How Do I Find a Sweet Guy?

I'm getting so entirely disheartened by the online dating scene. I'm not horribly ugly, and I want to find a guy that's sweet, and attentive and wants to know what I think about stuff. I'm sure that's really girly, but it's just what I'd like. Guys seem to be really rough or sex-driven and I'm just not. I want someone who will get to know me and then we can be rough and sex-driven afterwards. Does anyone else feel this way? I can't be the only one. Has anyone found someone like this? How long did it take? I feel like I attract nothing but jerk faces.No, I'm not a girl. Just really girly.