Feminine guys in the gay world

Gay is man who likes man. However some of gay are like girl. That's fine but what I want to say is that it's not rational because it's not rational. One of my friendstried to put a flower on my head when hanging out but I refused that because I felt it was odd and weird. I asked him why you did it , he answered that gay has a mind like girls so you like man.Also I sometimes see profile photos decorated with something feminine on meet up app. I think it is perfectly weird. It's true that gay likes man so there is no element of female between us and it should NOT be. The reason why I've become gay is that I hate women because I have a trauma in the past.So I like manly men.P.S. I do NOT mean transgender here.