2016. július 31., vasárnap
Is he right? Or am I being manipulated?
Ok. So, this is sort of a continuation of a previous post I made. It can be found here: http://ift.tt/2akHrlb, I ended up going through with breaking it off maybe a few months after I made the post. I was sort of "sad" at first, but surprisingly got mostly over it fairly quickly. I was surrounding myself with family and friends again, which I rarely was able to do. My ex, (Tom, forgot if I had specifed in previous post) obviously took it VERY hard, and usually messaged me on Facebook fairly often trying to change my mind. I never gave in. We went at least a little over a month without seeing each other. I had needed to retrieve something of mine I forgot and we discussed having him come bring it to me. We talked for maybe an hour and that was that. He texted me when I was at work maybe a few weeks after that and said he joined a rehab program, and just wanted to tell me that. I said I was very proud, etc. Fuck up #1 was agreeing maybe if he got clean and kept with it I could consider being with him again. Fast forward a few weeks, he finishes his program, we spend those weeks regularly seeing each other. I enjoyed it for a little, but ended up feeling like I did when we were previously together pretty quickly. Now, we werent back together this time, we were just friends. (more like fwb, possibly fuck up #2) I hang out with this group of friend's, who all live together in the same house. There's a guy there who I've developed a rather large crush on, and slightly flirt with. I don't plan on going any further, he's engaged, and straight (but sometimes he flirts back slightly) and it just reminded me how much I enjoy finally being single and out of that relationship, not having to worry about disappointing, pleasing, Worrying, or being constantly anxious anymore about anyone. Well, I didn't plan on breaking this news to Tom so soon, but it ended up coming out during a slight Argument, and he basically told me I should "feel bad" for "breaking his heart" and that he "put so much effort into our relationship, giving so much compassion, love, and passion as much as he fucking could" I told him that I guess it's more just me than it is him at this point, and he says "yeah I guess it is". I said i love him and always will, because that's very true, I'll always love him, and he said he didn't believe that anymore and just said "I believe you used to" which really kinda stung. Basically I'm asking is, should I actually be feeling bad? Am I really being unreasonable here? Him making me feel bad is kinda working.. :/TL;DR : Told ex I didn't want to pursue anything further anymore, lost his shit and said I should pretty much feel bad for feeling the way I feel. Which he has on other occasions.
Xpost from r/bearbros First bear run, requesting your thoughts.
Hey bear bros! I am thinking of booking myself a weekend at a bear event as a little treat, but I have never been to one before, or any gay/pride type event for that matter. What are yalls thoughts and feelings on the subject? I have read a few older posts about them but I am really at a loss to find more recent feelings towards them. The event I am looking at is the North American Bear Weekend in Lexington Ky, mainly because it is withing driving distance and if the weekend turns out to be a wash there are a few things in Lexington I would like to do. I really have no idea what I am signing up for though so any thoughts and opinions on the subject would be great! Thanks bros!
My ex helped me expose the man I was with as a cheater and a liar. I just want to tell this story everyone.
This is a pretty amazing story, and I guess I just want to tell reddit because I'm feeling pretty pumped.A bit of context: This past monday, this man I was with went to another city to teach a class. He returned today.Story: All week, he had been very dry and distant with me compared to the usual texting, so I knew something was up. Our usual constant texting with warmth and interest became a couple messages a day, basically hi and how are you.So today I was talking to an ex who reached out to me recently and ended up telling him about this, how I was feeling that something was off. I started to describe the guy and my ex asks me if his name is XXX. It was, so he told me they have also been talking as recently as last wednesday and he had no idea me and this guy were together, so I immediately knew there were lies and foul play. I asked my ex to ask this guy if he met anyone while traveling, and he responded he met several guys for dinner and hookups (and my ex sent me this screenshot).Now knowing this, I ask this guy if something is wrong and he responds in such a way that is clearly evading the question. About an hour later, he asks if he can call me and I say yes. So he calls me and I tell him to tell me what's going on. He tells me he had been feeling unready to be with someone and that his head was spinning. I knew that was a lie because of the screenshot I had received from my ex. I told him that he should have told me before, even through text, before cheating on me. He asked if we could keep talking, and I responded that the conversation was over and hung up on him.Apologies if the story isn't the clearest, but I'm feeling pretty pumped and excited how this all went down. I saved myself a shitty situation later on and got on much better terms with my ex.I'm newly single and I owe my ex a beer and a hug for doing this for me. Sometimes people can redeem themselves after so long. :)
[NSFW] I don't seem to enjoy sex with others
A bit of remorse as well... Ive notice I don't really enjoy sex with other (men). I have a hard time getting well... hard and have to get myself hard multiple times , not so much cumming once I do get hard. I never seem to be in sync with the other person.It could be because it's been mostly and mainly hook ups. I do personally, have a bit of a emotional barrier. Or I just don't have any feelings and it's just sex. Not that I've ever really done it with anyone I've actually had emotional attachment to...On the other hand I have a better/funner time with myself /a dildo.
When (and how) did you become certain of your sexuality?
So I'm an almost 15y/o boy. I'm sure I'm LGBT but just not sure if I'm bi or gay. I am attracted to men and the male body much more obviously than women (I.e. I can easily get off from men) but I've never had a full on crush on another boy before. So, there's a girl who I've been friends with all my life and we talk on a regular basis who I would be happy to be "dating" (whatever that means at my age) but I don't know if I'd kiss her or something like that so she's making me really confused. I don't think I'm stereotypically gay if that is anything to go off on...(i.e. I hate shopping, I don't have an extremely camp voice (some say I have one slightly, others don't). I have a few female friends but that's about it. So my question is, when should I expect to know? And will I eventually figure it out or is there a method to help me figure out (not doing anything sexual btw)? Thanks :)
UnderstandingLove: What Is Love?
What is love?No one really knows what love is, how it came around. Some people don't even know why they need it.I haven't long turned 19 years old. This post will be about my experience with love.Many people will read this and disagree, say that i am to young to have found love. Many people will agree that love comes to us at any age. If we are believe that we love our parents, family and friends. What difference does it make if it is a boyfriend or girlfriend?I was 15, still in high school. There was a guy, he was 17. He didn't go to my school but he lived in the same town and we knew of one another.One night we got to talking, one thing led to another and something clicked instantly, i knew i loved him from the fist conversation.We began meeting and what i felt just grew into something bigger. Like a seed blossoming into a massive beautiful but delicate flower.I felt as if i could have accomplished the world!! I felt so much better, better than i ever had. New things have always scared me but i felt comfortable with him. He was so caring and gentle, never thought about him hurting me to be a possibility.I couldn't have been more wrong. Things turned for the worst, he would send explicit images to many of people, i am not talking about 7 or 8, i am talking about double figures, close to triple. He would tell me he was sorry, knowing i was madly in love with him i would forgive him each time. Being so blinded by love, the possibility of him lying to me continuously never crossed my mind, even after each time he would do it.Then one night, he cheated on me.....with a friend of ours. I never felt so sick and the pains i had in my stomach were unreal. As far as i knew he never done anything with someone psychically in person. As far as i was aware, it was just photos to random people over social media.A few days later, i was approached by my brother who was drunk, he told me that months before him and the man i was madly in love with had slept together. Pits of fire burning through my body, i was so angry!!Long story short i took him back in the end. Why? because i was in love with him. My confidence was shook, i didn't feel good enough, forever feeling as if i had some sort of "competition" with every corner i turned.We were together for over 3 years which takes us to May this year. Being cheated on, blackmailed, degraded and emotionally abused constantly it ruined who i was. I have depression and suffer from severe anxiety attacks. All this time i thought it was love flowing through my veins, it wasn't. It was poison. At the end of May, he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore, "okay" i said, i wasn't going to fight for someone who doesn't want me. Now we are at the end of July, still fighting to get well and have somewhat of a normal life (what is normal?) and i am already seeing a difference in myself. There is only so many times you can fall down a rabbit hole before remembering to walk around instead of straight forward.The question is, if love is so called "the best thing ever" why doesn't it feel like it? Bad experience with love perhaps? Maybe what i felt wasn't even love?Leave a comment and tell me your thoughts.
22/ M I might not be gay, but I'm here for you if you ever need someone to talk to
I'm 22 and from California. if you ever feel depressed or need a shoulder to cry on, I'm here for you. You can PM me or Kik me if you ever want to talk about anything.
Seeking help or advice
Long-time lurker on this sub, and have never really asked for opinions on or help with intimate details of my life on a public forum, but I'm really hoping that I can get more perspective and less judgment from some people who have gone experienced similar things.A little about myself. I am an 18 yr old gay guy between 1st and 2nd years of college, back home and working for the summer. I am out to family and friends, but generally most acquaintances don't know of my sexuality. I make friends pretty easily, but usually don't initiate/make the first move in a friendship, just because I'm a more reserved person.This summer I am working at our public pool for the second year. I have a coworker who I became pretty good friends with last summer, and since we both returned this year, we have become much closer the past few months. He is my age, shares many of my same interests, and is very compatible socially, in a way that makes communication between us like talking to myself sometimes. Normally, this would suffice to make us good friends, and I wouldn't have any problem respecting the line between friend and "something more", as I have many attractive male friends whom I feel no attraction towards.However, he is constantly initiating flirtatious situations with me, both in conversation and through physical touch. For example, he'll tell me how much he loves me, or he'll give me frequent hugs and sit on my lap, all unprompted by me. He has even kissed me on the cheek. He asks me questions like "Would you ever kiss another guy", or "What if I told you I was attracted to you", (I haven't come out to him) and while I'm sure I haven't DIScouraged him from this casual flirting, I certainly haven't done much on my own because it feels like I'd be taking advantage of him. I know he likes people thinking his sexuality is ambiguous, so maybe he treats me that way towards that aim? He has told me that I'm on the list of guys he would "go gay" for. He has a girlfriend, and while I haven't spent time around them together, he is genuinely attracted to her as far as I can tell. Still (and I hate to apply stereotypes), he is quite effeminate, and proud of it, which confuses me even more.Needless to say, I've fallen for him completely. I feel so stupid to be led on by a straight guy, but in this instance I really feel like I couldn't help it. I only have a few close gay friends, but they were all very scornful of my crush on this boy, even though I was just asking for help on how to get over him. I think a major part of the problem for me is that I haven't had a real relationship with a guy yet (since Ive come out so recently) and this friendship in a weird way felt like it was going somewhere else. Basically, I'm just confused, and feeling strung along. Has anyone else dealt with accidentally falling for straight boys who seem to act ambiguously gay? I'm sorry if I sound really pitiful, or anything here, but I just really need someone to tell me about a similar experience, instead of just criticizing me like some of my friends did.
im confuse with my male bestfriend. [19M]
NSFW. and this will be longIm 19 openly gay.I have this bestfriend since senior highschool. Im on my 4th year in college (med school) and he graduated last may. We are really really close. My parents loves him and me on his. We had sex one time to be exact thats last year. He was my first and same with me. We are just horny teenagers that time so I assumed theres nothing up.But after few months, things have changed. Oh, I want to mention that he has a girlfriend for 1 and a half year until now. Every now and usually when we hang out. I oftenly give him blowjobs. Most of it after we hit few blunts.But this last couple of weeks even he's not drunk or high as fuck. He said he just wants my company and tell me how was my day went and we just played ps4 and after it he ask for a blowjob.Im confuse. What should I do? TLTR: Im giving my bestfriend a blowjob every now and then. Im confuse with him or with our current relationship because tbh I dont want to lose his friendship.Sorry for my grammar.
