2017. február 28., kedd
Im just wondering if there is anyone out there that is willing to listen to me?
So im a 28 year old guy. I dont act or appear feminine what so ever, but im a bottom. Ive only ever found one partner but he died five years ago and ive never been in a relationship since. To me, being a bottom isnt just about sex, its about where you want to be in a relationship. I would just rather sit in someones lap or be held instead of the other way around. So naturally, Im looking for a guy who is more masculine than I am but the few guys i meet want it to be the other way around, which is not something im attracted to so it doesnt work at all. I feel like life is absolutely hopeless and Ill never find anyone. Its not that I can change but do you think what I want is totally unrealistic? Or if your like me, how do you cope with something like that? Im a good looking male with lots of friends and a successful music career and yet I feel totally alone and I relate to absolutely no one. I cant talk about it with anyone I know cuz they dont understand in the least bit or absolutely wont talk about "gay problems" with me and dont want to hear it. I have no family because they disowned me for being gay and no one is really close to me in my life. Is any one else like me or have a similar problem? I know if you have the same problem as me we obviously cant be together but i just would like to hear how someone else can cope with it or go on living their life happy or even half happy?
Advice on an issue (Strong language)
So, to start off, I am a high school student. I came out publicly last year, and since then there has been this guy who just keeps flirting with me. He is very attractive, sweet, and caring, but I am just not into him. I've told him time and time again -- in a nice manner -- that I am not interested in him. He would nod and say he understands, but go right back to flirting and trying to get with me. At this point it's frustrating, and makes me uncomfortable. What should I say to not hurt his feelings, but get my point across? It's stressing me the fuck out and making me feel like an asshole.
My Weird Straight Best Friend: A Gay Novel
Okay so he's not my best friend and this is not a novel, but we've known each other for years and I dated his female cousin in highschool and it could be a novel. Put your seatbelts on and get ready for some average homo drama.Long story, I've known him since high school. We are going to call him Alejandro (like Lady Gaga Alejandro). Alejandro was an upper class man (I'm class of 2011 he was 2009). We weren't super close but we were in the same class and he was pretty cool. He always hugged me. I thought nothing of it since I hug all my friends guy friends. I started dating his cousin, Sandra, who was one of the most beautiful Latina girls in school, and all of the straight guys were super jealous of me because they all thought I was exclusively gay. (Take that you homophobic a** holes.)We didn't begin to get close though until his girlfriend broke up with him last spring. His girlfriend (who we will call Dalilah as in Plain White T's) was a good friend of mine too and we were also close, so close that she confided things in me that her boyfriend didn't even know. Well after she graduate from the same university we were in about 2 years ago, I didn't see much of Dalila or Alejandro.Well, Alejandro and I then spontaneously linked up with each other via a Facebook message he wrote to me saying that he misses me. We went to dinner at a local Applebee's and we talked for hours! (We were there for 5 hours). I was dating this Asian guy named Ben at the time (who I was totally not that into him but I decided to give him a chance since he kept pestering me about going on a date with him btw) and I told him that I linked up with a friend the previous day and was at Applebees for 5 hours. Ben gets jealous but I was like "umm you're not my boyfriend sooo...Yeah." but I digress.Anywhore, Alejandro and i begin hanging out more and more and...well things went from good buddies to questionable bromance. We have mutual friends that we hang out with in groups. He would openly hug me from behind and hold my hand in front of our friends. Like okay, he can be a joker, but it was a little odd to me. Still, I'm an air head sometimes so I never notice anything quickly. We began sharing intimate details about our lives and we just got close. We went on a movie date and he picked me up. On the way there, he held my hand throughout the entire ride. We held hands at the movies and I leaned into him and hide under his arm everytime I got scared. He enjoyed it.This became a regular thing. He developed a habit of embracing for long periods of time and one time we got drunk and I started kissing him on his neck and on his cheek. He just let me, and he smiles, and laughs, then signals me to do it again. But he never let me kiss him on the mouth though. Never did we did anything sexual besides me neck kissing him. He never kissed me, just signaled that he wanted me to. Now I was never attracted to Alejandro on this level. I never been in a relationship before and I felt like we were in a relationship. Sometimes he would get jealous or crave my attention when we are around people, but I'm popular and easily distracted so people like to talk to me all at once. That's why he prefers to be one on one with me so I won't get distracted.Our friends assumed we were dating. I was never in a mutually committed relationship before so it was always a huge thing for my friends to obsess on finding out who I was dating. I barely pay attention to Alejandro when around other friends. Sometimes he takes me away in the middl of a conversation with someone and says "sorry ladies, my turn." This thing was going fast, and I mean rollercoaster fast. We had long hours talks, hand holding and kisses...But then he slowly began to put a stop to our frequent night escapes. And finally stopped completely when I took a two week vacation to Miami.I mean, I didn't know what this was, and I didn't look for something beyond what we had, but I in all honesty I liked it. I realized that what we had is something that I would like to have in a relationship. We acted like we were. He supported me and I supported him. He picked me up and took me on dates, even bring me around his friends, held my hand in public without a care in the world, and opened the doors for me and have my chair pulled out so I can sit. He was a gentleman. We danced at a regular club like a couple. Everyone thought we were together. We were in a relationship without the official title.But he stopped writing on Facebook and didn't write to me at all while I was on vacation. In all honesty, it bothered me. But I got over it by having a blast during my vacation. I mean, I know he's straight. He mentioned during one of our talks that he's not attracted to men at all and I believe it. But when I came back he wrote me a strange message saying that he was confused and didn't know what to do. He didn't say what he was confused about but I automatically assumed it was about us. He never said any details and immediately withdrew when I tried comforting him saying it was okay and "when you're ready you can talk to me."In person he told me that I have such an attractive personality. Everyone tells me that but his was different, it was more intimate. I found myself catching some light feelings, nothing strong but I definitely developed an emotional attachment and I'm sure he did too, I wanted to keep seeing him and be around him but he didn't let me. I mean he's the one that came to me and started it. I forget he existed before any of this. I don't feel hurt at all honestly. I think he might be though and I don't want him to feel that way.It's been almost 8 months since we last spoke, until yesterday (that's why I'm writing this post now), when he said he missed me and if I'm free next week. I said "sure. When?" He says "I don't know, I just know that I want to see you." Alejandro is a poet. He's always writing poems and always writes to me in a poetic way. Sometimes he pisses me off with one word messages and we run out of things to talk in person but I told him being in his presence is enough. I know I'm his first. I was oblivious at first, but after explaining it to some of my friends, it really sounds like Alejandro is confused. He's straight and this is never going to work if we went forward with it. He's got to know that.UPDATE: I saw him actually in December at a friend's Christmas party. He had a ninja turtles T-Shirt and his hair was messed up. He looked a mess and I was like, too much time passed and I don't think I'm attracted to him anymore. It was never about the looks, it was his personality and the respect he had for me.I may have the answer to my own question but I wanted to know people's input. Have you been in a similar situation? What happened and how did you handle it?There's so much more (with his ex girlfriend and another ex before). I'm going to see him next week so this is a to be continued. One Up if you liked me story! I'll post what happens next and some more details depending on how many likes I get. I may wrote a novel :p
I can't even look him in the eyes
Okay... sorry for the bad English... I'm a student who's new to Canada and recently I find I had a crush on my classmate who seems pretty straight. (idk but just looks like) We're in the same class basically, and at the start it was normal we're not too close friends but sometimes we do chat. After I found I had crush on him and I just start acting weirdly. When he just sit in my right rear, I can looked at every direction in the 1hr 30min classes but his direction, because I'm scared of looking right into him, if he looked at me at the same time I would be awkwardly turn my head around. We were chatting before I had crush tho, and now everything just seems abnormal, the only place I talked to him is online now cuz I don't have the courage to speak. However, I'm just acting like everything's normal, everything's fine, I just don't give a **** about him. I don't wanna get myself embarrassed cuz we're still gotta be classmates for about a semester, but I'm afraid the chance will be I can't see him in future classes.I had just turned 19 and never kissed or dated before, scared to use Tinder or Grindr cuz I just want to find a real relationship instead of just hook up (no experience at all...).Advice plz.
Co-worker
The other night I had a semi-sex dream about a co-worker I have a crush on. It wouldn't be that bad except 1) he's underage 2) he's straight and 3) he has a girlfriend. He's just so hot and he always like flirts with me but like hard flirting like he tells me how he's gonna fuck me hard and how he wants to make out and I'm just so confused.
The Outcast: Gay Bars & Clubs
Back story: I'm a 24y male student who never label himself, but if you asked, I would tell you that I date both men and women (more men than women). I'm fairly popular on campus and somewhat of local celebrity in the big city (I was the college event planner/coordinator and dabbled with fashion shows and reality television). I'm an avid bar and club go-er, and with fame and popularity comes hordes of friends and admirers.I never felt welcomed in the gay community and I don't know why. I even volunteered to help the community by using my influence as a platform but still I always felt judged and uncomfortable around them. They always made me feel like they don't like me without even knowing me you know? Despite of the stories I've heard that many in gay culture can be "cunts," backstabbing, and superficial, I still wanted to help.That's one of the main reasons I rarely go to gay clubs or bars by myself. I get the same feeling there, like I'm not attractive enough for them so I rarely attend unless I'm invited by a friend, which is usually a female friend or a group of my straight buds who bar hop. Don't get me wrong, I love gay bars and clubs. I have a blast everytime I go with friends, but by myself? I usually pass by since I work near them, buy a drink since they're cheap, leave and be about my way. I feel like that one lonely straight guy at a gay bar.I'm sure the gay community in my city don't know who I am because I never got involved with them. I have hosted LGBTQ events on campus and they were always successful, but never did a large scale LGBTQ event because I needed to work with the community.I just find it strange because I fare WAY better at a regular bar. I feel totally comfortable by myself and more so with my friends. As opposed to a gay bar, I surprisingly get more attention from straight men at these bars than the gays (which I'm still confused about till this day). Straight men at the bars give me more conversation, buy me drinks and of course, there's many who compliments on how attractive I am and how nice of a butt I have. But at the gay bars and clubs? None of that, maybe an old creep or two. I'm not complaining, I just wanted to state how weird and different of an experience I have at gay and regular bars.My friends are even more odd. I have a group of male friends who I occasionally hang out with (about 10 or so) and they're all heterosexual, most have girlfriends. I hug all of them and some of them even greet me with a kiss. They're supportive and super defensive of me. I feel blessed to have them as friends, and we're always so comfortable around each other. They're my brothers.Has any one else have negative experiences with gay club/gars? I know some people can be super shallow if they think they're unattractive. I find that kind of superficial thinking repulsive. I'm compassionate and all accepting and would never treat someone of the community that negatively. The only time I reject someone is when they come on to me like a creep or have obvious intentions other than getting to know me.It's probably just my city. I'm moving soon so hopefully I will have different experiences.
