Best way to come out?

Hi Bros :) I'm a 15 year old who has recently realised his sexuality and I want to come out to this really good friend of mine. Me and him have talked about gay rights and stuff so I know he will be supportive. He has even said he sometimes thinks about guys while getting himself off XDI know some people say you should wait but I honestly can't, and I see no danger in coming out to him as he is incredibly trustworthy. I just wanted to know how I should best do it, I have no issue with confidence and would be fine doing it irl but it could maybe be a bit awkward, and maybe Facebook would give him more time to think about it and seem less of an 'assault', so to speak, on him.Any advice would be greatly appreciated and I will tell you all how it goes! May I also add that /r/gaybros has been a massive help in coming to terms with myself and accepting who I am :) Thank you all!(RIP formatting when on phone and super excited)

How did you meet your boyfriend/partner/significant other?

I am a senior in high school and new to this subreddit. As a young gay male, the prospect of meeting a "gay bro" can seem unlikely, but I am really interested to hear how you met your other half out in the real world. Did you meet in bar? Happen upon each other on Grindr? Or simply meet during the course of daily life? Thanks bros ;)

Talking to someone who lives 4 hours away

So I was at another college for a game this weekend, and I decided to Tinder there as a way of hooking up. Well by the end of the weekend, I got a message back from a guy as I was leaving and we talked as I went home and we've been talking ever since. We have a ton in similar, etc etc.Problem is, he lives 4 hours away, and neither of us have a car. He's possibly coming here next weekend, but even then I'm worried, cause if we hit it off, he's still 4 hours away. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this or met someone online and not met them for months? I know next semester I'm going up there mid February for a basketball game, but that seems like an eternity.

Who would top?

My friends and I have been having an argument for the past 30 minutes on whether Hitler would top Putin or vice versa. Do you guys have any opinions on this?

SERIOUS advice gaybros

I've already tried to ask for advice on here twice sorry if it's repetitive but Im not getting any serious answers. All I get are people making a joke off my situation or posting cliches.Meeting other gay men as an 18 y/old teen is such a struggle.Especially when i am not into gay men who are flamboyant and obvious. I like other men who lift,play sports and all. Its soo discouraging meeting new guys in the gym/school and they start talking about girls. I tried to go on OKC and tinder but Im just getting disapointed. I am just too frustrated now.I know I cant rely on going to gay youth centres because majority of masculine guys are in the closet and only fem guys go to such places. The local gay sports team only caters to middle aged men,no teens.All the guys I like turn out straight. What do I do .I am really starting to feel lonely and depressed over this. I just want to meet and date someone who enjoy my interests. I work out 4x a week and I really want someone who is masculine and takes care of his body.

The first time I fell in love

Ok so this is going to be long. I'm 22 and recently graduated from university. The whole reason I left home to go to a university was because I needed to fix myself mentally, emotionally, etc. I was fucked up and unhappy basically. So months into my first year at university I started to develop feelings for a guy who I was developing a very close friendship with. At first I didn't really think much of it, but as time passed I realized just how much I cared for him. I could confidently say that this was the first guy I've fallen in love with, but it was awkward because he was also my best friend. From fear of losing our friendship, I decided not say anything.Flash forward to the summer between our sophomore and junior year; I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown and I had to tell him. I was a nervous wreck, but I managed to tell him how I felt. I knew that a relationship as boyfriends wasn't going to come out of it. I was nervous because I honestly thought it would cause tension between our friendship. The first thing he told me after confessing everything was that it wasn't going to change anything with our friendship. At the time I believed him and so we carried on. We were roommates that summer and we intended to be roommates our junior year.Well things started changing. We seemed to argue more and things started to grow tense. At the end of summer we ended on bad terms, but I could honestly say I had no clue why he seemed so pissed off... So it was a horrible end to the summer which would lead into our junior year of college. He was still pissed and as much as I would have loved to try and ask what was wrong he was acting cold and distant. We had to move in earlier since we were both going to be working at the same place.As soon as we got to our apartment it's as if nothing happened... He was back to his normal self and things were ok. Well this year continued the trend that started in summer. He'd stop talking to me for no reason and I was getting fed up. Then our friendship took a completely different direction.He had never admitted to me that he was gay, but his actions pointed to that. One night he finally talked and told me that he was having trouble accepting his sexuality. To save time and length of this already long post I helped him through that. We talked about it whenever he needed to and we'd talk hours on end up until the sun would rise. It felt great because for once I was seeing that he needed me and he was confiding in me.So then that same quarter of school I realized that he had not signed up for any classes and he was just living there. He told me that he was leaving and I felt like my world came crushing down. He told me abruptly and it felt like a stab in the chest. I of course never told him that I felt like that because my romantic feelings for him meshed with my feelings for him as a best friend and to me it felt awkward to say those things to him.Flash forward to a few days before his departure; our friend was having a birthday party. It was perfect because it was a way to depart with a good time. However, I could see that his departure was getting to him so I went without him after asking him if he wanted to talk about anything. So I went to the party and I drank and well... I drank too much and I made the mistake of remembering that he was leaving.I started throwing up and I felt like I couldn't breathe. I was having a panic attack and it was all because I knew the following week he wasn't going to be there. I made a scene and he and a few of my other friends helped take me back to the apartment. I was embarrassed the next day. I apologized to all of my friends especially him because I had embarrassed him. Once again he said it was alright and that I should have talked to him about how hurt I was feeling.Later that day he started acting distant again and he wasn't talking to me... It was the most frustrating time for me. It was horrible too because we still hadn't talked and it was the day he was leaving. I felt so empty and numb once he left. It's a horrible feeling knowing that something was left unresolved between two people who care about each other.After he left he would come back to visit and there, but he seemed ... Different. Something was off and he didn't feel like the person I knew. I was getting pissed and finally one day I told myself, "why am I wasting my time? He clearly doesn't want to be friends anymore so I'm letting go." I cried knowing that the one person I spilled everything about my life to was no longer going to be in my life.I still don't know how to feel about him to this day. We both made mistakes and we both have fault in what happened to our friendship. He's been messaging me here and there attempting to just say hi but I don't want to because I feel so conflicted about the whole situation. Some days I want to call him and talk, but other days I'm reminded of the times he treated me like shit and I refuse to. After so much context, I finally get to my question: should I bother talking to him anymore or am I feeling like this just because he's the first guy I ever fell in love with? I realize this post is super long but I'd appreciate any and all advice you all have to offer!TL;DR: fell in love with my best friend, things got tense, we ended our friendship, and now I'm conflicted on whether I should talk to him again or not.

I desperately want to join the United States Navy, but can't...

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What is your favorite web series? [Link List]

I just somehow discovered the Outs and now I want MOAR. I found a post asking about web shows from May 2013 so now I'm asking what new shows have you found that you can't get enough of?Here's the old table (courtesy /u/BlackYupster)SeriesSynopsisHunting SeasonA Gaybros version of "SITC". A NYC blogger navigates sex and relationships while blogging his exploits.The OutsDysfunctional on-again-off-again exes adjust to life apart in Brooklyn.HustlingThis series a follows a male escort trying to balance his professional [love] life with with private love lifeHusbandsTwo celebrities accidentally get hitched during a drunken Vegas romp and can't get divorced due to pressure from the LGBT community, so they try to work it out.It Gets BetterishThe story of Elliot and Brent: two weirdos in New York; fans of booze, cake, butts.In Between MenFour gaybros deal with love, life, careers and friendships in the Big Apple (full S1 episodes ava.)The Boys Who BrunchA group of four gaybros help each other grow through challenges at their weekly brunches.In The MomentThis series follows a group of gaybros in West Hollwoood.Gay’s AnatomyA parody series that follows 3 gay interns in urology residencies and their hilarious and heartfelt adventures.Where The Bears AreA group of bears in LA investigate a murder, while doing what attractive larger hairy guys do...It Could Be WorseA comedy about a struggling Broadway actor in NYC whose luck goes from bad to worse.Two JasperjohnsA hilarious series about nine gay brothers in, you guessed it, NYC, two of whom live together.EastsidersA L.A. couple try to pick up the pieces after infidelity in this "dramedy"

Need a bit of help

So me and my bf decided to "take a break" last night, but wanted to remain friends because we are so comfortable talking to each other. Distance became a problem because he lives so far away and im always either working or doing school stuff. Is there anyway we can still actually remain friends? I mean we were good friends for about 4 years before we started dating, so does that mean anything?

Gay and kids

Is being gay just about sex? I don't see many gays wanting to have kids. Maybe I am wrong, but i feel many gays are loner as they grow old.

Bi-curious update.

So a few months back I posted for advice on what I quickly learned was called Bi-Curious.Everyone that replied was extremely helpful and friendly and made me feel much more at ease with my stumbling attempts to figure out my sexuality. Basically I had developed an attraction to feminine guys (one in particular) with an emo/rock sensibility.Well here's the thing. The one particular guy I was attracted too... turned out to be a fake online persona. Apparently someone had been taking the photos from some young lady's Tumblr account, cropping them above her chest, or using photos where her chest didn't feature prominently, and passing themselves off as this androgynous young male character.So basically everything my confusion was based on was actually a lie.Of course me being me I thought the whole thing was hilarious and decided to put the whole thing to the back of my mind. I haven't really given much thought to hooking up with guys since then. I just thought I'd share my silly life non-event.

Being indian and gay

For all those Indians and friends from other homophobic countries where being gay isn't socially acceptable, how do u deal with the pressure from family and society?

How to cope when the person your dating is really busy?

