2017. május 31., szerda
Question.
I'm 16, and obviously gay. Is it weird that I haven't had sex nor been in a real relationship? I really want both if I'm being completely honest haha
Being gay is amazing
I want to start by saying I don't speak for everyone, only myself. We all go through our own struggles and some may find discovering or revealing their sexualities more difficult than others.I've known I was gay ever since I was a kid. By grade 9, I just said fuck it and went all in by changing my "interested in" status on Facebook. Admittedly it was a stupid, stupid way to come out, but there was no looking back! I encountered a tad bit of shunning from peers and some bullying, but the staff of my Catholic school was actually amazing and supportiveAnyway, I'm in university now and I realized how amazing being gay is. I live in Canada and go to a very progressive school, so that helps! Everyone thinks I'm super strong for just being me and wants to be friends with me :p. Also, being with a guy has its perks. Shared wardrobe, check out guys together, and we don't need to rely on cultural norms! In short, being gay rocks and I'm so glad I got in on itTl:dr; I learned that being gay is amazing
Would you suggest bareback sex if both partners test negative for STDs?
Does it make it a lot better? Is lube more sensational? Are there any other things to worry about without having a condom?
Gay Ink (Tattoos of course)!
I just wanted to throw out a subreddit I am trying to bring back to life. /r/GaysWithTattoos I hope it will be a place for everyone to share not only their gay pride but the gay ink!To the mods, I apologize if you don't find this appropriate to this sub. Feel free to delete! Thanks!
Confused af, i think im cheating..
Ive been talking to this dude for like 2 months and i liked him a lot. He spends the night often. We chill often. He says babe and "i love you" and all that shit..but we never officially said we're a thing either sooo i met this dude on tinder and we really hit it off. We talk the same, like the same shows, eat the same food, and just we have a lot in common, ive been hanging out with him for 2 weeks but already i feel closer to him than the other guy i was catching feelings for. I really feel like a fucking hoe and i dont know if the first dude really wants to continue into a serious relationship or what and im not tryna be a fucking asshole either. The only thing i really have in common with the first guy is that we both love to get drunk af and when we have drunken sex and just cuddle all night it feels badass but now i dont even want to sleep with him because deep down i feel fucked up. Just..what yall think is going on? Is 2 months really something to trip about or what? The second guy we say the same stupid shit and hes like a really cool lil homie and when i see him im like "orale compa, wassup man!" And im just hella excited to see him, we actually talk about where we stand as far as relationships too and hes made it clear he wants to start something long term. If it matters im 20, the 2nd guy is 19 and the first guy is 23
Advice on coming out?
I've come to the realization that I'm a lesbian. My whole family and most friends are pretty accepting (my sister is gay so I know for sure). But I'm nervous to come out still. I don't know who I should tell or how? I think I'm ready but it's nervewracking still.To complicate things, I've spent the last several years denying rumors that I'm a lesbian.
Why did I display homophobic behavior as a child when I am gay myself?
I have only recently acknowledged to myself that I'm a lesbian. This however got me thinking about how up until about 4th or 5th grade, my friends and I would use "gay" as an insult to kids we didn't like. We knew exactly what it meant but did it anyway. I didn't have problems with actual gay people (my sister's friend was gay and I never thought negatively about him at all, etc.). Then some time around middle school I became very pro gay rights and anti-bullying and have been that way ever since. So despite not actually having an issue with homosexuality and being gay myself (without realizing it), why did I partake in homophobic behavior when I was younger? Has anybody else had any similar experiences? This issue is making the whole thing more stressful and confusing. I feel extremely guilty for essentially betraying myself and the LGBT community. I'm trying to make sense of my behavior so I can move past it for good.
How do I know if I'm bi or just have a fetish for guys?
For a long time I considered myself a straight male, however now my fantasies are focused around gay sexual encounters, exhibitionism, and crossdressing. I'm not sure exactly what my sexuality is. I'm definitely romantically attracted to females but my sexual attraction to them has diminished, as I find it sexually boring.
Anyone want to chat or from Arizona? Gay geek looking for friendships & opening up myself
Hey guys! I'm fairly new to this reddit group since I'm shy to speak up to have a conversation with other guys but is anyone from Phoenix or anywhere in the state? You don't have to be in the same state but curious to chat with someone and get some anxiety off my chest and not being afraid of talking about some gaming or comic topics. Also, this may not have to do with this site but I'm sorta on the feminine side which means I'm quite sensitive yet friendly to talk to so I am inexperienced when it comes to forming friendships with other guys when most of my friends I had were females. Just want to say hi to whoever is reading this. BTW, don't forget to stay cool! We're supposed to hit almost 110 this week even though it's only 98 today. xD
How much should I care about advice from unsupportive parents?
So I came out to my parents 2 years ago and it's been rough. My siblings are very supportive but my mother especially has been very depressed throughout the whole thing. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 months now and I'd like to post something on social media, however my mom wants to keep me from coming out to relatives "until she's more prepared."Am I being selfish by coming out to family without her permission? I realize it somewhat will affect her life with my very conservative grandparents and relatives attacking her with questions, but at the same time, it's my life and I'll be mostly affected. Also, I'm 23 years old and I feel like that alone should allow me to make my own decisions. Thoughts?
Does anyone also have a thing for redhead?
Like every time I see one on the street all these sexual fantasies just come up right away and overwhelm my mind. What a privilege to be able to grow natural red hair and beard. Geez what sexy creatures these gingers!
First date ideas?
Hi there!I am new to this Reddit page and this will be my first post. Soon I am going on a double date with a heterosexual couple but I will be going with a guy. My question is what's a good first date idea which isn't something where we can't talk or sit at a restaurant. I was thinking something fun like laser tag or something but I'm honestly not sure. Would like you suggestions please!Just to clarify again we will eat but we don't want to sit at a restaurant and simply talk and eat. We are looking for something special but still with aspects of communication.Thank you very much!
I just had my first gay experience :D
Hello there, I'm 18 years old and I have dated out with a fking cute 23 years old guy, he took me in his car and we went to a separated place. When we reached he played music at the car... we started with kissing, then with sucking and finally with ending up sitting on his cool "stick". As a first time I can tell it was amazinggg! I usually read stuff here from the forum and it helped me to pass this experience in a better way! So I'm glad that there's such an amazing community for gays :)
Hiring a boyfriend?
If someone is an ugly, boring, completely uninteresting loser with no friends, social skills or redeeming qualities whatsoever, could it be a possibility to just somehow hire a boyfriend? Like for a certain amount of money a month, or whatever. Asking for a friend.
My life so far. Also, help.
I've been debating posting this for around 3 months now, and am currently in one of those 'midnight can't sleep because I'm stressing over stupid shit' moods, so I'm sorry if this is convoluted and hard to follow.So I've known I was 'different' basically as long as I can remember; running to my neighbor's house at 3 years old to play Ballerina in her basement for the entire day (it was fantastic mind you). But I didn't realize I was gay until maybe 10 or 11.I've grown up in a very small, conservative town in southern Pennsylvania and I immediately knew I couldn't tell anyone. It just felt wrong, as if this giant beautiful blanket that was my childhood was ripped off of some disgusting, malformed truth about myself that I absolutely hated.At 13 I was in a pretty horrible place. I've always been really quiet, so no one really noticed or cared. Not that I had friends who would have noticed or cared anyway. I contemplated suicide daily, thinking of what way I would prefer to go out without letting my parents find out, as if even they wouldn't notice.I knew that these terrible thoughts I was having weren't healthy, and I really needed to change something. But I didn't want to get better, I honestly felt like this was my punishment for being gay and that this was how I was going to spend the rest of my life.Then I saw one of Tyler Oakley's videos on YouTube, and he was nothing like how I thought gay people were, or were supposed to be. I slowly came out of my depression and began making friends after probably 3-4 years of just being 'that quiet kid who doesn't talk'.Flashforward to my freshman year of high school, I had a lot of friends, none of which I would ever consider coming out to, but that didn't matter because I more of began coming out to myself. Forcing myself to accept that this is who I am. I still had, and have, periods were the thought that being gay is wrong. I remember making this massive list of around 175 reasons why I shouldn't come out during study hall, and I sort of lived by it for a while. Later that year, I told myself that I was going to come out to my friend that summer. But I made sure it was someone I wouldn't mind losing, but knows me really well, and if I didn't do it I was going to kill myself (WHICH SOUNDS ABSOLUTE RIDICULOUS ATM OF TYPING THIS, probably because it is). Well, when you didn't have friends for the 4 years prior to this happening, I didn't have many options.As expected, I didn't tell him. We were camping, and right before bed (more like 3 am) I told him that I had something to tell him, but I couldn't say it. So we went to bed. I still haven't said "I'm gay" out loud, which would probably help.Sophomore year went great, and I'm planning on actually coming out this summer, to the same person, and I've realized I am not prepared at all. He, and everyone else I know, is very conservative, Christian, and probably doesn't have the best view of gay people. But he is definitely my best bet for maintaining sanity. How do I tell him? Everyone always says "You'll know the right time". Well, it's been 14 years and I'm tired of waiting.Side statement + question: My parents are very homophobic. My mother was raised Jehovah's Witness, and father Catholic (say what you will). I've recently noticed that I'm sort of pushing them away without realizing it, if that makes sense. I don't know, preparing for the worst I guess. How could I possibly come out to them, without being kicked out? Or would it be better to wait until I'm independent, which may be very hard if I come out to friends now because my mom works as a teacher at my highschool.This is really long, and very unnecessary, I'm sorry.
2017. május 30., kedd
He has a girlfriend now.
I look at the Facebook chat and read each line carefully.My old friends are teasing him for not spending time with them anymore because he now has a girlfriend.When did this happen?I stare at the computer screen. A sunken feeling weighs down my chest.This feels familiar. It has happened before. I thought it was painful enough to hear him and his lover over the dormitory wall. But this time is different, this time he has feelings for her, this time it's real.It is a crush. I am not in denial. I only ask someone to see that it is valid.It is not just a crush. It is not more than a crush. It is a crush, and I am in fucking pain because of it.He doesn't know how I feel about him, he probably never will.I'm grieving, for something. It feels like grieving. Except, the most important person is not even at the funeral. And that's the most painful part of it - if no one knows about it, then it never existed.Can you hear me?I say I love you.I still love you.Still you.EDIT: Grammar. Removed divider and adjectives.