The boy in my other classes
So there is this guy that's in some of my classes at (high) school, and he's kind of been eyeballing me and staring at me in class quite a bit these past few weeks. I know him and he knows me but we're not really "friends"; we've only spoken a couple of times. Recently (though this might sound stupid and irrelevant, it's a big deal to me) he followed me on Instagram, which he apparently doesn't do to many other people, so it's kind of unusual. I really have feelings for him and I think he's really cute, not to mention he's a real romantic according to one of his past girlfriends (he's bisexual and yes he's had relationships with guys before). Should I try to make an effort to get to know him better and try for something more than just a friendship or should I just leave it where it is? Because according to his exes and his close friends, he wouldn't be doing all the things he doing if he wasn't interested, but I honestly don't know.
Marketing to LGBT?
Hello everybody! I am coming to you for some advice (mods, if this is the wrong forum please let me know). I own an insurance agency and am always looking for new markets. I recently was approached by a national LGBT publication asking me if I support LGBT issues/community (I do) and if I am interested in advertising with them (I may be).The pitch I was given by the salesman was: I should advertise with them because the LGBT community is very loyal to companies who support LGBT issues and would go out of their way to do business with said vendor.Additionally, he said that, for the most part, members of the LGBT community are highly educated, financially stable, have multiple insurable interests (house/cars/ect...which is important to receiving quality rates).Lastly, he said that because there are still some bassakwards parts of the country that do not accept LGBT, those businesses that do are well reviewed within the community.The only gay people in my life at this point in time is my GF's sister and her wife and I do not feel comfortable with breaching that subject (have only met them two times) and I have lost touch with all my friend from Florida (knew a bunch of gay guys in the theater dept... some of the best parties I have ever been to).So I ask you all, is any of that true? It makes sense and I believe the guy was being honest but I was hoping to get a non-bias opinion. Thanks in advance!
Straight Guy let me Suck him 😲
We were sleeping together and Im gay when i sleep i usally dont know what i do i just wake up touching something one night i was so close to his dick and i liked it so i went for it i touched it couple times i was making sure if he was asleep his eyes were closed but i pretty sure he felt that another night went by nd he was acting like he was sleeping and i tugged on his shorts so he can take it off so he still acted asleep nd he took them off and he let me touch him i started getting close and sucked him more more and oh my he got hard then after a while he cummed and i went bk to sleep IM VERY CONFUSED what does this mean? IS he gay? Should i stop? Should i ask him? We haven't talked about it since but i want to know if we can do it again!!
Let's talk short jogging shorts...
I wanna try some of the short jogging shorts I see models running around in. But I don't see any brand names, or they don't talk about them. I'm guessing I'd have to buy these online.So, what are your thoughts? Where should one start in looking?
Looking for tips, bottom
Hey guys So I'm about to have my first time in next few days and I was wondering if you have some tips for a new bottom. I've used some improvised dildos before but this is real thing🙃 soo...
Should I talk with my cousin about it?
So I recently got back in touch with a cousin of mine after years of not talking, and I noticed she has a very attractive friend. After doing my Facebook "creeping" I kind of think they're close friends and I was wondering if I should ask her about him or if that would be too awkward and I should try to talk to him myself?
Anyone know?
Hey people, does anyone know how much trouble id be in if i sucked a dick outside a mosque in the uk? Obviously we plan on running away before the cops show up but if we get caught are we just spending the night down the nick with a fine, or are we talking proper jail time?
Gay & 17: Falling for my best friend. LONG
Hey, over the past few weeks I've grown awfully close to this guy I've had a crush on for about 3 years now. I guess we were always nice acquaintances, sort of friendly to each other but didn't really develop a friendship until about a month or so ago.We've always had classes together but we never really became close like we are now. It started when he had another breakup with his on and off again girlfriend of 3 years. He confided in me one day while I was near the library during my off period. I'm an extremely empathetic person and I felt for him. I did my best to cheer him, giving him advice which he took and the three of us (his ex, him and I) all were friends. Around New Years the two started dating again but shortly broke up again earlier this month.Basically she got tired of him and as of now all she does is use him. She bitches at him in public about how clingy he is he, "just tries to be her friend.", as he says. I admit, he is obsessive towards her and I can see why she gets so upset. All the while, he continues to follow her around like a sad puppy.Anyways, that would happen non stop for weeks now: He'd try to talk to her, she's get mad, and I comforted him.At first we would text constantly, me being a good friend just checking on him but after a week of that gross cycle of a relationship I mentioned above, it wasn't until he told me he loved me that I admitted to myself that I can't deny my feelings for him. I told him that I loved him back but we also kept it like a, "a love you like a friend type of deal." That made me want to shoot myself, haha. (Just imagine getting a message in the dead of night from the person you've liked forever that they love you, just for them to say as a friend a minute later.)Things were nice between us but I've told my friends all of this that's been going on, trying to seek some advice to deal with me liking him and my crush being caught on his ex. One of my best friends told me to just stop having feeling for him but I just couldn't stop. I was getting sad, he wouldn't text back for hours at a time and I'd start to feel bad about myself and my circumstances because I wasn't a girl, that I can never be his. Then I would tell myself that I shouldn't be obsessing over this guy, he'll never see me that way and I shouldn't be upset. I'm gay he's _____. (Well idk, one of my gay guy friends almost talked him into having sex with him, that's something else entirely.) (knowing that and being the optimistic hopeless romantic I was, thought that I, his best friend, could have a good shot a being with him.)He's always making plans with me and then canceling because his other friends or he's busy. Which I understand but it hurts because of my feeling for him. Now I check social media and he's out with this girl, making me think that I could have missed my shot with him. Should I have told him how I feel? I don't know anymore, this is so long already and I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm going to try to be happy for him. Some friends are telling me I'm being used because he only comes to me when he's down and that if he really wanted to hang out with me or anything, he would make time. Idk, sorry this is so long. I'm grateful for whatever advice I get.
GLBT Hotline (sidebar)
No matter what browser I use when i try to chat using the link on the sidebar I get a popup that reads"Your Browser, is not supported because it is too old a version."Does anybody know how to fix this or if this is a problem on their end. I've used 4 separate browsers checking to make sure that they are up to date so help would be appreciated.
Tumblr
I recently had to start my Tumblr over. If you're interested, give me a follow. Same name as here.
I'm gay and I hate myself.
I'm 21, fourth year social work. I'm gay, sure I know. I hate every bit about me being gay. No one knows, and I have so many people talking of how terrible gay people are and their choice of life. I never choose to be gay, had I knew the button I would be so straight. I act straight and have a big problem having friends. Coz I have to speak down on gays yet I envy those open gays coz they did what I think would be my last day on earth if ever someone knew I was gay. I tried dating girls, it failed terribly, even tried different race. I'm not attractive and don't wear good clothes the only thing good about me is my grades. I hate my life so much the whole week last week till yesterday I binge drank on whiskey daily drunk. It's has gotten to that point.
venting out, advice?
i'm a 27 gay male in socal, last year i was seeing an autistic man, it was a completely different experience in my life dating someone with a mild form of autism. i had a genuine interest in the guy, but there were things that didn't quite do it for me. i made excuse for some of his actions stating that his autism prevented him from recognizing the social norms of "dating" or i would blame my own expectation on the matter. he had roommates i never met because he was not comfortable. time spent with him alone was so different from time spent with him in public, though he initially was very sweet. when he call things off this November i said i was too "bottomy" and that he was already seeing someone else. i was upset to hear he was seeing someone else when i thought he and i were still doing our thing. i guess in his mind we stop being a couple or "dating" in july during or trip to a different city. recently i've been bothered by the whole thing; the way he behave, the way i ignore it or made excuses for him, the way he ended things. we used to be friends on social media and i noticed pics of him and his new guy being perfectly happy, i have removed him from all my social media to respect his decision and his choice of man. i'm bother by it and i worse part is he and i have tickets for chochella since we bought them in advance and it's a whole camp thing. i have offer to buy him out but he still wants to go since it would be his first time. i don't know if i am ready to hang with him in a platonic manner given our history. i also don't want drama with his man. why are gay men so weird?
need some constructive criticism.
deep breathalright so first off, here some background on me. im 22, always been gay, living in the south. im seeing someone now (not yet official) and it seems promising. my first boyfriend i dated from age 14 to 20, and my second from 20 up until last november (too soon to start dating again?) so for sure i am a lifer, i dont want a temporary boyfriend i want a LTR (Life-Term relationship) and thats what this new boy (richard) seems to want.and here some background on richard, hes 27, also gay, lives with his parents, has no car, but has a job and goes to part time college. this is the first boy ive ever liked that was taller than me and older than me (ive always been a top and liked boys that are smaller than me, but hes special). so we get to talking and i asked him whens the last time he had sex with someone, and he told me that he had a non-intercourse hook up last august (do people really remember the last time they did anything with anyone? he seemed to be very specific about the date and exactly what happened). i was skeptical to believe him but im not going to call him out so soon (our first date a week ago, but have been talking over a month). i also had asked him how long hes been single and he told me 7 years (!!!!!).. hes very tall, gorgeous, charming. i have a hard time believing that. he did state that he had some flings over the years but nothing solid, it may be his mature way of saying that he didnt have anything serious.on our first date we went to the cheesecake factory. we met up just to have dinner but ended up spending almost 5-6 hours at the restaurant and mall right next to it. we didnt hook up or anything, we just talked. we connected perfectly on everything that we talked about especially music. and i know he wasnt lying about the music (to ensure that i liked him) because he whipped out his phone and showed me a bunch of his playlists and mine are almost identical.my main issue: he has kept his grindr and i have deleted mine. he tells me its like facebook to him and gives him something to check. when him and i talked there we did not discuss sex or anything sexually related (i will block if it gets to that). but since we're not officially dating and i have no claim to him i have to sit here and take it.also, he text message replies come in bursts with 4 or 5 hours in between. it takes me second to reply to him or anyone but he can go 5 hours without messaging me. yesterday i saw that he hadnt replied in hours but since updated his facebook status and had been active on facebook messenger :(.im half tempted to make a blank grindr and see how often hes active and how long he stays on. but it will cause me pain if i see him on there for long periods of time.i know im getting attached too quickly, i dont need to hear that. i dont really know what im asking you but im uneasy about this and need some criticism. some words of hope would be nice (unless there are none to be had with this)thanks in advance :)edit: spelling and grammar
Head
I really want to learn how to deep throat . I know some people can put a whole dick in they mouth! How is this possible or how can I get better?? Thanks in advance for the help
2017. február 27., hétfő
I'm not feeling safe at school.
