When are social platforms, such as Grindr, going to promote true equality?

Race, homophobia, and inclusion are very large initiatives in the gay community, however they’re selective in their implementation.I’m gay. I am an average guy. I could afford to lose some weight, but I’m also healthy and active. I may not look like model, but I am who I am none the less. Why is okay to call someone like me names, but offensive to call someone prettier the same names?Do I have the same rights as someone that looks better than myself?