We are both in grad school but his workload has become very heavy in the past few weeks (he spends most of his time outside of class in the library) and it's leaving me feeling neglected/disappointed that I don't get to see him much. My workload has stayed steady over the semester and I have a bunch of free time.Now he doesn't blow me off and use "I'm busy" as an excuse not to see me. With the little free time he has on the weekends, he invites me over usually to stay the night and he is noticeably exhausted and I can tell he wants to sleep but is staying up to spend time with me. We talked about it and he said he is feeling super overwhelmed with work and it's stressing him out. He wants to see me a lot more than he is able to and said he wants to be moving things along faster. He said he was afraid to invite me over to just sit and do nothing, because he was afraid it would be boring to me. I told him I just want to spend time with him, not be entertained.So, others with boyfriends/people their dating who are actually super busy, how do you cope? I know the general advice of get a hobby, do things with friends, blah blah. I do do things to keep me occupied and most of my friends are also grad students who also have a lot of work to do.He is a great guy and we get along great. I see things progressing further (but at a slow pace...).Advice, please!

A SCOTUS ruling against gay marriage would be devastating for the GOP

I was thinking about this and if SCOTUS would rule againt gay marriage a LOT of states would this right. With opinion polls favoring SSM in many places there would be a considerable outcry and would give the democratic party a huge boost of support from progressives and younger people. The GOP, again, would look like the bigot party since it is republican appointed judges that caused this.This could contribute to a Republican loss in 2016.On the other hand if SCOTUS rules in favor of SSM then the GOP loses very little. The republican voters cannot blame the party since it was legalized by courts. Democrats will lose a point on their platform that differentiates them from the GOP, and therefore progressives and young people will have little reason to go vote for democrats.This is my two cent analysis. Any suggestions of what I may have missed or overlooked ?

Hey Gaybros, what is the the most interesting gay-related thread you have ever read on reddit?

I was reading earlier an old thread about a straight guy that did gay porn and realized that there are probably many other great threads across many subreddits that I might never have seen. So I come to you asking, what are some of thr greatest gay-related treads you have ever read on Reddit?

I am Lost.

i am 22 and I can't seem to come out. I don't know what to do. I am a college student who works part time and still live at home with my parents. They both have made it very clear that they hate gays and are disgusted by them. I don't want to hurt them by revealing the fact that I am gay. My mom is the worst when she speaks about gays, she says the most hurtful things about them and it hurts me sometimes. At what point do I tell them? I am lost at this point. What should I do? I don't know what will happen if I tell them.

Wedding cake advertising question

I work at a bakery in the Boston area and we are making new brochures for our wedding cakes. We have done ads in several area gay magazines and have done several same sex weddings cakes. We would like to feature some of them in the new brochure and want to put something mentioning how we are open to doing cakes for any wedding, but we don't want to be offensive. We were thinking something as simple as "Wedding cakes for everyone", but that sounds a little too much like a radio sales pitch. Would it be better to use "all inclusive" or something of that sort? Or should we not even mention it and just let the pictures do the talking?

Everyone thinks I'm gay now. I'm not really ready to come out, though. What should I do?

I'm 22, and I work at a movie theater. Three weekends ago, nobody bothered me about appearing to be gay. Two weeks ago, I heard people gossiping about me. but not much else.This past weekend was a nightmare. By the end of it, it seemed like everyone thought it would be totally funny to humiliate me. Mocking my voice, jokingly flirting, breaking into Spice Girls songs when I entered the room, calling me "sister," etc. It's weird, because none of the other gay people who work there seem to get that sort of treatment.My parents also think I'm gay now, and people in my college classes also seem to think so as well.The only possible reason I can think of for this is that I've started to take antidepressants, and that maybe I seem more gay when I'm less depressed. But I really don't feel like I've changed at all.About my parents thinking that I'm gay: that is a serious problem for me. They're starting to act a bit more distant, it seems. I'm starting to get really worried.What should I do?

How to look for roommates?

I think I'm ready to finally move out, and I was wondering what the best way to look for roommates was and such?

Gained weight.

So my partner of two years has gained weight since we first met. I don't think he's overweight at all and still love him the same, but he's constantly belittling himself and accusing me of enabling him. I don't know how to handle this and i feel like it's driving us apart. Help!

Is there a huge difference between American guys and European guys (white men)

I often here stuff like Europeans are hotter than white American guys (it’s comparing white to white) seems stupid to me as we came from Europe how can they look better?It was actually an asian guy that said this too me that European men are hotter than white American men.Is there a noticeable difference between them and us?

The moment you became boyfriends.

Time for my first post after lurking the sub for a bit!Haven't seen a similar question posted, but if it already has I apologize in advance!... I'm curious about reading about the moment someone of you popped the "exclusivity/boyfriends" question and got a resounding positive answer. Was it in a funny/tense/romantic situation? Was it while furiously having sexy time or while having a stroll in the park?I'm kinda pondering having the talk with my current date, so I'm looking forward to read other bros experiences (wish me luck lol).

Snapchat bros

I searched and there's been threads in the past, but it'll be a little bit creepy and weird of me to add people, so new thread? Post your snapchat and where you're from!Mine: 'xxczx' and from the UK Keep it clean.

Graduating with no plans

Hey guys, I'm graduating from college a month from today. After a series of interviews with several companies I came out the other end empty handed. Now I have no idea what to do come December. Anybody else been in this situation, how do you deal with it?

Attempting To Break Even

So I had asked him to meet up in person to clear the air. The fact that he said he wanted to end our dating over a text eats at me but at least he was honest & he had agreed to meet.Originally, we were set up to meet today (which we still are). A friend of mine cancelled our dinner plans last night bc she has the flu, so I texted him to see if he would want to met up last night. He tells me he's going to a movie, which was fine. I would let him know when I got out of work to see if he had time to meet up before.It was later that he told me that he was getting to some guys house to meet up for the movie which started while I was still at work. I only asked if he was going with a friend of his (who i'd met previous), he just answered no, not him. I told him have fun on his movie date. He answered thanks.My plan for tonight was to be fine with everything; he said he wasn't in a position to date someone full time & I knew enough about his situation [just moved into the area a few months ago, looking for work, dealing with his relatives / home life, adjusting West Hollywood, etc.] (& then that situation being confirmed by his best friend about 99.99% of the time) for me to be completely understanding. But then he throws that into my face. My logical side tells me it's just some guy he's friends with going to a movie & that it just shouldn't matter. However my crazy side wants me to run rampant with all sort of ideas of how he basically lied to my face & didn't even have the decency to cover his own ass but there's no concrete basis for that.Now I don't even know how to direct this conversation tonight. I want to be civil, I want to be the better person, but that one fucking minor detail is derailing me. It may have not been a date for all I know or care, but that fucking shroud he used made me go mad. I have to see him for the next two weeks & most likely beyond bc we're in a recreational league together & i'm tired of dealing with shit like this in a childish manner; passive aggressive, avoiding him, etc. because in all (from what I concretely know) he didn't do anything wrong. He's a lousy texter & his time management sucks, but yeah./r/AskGayBros, what do you think?EDIT: I am not trying to get back with him. I'm trying to maintain the friendship that was in place.

Confusion

Why do guys choose the ones who talk down to them over the nice guys?

Coming out on National Television?

Long story short, I'm taking part in a BBC documentary about Sexuality, I'm super pumped for it and should be a blast, aside from going round Brighton and deconstructing bisexuality and masculinity, one of the parts the producers want me to do is to film me coming out to my mum.I feel the time is right, and I want to tell her, but I'm concerned not that she will take it badly with me being bisexual, but more her reaction will be recorded for national audiences and she'll be duped into taking part with the whole thing (TV producers have told her it's just about Uni). I feel that it's a personal thing and as much as I'd like to see her reaction as a positive message to tv audiences, I'm not sure if the fact that she'll take it well that this is what the Documentary and we're filming her just getting her reaction.How should I go about this? Tell her but tell her off camera and then record my response on how things went?

Judge overturns same-sex marriage ban in South Carolina - Marriages start Nov. 20th

My home state! It's rare that there's anything to celebrate about South Carolina, so I may be a little over excited. Growing up there, this was not a day that expected to see, certainly not while I was a young man.I should call my folks.

Might be gay, no idea

Hi guys,22 years old at uni, Always had a high sex drive, consider myself "bi" but have loved gay sex more and more every time ive done it.I had a stable girlfriend for 4 years and just started dating another last week, I have always been into girls and always watched hetro porn but I find myself less and less attractive to girls and more and more curious and turned on by the idea of gay sex.I dont know what to do, I feel like I am turning gay? I am not adverse to the idea of being gay but is it possible for your sexual preferences changing?Anyone had a similar experience or can help make sense of this?

Just moved to a new (more liberal) city and many guys I'm interested in are turned off because of my conservative political views.

Title says it all. I work for a conservative group (more of the free market/libertarian, but it's definitely conservative). Completely out at work, even my tea party-ish boss is cool with it.I got promoted/transferred to a new city to start a new office there and the gays seem to be pretty mean when they find out my beliefs after a couple dates or so. I've been lectured and told I'm a bad person/I'm being used as a token and not actually respected by my colleagues. Which is really fresh coming from people whose only political experience is sharing pictures on FB, but I digress.Anything I could do? I tried not talking about politics, but I LOVE politics and enjoy friendly debate. I'm not even as concerned about a potential bf as I am with finding gay friends who I can talk openly about my time at work.

Can gay men find true love?Im waiting.