Seeing my friends cock
This time I was at a sleepover with my friend Jake s. (We were about 6 at the time) We played t ball together and hung out a lot. I was in his room waiting to go to bed but he was taking a shower. He walked in to the room and dropped his towel, he was completely naked. His uncircumcised penis was sitting in front of me. He had this koala stuffed animal and took it out. He showed me that he had cut a hole by its groin and he stuck his little cock in the hole. He went in and out pumping it.He then turned and told me to take off my cloths. I had already done this with my other friend so it was no big deal to me. I took them off and he came closer to me. He put his lips around my cock and put his in my face. He said I'll suck yours if you suck mine. We sucked eachothers cocks for a good ten minutes befor going to bed. He sleeps next to me in the same bed. We were both naked. He put his cock next to mine and we fell asleep. The next morning I woke up to find him with his hand around my cock. When I asked him what he was doing he said he was having a little fun. I sat up and got him off of me. He sat there naked playing games and running around the house naked all day while his parents were at work. We never spook if that day again.
Wow. I'm legitimately really gay.
Yes, this is a ripoff of this post, but still.I am really, REALLY gay. There are a lot of people on this subreddit that are more ambiguous about their sexuality, being kind of attracted to men and women.I am not one of those people.I scored a solid 6 on the Kinsey Scale and have never had a boner because of anyone but a guy. I find the idea of a romantic relationship with a woman/girl confusing and unnatural, but when I envision one with a guy, it just clicks. Odd events in my life where I felt something "wrong" or "out-of-place" suddenly make sense.This feels like a movie twist, but for my life. I am gay. Really gay.Thank you.Edit: comment =/= post
When is coming out a good time?
A little background info: I'm 19, I have a job, and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months. I love him to death. He's completely out, and I'm not out at all. Just mutual friends between me and my boyfriend and his parents know. My parents are, for a lack of better way to explain, 70% against LGBTQ+ and 30% for it. My mom has openly expressed homophobia, but never really took it "too far". I really want to come out so I can bring my boyfriend farther into my life and stop worrying so much about who knows and who doesn't. People say, "wait for whenever YOU think it's right" but honestly, I don't even know when that is.
Is he gay?
Yes, I asked a question that is none of my business. I have a friend that claims to be straight, he has slept with a woman before .There are things that stuck out about this guy, stereotypical and odd. I'll just list them below. The more I hung out with him, the more things stuck out-he is effeminate in some regards. He lightly slaps when you're joking with him, either it's your arm or leg -he is touchy-feely -he talks about girls in an odd way, either they are sluts or drunks or a combination of the two in his eyes and always picks apart how they dress. -i've pointed out attractive girls and he looks right past them, even in an open setting he doesn't look at big girls or small girls. -his relationships are short term (1 week , 4 months , and 1 month) all of those girls approached him rather than he chasing girls -he likes to quote Mean Girls, a lot. (Stereotype I know haha)He has no reason to be in the closet. His mother is the most welcoming woman ever and he has a bisexual brother and plenty of gay cousins, his father is kind of homophobic in some regards, but has lightened up a lot in recent years.There are many other things, but that is just a few of the obvious ones.As I said, I am aware his sexuality is none of my business but it has peaked my curiosity, I'll never ask him about it, but I do want to be that ally he can depend on if he is and wants to come out one day.
Am I being selfish?
So I just came out to a few of my friends about weeks ago. They took it well, and I'm planning on coming out to two more in the near future. However, over the past few weeks, I have felt more depressed and alone than ever before, which I know sounds and feels ridiculous. I think I'm starting to accept that I'm gay myself, and the thought makes me sad. I know I'm going to be alone for a long time, and after realizing that I am gay, I realized how much it hurts to feel alone. I'm feeling almost desperate to be in a relationship, and I feel like it's drowning me. I guess i haven't ever thought about relationships until now, because despite thinking that I'm straight for 16 years, I never really pictured myself with a girl. So this leads me to my questions. Basically, I have felt an overwhelming need to talk to somebody about these feelings. Every time I think about reaching out, I feel like I'm being selfish, and that I'm just bothering my friends with stupid problems. I don't want to be an attention grabber so I'm just kind of bottling them up. I know I can't do this for much longer though. So I need to know: if I talk to my friends about this, is it selfish of me? Is it selfish to dump my stupid problems onto them and be self centered?
Seeing my friends cock
When me and my friend were both 6 (we are both guys) we decided to compare cocks. I didn't think it was a big deal so I went in to the bathroom with him. His little sister tried to come but we told her it was only for guys.We took each price of clothing off one by one until we were completely nude. He then suggested we took photos so we posed and took photos of each other's cocks.Since then we have still been best friends and have never talked about that day again.
Seeing my friends cock
This time I had a sleepover with my friend Austin.We were both seven and we wondered what each others cocks looked like. We were in my room and he took of his cloths.He said "you saw mine now show me yours."I was very hesitant but then I did. My cock was a good inch longer then his.He told me that it's ok to lick them and that he has done it before. I kneeled down and liked his smooth ball sac.He then kneeled in front of me and game me a full blow job. He threw me on the bed and started licking and sucking and doing everything under the sun to me. It was amazing.Two years later he moved away and we haven't spoken since.
Khalid's Location's about Grindr?
So I'm not a usual redditer so sorry if this is in the wrong section, but...I was listening to Khalid's Location and the intro sounded weirdly familiar. I realized it is virtually the same sound as the Grindr message notification.Adding to that the lyrics could really be about a hookup and there is not a single gender identifier in the song.Do you think this song could actually be about Grindr?
Can a man be in a Women's only spa area wth nudity?
I'm 33, lesbian, and my gf is 37. We live in NYC and recently visited Spa Castle in queens.Part of the hot tubs and pools are gender separated and in the women only area, nudity is required. No suits allowed in the pools. Gf and I went naked and got in- while there we saw a woman sitting next to what looked like a man. They stayed under the water, talking for a long time.This area is not easy to get into and we assumed ok trans maybe? We were cool with it for the most part.Then this guy stood up and was wearing a speedo in the pool. Wait a second, that's just a dude! Or was it?This sparked a convo about gender and spaces and sexual orientation.Were we as lesbians welcome there? Kids were running around naked. We kept the PDA to a zero and of course don't stare at others. We are bio gender female and identify that way.If he was a gay man in a Women's only area, is that ok?If he is trans and pre op and FEELS like a woman, is that ok?If he is a straight man in a naked women's bathing area, is that ok?Does gender conformity take priority over sexual identity when it comes to naked spa areas?Would love to know what people think!We talked about it a lot and saw all sides of the issue.
Asking for a friend, Part 2/Update
This is a follow up to [THIS POST]Tl;dr -My buddy and his bf broke up. -we talked about our feelings and our friendship.-I have the best friend ever and am glad I took reddit's advice and didn't fuck it up.So this ended up turning out completely different than expected. They ended up breaking up this past weekend. My buddy seemed to be doing ok, and then kind of broke down while a few of us were hanging out on Memorial Day. He and I went apart from the others to talk...he was sobbing and lamenting the breakup and then he apologized to me over and over and when I asked what he was talking about he said "I know you have feelings for me and I'm sorry for dragging you through this with me and I love you and I'm truly so sorry I can't be with you right now but that's just not where my life is going to be for the foreseeable future. I won't do anything to hurt you or let you be hurt."He, like myself, is the empath type and I had a sneaking suspicion after the last post that he may already know. I let him know that I did have strong feelings for him and assured him that our friendship was number one between us, that I've properly boundaried my feelings and not let them come into play in inappropriate ways such as advice toward his relationship and that he had nothing to apologize for.We talked again today at lunch and I told him that if anything, I should be thanking him because for the first time since my own breakup several years ago, i've felt strongly toward someone, something I thought might never happen again.We've reaffirmed our friendship and its boundaries, spoken openly about our cares and concerns and the things that make our bond so special and meaningful and the two of us couldn't be happier to have someone so caring and wonderful on our side to walk through life with. Who knows what the future holds but what I have in my best friend is amazing and something I thank God for.Thank you guys for your advice. For those in the various stages of relationships, friendships, breakups, etc., I can't stress enough how important it is to let life be what it is and see the hidden gifts in situations that don't seem to be going your way. When life gets shitty, I'd rather have this wonderful friend I met by chance last year at work by my side than for him to be my trophy boyfriend or cuddle bud or whatever else. Life or God or whatever you believe in put us in one another's lives and helped us to find what we needed to be for one another. It'll happen for you too when you need it.
Need advice.
Hey guys, I don't know what to do.I'm in a long term relationship with the greatest girl ever and I love her to death. But ever since around freshman year of highschool (I'm now 21) I've been having homosexual tendencies and fantasies (I only watch gay porn, play with toys, and fantasize about my guy friends more than women). I figured the tendencies would go away but they just grew over time and I'm honestly so confused. I don't want to break up with my girlfriend because I love her and she's my best friend so I don't want to lose her, but I also really want to experiment with another guy. What should I do?Ps were both catholic and this kinda thing isn't the most excepted behavior with her and my family.
How long is the average gay relationship
I've been in a relationship for nearly 6 years. I've been told, jokingly, that's like 12 in gay years. My partners previous relationships lasted about a year and a half. Is there any truth to the stereotype gay men don't usually stay with the same partner for very long?
What is the perfect date according to you?
I have been texting a guy living in a different city and I honestly like him. We're about the same age (17) and we met on an app. It's pretty hard to find gay guys in my country. We want to see each other and I'm making arrangements to do so. This is going to be the first date for both of us, I just want it to be special.
Where do I find guys willing to let me give them head?
Hello there. I'm a bisexual guy but unfortunately I live in a rather homophobic family. As I result I am never coming out to them as, whilst they will accept me, I know things won't be the same. Well anyway, because of this I have decided that I'm only going to have heterosexual relationships and seek 'one night stand' kind of deals with men until I get into a relationship with a women. I'm now 16 (have been for the past few months) and I'm looking to suck my first cock (not sure if I am ready for anal). I've been sort of 'advertising' myself on a few anonymous platforms (I don't want people I know to find out for the reason previously stated) with very little success. I've been looking to use other platforms as well but they don't really seem to be working for me. So basically, does anyone know of any apps or websites that I can use to find someone (not too much older than me) who would be willing to let a 16 year old guy give them head? Also, whilst I am willing to travel a small distance to achieve this, it really can't be too far away from where I live (south of England). Thanks in advance for any help or advice you can provide! <3
How can I deal with jealousy?
