How to have sex often?!

Ok, so I’m looking for brutal honesty here. For starters, I’m a 25 year old gay man who has been with only two people sexually for full on anal sex. The first when I was 18 and didn’t know what I was doing at all. The second, who I ended up marrying, one year ago.I watch a lot of porn. I know porn is not realistic. And I use dildos often too. My first choice is the Fleshjack branded dildo in the shape of Brent Corrigan. My other one is much larger. My husband is smaller than average. Long enough to hit the P spot, but not thick at all, so I supplement with my toys when I need to.My problem is cleanliness. I’m a very clean person. I don’t have anal unless I’m positive I’m able to without any issues at all. I’ve never had a problem when having sex with my husband. However, with my toys, that’s a different story. I’m usually good for several minutes, but I almost always end up with the tip of my dildos getting dirty which usually leads to me having to use the toilet which leads to a lot of douching and ending what could have been a fun time.I’ve read so many article about how to be ready for sex and how porn stars prepare, but they usually involve endless douching, which I’ve never managed to successfully reach, or using different over the counter meds to stop your bodily processes for some time. I do take Pure for Men, two pills twice a day, and it makes a big difference. I can have sex with my husband, or smaller dildos, without issue nearly any day of the week without much issue. But if I want to go bigger, no matter what I try, I always end up with the same dirty result.I don’t understand how people seem to have sex with huge dicks or dildos nearly all the time. I’m thinking Men.com when they do the big orgy scenes that last multiple days or other studios, including amateur, that put out videos weekly. How do they manage to have sex so often with what are usually huge penises without issue?? Even guys I follow on social media who are having sex multiple times a week. I don’t understand it.Please tell me if I’m being unrealistic here and expecting too much. Any tips are appreciated. Feel free to DM me if you prefer.Thank you!!!