Most Hurtful Thing your Loved Ones Have Said About our Community, Not Knowing You're a Part of it.
I feel like a lot of people might relate to this. I mean, why wouldn't parents say stupid stuff about the LGBT, when they don't suspect their child might be gay. Worst part is, most times this just slows down your process of self acceptance. My story:I was reading a magazine with my mother, there was an article about a famous lesbian from my country. Then a conversation about the whole community started. I said that I don't really care, gay people can do what they want, it's their own lives (shocker). I asked my mother what she thought and she said: "Oh, I don't really care either, as long as they don't touch little boys." Worst part is - she was talking about gay men. She didn't think lesbians were a problem, but gay men? Oh, they're all just potential child predators. That totally hit me.What's your story?
Inability to move forward
Hello everyone,All my life I've been told that things get better, but I'm 22 and have not ever been close to anyone really. I live in a small town in the South, thought only for the past year or so. What I want most is to be close to someone and have what my friends have with their significant others, but its difficult because I am gay and because I allow school and work to consume my life.Today I sat down and realized how unhappy I am, though I've been aware for a long time. And what is worse is that I don't know what I could change to make things better. I have a full time school load keeps me pretty busy and I tutor at my school on top of that. Once I graduate I'll be teaching as well, which I've heard is murder on free time.I have no work life balance and I'm not sure how I could make room for a relationship, but its all that I think about. I'm really not that comfortable with being gay as well. I'm worried that I am going to grow old alone having not made any significant relationships in my life, I'm not even all that close to my friends since most are online. I really just want to give up. Has anybody else felt like this?
My boyfriend was talking to a guy he had a thing with in the past
I really need some advice for this situation.Tonight my boyfriend and I decided to stay in and just watch TV instead of going out with friends. We were in bed cuddling and he was on his phone. He was messaging somebody on Snapchat and I happened to glance at his screen that was right in front of me and I saw the words "my cock inside of you" in the message he received.Immediately I moved my arm from under him and asked him what that was. He said nothing. I asked him again and then stated what I had seen. He still said nothing so I then said his name and asked him a third time what that was. He told me that it wasn't anything and that it was a guy that he had a thing with in the past. He said he had sent a chat regarding a post of this guy's dog and said he thought his dog was cute. Me mentioned he also said that he wanted to see his dog in person and then he said that gut said something along the lines of he'd have to charge for that. I'm assuming my boyfriend asked what that charge was and that lead up to the message I saw.He explained to me that it wasn't what it looked like and that there wasn't anything going on between them and that he doesn't even have this guy's number, he just has him on social media. He also said he didn't anticipate that response from him.I don't know what to think. I tried to let it go but it's bothering me so much. Why was he even messaging this guy in the first place if he's with me, why did he ask what the charge was and give this dude attention? Based off of what he told me, It seems to me it was clear what this guy was getting at. I didn't see the messages myself but he kept his phone close to him all night. I wasn't going to go through it, but I thought that was really odd because usually he'd keep it on the charger but instead he kept it with him when he went to sleep.My boyfriend just moved out of town and lives about 100 miles away from me now. I drove there to see his new place and to help him figure out which bus lines he needs to take to get around. I even called out of work today to help him do that.I feel so hurt, betrayed, and like I can't trust him anymore. I don't know what to do. I tried to stay the night and hoped that it would blow over but it was just awkward all night. He apologized to me and explained he didn't know that would happen.I ended up leaving after he fell asleep because I couldn't sleep either and I felt so uncomfortable around him. I've never felt that way around him. I don't even feel like talking to him, but I feel like I'll need to, but idk what else to say. I don't know what to do.I'm sorry this might seem scattered, but any advice is greatly appreciated.
Help
Im a gay man and I have a bit of a dilema. My female friend of several years came out as lesbian a year or so ago. A week ago she texted me on Facebook, "I don't know if Im really lesbian." I ask, "Why?" She said that she has a crush on me... Somehow i avoided the whole thing and we started to talk about TV shows. But now Im not entirely sure what to do now... Can you potentially help me?
"Am I gay?" style of question, but a bit more focused.
I'll keep this short, as I see you get a lot of novel sized posts about stuff.I've been with a few dudes. It was fine. I'm a bottom. Sex with women has become boring as of late. I tire of doing all the work, and having them on top doesn't do it for me (I feel due to them being not so great at it).Long story short, I prefer straight porn but am finding myself less and less interested in straight sex.My actual question is; Do any gay dudes out there watch straight porn? Or have a similar situation as myself?Thanks and such.
2016. július 30., szombat
Wanting someone for the moment
Do you all ever wish you just had someone to go to when you're feeling down? I guess that's what a relationship is lol. But living in a big city makes you feel super lonely. Anyway this is a mindless ramble, but I'm just lonely and I needed to express my feelings somewhere. So... You're welcome lol.
Not sure if I'm gay or bi
I used to be straight (total nightmare thinking about it) but then I was bi, now I'm like 95% gay. This has been happening over the course of a year. Am I just going to be gay?
I need some advice before I go crazy.
I posted this in another relevant subreddit last night and got a couple great responses, but this is still bothering me a lot, so I was hoping some kind souls here might be able to help a brother out here.So, I've always felt kind of silly about asking for relationship advice on the internet, but I could honestly use some input from someone who might have had experience in my position at some point. Or anyone for that matter. I just need another voice in the matter.Long story short, I moved in with my parents for the spring/summer before starting school this fall, and they live in a pretty small, conservative town. I'm still very newly out and pretty unfamiliar with the gay dating scene, but I downloaded Grindr for shits and giggles. I probably would have had better selection in the middle of the ocean to be completely honest. Fast forward a couple months and I get a random message from a guy my age who seems pretty intelligent, and we share lots of interests. He's even planning on going to the same school as me. Cool, we hit it off. We start texting pretty regularly, and when we finally meet up to hang out for the first time, it's fucking amazing. We laugh at the same shit, we have a lot of the same hobbies and passions, and the communication just comes super naturally which is pretty huge for me. I'm ecstatic that I might have actually met someone worth my time in this shithole of a town.So, we keep hanging out and it's just getting better. We're staying out until the early hours of the morning, going swimming and just talking about who knows what. I'm usually pretty resistant to falling for people, but I could definitely feel it coming on, and I was kind of okay with it for once in my life. He makes the first move a lot, which is great because I'm too shy for my own good. We make out and get touchy feely, but we're both huge teases, which just made the slow progression into the intimate shit that much more amazing.Then, after a week of hanging out almost every night, he starts texting less and we stop hanging out altogether. I'm not one to want to appear clingy, so I don't really say anything and kind of just hope that he's just busy with life and things will get back to the way they were when it blows over. Only, it doesn't, it just gets worse. Finally, I reluctantly bring up how I'm feeling about how distant he is, and he tells me that he has been busy, but the main reason was that the feelings that he's developed for me have become stronger than he's used to and he doesn't really know how to deal with them, and he's just overthinking everything, including when to text me and all that shit. So he's kind of nervous to hang out because he doesn't want to mess it up. I get it, I can be exactly the same way, but I assume that after we have this conversation, he'll be more open about it and we'll have a shot at getting back on track. You guessed it: nope. It gets to the point where we haven't hung out in almost two weeks, and he's told me that he wants to hang out for three nights in a row, but when it finally gets down to it, he makes up an excuse for why it won't work out and says that we can the next night. I'm usually a pretty chill guy, but I'm not cool with people wasting my time, so I'm less worried now and more pissed. After the third or fourth night of flaking in a row, I just tell him that I'm done. He responds with "okay." And that was that. I didn't text him again for four days, hoping he would at least send a message apologizing or something, but he sends me nothing.On the fifth day (or somewhere around there) of not talking, I finally just text him and ask him if he's lost interest already. He tells me that he hasn't at all, actually the opposite, that he was sorry for being an asshole, and that he was really glad that I texted him. Oh, and that he had flown across the fucking country to his dad's house because he just needed to "get away from it all" for awhile and that he'd "probably be back." Yikes. We have a pretty extensive conversation that night about how he needed to take a step back from life and that he was thinking about dropping out of school to go travel. I just told him to not string me along, and let me know how he's feeling and what he decides to do so I don't continue to waste my time. He said that he would. It was a pretty fucking weird conversation and he seemed totally different. But whatever, we eventually say goodnight and I assume we'll start talking again.I don't text him back the next day, hoping he'd at least take the initiative to start a conversation with me, but he doesn't. Days go by, I still hear nothing. Here we are, eight days since that night, and he still hasn't texted me. I'm kind of at a loss for words. I'm just so confused how we can go from having something with so much potential to having nothing at all in a matter of days. I've convinced myself not to text him first again, because if he really cared, he would reach out to me. However, I can't stop thinking about the conversation that we had and how weird it was. At this point, I'm trying to get myself to just moved on, but he had a much bigger impact on me than I initially thought he did, and this past week of not talking has been been hell at times. The biggest problem is just not knowing. I don't know if he was just lying about how he felt and he actually couldn't give less of a shit about me, or if he does care a lot and me not texting him for four days drove him to leave the state on a whim. I just don't know and it's driving me crazy.Ultimately, I kind of just regret the whole thing and just want to move on with my life, but I don't know how. I can't get myself to text him again and ask him for an update, but I also can't get myself to delete his number either. I re-downloaded Grindr and Tinder and have tried talking to other guys just to get my mind off of him, but nobody even comes close to comparing and I think it's just made it worse. To be completely honest though, if he did text me again tonight, I'd forgive the asshole in a heartbeat. It sucks, but I've never felt this way toward someone before, and I just crave that closeness again. I know there are other fish in the sea and all that bullshit, but I hate not having closure, and I know that this will haunt me for a long time if we never talk again.So, this is where I need help. What do I do? Should I text him? Delete his number? Wait it out? I've played over every scenario in my head, and I'm honestly at a loss. I hate feeling like this and I just want this constant vague anxiety to go away. I know the easiest answer is to just move on, but I'd give almost anything just to hang out with him again. I feel like such a loser.I know this was more of a long story long, and I feel super clingy and weird for writing about it because I'm not usually like this at all, but thanks to everyone who decided to read this and respond. It means a lot.