So I've noticed that I'm very jealous(or envious) at other people, espicially at other gays. Like when they talk about their sex life and how many hookups and sex partners they had while I'm 16 years old,still a virgin and never had a boyfriend or even my first kiss. I get a big hate feeling from that. Also things like someone having a better house/apartment or education makes me jelous too. Same goes for someone who's better looking.Has anyone ever felt the same? How did you deal with it?
Australian gays! What would marriage equality mean for you?
I'm an Australian gay man - I'm all for equality but apart from calling another man my husband, am unsure what it would actually mean for me rights-wise or emotionally.
Umm so yeah....
So I may or may not have just lost my virginity to my best friends boyfriend while she was less than 3 feet away...
2017. május 29., hétfő
about dick size...
So I am in the former half of high school, and my dick is 5" erect. Is this average? By the time my penis has stopped growing, will it be average, above, or below? I'm not thinking of getting into any sex stuff, I just (obviously, like all guys) want to have a big dick. Obviously, all methods of increasing dick size are BS, everyone knows that. Just wondering :)A mildly insecure homosexual (relatable, am I right?)
My friend is on the verge of liking me and not liking me.
So I like my friend, he acts/says he's straight but he has done things that make me feel he is also gay. He used to hint around on snapchat sending me pictures of him shirtless and in his underwear, I would do the same back (I guess to lowkey tell him I was also interested). Well here lately he has been pulling away, not from talking, but like he doesn't send suggestive pics/text anymore. Last night he put a snap on his story that I'm pretty positive is about me. It said "I tried to kill my feelings for you but instead the feelings killed me". I took it as he is trying to stop having feelings for me? He has been mentioning girls a lot lately, I feel like he does this to make sure I know he isn't interested. Each day lately he switchs between him liking me and not liking me. So I want him to like me, I feel like I just need to win him over. I know you are going to say "talk to him in person" but is there anything I can put on my story or hint around to him that can make him want me? He acts like he wants me but then remembers he's trying to not like me (for some reason) so he pulls away. So any suggestions?
Making connections
Hey everyone,I'm not sure if this is a good idea or a stupid one but I was thinking if people wanted to post a little about themselves, where they are from, and maybe their social media handles to help people make connections with each other. Some people may be from the same areas and not know it, so it could be a cool way to make new connections and friends with people around you or even in different parts of the world.I'll start:I'm from Rhode Island, born and raised, recently graduated from college and moving to Boston in the fall. I work in Public Accounting, and I'm interested in running, movies, aviation, among other things. My instagram/twitter/Snapchat are all ccc3735 if anyone is interested in connecting!Not sure if anyone will follow this but we will see!
Help
I am 16 yr old gay. I had receptive anal sex and the guy took off the condom and finished then immediately left. He was older about 19. I have not had any hiv symptoms until a few days ago the lymph nodes in my beck have become swollen and tender and no other symptoms. I have no way to go to a doctor or clinic and have no way to afford an at home test. I am panicking. I have no idea what to do. It has junpstarted my depression again rlly bad and my anxiety has sky rocketed. Idk what to do
Gay Runescape Stripper/ Streamer!!!
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Not gay anymore
Sorry guys, it was fun but I'm going back to the vagina side. I'll be gay again in the future for sure but for now I'm not gay. I might have just been pretending to be gay. Maybe I'm pretending to be straight right now. Either way, I'm unsubscribing.
I honestly do not believe that I can ever come out to anyone in my real life.
I'm still trying to come to terms with the fact that I am probably gay, but I just don't think I can ever come out to anybody. I know that being gay is not a big deal, and maybe nothing will come out of it, but no matter what, people in my life will always look at me differently.I have denied numerous times that I am gay to people because I apparently "act gay", and saying that I actually am won't make me feel any more secure about myself.I just wish that sexuality wasn't a thing. I'm just depressed with how I'm not able to do anything with my life because I can't be me. But I can never bring up the nerve to come out. And if I do, I don't want to be seen as different. I'd rather be seen in the mask that society already sees me and be insecure underneath it than have no mask at all.I know this sounds silly and I know that a lot of people have it worse, but I just can't do it. I think I have some kind of mental thing where I just can't be this person that I've been denying to be my whole life. I just want to be what I've told everybody I am.Sorry.
How to come out to friends?
So I'm having a hard time coming out to my friends. My mom already kind of knows and is accepting but I don't know how to come out to my classmates. Can someone please give me advice? Thanks for future responses. If it helps; I'm in middle school.
Is it possible for sexuality to change over time?
I think that I'm gay, but I don't think I can live my life out of the closet. Is it possible that maybe I'll find an interest in the opposite sex in the future?
Kinda upsetting
It's rather upsetting how shallow some people can be, I've been trying to find a date, the moment I ask someone (doing this outside of the internet) they automatically play the weight card. Yes I'm rather large, but I've been working on it. Makes me feel like shit most the time. It's disheartening.
How do you guys "make a move"?
It's not that I haven't tried, he just never gets it. I need to come up with something bold enough for him to notice me
Guys not into the "scene"
Can you explain this to me, fellas? What does that mean to you? Why does the "scene" turn you off?I'm trying to understand this, because I've only very recently seen this when talking to guys. Frankly it frustrates me. Now, I can't force someone to like things that I like. The reason it frustrates me is because I like going out to bars and clubs and all that, and the instant I mention this when asked what I do for fun, some guys are very "I'm not into the scene" or "Oh..." and the conversation stops. Elaborate.
about dating...
So I am a teen in high school (on the younger side of high school) and I was looking through all the posts. Obviously I want to date people in high school but...and here's the really obvious catch...there just aren't as many gay people as straight people, and some people that are gay aren't out yet. (Neither am I, but that's a problem I hope to solve soon.) Another thing spoken about in the posts is that it seems that a lot of gay people usually engage more in one-night-stands/don't go for a long-term relationship. I don't have any illusions of meeting my soulmate in high school or whatever, but I don't want any relationships I may get into to be purely (or even mostly) physical. I'm far too young for that sort of thing; I'm going to deal with that when I'm good and ready.So, with the above in mind, any tips for getting guys? How do you know if they're gay/how do you ask them out/all that? I'm fairly short and wouldn't label myself as wonderfully attractive (though I don't think I'm ugly). I am somewhat fit though, and I have been described by most of my friends as smart and nice. I'm super-nerdy.Tips?
My First Breakup
After almost two and a half years I'm alone again. I met him almost immediately after I came out (I'm 19) and I'd talked with him and been with him every day since then, and I never really associated with a lot of other people much less other gays. I feel like I've lost a big ol' chunk of my life and I don't really know where to go from here or how or when to put myself out there again.
Q: Gay Or Not Gay (Worrying)
Hey, it started around 4 days ago when I just couldn't get hard anymore on woman. My only thoughts went to gay porn and I just got hard on that. Now here is that I don't have any feelings at all for boys but it's just the gay porn that interests me. Is this normal? And will I ever be able to do it with woman again? And is this a normal thing in puberty (My Age: 13).
Really thinking of coming out of the closet
So yeah I wanna come out of the closet to my mum and dad but I'm not sure how to, I'm also a furry interested in yiff but I'm not sure how my parents will react, really reaching out for help. finn.bradburn@henleyhs.sa.edu.au is my most used email, would appreciate some help thanks. I included my email as I'm not always on Reddit :)
Considering coming out of the closet
Hey so I'm considering coming out of the closet but I don't know how to come out to my parents, I really need some help. My email is brodie.meyers@henleyhs.sa.edu.au I would really like some help on this, thanks.
2017. május 28., vasárnap
Would it be healthy to stay a virgin my entire life so nobody has to know that I am gay?
Since I don't really plan on leaving the closet, and since I am already a virgin, is it healthy to just stay to myself my entire life, and let online relationships and pornography tend to my needs?
I want to be used
I want someone to tell me how much they want to use and fuck me, voice and video is preferable. using a throw away because I want to be somewhat anon.
New friends
Hi Everyone,I'm 25 and I just came out as gay. Most of my friends stopped taking to me and I feel lonely. I tried using gay networking/dating apps such as Grindr, Scruff, Tinder, and Jack'd to make new friends but no luck. As my last resort, I am going to try this site.Born and Raised in the state of Washington. I'm very family oriented and love outside activities. I love to play video games and spend time hanging out with friends. I'm an easy going person and try to stay clear of any drama.My dreams are to flourish in my career and eventually own my own business one day. In the mean time, I enjoy working in Public Accounting and am lucky to have a job considering the economy these days.My favorite music consist of Lady Gaga, Rihanna, Beyoncé, and Nicki Minaj. However I'm open to listening to anything original. I'm a music junkie so I don't mind other genre's. In my free time, I enjoy reading, watching Netflix, and most of all playing video games.I'm looking for a people I can vibe with on a spiritual and intellectual level. Someone who can teach me new things and inspire me.Interested? Send me a message and we can go from there!
What does it mean if I (M) am physically attracted to guys, but emotionally attracted to girls?
Does this mean that a long-term relationship would ever work for me? (That is, if I ever decide to come out of the closet)
Typical advice seeking....
So I have this guy texting me. I don't know how he got my number, but he did. I don't know him. He lives in the next town over apparently. He knows me...(name, age, height, friends, my sexuality, where I live,...etc) I don't know him. He says he got all the information from people around the area. He says he does not want to date me, does not want to hurt me. He only wants a friend. I ask him to send a pic. He doesn't want to. (I don't really care who is gay or not) he tells me about his life and how he's scared to come out. I told him to fuck off quite a few times. He still texts me. I do sometimes talk to him via text. I'm getting creeped out every day by this guy.I'm thinking if I should stop replying to his texts. Should I contact the authorities?Idk what to do.
am i gay
The account posting this is not my main Reddit account.So I am fairly sure I am gay. I have never gotten a hard-on from anything but thoughts about males, and I have never felt any kind of romantic attraction to the female gender. Of course, I can appreciate if a woman is smart/attractive/possessing other good qualities, but I am not sexually attracted to them. My question is: does this qualify me as "gay"? I want to be absolutely sure before I "come out" to my friends & family.If I am indeed gay, I would like to know: what struggles do most gay people face? I live in a fairly liberal place, so I don't usually encounter anti-LGBT sentiments, but do ordinary people (as in non-prejudiced people) sometimes accidentally create challenges for you?Essentially, all I am looking for is guidance and help in this nebulous place. I would really appreciate some real answers, as this is (obviously) a significant part of one's identity; I don't really feel comfortable discussing it with family until I'm sure either way.