I think it's difficult to be a gay.Here is in Asia,All they need is sex but love?As if cute face is necessity in this gay circle.Anyone who is honest and sincere?

feeling conflicted

Hey bros--I feel so conflicted about my current relationship w/ my bf (M24/M24). We've been together for 5 years, 4 of which we spent together in college (we met freshman yr), and the other in long-distance (he just started law school in NYC; i'm in DC doing policy research at a think tank). We try to see each other almost every weekend. I love him so much!!! We're each other's first serious long-term partner. He's perfect in every way and we're compatible in every way (we've talked about getting married)...butThe distance is really starting to weigh on me. I'm starting to get really lonely during the weekdays when we're not together and I just sit in my apt alone after work. We skype every night, but it's not the same as having him around to go out with and do things together. I've tried taking up hobbies / doing activities w/ other friends, but it's also just not the same. This is terrible for me to say, but I also really hate doing the 4 hr trip to visit him every other weekend. I know that shouldn't be a deal breaker, but it's such a time/$$$ kill + me going out-of-town for two weekends/month means I haven't really had the chance to embrace the city fully and have a social life of my own. I can't really make plans w/ friends ever cause I'm constantly away visiting him. He's been experiencing similar frustrations too in the reverse.I've been honest and expressed these concerns to my bf before but he always dismisses them as 'temporary'. Originally he suggested I look for work in NYC, but I really love my job and there aren't any comparable research opportunities in NYC related to my specialty. So it looks like we're stuck in this situation until he graduates in 2.5 years.I consider my bf my soul-mate, and until recently I thought we'd end up spending the rest of our lives together, but now I'm in such a weird place. I still love him silly, but the distance is really hard.Part of me is horrified at breaking up. I feel so lucky to have found 'the one' on my first try. I read all these \gaybros discussions about how awful gay dating/hookup/app culture is these days, especially in DC, and I don't want to spend the rest of my 20s (30s? 40s?...) trying to find a second 'one' when I've already made a slam dunk. I also feel like he would become really emotionally insecure if we broke up (I tried suggesting we 'take a break' once and he told me I was 'ruining his life'...), and I really don't want to hurt him! At the same time though I feel like maybe I'm too sheltered/naive/young having only ever been in this one relationship and I should be branching out.I really don't want to screw up a good thing, but something just isn't right. Feeling so conflicted... Any advice?

Has anyone successfully 'imported' your BF from another part of the country, that you met online? How did it work out for you?

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I know I'm being clingy but I need you guys to tell me too

Hey bros, I'm a senior in high school and I've never been in a real relationship. Recently, I started talking to this really cute guy, we've hung out once and it was great and we've got a real date scheduled at the end of the week. My problem is that I keep wanting to text him and talk to him, i know I'm being clingy but he doesn't always respond and it stresses me out. Can you guys just please tell me to cut the shit and how to do it?

So about gay friends...

so i'm gay but i only have straight friends, and thats sucks because i don't have anyone to talk about men and stuff, so i was thinking about online friends :D, please anyone interested? :)

my coworker

My coworker is super nice to me. I've been working there for about a month and half. I'm not sure if he's gay. He doesn't know that I like him more than just a coworker/friend. He's also my coach, we are assigned coach. I'm also discreet and I don't want anyone else to know, but I'm not sure how to tell him or let him know I want to be with him.

Need friends

Hey guys so all my friends are straight so I don't have anyone to talk like for real about this things anyone interested? ;:D \o/

Gaybros in the Cornfields (Indiana/Midwest)

I just moved back to Indiana after having forgot what it was like here. Where are all of you and how do you find other dudes? How do you stave off boredom? Boxers or Briefs.. or commando? Top or Bottom.. or vers?And have any of you been to any gaybro meetups?

How can I bleed less during anal?

Throwaway for obvious reasons. I find that sometimes I bleed after anal sex. It normally lasts several days, but it's just little spots after I poo usually. Is this more common than I think? What can do to reduce the amount of bleeding?

Finding other young professional gay guys? Not romantically, just friends.

Hey Gay Bros!So I'm a happily married gay guy (married to a guy) and we're generally super happy. I occasionally chat on Grindr and Scruff (my husband is aware and fine with it - this is not an issue) to meet new people and hopefully make new friends. This has worked a couple of times but some guys are looking for just sex (obviously not interested) and the vast majority of other guys aren't in the same place I am either intellectually, professionally, and in terms of being out. I don't mind talking to the occasional closet guy who wants to make friends but I really want to meet people who are at the same place I am.Obviously apps like Grindr aren't ideal for meeting professional people but the city I'm in doesn't have much in terms of gay groups for non-college folks. So does anyone have any suggestions? I'm in Edmonton if that helps at all.Thanks!

Did he go too far?

I've been dating this guy for almost 2 months. He's my first real boyfriend, and I'm falling for him. He's usually a bottom, but has been wanting to top lately. We've done that a few times, but for some reason bottoming is just uncomfortable with him. He's been incredibly persistent, and will try to top me, even when I say no multiple times, and I usually let him (it get over the uncomfortableness most of the time).Anyway, today he tried topping me after I said no, and I even got out of bed. He followed me into the bathroom and then into the living room. I finally started yelling at him and told him he needed to stop. We ended up getting into a fight and I told him to leave. I know he wouldn't never hurt me, and he's being playful with all of this, but I feel really disrespected and he's being kind of mean about that.Is he going too far with all of this? It's not like I feel violated or terribly by any means and I know he's definitely not someone who'd be forceful, but I'm wondering whether this is some kind of mild abuse or I'm just overthinking it.Any thoughts?

I'm just tired and in need of some Nice wards and a Hug. Life Ranting Post.

am trying to be as honest as possible, I'm Turning 22 Tomorrow on the 13, and I am so Sick and tired.Hi I'm Mohammad, Gay Chubby non-Muslim with a Muslim name inside of a Muslim Country. I Just Realized I am Dealing with some pressure, I'm Closeted in both my Religion and my Sexuality Except with other LGBT Friends which are a few.so how my life is like right now, I'm a University Student from 6am to 1pm then I work from 5 to 12 its takes me about an how on the way from uni to work so i spend an the extra 2 between just passing time with friends.I Have a Boyfriend for 6 months now, i Hardly see him as he's Busy and I'm as well, I love him at times at others i just hate him as whenever i try to complain about my time or troubles he always turns it into a Competition of Who's life sucks most.also he has Suicidal Tendencies which he refuses to admit but are obvious to me.. i don't want to lose him.I Love myself most of the time, but i am tired it's just that everyone of my friends and my boyfriend complain to me over everything and whenever i turn to look for someone to talk to i just don't find any.I Love my Friends, it's just that i wish i had a friend who'd treat me like i treat them.so TL:DR Fat Gay Arab non muslim is tired.

How do you know when you've gone too far?

Hi everyone, my first time posting here so any help would be greatly appreciated. My question is applying to dating, how do you know when you are talking too much, being ridiculous or that the guy is just over you?There is a guy I've been talking to for sometime now and we have been texting for a while. We planned to do something over holiday break and had set a date to meet. I'm getting kind of nervous though because a lot of our conversations have been becoming lackluster, in terms of his responses. At first there was a good amount of witty banter between us, now I can only get a lol or lmao. I'm completely okay if he isn't interested anymore, but for future reference I'd like to know.Thanks guys

Dry Spell Help

What's up guys? Alright my dilemma is as old as time. My man split up with me a couple months ago, and not gonna lie I was torn about that, so I went through a slut phase. Now, I'm going through a dry spell, and starting to feel the effects of sexual frustration tearing at my mind as I try to go on with my day. I've downloaded all the apps, but everyone has been flakey. I'm starting to think this is a sign to slow things down sexually, but I am still of course open to sex. Any tips, and advice on dealing with the dry spell, and or ending it? Thanks.

I look much better in pictures than in real life?

I get lots of hits on grindr from really hot guys but I am too scared to meet them incase I show up and they are like “da fuck is that”… I have really bad dark lines under my eyes that don’t show up in pictures but in day light I look like a drug addict. I have horrible really dry hair too and braces. In pictures it amazes me how good I look the difference is between like an 8 (photos) and 3 in real life. It's really sad because I see so many beautiful guys walking about in day light and I look like I am on meth.Anyone else like that?

Oyster Bars - What do we do?!

It's coming up to our 1 year anniversary and I have a surprise day planned out in London. As part of this plan I was looking at taking him to an oyster bar (specifically Bentley's/J Sheekey) since we've always been intrigued. Having done some research it seems that the information out there is only really for people who already know what they're doing! I was wondering if anyone would be able to answer some questions :)Is it necessary to book a table at an oyster bar or is it more of a walk-in walk-out affair?How long would you normally spend at an oyster bar? Do you just chuck down the oysters in quick succession or have 1 every 10 minutes?!We're only looking to have a small, light lunch (a large dinner is planned) so it is socially acceptable just to order half a dozen oysters each? (Considering half a dozen oysters is a wallet breaking £16 (...we're students))Thanks for any help and clarification!

Powerlifters

Been struggling to find other gay guys who are into powerlifting. I've been competing for a year and a half and wanting to compare numbers, see if there are any lifters near the Dallas area.

Writing a research paper on Gay Rights Movement. Help me out, bros!

Hey bros! I'm writing a research paper for an urban studies course on the effects of the AIDS epidemic on the progress of the Gay Rights Movement in San Francisco. I figured some of you would be pretty knowledgable on the topic and might be able to point me toward some good sources. Happy Tuesday!

My story

Bit of a long story, but explains why I am who I am. When I was 7 my mam and dad got divorced. I saw my dad regularly till I was in my teens, then that dropped off but by but until I was 14 when it stopped altogether save for birthday and christmas cards. My mam wanted me to have something to do so got me to join a drum and bugle marching band which I did. After a short time it became apparent that the bandmaster, a 60 something man had a taste for younger boys as he started to get friendly with my mam, to groom me, then when I was 15 he started inviting me over to "help" with the band stuff, of course to stay overnight as well. That was when he started to abuse me, and rape me over a 6 month period. I decided to leave the band as I was scared. I never told myd mam as I didnt want to upset her, being she wanted me to join the band. As all this was happening I saw my dad again for one more last time and he asked me not to contact him as he was remarried and didn't want his wife to know about me. That sentence had destroyed my life as I have doubted myself my whole life, feel a failure. I'm now 47, and am dealing with it slowly, but I also now am bisexual, and married. When things go bad at home, I go out to look for men to have sex with. I don't like doing it, but it makes me feel wanted. Makes me feel needed. I hate myself, but can't stop.I also feel ashamed that I didnt tell anyone as I know he would of started on other boys, and I don't think I could live with myself knowing others were hurt because of me. My mam passed away in 2000 and I've never told her. I found out my dad passed away in 2009 so I can't get any closure there either. 47 years old and I am a failure.