Title basicaly sums it up, but here's some more detail. So I am in first year at high school, I have plenty of friends and I'm gay. All of my friends accept me for who I am, I even have a few lgbt+ friends as well. Now that the year has started progressing I've met more people and made new friends. These new people are really homophobic, or at least act like it. I feel like I've gone too deep and I can't escape, I've been hanging out with these people more and more and I've become associated with them. But I have to put up this act and pretend I'm interested in women and such to fit in with them. If it weren't for the fact that these people are now becoming more and more involved with me, then I would've stop spending time with them completely.Sorry for any grammar errors, writing isn't really my strong suit.
Coming out
I'm a kid at the University of Maryland. I was wondering the best way to come out to my friends.
Alone
So I'm 18, I've never been in a relationship or kissed before and I feel like I'm going to be alone forever. I know that's dramatic, but it's true. I'm a bigger guy and I want to lose weight but I already have a lot of stretch marks and I know I'll have extra skin so I don't have the motivation because I know that either way I'm not going to have an amazing body everyone wants. I also don't have a big member so I'm just like meant to die alone with 4 corgi's, so like, Why try you know.
Story time ! ! !
Recently I was bored and I went to a guy's house to hook up. He was nice enough I suppose but we were talking about the election and I was telling him that I had a panic attack when going to bed because I Trump was gonna win. I reacted so unexpectedly by saying that he voted for Trump at first I was flabbergasted and then I asked him why sometime later and he was saying shit like " I think he can really make a difference." And shit like that. Horrible night, he got mad that I didn't out out though,lol. The main reason why I was horrified is because I'm Mexican descent and he's a white guy so I found it very demeaning that he did that. Like I'm good to fuck but I shouldn't have consideration.
I need an advice
I met someone one month ago. We spent time together and it was/is quite nice. All of a sudden, he told me that he doesn't feel much (being in love) at the moment and he doesn't know how his feelings will develop towards me. He did not break up, just told me that he is missing sth to build a relationship.What shall I do? End it, before I get hurt?
LifeProTip: People on dating apps are not primarily serious about meeting in-person
People on dating apps are not primarily serious about meeting in-person. A lot of people use dating apps purely for validation.
Would you be able to maintain a relationship with someone who doesn't like anal?
I've had my decent share of sexual experiences and I'm kind of in denial about the fact that I might not like being a bottom nor a top.This frustration stems from the fact that anal sex is considered by some the apex of gay sex. If you go to hookup apps, questions such as "top or bottom?" are among the most frequently asked, creating the idea that there's nothing else to sex other than penetration.
Gay and christian?
So I am a gay which is hard for me since I am a christian. I'm always thinking that I am comitting sin and that I live a wrong way of life. I keep thinking I'm not allowed to be gay. Does anyone feel or felt the same? How did you deal with it? (Sorry for my english)
What does it mean to be genuinely interested in the person?
It's more towards building up a friendship than an intimate relationship.How do we also seem to be interested in the person?
Proposing a brojob?
Throwaway bc I'm not sure if people know my tag. I want to propose, and i know it sounds weird, but i dont think it is, that i give my, definitely straight and not gay, brother a brojob if he asks. How can i do that w/o him freaking out?
Kind of an embarassing question about anal sex
Hi everyone, I'd have a question about sex. 5 months ago I got the very first boyfriend, and we didn't wait so much to do some sex. At the beginning I was always nervous to do it, but now it's everything fine. I'm usually a top, because of... well, biological reasons (?) and he's bottom, because his ex boyfriends never let him be top. Sometimes I let him top because I see he does really want to do it, but I never reached an anal orgasm (while when I am top, it happends very often). I can't still find bottoming pleasant, because it hurts, so reaching an orgasm seems impossible. Do you think size matters in this case or it's just me, because I can't properly relax? (I would say the second one, because it hurts, so the size should be enough, so what could I do?)Sorry for my english
Straight guy needs advice (update)
Ok guys so I said I would give yall an update so here it is. Nothing sexual happened we just hung out and went hiking like we planned. We did talk some on the subject of guys being curious and all that but that's as far as it went. He says that I would be his type but he knows I'm straight and he is not trying to come on to me in that way.But other than that it was an awesome day just hanging out with him and I could actually talk to him and didn't feel uncomfortable so maybe this is just going to be a nice friendship and that is perfectly fine with me.But wanted to say thanks to everyone who commented on my earlier post, it definitely helped me out.
Advice?! Should I just not do anything? Am I weird?
I'm a 22m if it matters. So the other day I was on Facebook just doing to usual browsing looking at memes and all that when I see that one of my cousins who I haven't really spoken with in a long time adds me. I don't think much of it besides a "oh hi there". Then I click her page to see what she's been up to and see she has a girlfriend and in one picture I notice there's this guy who is pretty attractive, once again I don't think much of it until I see later on she uploads some pics of her and her girlfriend just hanging out along with this guy and I'm here again like "there goes that cute guy". So I don't know this guy at ALL and I messaged my cousin a casual hey how's it been and she's left me on read (she was partying at the time tbh) but I kind of want to get to know this guy but idk how to approach it or if I should just let it go completely.
Moonlight and my problem with it's Win for Best Picture
I watched all of the best picture nominees, as I always do because i'm a total cinephile, and I think Moonlight started out great but fell apart in the third act. I feel like at least half of the other nominees were far superior to this particular film, and were more impressive all around in cinematography, production, direction, etc. But whenever I say this to other gay people they jump down my throat. And Yes, I agree that its important for representation and it's gives the average person insight into the life of someone living in a hostile, urban, crime ridden environment, who is also struggling with his sexuality. But be that as it may, a movie like Arrival for instance, is far more impressive storytelling wise. It's an extremely complex story that is interwoven through masterfully written dialogue and the usage of a non linear time structure. Plus the sound and cinematography in that movie are INSANE. So what do you guys think? What movie was your favorite out of the nominees? Mine was Manchester by the Sea, because I think Lucas Hedges is really cute. Plus it's a great movie.
2017. február 26., vasárnap
Feeling inferior to uncut boyfriend
Heyo, just wanted to see if other guys have felt this and how they've gotten over it. My bf is uncut and enjoys the natural sexual experience. I'm cut and have lost a lot of sensation as a result and have a hard time finishing. I'm just curious how others have dealt with this.
Very Recently Became Comfortable with my Sexuality.
For the longest time I thought I was bi, but now I've realized that women don't do anything for me, and I'd like to be in a relationship. I haven't personally come out to anyone yet (I'm not sure how my friends will react), although if someone asked or found out I'd be totally fine with telling them. But the reason I'm posting this is because I'm wondering; how can I meet other gay guys without going to a club? (I'm not 19 yet so I'm not legally able to go into clubs for another few months.)Also, how did your close straight friends react when you came out to them? Did you have to change your friend group because they weren't comfortable around you? Because that is what I'm afraid of.All replies are greatly appreciated :)
I NEED A BUDDY
I really want someone who just want to send nudes to eachother. kind of like a nude-buddy. well if your interested message me.fyi, im a white boy, six inches long, and really want to see some dick. MESSAGE ME
I think I'm in love
So recently I've been talking to this one guy. He's so cute and sweet. I fell in love with him after talking to him for just a little bit. I know I haven't really known him for that long but as soon as we started talking I just fell in love. I don't really know how to tell him without sounding weird or creepy. But I feel like he's the perfect guy for me. BTW he's gay and so am I. Could I be provided with some advice. Like what I should say to him or if I should say anything at all.
Trouble figuring out where to start
I have been out for about a year now, but I have been having a lot of trouble with meeting other gay men. I tried online dating, but it felt far too impersonal and focused on hooking up. I also tried some bars, but it was all a bit much.Where is a good place to start trying to meet other gay people? I have signed up for a local LGBT community to volunteer as a start.
Took in a homeless lgbt kid, need advice
Here's some context about me. I'm gay and I'm a college student living in one of the residence halls. A few months ago, me and some friends found a kid sleeping out on a bench in the cold, so we took him in and let him sleep in one of the dorm's lounges. After that, we packed him a lunch and some notes on what to do in case he needs something, and had one of our friends drive him to school in the morning.After that encounter, we lost contact with him for a month. From his mannerisms and what he told us, we could tell that he was a gay kid running away from a toxic, abusive home environment. He didn't himself have a phone, and he never answered our messages on facebook, so we were obviously concerned for the next few months.Just tonight (sunday night), he came back to us. We had dinner with him in the campus cafeteria using a guest pass (each student is given a few of them), and decided that he would stay in my dorm since I don't have a roommate. His goal is to get to a 'nearby' city about 50 miles away, and take a bus to his lesbian aunt and figure things out from there.What should I do? I feel like we're in over our heads. We could probably find him a ride to the nearby city to send him on his way, or at least get him a cab, but what should be done in a situation like this?TL,DR: Gay kid runs away from home to our college. We can house him for a bit, but not long before people notice. He wants to go further away to live with a relative, and we're confused on how to get him there or even if we shouldEDIT: Nevermind. Friends called the cops, they're apparently taking him home.