He's Got a Fiancé, I've got an empty bottle of champagne, and we're both about to be miserable forever. (True Story, Part 2)
So, I'm continuing....Here's Part 1: The Alignmenthttps://www.reddit.com/r/gay/comments/5lktbk/hes_got_a_fiancé_ive_got_an_empty_bottle_of/Part 2: The Be-WildernessIt was Friday morning, and I had to get up for work. The sun light split in between the blinds, gently warming my face. I smiled; I could still smell Anthony on me, but the smile quickly dissipated as I began to wake up and remember the look on his face after he dropped me off. At work, I felt a little giddy. Something cool had happened last night between us for the first time, and my boss was there, giving me a cheeky smile and a look from the corner of his eyes, like "finally, told you so", and I chuckled to myself. Maybe things were finally happening for me... but this dude had a girlfriend... for half of his adult life.... I began to put my guard up, but I was sure I was not the crazy gay dude who falls for the straight guy. That's not who I am, and I never felt comfortable with putting pressure on a guy whose sexuality I was unsure of. I just did not want to come off as a straight-dude hungry homo like a lot of us are stereotyped as.Students were filing in and out of the tutoring center as I stood by the door, admiring the fresh Autumn breeze. Anthony was sitting with a group of his friends; they always sat on the couches by the door chattering away in Spanish. Of course, I would secretly be listening to their shenanigans. Anytime something racy came up, Anthony would look at me and give a devious smile, knowing I knew exactly what they were saying, even though my Spanish is a little rough. The giddiness began to well up in my stomach, like a child being seated on a roller coaster before it takes off. I looked down at my phone and sent a simple smiley face to him... because he made me smile... gross.... He looked up and gave me a puzzled look and brushed it off. This puzzled me. Anthony's shift ended, and he took his posse of chattering Mexican girls and waved goodbye as he disappeared behind the sliding glass doors. I pursed my lips and gave a slanted smile. I could feel the confusion brewing, and I decided that this is something I should let go. I was obviously tripping out, and this straight 21 year old man, who was been with the same girl since the age of 15, is not gay and made no advances... but isn't that the typical closeted gay dude's story? I didn't know what to think. I just sipped on my coffee and continued to stand by the door, waiting for my students to show up. The glass counter top beneath my fingers vibrated, and Anthony's name popped up on my phone, but the name was changed to "Tony <3" with a blue heart next to it. My eyebrows furrowed and I tilted my head. "He changed his own name in my phone? Weird." I thought to myself. My finger met the place where his name was strewn, and I swiped to the right. It was a picture of a mousepad next to a desktop. The mouse pad, though, had tiny pictures of Anthony and his beloved collaged together."Haha, my mom is too much! Look what she had made." The text read. I was right; this was all in my head, and I was the crazy gay dude after all. I felt nauseous after looking at the photo for much longer than I should have. I walked over to my boss, who sat engrossed in his weird game on the computer. Did he ever even work? I showed him the screen, and he inhaled deeply as he saw the "I'm a fool" look on my face."Dude. This kid is obviously gay. Do you know what you two look like together? You two start to talk and then that's it. There's only you two, and it's weird. He's been with this girl for 6 years... this is bound to get messy." He gave me a hardy pat on my shoulder. "Oh, Anthony", he chortled. My eyes darted to the couch where Anthony was seated just an hour before. A sideways smile creeped up on my face, "Wipe that Obama smile off of your face. Put yourself in his shoes. It's hard, dude!" I felt my pupils dilate at the idea of Anthony having to come out to his family. I nodded, slouched down over the glass counter top of the front desk's side and rested my head on my hand. I sighed out of the side of my mouth and stuffed the thought of anything "Anthony" into the back spaces of my mind as I completed my shift.I began to minimize contact with Anthony. Whatever was happening between us began to remind me of how I felt when my heart got broken for the first time. No one breaks your heart like a best friend does, and this was beginning to feel similar. I was investing into Anthony, and I learned never to do that after I learned my lesson, but he knew exactly what to say and how to say it.... The funny thing is, when I first saw the kid, I found him to be a repulsive nerd: gawky, long limbed, awkward and he sported glasses, but something changed. I don't know how attraction works, but over the timeframe of observing and becoming Tony's best friend, I realized I had found the other side to my coin. I was the extroverted version, and he was the introverted version. Our friendship grew into something that needed no words. When anything was said that caught our attention, we would glance over at each other, and a nonverbal conversation would ensue. I had never connected with another human being on this level, which is something he admit as well; I began to bear the weight of beginning to fall for someone who would act on his feelings but never admit them. I mean, I still was not sure if this was all in my head or not.During the Fall semester, we shared a physics class, and we formed a large group of friends. We called ourselves "The Delicious Deltas", as each lab group had to come up with a name. Slowly, I befriended each of these people on a personal level. There was Ariel and Xavier, a fresh couple who had sexual tension flying all over the room. Both of them were beyond attractive, and I'm sure I wasn't the only one who needed a cold shower after seeing them make out in-between lecture and lab. Olivia, a woman of amazon stature but a heart of gold, and obvious latin decent, claimed her space as my "closest friend" because of the classes we previously shared, and we were fairly close. Lastly, besides Anthony and myself, there was Aurora. Fair skinned, pleasantly curvaceous, and a glance that would pierce fear into anyone's heart; she quickly laid down her barbed wired wall and allowed me to court her in friendship; at least thats how it felt, Haha. Either way, it paid off. Our tight knit group was cohesive, strong, smart, and most importantly, hilarious. We all quickly became close friends that would pull each other through hardships and be there for each other whether we failed or succeeded. This also meant that my relationship with Anthony was hard to ignore, hard to dismiss, and even harder to legitimize.One night, Anthony and I held a physics study session at the center; all of the Deltas showed up, and we all aided each other in the complexities of the angles of a plane's wing in relation to the wind and such. It was a successful session with laughter, jokes, and an obvious increase in the level of camaraderie between us all. Aurora also took the time to fill everyone in on the existence of a micro penis, which we all found fascinating. The lot of us were all some sort of pre-health major: medicine, veterinary science, and dentistry, and I felt like I had finally found my crew. Over the hours, we mastered everything we needed to know and were prepared for the test. The deltas all filed out, one by one, but Olivia, being the extremely considerate person that she was, stayed behind with Anthony and I in efforts to help us clean up. Anthony was standing by the white board and I began to talk about some random science experiment someone was conducting. Our conversation topic enveloped us until we were interrupted by Olivia attempting to bid us farewell. We too grabbed our things, turned off the lights, and we began to walk out of the center. Olivia and I bid Anthony farewell, and Olivia followed me to my car, so I could take her to her's.There wasn't even a moment of silence in the car before Olivia blurted, "Is Anthony gay?." I, taken aback, looked at her very bewilderedly. "Yeah, what the fuck was that between you two back there? It felt like you wanted me to leave so you guys could be alone. You were in your own world, and I wasn't there with you." I just sat, staring at the H on my steering wheel."Olivia, he has a girlfriend. Of course he's not gay. They're like talking about getting married and shit. Chill," I defended. I dug my nails into the steering wheel's fake leather that would crumble onto my palms as I drove. I gave another "Obama smile" and exhaled deeply through my nose. "I don't know, but you're not the only one who sees this shit, and I don't know what to do." I quickly filled Olivia in on the whole deal."DUDE. He loves you, are you joking? Look at those texts", she yipped. I turned red, but not because I was blushing, but because I began to feel nauseous, and I closed my eyes. I knew that this would be a sticky mess, and that I would more than likely be hurt by giving it a chance, but I couldn't forget how complete I felt when he was around, and I know I wanted more.A few weeks passed, and we found ourselves sitting at the tutor's bench. Anthony and I watched the clock's long arm move by until we could get up and go to our physics class. The movie nights with our devious co-workers would continue, our texts didn't cease to be flirty and overly caring, we both would just bring food and coffee for each other at work, and the fellow tutors at work began to title me as "his husband" whenever referring to me. It was obviously a funny joke, but anytime I heard it, I would look at him, and he would smile at me and look away, biting his cheek in efforts to hide his smile. I stood up from the bench and signaled for Anthony to follow me. We walked over to the computers and began looking up animals. I explained to him that when I graduate from medical school, the first thing I will do is but myself a pet fox, and I showed him pictures. He scooted me over and began to type onto the black keyboard. He pushed his chair away from the desk, turned the monitor towards me and showed me a miniature marmoset. "I'm gunna get one of these." We both chuckled, grabbed our bags, said our goodbyes to the other staff members and darted out of the sliding glass doors of the center. I was frustrated while walking with Anthony. I felt good, but frustrated anytime I was with Anthony. I had all these feelings I was putting out that were being reciprocated, but where was the line in the sand? Where was too far? I decided to try and stir the water a little bit to assess reactions.We took our seats next to the fellow Deltas in the left corner of the classroom. I pulled out my phone, found "Tony <3" and texted "Our love is invalid", closed my eyes, and sent it. It was stupid, I know... even weird. But I got the response I was looking for. I peeked at him from the corner of my peripheral vision. I could see him typing, and the "..." symbol appeared, notifying me he was typing. He then stopped, looked up at me as I turned to him. His eyebrows were furrowed, his head was tilted, and he looked utterly offended. I stuck my tongue out at him, made a funny face, and turned around and pretended to be really into the lecture and my notes, even though I had no idea what was going on. My phone vibrated repeatedly and messages flashed on the screen of my phone one after another. "???", "What do you mean???", "Don't say shit like that." The satisfaction I felt was unreal, but I couldn't show that, so I didn't respond. Class was over, and the sigmas proceeded to walk to our cars, chatting along the way. Anthony walked particularly close, almost nudging me to answer his texts, but he had a habit of never being able to speak things out loud. Text messages were always easier. I continued to pay him no attention. I could tell he was really annoyed that I called our love in valid, but I tried my best to pay it no attention, and I drove home.The next time that Anthony and I were at work together wasn't a day followed by class. The air was still dry between us, as I had continued to down play our relationship because it was "invalid" for some reason I could not explain, but we both knew. This set him off in some weird way where he began to constantly check on me and my well being. He would offer random things in efforts to get me to come back to the way I was, but I was irritated with the whole thing, and I began to feel some disrespect. We again sat behind the front desk gawking at the possibilities our futures hold, and of course, all of the animals that we would have. Again, I pull up various images of domestic foxes. Anthony points to the screen, looks at me diligently and says "We'll get this one." I looked at him without turning my head."I'll get this one," I firmly said. He showed me pictures of marmosets once more, and again, hinted at the two of us owning pets together. He would play out scenarios in which we'd be "at home" and his marmoset would be terrorized by my fox and things would be crazy. I stopped to ask him where his wife would be in all of this, and he would just laugh it off. I defended the fact that I would not share a pet with him and his wife... or a living space, as his fantasy was eluding to. I was confused and I knew I needed some form of proof for the way he was feeling since he would never say anything that convinced me.A friend's advice rang in my ears, "Play on his jealousy." I knew what to do from that point on. Anthony knew how much I liked the way he smelled, and he was very proud of the effect it had on me, joking that was the only reason he puts on "extra" cologne. I cringed at the thought of his tiny, silent girlfriend being mixed into all of this. I mean, nothing super serious happened yet, but her boyfriend was totally courting a dude. I had to do something to make sure that I wasn't crazy, I didn't make this all up in my head, and that I'm not the crazy gay dude who tries to turn straight men. Like Madonna answering a prayer, my next, and last, appointment arrived, and he happened to be a beefy studly Mexican dude, exactly my type, and I saw Anthony's body contort like a dog in a defensive pose. I felt the adrenaline pulse through my body, and I almost yelped with excitement. This was going to work, I thought to myself.I greeted the student in a very welcoming fashion, like I did all of my students. I filled out his paper work and asked him to take a seat in the back of the center. I turned to Anthony and exclaimed, with an elaborate smile on my face, "OMG. He smells so freakin' good!" I could see Anthony's jaw muscle clench; he opened his mouth like he was going to say something, but I grabbed my legal pad and walked to the student, whom in-fact, did not smell very good.As the center prepared for closing, I finished up my appointment with the student and walked up to the front. The sliding glass doors had just closed, and I could see Anthony's long, Jack Skellington-like figure walking away. He always had stylish choice of backpacks.... I thought it was very odd of him not to wait for me, as we always wait ridiculous amounts of time for each other to finish just to simply walk to our cars together. I collected my things, fastened my backpack, and looked at my phone."1 Message From Tony <3"I opened the text, and the most confusing emotions flooded me as my eyes moved across the screen."No one will ever love you like I can love you."I looked out into the distance behind the glass door. I could no longer see him slinking away into the darkness.