[Update] Finished all of my major requirements and I'm looking for subjects to study.

So, it turns out that I actually needed one more course for my requirements (ugh American Lit post-1865)…but without further ado, here are the three courses that are outside of my English major that I've decided to take:Roman Civilization+Culture: I've taken four years of Latin, which included some culture, but I think it's important I take this course.Computer Science: Intro to Problem Solving w/ Computers: this is the class I'm most afraid of. MATH?! I'm an English major! This should be interesting though and will provide me with skills I may need to get a job in the future. The course is supposed to help you master Java. Yayyyy. (I'm actually TERRIFIED, but that's what's gonna make it exciting!)School of Management; New Venture Creation. This is soooo out of my element. We're learning how to be innovative and create a business or product with an idea. Should be interesting.

Need advice: 21y/o increasingly horny, can't find anyone plus scared of STDs.

Az összesítés nem áll rendelkezésre. A bejegyzés megtekintéséhez kattints ide.

Don't see enough "grub" conversations on here, so here's my most unhealthy family food recipe. Share yours?

It is called heart attack chicken and it is the worst thing best thing to ever grace the taste buds. *1/2 cup dijon mustard *1/2 cup honey *1/2 juice of lemon *salt *boneless skinless chicken breast *1 pound thick cut bacon *cheese of choice, shredded *oilMix mustard thu salt. Rinse chicken breasts, place between two piece of wax paper, pound like its Benedict Cumberbatch. marinate chicken in mixture for four hours. fry bacon, reserve 1/4 cup bacon grease. Preheat oven to 400. In a clean skillet heat up bacon grease with 1/4 cup vegetable oil at medium heat. add chicken and cook till browned. cook all chicken in oven for ten minutes, then remove from oven, add bacon and cheese, melt cheese in oven, then chow down! (defib optional)

Question about Facebook

So I'm partly out but mostly in the closet. There's a closed LGBT group on facebook that I want to join so I can see the events that are posted, but I'm not sure if my facebook friends will be able to see that I'm in it or not. It wouldn't be a huge deal if they could, but I'd rather come out in my own time on my terms, not because someone saw I was in this group. Lately facebook seems to broadcast every little stupid thing you do on there, so I was wondering if there's any way to keep this one thing private. I don't want to miss out on something because of this.

My guy has never cum with me

So we've fucked maybe a dozen or more times now. He always pulls out after I cum. I've given him head a lot but he stops me in the middle. I think I'm pretty decent so I don't know what the problem is. There was one time he asked if I could suck his balls and I said no problem but then he stopped me and said nevermind and seemed kind of humiliated. He didn't bring it up again. Is this normal?

My fiancé's parents don't know I exist

I have been in a committed relationship for three years now. Two months ago, my boyfriend proposed to me. His parents however don't know I exist really. He is scared about telling them. What should he do and how?PS - His Parents are catholic and help to cover rent when we can't pay it. He told his parents he was gay when we started dating and they did not handle it well at all.We really need help because it is starting to really upset me, and it stresses him out because he basically is lying to his parents. So please help with any suggestions for how to tell his parents we are engaged.

In regards if enema and douches, are they necessary?

Hello there, recent discussion with a friend of mind has brought up questions in regards of the question above. For a long time I've always thought douching is a standard procedure before and anal activity because it's to keep my insides clean. However my friend mentioned that douching will clean out benefitial bacteria and dries up the inner wall, increasing the chance of tear afterwards.So my question is as such: What do you think of internal cleansing and do you recommend it, if not, is there any alternatives?P.S. Sorry, I'm new to Reddit, how do you add the NSFW tag?

How do I find other gaybros

Hey bros, sorry If this is strikingly similar to another post I made last Saturday but I just didn't get enough posts/advice.I'm 18 and in high school. I really want to meet and possibly date other gay guys who lift/play sports and are masculine. Problem is all the gay guys who are out in my school are the really flamboyant ones. The ones that have high-pitched voices,limp wrists dress borderline like a woman. I really have no problem with them but just isn't what I'm into. I'm on tinder but so far no luck :(I go to the gym 4x a week but it's so close to impossible to find the gay one among the guys around my age ESPECIALLY when I hear them start talking about girls in the locker room. There is a gay community centre in my city that functions as a youth group in certain days but I got a feeling that the guys I like are just too discrete and closeted to consider going to such places. The ONLY gay sports team here only caters to older-middle aged men,no teens.I just don't know what to do anymore .And yeah I'm of drinking age in my country.

The "Homophobia" of eminem and why I think it's just people waiting to get angry at something. Written from a blunt gay guy.

I am and always have been a blunt guy, so if you offend easy, maybe skip. I'm trying to open conversation, not trigger, but some people, well.Just read an article where some butthurt members of the Queer community are outraged that Eminem calls himself a fighter of gay rights and drops terms like faggot and dyke in the same song. Welcome to Rap music.Some choice passages:'Coz you'sa tramp look at how you react to this trigger like when I call you a bigger dyke than the Hoover Dam'It is super obvious to me that this is aimed directly at Tumblr style internet users who claim things like PSTD (A term previously reserved almost exclusively for war survivors), and not aimed at actual lesbians. Hell he even uses one of their favourite words, trigger. I'm not saying that some Lesbians arent Tumblr users, I am simply saying not every one is.I see so many members of the community standing by, ready to get angry at anything and scream oppression. So Em says "here, this is exactly what you want. I'll cover all the basics like dyke, trigger, tramp, so you can have your daily blow up" and to that I say atta boy Em. People need calling out on their bullshit. Gay genocide in uganda is crisis. They most certainly have PTSD. Mass gory rape and brutal murders of women globally is a crisis. Transitioning people who are tormented daily beaten to death by groups of people is a crisis.Twenty somethings living in a middle class neighbourhood tumblring how oppressed they because not everyone understands the new 12th gender they just invented is a crisis, but for a different reason; ignorance. It is too easy to say "respect my lifestyle or else". How about "Here is a contribution I have made with my lifestyke to better the community and world I live in that I live in."So Props to him for giving them a shout.'Happy as Anderson Cooper having a tube crammed up in his pooper with lubricant.'I know many gay guys who agree, and I am one, stuff in the pooper is fucking awesome. Only a fool with heavily internalized homophobia would get bent on this one. Like "You can't say that, that is discriminatory and offends me as a gay man". To those guys I ask why? Its simple fact. If you cant handle the world knowing that many gay sex practices (And straight for that matter) involve shoving things in your ass, Maybe you're not ready to be "out" yet.Eminem offers no shame about it. He doesnt condemn it. He just states it. If you hear a fact stated about you and it embarrasses you to hear it, that's your own shame. Em even puts a positive spin on it, he's happy. Which I usually feel when I'm getting it in the pooper too.'But I may fight for gay rights, especially if the dyke is more of a knockout than Janay Rice. Play nice?'Dykes are dykes are dykes. Here in Toronto we have a separate pride parade specifically for women known as the Dyke March. And you can be damn sure Eminem wasn't involved in the naming of it. And as a heterosexual guy saying he'd especially help her out because she's hot? Hey, welcome to life where hotter people are treated with more favour every day.Sorry ugly anyone if this offends you, but it's not just you. It's everyone. Do you think unnatractive skinny poorly dressed guys are on even playing ground with 6'2 handsome, musclebound Adonises in a club setting, a job interview, in finding a partner to share your life with? Nope. So if Em says he'll help us out but his dick would prefer to start with the hotties, I say no shit; we all do. Thanks for the support period dude!In Summary:People like us who lead alternative lifestyles need thicker skins than this. We've regressed from the Drag Queens taking the police head on in the streets of bath house raids to running to our keyboards every time anything (In some people's cases everything) "triggers" us. We were a strong community, lets get back there. Waiting to be angry over everything is not how our forefathers would want to see us. We need to stop it with this self victimizing crap. If A straight guy with a huge fan base wants to call himself an ally, FUCK yeah am I on board with that!Edit: the articleTLDR: Eminem say's he's got our backs, gays freak out because it is classic (awesome btw) rap and the slurs that come with it.

LGBT Parents

I write for a digital magazine called Rainbow Rumpus which profiles and features kids from LGBT headed households. The stories are not LGBT focused or about the parents, but highlight what might make that child special or unique to kids their own age. An example of an RR story can be found here. I'm looking for a child between the ages of 7-12 for an upcoming issue, and I was wondering if anyone knows of any kids/parents that might be interested! Thanks so much!!

Forget attractiveness, I would like to just find a guy that isn't so self-absorb and has moments of selfless acts...

I think this is probably a universal search so I don't think this is anything new here. However, I find so many guys so self absorbed it's pretty nauseating. I just met this guy who "says" he's head over heels for me and is dumbfounded as to why I don't feel the same for him. He's hot but he's so self absorbed (it's like unreal). He can't see that he is and when he tries to prove he isn't it makes it worse. UGH!

Need advice on a strange situation?

So I'm a guy and my friends sends me snapchats of his penis. I'm straight but I don't know if he's joking or is this him coming onto me or something. Very strange I know but he says he's joking but I don't know. What do you guys think?

Help my friend Thor

He is still in the closet, and only want relations with cats. Any help?