Fell in love with my best friend and then again with another one and now I'm screwed
Both these boys are straight but both times weird things have happened for instance being very close in bed spooning etc u get the picture. They don't know about how I've felt about them and they never will because they clearly both don't reciprocate (in relationships with girls). Maybe I'm just easy to fuck with? It just makes me feel shit and lonely and I'm not openly bi with the world so kind of feels like I'm never gonna meet anyone lol. I don't know I'm new to this I'm just struggling and literally can't talk to anyone
My first love: Just an experiment?
I'll start off by saying that I have not done this before [turned to the internet for help] but I need answers. I am a 20-year-old, recently 'out' gay guy who fell in love with an 18-year-old closeted guy. yawns-closes page For those of you who are still reading, the relationship started as a sort of friendship at University, I was what we call in the UK, a ‘Fresher Helper’ and he (let’s just call him…Howard) was a ‘Fresher’. My job was to help freshers move into their new halls (dorm) and help them settle in to life at university, which is exactly what I did for Howard. A few weeks passed and we were just friends, that would occasionally see each other, like I did with the hundreds of new people I also helped during the first few weeks. Howard was different though, he latched onto me in a way that others didn’t, he would always make sure I’d be going on nights out and would drunkenly text me, it wasn’t particularly flirty at first but as time went on it progressed. Fast forward another few weeks, Howard and I happened to be in the same bar one night and he see me kissing a random guy (who, I told him, I wasn’t very interested in). I ended up going home with the random guy bla-bla-regrets-bla. Howard seemed overly interested in this though, he messaged me the next day to make sure I was okay, which I thought was strange…but then it clicked. Howard seeing me with the random guy had confirmed for him that I was gay, it’s safe to say after that moment, the amount flirty messages increased! We talked for a couple of weeks until he eventually came around my house to ‘watch a film’. He seemed comfortable, but in an over-compensating kind of way, like he sat on my bed straight away and laid back, but was careful not to get too close or make too much eye contact. These meet ups happened a few times, each progressively flirtier and more intimate, until we both had enough and just succumbed to the temptation, we kissed and he admitted to never kissing a guy before, he said it felt great and was so relieved. He also mentioned how he was hoping and praying that I was in fact gay when I first moved him in. So that was it, from then on out we were kind of inseparable, it felt as though we were obsessed with one another. I was more reserved though, Howard said he loved me after just one month together, I wasn’t so quick to admit it BUT I was hooked on the guy, I could not get enough. We both went home for Christmas break and it was the longest 3 weeks of my life, we of course spoke all day every day and he seemed lost without me. In the second week, he told his parents he was gay and he was ecstatic, he explained to me how he felt like the world had been lifted from his shoulders and he felt free. Seeing him like that confirmed that I should do the same and on New Year’s Day I told my family. I should add, both families are completely supportive and were not very shocked. We were moving forward.We returned to university and were overjoyed to see each other (best sex ever!). We went on from there as a normal happy couple, great sex, great laughs, great everything, I finally told him that I love him too. But then it hit me, everything was great when we were alone, but when we ventured out together he seemed reserved and did not want to be seen with me if he knew that his friends were about. He told me he wasn’t ready to tell his friends as he thought it would change his university dynamic, he was wrong but I thought, okay fair enough so I bit my tongue and supported him 100% (Side note: all MY friends knew we were a couple and the university is small, people would catch on…I don’t know what his plan was but it had no logic).I’m going to skip to the part where we inevitably broke up. He had become distant (making excuses not to see me), blunt and moody. It felt like he was trying to put me off. I told him we needed to chat and as hard as it was to get him to grow a pair and face the music, we did. He told me that he was sorry but he’s not happy, he felt trapped. He said he doesn’t know if this is what he wants, when I asked what the ‘this’ is that he’s referring to, he meant a relationship of course but specifically a relationship with a man. He was questioning whether he was even gay? He said his friends had been asking about me and if he was gay, he clearly panicked and maybe that’s what started this complete denial. The conversation was long, I cried, he didn’t (his egos far too big for that), I got justifiably angry and told him that he was a bastard for dragging me along and being so shut off from me. I TOLD him he is gay or at least bi, I don’t believe he can’t be after all he had done #bonersdontlie. I told him that he would do the same over and over again and that I felt sorry for him and whoever’s heart he breaks next. I told him he is never going to be happy if he carries on being so scared of what other people think.I understand the not wanting to tell friends, believe me, I’ve been there. But questioning his sexuality after all we had gone through I do not understand? Straight men don’t have sex with other men, straight men don’t flirt with other men and straight men do not have full on relationships with other men…which HE initiated by the way. My heart was broken, it still is, I’m left confused by all of it. Have I been used? Does he regret all of it, even though he said he doesn’t? Am I a complete fool for falling in love after trying so hard not to? Maybe I knew what was coming.I want to hear other stories, anybody that has been through the same. Feel free to ask questions.Thank you for reading, it felt good to just type It all out!
Just had my first time passive anal and I feel weird
Sub reddit, Im 18 y.o. and I have been hella bi curious for a while now. I have had an experience with a buddy of mine when I was like 13 and eversince I wanted it again.So now to my experience just a few minutes ago. Id consider myself handsome, since I go to the gym a lot and Im pretty well coceived by women/girls. Now since I was high as hell, wanted a new watch and bi curious I just thought to myself:Why not make money with it? So I set up an inseration on a craigslist type ish website without a pic of mine. Just said I wanted cash and its all safe and discrete.I had around 10 responses within 20 minutes and I just chose a random one. We decided to hit up for 30 minutes for 50 euros for a bj/hj in a nearby forest I have close to my house. I waited there for like 30 minutes at 6 on a Sunday. I guess if somebody saw me he had guessed that I was selling drugs or something like that. After 5 more minutes I was pissed and went home. Still really high.I decided to message the dude which I had been waiting for again. And because he only has a Pc and no smartphone we had no way to communicate other than him being home. Turned out he had been waiting at the other end of the forest for some reason. Now remember this part of this and just imagine this shit 3 times. Yes, he drove to the forest 3 times and I walked there 3 times, without finding each other because the dude doesnt know how to navigate.The 4th time finally worked. Since he had been driving a long time in the previous hours I agreed that he didnt had to pay. I had hit the mariana trench algea another two times at that point. Its 9 now and we managed, 3 hours later, to find each other with light signs. Since my eyes had adapted to the dark, I could barely see what he looked like, but I could see a little. Dude is 160cm tall, (Im 190), Dude is mid 40s and really. I mean I dont find men attractive and wouldnt even cosider kissing them or for relationships. But he is ugly. Not ugly, but ugly ugly. Like a 2/10. And he didnt smell nice. He smelled like smoke. But I thought fuck it, because I was really curious how anal felt like.So we went In the forest, talked like 30 seconds about how he grew up in this area, but everything changed so he wasnt able to navigate. Lol. As we had proceded deep enough in the forest he dropped his towel he had brought with him. And I dropped my panties. Dude did too and he was already really hard. I went into doggystyle position and he tried to insert. It didnt really work properly. I had lubed up my hole with coconut oil before at home for slip reasons. After some seconds he managed to get in me. It wasnt huge but it didnt feel small either. I felt something, similar to a sensation of ripping. Not sure if It was him, but it was hurting. I imagined it really nice, but I was a little dissapointed. Imagine a long soft stick made from rubber. Thats what it felt like. It didnt feel good. After like 3 minutes he came. After it he mentioned how he had a few week and always time. He packed his stuff and I got the hell out of this forest. Put on my shoes and walked like malcoms dad in the one episode of Malcom in the middle.I am home now. After 4 times. Im semi high and completely what the fucked. My ass hurts and Im hungry. I think next time I should choose somebody my age and someone I am comfortable with. I think It can be really pleasant then.TL;DR Tried to prostitute myself, wasted 4 hours, Ass hurts.EDIT: spelling
NSFW massage tips
Hey, I'm a (23) gay guy in a relationship with my (22) boyfriend. He's very much into hands and massages and while I'm not completely new to giving, etc. I was wondering if there are any tips and tricks to the trade? I've scoured videos on The internet as to different techniques. Hands/touch are comforting and erotic to him.We just bought massage oil the other day, etc. and I'm excited to try it out (as is he). We've chatted about his interests but I'd like to be able to surprise him a bit :)
So, just for fun...
If we had a "Gay Agenda" like so many straight conservatives claim that we do. What would you want it to include? I think world peace, and equal rights for all, are obvious. Any other good ideas for a "Gay Agenda"?
Uplifting
Was on the night bus in Vancouver with my husband and there we a bunch of lads, drunk, heading back home after a heavy night drinking. One of the guys was a little worse for wear and started chatting to us in his bro kinda way. As the guys were waiting to get off the bus this one guy asked if we were partners, which we tried yes. His response, "cool", then punching the air said "be proud" and the lads all fist bumped us as they got off the bus. Was a nice feeling 😄
Looking for LGBT charity to support?
I'm assessing what charities I can give towards for the next year, and I would love to give to a LGBT charity that is known for doing good work. I live in the UK, and I prefer charities that have international reach.Currently looking at Stonewall. Anyone have any suggestions?
Quit my job... what next?
So I graduated from college last yeah. I only came out in my final year. I still have steam to blow off and need to find myself/ have fun/ go wild.From working I have about £10 000 saved up and want to travel and party, but also feel like I've achieved something. I've left my job and have about six months until I'm joining the military.Any ideas/stories for what I could do?
I apologize if this offends anyone I'm simply curious
Is being gay a choice? And is your answer a fact or is it a personal experience opinion? Either are welcome.
2017. február 25., szombat
Just ended my first relationship...
