2018. január 24., szerda
What's your opinion on bisexual men?
I'm a bisexual male and just wanna know what gay people think about bi men. Thought this would be fun. Would you date them? Do you have bi friends? Do you think they are just confused or do you support their choice? I'm just curious and just wanna know your opinion (quite bored atm) Shoot!
Advice needed-in love with a coworker
So I’ve been at my job for about a year and a half now and am absolutely in love with a coworker. Its almost like I’m in high school again...I dream about him, think about him all the time, and miss him when I don’t see him during the day, all that creepy stuff. He works in a different department and we don’t speak often, so I honestly don’t even know if he’s gay but I have a good idea he might be. I need advice on what to do next! Should I abandon these feelings and move on because it’s a coworker and potentially a sticky situation? Should I fess up and ask the guy out and just see what happens? My issue isn’t so much the embarrassment if he’s not interested, but if he’s not gay and I “accuse” him of being so, it would create a volatile work environment (we don’t associate with each other often, but he works in IT and we have enough interaction that it would have to be addressed eventually). Thanks everyone!
why i haven't come out as a 20 year old guy
I'm 20 years old and I've never told anyone I'm attracted to guys and I've never done anything romantic with either sex. My life has made it really hard to figure out my sexual preference. I was really late to puberty maybe around 16 and I've always looked 2-3 years younger than I am. Even now I look 17. So although I can confidently say I've always been really good looking, no one my age has thought I'm attractive that I know of and I found myself too mature for anyone younger. Around the same time I hit puberty I got sick with chronic fatigue which I'm still going through today. I'm too sick to go to school, work or socialise. The very few occasions I do socialise I'm doing everything I can not to feel anything because I'm so sick. Which means I'm also not feeling anything sexual.I do watch porn (90% gay) but it's more because of a lack of sexual stimulants in my life. I'm a romantic and I rarely enjoy the vulgar aspects and emotional distance in pornography. I mostly hate straight porn because I find girls acting dominated and unrealistically aroused a turn off. or maybe I don't like it because I'm full on gay. I still don't know.Another major reason I'm still confused is the effect my chronic fatigue has on my brain. When I'm sick I'm not myself. I have a naturally energetic and bubbly personality but when I'm sick I'm a boring, weird shadow of myself. And all my cognitive functions are severely impaired. When I was healthy I was sexually attracted to several guys I knew but at the same time I had crushes on girls. With guys it was sexually stimulating to think about them but with girls it was more about kissing, cuddling, closeness with a little sexual attraction. But it's been so long since I've been attracted to anyone in real life I've forgotten how I feel.I have a really great family and some close friends and I know they would completely accept me (they might even suspect i'm gay anyway) but I haven't told them because I'm still confused and I don't want to tell them until I'm confident myself in my own identity. Plus it has almost zero effect on my life right now since I'm the furthest thing possible from dating and I'm not depressed about it. I've always said to myself "don't stress, just be open minded and honest and I'll figure it out". But it's getting harder not knowing when or if I'll finally be healthy. And if i'm not healthy, I'm not myself enough or smart enough to answer these questions and act on the answers. Just wanted to finally write down my thoughts and story. If you have any advice, questions or anything you want to say please comment.
2018. január 23., kedd
A hook-up > A fuck-buddy > something more?
We first met at a threesome. I didn't really consider him anything special but after we were done, he asked for my number. Well fast-foreward a month and we continued our playing and subtracted the other guy (even though he's the reason we met). We started spending time together and slowly but surely he started breaking down his walls -- talking about how he's in the midst of getting over an ex blah blah blah things I didn't really care about. Fast-foreward another three months, we're still talking and enjoying our time together. We don't even have sex anymore, which is a good thing because before I only saw him as a tool for sex but now we can enjoy our time for hours just watching television or talking or even just making out etc. I slept over his house the other day and it was the first time I slept over anyones house. However, we only ever hang out at his house. He invited me to a Christmas party once but I couldn't go cause I had work. He told me it feels like something and that he has feelings for me -- I told him I'm too good to be a rebound and he needs to figure his shit out before he thinks he can handle a guy like me. Now, he's starting to feel like himself again and doing the things he likes and I think... I might feel something for him as well. I don't like intimacy because It makes me feel weak but he has a way of making it feel good. The problem is: I've been having thoughts of his ex coming back (they broke up 6 months ago); him using me to get over his problems; etc. My normal reaction to these kind of emotions is to ghost (i've done it a lot and I know I've hurt a lot of people) but he gives comfort. I don't wan't a relationship because 1. I've never been in one 2. I don't trust anyone but I really do like this guy. It's only been 4 months (going onto 5) and although that isn't nearly enough time to get to know someone -- we.... mesh well together. We're both still on Grindr talking to other guys but there is a connection.
I Slept With My Coach, Now What!? [18+]
I need some advice. First of, let me start off by saying everyone in this event including myself are 18 years old or older.So I play softball recreationally. A sport I picked up while living on my own in Northern California. Anyway, about a year ago, I decided to move back to LA to be with family.I decided to check out and join the gay softball league to make friends.Huge success!Anyway, I see this coach who Is a bit older than me (I'm in my early 30's, he's mid 40s). I thought he was very handsome hairy guy, but definitely intimidated me. I have a few run inns with him, where he waves or tries to say "Hi", but I'm usually oblivious, so he makes it more obvious. I start saying "hi". At this point, I don't know the guy, just know he's a coach from another team.We'll the season ends and my team breaks up. I'm a little sad, start trying out for new teams, and on my way out of one of the tryouts I look at one of my hook up apps And notice that the hot coach I had checked me out.He keeps doing it for about a week and one of those drunken bar nights I say "Hi". We talk online and after a couple of hours of messaging, he send me a pic of his manhood (it was impressive) and invites me over. I Ubered over there it was fun, but ended quicker than I would have liked.Anyway, that was that for me, or so I thought. We didn't really talk. Then a tournament was coming up And I wanted to play. So when I saw a post about a team needing players I volunteered. Didn't know what team until I showed up at the practice and it was the coaches team I hooked up with.We both pretended like nothing happened and just practiced. Really enjoyed the practice and became quick friends with a young, cute 22 year old. He's a really nice guy and we've become good friends. A few weeks later, I find out that him and the coach use to date when he was 18. The worst part is that this young guy is still in love with the coach and possessive of him.We went to the tournament, where I find the coach trying to convince me to play with him full time. He really needed someone like me who knows how to play the game and call the plays. Most of the people on this team are pretty green. And to be honest, I needed a team. So, I caved and joined the team full time.Now the young guy and I are good friends and I'm afraid that he'll find out that I hooked up with the coach. Should I tell him? Wouldn't it be worse if he find out later? Or should I just let it be?
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