Gay Sex! or Why Sleeping With Someone Seems So Dangerous and Scary

Hi! First of all, I don't know how specific I'm allowed to be here on this sub, but the sidebar said "no censoring", so I'm just gonna spill it out.I'm a gay 19-year old and I am having some issues with getting my gay on. I realized that I was homosexual about 4 years ago and today -luckily - I'm kind of comfortable with being gay. The problem is, the thought ofhaving sex with another man really frightens me.In terms of gay sex, I'm more interested in being the "bottom" than the "top", and all my fantasies about being in a relationship with another guy include me being the one on the receiving part. When I think about sleeping with someone, having oral sex etc doesn't seem as nice in comparison.Unfortunately, I have some problems with bacteria - after going to the bathroom I usually wash my hands in scolding water for several minutes. Therefore the thought of having sex through the anus really freaks me out, it's loaded with e.coli and what not. Furthermore, I'm very afraid that I will accidentally hurt myself or tear anything. I don't know if surgery is possible in that area, but I feel like I wouldn't be able to live with irreversible damage to my anus.So this, as you probably can imagine, pretty much takes all of the sexiness out of gay sex for me. I have never been involved with anyone yet, but I have no idea how I would be able to sleep with someone with all of my hang-ups? This might not seem like such a big deal, but I really would want to be in a functioning relationship with a guy some day, and I feel like this is severely hurting my chanses? So if you have any advice for me, that would be most helpful!

About to break-up with my boyfriend. And he's insane.

Like the title says I'm about to break up with my bf. And he's BATSHIT CRAZY. I should of known dating a guy this hot would have its consequences. But I'm so unbelievably worried that he's going to send my nudes to everyone, lie to my boss and said I stole something, or harass me.Is there anyway I can break up with him, without him turning into the vindictive monster I know he is?

Gift ideas?

I would post this on r/askreddit but i fear for the lack of serious answers. Hi guys, I'm trying to look for a good gift for my boyfriend for his graduation this December and I was thinking of getting him a watch, a book (he loves SciFi). I'd get him a stethoscope (he's a doctor) but it's a bit too expensive for me to get at the moment. He loves taking care of fishes, and I'd get him one, but I'm pretty sure it'll just die because I've no idea how to take care of them. Any ideas on what I could get him?

Well this happened...

I meant to send this to my boyfriend but I accidentally sent it in a group text with my parents. Needless to say, the rest of the day they were probably scarred.

Question about sex and my boyfriend

So... due to some sexual abuse history in my youth I have a weird relationship with sex, especially when it comes to topping. Now, my boyfriend knows this and has not really been supportive, at all. He mocks me for it and gets very upset. Now, today I wanted to have sex after not seeing him for a while so I took a shower, tried to dress cute, and made a strong effort to be romantic with him. He told me that no he wasn't going to do anything with me. He said until I learn to get over it he won't be having sex with me anymore. The thing is, I am on a waiting list for psychological help and am actually making an effort and feel as though he is just making it harder for me. Idk what I'm asking here, maybe more venting? Any advice guys, also thanks for reading this all.

Came out to my Roommate

I have two roommates, one of which I came out to yesterday, I didn't tell the other one because his mind isn't really made to handle grown-up concepts. But Roommate number 1 said that he's glad that I was able to trust him with this information, and that he was totally cool with it, "you were badass before, and you still are now" is what he said. So, another hurdle cleared for me!

Dang y'all are young in here

As I read your thoughts and stories in this reddit I feel old sometimes(34 here). First dates, first kisses, confusion, fear. From someone whose been there, stay strong and never forget there is a whole world out there so don't give up and always remember there as gaybros we can have the option of building out own families as well!

Gay marriage advice and resources?

Hey peeps,My boyfriend and I have been seriously talking about marriage over the last few months and I thought it would be good to start thinking about it and what it might involve.I know gay marriage ceremonies are not that different from straight ones, but there are certain things that could get awkward and that I am too ignorant to think up a solution to - like who proposes? Are there diamonds on the ring? who walks who up the aisle? Best man/woman? Maybe these are silly things, but heck, I don't even know where to start.Anyhow - I was wondering if anyone knew of a website, blog, pinterest board whatever with a practical twist that could help me on my journey of discovery? Maybe something that you found helpful?

Simple question?

I go to school in the morning and I ask my boyfriend if he's horny in between classes but he always tells me no. My problem here is he watches porn for like an hour after he tells me no! What gives? He's my first boyfriend and I'm always horny (blame it on me being young) but everyday I ask for sex he complains im always too horny and how he is never horny. Does he just not want my ass all the time or what it upsets me because he works all day after I get back from school and is always too tired when he gets off work to do anything sexual.

Would you date me (be honest)?

I'm 21 years old. I'm some what inexperienced I have had sex but only with 3 people. I don't like anal, it hurts I didn't feel good at all. I have phimosis (basically it hurts when guys jerk me off because my foreskin wont go all the way back)... so all I can do is give head. I am quite attractive, not in the perfect tanned muscle boy way but decent lol. So yeah what a catch eh lol... I'm a nice person but would anyone actually go out with a guy that hates sex?

What are some of your favorite comics?

I'm starting to get into reading comics again and I was wondering which ones my favorite sub would recommend. I'm open to any and all!!

How can I decompartmentalize my life?

This is basically a two-part question. I have two somewhat related problems: I have enormous difficulty relating to and connecting with other gay men, and despite not being closetted, my romantic life remains pretty much totally separated from my normal social, academic, and professional life.Some background: I've been in two actual relationships with guys, neither of which were widespread public knowledge (in both cases, by their choice, not mine). Most - actually, all - of my good friends nowadays are straight men, who know that I'm gay; in fact, most of them are more willing to talk about my sex life than I am.My problem is that I identify with, enjoy the company of, and (to be totally honest) am more attracted to my straight friends than any gay man I've ever met - and a lot of straight men I know (but obviously not my close friends) would be a lot less willing to maintain a friendship with me if they knew I was gay. So, I'd rather keep my sexuality to myself and miss out on the million-to-one chance of a relationship than roll the dice and ruin friendships.Some disclaimers; I have a terrible gaydar, so I tend to assume a guy is straight unless his hair is dyed every color in the ROYGBIV spectrum, and concequently I'm very hesitant to engage anyone romantically outside of something like Grindr. As far as I can see, there are two different tacks for approaching this: I could become more open to flirting with people I'm not 100% sure are gay, or I could try to modify my preferences so I enjoy the company of "gay-er" men.I have no clue how to do either of these things. Help?

I want to settle down with a woman but I'm scared out of my mind that I won't be able to fully walk away from men

I've slept with men but never with women. At least in theory, I am sexually attracted to women, although I believe I'm much more strongly attracted to men. I've had deep feelings for a couple women and deep feelings for one man. I think I could go either way sexually. It's just that I'm TERRIFIED of pursuing a relationship with a woman. I've read so many horror stories of men having secret gay affairs and ruining their marriage or marrying not for love but to "cover up" being gay. I've pretty much vowed that I will never marry except for love, and most of my closest friends and family know that I'm either gay or more attracted to men than women, so I have nothing left to hide.Do you know gay or strongly bi men who have married and have been happy and able to manage their same sex attraction?

I got caught in the act (NSFW)

Ok so it happened friday night around 4:30 am to 6:30am we're drunk and we're going at it really... uhm rough... he's the top and I'm the bottom (i'm noisey) we forgot my whole family was in the house and well.. my dad walked in and now he wont look me in the eye (I see his point, I'm literally on top of my boyfriend shouting) he's one of my biggest supporters in my family but no one wants to see their children having sex. anyway... advice??

Missed opportunity?

Hey gaybros, I'm a closeted bisexual (not that I need labels I just appreciate sex and sexiness male or female), but I've not yet physically acted on any guy on guy activities. While I've only had physical relationships with women, I do love me some gay porn and sharing photos with the gaybrosgonewild reddit community to relieve that side of my sexuality. I've always been interested in being physical with a guy but the opportunity has never arisen.Today at the lunch cafeteria at work I was eating a late lunch alone when I heard a conversation a couple of guys were having a few tables over. It was pretty quiet at this time, which I guess made it comfortable for them to openly talk about sex without being overheard. Even though they were being quiet I strained to hear them once I noticed what the conversation was about. They were redditors, or at the very least lurkers because they were talking about gaybrosgonewild.My interest was piqued, I popped my ears to make sure I could hear them; sure, spying is unethical but at this point I couldn't not listen. Then my heart skipped a beat and a chill went down my spine when I realized they were talking about a recent album I posted there in my rew red papi jock. (Recommend, very comfortable, decent support and reasonably priced) The hairs on my neck stood up when I heard one of them go into detail about eating my ass nice and slow, then the other chiming in they could gag me then take ramming my ass. This went on for a little while, each scenario just as tantalizing as the next to the point where sitting in at my booth rock hard.I'm fairly shy and self conscious, and love the positive attention and self esteem boost I've got on reddit, especially those dirty pms and kik conversations (including one really hot one where I was completely submissive and at my 'owners' whim). Every inch of me(especially a very specific 6 inches) told me to turn around and go up to them, introduce myself as the 'fuckable ass' they've been talking about. But I just froze there and by the time I got up they were gone and I never even saw what they looked like.Guys... straight, gay, curious.. I missed the boat, have the courage that I didn't have and avoid the regret I'm filled with now. Sigh...

Bi-curious straight guy here.

I'm not really sure this is the place to post this but I couldn't think of anywhere else. So I'm a straight 21 year old dude. Lately I've been really interested in prostate play, male on male porn and have gotten into pegging. I'm here to find someone to talk to about this kinda stuff, might turn sexual might not, I kinda just want to find myself. So I know this may not be the greatest idea but feel free to pm me and I like having a face to a name. Thanks!!

Alright bros, my first experiment/ hookup is tonight...