Hey all, I'm 25, and I just ended my first relationship. This guy was the first one I ever really dated beyond a first date, lost my virginity to, etc. I have a few thoughts if anyone has insight on them, because I'm at a loss:1) My ex and I broke up because we (mostly him) felt there wasn't a spark, but we were really close and want to stay good friends. I want to do this, but how can I make sure I do it without blurring the line between friend and boyfriend too much?2) It's only been like 4 days, and I know it takes time, but I feel like I at least start and end my days feeling like I miss him. The romantic desire is gone, but I just miss seeing and talking to him, since we're intentionally taking a week or two for things to settle. Any tips on handling this feeling? (because it really sucks)3) How do I navigate moving forward? Now that I've been sexually active part of me wants to go hook up with guys, but I feel like it won't be fulfilling enough. On the other hand, I crave intimacy but can't imagine myself being intimate with another person now.Thanks to anyone who takes the time to help!
Trans Rights are Human Rights
I am a graphic artist, I recently created this FB photo-filter for people to easily show their support for Transgender Rights. The image simply says "Trans Rights are Human Rights" in big, bold, white text, and it applies over your current profile picture.Show your support and share. http://ift.tt/2lXa9k3 gestures like this will not solve all the material problems facing the trans community, but it shows solidarity across the LGBT community. Thanks everyone.
Mixed signals from co-worker
There's this guy I used to work with that I was totally crazy about. I thought about him all the time and when we had shifts together I didn't want to go home because I loved talking to him so much. First of all, he's extremely attractive and athletic. Second, he's really smart and funny. Third, he always liked cracking jokes with me and it felt like he tried to be around me as much as possible. He's honestly the guy that comes into my mind when I think of an ideal partner.The thing is, he's straight as far as I know and he has a girlfriend that he really likes. We don't work together anymore and I just have one class with him at school, and in school he doesn't talk to me that much.Still, I always got a vibe from him. He always told me how likeable I was and it seemed like he complimented my looks a few times. Like one time there was this shirt that said "I'm adorable" and I joked that I should buy it and he said "it would be accurate," but kind of joking maybe? Another time I told him I liked his eyes and he couldn't stop smiling for like five minutes after that. I also noticed that he mirrored my mannerisms when he was around me, or maybe we just acted in similar ways. Like when he was around me he was always awkwardly tapping his fingers or doing some weird breathing thing.I think I'm just thinking wishfully though. He acts completely straight (the only questionable things are some of his clothes and earrings), and when asked him about himself he seemed to really enjoy the conversion, but when I started flirting subtly I always got a cold response. Plus nowadays he never talks to me, and I never catch him looking at me like I look at him. He's still nice when I approach him, but if he's bummed out to not be seeing me as much anymore, he's not showing it. I should probably just get over it, but it's easier said than done.
Public gay group chat
Hey guys I created a public group on kik, if you could join and make it lively that would be great lol, here is the http://ift.tt/2kXMpfW
Frustrated rant
Hi y'all. Just have something that I want to get off my chest.So, two months ago I agreed to meet up with a guy that I had met on Grindr for a quick fun. Prior to meeting up, I had asked if he was clean and he replied with a "yes" which I took as the literal truth. I showed up at his place and we had our fun. After we both had finished our business, we sat down and talk and the guy seemed like a super cool individual. I developed an attraction for him instantly and couldn't wait to see him again for future fun. Three weeks or so after the encounter I went for an STI test, and within days I got a call that I had tested positive for Chlamydia.Upon hearing the news I went into complete shock and was in total denial, even though the STI I had contracted was a curable one. I have had multiple STI tests done within the last two years and never had a call back about my results, so it totally caught me off guard when I got the call this time around. I had originally planned on not going for a test until the summer but upon seeing the numbers of "poz" profiles on my Grindr account--something in my head told me that I needed to cut it short this time. After receiving the news, I began contacting all three of my partners to let them know that, "hey! you may have Chlamydia because of me!"Two of the guys responded with concerns for me and asked how I was feeling and so on. One of them even went as far as to get himself tested. The Grindr dude however, was different. His response were more of like, "what is that? (Chlamydia)" "Am I going to die?!?" And upon my explanations, his reaction was, "oh ok, I will get tested later because I had already gotten tested a week after meeting you".I went to the clinic the next day and got my antibiotics. It was honesty one of the most humiliating experience that I have had to ever endure in my life. Not only did I had to list the number of people that I hooked up with in the last three months, I had to also give out details on my partners age, their phone numbers, the sex that we have had and the most embarrassing part, where we had met. I had to bit my tongue throughout this process because one of the partner that I met was from Craigslist and is 23 years older than me (21), one other guy from school and the guy that I met on Grindr.My Craigslist friend only performed oral (unprotected) on me, and I only jerked off with the school friend. I had hooked up with these two guys for a month before I met the Grindr dude. My Craigslist buddy and I became very close after our hook ups. It went as far as him always inviting me over on the weekends to spend times with him, leaving me alone at his house, and even as far as him confessing his feelings for me and for us to be in a relationship together. The Grindr guy was oral (unprotected) and anal (protected).Grindr dude, from the moment we met was very distance. His body language was closed off, I couldn't tell if he was not into me or if he was nervous but went with the latter. He refused to let me do a lot of things with him such as tongue play or kiss his neck because apparently it meant that I was trying to give him a "hickey". Was constantly on his phone when we chat but I brushed off as work messages. Asked to exchange numbers, text me for a day and then ignores me completely afterwards or stops texting in the middle of a conversation. Always tells me he's busy with travelling for work even though he's always on Grindr and the distance never changes, and so many more things.I told Grindr dude a few days later through texts about the information that I had given to the clinic and he went into total meltdown. He became really defensive and made threats that he would "fuck the place up"!if they contact him. For some reason he was very upset that I had to give out details about my private life to an organization and was equally upset that I had given his work number instead of his house number even though I didn't know what it was, and that they might make him go through the same process. He kept on saying that only his healthcare provider were allowed to contact him about anything important and that it was up to him if he wanted to give out details about his sex life, or to even inform his partners about his test results. I tried calming him down as best I could even though I didn't quite understand why he was acting the way he was. I felt as though I should be the one to be upset and not him since it was my privacy that was invaded and it was me who was caught up in the mess. There was no "are you ok?" "Hope you're well" and so on from him.. na da!After doing a bit of investigating and asking the nurse who helped me about Chlamydia, I somewhat had an idea who the culprit was (Grindr dude). I basically asked how could it be possible that I have Chlamydia in my throat and her answer was "oral sex and exposure to bodily fluids". Even though I suspected Grindr dude, I still didn't want to make assumptions because well,.. the nurse also informed me that on my previous test I didn't have a throat swab so there was a possibility that I might have had it for a much longer time.After a week or two, my Craigslist friend texted me that his tests were negative. With his results back, I knew for sure the Grindr dude was the one who gave me the STI because well... he was the only person who I had performed oral sex on in the last 5-6 months, and the STI was detected in my throat. I had gone for an STI test prior to meeting him and the results were negative. It was only after meeting him that I got tested positive. I blocked him on Facebook and he disappeared off of my Grindr. I didn't block him on my phones contact list because I feel like the text messages might be useful to have around in case anything happens.I felt really low when all the pieces began to fall into place and everything started to make sense to me. I didn't really confront Grindr guy about it and just left things where they were because he clearly doesn't seem like the type who would own up to their responsibility. I just really want to know if he infected me on purpose or by accident? I mean I can sympathize if he didn't knew he had it and accidentally infected me with the STI, but if he had known about it then I want to do know why did he purposely infected me? What did I do to deserve this? Was he directing his anger/frustration at me? Or was he trying to ruin me because somebody else did it to him?I have been going to bed every night paranoid about what other potential surprises might be in store for me when I go for my next check up. Aside from oral sex, I allowed him to fuck me with a condom and I don't know if he did anything to it, or if he has more STIs than the bits he had given me that are still in their incubation periods and waiting to wow me.Chlamydia is a curable STI, this I am very much aware of. However, I never planned or wanted to catch anything (yes, hooking up is risky stuff I know) because I have always had fun with previous guys and always ended up safe/clean. After this one, I have lost a lot of trust in people or feel safe with hook ups. My self-esteem have been damaged because this guy clearly didn't see how much I value my life to tell me the truth. I am very grateful that it was only Chlamydia because had it been HIV or some incurable STIs, I don't even know what I would do with myself.I apologize if I am overreacting here about this whole situation, but, please, understand that I didn't do anything to deserve this. I had shown the guy from the moment we met nothing but the upmost respect and love for who he is as an individual. He in return did not show me any of these two things in return. I have had hook ups with guys who were of sketchy quality but even they had the decency to show respect and be honest. This Grindr dude was... from what he told me about himself, someone who is ambitious and of quality, but his actions revealed his true character.Thanks for reading. If there's anything that you should take away from my shitty experience is that you shouldn't be so trusting so easily. Always be safe and respect yourself enough to know you deserve better! Xoxox
Best young gay cruises?
A lady friend and I are looking for a fun cruise to go on in 2018. We're both 21, she's bi, I'm pretty gay, we'd prefer something a bit exotic, lots of fun stuff to do, an energetic atmosphere, some partying, with great views and sights and we'd prefer people in our age group. Thoughts and recommendations? And what can we expect? Thanks!
I want to come out on my birthday but I'm petrified of the response
As the tittle reads, I reallly do want to come out to my parents at my birthday dinner. We have one every year on each family members birthday. I've told my siblings and cousins and they've been really supportive of me. However, my parents haven't really been pro-gay... EVER. When any news piece comes on about gay rights or gay pride they always have something nasty to say about it. I'm torn between telling them and potentially ruining my relationship with them. Or waiting until I'm older and established to tell them. I would wait, but right now it's killing me to let them know and I don't think I'll make it till I am out the house.What are your thoughts reddit community?My BDay is on the 9th of March
Any small tops actually happy with there sex life?
