How does gay dating work?

I ask because, though I have only ever been attracted to guys, I find that my approach to dating doesn't seem to be working. I'm 34 now, and only had relationships lately (in the last several years) that last about a month tops (usually less) then I never hear from the dude again.I figure, dating works like, chat a bit via text or even phone. Set up a time to meet up (I usually go with some place between us to grab a bite to eat). Then talk and get to know them and vice versa during the meal, then usually walk around the nearby area for a bit and talk some more. Maybe we'll walk around a book store, sporting goods, or a game store or just around a park if the weather is nice.If I feel like there is a connection there (and I guess this is where I am a bad judge of character, I assume if they are equally as friendly and forthright in telling me about themselves and we're having a good conversation, that they feel a connection too - but apparently there is something I'm missing), then I will say "Hey, let's meet up again soon and catch a movie or something fun." and usually set up a follow up date within the week. If things go well after that, I might invite them to hang out at my place, maybe cuddle/make out a bit while watching some movie, but usually leave the sexual stuff out until maybe the 4th time we hang out - usually about 2 weeks in or so.Third date I try to make a longer date, if the weather is nice, maybe go for a hike or do something outdoors, get some lunch somewhere, then find something else to do around town (maybe a brewery tour, walk around downtown, hang out and watch some TV)Anyway, long story short, my approach is: get to know them, let them get to know me, and spend some time doing things we hopefully both enjoy around town before hopping in the sack.But it seems to me that gay dating works a bit differently and I haven't quite clicked to it yet. My impression is that it requires getting sexual pretty much as soon as you meet and then if that goes well, maybe becoming pretty much FWBs but otherwise there is no expectation of commitment or monogamy. Otherwise, it's just a hookup and you have to have a lot of random hookups until you find one or more FWBs that you can keep around when you need to get your rocks off.So anyway, like I said, obviously I am doing something wrong since I haven't dated anyone longer than a month for the last half decade at least. And I really don't like the idea of doing a series of random hookups just to hopefully find a semi-perm booty call. I'd like to actually date someone who maybe can share interests and we find new ones together and we work toward building a life together - sex isn't my main focus nor my main goal here.So is that all there is to gay "dating"?