Is there a non-sexual, preferably romantic, equivalence to the "top" and "bottom" terms when it comes to gay relationships?

I would like to describe my preferences (I prefer to receive affection and be embraced) in a non-sexual romantic way, partly because for me sex and my sex life is very personal and intimate, and partly because I don't want to give off the implication that I am primarily looking for sex or that I am any more of a promiscuous person than I am. And that is really hard to do when these terms are as sexualized and fetishized as they are.Little/Big spoon works I suppose, but it's a bit too dry.