So as my title says my first gay hookup/ experiment is tonight. Well I shouldn't say it's my "first". I've madeout with a guy before and he gave me head for a quick second. It was my first time and I thought I was going to pass out. Anyways, tonight I'm just going to experiment and see where things go. I met this guy off craigslist he says he's my age and we've began texting. I'm supposed to meet him later on tonight like late. Any encouragement you guys would like to give me would be great.I've never thought of myself as gay until well currently I guess. But not really since I'm experimenting.

Eletra Stem

Hey this might not be the right sub reddit for this but thought I'd ask anyway. Is anyone here into Electra stem stuff? If so where do you like to use it? I bought an electric messager and have used it on my cock before however I find it difficult to get hard with the pads on. Am I doing something wrong? Looking forward to your comments!

With Christmas coming up...

What is everyone getting their man for Christmas? My boyfriend isn't exactly decisive, and I'm having trouble thinking of gifts that he would like. I'm talking about material gifts, seeing as he'll already be getting all the fun and dirty stuff that you might be thinking of.

Barcelona GayBros?

Hey all. So I am currently in Barcelona for the week for work but I have my evenings free. Is there any Gaybros in or around Barcelona who would like to meet up and give me a bit of a tour of the city?Or even just provide me with some good information about where to go in my evenings? Thanks in advance all :D

Anyone had experience with seeing former classmates/acquaintance/coworker/friend in obvious gay places?

as title. this is inspired by a tumblr post that goes something along the line of "seeing old friend in gay bar/club". and I want to ask if there are stories of people seeing former "whoever" in social places that obviously spell gay or mostly gay.(okay i was gonna hit submit then I saw the askgaybros subreddit, but that looks like it's for advise. Im not asking for advise but more like curious on stories lol)

Coming out via a video?

So I'm planning on coming out to my friends in the near future. I've told a couple of close ones already and they were really supportive but I have quite a large group of friends and we are all pretty close so I was thinking to tell the rest I would record a video of myself and do all the talking and explaining that I need to do on there. Then I'll just get everyone together, press play and leave the room. Then come back when they are done watching. I'm only thinking of doing this coz there's so much I want to say but I i know if I do it in person I'll probably get really nervous and forget half of it. So by watching the video they can understand everything that I have to say and then I'm there after if they have any questions. Is this a good idea? Has anyone done it before?Most of my friends haven't really had anyone close to them that's gay before to my knowledge so I just want to explain that nothing's changed and I'm the same person etc.

Do you think putting your personality type on your dating profile really matters?

I've started to notice this as I go through okcupid profiles, a lot of guys put their personality type there (like INTP, ESTP, ESPN, STD, etc). I don't think it's weird but I like reading more about who they really are instead of reading just that and few more facts about themselves. It doesn't bother me at all and I don't really see the importance of it but I don't know, maybe it is important to others. So gaybros, what do you think? Does it matter? Does it not? It's just a survey but I like to hear some stories if you have one.

Cross-post: What romantic gift from your significant other was really awesome?

Stolen from AskReddit. I've always felt a little uncomfortable buying another guy flowers/chocolates. What little things can a guy get a guy?

Need some advice regarding PEP

Hey bros,Sorry for the novel. So I'm a self-proclaimed hypochondriac and a naturally anxious person so this may just be me overreacting, but I'd love to get some advice. So I met a guy and we went out on a date. Long story short, we had sex and in the heat of the moment, I didn't put a condom on (I topped). I know that that's stupid, and in the future I will definitely be more careful. Now, I'm trying to weigh the pros and cons of PEP in my mind to see if I should start treatment or not. I am still within the 72 hour window. I know topping is lower risk, and additionally (this may be the only time I'm thankful for my performance anxiety) I didn't top him for very long because I couldn't keep it up. I'd estimate no more than 3-4 minutes of unprotected topping before we just gave up and blew each other instead. I also asked him his status and he said he's negative, but has had unprotected sex with one guy since his last test, but said that the guy he had unprotected sex with also said he was negative. He also agreed to get tested but can't go until tomorrow. I know that he or the other guy he had sex with could all be lying so I'm taking that with a grain of salt. So overall, I think that my brief unprotected insertive anal sex with a self-reported negative partner is pretty low risk overall, but I would really be devastated if I turned up positive in a couple months when I knew I could have gotten PEP within the 72 hour window. The downsides of getting PEP for me though is that it's expensive and I can't afford it without insurance and I'm on my parents' insurance plan...and they don't know that I'm gay. Furthermore, unfortunately I know that they wouldn't support me being gay and if they found out this way I have absolutely no clue how they would react. And I've also heard that PEP side effects can be pretty bad. So, really any advice or words of encouragement anyone has would be really helpful. Thanks for taking the time to read bros!

Both cheated and he is depressed even though what he did was 4 months ago what I did was more than a year ago please give me advice

So a long time ago approximately a year and 3 months I ago I cheated on my boyfriend. I did so because he was in mexico and a friend of his messaged me telling me that he is dating another girl in mexico and that he was friends with both him and the girl and that I seemed like a good girl and he didnt want anyone to get hurt so I started to think he didnt care that it was a game to him so I started to talk to other people not thinking we were actually in a relationship and had sex with another guy that just so happened to end up going to college and living with him :( but later on like a month later he came back to my marching band parade and when I saw him my heart sank to the lowest depths a heart can go. Of course I kept it a secret but then later a year and 4 months later on graduation night he had Made out with the only girl I really trusted and almost had sex with her or so he says "almost" she tells me it went farther but if he didnt want to tell me then thats his loss. So I dont know what to believe. But what really bothers me is he did this 15 minutes after I had sex with him. I told him what I did and he acted like I did the worst thing ever and that he never did anything wrong and doesnt trust me at all but I trust him. It took me telling him I was pregnant (which I was) to tell me the truth later he always stressed me out and yelled at me on top of that highschool drama and I miscarried from stress. He claims he trusts me but not other people but thats got to be a lie. HELP PLEASE!!!

Anyone ever use Anal Eaze?

Curious about using it since my bf is huge and it always seems to hurt no matter what we do.

Why this is a great subreddit

The rationality, and amount, of down-to-earth people in this thread is astonishing. As a heterosexual male, open to the happiness of others, I've never had a problem with homosexuality, or the people that it brings. I feel that a lot of people might be in the same boat as me, yet never had the amazing people in their lives, or opportunities to find out information they have been curious of for so long. Keep in mind that people's views on this sort of topic tend to derive from nowhere else other than the views of their ancestors. I think it's important to be able to find out and learn about information that may come off as awkward or inappropriate to discuss face-to-face. Someone is much less likely to become offended through a computer screen than the words of another to their face. Thank you /r/askgaybros! This truly is an amazing subreddit!

Freaking out I may have contracted HIV and possibly given it to someone

So about a month ago I (foolishly) had a hookup with a guy. We didnt use a condom, but he said he was all clean. He fucked me for a bit but didn't cum inside me, he pulled out and came. When I got home I noticed my ass was bleeding a little bit. I am very scared that I may have contracted something, I went to planned parenthood a few days later for a regular std test and everything came back negative but I know HIV doesnt show up for atleats a month. So fast forward to now, a month later and I swear I am tricking myself into believing I have all the symptoms like nausea. I have another appointment tomorrow to get a full test of blood and everything, but I am scared because I did also have unprotected sex with my exboyfriend last week and am worried I may have passed it into him. I am literally so nervous and anxious I just want to throw up and I know I cant do anything about it now, is there anything you guys can say to put me at ease a litte bit? I know what I did was stupid are careless.

What to look for in a gym

Hey Bros,I've tried working out at home a few times and it's become really prohibitive. It takes me forever to set up space for me to do even basic shit like pushups and there's too many distractions around - so I want to find a gym. What should I look for in a gym so that I pick the right one? Are places like an Anytime Fitness sacrificing anything for the open 24/7 experience? If I'm just starting out should I go for a bigger chain or something smaller?

Straight guy here. What do you wish I knew/did differently.

I am, unfortunately, quite ignorant to the gay experience. But I've always had an insatiable curiosity for the unknown. Especially when it comes to people, family, and friends want to be able to understand as best I can.So, treating me as the ubiquitous straight guy you run into on the day to day. What information do you wish I had or didn't have? What ways of things do you wish I would do or not do?

Should I respond to one of my old "friends" who stopped speaking to me when I came out ?

So this guy sent me an email wanting to get back in touch, but when I came out he was a complete horrible jerk to me, hurt me and stuff and I don't know if I want to respond back to him or not.I think I am acting a bit immature but I don't know

I told my grandma I am gay, it’s ok now she will speak to my dad

I just want to say thank you to all you guys once more. I never knew there was so many kind people in the world. I’ve had lots of e-mails offering me help. If humanity had a scale in precious minerals you guys would be gold or unobtainium if this was avatar. If I could give each of you a hug I would, I really can’t put into words how much love I have for you guys. I had an end of the world scenario in my head which sort of blinded me to the obvious answer thank you again.

I want to be able to talk to guys

I have no problem talking via text, grindr, or during a planned date, but if it's on the spot I'm horrible. I freeze up when I have to talk to a cute guy, and it only gets worse if I know he's gay. I got sick and had to leave one time just talking to a cute straight guy. I always immediately blush like it's nobody's business too, which makes it obvious if I think a guy is cute. Sometimes I try my best to ignore them or act like I'm not interested just so I won't feel so vulnerable. I know I'm good-looking, but the anxiety makes it impossible for me to be able to talk to guys.