"Not Surprised I'm Not Straight" Moments From Your Childhood.
Hello, wonderful people! I was having some thoughts to myself about things I did in my childhood that most people would consider really gay. Noticing how many of those I had, I told myself "And you tried to deny it, hun! Nice try!"TRIGGER WARNING This post may be stereotype driven, so, if you're offended by stereotypes, get out!I used to have dance parties with myself when I was home alone. I would take my blanket, put it around my waist as a dress, imagine I have an audience in front of me and then I would blast some Kylie Minogue, Britney or Gaga and dance my heart out.I would play with dolls when I was at my cousin's house. I would dress them up and I even had a strategy to not get caught or judged. When someone came, I just acted as if I was making the dolls battle each other in a Street Fighter esque way, which I'm sure is weirder than me playing with dolls in the first place.I loooved Hannah Montana, Winx Club, H2O: Just Add Water.Playing online dress-up games was my jam back in the day.No story like this would be complete without trying on grandma's high-heels and make-up.That's all I can remember, what are some of the things that make you say "Damn, I was gay!"?
If im attracted to this girl, does that mean im kind of straight?
I've never in my life found a girl attractive but this girl got a cute face... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqxa2B4xfhEany other gay man also find this girl attractive?
Logical Fallacy about Hiv
They say that Oral Sex is pretty low risk for Hiv. How can they be so sure of that if so many of the people who contracted Hiv from unprotected anal sex probably had unprotected oral sex as well. Did researchers perform more thorough tests to prove that oral sex is generally safe? Or are they just going by statistics?
I hate being gay
Is it strange to hate being gay in a society that is very open minded? I dont know if it's just me creating an excuse to hate myself or if I actually would rather like women. It can't be because I want to be 'normal' because I'm pretty far from the social norm. Has anyone else experienced this?
2016. július 29., péntek
I got outted by a family member yesterday
So while I was walking down the street with my brother he stopped me and said that something was bothering him. Naturally I asked "what's wrong?"He told me that me cousin told him, that my mom told his step-mother (my aunt by marriage) that I was gay. Which, since you don't know my family, is weird because my mom and aunt -don't- speak to each other. At all. That's a story for another time. I never told my mom and she wouldn't have told anyone if I told her the truth.But I asked, "why does that make you mad?" and he told me "because I don't want people talking about you regardless of who you like. It doesn't bother me who you like, I love you either way."So yesterday I told my brother I was, in fact, gay. Haven't felt more comfortable with myself in a long while.Sorry this is sorta confusing and dumb, just thought I'd share my story on how I came out hah.
Met an amazing guy and am afraid of him not liking me
Today I met a guy who I now am head over heels for. We met online 6 years ago and found him super attractive. 2 months ago he got his job transferred to the city I live in, so after 6 years we started talking again, We finally met today and it felt so awesome.We played Pokemon Go together. I really want things to go well, but I am scared of him not talking to me anymore because I have a tendency to be clingy and that has scared guys away. He texted me once after our date. I haven't heard from him in 7 hours and honestly I'm getting worried. I know that he's playing D&D with friends and I've checked up on him a few times just saying that I hope he's having fun.
Bi Curious Virgin?
Im really confused lately, the ideal of a really cute lady boy give me oral is turning me on just as much as a women would. Does this mean Im just desperate as a virgin or that I am legitimately interested in ladyboys?
How do I find other gay guys near me?
I've tried apps, and the nearest person is like 20 miles away I've tried to find groups, the nearest is about one and a half hours away and I can't drive yet. I tried going to the (only) LGBT center in my state, but it's open sporadically. I need help, I don't know why to do next
Am I being too controlling?
So my boyfriend invited me to a small family get together in a few weeks. I originally told him I was interested but I might have to work. He took that as a no and invited some of his friends. I then found out that I could get the time off work, so i told him that I can actually go! He seemed excited at first and then started to act upset about it. We started talking and he first posed it as being uncomfortable with me meeting his parents for the first time while having friends there and everything else going on. I understand that, but then he told me I could still go if I wanted. We talked some more and he changed his stance from being uncomfortable around his family, to wanting a vacation with just his friends. He was saying that he doesn't get enough friend time and that I'm no longer invited on the trip. I don't mind if he wants to spend time with friends, I mind that he invited me and when I finally gave him a solid answer, a day later, he already uninvited me. It makes me feel unwanted and unimportant. Am I being too controlling in the situation or am I right to be upset?
My Drunk Gay Talk Episode 4! Busting gay myths & cyber hugs! This is either the best episode or the worst episode yet.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XZ1MiaMgoZs
2016. július 28., csütörtök
Justin
My friends needs to hurry up and get all these hints I'm dropping. I'm starting to lose faith 😭
Is this a safe site to get porn from?
Hazehim.comIs this site safe to use my debit card on? I ask cause idk if its some sort of site that isn't legit and will steal my info or not.
2016. július 27., szerda
Would you date me?
Hey guys, to put it mildly my boyfriend and I have come to a disagreement about my character so I'm asking you to judge, but not too harshly :)So a little background on my relationship (a year and almost 2 months): he was 17 when we met and I was 20. He lived in a dump trailer with an abusive mother and a dead father (since I was 13) and I basically took him under my wing by moving him into my parents house about after 4 months. We met on Grindr (huge mistake) and he lived within walking distance of me. At the time we met I was still technically with my previous boyfriend of 6 years and he later found that out and destroyed him. So ever since I've been called a liar, a cheater, and many other bad names.I'm 21 years old, blue eyes, jock type body, black hair, and an above average "tool".I'm a drunk. I've been buying my own/having other guys buy me liquor since I was 15 and have since been hospitalized twice (died the first time). I drink every day, but don't get drunk everyday because I'm a full time diesel mechanic (semi trucks and heavy equipment). When I get drunk it can be a good time or a complete disaster, usually a disaster.Most of everything is my way or the highway. Especially when it comes to music on the radio, going out to eat, sex, and I don't clean. When he fights me about stuff like that sometimes I will give in or just cop an attitude.Cars and being a mechanic is my life. I don't really stop talking about cars/trucks because I don't really have interest in anything else.In an argument if I've decided that I'm right I won't fully pay attention to your argument unless you really push.I love hard and strong, I'm an excellent provider and not afraid to work until I pass out.The reason I ask is because I'm pretty sure my boyfriend hates me now. If we broke up he would either go back to the trailer (not even habitable) or live on the streets. I realize I've done bad and hurtful things but I do truly love him and provide him with everything he wants or needs. I give him all the attention he wants and will do almost anything for him. What do you think?
becoming hard hearted- for the best?
After my first relationship ended in 1996 - and it was ever so brief- i became sorta of a hard hearted person when it came to feelings. Then in 2006 my mom had a stroke and i started to change slowly. I started to care about people again. Lately though ive been finding i dont get a lot of those loving (friendhip only) feelings returned, even by those i thought were close. So im thinking its time to go back to neing a hard ass. Any thoughts?
How do I know they are Gay?
I'm in college and really want to meet guys and possibly date. I am still in the closet but I really want to go ahead and date and not care about the rest. How do I know if they are gay?
I'm Coming Out!...but I need some help
I've decided to sneak out of the closet at 23. Not going for a big production, just to those who are close to me and when the rest find out they find out.So far I've told my 30 yr. old sister. It was her lack of reaction that has me here today. She said "well I kinda knew" and that was it.Now me and her are like PB&J and we talk about everything, Whether it's about a sandwich or our mothers health, we'll go on for hours. We can sing, laugh and cry together. I can't think of one thing we've ever been uncomfortable about saying outloud.Our mom happens to be a lesbian along with 4 or 5 of my cousins, nieces aunts and uncles (God damn genetics) So I truly know she's not offended by my sexuality, We're all very accepting of everyone. I just want to know why she's so uninterested. If she came out to me I would be littering her with questions and comments so I assumed she would too.Has this ever happened to anyone? Is it me just expecting too much? Please give me some sort of explanation so I can continue to open this door, because so far I put my hand on the knob and its not what I was expectingMuch Love ~R
[Ask Gay] Being demisexual in an open relationship.
My partner and I of 2 years are in a newly opened relationship. We set ground rules which I am comfortable with, but the problem is that I am demisexual. Meaning that I require a bond before I can even consider sex. I feel like my best option is to make a new friend, with the intent that we will be friends with benefits. My partner satisfies all my sexual needs, and wants, so I am unsure why I should even try except it will make the relationship fair and balanced. Any incite would be appreciated
Is it selfish to be openly gay?