Questioning if I'm gay - nsfw
I'm in my late 20s, I've always questioned if I was gay even though I'm also attracted to women. I almost exclusively watch gay porn and love playing with toys and find some men very attractive. But the other day I finally made the leap to meet up with a guy. He wanted me to top him. He blew me for 15 minutes but I just couldn't get it up. I pretty much never have this problem and I was sober so there was no whiskey dick. It felt really good but for whatever reason I just could not get hard. He eventually left and that was that.Maybe I need to try just bottoming. But I'm really questioning my sexuality and maybe I'm not gay??? Has anyone else found themselves in this situation before?
Married but want something fun..
Hey all! I am a 31 year old married (female) guy. I've never ever been with a guy before but lately I have been thinking about it a lot, I love would love to experience a guy. I guess is this kind of a normal straight guy thing to think?
Call Me Please!
Please can you send dick pics to me on snapchat: danielmanton. Or you can phone me on 07427574228 for sexy time.
I have a question
This is my first posting here and hopefully I am in the right place , first I am a divorced , bisexual who feel that one of my close friends is recently flirting with me , he is married but mention to me on several occasions that he is not happy with his wife and he is looking for a gf , he text me kisses and hearts and always ask me for sleeping over when his wife is not around , he mention that he has gay friends and go to gays club with them , he mention that he love anal penetration and he like to watch dicks when he watch porn movies, I was wondering how to tell him that I am bisexual and ready to be with him in indirect way or how to find out if he is bisexual in indirect way ?
Need some help...
I want to be in a relationship. I so want it. But i am creating an issue for myself. When i start liking or dating a person, I start getting possessive for him. I start expecting. I expect he will call me. I expect he will reply to my message. I try my level best to hide it, but it comes out. I start getting anxious and nervous.Most of you guys might think im completely normal. Yes i am.. Its ok to expect, i know.. But why i start overthinking so much? It really affects my ability to work and make logical decisions.And possibly, i start thinking that the guy did not like me and he was talking to me because i was talking to him.I know i am asking a very common and a predefined template kind of question But i need some answers, even if they are answers which i already know...
i feel like the manchester bombing got more news coverage than pulse night club and it's upsetting me.
49 killed 53 injured.22 killed 59 injured.do the math.i'm enraged and not sure who to blame or take it out on. your thoughts?
Hey, guys. I need your advice about sex.
My first time was last year during summertime. He chatted me up on planetromeo during my summer vacation. He was quite a bit older than me. I was 20 and he was like 34. He wanted us to meet and get to know each other face to face but I was away on vacation. So when I came back I went straight to his place the next day. I was scared as fuck let me tell you, especially because this was my first contact with a homosexual person (that I know). I live in a fairly homophobic society. I even thought about backing off at the last minute when I was in front of his door. My hand on his doorbell and I then I said to myself: "You can't be a pussy forever." And I rang the doorbell. We drank some wine and I just gulped it right away, my heart was racing. Wasn't really romantic, but he was a sweet guy. We started kissing a bit, and touching each other, was my first kiss by the way. Once I relaxed a bit he asked me if I wanted to do it and I said I did. He was really cool about it and told me to just say if I ever wanted him to stop. He had a pretty big member and it hurt like hell. Can't really say I enjoyed it all that much, and I was really tense so that might've been the problem. He told me I could sleep over and I left the next morning. I felt okay, and I haven't done it since and I'd really like to try but I'm afraid it's not gonna be pleasant. Have any of you had similar experiences and do any of you have advice for me? Thanks in advance!
Have you ever been in denial?
Psychology student working on a research project about the gay community. I am looking for volunteers who are, or have been in denial about their sexuality. The aim of the project is to raise awareness of homosexuals' emotional fragility while in denial
Dreams come true?
I had a crush on a boy and one night I saw him with a friend of mine and I started talking with him. We were a little drunk and when it was time to go home I asked him were he was sleeping and he replied that he didn't knew. As a good person that I am I offered him my couch and my friend that knew him was supposed to also stay there. As we are going to my house he asks my friend if she didn't live near there and she caught the signal and left. When we finally get alone he grabs me and kisses me, we talk a little and kiss some more and I ask him what he is looking for because I was not looking for a one night stand. Not because it was him but because I just didn't want a one night stand with anyone. I told him that and I also told him I was a virgin, he answered me that we would have to talk to see what would happen. It happened. We had sex. The next morning comes and we talk a little and then he leaves without a hug or a kiss or even an handshake just a goodbye. I followed him on IG and he followed me back so I sent him a DM. I could tell he wasn't really interested in talking with me. He told me he didn't want to have anything else with me but he told me we didn't have to be in bad terms, I said OK and told him that it would be cool if we could stay friends. The next day I go check the app that tells you if anyone unfollowed you and there he was. He had unfollowed me. I really wanted to ask him why he did that but I just unfollowed him back and deleted our conversation. Did I do the right thing? Am I right for feeling hurt and used? I just needed to get this out of my chest.
What are the best ways to meet someone in real life?
I have recently given up on apps like Bumble, Tinder, etc., and am holding out hope that I will meet someone naturally. What do you guys find as the best ways to meet someone naturally since it isn't as easy for gay people to go up to someone and ask them out (for fear the person isn't gay)?
Shoutout for Grindr for helping gays in Chechnya
https://twitter.com/tyleroakley/status/868821714666442752
Single digital nomad
I've been traveling around alone for a while and it's getting a bit lonely. Any other freelance/remote workers looking for a travel buddy?Me - 28, male, programmer, US passport. I will be in Lille, France until July 1st then heading to the UK. Pretty open to travel plans
Post my nudes?
Want to send my nudes to guys have them posted all over the Internet. Anyone fancy doing it??I'm 22 slim smooth twink/boy from Ireland
2017. május 27., szombat
seems legit but tuckwer catanszor has got mto be a real lousy gay guy
I wsasd thinkin in me bet the ohtter day? where do you get finnished poeices of art frum? museies dont sellim thanks mudslims for stelain the m,oner liza butmn we got it baeck so take thast aribs thanks no hat eplese ntoi to find what you looked for loooler you geared for race?
fecal incontinence possible related to anal sex?
Does anyone have any information, experience? Treatments, practices, remedies? I'm beginning to experience some, and I had a very adventurous phase some time agoF.I. Unrelated to anal sex? Interested in whatever
Sleeping with his cock inside you
My first post here, but i'm curious as this has been a long time fantasy of mine. Have you ever fallen asleep with your partner's cock inside you? Or with yours inside his?
The toughts of coming out
Well, at first im gay and im at high school, I live in a small city and no one ever talked about gay guys living here, its horrible so after some thinking i realized something and I want some advice. I say just to my ex-bestfriend that I was gay, he doenst cared at all, he just got angry because I said to him and not to my mom,it was a waste of time (you can why its EX-boyfriend).This experience put one thing in my mind, WHY should I came out in high school, for me, no one can see that im gay, its impossible , for everyone im only a random dude. And just the tought of my parents getting angry scary me, here we dont have groups of LGBT in anywere, people feel digusting about gay. WHAT SHOULD I DO???
The language of emojees
I met someone who I had hooked up with, but we also hung out and talked a lot and had an overall amazing time together. I am not sure If I want to have something serious with him , but I definitely want to see him again, I would like to at least be friends and I am open to more. The day we met, He was leaving the next day for a month long trip out of the country. I got his number so I could text him, but at the time I wasn't sure if he'd even respond to me. I have texted a few times, but I have been careful not to overdo it or seem too eager. Because of the time differences we weren't texting in real time. There would be like a 12 hour delay. At one point he said he was eating a lot and I responded by texting a bunch of food emojees. The next morning when I got up, I saw he responded with a kissing emoji with a heart. I was surprised and It made me feel good all day. Then that night I got home, I thought to myself "Hello! you need to respond to this!!". So I responded with a kissing emoji, and within 5 minutes he responded with a smiley rainbow emoji. That was our last contact. He should be back next week. I want to see him again but i don't want to come across as being clingy or too eager. I"m not sure how he feels abou me, but I think his sending a kissy emoji shows that he could be interested, and also, his quick response to mine. Its been a few days. I guess asking when he will be back would be good place to start?