Need advice on approaching this guy (UPDATE)

Hey guys. Not sure if everyone remembers this but a while ago I made a thread asking for help on approaching a certain guy on Grindr and I've come to fill you up and actually ask your help with yet another problem.Original thread hereSo, a lot happened but basically he messaged me the day after I made this thread on reddit and I was pretty dang happy. We had a bunch of really nice conversations and even exchanged a few pics.Now, around a week ago we had another conversation and I said I was leaving for a party and had to go and we'd talk more another time. However, It's been 7 days and he has not logged in on Grindr since that last time, I have no idea what's wrong. I was pretty sure we were actually getting along and was planning on asking him out the next day.I'm not sure what to do reddit, should I just give up on him? I really felt like we were really beginning to connect and wanted to get to know him on a even more personal level. I talked with one of my friends who know I'm gay about him and even showed her the picture and she recognized him and said he was a friend of a friend of hers, so I actually now know his Facebook, but I'd feel like a fucking total creep to message him on there since we didn't actually talk about exchanging numbers or social media accounts (I was a bit scared).I'm really confused, I think I've fallen pretty hard for him and don't really want to give up on him and actually have a chance to talk to him via Facebook, however I'm not actually sure if that's a good idea since maybe I'd look like a creep for going out of my way to search for it (I didn't, it was a coincidence).So, what do you guys think I should do? Really sorry for the huge wall of text.

Pressure to come out

Lately I've been feeling a lot of pressure from my friends and others to come out and admit to them that I'm gay/bi. They'll drop small and subtle hints at me insinuating that they know and that they want me to tell them etc. But do I really have to? I feel like it's my decision whether I feel comfortable around you enough to share that kind of information. I never ask them about their sexual exploits for the very reason that I like to keep mine private. Also to be fair, I feel like I shouldn't ever have to "come out". None of my friends ever admitted to me like 'hey superstoney, just to let you know I love fucking pussy' so why should I have to do the same. It all seems so ridiculous but I feel like its getting to a point where people are starting to distance themselves from me because of it. I guess mostly I just wanted to rant..so yeah. tl;dr: Do I seriously have to make an announcement just because others might be uncomfortable with my personal choices?

I'm risking a gamble by wanting to come out, but I need to know how. I feel being closeted has me spiraling deeper into alcoholism and depression.

I'm 21, a college student, and still largely in the closet. I know who I am and what I like, but I know my family doesn't approve. My father is, for the time being, my sole means of financial support. My father also spent a good portion of my childhood "correcting" certain behaviors or mannerisms of mine because "only gay people/women do that", or he "didn't raise a faggot". Nothing physical, thankfully, but he would always tell me to stop, and tell me how I should do things.My mother claims she's my "best supporter", but she's a very religious, "church every Sunday" type of lady whose close sister (my aunt) is one of the most homophobic people I've ever met (almost to Westboro Baptist Church levels, to give any indication). I don't know how to break the news to her; I know she'll have a panic attack.Most of my friends don't know. ESPECIALLY my friends I grew up with. Thing is, I don't know who to trust, and I have no idea who to go to or what to say.I feel like, to some degree, I'm still censoring my words or behaviors, in part, due to fear of judgment. And, this is part of why I drink; alcohol sets me free, often times allowing me to be who I want to be.TL;DR: My life's a mess, and I'm surrendering my problems to drugs because I don't know how to proceed.

So yeah, that Nick Jonas scene in kingdom...

So close, so close...

Any gay dudes in the Inland Empire?

Long story short, my mistress wants to hook up with a gay guy. I'm not entirely gay, I'm just curious. I'm a 19 yr old guy who's 6"2. So if anyone is up for this, shoot me a message please and thanks!

New at this position, could use some advice

Hi. So, I've only discovered in the past few months that I enjoy bottoming, and have entered into my first relationship where I am the bottom.My question is simple, if a little embarrasing for me: How do you keep your asshole clean? Normal soap is uncomfotable and... well, I don't really want to just dig it out with my fingers.Sorry if this is inappropriate, but I figure that someone here has some useful advice for me.

Thinking about coming out to my mom. Should I tell her i'm bi or just say i'm gay to make it a bit easier.

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Any gays in Texas plano

I'd like to do something

Long Distance

This is more of a rant, hoping for maybe a little advice.So long story short, I met a guy from out of state. We both have pretty strong feelings for one another. We wanted to try and build something long distance.It's been about a month and he suddenly got quiet. I made sure I wasn't being annoying and texting/snapping too much. He said it wasn't me and he "just gets real quiet sometimes, as weird as it sounds." However, he apparently has time to chat up with guys on Grindr. We said we weren't going to tie each other down right now, as it wasn't fair to either of us, as long as we were honest. The only reason I know he was on there was cause the little green bubble that pops up on their profile when they are online. I saved his messages, that's why I can still see it although hes like 1000+ miles away.Anyways in the same conversation about his quietness, he also said he would never do anything to hurt me. Its not the fact that he's on Grindr that's hurting me, its the fact that he didn't bother to text me back during that conversation, or hasn't sent a single snap, which he used to do a lot, but he has time to talk to guys on Grindr.I don't know what I should do. Its been since 10am est yesterday since any form of conversation has been made. He talks like he cares, and in fact says he cares, but he isn't acting like it.TLDR Long Distance guy suddenly goes quite. Says he cares but doesn't act like it. Hasn't made any effort to talk.

Secret Santa Update

Hey bros,I have taken responsibility of the /r/GayBros Secret Santa this year and the responses so far have been overwhelmingly positive and I want to thank everyone that is participating. I have well over 200 entries and am looking through them now. It looks like a few are missing complete addresses, so I am PMing those who I need more information from.If you need to update any information, please send me a PM from the Reddit username you used on the form.And here's the link to the form if you missed the original post.

I told my dad I was gay, he said “when you’re 18 you’re out of here” I have nowhere to go

I am 18 in a month. I’m frightened. I was supposed to be at college, my dad wouldn’t pay after I told him. I am so stupid if I hadn’t said anything I would be away from here by now. What can I do????

Need help on not screwing up

So I talked to this guy on Grindr and we kicked it off pretty well. We'll meet this Tuesday and a part of me really really likes this guy and a part of me wants to sleep with him. Please give me advice to not screw this up. He seems like an awesome person and I don't want things to start with a sour note.

How to use a Douche?

Clueless teen here, I have no idea where to buy one (UK). Please enlighten me!

What's the least sexual thing that you consider gay?

What's the least sexual thing that you consider gay?

Update on the poll held by the Brazilian Chamber of Deputies

The Brazilian Chamber of Deputies' website has a poll regarding the definition of family as the union of a man and a woman (you may have heard of it here)I'm pleased to announce that, as of today, the majority has voted "Não". The percentage of pro-LGBT people voting on the poll is gradually increasing, and we could have an absolute majority very soon.

How did you bros like Interstellar? (Possible spoilers inside)

Personally I loved it. I thought it was incredible and extremely well done.

Need advice for a friend being harrassed... (X-post from /r/Advice)

So a friend of mine from Canada (we'll call him Jerry) had just told some freeloader to get out of his house since he was past due on rent for going on two months (let's call him Tom). What happened after, still astonishes me.So Tom decided to tell his whole family that Jerry had raped him and that started a whole line of crap. Tom kept sending him threatening texts on his life, on telling him that he should die. Threatening to get a bunch of people to come and hurt him. It got to the point where Jerry had to call the police and ended up getting escorted to the police station to file a report.Come a week later, Jerry is still getting these harassing text messages and even worse, his sexual assaulter from a few years ago is now messaging him because of Tom; apparently sending photos of that traumatic event to him. He hasn't reported that yet because he doesn't think he's strong enough to relive that event again...Now, assaulter and Tom are both threatening to do things to him.It sounds like a crazy story, but it's completely true. What should he do now? There hasn't been any real action from the police as far as I know. Any advice is welcome.TL;DR: Friend is being threatened by guy that was kicked out and sexual assaulter. Police were notified, but it's considered a "non-emergency" because they are only threats. Update: He changed all his locks and applied for a protection order. He also has been in contact with the officer on his case and was told it has been sent to the crown counsel. And yes, Jerry is gayLink to originalEdit: Formatting

Is it possible to enjoy to the power dynamic in gay porn as a straight male, and not actually be gay?

Perhaps I should start off by disclaiming that I have only ever watched same-sex porn. More accurately, I have only ever watched lesbian porn since I started watching porn. Heterosexual porn does nothing for me even though this is the only sex I partake in.A few times, I have had internal debates with myself over if I might bisexual or even gay, and I've approached these internal debates with the possibility and acceptance that I might actually be. I do not think I am gay, and I do not believe I am in denial over it. I can look at another man and understand what makes him attractive in our society.I believe all this started when I had a gay roommate once upon a time, and I came home when he was having sex with his SO, and they left their bedroom door open.To jump to something else, I think I'd be open to pegging, but I am not really interested in having sex with another man.If you guys have insight to give me, I'd appreciate it.

Can i get some opinions here, please? Pretty please?

