Don't know what to think in this relationship

*I'm just venting here, I'm not necessarily looking for a specific response. Advice, tips or stories would be appreciated though * So this one guy and I met on Grindr on Oct 15th. There was the usual sex talk, but then it grew to something more. On Oct 20th, we met and slept together. Instantly we had a connection, it was like we had known each other for years. He was sweet and charming. Anyway, now it is Jan 16th. We have texted each other about every other day, and the texts are more meaningful then regular texts. We are talking about deeper subjects here, flirting, sending non sexual pics, asking how the other persons day went. etc. I have asked multiple times to hang out again with him, but each time he says he is busy at work (which I know is ((moreless)) true cause he is a supervisor at a food restaurant, and he works lots of overtime.) The last time I asked him I told him how I felt (last week), how I felt he was simmering me, he told me that he was dealing with getting his ex out of his life, and getting his life together to let me in. Now I know for a fact he is stubborn and has a dominant personality, so there's that to factor in. Going back, about 2 months into our relationship, he texted me. He seemed to be very nervous and having an anxiety attack. Eventually I got out of him that he has HIV, and he was afraid to tell me because he thought I would leave him. But that wasn't the case, it honestly just made me attracted to him even more. I thought it was cute (I made a couple posts about it before, and I've done some reading on the subject.) So, its 4 months since I met him. I have feelings for him, and want a LTR relationship with him (I told him the LTR part.) I can't help but have this feeling of resentment and anger that I haven't got to hangout with him again. Part of me wants to just put my foot down and tell him its over .... maybe this is because I want him so bad and its not happening, at least at the rate I want. He did tell me before that he doesn't want to just jump into a relationship, that he wants to take it slower. But on the other hand, the other half of me loves him and just wants to wait out the storm. Now part of me says I might just be paranoid, because I have had so many guys flake out on me and hurt me before, thus I just waste my time. But if this guy is doing that, why has he been talking to me for 4 months straight, and why has he indulged me with personal details, such as HIV. Am I expecting too much too quickly, I have never been in a relationship before. I don't know what to think right now. There is a cultural difference here, I am a white guy and he is latino, could there be some barriers there perhaps? I'm lost :(