My fetish
I know I'm not alone. I know that many people are also into brand shoes and snapbacks.As a teen, seeing another person my age wearing some cute shoes (DC shoes are for bottoms. Mmm) and a great snapback is an instant turn on. It gives them such personality and I just want to put myself inside them as they keep their shoes and hat on. Anyone else feel the same?I myself have been wearing cute shoes and a snapback to attract the attention of a potential mate.
looking for a gay chat?
A few of you from here have already joined us and stuck around, but just in case you missed it the last time we posted, here we are again!Welcome to G.L.U.™ (Guys. Like. Us.)A chat room with men from all over the world. Any one who really just needs a more active place to chat is welcome to join! We chose the name G.L.U™ to sort of be our own umbrella term for all different types of men to feel welcome and not feel like they need to fit some type of mold. ✨Our chat has more of a laid-back, adult vibe. As our core users tend to mostly be in their twenties, but all ages are welcome to join! We share memes, it is the Internet of course. There's plenty of casual everyday banter, so the chat is always active. The topics of conversation usally deal with current events, entertainment (Overwatch, Music, Films, Drag Race, etc.) to more personal situations like school, dating and life in general.The chat is in the Telegram app click there to download and create an account which requires a phone number as your log in. Your number will not be shared with anyone. After you created an account come back here and follow the link above to join our chat, which is moderated by the way. 💁🏼We hope to see you there! 🌈
First time hookup advice
Hello,I have been mulling over going to meet guys for a while now, just download grindr last week I get tons of messages and people interested but I never pulled the trigger. Then I started talking to this one guy and I am very interested and I think I should do it but my inexperience is nagging me in the back of my head. I know the fact that if I never do it I will always be inexperienced so I am pushing myself to do it and break out of my comfort zone for a night. Any advice on approaching these feelings and how to prepare for a hookup? I am full of butterflies.
Am I better off not coming out of the closet?
I created this account so I can finally admit to myself (and I guess some strangers, too) that I'm gay. Or bi. I don't know.Now that I am graduating from high school, I want to be able to come out of the closet, but is it really worth it? If I do, I'd be called a liar for hiding. If I do, some people in my life with shut me out completely. If I do, some people will never look at me the same again. If I do, I cannot go into a locker room without feeling uncomfortable or making others feel uncomfortable.Sometimes I think I should just pretend to be asexual. I don't want to marry someone I'm not attracted to, so I can just live alone. I guess I can get used to that. I just want to live a life where I don't have to correct people if they ask me if I have a girlfriend, or having to be looked at weird by others.I haven't been able to get close to anyone in my life because I'm afraid that they will figure out something about me that I don't want them to know about. I've never been able to date because I'm too embarrassed to date another guy (or anyone really). But I guess I am either good at shutting people out or I'm just not a dateable person because nobody has ever been interested in me before. So I guess it wouldn't make a difference if I never came out to anybody.My question is, am I going to be able to get used to this? Am I ever going to be able to live happier again like I was as a kid if I just make myself used to my situation. In my mind, I can't ever picture myself telling anyone that I'm gay or bi. But then again, I never thought that I would open up to a bunch of strangers on Reddit either. I just want to live without anyone looking at me. If I have to live alone in order to find some kind of happiness, then I guess that will be fine by me.
Need some advice
I'm a gay sophomore in high school and there's this one senior that went to my grammar school and is finishing up high school. I never really crushed on him at all, but I always thought he was handsome since the seventh grade. We have never talked ever though.Well... recently on the last day of actual classes, I had just finished sixth period class (which usually takes place in the classroom but that day it took place in the chapel to have a little prayer service and reflection on the year), and while I was heading for seventh period on a different route because we were in the chapel, I saw the senior holding hands with another guy. Now, me being the little stalker I am saw that he put he was in a civil union on his Facebook timeline about 6th months ago. So I am pretty sure he is gay, but none of his Instagram posts reference it, in fact he went to prom with a girl, which doesn't really bother me, and I can understand why he does these things.Anyway, this has really been bothering me since this would have never happened and I would have never looked him up if we didn't have the prayer service and if I didn't rush out the chapel to get to my next class on time. I am super attracted to his face or just extremely infatuated, but to me, he seems like my type of guy... I just hate the chances of this happening on the last day I will probably ever see him and I know I probably wouldn't have ended up with him if I did know earlier in high school, but I would have rather not known at all. It's just really made me contemplate my future on whether I would actually want a boyfriend or not as I have always a wife and children, because I can't see myself with another man, but I am not sexually attracted to women at all. I feel like I can romantically connect with them better, but I am really unsure right now. But if this guy asked to go out with and date me, I think I would end up dating him and accepting it instead of having a wife.Anyway, I recently followed his Instagram and was thinking about dm'ing him on a new account I'd make and asking him about his sexuality and experience with it in highschool since we go to the same school, but I am unsure if this would really be smart or how I would word it without getting blocked on sight. I know I'll get over this soon and find the right person one day, but it's just really bothering me and has me feeling down. Any ideas on what to do?TLDR; Found out senior that I don't know but find attractive is gay on the last day of school and want to DM him on a new account under a different guise on Instagram and ask him about his sexuality and experience, and I need advice.
Having Asylum Interview in 2 days
Hello Reddit !Long time lurker here. I'm a gay guy, and I've been staying in France for about 2 years now and I applied for asylum since last year. I ran away from my country with the help of a scholarship.I'm not from Chechnya, and maybe what I've been through isn't as bad as them. But I'm really scared for my life right now. In 2 days, it'll be decided whether I'll be able to start a new life under the protection of France government and I'll be save from whatever awaits me in my original country.I'm sorry if this isn't the right place to write or vent about such thing. But I'm really scared and I don't have anyone to talk to about it right now.Thanks for taking your time to read this. Wish me luck.
Anybody else relate?
I think that, and this sounds dumb and cliche as all hell, the hardest person to come out to is yourself.When I was younger, I didn't have an interest in girls. I didn't know why. Then I thought about being with boys. That made more sense to me, me liking boys. But I was told it had to be a man and a woman. Not in a hateful way, that's just all I saw around me, so I came to the conclusion I had to like women.Around nine or ten years old, I think, I learned what homosexuality was, kind of. I was reading "Let's Explore Diabetes With Owls", by David Sedaris, which is, to this day, one of my favorite books. I was in the car, mostly just laughing at the silly things he said about his dentist (I think), but I read him talk about his boyfriend. I asked my mom."Mom, I think they made a typo, because it says here that David has a boyfriend. Unless David is a girl. Is he a girl?" I said."No, he's a man. Must be a weird typo." My mom said.In retrospect, I don't blame her for not wanting to explain it to me. So I forgot about it, and went on with my day.Sometime later, my mom let me stay up to watch the sitcom, "Modern Family". We very much enjoyed the show, in the first four or five seasons, and that's also where I learned that homosexuality was not, in fact, a typo, what with a gay couple being on the show.So by age 11, I think, I was fully aware that some men liked men. But I knew that couldn't be me. I had no reason why it couldn't be me, and no reason why I could be straight. I just thought I had to be straight.Then, in middle school, I realized something. I could have it both ways. So I thought I was bisexual. Like, I liked dudes a little bit. 80/20, in favor of females. But when I accepted that small bit of attraction, I realized, I'm not attracted to women at all. I tried to find something, but there was nothing.I'd never had a crush on a girl. I'd never really found a girl pretty, without having to convince myself she was. I just didn't feel for girls. Plus, I just didn't really feel bisexual. When I told myself I was bi, I didn't feel any different. I didn't feel any less confused or upset.Then, I realized about four or five months ago, I was fully, 100 percent gay. And when I said that to myself, I felt at home. I felt like I'd finally found the answer. I'm gay. It felt so nice to be open about it, to myself. And I felt much more comfortable telling other people. Because it just felt like it was something that truly fit me.Some people don't believe me, since I was heavy on the gay jokes back in middle school, because I was totally not gay. (In fact, when somebody would ask if I'm gay, I'd reply with "I dunno, probably, wait until high school" or, if I was feeling more playful, "for 20 bucks and a ride home".)Now I feel like I figured it out. I'm out to my whole school. I haven't told my parents yet, because they think that young LGBT just want to be trendy, or are doing it for attention, or are just confused.Most people I know are accepting of it, spare one girl who thinks it's a choice, and another guy who harasses me because I'm gay. But I don't really mind. I know I'll have to deal with being treated a bit differently.Anyways, I'm not sure if this is interesting at all, I just wanted to know if anybody had a similar experience.