Ok, guys, sorry for this stupid 15-years-old-girl-like thread, but I am kinda lost in feelings right now and I don't really have anyone around to speak with atm. Also I am not a native English speaker so... deal with it. Yeah and it might get long.I've been seeing this guy lately. We met online, like 90% of gay people I guess (on something like Grindr but little bit less about sex and more about relationships). We were texting for about a week or so and then decided to meet. I am 24, only recently came out, had girlfriends before because I guess I didn't want to admit to myself I am actually gay (I think lot of people can relate to that :-)). The "first date" went quite smoothly, I might not be the best looking guy out there but I have pretty good social skills, imo and we really hit the spot - we talked for like 5 hours, had some beers, laughed... everything went awsome. We didn't kiss or anything, but proceeded to more texting and we really enjoyed the communication I'd say.Now would be the good time to say - he told me he technically had a boyfriend when we met (online) who he had been living with. He told me their relationship was basically over and after few day he moved out and few days after the first "date" they broke up.Our second date was this Friday. We went out (we both live in Prague, Czech Rep. btw), had a nice walk, got some beer, smoked some weed and then it finally happened - we kissed, again and again... You know, just classic happy ending style. We even did some other stuff (it wasn't easy cause it was SO FUCKING COLD) and had a wonderful evening. It felt amazing, we were holding hands, kissed goodbye, immediately started texting and so on and so on...That was Friday. We basically both agreed we wanted to see each other asap, so we set another date on Monday (I had to go away for the weekend, family stuff). We texted, he said he is finally moving his stuff from his ex's place to his mother's, where he is living now. And that it really was a bad experience like it made him feel bad etc. but then everything was nice and awsome, like usualy.Today I came back to Prague, went to my friend's place to have a coffee and suddendly text message - "I think I should be alone right now. I am sorry but the moving really made me realize what happened with my ex and i need to think about it and move on. I don't wanna hurt you by using you as a tool to move on." I was like "mmmm, wait what?" (I actually said a lot of stuff, was nice and all). It really made me sad. I'm not saying I love this guy or anything, but we really had a great time together and everything was awsome. He also said that he doesn't want to lose me, that I'm awsome and some shit and when he is ready he texts me again. I was like "ok, well, I'm really sorry you feel that way, I don't wanna lose you either so bye I guess and (maybe last) kiss." He said "I'm sorry but I think this will be the best for both of us. Kiss, I hope not the last one."Ok and now I'm sitting here and have NO CLUE what to think. Is it over? Is he getting back together with his ex? Or wtf? The worst part about this is everything was so awsome, I was floating in happiness and suddenly BOOM.tl;dr: I am basically Bridget Jones and I need strangers on internet to give me advice on my "not-even-relationship" after seeing a guy twice, sucking his dick once and 2 weeks of nice texting. Kill me.

I'm in love with my best friend, but I need help.

Hi reddit, first time poster here. I want to just dive on in and ask (if not beg) for help in my situation. However I feel some background info is necessary. I'm a 25 year old male who lives in a very isolated part of Florida. I originally came out to my parents when I was 20, yet I was dating guys since I was 17. The first person I ever told was my best friend (we'll call him Jim) in high school. He was very supportive and even helped me through the nights where depression got to me and I was afraid my parents would catch wind of me being gay. He helped to keep me away from those fears and demons, and I think thats where I first noticed my feelings for him. I kept it quiet for years as I didn't want to risk upsetting him by telling him the person I've always dreamed of being with was him. He's straight, and at that time I didn't want to risk losing my best friend. We went to separate colleges but still maintained contact fairly well.One night, about two years ago at a party, we got a little drunk and he made a move on me. We fooled around in the empty lot next to the party house behind some trees (mind you, no penetration) . After that happened I was relieved, excited and then terrified. "What if he thinks I took advantage of him?", "Will he even remember?", "Did I really fuck it up that bad?". To my relief the next day we hung out and all seemed well. He talked about it very nonchalantly and we enjoyed our day. It was then that I tried to work up the courage to tell him how I felt. Then the bomb hit. he said " We will never do that again". I quickly put the thoughts out of my head and resigned to just having him as a good friend (which don't get me wrong, I never want to lose this one in any capacity).The funny thing is, it didn't stop there. For the next year, when ever we went to a party and got drunk, something happened. It was never anything too serious due to the fact that two important elements were always missing. 1) we never went "all the way" so to speak and 2) he was adamant about not kissing.I've tried dating other guys and they would go great for a time, yet I was never truly attracted to any of them. Its not like any of them were not attractive (a couple were wayyyy out of my league tbh), I just never really felt that connection with someone. What I really like about Jim is the fact that he's probably the smartest person I know. We could talk for hours upon hours on any subject and he's rather well versed in almost all topics (except games and movies, thats my territory). Then finally one night something magical happened. He made a move on me while he was sober and was hinting at going further (if it wasn't for my lack of condoms). After that we didn't see each other for a while. He was heading back to school for his doctorate and I stayed at home.We saw each other when ever he had free weekends. Either he would come back to visit his family or I would go to him. When I went over to his new place to help him move he hit me with a bombshell. For the previous year, his roommate "Lenny" was also gay and they did in fact mess around. It took all of my strength not to scream, to keep my composure, to just play it off (which I didn't do as well as I thought...). the only thing that kept me quiet was "who am I to get possessive? We never started dating, we never kissed, we never set limits." I tried to repeat this mantra over and over in my head as we made the trip in the moving truck. Even though I had no right to feel this way, I felt betrayed or rejected or maybe even a mix of both.Even though Jim had been with a couple male partners, he asserted that he was still in fact straight. He still dated a few girls and kept up most appearances. Yet now I feel a new conflict within me, the hope that he would be gay if it was with me, or the hope that he would remain with women and keep me as his friend. I realize this sounds possessive as fuck, yet I'm here to be honest with all of you in the hopes of getting some advice.One weekend I went over to see Jim and I got the chance to meet Lenny. He seemed a nice enough guy. One of the nights we went out for drinks. Lenny asked me what I would like to do and I told him that some friends of mine suggested a specific club (even though I am not a club person, I just wanted to check it out). So we parked at Lenny's place and walked down the main street. Lenny said that the club I wanted to go to was really slow this early so he suggested hitting a few nearby bars while we waited. I agreed and we went to this place that made a sardine can feel cozy and the drink prices were outrageous. I noticed that Lenny spent an absurd amount of money on drinks for Jim. I know we just met, yet when I went to the bar I picked up drinks for everyone. While Lenny only got drinks for himself and Jim (no big deal right?). Then I heard Lenny say "If you have too much you can stay at my place". (OH NO BITCH, THIS ISN'T A FRIENDLY OFFER, ITS ON!). I tried to play it cool though. Soon we left to another bar, and then a small club. I must of dropped over $300 by this point. I finally ask Lenny "when is the club I wanted to see going to be busy?" He responded with "around 3:30" casually. I called it a night and offered to get a cab back to Jim's place but he said he was good to drive and took me back.Fast forward a few more months, I'm still living at home (long story short; my father walked out on my mom who suffers with complications from back surgeries, and my brother is special needs.), I still talk to Jim almost every day, and I'm still head over heels yet wary. I come to the conclusion that the reason he wont kiss me whenever we do mess around is because I'm a smoker. At the time I was clearing two packs a day. So after a few months I quit. I mainly quit for him, so that maybe there was a chance. Yes the cost and the health benefits weighed in, but all I really wanted was that first kiss.I was nicotine free for about 3 months when Jim called me one day. I was keeping it a secret so when he saw my without a cigarette in mouth he would be pleasantly surprised.He told me about how he was a little adventurous again and that he had phone sex with a guy named Ron. This didn't upset me as much but it did cause some concern. Shortly after he asked if I wanted to go to him, but it wasn't in the budget so he came to visit me. This past weekend felt awkward if anything. Again I wanted to tell him how I truly feel, yet now I'm in doubt of my own feelings. He also felt like he was on guard the whole time too. We had a few drinks yet nothing happened. Even while drinking neither of us seemed to talk as freely as we normally do. Yesterday morning I woke up to him standing at the foot of my bed. I asked him what he was doing and he said "I was wondering how you sleep like that, wrapped up like a burrito." for most the morning I was curious, " was he trying to make a move? Did i fuck it up? Again?!". He later told me that he had to leave early the next day because one of his friends was heading into town with his boyfriend. To my shock and terror, it was Ron. When I made the connection, he laughed and said "yeah the guy is practically obsessed with me, he even said that he would leave his boyfriend for me." I tried to keep calm, yet every time he got a text from Ron I couldn't help but feel some resentment. We spent most of the day just hanging around, we took my brother to a movie and watched another one when we got home. After the movie I asked him what he and Ron had planned for the next day, he said that they were going to go to the beach and started pacing back and fourth. He muttered something about how he hasn't worked out in a while and continued pacing. Nothing has made me more unsettled than seeing him so nervous. Instead of losing it again I just said I was tired and headed to bed. Before I got there he grabbed my ass and said " I love you buddy" smirked and walked back to the guest room to go to sleep himself.Let's just say I didn't sleep. Although it doesn't sound like it, I've never been the jealous type. When I caught one of my (now ex) boyfriends cheating on me, we broke up but still remained on mostly good terms. Those two are still dating and I'm going to see them in a couple months. Yet when it comes to Jim, I feel like I've just discovered emotions for the first time. I'm ecstatic, I'm jealous, I'm furious, yet I feel complete. Like this is what its like being human. When he left this morning, I was sick to my stomach. I was contemplating all the "what if" scenarios. Though through all of this I still miss him. I miss my gay cat nip.So there's my story. I'm sure there will be some negative reactions out there, but I honestly don't give a flying fuck. I guess I wrote this post not just for advice, but to see if anyone out there has had a similar story.

Is it possible to change?

How can I become a guys first choice not the second or third.I've noticed im never the guy people want first, they always speak with me but leave because they chose someone over me.A guy I liked talking is doing the same. I initiate all the texts. So I've stopped to see if he ever texts. Its been a week now with nothing.

Friends? New people ?:D

Cool 19 year old guy looking for people to talk to and get to know. Nothing sexual. Moving to Chicago area around January. Instagram: KaleEatsKale Snapchat: Nodoubt54 Kik Messenger app: bcking24Thanks :)

No idea if this is the right place but i'm 15 and pretty sure I might be Bi

I know puberty and everything can cause feelings like this and i'm not sure if this is a phase and I know ill feel like an idiot for posting this. But i've recently started falling for one of my friends and have met some guys online and stuff but I feel like i'm not 100% certain I am.I'm not sure if I should come out to my friends because while some will be fine with it, I know many jokes etc. will ensue and i'll probably get made fun of. And If I did come out im not sure how to or when to or what to say or anything. Or if being bi is even worth making a big deal about coming out? No idea.Sorry if this reads like crap but i'm typing this quick so I can get it over with.TL;DR: Im 15, I think im bi, like one of my friends and dont know if I should come out