I've been thinking about this a lot lately... is it selfish to be openly gay if it hurts the people around you?My story: I recently came out of the closet to my family (everyone else has known for a long time). My parents are very religious, and I think I'm hurting them a lot because they think I'm going to hell. They want me to ignore my attractions, stay in the closet, and have a "regular" straight relationship.Communication with my parents feels very strained now; it hurts me to think about how embarrassed they are that I'm openly homosexual. They tried so hard to instill their values into me, to the extent that I was homeschooled all the way from kindergarten through 12th grade. My dad is a pastor, and he feels that I'm throwing away everything he wants me to believe. My parents say the mental health issues I've been having for the last few years are because of guilt about being gay, but I have always felt that it's actually because I knew that being out and open would tear me apart from my family.One last thing... I'm not in a relationship with another guy, and I've never even had sex with one. There's no doubt in my mind that I'm homosexual, though. Besides, having sex with a girl would be impossible for me, not to mention I think that it would be dishonest to be romantically involved with a girl just to break her heart. Anyway, it's not like I'm sleeping around with a bunch of guys, and I actually think I would only have sex with someone if we were in a serious relationship. I may be gay, but I'm not a slut.So what do you guys think? I know it's a long post, but it would be really nice if I could get some third opinions about this. Now is the only time I'll be able to go back in the closet, if that's what needs to happen.
Just a chat thread.
This is a continuation here is the first Parthttps://www.reddit.com/r/gay/comments/4uh9qz/help_me/Ok so I spend the night at my friends house. The same one I find godly attractive and I just kept realizing how much I love being with him. Ever time he leaves the room I just kinda sit there and think of every possible way I can do something with him. I always try to find an excuse to touch him (that sounds weird) but I mean as like first pumps or a jokingly push. Every time I'm around him I swear I'm gay just because he is a guy and I find myself wanting him so bad but only towards him keep in mind. Then I have to come to the realization that he always makes gay jokes and probably doesn't get down with gay people that well. If I'm ever to come out it will definitely be to him first but that's if I ever do.
2016. július 26., kedd
Is being a bear/gainer fetishized like BBW?
I am not gay, and I am really trying not trying to put people in a box or generalize the entire gay community on this issue, so please don't downvote slaughter me on this.But yeah I was wondering if the bbw phenomenon was an accurate parallel for this. I mean is it seen as this "fetish" that 2-3% of heterosexual males are into or is it more like a mainstream thing in the gay community?
Need advice
So I am 18 starting my senior year of high school openly gay for the most part I am shy, but could definitely improve being more social. But for the main part some days I have a man period which is a period of time, where I am just sad and want to crawl in a ball and cry. It only happens when I hear my gay friends had sex because I am a virgin and I don't know why but I get upset about it, I think I just feel left out but anyone else relate to this?
Hello Reddit
My son came out to me tonight, and I couldn't be more proud of him. It took courage for him. He's 26, exactly the age I was when he was born. Of course I have questions, but the point us, it's okay, and I love my son. I always will. I have tears in my eyes for the difficulties he will face, but I know he will overcome those difficulties. He has my undying support. I'm so happy he trusted me enough to come out. I'm very proud. Thanks for allowing me to share.
How to introduce my partner to my family?
My family knows I'm gay and while they aren't hateful, they pretend like I'm not gay and ask when I'm going to date someone of the opposite sex and stuff like that even when they know I've been in same sex relationships.I've recently entered into a serious relationship and I don't know how to introduce my partner without making things weird.As in introvert I find it hard to talk about myself and I'm a giant ball of anxiety about almost everything so this is really freaking me out.
Hemor...Gross. Help!
I've had hemorrhoids (both in/external) since 14. I have a stapling scheduled for the end of next month but I'm going on a date with a guy who seems like everything I want in a man THIS WEEK!He's already talked about wanting sex but also being willing to wait if needed (but with the importance he places on sex, a month may be out of the question).Any advice for preparing in advance and on the day of to alleviate symptoms so that bottoming well and without turning this guy off for future encounters would be priceless right about now. :/
My boyfriend hates himself.
We are like year and a half together. I'm openly gay, but he is closeted which makes things sometimes complicated, but I love him too much and he loves me and I want to help him. He still can't accept his sexuality. For after every intimate monent he starts to feel BAD. He says things like we shouldn't have done this and why I didn't stop him. I tried to stop everything, because I don't care much about sex, I just want to be with him, but he says that everything is going to be all right this time and every time I fall for this trap and afterwards he starts to feel horrible... Which makes me also feel horrible, I start to feel that I'm developing a trauma about this. I am saying that the closet has a "pressure" on him, and if he would come out, he will feel a relief, but he is resisting, trying to find 1001 reasons why he shouldn't come out. He says that the main reason od him being in closet is his mom, she has diabetes and some other health problems, she expects grandchildren also she is conservative about sexuality and he is afraid of letting her down (stupid reason if you ask me) and he is scared that something horrible can happen to her if he will come out(like heart attack) in my opinion nothing horrible will happen, but he won't listen. I suggested him to go together to some lgbt meeting, he always refuses. Right now I am out of ideas and don't know how to help him. Reddit, please help...
What would you expect from a gay friendly hotel?
What do you think should be the standard conditions to define a hotel as a gay friendly hotel?
Who would you go straight for?
After seeing Ghostbusters, I can say with absolute certainty I would go straight for Kate McKinnon. What about you?
Want some friends wanna play some games even watch anime?
I was sitting there alone for a long time. I felt like I was in a rut and I just wanted to get out of it I tried other servers and I tried friends and I even went on this Reddit looking for different things I could do to feel better. Until I found this discord sever http://ift.tt/1YtL21X. All I can say is that this sever made me feel happy again and got me back up and out of my funk. It was lively and spirited and I feel like I'm at home with all my people. I've been a scarlet for 3-4 weeks now and I've never had a problem like I do with most other channels we have so many amazing mods we have an amazing server leader. Best of luck to all yall gaymers out there. From a scarlet himself, Speednicc Tell em panda sent yall <3 P.S. must me legal in your area
Was thinking of hooking up with an older guy but i'm 18 is it 100% leagal ?
I'm really considering hooking up with this older hung daddy for my first time but i'm honestly worried about legal troubles, am i in the safe zone now that i'm 18 ? i can do what i want now ? i know its kind of a stupid question just wanna be certain, im in canada btw
2016. július 25., hétfő
What does the Gay Community think of "Gay Conservative", Milo Yiannapolous?
I'm honestly intrigued because in terms of politics, gays tend to be more liberal.
Dating a Trans woman, explaining to friends
I'm an openly gay man and am dating a trans woman. I fell for her before she came out as trans and we had broken up before she came out as trans as well (reasons unimportant to topic). We recently started dating again and a couple of my heterosexual friends are having trouble understanding why I would date a woman. They've asked if I'm suddenly straight now, if I'm bi, or if this is a phase for me. I've tried to explain as best I can, but they're still confused. I've ended the conversations with "I love her, why does it matter what my sexuality is?", but I know this will be a repeated conversation in the gay community as well as with my immediate family, so I'm looking for advice to explain it better.For the record her being trans does not, nor has it ever effected my feelings for her in a negative manner. I'm only looking for advice to explain this to confused friends.
Things to consider about gay bars
Hey guys! First time poster here.I am thinking I want to try to go to a gay bar in my city here. I am not out to everyone but I figure I don't have anything to hide from people that are in the gay community. Besides, I probably wouldn't shy away from the subject when asked.Either way, I want to be safe. Don't plan on drinking more than one or two beers.What are things I should know/consider before going? I've never really gone out before. Might take a friend... thinking of going alone?Thank you!
What's your thoughts on being cautious?
Hi!I'm a 26 year old male who has many thoughts about sexuality, what it means to belong to a sexual minority and how to act upon it. I live in a country that is seen as very liberal but still I know of no place in the world (except from maybe Castro, San Francisco) that seems to be more or less free from hate crimes and discrimination. Not to mention all the daily prejudices that gay and bisexual men have to face, even in 2016, despite of all the progressive political battles that recently have been won in the western world. (Of course this is true also for women, but since I'm a man myself I focus on men here).Having this in mind, I've come to the conclusion that I want to take on a "cautious" approach towards my sexuality. My family and closest friends know about it but I never mention it to others. And there are moments when a big part of me feels like I want to tell, but I stop myself because I think about the necessity of being cautious. For instance, this has led me to call my boyfriend "a friend" and to talk about gay people as "they" rather than "we" when the subject is being discussed at work and in other situations. And on social medias I never give any information whatsoever about my relationship status, when others post about their boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and husbands quite frequently (being 26, I get a lot of wedding and baby pictures on my feeds...)As I always end up self-analyzing, I can't help but thinking that this cautious approach is just a way for me to rationalise underlying feelings of fear and shame that I know I shouldn't still carry at this age. If that's the case, that I still feel fear and shame, then that makes me feel really pathetic and maybe that is why I like to think of my approach as just being cautious (which to me sounds more rational and more like common sense, the way things still are, even in 2016). And who knows? Even if things have gotten better maybe it will all turn backwards and become worse again with all this uprise for extreme conservative ideologies all over the western world...Does any of these thoughts make sense to you? Is there someone out there who can recognize this reasoning or who has meaningful advises to give me? And how do you yourself reason about the importance of being cautious?I'd be very thankful to read your thoughts about this!Thanks for taking the time reading all this. I really appreciate it.
What are the secret gay hangouts in your city?
I am wondering if your city has some kind of secret hangout where gays meet. For example a secluded beach, a secret corner in a shopping mall. Does your city have any interesting place like this?
Advice :)
Hello, I wanted some advice from someone on this.So, I'm openly gay. I would like to flirt with guys, but I'm not really into the so called "gay scene". I hang out where everyone hangs out. I'm a straight acting man as so many other guys. I know there's times when it's hard to distinguish if a person is gay and I have let go a lot of opportunities by also me not saying or revealing that I'm gay. When I get close to someone I always try to Start a conversation but obviously I'm not gonna be like hey I'm gay let's go out or hey are you gay?So, my question is how can I let someone know I'm gay without making them feel awkward or just spark an interest on them..Last week I was at the train going home and this other guy was kinda like staring at me. The train made its stop and he went down as he went out he turn his head and we started staring at each other. Sadly no one made the move but I would've done something if I knew he was gay or maybe he didn't know I was gay. It's always that fear of being rejected especially if it's in front of people, what if this person reacts. I don't know haha but I wish there was an easy way...