I have a small penis that feels completely wrong on my body. Its doesn't match up with the thing that turn me on. Im supposedly slightly below but from my wide range of experience im very on the low end. I have trouble finding guys who are less than 6.5 inches or less. Nearly every guy i get ends up being 7in or more when they take their pants off. Compared to my 4 in. It really depresses me. Ive been laughed at and rejected because of my size. I constantly hear about how great big dicks are and how amazing they feel, and knowing that i will never be able to fuck like a hung guy. I still get comments about to this day from supposedly mature guys. When i first started with guys the things i kept being told were so bad it killed me inside. I decided to bottom figuring i had to because i was born with a small dick. All the bottoms i went after rejected me right after we would sleep together. Sometimes before if they found out my size. I never wanted to do that and i never enjoyed it. It was humiliating and degrading and at the time i even felt like i deserved it. I did this for yeara. Stopped eventually when i reallized how stupid i was and how bottoming wasnt helping, it was making me feel even worse.The few gay friends i have all happen to fall in love with hung guys. Even though size apparently doesnt matter. Love conquerors all, but it doesn't seem to be the case. I cant even figure out what they see in those guys, seems like their only positive attribute is a big dick. Which i always have to hear about.Even though everything about me is stereotypical for an attractive top, ive never had sex with a total bottom guy more than one time. Its almost funny to me how i worked hard on my body and appearance, how when im clothed i get too much attention from the guys i like. And how fast they reject me when my pants come down.The guys who who do want to be in a relationship with me all seem to be vers/tops. And ive fucked a bunch of virgins who were not intimidated by my dick. Sure thats a hot fantasy for some guys, but the realities not too good. Being told "your dicks so small ill do it because i wont feel a thing" isn't the best thing to hear. The tops will bottom for me a few times, then they start trying to pressure me into bottoming. I cant be in a relationship with someone like that, i need our chemistry to match up. Last time i dated a guy who was a top, i told him everything about my past, my body image ect. He said he was fine being a total bottom because he really liked me. That lasted exactly 2 weeks before he started playing w my ass constantly, begging me to just let him put the tip in, rubbing his dick in my ass crack when we slept together. Hed go on about how guys loved his dick, hes about 8in, how everyone else begged him to fuck their ass, how they all loved it. I couldn't handle it. Hearing that night after night i broke up up w him even though he was perfect in every other way. Not a single person has ever said anything great about my dick except for the very few ones i met into SPH. Thats a turn off to me.Ive never had what id consider a good sexual experience. In a relationship or hooking up. Im just so angy and depressed right now and i dont know what to do about it. Im angry at all those hung tops who get to have great sex. Im angry at all those size queens who love big dicks. Im angry at bottoms who actually have average or big dicks and just waste it. I wouldn't feel like this of i was just average. If i could find another guy like me. Seems like everyone whos small just gives up on dating or having sex or even keeping care of their bodies. In my years of searching for guys with smaller dicks i could only find them on extremely unattractive people.I want to give up all this hate. But i have no idea how. I cant talk to anyone in my life about this. Sry for the wall of text
2017. február 24., péntek
Is He Interested or Just A Friendly Man?
I'm 21, he's 30. We met fall 2016 in a business class, then again this Spring 2017. We were cool then and even cooler now. We're partners for the semester.I noticed he's attentive to me. He remembers details about me, like how I like to eat trail mix or that I'm not on campus late at night. We stand pretty close to each other and never break eye contact. I know he's listening because we never break eye contact or lose track of the conversation.He lightly touches my arm to get my attention, like he's too gentle. Arm touching doesn't mean anything to me, but he's gentle with it...We went to the campus Starbucks, his 'first time' at a Starbucks offered to pay for me too. I politely (foolishly?) declined. Later went to meet with a resource librarian who offered me a card. She said "oh I'll give you one too since you two probably aren't together all the time." We're both sociable, talking the whole time, but just then he stayed quiet until I shyly laughed "no" a moment after.Lastly, I get butterflies standing by him. I get 'nervous' around guys I'm attracted to, but I feel the intense butterflies are intuition telling me that he's also interested.Could he, being a 30 year old college student, be impressed my work ethic? Or is he interested? I mean, I am 9 years younger....
Moaning while being dry humped
Hey,I was at a gay bar in my area. I am a bisexual male. With guys I am a vers bottom. I was in the bar. Drunk and making out with a guy. I was enjoying my little session. Then he started thrusting powerfully (no intercourse) and I started moaning uncontrollably. I get shivers down my spin thinking about it. I moan alot. Just wanted to say I am new to the gay world and bottoming. So this is strange to me and don't know if that normal to moan like a girl. Any bottoms the same way?
Pre-Conceived Notions
Hi Reddit.I think I am bi. I've only pursued ladies because it's been the most practical and socially innate approach to sexuality. I also find certain women extremely beautiful and can't disregard that. But I've always been an admirer of studly dudes, and usually rationalized it as bromance.Anyways. I'm just at a standstill with the logic of pursuing men. I don't mean to offend anyone, but I'm hoping that maybe you can relate to a certain degree with my sentiment.I find the butt disgusting. I can't fathom the inevitable stench or liquids that come with anal sex. Are there gay dudes that exclusively jerk each other off and make out. I feel like the prostate orgasm is one of the fundamental, biological attractions to man on man action. Therefore, I'm assuming that hypothetical isn't common in gay relationships :/. I have clinical OCD, and this is just one thing I can't get past! Even with the women I have loved, it took intense mediation to not get phased by how close my schlong was to her rectum. Even with myself, I find it soooooo gross lol.How do you find masculine gay dudes??? I'm guessing at the gym or through networking lol. That cliche feminine gay persona doesn't jive with me.Finally, what's the point of pursuing men? Women have a biologically designed entrance for my penis hahahaha. Men and women are the same shit in my book from a metaphysical perspective. Sure, dudes have their idiosyncrasies. But when it comes down to it, we are all human. Striving for validation, love, pleasure, etc. A slight differentiation in hormone levels and physiology doesn't mean shit in the big picture. Sooooooo, when literally millions of years of evolution point to the practicality of the vagina. What's the epistemological rationale behind getting down with men? Is it sustainable to be straight up with yourself about the attractiveness of other dudes, and not surpass platonic admiration?I hope you don't think I'm a douche or anything. I'm just spewing my mind and wanna see if you guys can relate
FIRST GAY EXPERIENCE?
Ive been reading a lot of stories online about peoples first gay experience. so i want to know, what is YOUR first gay experience?
Need advice if any kind person out there wants too talk
Recently came out of the closet in a really homophobic part of northern Ireland where gay people usually get abuse shouted at them and sometimes even beat up just for being gay I'm really scared but I don't want too feel the need too hide my feelings at the same time can anyone help me...
What is the best European pride?
I am planning on going on a Europe trip this summer for 7 weeks. I am going alone which is scary but exciting at the same time. I am currently planning the order that I will be visiting each city. While I am there, I want to visit a European pride. I was wondering what the best one to go to would be so that I can plan to be in the city for the date.The cities that I am going to are:DublinLondonParisAmsterdamBerlinRomeBarcelonaAthensMykonos
Older brother incest
Hello, need some advice. When I was a kid, I shared the room with my older brother (15 years older than me). He had a hot body, so when I was going through my puberty, i counldn´t help myself and would try to spy on him getting dressed or taking a shower and furiously masturbate after with the image. I believe maybe he knew I was trying to take a sight, because sometimes he would make it easier to me, like making a little show for me. I don´t know, maybe he knew I was spying on him, maybe not. One night when i was maybe 12 years old, he went out to drink, and came home really late, as he used to do on the weekends. When he was getting undressed, i pretended to sleep and open a little the eyelids to watch him (as I used to do). Then, surprisingly he came near to me and sat in my bed (naked except for the briefs). I pretended to sleep harder, he remained sitting there, in the dark. I was so excited and my heart was pounding. I mustered all the courage i had and put my hand on his inner thigh. He did nothing. Remained inmovile. I wanted so much to touch his cock, to get it out and suck it, but i got paralysed by fear and couldn´t make the move. A minute after, he stood up, went to his bed and went to sleep. Shortly after, he mover out, got married, had kids. Eventually I would do the same. My marriage fell apart because of my conflicts with my inner homosexuality, mainly. I divorced and went to live with our mom. Coincidentally, he got recently separated from his wife, and went to live with us maybe three weeks ago. He is in his forties now, but still in great shape. Mom have some ladies group to attend fridays night. Usually when i come home from work, he is in his room, looking at his laptop or whatever, and I sit on the couch at the living room to watch some television. The first friday night we were alone in the house, I was watching television, and he came out of his room in his undies, and sat next to me in the couch. We did a little chit chat, and he fell asleep (or pretended to). I did not think anything about it. The following days were normal, but the next friday he repeated the routine. Mom was out, he sat in the couch next to me in underwear, spread legs and fell asleep. I started to think maybe he wants me to blow him. Tonight maybe it will happen again. I really would like to suck his cock, but i´m scared to make things weird between us. What if nothing is happening and it´s just my imagination? what if he rebuffs me and get angry? what do i do? make a move? do nothing? please some advice
More gays fapping to lesbian porn?
Hi, I have read studies about bisexuality. While it is reported that many women are aroused by both lesbian and gay porn, this is supposed to be really rare among men. I am certainly one of these men! My story is that I got my first erections during puberty cause of females, but my romantic attraction has been overwhelmingly towards men. However it is no problem for me to jerk off to lesbian, straight and some kind of gay porn (I only like twinks and asians). Its fun and I appreciate the increased selection While I refuse to give me a destinct label, I would fit into this category of allegedly bisexual men, who should not exist.Are there more maybe even self identifying gay guys out there, who would sleep with a woman and whose porn habits change?
why top these day want their bottoms to be clean shaven
i'm a bottom and i'm little hairy, but i clean places like my bum and pubic hair.but when i send nudes they say ''tasty nipples it would be great if you shave all ur body hair'' i'm actually interested in hairy men. that's why i like being hairy
Boyfriend awesomeness
When your boyfriend calls and tells you he just bought 20 grams of weed and wants to smoke you out >>>
Follow-Up from the LGBT group post
It couldn't have gone worse. There were only two other people, a girl and a heavily disabled guy. We just sat around with the lady running it talking about how to get more people in and going to an event, which I'm not keen on doing.It was so humiliating and awkward, but now I'm stuck in a dilemma. Because it's such a small group and they're trying to get more people in, I'll feel like an asshole if I leave. But at the same time, I really don't want to go back.What do you think I should do?
