2016. október 3., hétfő

How to go from crushing on straight guy to just friends?

Hey reddit,So, I've been reading various threads and articles on how people have dealt with straight crushes before, but I can't seem to figure out how to move forward with mine. This straight crush is pretty new, came fast, and is still somewhat strong -- I created a reddit account just to write this down. I am normally a very outgoing person but I think my crush has definitely made it harder for me to be my natural self.Background: I met my straight crush K about a month ago playing volleyball and we were -- to the best of my perception -- eye flirting throughout play. At the end of the day, he asked me if I was doing anything later that night (Saturday). Given I was crushing on him, I asked if he wanted to grab a drink somewhere. He then asked if I had a girlfriend, to which I replied 'no' and he immediately replied 'me neither'. So we went out later that night to grab dinner at a brewery and then drinks at a couple of other places. He was talking about his ex-girlfriend the whole time. At some point, he asked what my story was, which is when I told him I was gay in case he didn't already know. The night ended up with us going our separate ways.I saw him again about two weeks later at volleyball again, but this time, I got invited to another game the next day by another player to which K said he probably wouldn't make it to. Later that night (Saturday again) he texted asking if I'd be there and that he wanted to try to make it. The next day came and everyone ended up bailing due to crappy weather. After saying he wasn't going to make it, K sends another text saying something like, "We're going to have meet up another time". Me, being in my infatuated state of mind, asked if he wanted to grab drinks on Saturday again. He said yes.As of this weekend: Saturday came around, and he asked me if I was looking for a "connection" while we were on the dance floor. I responded with yes, to which he said he was as well. That's when I blurted out that I thought he was very attractive. He said, "even though I'm straight"?After that, I felt slight weird about everything and couldn't clearly express anything I wanted to (could have been the alcohol involved). Anyway, we went barhopping and eventually ended up at this [straight] dance place where he wanted me to be his wingman -- I couldn't do it. I ended up leaving.What Now? I feel like I've been really weird around K each time we've met, but I don't want to leave it that. I would want to be this person's friend since I may see him every now and that at volleyball and I don't want it to be weird. Any advice on how I should move forward with this?Should I reach out and explain myself, let it just be, or is there another, better route to take?TL;DR:I am a normally outgoing person who had a couple of awkward nights out with a straight crush that ended in a so-so manner. I don't know how I should move forward with that guy, e.g., talk about the weird crush-influenced interactions, so that we could just be friends. Advice?

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