Why do we take so long to realise we're LGBT+?
As a gay guy, I'm curious. Why does it take so long for most LGBT+ people to realise they are part of the community? Some people define their sexuality in their 20s and some in their teens, some even before puberty. Why does the the age of realisation vary from person to person? Genuine question here, hope I don't sound rude.
2016. július 24., vasárnap
Potentially strange question
Would it be weird to go on Grindr as a straight guy to find a gym partner? I need to get back to working out but I work a lot better if I have someone else that I'm consistently going with / pushing me to go. I know no one in the area I could go with, and approaching someone at the gym already is not an option.So, is this weird / something I shouldn't do?
What Should I Label Myself As When Coming Out?
Hi, so I'm a teenage male who has yet to come out to his slightly homophobic father. I've been confused about my sexuality for a while now, so I've been wondering what I should "label" it. I personally believe that labels aren't healthy or necessary, but in this case it is necessary: I need to either tell my father that I'm bisexual or gay. It seems as if I'm sexually attracted to most men and only sexually attracted to some/certain women, and romantically attracted to both, but I can never be so sure. I've had thoughts about kissing both, and get turned on by both gay and lesbian entertainment. The thing is, though, I never imagine myself settling down and marrying a woman; I always picture a man, so this would probably subconsciously make me seek out male partners instead of females--even though I may be attracted to them, if that makes any sense. This could probably be broken down into the a combination of sexual and romantic orientation, but the sad fact is that I need an easy, simple label to come out to my dad as that he would understand and just maybe accept. I'm afraid to come out as gay because--well, my dad's pretty homophobic. Maybe telling him that I'm bisexual is better, as also being attracted to females might redeem the "gay" side of me in his eyes or some crap, but then again if I come out as bisexual he might expect me to marry and settle down with a woman and have a "proper family," because he thinks that I have the capacity to do so, being bisexual. So, given all this, what should I come out as: gay or bisexual? Thanks in advance!
Help me.
Alright I'm so confused. I'm straight for the most part I guess I am attracted to girls physically and sexually. But my best friend and I always hang out I even went on trip with him and his family to myrtle beach a month ago. As of lately I have been really attracted to him and him only. No other guys I find attractive but him. And I've been wanting to have sexually acts with him. Every time I'm around him now all I can think about is how hot he is and how I want to give him a bj. Am I gay or bi? This is the only guy I feel this why about.P.S. I've been watching a lot of gay blow job vids since it all started.
I'm bisexual, I think I might be gay.
My sexuality usually fluctuates from men to women and back, but lately I've been gay for over 2 months. This hasn't ever happened before. Am I gay?
I can't stop checking my bf's phone
So my bf and I have been together for about 3 years. Since the beginning of our relationship, he's gotten random texts from old hook ups and ex bfs. I would have never known except about 5 times early in our relationship we were cuddling and looking up something and a text will come through. Over the years, I've occasionally checked to make sure no one was texting him. If they were, I saw he didn't respond.When I see him move his phone now or act strangely. I can't help but check to make sure nothing is going on behind my back. I know it's not right and I know I shouldn't have trust issues. He just burned me early in our relationship, and I'm having trust issues. What should I do?
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I Used To Think Dating Would Just Happen
When I was young I knew being gay as a teenager was supposed to be a hard, alienating experience. Thankfully I had an abundance of friends, boys, girls, gay, straight or otherwise to share all our ideas, thoughts, hopes and dreams. We talked about who we were going to be and all those things you know are going to change in your adult years. For the gay ones (there were 4 of us) we knew our lives would be slightly different but we still wanted all the same things.Fast forward to now, I'm 28 and we have all gone our separate ways. Two of us remain close but he has moved away and I'm still in our home city. I was the late bloomer. I did everything late. So I just thought all my experiences would happen slowly... Every year that has passed since then nothing has happened.I've never had a boyfriend, no one has ever really been interested in me. The few that have over the years have been really seedy creeps. Or straight guys who want to experiment. I firmly don't believe in being anyones experiment.I'm just at a little disillusioned. Being gay now seems harder than it ever was two decades ago. Growing up there were way more gay positive stories in my life than there are now. I look around at my peers and that alienating feeling starts to sink in. They're buying houses. Travelling. The girls are engaged, married, pregnant. The guys are successful career men. The gays are doing well... And manage to have successful sex lives. The new friends Ive made are established, successful people. Handsome men, some gays, beautiful women. All have access to social securities that society allows and the single ones aren't ever single for long.I don't understand why nothing is happening for me. I have an education, qualifications. Great friends, I've been described anywhere from "the smartest person I know" to handsome, to gorgeous, and even androgynous...I resent my sexuality sometimes. I'm sure there are life experiences in my past that can map some of choices that has lead to this moment. But for the most part I've been willing, open and available since I was openly gay (20), confident and outgoing. I can be reserved and yeah a little hermity... Probably doesn't help. Weirdly traditional and somewhat conservative, in a way.I just feel like I have been waiting and waiting for someone (and at this point anyone) to come along and say hey... I wanna take you out and get to know you, would you be interested?When the smartphone boom happened I was so happy, everyone else was benefiting from apps and told me I definitely would too. I've never had a date yet... And now after 3 years I don't even get matches anymore. I always end up deleting apps after 4 months of not even a match or a message. Reciprocal or not.All my crushes over the years, and there have been a few, have been unsuccessful. But I'm a die hard romantic and I don't want to give up on love. I just don't feel like I'm ever gonna have my time. 30 is approaching and I'm getting the rope ready... i heard gay death was at 30. I live in New Zealand if that makes anything clearer... Our gene pool here, so to speak, is definitely smaller.If I'm honest. I think I'm suffering from not having access to gender norms and hegemonic standards of beauty/masculinity. I don't have white privilege... And I think gay culture is just a little bit backwards for the times. I think we actively oppress each other based on race, feminity, age and all those superficial things. Sometimes it feels like we are so behind the times. Yet we want to break down so many social obstacles but we put our own community last - I think the heterosexual world gets it by now, we're here and we're queer, they're over it. So can we start looking after each other now?Anyway. Thanks reddit I just had to get that off my chest.
Funniest assumed to be straight momenta?
What is the funniest time that someone assumed your straight? i.e. "What do you want to see in your future wife" I don't really have any good ones though.
Gay Crush..blame him...advice mybe??
[M 22] I helping my dad running just a small grocery store...while I'm sitting on the cashier table scrolling my samsung phone...this male str8 looking [M 29] wanting to buy a cigarette over the counter...the thing is when he didnot knew I have a crush on him since the day he hitting on me (no homo) "why do you talking to yourself ?"...I just keep smiling on him and being embarrassed at the same time & quickly give what he wanted? After awhile he always get into our store then whenever he talking to me, I'm just speechless and the only I can react by a smileI love the way he keep try to create conversation to me but I'm scared to respond bcuz he is so good str8 looking guy in my eyes...is it a bad thing to turn str8 guy into gay? I really hoping he can be mine but I'm not putting much expectation bcuz I don't want to hurt my feeling later on.Thx for reading this. #ProudToBeGay
Hair..
I wouldn't say I'm that hairy, but there are a couple places like my upper arm I would like to use a hair inhibitor. What's a good brand that has worked for you and I could easily find?I don't have a lot of hair on my upper arm but they are pretty long and dark.
2016. július 23., szombat
Returning with an ex after 5 and half years.
I never believed that such return was going to occur. We split in very bad terms. Younger than me. But he never forget me In this 5 years. He cried a lot when he saw me. The 1st days. I feel a lot of affective attraction to him. Feelings of affection and many things. Of course the past appear. I try to kick it out. ¿Shall it works? He and myself want it. Don't know if that is possible
Married str8 men: phase or no-no?
So, i was just wondering is it some sort of phase for a gay guy to "un-intentionally" or "intentionally hook up with a married guy at some point in their life. And if it is, should we learn from it and never ever do it again...or you just do you?
Does anyone know of that's like Her but for gay men?
For those who don't know, Her is a dating app for lesbians that is focused more on conversation than what the person looks like, unlike Grindr. And, after all the hatred on Grindr I've experienced, I want to know if there's any alternative.
How to ask someone out?
So I just found out a guy I had a crush on a few years ago is gay. He is the most popular kid in my grade, and he is very hot. He's also very nice to everyone and he is smart. I would be considered his friend, but I'm not in his "sqaud". How do I approach him? Schools tarts in September, so I have a month, but I really want to date him. I just have no idea how to ask him out. Advice? (BTW I am out, but I just came out so no one know I'm gay that goes to my school, I'm also going into 10th grade)
16 YO Closeted Gay Guy Seeking Advice
Hey, guys! So, I'm a 16 year old closeted gay guy in a town of right-wing homophobes and my parents are also ultra-homophobic. Anyway, I don't have a lot of friends anyway and would have none if I came out. I guess I figure that in college someday, maybe I'll be able to be myself and see guys. But I really want to advance if the business world someday to an executive level, and I guess I'm afraid my sexuality will make that harder. At least, that's what my parents say. So, let's say someday I'm in a major city at a major company. Will my sexuality really effect my social status at work and my ability to be promoted?If it matters, I don't fit the media-grown "typical gay guy" stereotype, in terms of how I act. I'm pretty average in that regard.
What "type of Gay" are you?
So it occurred to me that everyone is different, and yet we still conform to some kind of identity and/or find one that works for us relatively well. So I was wondering, what kind of gay would you consider yourself? I'm genuinely curious to see how many types there are out there and am just hella bored.
I can not believe this crap is still happening!
I'm sure this story has been making the rounds but it just makes me so sick and breaks my heart. Such crap these guys have dealt with!http://ift.tt/2af9GTi
is my roommates friend gay
So my roommate who I'd straight and his friend are always hanging out and his straight friend is always complimenting my appearance. He called me Mr.GQ. in front of my room mate, he has hugged me several times, also he called me a pretty boy and told me I smell good several times. Is he coming on to me or am I just delusional?