My best friend is gay
My bestfriend is gay and he always kept it hidden from the world so i wanted to know how to help him and give him pointers on how not to care about what other people think about him because he is really an amazing dude
Engagement,
Hola fam! I want to propose to my boyfriend, I don't even know how to start doing it, I don't know anything about rings or tradition or anything,I thought about giving him a watch instead of a ring, we are very down to earth and I thought a watch represents "all the time we have together much better than a ring, Plus he doesn't like rings and nor do i,All ideas and help welcome! :)
Struggling, don't know what I am
So one of my coworkers who became a close friend (or I thought he was) means too much to me. We got close cause of our shared interests and we would text a lot. Play video games, hangout at work, go out to eat, hangout etc..A new kid started at work and we started hanging with him too. I was sorta getting jealous so when they left me out I got mad and upset with my friend. I kinda got replaced for a bit. When I got upset about it my friend seemed to be annoyed with me. Even though he seemed to care about me more than my other friends, it's hard to describe it's just different.Anyways I'd get mad and ask why I didn't get invited and stuff and he'd always have some excuse. I'm pretty sure it was cause the other new guy didn't want to hangout all three of us. I was fine hanging with each of them separately and we did just that sometimes but new guy only wanted to hang with my friend by himself. It hurt to seek them together and to see my seemingly best friend replace me. Maybe I thought more of him than he did of me. It just seemed different and I know I was one of his only friends he actually hung out with on a regular basis.During the prime of them leaving me out my friend went about a week of mostly ignoring me and it hurt pretty bad. He later said it was cause of our last argument he was upset. The arguments always start as something so trivial and mostly cause I was being left out. I don't know it's a hard friendship to describe. I'd get mad and ask why I didn't get invited and stuff and he'd always have some excuse. I'm pretty sure it was cause the other new guy didn't want to hangout all three. I was fine hanging with each of them separately but new guy only wanted to hang with my friend by himself.We were all friends for a few months and then me being replaced lasted a couple months. It was the most depressed I'd ever been. Flash forward a little and the new guy at work moved a couple hours away and at the same time my friend got a GF.Now he is always busy with her and never has time to hangout or anything. We still text/Snapchat probably once a day and talk at work but he doesn't have time for anything. He says stuff like "oh we should do this" or "oh we should do that" but when it comes down to it we rarely do cause he's always so busy.Pretty much I don't have too many close friends that I felt that close to and hung out with regularly, so he meant a lot to me. I felt like I had known him way longer than I did. We bonded on a different level than my other friends and I. We have literally all the same interest and hobbies and we just get each other, or at least I thought we did. I know work friends don't mean much but we have always been more than work friends it seems. He turned into a friend that I happened to work with, not a friend from work.It makes me so jealous and upset when he's with his GF or he is spending time with other people at work. I used to be his go to friend now I'm kinda pushed aside. It still seems like he cares about me. I'm not gay but it's like we have a special bond. We get each other( or I thought we did) Not just some friend that I only hangout with to do a specific hobby. It's hard to explain.Whenever he doesn't reply(started happening when he got a GF) I get so upset. I feel incomplete without him. Like when we are together it's awesome but when we're not I wish we were hanging out most of the time. I don't know why I'm so attached to them but it's hard to explain.We used to kinda have a bromance going on but now he's kinda not as close with me. I feel depressed without him. We used to text a lot. Always hang together at work. If we weren't at work we'd usually be hanging together. I thought maybe we were so close is because he doesn't have all that many close friends either. We have the same small little friend group as well. However all of us don't hang all that much it's hard to get everyone together.It just hurts not being asked to come over, to play PlayStation, to go grab fast food, to go do something. He felt different than all my other friends and I'm alone without him.I know him and his GF are still in the honeymoon stage cause they just started dating but he doesn't make any time for anybody but her. I don't know how to cope without. I don't know why I'm so attached but part of happiness depends on them texting me and talking to me etc.TL;DR Friend always busy with GF. Had a bond with him that was special. Feel depressed without their companionship. No one can fill their place.
Hi! I was hit on by a gay gentleman on facebook and would appreciate your input if I responded respectfully.
Edit *Sorry for the way it is layed out. The names are in the middle. Ill try to fix.This is our entire conversation. He randomly messaged me FRI 5:12PMRandomManWhoMessagedMe HeyBoondockBlackbeard HeyRandomManWhoMessagedMe How are you FRI 11:47PMBoondockBlackbeard good man, how about yourselfRandomManWhoMessagedMe GoodBoondockBlackbeard I must apologize sir, your name is very familiar but i am having trouble placing it. Can you remind me of our acquaintanceRandomManWhoMessagedMe Looking for friendsBoondockBlackbeard Alright man. Are you from around here? The EDIT areaBoondockBlackbeard Well, if I bounce offline before you get back, Nice to meet you. Grab a could other pics, Both woman and men are hesitant to add people because of the catfish phenomena. Either way, Have a good rest of your day and tomorrowRandomManWhoMessagedMe (Edited our County)BoondockBlackbeard Cool man.RandomManWhoMessagedMe Yep YouBoondockBlackbeard (Edited my county)RandomManWhoMessagedMe Cool So what you doing tonightBoondockBlackbeard Nothing, yourself?RandomManWhoMessagedMe Laying hereBoondockBlackbeard out partying?RandomManWhoMessagedMe Cool you having funBoondockBlackbeard as much fun as one can have on facebook and youtubeRandomManWhoMessagedMe OK buddy I want out tonightBoondockBlackbeard then go out man. Its friday, stuffs still going onRandomManWhoMessagedMe I did go out tonightBoondockBlackbeard oh not want. You have a good time?RandomManWhoMessagedMe YesBoondockBlackbeard what did you doRandomManWhoMessagedMe I want out to the culb ClubBoondockBlackbeard i havent been to a club in a long ass time. Bunch of short skirts and college kids?RandomManWhoMessagedMe Oh I went out to the deja vuBoondockBlackbeard wheres thatRandomManWhoMessagedMe HuntsvilleBoondockBlackbeard cool. I like the downtown scene. Its been upgraded a lot to look more statelyRandomManWhoMessagedMe Oh okBoondockBlackbeard Not to be blunt, but is this headed where I think it is?RandomManWhoMessagedMe This is where ozz use to be What you talking about What are you talking aboutBoondockBlackbeard Deja Vieux is a LGBTQ club right?RandomManWhoMessagedMe What does that meanBoondockBlackbeard A crude man would call it a gay clubRandomManWhoMessagedMe Well some people might call it that but I call it a club for people to go toBoondockBlackbeard Fair enough. A social enviroment! I am a very direct person, as my brain to mouth barrier is non existant, and from our conversation I don't want there me be a misunderstanding. No to insinuate your messages were to hit on me, if that were the case I would be flattered, I just want to be sure what the dynamic is. Im open to any new friendshipRandomManWhoMessagedMe We can be friend if you wantBoondockBlackbeard I don't want there to be confusion, and at the same time want to be respectful, I'm a straight man, and have no issues with anyone who is gay, bi or trans. Its just not my thingRandomManWhoMessagedMe OK sorry manBoondockBlackbeard No need to apologize. Like I said, Its flattering, To know anyone is interested enough to message is a self esteem boost for a man with none at all. I thought it may be the case but I didnt want to be rudeRandomManWhoMessagedMe It cool manBoondockBlackbeard May i ask questions about your preference? Mainly, is this the way you guys go about hooking up?RandomManWhoMessagedMe SureBoondockBlackbeard For me, it involves buying a lady a drink and being charming enough to stop spending money lol.RandomManWhoMessagedMe No I was just looking for friends. But it all goodBoondockBlackbeard Gay people and straight people can be friends are your heterophobic (joking)RandomManWhoMessagedMe That true but you said that you donot like gay bi transBoondockBlackbeard Well, to clarify, I am not attracted to that category, It doesn't mean I automatically dislike a person because of what their sexual orientation isRandomManWhoMessagedMe OkBoondockBlackbeard I've also seen in the past where usually once someone finds out they are on "different teams" the homosexual prefers to be friends with others that share his preference. Which is their right. I personally will have a friendship with anyone. Who they are should come first. May I ask, Am I attractive to a gay man? If so, at least i have that going for me. I have not had success with women in a while. Partially by choice and partially due to not having someone I feel is in the same mindset as myselfRandomManWhoMessagedMe So what do you want man we can be friends if you want toBoondockBlackbeard Im curious if now that you discovered I am not gay, your interest in friendship has waned. I don't know very many gay men, but one was very influential in my life. He literally told me I was dressing like a bum and helped me dress in an attractive way to meet women. I was younger tho. If youve lost interest in a friendship, I understand. Hell, Im a dude to. I go after a chic and she will end up a lesbian and i think "whats the point" I am wondering what you want from this if anything since we know the parameters.BoondockBlackbeard I was on board with being friends when we spoke the first time, I just want you to be honest. If you feel there is nothing to gain, then I wish you a happy life and we shall part ways.RandomManWhoMessagedMe I know you straight but I would like to be friends and see. Where. It goes but I can't help what I likeBoondockBlackbeard No one is saying its a problem. This wont go further than a friendship. Im not a case you can turn. I questioned myself when I was younger and I am just not attracted to me. You are mutual friends with Perry Cagle. We went to school together and he is gay and we are friends. our sexuality isnt involved. Now if you think you would have a problem by trying to get me to give it a try, that would annoy me, but that I dont care that youre gay, Youre a human, Who knowsm we could end up being great friends,BoondockBlackbeard As long as you are cool with there being that line in the sand, Im cool with friendship. I give good relationship advice tooRandomManWhoMessagedMe Maybe we can beBoondockBlackbeard yea man, It doesnt have to be strange. I just want to make sure you understand. To be honest, this isnt the first time this has happened. I've made a few very good friends who were trans or gay, they just understood I like pussy (to be blunt) What I dont want to have happen is us chat a while and you feel something for me when there is no reciprocation. I also dont want you to feel I judge you in any way. One gentleman that approached me said he just wanted to be friends after I explained, but he just wanted to try to get me to open up to his preference. He ended up being hateful and mean for no reason and i dont want that to happen eitherBoondockBlackbeard SO it comes to you, not me. I agreed to be your friend way earlier today before this even came up. Ask yourself if your really interested ina friendship, or if you could do without. If you are interested in being my friend, awesome. If you are interested in me sexually after this point, that may be a problem. Its of to be attracted. I would just ask you to control it as to not make me uncomfortableBoondockBlackbeard then it comes to the question, Is it better to just part ways or be friends. and thats your question. Im just a straight guy with two kids, a bullshit exwife and crush on this girl thats married (I respec marriage so i would never act on it) thats me May i ask, Is there something about me that gives off the impression that I might be homosexual?RandomManWhoMessagedMe No man it don'tBoondockBlackbeard Thats cool man. Well. Like I said, I wish you luck and i hope you find the guy you are looking for. No harm no fowl. And It is nice to know I am attractive to someone.RandomManWhoMessagedMe You might be nice looking but I am gay and like it and I do sometime want to get to close to someone and have feeling for them and also turn out badBoondockBlackbeard Then you prolly are right to say no to friendship. I dont want to unintentionally hurt you. you dont deserve that. You deserve someone who feels the same'
question about first gay experience
Hope this is the right place to ask this. I'm a 27 year old guy from MA. I have never had a gay experience in my life. I consider myself straight but I've always wanted to experiment with another man my age. I am confidant I am not gay, I truly do love women. But I am open to anything that would turn me on. I look at gay porn several times a month when the mood strikes, but i'm nervous that I would not enjoy a man in real life. I honestly fear I might actually get grossed out. I'm good looking and fit. I just have no idea about how to go about setting up the experience. Craigslist weirds me out but I think it might be my only option to keep it on the DL. Anyone have any tips about experimenting? The actual experience as well as planning it. I really want to do this within the next year of my life, just not really sure where to begin. Thanks!
