago, but 'nuff said. Le me, driving home from college, HS-senior sister is in the car with me: "So, I've been dating"cringe"a female." (ehhhhhhh ..., not as bad) "I've been seeing her for ~6 months." I'd been off classes for winter break for a month (December), so ...., but I didn't find out till March. Turns out I was the last to know in the immediate family. :/"You're okay with it, aren't you, /u/ascafidi? Huh?""Uhhh, ........ [long pause] ....... sure, I guess?"Needless to say, I noped outta that conversation pretty quickly - "So, how is [highschool teacher we both had]?" I kinda suspected she 'walked both sides of the street' for a little while (not too many guy friends, avid Tumblr-er-er, etc. etc.), but I guess the closet door's wide open then LOL
How can we as a movement bring about more effective change?
I think we need to have a discussion on more things we could be doing as a community and as a movement.Our progress through the courts is commendable and what advances we have made is incredible, but we are doing exactly what Dr. King was told to do by the white moderates during his era of the civil rights movement. In his activism, he led marches and put the active in activism. As a response, he was told to go through the courts and work justice out that way. Well, we as a community and as a movement are working our justice that way. I'd propose that we, as a community, and as an activist movement, do more active activism.We are seeing the cropping up of laws that can be argued to be the next round of our Jim Crow laws, such as in Indiana, with their religious freedom law, and Oklahoma, with its law to require religious officials to sign off on marriage certificates to be legal, and more laws in several other states either already in existence, or on the way to fruition.We also like to criticize "keyboard warriors", or whatever they would be called, for only being activists on the computer, yet in the face of these laws, I've seen little more than moral support. If you could prove me wrong on that, I'd love that, but I see what I see. We need to get people in there and actually organize protests and marches and sit-ins of these places that would deny us our equal rights.I understand this is not as easy to do as I would make it seem here. I know that this is a large thing to discuss, but damn it when even our own community doesn't know what it means to have pride anymore and we sit back and think ourselves victorious, the ground we have taken begins to slip from us. And we can't afford that.What can we do to change this? How can we effect quicker change and an effective response from the government? How can we organize and do more than fliers and parades once a year? That's what I think we need to discuss.
I'm not gay, but I recently fell in love with a tranny...
She's everything I've ever wanted. She's beautiful & intelligent. But she has a cock, and it's not small. I wasn't mad, just surprised. I don't want this to end. Am I gay for wanting this to continue? I'll be gay for her. Wtf am I feeling?
You hear about guys flirting with or flirted on by others in public. I've never had that happen. Is it as common as we think? Do you do it/have it happen to you?
Is it just a reporting bias? Or am I just unattractive?
How do you flirt with someone?
I work in a coffee shop, and one time my best friend came in with one of her co-workers. This guy is so hot, and he has like the exact personality that I've been dreaming of.She's the only person I've ever come out of the closet to. I'm a virgin and never even kissed before. And she claims that he's gay and has never been anyone before either. (She is very nosy by nature and stalked him enough to find this out.) That makes me feel better, but I still don't know what to say to him.He comes in like twice a week now, and when I'm serving him, he asks me friendly questions like, "Busy today?" and I just give him good answers like I would to any other customer. I have no idea how to flirt or even if he's into me.My friend said she told him I had a crush on him, and he didn't believe her but seemed pleased at the idea. I get really embarrassed when he's in now, and I don't know if I should say something or not. She says I should just say something like, "You're delicious," but I don't know how to pull something like that off without being creepy.
2015. április 23., csütörtök
Is there a sfw subreddit for lesbians?
Ya know, to share stories, make friends etc? I'm not into porn
A gay relatioship
I know this isn't the relationships page, but please do not flag this for i think only others like me can understand correctly.Me and me ex still are in love with each other, but he lives in a different state and i am dating someone else..Me [m27]and My ex We will call john [m26] for privacy still love each other (in love with each other). We have matching tattoo's on our ring fingers. I have not seen him in a few years. He originally left because of cheating and my invading his privacy, which we now both know and understand were mistakes because we were young. I have forgiven him, he has forgiven me for these misdoings. Ultimately we dated for 4 years, knowing each other for 6.In all the people I've tried to date since, things haven't worked out because over time i cant... perform sexually even though there are no problems initially when we first meet. My current date is no exception.The guy im dating now we will call Alex is amazing, he smart, observant, kind and many other things. But my inability to perform has returned. He says that that is okay even if it never returns, because he values out emotional and friendship more than sex. He is only [m21]. Can anyone honestly say he wont regret not exploring other options??I fear this inability to perform is when my feelings for my ex return. With my current date Alex, its been nearly 2 years together, but performing problems have been for months.My current date Alex knows this situation, we have an honesty and trust agreement. But he says if go fly out to see my ex(john), things will end with him forever, and if i don't go see my ex now, things will end with him forever.I seem to have put them both in a backup feeling situation by talking openly to each of them about this. I Know that no one wants to be or feel like that.I don't know what to do. I have a tattoo on my ring finger, but emotionally its a tattoo on my heart and i fear i cant move forward with anyone without giving my ex a second chance.This comes at a time when me and my current date are planning on moving to a university in the spring.My ex is willing to come to the university if i choose that route.Can anyone give me thoughts on what to do?TL;DR; : Im at a fork in the road and don't know which way to go. What should i do?
What are your favorite gay movies?
My list:1) Philadelphia (1993) This is a very serious movie, and I always cry when I watch.2) Prayers for bobby (2009) Another serious movie, but it seems like my life was taking the same way, so I like it.3) Milk (2008) Actually, this one could be the first, but ok. I really like this movie, because it shows how we could stay together and fight for our rights.4) Any day now (2012) Loveble movie =D.These are my favorites, no one of them is about sex, but about rights or love. They were important to me so this is why I've chosen them.What are yours?
Gay recommendations for New Orleans?
So I'm going to New Orleans in a couple weeks, and I thought I'd ask r/gay for recommendations on cool gay stuff to do in NOLA!
Homosexuals and transgender people of reddit, have you ever stopped to thank the other persecuted group of people who is largely responsible for the surge in acceptance of LGBT people in America?
It is an undeniable fact that Hollywood and the "liberal media" has promoted acceptance of homosexuals and recently, the transgender community. Obviously, this is not a bad thing. And it is an undeniable fact that Hollywood and the media is controlled by Jewish individuals. This is due to the fact that Hollywood was one of the only places they can find employment. Maybe they had sympathy for LGBT people, or more likely they wanted to lower the population of the other races. Either way, thank you, Jews. Not trolling, not hostile, just giving credit where credit is due.
NSFW Any Recommendations On Make Your Own Dildo Kits?
My guy and me have been tossing around the idea of playing with dildoes of our own dicks, but after reading different reviews I'm a little lost as to what 'the one' is over others.Not really into vibrators, so ideally we'd need to figure out what would make good non-moving toys (I'm sure we could figure out how to move on our own :-P). Both of us are kinda biggish, I'm longer but he's thicker if that seems like a thing. I'm a bit worried that we might have issues fitting some of the moulds, but I think that's mostly coming from scary paid sounding reviews lol. Lastly I'd like them to have bases like our sacks, I know some kits don't have that ability. I think the one I found by Empire seems like you can have your testies included but I'm not sure how.Any bros out there have experience with these types of kits? I think the novelty and the kink is what's drawing us into it. Both of our birthdays are within a month, and our proposal anniversary is in there two (engaged 4 years). So kinda thought it might be something fun dumb and hot to do!Help is greatly appreciated guys, as are any recommendations for other subreddits to cross post (I suck at actually posting on Reddit). Thanks oodles!
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