What song(s) help you through rough times?
Here are two of mine https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PnWQpW8RwSQ https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ay9g3TFnOZs
OMG IM SO GAYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
im so gay like om jizzle like ewwwwwwww im gok wan my g u dun no
HBO Looking Finale Tonight
http://ift.tt/2aoet7x personally LOVED Looking! For some reason it failed. I found myself watching with a smile on my face through lots of moments in the show. People complain it was slow..but I love those moments because it gave you an opportunity to get to know individual characters deeper. They are replaying the seasons on HBO right now getting ready for the Finale and one of my favorite episodes just aired..it is the one that is just a day where Richie and Patrick walking around town getting to know each other. Patrick is a true character who was looking to find himself and love. Richie was a great guide for Pat. Richie was comfortable with himself and knew what he wanted. Kevin is adorable and charismatic! Dom is strong and confident. Augustin is sacarcastic and hilarious. It was a fun, witty, real, and deep show. I hate that it's been cancelled. I as a fan felt like we were just getting to know the characters deeply and the show was really starting to pick up. I was so disappointed when I found out it was over. I felt like given the chance it could have been this generations Queer as Folk. If you read the article it states tonight's finale leaves it possibly open later on..I'm sure the actors have moves on to other jobs..but I would love to see it come back some day! Maybe if the finale movie gets high ratings then it could possibly happen. If you are a fan of the show share your favorite memory. If you didn't like the show tell me why.
TIF By not getting his number...
Hey reddit, just had a crazy, regretful experience and needed to share it with someone!So I'm (19 y/o m) and I've been questioning my sexuality. I've never been in a relationship or had any experience with a guy. I also have an extremely terrible gaydar, so I'm sorta in a weird place. Today I was driving to school when I realized I was almost out of gas. I was already running late so I was in a rush at the gas station. As I was filling up my gas tank, a man walked up to me. I didn't register how attractive he was at first, I'm so used to hiding my attraction from myself and others. He saw the parking sticker on my car and asked if I went to a certain University. I told him that I did, he introduced himself and told me a bit about himself. He had recently graduated and was working a job. He was extremely well dressed and had beautiful blue eyes. I was initially creeped out because I'm not used to random people talking to me at gas stations. Once my gas tank was full I said it was nice meeting him; he smiled at me and shot me a wink. Me being the idiot I am, drove off in a hurry to get to class. It wasn't until the afternoon that I realized he was likely gay and I missed an opportunity with a great looking guy. I wish so badly I could go back and give him my number or something.Considering gays usually meet on dating apps or online nowadays, it really bothers me that I missed such a genuine opportunity to meet someone in person.I realize, in hindsight, that I could be misreading the situation, and he was just being very nice. I just don't think thats true, after assessing after, his questions demonstrated a likely interest.In any case, I've never met another gay person before and am really upset that I was so clueless.tl;dr Attractive man strikes up a conversation, I was clueless and missed out on the opportunity. regret city
2016. július 22., péntek
Wooo! I got drunk last night and successfully edited together MY DRUNK GAY TALK EPISODE 3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mf9XAtC2mvw&feature=youtu.be
Gay Police Officer (x-post from /r/askgaybros)
Hi guys. I get that most people today have strong opinions for or against police. However, as a gay police officer new to the scene, I'm struggling to meet people. Too often when I'm meeting people, and they ask what I do, it turns into a political lecture. I really just want to meet a cool guy. Any advice? Thanks.
Film called Ma Vie En Rose, about a transgender child
One of my favourite films is Ma Vie En Rose and I wouldn't have bothered mentioning it except it appears really unknown judging by the desserted IMDB message board and that seems like a waste. It's about a seven-year-old transgendered girl and some difficulty encountered with his family, neighbours and school. Everyone has different taste in films so many of you might hate it but hopefully you can figure that out before you make the effort to watch it.
Pokemon GO isn't out on my Country yet but...
I started using Grindr a week ago for the first time and realized it's exactly the same thing. Not sure if I wanna catch them all thou. There are very rare pkms nearby. :S
Help. Moving in with boyfriend... And straight best friend crush.
I am 18 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (19) for a year now. For about double that time I have been best friends with an older guy (23; I am friends with older college guys because I am a musician and know a lot of people in the field locally).In less than two weeks I am moving in with both of them in a two-bedroom apartment. I love my boyfriend and find him very attractive and satisfying still like I always have, and we have never had any problems. However, as I have been friends with my straight friend, I have developed a crush on him. It is half parts sexual and half emotional — doesn't help that he also looks pretty similar to my boyfriend. I know it won't work — we're open with each other, all we've done is cuddle (I was cold!) while cross faded a couple times. However, I still find myself thinking about us hooking up and now we are all going to be under the same roof.What do I do? How do I stop fixating on him? Do I pursue it further? My boyfriend is already suspicious of us but I've assured him he's straight — then my boyfriend brings up that means nothing.Yeah, I know I'm horrible. I don't want to cheat. I just don't know how to navigate this.
2016. július 21., csütörtök
Wtf did I do
So I'm 25, been dating a guy now for about 4 months. Its serious and although you all are going to hate me in a minute, I'm definitely falling in love with him. But I did something bad today. I woke up from an hour nap to a message from a guy I was sleeping with right before my current bf. It was strictly just sex for months with the other guy. But I responded and went over there. I was already mad at myself in the way over, but I kept going.. WHY? WHY DID I NOT TURN AROUND.Anyway, we ended up having FANTASTIC sex. Was seriously intense but that was all it was. I feel horrible but I just needed it. That's sounds horrible, I know. My bf and I are very affectionte and we've had sex but he always keeps his shirt on. Always. I want some skin on skin. More intimate. He is in good shape and is sexy as hell. I tell him he's sexy and compliment him all the time.I 75℅ regret going to see my old hookup, and I feel selfish. But yet, a part of me feels happy. This is my dilemma. Why did I not turn around, even though I think I'm in love? Wtf.
How to meet guys?
Im a 14yo and I just came out. Part of the reason is that I really want a boyfriend. Where do I meet other gay kids? I'm going into 10th grade at a public school.
Non LGBT Related problem I need help with
I apologise for the off topic problem I'm about to discuss but I really can't find any other subreddit to help me out, the first one that comes to my mind is this one. And yeah I am gay, ( that's why I know this subreddit) but that has nothing to do with this.This is gonna be a text wall so get ready.So I'm friends with this girl, just for now let's call her Q. So I only recently became friends with Q and at the start she was really kind and caring and all. But now all of a sudden she seems to be rather mean. She criticises my every move throughout every day and it's just getting too much. It just hurts my feelings heaps.Today I happened to screw up my artwork ( I'm not a great art guy anyway) and she decided to make fun of it for a while, laugh at it and then use it as a punchline for when my other friends made minor mistakes on their work. I just had to sit there and take it basically. And this is only one example of what she does daily.It just becomes too much for me and today after that It basically drove into such a bad mood I was contemplating suicide. May seem a bit far fetched but I'm serious. It made me super upset and frankly I was holding back tears for the whole day. But I'm not the only person she upsets, she upsets my other friends a little bit too.All I'm asking for is a little advice on what the hell im supposed to do now.
Can you guys help me?
I am a mess, I am 21 years old, I don't approach women cuz they are always interested in someone attractive. When I am with my friends or family, I shame gays, we had a friend a long time ago and he came out as gay and everybody in the group hates him now (granted, there were other reasons, but everytime we talk about him, everybody says "do you remember gay X"; also this is happening in a south American country, people here aren't too friendly to gays)I have a job and I think I am not attracted to guys, I am attracted to some colleagues that are tall and handsome.I have never masturbated to gay sex, but I do enjoy a lot of crossdressing hentai and I always self insert as the crossdressing guy. I sometimes have fantasies about this and I wish I was more feminine.I don't know. I know this is a tantrum and is just a droplet of a bigger problem. I am sorry.
Holy $@#$ someone finally responded to me. [x-post]
I'll be the first one to say I'm not conventionally attracive due to factors that are totally in my control. I'm fat, like fat fat. Not chunky, not husky, not stocky, but I am fat. Obese, and according to medical standards morbidly obese though I hate the sound of that combination of words (like morbidly obese sounds so deathly and like you can't come back from it.) I've also got some issues relating to depression, anxiety, and I have to self confidence of a dung beetles. That confidence being I can roll around shit and sometimes even roll in it. Wallowing in self pity anyone?But all of that being said I also realize there is a small market for my body type. Some guys like fat guy, heck some guys love SUPER fat guys. Now I'm not one for costumes all the time but I'd wear a super man outfit if it increased my odds even slightly. I've been on so many dating sites / apps. Okcupid, growlr, heftynet, biggercity, adam4adam, plentyoffish, chasbl, and a few others that escape my elated mind. I do receive messages from time to time but there have only been one or two where there was a mutual attraction and that soon ended when I realized that due to their views or moral compass I'd not be willing to stick my dong in them of vice versa. I also find that when I message people it's not responded to.I have tried each angle such as "Hey you've got a sexy cock / ass and I'd totally be down to engage in sexual contact with you" to "Nice picture! I really like how well done it looks" oh and of course "Hey we share a common interest!" but much more often than not the message is just ignored. Now I know people are iffy on the subject of there being "leagues" but I tend to message people I find attractive which more often than not are slightly taller guys with a slim body. Not necessarily defined muscles but I just really like slim lanky guys.BUT IT FINALLY HAPPENED. I messaged a guy, nay, I sent a guy a "flirt" which was just some stupid emoji waving hand face and you know what? He unlocked his profile for me! I mean it wasn't a message response but this guy has a nice body and I was stoked to be able to view the rest of his pictures. He's got a nice body, a great smile, such a cute face, and his cock / balls are amazing. I was a mix between super aroused and super happy. Finally, someone who I found attractive was willing to actually respond in some form. I sent him a message which was probably too long for a first impression but I told him he looked great and that we have similar interests. I don't know if he will respond back and I'll be a bit sad if he doesn't but right now this feeling of "wow someone actually saw my picture(s) and found me attractive enough to let me see theirs" is amazing.I don't know it's so weird and foreign to me. I've got a lot of work to do for my health and body but it's just so nice to know that I can at least look at some dick and maybe get laid even though I live in the middle of a shitty state with 0 LGBTQ scene, I don't look conventionally attractive, and I am socially awkward. It might not happen and hell my anxiety would probably get in the way of me actually meeting this guy to engage in sexy times (plus he lives 44 miles away and I don't drive) but just that feeling of "it could happen" is awesome. That's all.tl:dr I'm fat and a sexy guy unlocked his pictures for me and now I have a boner both body and mind.