Is this "normal" for a gay guy?
Does anyone else fantasize about women and sex with women too? I think I'm bi but It's not 50/50...
Looking for popular gay personals subreddits or sites
I'm having the hardest time finding a subreddit or site where there are Personals or anything where I can find a mate on the internet. Actually its a little confusing, it seems like every place I find there are only like 3 people online and posts from years ago with no replies O.o does anyone know any -actually- popular gay personals subreddits or sites?
Is it crazy for a 35 yo to question sexuality?
This seems crazy since I'm not a teen and I've been in multiple Heterosexual relationships. But here I am...Back story: when I was young, I had a bf that was a JO partner until we turned 16ish. I've had fantasies about this guy for years and have had regrets that we didn't explore more.Since then I haven't been with a man, I've been in and out of relationships with women, and have been married to wife for 2 years.since I've been a teenager, I've only been able to master bate and fantasize about gay porn. Mentally, I can't stimulate myself thinking about women. Gay porn is like instant reaction. My sexual reaction to gay sex is about 100x as powerful as with women. Just thinking about sex with a man makes me "precum" like no other. Women have to physically touch me to get here.Periodically, I go on sprees where I stay up late and decide I want to explore. But I always chicken out, especially after i orgasm (by myself). The feeling goes away, and I hide it until a few days later then it pops up again. It's a cycle.I'm clearly sexually attracted to men, I just can't see myself emotionally attracted. I've never had "butterflies" with a guy, only with women.Why am I so weird about this? Shouldn't this be cut and dry?
2017. február 23., csütörtök
I'm gay and have a problem making gay friends
To paint the picture: I'm 21, tall, athletic, and very masculine. I have not been to any gay clubs/events before and am really not into the scenes that much, so I don't know that much. I have absolutely no problem making straight male friends... however when it comes to gay...I can't make gay friends! They will always either:A. End up trying to make sexual advances, DESPITE me saying that I only have interest to be friends. They will always "seem" to be down to Earth at first, 2 weeks later they're trying to get me to fuck them. I've even had guys trying to "shame" me for not wanting to have sex with them when I've known them 3 days! We can't ever just chill and play FIFA like straight guys, it always has to be some sexual tension or some awkward advances.B. A lot are undeniably way too picky JUST to be friends! Most of the time when meeting a new gay peer, I feel as though I'm at a job interview to fit someone's invisible list of criteria. Body and eye language cannot be hidden! I feel more judged than if I were to walk in a church with a "I hate Jesus" shirt on.C. Some guys' lives revolve around the fact that they're gay, rather than them actually living their life and BEING gay. I feel like it's very hard to get to know the real "them" when they present themselves this way.D. Dramaaaaaa. The gay community is small, so someone always knows someone from each group. There's always SOME petty drama going on & I don't enjoy other people bringing their problems to me.E. Unnecessarily shady. Yeah, anyone can be shady regardless of gender/sexuality, but we ALL know that gay guys are hallmark for this. If I'm too nice, they will try to take advantage or be disrespectful. If I'm too stern...well...clearly no one likes someone who is too stern lol.F. This is an extension of A. Many gay guys will CLAIM they want to be friends, and then will cut you off or start acting shady as soon as you don't want to fuck!What do I do? I want to make more gay friends, but I'll meet probably 1 genuine person out of each 10 people! Everyone is either looking for sex, wants to bring people around their drama, or wants to flat out waste others' time.
The difference of dating and being married?
I was out with my best friend for dinner then we got into this topic. Well, we are close, so I was shocked that she disagreed with everything I thought about dating and the post marriage life. So I penciled down my half-baked belief that the I stand by that dating is the same as being married. Two point, 1. The responsibility before and after getting the marriage certificate, in an utopia kind society, while people would be acting no difference in times, its indifference as the bonding is far forged prior to the marriage due to higher moral and social responsibility standard embedded in all people of the society; for not in an utopia place, which is us now, everyone is somewhat in the nature of self-serving, the responsibility part of it (the marriage) would be enhanced by the certificate of marriage in some ways. I'd think if I'm getting married, utopia or not, I'd see what I'm dating would have no difference in what I'm marrying to. That's why the whole point of dating, living together, and traveling together. This goes far beyond just responsibility, that also includes moral standards (monogamy), concept on raising kids, lifestyles, all small things from chores to ideas. 2. The vision of marriage, a taboo topic of myself which has an in depth view of involving bickering, fighting and emotional inflating pain to another, something I'm always running away, so if I'd say an ideal marriage, those would be not be part of my vision and I'd do all things in my power to not have that or to have it not in that way. Thus, to me, there is no difference. The certificate is piece of paper, no doubt, to some, it's sacred; to some it's just a piece of paper. But that's just my view.What do you think?
Help. Need advice. Closet Gay sharing a story.
I've known all my life I am gay. Grew up in a very conservative Catholic family so I joined the army to get away thinking that would help me. This was during the 90's and early 2000's.I ended meeting and getting married to a wonderful woman whom I love greatly but the sex was not satisfactory for me, I can probably safely say it was not for her either. It felt more like a chore (when she wanted to have sex) or me needing to get off (when I wanted to have sex). In that way we had a couple of children.So now, we are at a crossroad where we both realize it's not her, but me. It is a friendly and civil separation, going on and discussing a divorce in a amicable manner. We are still very good friends and still care for each other very deeply.So, the juxt of my problem is that I want sex. I've never learned how to seek it out, never learned how be open about it (always a taboo in my home while growing up), never learned how to get over the awkward moments when sex does happen and you realize it was a mistake.I am a little too old to be getting into this learning from scratch. Especially as a gay person still somewhat in the closet in a conservative area knowing what kind of person I am attracted to but not knowing how to reach out for it.I am attracted to "straight acting" guys. I know that brings into this a controversy of what do I mean by "straight acting." To be straight forward, it is just what I am attracted to. I am turned off sexually by effeminate men. This is in now way to make any sort of judgement or bring any sort of stereotypes into this conversation. I am just being honest.And that is the problem. How can I be attracted to "straight acting" guys if I do not know if they are gay to begin with? I am "straight acting" because that is who I am. I am not judging the stereotypical gay guy.An extreme example. I found Milo Yiannopoulos extremely gorgeous and doable before I found out anything else about him. I saw him this past weekend on Bill Maher and completely lost all interest in him. First, I did not know he was gay, but that should have been a plus. The second was his speech and demeanor. I couldn't get past that. Then I heard about his views. Well... no more fantasies about him.Anyway, long story short... how difficult will it be to get acclimatized to the gay culture scene in a conservative area? What advice do you guys have for a naive 40 year-old going out on his own for the first time in his life?Please don't be mean or immature. I am being sincere and willing to hear all comments. Thank you.
How do you deal with being into a straight guy
As the title suggests, i've been having some trouble myself with properly dealing with being into a straight person.Bit of a backstory, i've had a crush on a good friend of mine for a while, and while I haven't told him to his face, when i asked him whether he was straight or not (not as bluntly as this ofcourse, but you get my point), his answer was that he was and is only into women. Ever since that point i've been trying to get it out of my head, but as this post suggests, it hasnt been working out.I dont want to try any magic voodoo stuff to try and make them gay, I just want to know how you deal with the (rather crushing) feeling of a guy on which you have a crush being straight.
I'm seeing him tomorrow WHAT DO I DO
There's this guy who I've only seen once in person (and it was like 10 seconds lol), but we've been talking for a little bit more than 1 month. The thing is, we both have a little of a romantic interest for each other and decided to go out tomorrow to the park and have ice cream and chat, but I just don't know what do to!We've talked about different topics, including kissing (not each other, but kissing in general), and he asked me if I'd let myself get a kiss stolen, to which I replied "yes I mean it's like my fucking fantasy lol", and he said then "I'm just good at planning things".Like omg will he try and kiss me? Like I am willing to let him xD but I don't know what to do, how to act, how to fucking talk.I'm so nervous because I haven't dated in 4 years so this is quite "new" for me, but I'm willing to try and build a cute relationship with him, because we've talked a lot and his personality does attract me.i lost my train of thought, but seriously help me xD what do i dooooooany tips on how to be confident?
A very important question
What to do about someone who dosent practice safe sex???This guy has moved to my city. I know he isn't being safe. Drugs are a factor.Is it wrong to post something on local water holes about him? I feel like it's extreme but I would be beside myself if he passed something that can't be cured.There is a lot more to it but that's my big worry right now.
IM SCARED
What even is a gay are you like confused is it a disease IS IT INFECTIOUS im scared am i gay too
LGBT group at college
I'm going to an LGBT group at my college tomorrow and I'm a little bit nervous about how's it going to go down, but excited because I can finally meet with guys my age and hopefully make friends.I'm really bad at making first impressions and talking to new people so I'm worried that things will go wrong or I'll say something and make myself look stupid.I'll make a follow-up post to say how it went. Wish me luck!