2017. május 26., péntek
Relatable Thought Catelog entry
http://ift.tt/2s5REt8 friend says, "If I make this (basketball) shot, then I am gay."He doesn't make the basket but almost does. It's a joke to him, but it's the same type of joke he makes whenever we get bored. And he has a girlfriend. I say, "You almost made it."He says, "No, that would mean I'm almost gay and I'm not gay."But then five minutes later we are alone resting arms and elbows against each other, leaning into each other a little to see the others phone screen. Even later after that he gets really upset with a guy he gave $5 and viscerally labels him a faggot in private with me. The guy was badgering us for money to buy something with. I can't help but see some parallels in my experience today with the dynamics included in the story linked at the top of this page.
Is it even worth it coming out?
I'm bisexual. I like women more than I like guys, and I don't find myself attracted to other guys too frequently. Would it even be worth all the trouble of me telling everyone I'm bisexual while waiting nervously for their response? I'm not gay enough to actually get a boyfriend or whatever just enough to notice my infrequent attraction. I'm hardly interested in relationships and romance to begin with. I just feel like it would make my life smoother if I remained straight in the eyes of everybody I know instead of them potentially treating me differently.It all just seems like too much of a hassle I don't really feel like going through.Am I just being a dumbass?
Awfully confused
I am a 15 year old male. As long as I could remember Ive been attracted to females and I felt pretty straight until fairly recently...About 6 months ago I felt that my attraction to females was dying, so much so that I seriously considered that I might be asexual, and I not getting very much arousal at all when I decided to watch some porn.It was also during this period of time that I had thoughts about other guys that I never had before. Like "hey, he is hot." It was at that moment that I seriosuly questioned my sexuality. Is it possible that I am homosexual? I have nothing against homosexual people and am all for diversity but it kinda hit me like a train. How could it be that I, excusively straight for as long as I could remember, have thoughts such as these?So I did some "experimentation"(bated to some gay porn) and realized i was aroused by it quite a bit. Now I have no idea about my sexuality. Everything Ive known up to that point was that I was straight until recently(I wasnt faking being straight).It should also be noted that I have had some male fantasies in this period of time(like me being penetrated).These past few months has been a rollercoaster ride of worries and questions that probably have no answer but I do have one. Has anyone ever experienced something like this before? It seems odd That I used to be straight but am now... gay possibly?It really has felt like a paradigm shift of my sexual orientation.
Coming out to a group of people or individually? (Xpost askgaybros)
Im a junior and I got pretty close with a group of seniors in one of my classes. Part of me thinks I feel like I want to come out to them instead of my junior friends since theyre going away pretty soon.I think my urge is to just tell them the truth. My other buddy and I are really touchy feely with each other (I have no sexual feelings for him) and it looks really gay, but so gay that its perceived to be straight? Jokes would be made if were gay for each other and we'd both say yes, in a joking bromance way. I feel like while I didnt exactly lie to them, they think I'm straight. I guess Im just sick of putting up a front.Would anyone recommend coming out to a group of people? Or is individually coming out much more rewarding/better?
I just came out to my best friends...
...and it went extraordinarily well. They were really supportive and sweared to keep up their support. I will come out to my familly tomorrow and I'm hoping that it will go just as well =] #ProudToBe
What do you consider a gay relationship?
I just ran across a post where a couple claimed to be gay but I simply cannot understand how. The circumstances were as follows.Woman (who identifies/lives as a man but has not had any surgery of any type)Man (Who claims to be gay)I mean if I were a gay man I can only assume I would want to be with a man and have sex with a man. As all my gay male friends do. If I were a woman who was gay I would want to have sex with women, even if I started living as a man. If a man and woman have sex as a straight couple do - how is it possible they are now gay? I have tried figuring it out and simply cannot for the life of me. If a man is married to a woman and decides to grow his hair out and put on lipstick surely they aren't lesbians all of the sudden.Thanks for any insight/thoughts you can provide.
Bisexual
Regardless of political backgrounds.I think there's a real conversation to have: Should we change the word Bisexual since it contradicts the mainstream belief of multiple genders? Since bisexual implies there are only two genders--To have sexual and romantic feelings for men and women.
I think I came out too early...
So I'm 19 now and I've been out as gay for maybe 5 years, but there's a lot of times where I feel super uncomfortable with certain people knowing. This is a little vague but it's kinda like that in my head for me, like I'm really uncomfortable with my mum and my brother knowing that I'm gay and it really doesn't help that the general public here in Australia are kinda insensitive when it comes to blatant homophobia. Also I sometimes feel like I need to be more "masculine" or whatever and it's worrying because I can't un-come out to cope with these insecurities slowly.I feel like I came out before I was actually ready. I came out to a few friends when I was around 14 because I always thought that it was better to get it over and done with sooner rather than later and by the time I was 15 I was out to my close group of friends. Then, on my 16th birthday, I got really drunk and announced to all my friends that I was gay and it kinda just spread around.I don't think I gave myself enough time to figure out how I felt about myself before I started seeking validation from others. I kinda wish I could go back because I think I went too fast and now I'm kinda stuck out the front here, unprepared, y'know what I mean? Like I really wasn't ready for everyone to know and that has kinda stuck with me since then and that feeling of "I wish they didn't know" just didn't go away. It's like I'm perpetually stuck feeling like someone outed me so suddenly, but like I'm the one who outed me. If that makes any sense. Idk I just wish I had taken it slower but now I can't go back because like I'm supposed to have accepted myself fully because I'm already out or whatever.
2017. május 25., csütörtök
Looking for advice.
Hello,So my boyfriend and I are set to being in a relationship on facebook. I'm currently studying to be a teacher, and I don't want my sexuality to effect my employment at all. I know this sounds like I'm sneaking back into my closet, but I want to make our relationship hidden for this reason... on social media anyway. I have no problem with my close friends knowing my sexuality.How do I bring this up with my boyfriend? I'm worried he's going to take it the wrong way and I'm a little nervous.
I have escaped from a date.
I just need to feel I am not alone in this, have u ever run away from a met up with a guy for any reason? how was it? I feel kind of shit but I had to do it.
Jealousy
Everyone gets jealous at some point, it's only human. But with me it's becoming a serious problem. After I fool around or have sex with a guy I see regularly, even if I don't have romantic feelings for them, I get jealous. It's almost as if I feel like they belong to me. I realize this is insane but im completely unable to change. Especially if a guy is really hot, I seethe if I see them with someone else. For instance, a guy I met on tumblr (extremely hot) makes amateur porn. And after we hooked up cuz we live close to each other, we pretty much went our separate ways. The next week he made videos with a guy (I couldn't help but watch) and I broke my TV remote in half and was sick to my stomach. I then blocked him on everything so I wouldn't feel sick anymore. Do any of you get this angry about stuff like this? How do you get through it? Should I see a therapist? FUCKING HELP ME, MY HOMOS!
How do I go about this?
There is this guy at the gym I go to who peaks my interest but there is just one problem and it's that I'm not even sure he is gay. He has shown possible signs of it such as I caught him looking at me through the mirror while I was stretching for squats and when he realized I noticed him he looked away really quick (he didn't notice one time and he was staring for a good 5-7 seconds) or every time we make eye contact we always give each other a smile.I just want to know that if I do strike up a conversation with him, how would I find out what he's into? Do I just ask him straight up or do I go more along the line of "Sorry if I got the wrong idea but do you want to get drinks sometime?"
I met a guy...
... and i really liked him. I've never felt this good with someone. Today we had lunch and he told me he got off of a relationship 6 months ago and getting right into another one is not is primary goal. Like I said i really like him, i never had a boyfriend (i'm 18 btw) and from the moment i met him i was full with joy.I want our "relationship" to go further, and so does he (i think). He said that he wants to continue to meet.I need help to get him. I really like him and want to be more than friends. Please help. What should I do?PS.: I'm introverted. He's not. He's a senior law student. And he's really bad at answering back at texts.
I'm going to tell him how I feel. Any advice?
I've given up on fighting and holding out until he gets to college. It's literally affecting every aspect of my life. I know that it might turn out bad, but if it does turn out bad, then it'll be over, and everything will be back to normal. I love him, and I hope he takes it respectfully. I won't try to be rubby-dubby when telling him. It'll just be like ripping off a band-aid, quick and painful. I don't know how he does feel. He gives me conflicting clues, like for the fact that I've caught him staring at me, and he's caught me staring at him. He's also never seem to have mentioned a girlfriend, which threw me off. He also has a nickname for me, but it's simple. It's just like Eli instead of Elijah, so I'm not sure if that means anything. But then again he's also pretty masculine (so am I though) and has a lot of guy friends, but he hangs around girls a lot too. I look up to him, and I'm always at my worst during practice when I'm around him. But is it selfish? I don't have anywhere to vent. My parents have no interest in helping me with it besides giving me the advice of "It's simple, get over him" (Which if you knew everything in my situation, it's not. Trust me, I've tried) I've had these feelings boiling up inside of me for months now, and It's gotten to me. But what if he's uncomfortable? Is it wrong to tell him how I feel? Am I focusing too much on how I feel rather than what he feels. I originally wasn't going to tell him at all, but it's tearing me apart right now. And the more and more I get to know him, I think I might be crazy or he might actually like me back...
What's wrong with being gay?
In my opinion, nothing. In some others' opinions, everything. Still others are on the fence. Ready...set...debate!
I think this dude likes me.
So were on summer break and we were hanging out at at a friend house who has a pool. And this guy came who I find very sexy, I love a guy with blonde hair and he has a six pack. He was invited and came. I don't know him too well cause we've never had any classes so we don't run into each other much. But he was their today, swiming, shirtless and wet. So yeah I pretty had to stay seated with my lap hidden. He was striking conversation with me and stuff, I saw him making many glances and caught him. And he just smiled. Really cute simle. Also at one point I was leaning back and he came up to talk.He wasn't too close but my face was crotch level and he kept readjusting and just touching and holding it in general. And im pretty sure he noticed my boner. I never saw anything to suggest he was gay before but we really didn't see each other at school so I never tried to make a move or anything. And i was just nervous and blindsided today. And to top this all off, my friend who invited him said he said he was busy and didn't seem too interested but my friend told him who would be their. And after he said my name, he agreed....
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