Slutshaming: need advice or opinion
About three months ago I [22M] matched with this guy [24M] at Tinder. His profile said he was looking for LTR, so was I, and we started getting to know each other before actual meeting (it's a thing here in Russia — you usually don't go out on a date right after "Congratulations! You have a new match!"). He was cute, he was smart and we had so much in common. I tried few times to arrange our first date, but he was either at work all day or with his friends. One day, when we were talking, he said that he and his friend decided to be together two days ago. Whatever. They lived happily, but not so ever after. Few days ago we were texting and he asked me how many men I slept with. I told him the truth - well, almost the truth, I still was too embarrassed to tell the exact number so I told him it was more than 30, but less than 50. He was kinda shocked and told me that he doesn't understand nor approve when someone has so many partners. That he was raised with traditional values and in his opinion sex is something special and it can't be without feelings. In my defence — I "separate" sex and making love, and when I have sex with someone not special, it's just for physical pleasure. But he didn't stop talking to me, we're still friends. The thing is, when he and his friend broke up, I asked him if he considers me as someone more than a friend and he answered: "No, I don't see myself with you, because you have had sex with so many men. I don't understand it and I can't date a guy like you. I hope you will meet someone special, but it won't be me." I tried to get him explain why is this such a problem, and he told me that he doesn't judge people who have many partners, he just doesn't like that "slutty nature".tl;dr: I met a wonderful guy who can't be with me because I have had sex with more than 10 guys in my entire life.As I said before, I live in Russia, where even in gay-community slutshaming is still a major issue. We do have issues here way more important than this, but still. Every time I meet someone I'm afraid that he will be the same and won't consider me more than a friend because I have my past. I'm so tired of being judged, sometimes I wonder - am I really a bad person just because I like sex? I didn't cheat, I never lied to my partners or to my ex. This is just not fair.Edited: formatting issues.
Anyone help talk about it?
I'm 18 years old and a male. Since the age of about 15 I have had strong sexual feelings about men. The thought of gay sex gets me extremely arosed, more than thinking about sex between a man and a woman, (by the way, whenever I fantasise about sex, I'm a bottom.) perhaps because its a novelty? I don't know. Anyway, I am attracted to women sexually as well, even if I could without any worry of prejudice or shocking anyone, the thought of kissing women and having sex with women in real life is more appealing. I don't look at men sexually in real life, at parties I am only interested in girls. I have send nudes anonymously to guys and it seriously gets me going. When masturbating or thinking casually, men do it for me more, A lot more. So perhaps I'm bi? But then, I'm completely uninterested in men romantically. I know this is probably more than a phase and I will have feelings for men at some point but the thing is, I really don't want to. I wouldn't care about being gay at all. In fact, being part of such a wonderful community would excite me but I really want to have a wife and kids and have a normal family. I really do not want to be gay because of this, and am worried I'll never be satisfied if I have a wife but I am bi. I don't know how to rationalise or assuage my fears. I am totally unafraid of coming out a bi, I know everyone would be fine with it. However, do guy friends act any different around you if they know you have attractions to me? But, I don't want to do this because I don't know if I am, it could easily be a matter of sexual experimentation in my teenage years! If this is just some fantasy in my mind over screens, not real life. [I have sex regularly with girls, and have no problem getting hard.]What do you think I am? What do you think I should do? And how do you deal with thinking about children and things when its not possible naturally? I hope I haven't offended anyone by saying I don't want to be gay, it is only for the reasons I have explained.Thanks in advance for any replies I get.
The Homosexual Agenda
How many of you came from religions that thought the homosexual agenda was a real, physical checklist of organized malicious intentions?
Looking for an opinions on my relationship
I have a question about relationships as I'm super new to them. I've never been in anything serious or done much at all until now. My bf grew up in the city and his "kill count" is really high. As I grew up in the country mine is super low. I've only gone all the way with him and his all the way encounters are in the 40s. Don't get me wrong, if I had grown up in a city it would be up right next to if not past his. We're basically the same person. When ever he talks about past people he's hooked up with it make me feel really aweful inside. I've met a couple of his past relationships and hookups and I always get this feeling. I don't want him to stop telling me about everything as I want to know him the best I can and we tell each other absolutely everything. Is it normal to get super down over your bfs past sexual experiences?and what exactly am I feeling here? Jealousy? Hate? Sadness?
My first crush lives half a country away
So I'm 16 and closeted, and despite having a bunch of chill dudes at my school, and a couple good friends, I never felt romantically or sexually attracted to anyone. Then one day, I was on Omegle(on the gay tab) and there's this really cool guy, we chat it up and then go on Kik. Turns out he's in the same grade, same age, and to top it all of he thinks I'm cute, and by the way he is really good looking. The only problem is that he lives on the other side of the country and we only talk through Kik, where he doesn't often respond, because of some sort of personal biz going on. I'm just sad because if I lived over there or if he lived over here then I probably could've had my first boyfriend. :(
Coming out support groups
Does anyone know of any coming out support groups in the NYC area? preferably for 1st Gen Americans/ Children of immigrants?TIA <3
Is the bsa still really homophobic?
Just curious because I have some god friends in boy scouts and I want to tell them I'm gay but I don't wanna be kicked out for being gay.
2016. július 20., szerda
Coming out
Note: these statement come with years and years of inexperience and I don't mean to offend Is coming out really all its played up to be (weight off of the chest, ...etc.) I don't have a problem telling people if they ask but you know initiating that conversation is a little weird(for me) or does being "out" actually help when it comes to finding dates and stuff I don't feel as if I'm in the closet cause what do I have to deny I think I know I am Note: I don't get asked out main reason I kinda look like i would be an asshole I don't know why but it is what it is.¯_(ツ)_/¯ Sorry for this weird post I just had a lot of stuff on my mind and I thought writing some of them out and getting advice and opinions would help ease my mind.
How do you know if you're sexually attracted to the same sex
Az összesítés nem áll rendelkezésre. A bejegyzés megtekintéséhez
kattints ide.
Gay but not out and I can't tell why
I'm 17 and have accepted I'm gay for about the last 3 years or so. However, I just can't bring myself to come out. I feel like it might be embarrassing or that people will judge me. I don't know but I really do want to come out. I want to be proud of who I am but I always feel I can only be proud of that when I'm by myself. I feel like I cross a line when I make a scene out of me being gay. I'm just not too sure. I know I'm gay. I'm pretty sure people with good gaydar can tell. Maybe I'm just not too comfortable of the idea of me being gay? Once again, not too sure the reasons why. Any advice/clarification would be greatly appreciated!!!
What are your best (or worst) stories of pretending to be straight?
One time in Mandarin class, the teacher asked me in front of the whole class who my celebrity crush was. I panicked slightly, and said the actress who came to mind, which ended up being Mila Kunis. He just laughed and patted me on the back before I speedwalked back to my seat clearly quite flustered.What ridiculous things have you done to convince someone you're straight?
Help overcoming being worried about other people thinking I'm gay?
Hello redditors,Need some help here. I can't help but worry about other people thinking that I'm gay.I developed social anxiety close to 2 years ago after abusing mdma and alcohol heavily for 2 years, and my social uncomfortableness lead to a few people starting a rumor that I was gay.Not knowing what was happening to me (the social anxiety, I never had worse-than-average nervousness before this), I started to believe these people that I might actually be gay. I eventually kept self doubting myself and would get nervous in front of straight guys (never happened before) which just kind of made the situation more intense.Finally, after quitting drugs, I have started to slowly become more comfortable in social situations and regain my confidence. However, I still suffer from thoughts like "gay gay gay" "penis" "they think youre gay" "everyone knows it" etc when I am in certain social situations.I'm not gonna lie, I even feel like I have a "connection" with gay people, like I understand them or something. Like my gaydar is good and I feel like I understand how gay people feel around straight masculine guys.Any tips on how to resolve this lol? I know I am not gay (do not have sexual or romantic desire for male contact) and that I like girls (I havent had a girlfriend though and I'm almost 22, that definitely hurts my confidence). Also, I look like a stereotypical gay guy, because I have a baby face, am very slim and dress stylishly.Is there a good way you guys can think of to rationalize this in my mind? Right now, whenever I think those "gay" thoughts around guys, I remind myself that I like girls, and it works for a bit... but I can easily fall back into the thought cycle. If I'm high it makes it 1000% worse so I had to give up weed (I get really awkward and think hella gay thoughts for some reason).