An interesting title <---- it told me to write that (vent/advice)
So please forgive me if this seems a little gloomy I'll try and make this a bit less depressive, I don't really like to talk about these sort of issues. I'm a 25 year old male, oh before I continue I want to let you know this might be a bit long.Anyway I'm a 25 year old male studying youth work, I've had depression for about 6 years now mainly because of my mother, she kicked me out when I was 16 because she found out I was gay most of my childhood she put me down, I always wanted to work in the film industry because I enjoyed making films, whenever there was a project in school to do with film I'd be on it but of course my mother being a devout Jehovah's Witness said that was worldly or satans work, like honest to atheism (sorry if you're religious) but she makes other witnesses think she's a bit extreme.Anyway my childhood was filled with "you're fat" "you're never going to achieve in life" yada, yada, yada which was really depressing but what made it worse was when she kicked me out when I was 16 and said she didn't have a son, despite everything before that I loved her until she said she didn't have a son. Now she's older I barely speak to her but she is trying to build a relationship with me, man this is getting hard to type. Sorry I have this impulse to type what I'm thinking/feeling.She wants to build a relationship with me but I can't let her get away with all the hurt and misery she put me through even after we stopped talking, from the age of 17 to 22 I was between houses I was homeless for a year at one point between that I had a partner, we got a house together but broke up and I was then homeless my sister and I stopped talking because back then she was a bitch and treated me like a slave, thankfully now she's a completely different person, my sister and my mother have a strong relationship with each other. It my sister is getting stressed because I refuse to talk to my mother and it's upsetting my mother although honestly I couldn't give a rats ass how he feels, I have so much hatred for her and what she did, my family aunties uncles etc are so dysfunctional, before I came out everything was fine, my uncle though is fine with it but the rest of them had a bet going I was gay as soon as that was bet was won, that's it see ya later.My cousins look at me as though I'm a disease, I haven't seen them in years the only person who treated me like proper family was my nan before she passed away she lit up when she saw me, the hardest thing was towards the end because she forgot who I was, my sister at the time was selfish still is at times but nothing compared to what she was. I can forgive my sister but I can't forgive the rest of my family.My sister forgive but don't forget, I always say how can you possibly say that after everything that woman put us though, at 7 years old my sister had to look after me because my mum didn't want to and she'd leave for hours on end. When I heard this I thought my sister was probably trying to give more credit to herself but numerous times my nan would rock up and mum wouldn't be there but us kids were left alone. My sister would change my nappies at 7 she looked after me more than my my mother did.It makes me so angry so upset I get so mixed I cry one minute get angry the next, how can this woman expect me to forgive her for how she did and me be okay with it, I could have been a director by now if I had that encouragement at that young age, oh and get this people at school knew I was gay, I was bullied so badly everyday I told my mum about it her advice "just ignore them" I wasn't just getting bullied I was getting based I was running and fucking hiding, my school of course did nothing. Just ignore them, oh my god I'm so angry right now. I have no idea what to do I feel like I can't have a relationship because I look at myself and all I hear is what my mother would say, I haven't been with anyone for 6 years because of it, I'm so self conscious, if I go out I can't help but feel as though people are looking at me and laughing or thinking "what is that thing doing out in public" or walk past a restaurant and people yell "oh for goodness sake we're eating" I'm not fat I'm average in weight I should lose a few kilos to be honest but it's not like I'm 170 kilos, sure if I weighed that much people probably would think "oh my god" but I don't, sorry I've gone off track.I don't know how I can forgive her I want to yell and scream at her I want her to feel the pain I felt, maybe then I could forgive her but at the same time I just want to hug her, if she wasn't a Jehovah's Witness things would probably be so different. I want my life back I want to be able to have a relationship again, despite everything I was so happy when I was in a relationship I don't know how to get that life back.
Dating my boss
I just love how ironic it was everyday id show up to work mentally undressing you and now im throwing you on your bed doing things how i want. Unbottoning your shirt while my mind goes off like fireworks at how i think for the first time in humanity, reality trumps imagination
LGBT bars in Oslo?
Hello all!I will be visiting Oslo in about a month and I wanted to know if anyone, locals or other visitors, knows of any nice bars/cafes/the sorts? Any recommendations will do. Thanks! :)
Just a question
Before you came out as gay or bi. Did it help to have one person that you could talk to about it? Or did you feel completely vulnerable afterwards?
any pakistani living abroad ?
i have some questions that i want to ask a pakistani gay person living abroad. please PM me if you are settled in europe or US. thanks
Having my first time with a guy tomorrow night. I'm a bit nervous, any tips?
I talked to a gay guy in my class and after a bit of an interesting conversation we decided to meet up at his house tomorrow and fool around. We agreed no penetration (he's not comfortable yet).It's my first time with anyone, so any tips on how to make it a good experience for us both (without butt stuff)?
Straight guy here, made out with a gay guy tonight - what do I do
Disclaimer: I apologize greatly if this post is insensitive. I am trying to be as honest as possible and I don't at all mean to offend anyone in anyway. With that in mind, here is what happened. I will try to be as concise as possible.I am a straight man. I am very comfortable with my sexuality - almost to the point where a lot of people (even gay guys) think I am gay. I went out for drinks tonight and I got very drunk. I ended up talking to a guy tonight that happened to be gay. I am extremely friendly/affectionate when I'm drunk. I don't remember what happened exactly, but we started talking and vibing and it got to a point where we made out. Like I said, I'm comfortable with my sexuality and yeah I'll make out with a random guy for the fuck of it. Why not. I'll give him tongue too, who cares. But he seemed to want more. The guy did not seem to be openly gay. I could tell that he was actually gay and wanted to make out more with me. I don't mean to brag or be conceited, but I am very attractive, humorous, and good at making conversation. Anyways, he was extremely aggressive in wanting to make out with me more. I kept conveying no, but I was sensing from his reactions that he thought that I was closet gay and didn't realize ir or something. Anyways, it ended up with him asking me for my number and I gave it to him out of friendliness. We talked a bit more and we ended our interaction with a hug.Later, he texted me, "hey, wya." There were also a couple missed calls from that number. I responded, "hey man." After that, I planned to say something along the lines of "hey man, I'm legitimately not gay. I'm sorry I may have done things to make you think otherwise." But before I got a chance to text the second part, my friend grabbed my phone out of my hand and deleted his number along with the texts. As a result, all he saw was, "hey man." I forgot what he responded with (I seemed to ignore it), but he ended up saying, "I got your number anyway haha."I had no idea what that meant so I called him. I tried my best (despite my absolute drunkness) to explain - something along the lines of: "hey, I'm legitimately not gay. I'm just comfortable with my sexuality and I'm just really open when I'm drunk. I know we made out and that was chill as fuck but I just don't see it in that way. I'm really, really sorry. You have a good one bro."After that conversation, we texted a bit more. It ended with an exchange of "good nights." The conversation seemed to end on a rather plantonic note, but I'm still a bit paranoid.Takeaway? The guy was really, really aggressive during our interaction in person. I had said "no" a couple times and he still kept insisting that I "come with him" and stuff like that. I was taller than him and likely stronger than him physically, but he was still very, very persistent.So: I'm extremely sorry if this is offensive - but is there anything I need to worry about? He has my number, and, given his extreme aggression and my experience with gay friends' tendency to think I am gay and/or try to get with me, I am a little bit paranoid.I appreciate any advice. If you find this offensive in any way at all, please feel free to leave a comment or PM me. I am more and happy to correct my behavior.Thanks a lot in advance!Edit: Since I have made this post, he face timed me. I accepted his call out of courtesy. Right off the bat, I literally said, "hey what's up man. Look, I'm legitimately not..." He kept saying "let me see it" (it obviously being my dick) and "I'm so horny", to which I kept responding "dude I'm sorry, I'm legitimately not comfortable with doing that, I hope you respect that." After a couple rounds of that, I started saying "hey I really gotta go to sleep - I have a midterm tomorrow (I do)" and he kept brushing it off. I don't know what else I could say to him to let him know that I'm not interested in pursuing anything with him at all whatsoever - even friendship, honestly. It's fucking weird - he's so persistent. I ultimately just bruceforce ended the conversation but I still feel a bit uneasy. In light of these new facts, is there anything I need to do/worry about?Edit 2: I am more than willing to send screenshots of our text convo and any more info regarding our phone call and/or Facetime conversation if it helps your analysis. Thank you so much.
2017. február 22., szerda
Why am I gay?
I'm 19 and I didn't really know I was "gay" until recently. Honestly put it off as being bisexuality for two years but I realized that wasn't right.Problem is I don't really know why I'm gay. I don't think I was gay before like, 14-15, never really felt any same sex feelings. I've heard that sexuality is determined by actions in your childhood? I've been reflecting on my life and kinda remember when I was really young taking a bath with another boy and kinda doing sexual stuff. Would that be enough to tip the scales? I also think I called a male 'beautiful' when I was 4.I've been super skinny ever since puberty, being underweight this whole time. Maybe lack of testosterone or something? Feel really uncomfortable about being gay. I don't think I really appear manly enough to my family or friends. Being 'out' would just make me feel weak or vulnerable.I thought about having to introduce a boyfriend to my mom and dad and all I could think about is what they would be thinking, like "Oh our son gets fucked by that guy" which really freaked me out. I also have had frequent arguments with my mother all the time since I was like, 9.What do I do?
I'm gay ---> WOAH EMOTION
I'm a 24 year old. I'm gay. It has been one hell of a journey getting to the point that I can even accept that much about myself. I dealt with some threats from my father at a young age that caused me to essentially go into hiding since that point.The scary part is realizing just how much I have repressed about myself. So much self-loathing and embarrassment buried in my mind is making my daily life a struggle. Lately my mind has been like a slideshow of disjointed memories from as early as kindergarten. The feeling that I've been two independent personalities, the real me, and the father-loyalist hell bent on embarrassing the real me into nonexistence.The feeling that my closest friends have known all along, that they've watched me masochistically deny my real feelings for as long as they have known me.I feel like I've literally gone through a mental portal to a time before pleasure and pain were switched to hide myself. The idea that I'm allowed to feel my body as my own, and not just a vessel for transporting my consciousness.I hope I'm painting a picture that is relatable in some way. I just feel like there is too much negative emotion to ever overcome. Nearly two decades of being a robot has taken its toll. I have no real social circle at this point. I hate my career because I chose it for my father.Does anyone have any advice? I'm clearly feeling overwhelmed by this all.
Advice on how to date a gay guy
So... Um since I'm kinda new with these things i don't even how or what to do in a date. I'm not really that fem( but he is ) but I'm a sweet guy and i want to make that special for him ( no sex 🙃 since this country is not really that liberated). Any advice guys?
I'm 28 and still alone
Real dating never happened to me. I don't know what it's like to open you eyes every morning and see that sleepy face next to you, or to fight over some ridiculous things that end up with having sex or watching Netflix. I mean, you probably know what I'm talking about. And maybe you have any advice on this thing.
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