About two weeks ago my roommate came out to me after we had gotten into a fight, and he basically told me that hes liked me for a while. Id suspected it for a while, and i was glad he was able to finally tell me, but now im having trouble not acting like its different. Im not gay, and i told him that and that i didnt want our friendship to change, but im starting to notice things being different.I cant talk to anyone about it because i have a pretty close friend circle and i told him i wouldnt tell anyone. I tried talking to a mutual friend about it, but she just said that it was about time and sorta blew off my concerns. About a week later he told me thank you for not sleeping with a girl at my house but instead going to her place. I sorta figured he meant that it was because he naturally wouldnt want to hear me have sex, but it also struck me as strange because hed never said anything about me bringing a girl back before.So what was odd was last night i went out with him and some friends, and everything was cool and then i started talking to a girl at the bar. All of my other friends were all "yeah shes hot go for it", but he started giving me dirty looks as if i was doing something wrong. He started getting progressively madder at me and kept pestering me which sort of annoyed me. Ive never really had a friend not support me to get a girl at bar, and he kept being like "lets go somewhere else" and "your friends want to leave".So we go to another bar and id already gotten her number but she came with us. This girl buys us a round of drinks and we go upstairs, and then he started getting really aggressive and i just became uncomfortable. Im talking and dancing with this girl, and he says" make her buy us another drink" and i was like, nah that's rude. Then he was like "dont take this girl home" and i said "why?" And he said "have some empathy". At this point the girl started to seem really drunk, so i told him to leave me alone for a second and he got really pissy. All i was trying to do was tell this girl bye because she was barely keeping it together and im not about bringing a completely wasted girl home, but when i was like "alright lets go" he made a really snarky comment like "oh now im a person?". I was really annoyed at this point so i didnt really say anything, but his attitude came off as really possessive. This sort of comments continues for the rest of the night , but then in the morning he apologized. I wanna be supportive of him, but i was clear that im not interested in him and that there needs to be boundaries between us, and i really don't wanna have that conversation again.So i guess im sorta just wondering what to do at this point. I dont want our friendship to change, but i also dont want to be guilted for my normal behavior.
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