i wanna share some strange feelings
so here it goes. I just want to get something off my chest and let online strangers gaze upon my feelings. I was in a summer class a little less than a month ago and there was this man in the class that i developed a strong connection with. I wasn't really looking for anything really, just trying to be single after a 3 yr on and off relationship (that's another story). This connection I felt was like nothing I have felt before. He was really not my type AT ALL. But I looked into his eyes and saw his soul and i still constantly think about him and I don't even know why tbh. Sometimes I don't even want to think about him and there he is... still in my mind. I feel a little delusional, but I'm honestly content with being by myself. In the end I was honest with my feelings and told him my like and he kind of just left me hanging. He never confirmed or denied his sexuality to me. I just thought he was just so pure and smart I wanted to pick his brain (and maybe touch his booty). I acted like a crazy person to him too(when i was sober).. maybe cause i'm gemini i don't know. Anyways thanks for reading. Trey peace
Crush troubles (yes, it's one of these posts)
So I'm a gay 16 year old male and am currently on a tour with a group of about 40 people in another country. Whilst touring, we came across another group of people touring the same country, visiting the same places only in a different order (same tour organisers). On that tour, I met a gay guy and we began chatting. We were really hitting it off, until my disability (Ehlers Danlos syndrome 2/3, Google it) was brought up. He said it was weird and gross (stretchy skin) and said it was unusual. For the rest of the evening he then acted somewhat colder to me. The next morning, we agreed to go and get breakfast together. Not a date or anything, there were two other people. But still, every time he spoke it felt like my heart stopped. Unfortunately, the next day we had to leave that hostel. I did, however, get his Facebook and I've chatted to him a few times on that. It's a little complicated, because every time we talk (only twice so far, in 3 days) I've started the initial conversation. However, when we get chatting, we talk for hours. He's very innocent; despite being God's gift to mankind and an impressive athlete, he's only had one relationship and it was a girl. Apparently, he's never even wanked. I might be physically repulsive, a fat, lazy, ginger slob, but I've had a relationship and have done several hookups (no anal!) and have some kind of experience. Our talks usually revolve around past experiences (or a lack of past experiences), and what we've done in the past day. There's a fair bit of flirting involved, but mostly at my end. The reason I'm telling you all this is because in about 14 hours we're going to meet at a huge event with lots of tours. I want to know what I should do. On the one hand, I want to tell him that every time we chat I find myself blotting out all other things, and find his company, personality and body perfect. On the other, he's a great guy and I don't want to lose a new friend or lose the opportunity for him to 'come on' to me. Any help would be appreciated, but please remember that I'm sexually repugnant and he is truly beautiful. That's partly why I doubt it would work. Thanks guys
Wonder why there seems to be several more homosexuals compared to 25 years or earlier?
The chemical Atrazine is used in 50% or our corn and in our water. I was born in 1958. One of my bests friends was gay before many of us even had a name for it. I recall under 10 gay people my entire time in school. (I understand you can't tell many but no one can say there were as many people 100 people as there is today) Look up studies at U.C. Berkeley and many others.
Ran into my ex and his girlfriend???!!!
I went to go see the band Brand New the other day. Me being the idiot I am forgot my ex loves them as well. I sure enough ran into and his new girlfriend. He is bi so that in itself isn't too weird, but I don't think she knows we where a thing. Now I can't stop thinking about him!
Why do I attract (closeted) gay men?
I'm 24 and over the years I've noticed a pattern of men who are attracted to me. I've dated a few men who later I've found our were secretly bisexual or turned out to be completely gay. I've even hooked up with actual out of the closet label themselves as 'gay' men.I consider myself attractive and get told I'm anywhere between stunning and super hot. I'm very feminine. Always in dresses and heels. So I can't figure out why.I have a two part question;Is there any other girl that's experienced this?Does anyone have a theory or psychological understanding of why this keeps happening?
Relationships at the Work place
So I just wanted to see how you guys feel about going after someone you know through the work place, and or dating someone that works at the same job as you. Is it hard to deal with it cause of the homosexual relationship? Cause honestly I see CIS co-workers dating each other and no one seems to care but once it's an LGBT couple it's a big deal.... With both groups in mind, I can see the break up hurting your job and or relationship with the company. But why make such a bigger deal when it's LGBT related. Like I get it being CIS is fucking boring but you don't have to make drama over something that has nothing to do with you.
Should we really break up?
I met him on Grindr, but I didn't want a one-night stand, honest. I just wanted to give it a shot and see what stuff could turn into. Plus, this guy seemed hot and deep down I wanted to somehow refute a cousin of mine, who said hot guys were out of her league and that's why her list of SO's wasn't precisely good-looking fellas. So at first that was my initial objective. It turned out I could do it: after the first date we kept on chatting, talking, hanging out until our first kiss was his initiative. A couple of days later we held hands -- it was the first time I ever held another man's hand, and I made sure he knew that, among all the other first times he meant to me. We kissed passionately in malls, traveled distances, made sweet love, held each other at night... We both got jobs. It was harder and harder to meet. Yet we managed and every weekend was sacred for us. I'd go wait every Saturday in front of his office so at 21h I could surprise him and be with him on his way home. He's kinda young so he couldn't spend the night at my place whenever we both wanted. It was complicated, his family and stuff. But I wanted to be with him. Last week he told me he told his parents he'd go to a friend's so he could stay with me, all night long. I was thrilled. But we also fought. And when I get too pissed of I turn kinda violent: I yell, I hit things... And that happened just yesterday. I promised I'd be at the movies at a certain time after work. He got there first, he called me to ask if I was on my way, I told him I was and that I was going (on my bike) as fast as I could. I nearly got hit by a pickup truck. I told him so as soon as we finally met; he just asked what took me so long, if it took me forever to park a bike. I got mad and quit talking. He did too. We got into the theater. All couples were together laughing merrily and hugging, everyone but us. I wanted to leave. It was too uncomfortable a feeling to stay. I finally left. He didn't: did he care?, why is he mad in the first place?, why should I always be chasing after him? He got out and walked passed me. I took him from his backpack. He shouted and told me to stay away. He shouted good. The police in the mall got closer. It was all a mess. I was pissed off. Why didn't he care about the way I felt? I picked my bike from the parking lot. He was waiting for the bus. He saw me and approached me: "If I'm such a douche, you shouldn't probably be with me any longer". Why was he trying to break up? That's a petty excuse. I grabbed him from the collar. I wanted to know what was on his mind. He wanted me to let go of him. It was getting late and every passer-by was looking at us. "Let go off me!" he continuously yelled. I got mad: I cried out even louder in front of his face asking why on earth he wanted to just be done with all this after such petty fight over nothing. I got dizzy and sick. I didn't know if he cared about me anymore. I don't get gifts from him, I don't feel special even if he says so, and I told him all this. I also told him I was hurt because he once told he that if I ever go abroad for a Master's degree, he'd probably look for another guy because he can't stand being on his own. Is he really in love with me or does he just want someone to be with during this time of his life? What am I, then? I'd liked him not just because of his looks, but also because he was young and, naively I thought and continue thinking, because he's heart is not corrupted: by being young he's not like older men I'd had the chance to be with who just wanted sex. He wanted a family, a condo for both of us, a dog, a company -- we talked a lot about that; I even started to officially save for real estate. But we were there, I crying, he looking at me. Word after word and I told him I basically turned the planet upside down for him. "Do you love me?" I asked. "I do, but my reason wonders if it's a good idea to stay with such an irascible person." I can't recall anymore what else I said so he ended up saying that in spite of everything he wanted to keep on. We were about to take his bus, then we kinda fought again. He got on and left. I went home too. I couldn't sleep. I don't know if we are still a couple or not. I called him just now and told him I needed to see him so bad. He picked up and said he couldn't -- he came up with some excuse. I cried another thousand tears. Just last Saturday I'd cried. We'd been all day long and he cooked for me. I took him home and then got back to my place, a place that then got lonely and devoid of his existence: his laughter, his singing, his warmth, his hugs... I cried because his empty plate from lunch was still lying on the table and tormenting me. I had the exact same feeling I had when my sister died: the sensation that someone's been suddenly taken away from you. It hurt so bad. I want to keep on. I ought to work on my wrath. I love him, I truly do.
How to tame gag reflex?
I'm a 20 year old male. I just want to get better at sucking dick, but can barely reach anything to the back of my toungue without gagging. What can I do to supress/tame my gag reflex?
Pet Peeve: "The gay lifestyle"
It's sooooooooooo annoying when someone's like "I don't like the gay lifestyle". Wtf is the gay lifestyle? I didn't know that being gay meant your life revolved around the fact that you're gay. Hell, to be honest I forget that I'm gay most of the time, since some people try to act like its some big thing. People try to talk about it like it is a religious group or something.JUST BECAUSE I AM GAY DOES NOT MEAN I THINK ABOUT MEN ALL DAY AND THAT MY LIFE REVOLVES AROUND GAY CLUBS. YOUR BRAIN HAS BEEN FUCKED BY MEDIA. I AM A REGULAR PERSON WHO DOES REGULAR THINGS, THERE IS NO "GAY LIFESTYLE"./EndRant
Relationship help. A little bit confused about something... Please help.
Hi guys.I need advice on how to deal with this stuff.I've been dating a guy for 3 months now, and I'm seriously crazy about him. I think we're very compatible and just about every thing is great. I'm 23 and this is my first serious relationship and I want it to work out. I've discovered that I may be a little possessive, which I didn't know about until now. So let's get on with it.There's just one (or two) problem(s) depending on how you look at it:I am super jealous of his friends. Like really insanely jealous. Let me give you an example, a few weeks ago a friend of his (who is also in a relationship) called him at 4 AM with a fever and asked him for help, and my boyfriend goes and picked him up and brings him home and takes care of him... Now the guys boyfriend is married to a woman and is in the closet (but in my opinion that was the idiots choice to pick such a person) and my bf has known him for almost a year, but it pissed me off. I kinda(read: totally) think that this kinda thing is reserved for family and lovers (you know not someone you've known for barely a year). I know it sounds cold, but this kinda thing should be just mine and his close family and very close friends.Or this other friend he has, who lives in another city, and comes over and stays the night every couple of weeks, it annoys me, he has family he can stay with. Also sometimes he brings his boyfriend who is in the closet who lives in an apartment with his sister in the city and stays for a day. This makes me feel like that are using my boyfriend's hospitality and also it makes me jealous.In my opinion this is also jealousy related:A week ago he was invited to a party (just gays) where there was gonna be drinking and dancing and smoking and I have no idea what else. Now I'm not the kinda person who would be comfortable in a situation like this ( I could barely stand my best friend's wedding, she had a lot of drinking and dancing at her reception too). And he was probably gonna go, alone. He said it's ok that I don't wanna go but he may go. Now this made me feel like shite, because it make me feel like I'm not enough for him and he need to go to things like this.So here we are, I'm a jealous, possessive biach.Please guys don't be too hard on me okay? I already know how mean and evil I sound.PS I like being alone with him as much as possible, not because of sex! I just can't be myself around every one, but with him it's different and when other people are around I can't just be me... It's odd i know... And with other people around I can't talk freely either, which I'm sure everyone can understand.Please help me out.
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