how do i be less gay?

throwaway account - every time i message a guy it always starts out great but as soon as we swap pics im told im too fem. i have a full beard, im 6'4 and covered in tattoos - i dont get it? growing up i was always the tall skinny gay with long hair so i was always bullied for being the stereotype "femme boy" but even after changing the way i look i still get the same comments. i know i shouldnt change who i am to please other people blah blah, heard it. im just so lonely and i was going through my freindslist and none of them would be able to help so this is the only place i could think of. anyone else had to deal with this?