Really confused, need advice

Hey guys, I have been confused about something for a while and was hoping for some advice.I came out when I was 17 (I'm 22 now) and I had my first relationship near the start of my first year of college. It was with this guy who was 28 (I was 19 at the time) and I liked him a lot, but he ended it after 2 months because of the huge distance and we stayed friends.I ended up in another relationship a month or 2 after. I was still a virgin at the time and I told him this. After about a week I felt really comfortable around him and we had sex, then he left the next morning promising to message me when he got home, and I never heard from him again.A couple of months later I met this guy from my hometown and we dated for 2 months, but we ended it when we realized that the relationship wasn't really going anywhere and we still see each other occasionally for coffee whenever we both are back home.Anyway that all happened in my first year at college and I decided to stay single for a while because I believed that I rushed into all that and I wanted to take time to figure out what I really wanted. That summer I became really close friends with an older couple and to this day I consider them some of my closest friends. We developed a sexual relationship which we still have to this day and I trust those guys completely.In my second year I ended up having a stalker. Long story short he wouldn't leave me alone for 7 months. He would harass me in bars, in nightclubs, in college, come to my house uninvited, send me unnwanted sexual texts, he told everyone that I was the one after him and that we had sex. We didnt have sex. What happened was that I met him online, told him I only wanted to be friends. After about a week he asked me to come over to his house because his new housemate was moving in and he was nervous meeting her on his own. He seemed nice so I went over. He got me drunk and pulled me up to his bedroom and he wouldnt let me leave, was one of the most terrifying experiences of my life. He fell asleep on me and told everyone we had sex that night and that I was harassing him. Later in the year he attempted to rape me after I drank too much at my friends birthday but luckily another friend of mine stopped him and the following week I threatened to call the guards on him and I never heard from him again.The following summer my first boyfriend said he wanted to get back together. I still liked him, but I was left really hurt after we broke up and I still wasnt completely over him. I honestly felt a bit pressured into agreeing to try, but after 3 weeks I found it too confusing and I ended it. We still are friends and talk occasionally but I have no desire to start a relationship with him again and I have moved on from him.Since then I have stayed single, I have had dates, both good and bad, I have met nice guys, but havent had a desire to date anyone, on dates I just feel awkward or lose interest very quickly.Maybe it was all the bad experiences I have had over time turning me off it. I really do want to date again because to be honest, I have been feeling quite lonely lately. All my friends are in relationships and it a bit of a downer being a third wheel all the time, and I miss the closeness of a relationship.But I seem to have lost all my confidence and interest when it comes to guys. I used to be able to talk endlessly with guys and flirt confidently but now I just dont know what to say.I have been going on dates with guys I click with online (I live in an area with no gay bars and every LGBT society or group around here seems to all be women and men in relationships) so it is really hard to meet someone outside the internet. But when we meet for coffee, I just get completely uninterested or it just doesn't go well.Even if we make it to a second date, I get bored (for lack of a better word) of him during that second date.I would just like some advice on how to proceed, because it I havent been really interested in any guy I have met since the end of my first year (Im halfways through my fourth year now).I have had some really horrible experiences and I just completely lack interest on every guy I meet now, but I dont want to feel like that, I want to be excited and interested again. Does anyone have some advice for em?