Problems finding gay dating prospects.

Maybe I'm being unrealistic here, but why is it so goddamn hard to find a partner who is NOT just looking to fuck? I mean if i could find a gay guy who just like many of the straight-ish guys I know, except gay, I would lock that shit down. I make it very clear that I want a long term relationship when we start talking. They all seem to be:Into cocaineInto dragWanting open relationshipsWanting to move out of state soonwanting a sugar daddyor they ask to see nudes before they've even met me in person.For fuck's sake./rant over